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Stop Abandoning Yourself & Finally Meet Her | EP 283 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  The
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  woman
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  you've
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  been
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  waiting
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  to
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  become,
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  she's
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  been
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  waiting
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  for
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  you
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  too.
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  She
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  has
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  been
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  standing
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  at
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  the
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  door
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  of
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  your
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  becoming
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  patient
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  certain,
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  completely
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  unshaken,
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  knowing
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  that
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  one
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  day.
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  You
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  would
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  get
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  tired,
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  tired
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  of
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  performing,
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  shrinking,
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  tired
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  of
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  a
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  life
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  that
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  fits
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  everyone
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  around
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  you
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  perfectly,
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  but
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  doesn't
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  fit
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  you
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  at
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  all.
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  And
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  on
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  that
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  day,
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  you
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  would
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  finally
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  turn
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  around
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  and
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  she
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  would
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  be
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  right
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  there
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  friend.
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  That
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  day
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  is
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  today.
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  This
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  is
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  the
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  one
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  we've
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  been
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  building
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  toward.
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  Okay.
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  You
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  already
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  know,
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  confident
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  and
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  empowered
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  women.
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  This
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  podcast
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  is
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  your
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  reminder.
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  You
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  are
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  that
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  girl.
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  Every
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  episode
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  is
• 0:56
  a
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  new
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  conversation,
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  a
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  new
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  framework,
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  a
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  new
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  invitation
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  to
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  show
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  up
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  as
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  the
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  most
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  powerful
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  version
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  of
• 1:04
  yourself.
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  Subscribe
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  and
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  pull
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  up
• 1:06
  a
• 1:06
  seat
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  because
• 1:08
  this
• 1:08
  community
• 1:09
  is
• 1:09
  exactly
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  where
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  you
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  belong.
• 1:14
  Well,
• 1:14
  welcome
• 1:15
  back
• 1:15
  to
• 1:15
  the
• 1:15
  series,
• 1:16
  unavailable
• 1:16
  for
• 1:17
  Self
• 1:17
  Abandonment,
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  a
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  series
• 1:19
  for
• 1:19
  women
• 1:19
  who
• 1:19
  are
• 1:20
  done
• 1:21
  negotiating
• 1:22
  with
• 1:22
  themselves.
• 1:23
  This
• 1:23
  is
• 1:24
  for
• 1:24
  the
• 1:24
  woman
• 1:24
  who's
• 1:25
  confident
• 1:25
  enough
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  to
• 1:26
  disappoint
• 1:27
  because
• 1:27
  self-trust
• 1:28
  is
• 1:28
  now
• 1:29
  the
• 1:29
  new
• 1:30
  standard
• 1:30
  here.
• 1:31
  Cnce
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  is
• 1:32
  more
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  than
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  a
• 1:33
  feeling,
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  it's
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  a
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  belief
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  formed
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  through
• 1:35
  action.
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  Practice
• 1:37
  and
• 1:37
  repetition.
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  It's
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  what
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  you
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  do
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  when
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  it
• 1:40
  would
• 1:40
  be
• 1:40
  easier
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  to
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  explain
• 1:42
  yourself,
• 1:42
  perform
• 1:43
  or
• 1:44
  betray
• 1:45
  what
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  you
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  already
• 1:46
  know
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  is
• 1:46
  true
• 1:47
  for
• 1:47
  you.
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  So
• 1:48
  if
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  you
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  are
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  ready
• 1:49
  to
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  stop
• 1:50
  abandoning
• 1:50
  yourself,
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  just
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  to
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  keep
• 1:52
  the
• 1:52
  peace
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  you
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  are
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  in
• 1:54
  the
• 1:54
  right
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  place.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey,
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  friend.
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  you
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  are
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  here
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  today.
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  Not
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  just
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  because
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  finale
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  of
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  most
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  important
• 2:06
  series
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  I've
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  ever
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  created,
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  but
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  because
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  making
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  it
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  to
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  this
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  episode,
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  episode
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  2
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  83,
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  it
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  means
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  something.
