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Episode 620: Warning: THIS Will RUIN No Contact · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  This week I want to talk about something that could mess up
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  your no contact. And I can't believe I didn't
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  think of this after all the videos I have made about doing
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  no contact. But I guess it's better late
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  than never. What is it?
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  Well, stay tuned and you'll find out.
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  But first, I want to welcome back my beautiful No contact
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  army. If you haven't already, be sure
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  to download my app, Solencio to help you stay in No Contact.
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  And we are actually working on a new feature that one of you
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  suggested. So if you have any suggestions
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  of what you would like to see in the app, please let me know and
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  we'll see about adding it. And if you too would like to
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  join our no contact army, all you have to do is hit the
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  subscribe button and the Bell notification and you're in.
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  And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
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  can read two free chapters before you purchase the book.
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  OK, so I've done a video about the rules of no contact and I
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  will put the link in the upper right hand corner.
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  And as you may or may not know, some of those rules are removing
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  their phone number from your phone so that you don't
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  accidentally call or text. I've talked about not texting
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  your ex for their birthday, not responding to bread crumbs, etc
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  etc. But I forgot to mention one very
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  important thing and my client she ruined her no contact with
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  this. So I thought, okay, it's time to
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  make a video about this. So she had been in contact for
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  many, many months and then she was going to be seeing her ex at
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  an event they were both attending and I spoke with her,
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  I prepared her, she decided she was only going to stay at the
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  event for a bit and then she was going to leave.
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  Yeah, sure, right. Who is going to be able to have
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  the self-control to leave an event that their ex is at when
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  they haven't seen them for months and months?
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  Well, I know I would and some of my clients would, but most of
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  y'all would not be able to. But that's not the problem.
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  The problem is that when you are at an event, usually there's
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  something going on called drinking.
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  And I'm not talking about drinking water.
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  And usually when people are drinking, when alcohol walks in
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  the room, self-control walks out of the room.
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  And so unfortunately you know where this is going.
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  They started talking. She started asking all kinds of
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  questions. She should not have been asking.
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  She should have been gave all kinds of information about, you
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  know, what she was thinking during no contact.
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  I mean, basically he knew beyond the shadow of a doubt she was
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  still interested. And yeah, there went her no
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  contact out the window. So all those months of no
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  contact ruined over a beverage. Beverage.
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  Yes, I know it's in the culture. I know everyone does it, but
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  besides the fact that alcohol kills brain cells, dehydrates
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  you and therefore it ages you so that you look old before your
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  time, it adds unwanted, never mind unwanted calories, empty
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  calories, you have the possibility of getting a DUI and
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  now to that list we have to add it may derail your no contact.
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  So if you cannot control yourself when you've been
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  drinking, and if you're going to reach out, or if you're going to
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  respond to a text or a phone call, then I'm going to have to
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  tell you If you're in no contact, you need to limit your
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  drinking. Unless of course you can't.
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  Then you got another issue. Then you got a bigger issue than
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  trying to get an X back, and you know how to deal with that.
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  But otherwise, yeah. But at least two good things
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  came out of her ruining no contact.
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  One is that we finally were able to find out what exactly was the
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  reason for the breakup because my client asked.
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  And then two, I realized that I need to tell you guys to be
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  careful with the drinking when you're in no contact.
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  As I've mentioned here before, the drunk mind speaks the sober
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  heart and that works great when you're is drinking and
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  contacting you. We want your ex to drink, but I
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  don't want you to drink and speak your sober heart.
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  And if you are finding this helpful, remember to give this
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  video a like in order to help the algorithm suggest it to more
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  people and we can stop more people from drinking and
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  breaking no contact. OK, so before I end, I actually
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  found a quote right before I was supposed to record this video.
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  So I guess it's meant to be. And the quote says don't
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  subscribe to other people's definition of fun.
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  Fun doesn't mean drinking, partying, socializing, Fun can
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  be a night alone, getting lost in a book, a deep conversation,
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  a walk, creating art, playing music, or doing your work.
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  Fun is yours to define. So it's interesting that at the
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  time this video is coming out is actually October, also known as
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  Sober October. So now I want to hear from you.
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  Comment below what things have you done or said in no contact,
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  under the influence of alcohol that you wish you hadn't.
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  Let us know and in the meantime, if you want my help to get your
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  ex back, you can contact me at theartoflove.net.
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  The direct link is below every single video and podcast and we
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  will send you the rates. If you found this video helpful,
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  And finally, remember that love inspires, empowers, uplifts and
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  enlightens.