• 2:14
  It
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  means
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  you
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  showed.
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  Up
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  through
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  10
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  episodes.
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  Listen,
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  friend,
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  when
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  I
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  first
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  started
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  working
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  on
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  this
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  little
• 2:23
  series
• 2:23
  right
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  here,
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  I
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  initially
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  started
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  thinking
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  this
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  is
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  just
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  gonna
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  be
• 2:27
  a
• 2:27
  cute
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  little
• 2:27
  mini
• 2:28
  series,
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  but
• 2:29
  the
• 2:29
  more
• 2:30
  that
• 2:30
  I
• 2:30
  thought
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  about
• 2:31
  you.
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  And
• 2:32
  what
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  you
• 2:33
  needed
• 2:34
  to
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  truly
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  become
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  unavailable
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  for
• 2:37
  self
• 2:37
  abandonment.
• 2:38
  We
• 2:39
  had
• 2:39
  to
• 2:39
  pull
• 2:39
  this
• 2:39
  thing
• 2:40
  into
• 2:40
  10
• 2:40
  episodes,
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  okay?
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  Through
• 2:42
  the
• 2:42
  uncomfortable
• 2:43
  truths,
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  through
• 2:44
  the
• 2:44
  moments
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  that
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  probably
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  made
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  you
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  put
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  your
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  hand
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  over
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  your
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  mouth
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  and
• 2:48
  whisper.
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  How
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  did
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  she
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  know
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  you
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  kept
• 2:51
  showing
• 2:52
  up?
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  And
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  I
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  don't
• 2:53
  wanna
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  gloss
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  over
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  that
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  because
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  showing
• 2:55
  up
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  for
• 2:56
  yourself,
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  even
• 2:57
  in
• 2:57
  the
• 2:58
  form
• 2:58
  of.
• 2:58
  Pressing
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  play
• 3:00
  on
• 3:00
  a
• 3:00
  podcast
• 3:01
  is
• 3:01
  a
• 3:01
  practice
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  and
• 3:03
  you
• 3:04
  have
• 3:04
  been
• 3:04
  practicing.
• 3:05
  So
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  before
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  we
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  go
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  anywhere
• 3:07
  today,
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  I
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  just
• 3:08
  wanna
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  say
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  I
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  see
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  you.
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  I'm
• 3:11
  so
• 3:12
  proud
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  of
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  you
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  and
• 3:13
  what
• 3:13
  you
• 3:14
  are
• 3:14
  about
• 3:14
  to
• 3:14
  step
• 3:15
  into.
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  Because
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  today
• 3:17
  we
• 3:17
  are
• 3:17
  not
• 3:17
  just
• 3:18
  closing
• 3:18
  a
• 3:18
  series.
• 3:20
  Today
• 3:21
  we
• 3:21
  are
• 3:21
  opening
• 3:22
  a
• 3:22
  door,
• 3:22
  and
• 3:23
  on
• 3:23
  the
• 3:23
  other
• 3:23
  side
• 3:24
  of
• 3:24
  that
• 3:24
  door
• 3:25
  is
• 3:25
  the
• 3:25
  woman
• 3:26
  you
• 3:26
  came
• 3:27
  here
• 3:27
  to
• 3:27
  find.
• 3:28
  So
• 3:29
  let's
• 3:29
  go
• 3:29
  get
• 3:29
  her.
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  Okay,
• 3:31
  you
• 3:31
  are
• 3:31
  my
• 3:31
  spirit
• 3:32
  animal.
• 3:33
  If
• 3:33
  in
• 3:33
  your
• 3:33
  head
• 3:34
  you
• 3:34
  also
• 3:34
  heard
• 3:35
  somebody
• 3:36
  come
• 3:36
  get
• 3:36
  her.
• 3:43
  Okay.
• 3:44
  I'm
• 3:44
  sorry.
• 3:44
  Like
• 3:45
  my
• 3:45
  mind
• 3:45
  just
• 3:45
  works
• 3:46
  in
• 3:46
  movie
• 3:47
  lyrics
• 3:47
  and
• 3:48
  movies
• 3:48
  all
• 3:48
  day.
• 3:48
  I
• 3:49
  don't
• 3:49
  know
• 3:49
  what
• 3:49
  to
• 3:49
  do
• 3:49
  about
• 3:49
  it,
• 3:53
  but
• 3:53
  we
• 3:53
  gotta
• 3:53
  have
• 3:53
  some
• 3:54
  fun
• 3:54
  while
• 3:54
  we
• 3:55
  are
• 3:55
  doing
• 3:55
  this
• 3:56
  work.
• 3:56
  Okay.
• 3:59
  Before
• 4:00
  we
• 4:00
  step
• 4:00
  through
• 4:00
  that
• 4:01
  door,
• 4:01
  I
• 4:02
  want
• 4:02
  to
• 4:02
  look
• 4:02
  back
• 4:03
  at
• 4:03
  the
• 4:03
  path
• 4:04
  that
• 4:04
  brought
• 4:04
  us
• 4:04
  here
• 4:05
  because
• 4:06
  you
• 4:06
  didn't
• 4:06
  just
• 4:06
  listen
• 4:07
  to
• 4:07
  a
• 4:07
  podcast
• 4:08
  series,
• 4:09
  you
• 4:09
  walked
• 4:09
  through
• 4:10
  a
• 4:10
  transformation,
• 4:12
  one
• 4:12
  brave
• 4:12
  episode
• 4:13
  at
• 4:14
  a
• 4:14
  time,
• 4:14
  and
• 4:15
  I
• 4:15
  wanna
• 4:15
  honor
• 4:16
  every
• 4:16
  single
• 4:17
  step
• 4:17
  of
• 4:17
  that.
• 4:18
  In
• 4:18
  episode
• 4:19
  2
• 4:19
  74,
• 4:20
  you
• 4:20
  learn
• 4:20
  that
• 4:21
  confidence
• 4:21
  is
• 4:21
  not
• 4:22
  just
• 4:22
  a
• 4:22
  feeling
• 4:23
  you
• 4:23
  wait
• 4:24
  for
• 4:25
  it's
• 4:25
  built
• 4:26
  through
• 4:26
  action.
• 4:27
  One
• 4:27
  uncomfortable
• 4:28
  step
• 4:29
  at
• 4:29
  a
• 4:29
  time.
• 4:30
  In
• 4:30
  episode
• 4:31
  2
• 4:31
  75,
• 4:32
  you
• 4:32
  stopped
• 4:33
  measuring
• 4:33
  your
• 4:33
  progress
• 4:34
  by
• 4:35
  how
• 4:35
  it
• 4:35
  feels
• 4:36
  and
• 4:36
  started
• 4:36
  trusting
• 4:37
  what
• 4:37
  it's
• 4:38
  quietly
• 4:39
  building
• 4:40
  in
• 4:40
  you.
• 4:41
  In
• 4:41
  episode
• 4:42
  2
• 4:42
  76,
• 4:43
  we
• 4:43
  went
• 4:44
  deep.
• 4:44
  On.
• 4:44
  It's
• 4:45
  fine.
• 4:45
  And
• 4:45
  you
• 4:46
  learned
• 4:46
  it's
• 4:46
  not
• 4:47
  peace.
• 4:48
  It's
• 4:48
  a
• 4:48
  slow
• 4:49
  surrender
• 4:50
  of
• 4:50
  your
• 4:50
  own
• 4:50
  truth.
• 4:51
  In
• 4:52
  episode
• 4:52
  2
• 4:53
  77,
• 4:53
  you
• 4:53
  learn
• 4:54
  that
• 4:54
  a
• 4:54
  boundary
• 4:55
  doesn't
• 4:55
  need
• 4:56
  a
• 4:56
  dissertation,
• 4:57
  okay?
• 4:59
  It
• 4:59
  just
• 5:00
  needs
• 5:00
  to
• 5:01
  be
• 5:01
  held.
• 5:02
  In
• 5:02
  episode
• 5:03
  2
• 5:03
  78,
• 5:04
  this
• 5:04
  was
• 5:04
  all
• 5:05
  about
• 5:05
  choosing
• 5:06
  yourself
• 5:07
  without
• 5:07
  needing
• 5:08
  agreement
• 5:09
  and
• 5:09
  that
• 5:09
  it's
• 5:09
  not
• 5:09
  selfish,
• 5:10
  it
• 5:11
  is
• 5:11
  sovereign.
• 5:12
  In
• 5:12
  episode
• 5:13
  2
• 5:13
  79,
• 5:14
  you
• 5:14
  learn
• 5:15
  that
• 5:15
  your
• 5:15
  standards
• 5:16
  are
• 5:16
  not
• 5:16
  too
• 5:16
  high.
• 5:17
  They
• 5:17
  are
• 5:18
  exactly
• 5:18
  right
• 5:19
  for
• 5:20
  the
• 5:20
  woman
• 5:20
  you
• 5:21
  are
• 5:21
  becoming.
• 5:22
  And
• 5:22
  in
• 5:22
  episode
• 5:23
  two
• 5:23
  80,
• 5:24
  you
• 5:24
  learn
• 5:24
  that
• 5:25
  showing
• 5:25
  up
• 5:25
  as
• 5:26
  your
• 5:26
  unedited
• 5:27
  self
• 5:27
  is
• 5:28
  not
• 5:28
  vulnerability.
• 5:29
  It
• 5:30
  is
• 5:30
  power
• 5:31
  In
• 5:32
  episode
• 5:32
  2
• 5:33
  81,
• 5:33
  this
• 5:33
  one
• 5:34
  was
• 5:34
  straight
• 5:35
  up
• 5:35
  a
• 5:35
  no
• 5:35
  chaser.
• 5:36
  You
• 5:36
  don't
• 5:36
  have
• 5:37
  an
• 5:37
  attracting
• 5:37
  problem.
• 5:38
  You
• 5:38
  have
• 5:38
  a
• 5:38
  tolerating
• 5:39
  problem.
• 5:42
  And
• 5:43
  this
• 5:43
  was
• 5:43
  your
• 5:44
  declaration
• 5:45
  that
• 5:45
  you
• 5:46
  are
• 5:46
  done
• 5:47
  tolerating
• 5:48
  what
• 5:48
  doesn't
• 5:48
  honor
• 5:49
  you.
• 5:50
  And
• 5:50
  in
• 5:50
  episode
• 5:51
  2
• 5:51
  82,
• 5:52
  you
• 5:52
  learn
• 5:53
  that
• 5:53
  self-love
• 5:54
  is
• 5:54
  not
• 5:54
  soft.
• 5:55
  It
• 5:55
  is
• 5:56
  the
• 5:56
  most
• 5:56
  stabilizing,
• 5:58
  most
• 5:58
  grounding,
• 5:59
  powerful
• 6:00
  foundation
• 6:01
  you
• 6:01
  will
• 6:02
  ever
• 6:02
  build.
• 6:03
  Friend,
• 6:04
  just
• 6:04
  look
• 6:05
  at
• 6:05
  how
• 6:05
  far
• 6:06
  you
• 6:07
  have.
• 6:07
  Come
• 6:08
  look
• 6:08
  at
• 6:08
  everything
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  have
• 6:09
  faced.
• 6:10
  Name
• 6:11
  and
• 6:11
  chosen
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  do
• 6:12
  differently.
• 6:13
  This
• 6:14
  is
• 6:14
  not
• 6:14
  small
• 6:15
  at
• 6:15
  all.
• 6:15
  This
• 6:16
  right
• 6:16
  here
• 6:17
  is
• 6:17
  a
• 6:17
  whole
• 6:18
  transformation,
• 6:19
  and
• 6:20
  today
• 6:20
  we
• 6:21
  bring
• 6:21
  it
• 6:21
  all
• 6:22
  the
• 6:22
  way
• 6:23
  home.
• 6:24
  Now
• 6:24
  before
• 6:24
  we
• 6:24
  go
• 6:25
  into
• 6:25
  full
• 6:26
  celebration
• 6:27
  mode,
• 6:28
  I
• 6:28
  want
• 6:28
  you
• 6:28
  to
• 6:28
  sit
• 6:28
  with
• 6:29
  something
• 6:29
  for
• 6:29
  just
• 6:30
  a
• 6:30
  moment,
• 6:31
  because
• 6:31
  in
• 6:31
  order
• 6:32
  to
• 6:32
  truly
• 6:32
  stop
• 6:33
  abandoning
• 6:33
  yourself,
• 6:34
  you
• 6:35
  have
• 6:35
  to
• 6:35
  understand
• 6:36
  what
• 6:36
  abandoning
• 6:37
  yourself
• 6:38
  has
• 6:38
  actually
• 6:38
  cost
• 6:39
  you.
• 6:39
  Not
• 6:40
  the
• 6:40
  surface
• 6:41
  level
• 6:41
  cost,
• 6:42
  not
• 6:42
  just
• 6:42
  the
• 6:42
  tired
• 6:43
  and
• 6:44
  the
• 6:44
  unfulfilled.
• 6:45
  I
• 6:45
  am
• 6:45
  talking
• 6:45
  about
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  deep
• 6:47
  cost,
• 6:48
  the
• 6:48
  one
• 6:48
  that
• 6:49
  lives
• 6:49
  underneath
• 6:50
  everything.
• 6:51
  Self
• 6:52
  abandonment
• 6:53
  cost
• 6:53
  you
• 6:54
  your
• 6:54
  instincts.
• 6:55
  Every
• 6:56
  time
• 6:56
  you
• 6:56
  override
• 6:57
  your
• 6:57
  gut
• 6:58
  to
• 6:58
  accommodate
• 6:59
  somebody
• 6:59
  else,
• 7:00
  your
• 7:01
  instincts
• 7:01
  get
• 7:02
  a
• 7:02
  little
• 7:02
  quieter
• 7:03
  until
• 7:04
  one
• 7:04
  day
• 7:05
  you
• 7:05
  realize
• 7:06
  you
• 7:06
  don't
• 7:06
  even
• 7:07
  know
• 7:07
  what
• 7:07
  you.
• 7:08
  Want
• 7:09
  anymore,
• 7:10
  not
• 7:10
  because
• 7:11
  the
• 7:11
  answer
• 7:11
  isn't
• 7:12
  there,
• 7:13
  but
• 7:13
  because
• 7:13
  you've
• 7:13
  been
• 7:14
  so
• 7:14
  busy
• 7:15
  knowing
• 7:16
  what
• 7:16
  everybody
• 7:17
  else
• 7:17
  needs,
• 7:18
  that
• 7:18
  your
• 7:18
  own
• 7:19
  voice
• 7:19
  becomes
• 7:20
  a
• 7:20
  whisper.
• 7:21
  You
• 7:21
  stopped
• 7:22
  being
• 7:22
  able
• 7:23
  to
• 7:23
  hear
• 7:24
  self
• 7:24
  abandonment,
• 7:25
  cost
• 7:26
  you
• 7:26
  your
• 7:27
  relationships,
• 7:28
  not
• 7:29
  just
• 7:29
  with
• 7:29
  other
• 7:29
  people,
• 7:30
  but
• 7:31
  with
• 7:31
  yourself.
• 7:32
  The
• 7:32
  most
• 7:33
  important
• 7:34
  one,
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  one
• 7:35
  that
• 7:35
  sets
• 7:36
  the
• 7:36
  tone
• 7:36
  for
• 7:37
  every
• 7:37
  other
• 7:37
  relationship
• 7:38
  in
• 7:38
  your
• 7:39
  life.
• 7:39
  When
• 7:40
  you
• 7:40
  abandon
• 7:41
  yourself,
• 7:42
  you
• 7:42
  attract
• 7:43
  people
• 7:44
  who
• 7:44
  expect
• 7:44
  you
• 7:45
  to
• 7:45
  keep
• 7:45
  doing
• 7:46
  it.
• 7:46
  When
• 7:47
  you
• 7:47
  stop,
• 7:48
  everything
• 7:48
  around
• 7:49
  you
• 7:50
  begins
• 7:50
  to
• 7:51
  shift
• 7:52
  Self
• 7:52
  abandonment.
• 7:53
  Cost
• 7:54
  you
• 7:54
  your
• 7:54
  purpose
• 7:55
  because
• 7:56
  what
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  carry,
• 7:57
  your
• 7:58
  gifts,
• 7:58
  your
• 7:58
  calling,
• 7:59
  the
• 8:00
  thing
• 8:00
  you
• 8:00
  were
• 8:00
  specifically
• 8:02
  created
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  bring
• 8:04
  requires
• 8:05
  a
• 8:05
  whole
• 8:06
  woman
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  carry
• 8:07
  it.
• 8:08
  Not
• 8:08
  a
• 8:08
  woman
• 8:08
  who
• 8:08
  is
• 8:09
  given
• 8:09
  pieces
• 8:09
  of
• 8:10
  her
• 8:10
  herself
• 8:10
  away
• 8:11
  to
• 8:11
  everybody
• 8:12
  who
• 8:12
  asked
• 8:13
  a
• 8:13
  whole
• 8:14
  woman
• 8:15
  present,
• 8:16
  grounded,
• 8:17
  rooted
• 8:18
  in
• 8:18
  who
• 8:19
  she
• 8:19
  is.
• 8:20
  And
• 8:21
  here's
• 8:21
  what
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  need
• 8:21
  you
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  receive
• 8:22
  today.
• 8:23
  Everything
• 8:24
  we've
• 8:24
  covered
• 8:24
  in
• 8:25
  this
• 8:25
  series
• 8:26
  was
• 8:26
  never
• 8:26
  about
• 8:27
  fixing
• 8:27
  something
• 8:28
  broken
• 8:28
  in
• 8:28
  you.
• 8:29
  It
• 8:29
  was
• 8:29
  about
• 8:30
  restoring
• 8:31
  something
• 8:32
  into
• 8:33
  wholeness.
• 8:34
  You
• 8:34
  were
• 8:35
  never
• 8:35
  broken
• 8:35
  friend.
• 8:36
  You
• 8:36
  were
• 8:36
  just
• 8:37
  buried
• 8:38
  underneath.
• 8:39
  Everyone
• 8:39
  else's
• 8:40
  expectations,
• 8:41
  their
• 8:42
  agendas
• 8:42
  and
• 8:43
  list
• 8:43
  of
• 8:43
  demands
• 8:44
  under
• 8:45
  the
• 8:45
  weight
• 8:46
  of
• 8:46
  who
• 8:46
  you
• 8:46
  were
• 8:46
  performing
• 8:47
  to
• 8:48
  be
• 8:48
  under
• 8:49
  the
• 8:49
  years
• 8:50
  of
• 8:50
  saying
• 8:50
  yes,
• 8:52
  when
• 8:52
  every
• 8:52
  part
• 8:53
  of
• 8:53
  you
• 8:53
  meant
• 8:54
  no,
• 8:55
  but
• 8:55
  the
• 8:55
  real
• 8:56
  you.
• 8:56
  She
• 8:57
  never
• 8:57
  left.
• 8:58
  Whole
• 8:58
  time.
• 8:59
  She
• 8:59
  was
• 8:59
  in
• 9:00
  there
• 9:00
  waiting
• 9:01
  on
• 9:01
  you
• 9:02
  patiently.
• 9:03
  So
• 9:03
  I
• 9:03
  wanna
• 9:04
  give
• 9:04
  you
• 9:04
  something
• 9:04
  to
• 9:05
  carry
• 9:05
  out
• 9:05
  of
• 9:06
  this
• 9:06
  series,
• 9:07
  not
• 9:07
  just
• 9:07
  a
• 9:07
  feeling
• 9:08
  or
• 9:08
  inspiration
• 9:09
  that's
• 9:10
  gonna
• 9:10
  fade
• 9:10
  by
• 9:10
  Friday.
• 9:14
  A
• 9:14
  declaration,
• 9:15
  a
• 9:16
  way
• 9:16
  of
• 9:16
  living,
• 9:17
  a
• 9:17
  daily
• 9:17
  practice
• 9:18
  of
• 9:18
  choosing
• 9:19
  yourself,
• 9:20
  I
• 9:20
  call
• 9:21
  it
• 9:21
  finally,
• 9:22
  because
• 9:23
  that
• 9:23
  is
• 9:23
  exactly
• 9:25
  what
• 9:25
  this
• 9:25
  moment
• 9:26
  is
• 9:27
  for
• 9:27
  all
• 9:28
  of
• 9:28
  us.
• 9:29
  F.
• 9:30
  For
• 9:31
  free
• 9:31
  from
• 9:32
  outside
• 9:33
  approval.
• 9:34
  Your
• 9:34
  life
• 9:35
  is
• 9:35
  not
• 9:35
  a
• 9:35
  proposal
• 9:37
  waiting
• 9:37
  to
• 9:37
  be
• 9:37
  approved,
• 9:38
  and
• 9:39
  neither
• 9:39
  are
• 9:39
  your
• 9:39
  boundaries.
• 9:40
  By
• 9:40
  the
• 9:40
  way.
• 9:40
  They
• 9:40
  are
• 9:41
  not
• 9:41
  negotiable.
• 9:42
  You
• 9:43
  don't
• 9:43
  need
• 9:43
  a
• 9:43
  committee
• 9:44
  to
• 9:44
  validate
• 9:45
  your
• 9:46
  decisions,
• 9:47
  what
• 9:47
  you
• 9:47
  know
• 9:48
  about
• 9:48
  your
• 9:48
  self,
• 9:49
  in
• 9:49
  the
• 9:49
  quiet,
• 9:50
  in
• 9:51
  those
• 9:51
  sweet,
• 9:52
  honest
• 9:52
  moments.
• 9:53
  That
• 9:54
  is
• 9:54
  enough.
• 9:55
  You
• 9:56
  are
• 9:56
  free.
• 9:58
  The
• 9:58
  I
• 9:59
  is
• 9:59
  for
• 9:59
  intentional
• 10:00
  about
• 10:01
  who
• 10:01
  gets
• 10:01
  access
• 10:02
  because
• 10:03
  not
• 10:03
  everybody
• 10:03
  deserves
• 10:04
  a
• 10:04
  seat.
• 10:05
  In
• 10:05
  your
• 10:05
  VIP
• 10:06
  section
• 10:07
  of
• 10:07
  who
• 10:07
  you're
• 10:07
  becoming,
• 10:08
  you
• 10:09
  are
• 10:09
  intentional,
• 10:10
  discerning,
• 10:11
  and
• 10:12
  selective,
• 10:13
  and
• 10:14
  that
• 10:14
  is
• 10:14
  not
• 10:14
  cold.
• 10:15
  That
• 10:15
  is
• 10:16
  wisdom
• 10:16
  born
• 10:17
  from
• 10:17
  knowing
• 10:18
  your
• 10:18
  worth.
• 10:19
  Okay,
• 10:19
  queen.
• 10:20
  The
• 10:21
  N
• 10:21
  is
• 10:21
  for
• 10:22
  no
• 10:22
  longer
• 10:23
  negotiating
• 10:24
  your
• 10:24
  worth.
• 10:25
  Your
• 10:25
  value
• 10:26
  is
• 10:26
  not
• 10:26
  determined
• 10:27
  by
• 10:28
  who
• 10:28
  stayed
• 10:29
  or
• 10:29
  who
• 10:29
  left,
• 10:30
  not
• 10:31
  by
• 10:31
  who
• 10:31
  clapped
• 10:32
  or
• 10:32
  who
• 10:32
  didn't
• 10:33
  understand.
• 10:34
  You
• 10:35
  know
• 10:35
  what
• 10:36
  you
• 10:36
  are
• 10:36
  worth
• 10:37
  and
• 10:37
  you
• 10:37
  are
• 10:38
  done,
• 10:38
  and
• 10:38
  I
• 10:39
  mean
• 10:39
  done
• 10:40
  accepting
• 10:41
  anything
• 10:42
  less
• 10:43
  than
• 10:43
  what
• 10:43
  you
• 10:43
  deserve.
• 10:45
  A
• 10:45
  aligned
• 10:46
  with
• 10:47
  who
• 10:47
  you
• 10:48
  are
• 10:48
  becoming.
• 10:49
  Every
• 10:50
  decision,
• 10:50
  every
• 10:51
  boundary,
• 10:52
  every
• 10:52
  yes
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  every
• 10:54
  no
• 10:54
  is
• 10:55
  filtered
• 10:55
  through
• 10:56
  her.
• 10:57
  This
• 10:57
  first
• 10:57
  L
• 10:58
  is
• 10:58
  leaving
• 10:59
  self
• 10:59
  abandonment
• 11:00
  behind,
• 11:01
  not
• 11:01
  perfectly,
• 11:02
  not
• 11:03
  without
• 11:03
  moments
• 11:04
  of
• 11:04
  backsliding.
• 11:05
  Okay,
• 11:05
  friend,
• 11:07
  if
• 11:07
  you
• 11:08
  think
• 11:08
  that
• 11:08
  you're
• 11:08
  just
• 11:09
  going
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  implement
• 11:10
  this
• 11:10
  and
• 11:11
  that's
• 11:11
  it,
• 11:11
  and
• 11:11
  there's
• 11:12
  never
• 11:12
  any
• 11:12
  maintenance
• 11:12
  required,
• 11:13
  friend,
• 11:14
  let's
• 11:14
  not
• 11:14
  set
• 11:14
  ourselves
• 11:15
  up
• 11:15
  for
• 11:15
  failure.
• 11:18
  We
• 11:19
  are
• 11:19
  going
• 11:19
  to
• 11:20
  have
• 11:20
  some
• 11:20
  moments
• 11:21
  of
• 11:21
  backsliding,
• 11:21
  okay?
• 11:22
  The
• 11:22
  old
• 11:23
  us,
• 11:23
  she's
• 11:24
  still
• 11:24
  up
• 11:24
  in
• 11:24
  there
• 11:25
  and
• 11:25
  she
• 11:25
  likes
• 11:25
  to
• 11:25
  make
• 11:25
  a
• 11:25
  cameo
• 11:26
  appearance
• 11:27
  here
• 11:27
  and
• 11:27
  there.
• 11:27
  Okay?
• 11:30
  So
• 11:31
  don't
• 11:31
  give
• 11:31
  yourself
• 11:32
  a
• 11:32
  hard
• 11:32
  time.
• 11:33
  Just
• 11:33
  be
• 11:34
  intentional
• 11:35
  with
• 11:36
  a
• 11:36
  heart
• 11:36
  that
• 11:36
  keeps
• 11:37
  choosing
• 11:38
  to
• 11:38
  come
• 11:38
  back
• 11:39
  to
• 11:39
  itself.
• 11:40
  You
• 11:40
  are
• 11:40
  leaving
• 11:41
  self
• 11:41
  abandonment
• 11:42
  behind
• 11:43
  one
• 11:44
  brave
• 11:44
  choice
• 11:45
  at
• 11:45
  a
• 11:46
  time.
• 11:47
  The
• 11:47
  second
• 11:47
  L
• 11:48
  is
• 11:48
  living
• 11:49
  inside
• 11:49
  out.
• 11:50
  No
• 11:50
  more
• 11:51
  performing
• 11:51
  for
• 11:51
  the
• 11:52
  outside
• 11:52
  at
• 11:53
  the
• 11:53
  expense
• 11:54
  of
• 11:54
  what's
• 11:54
  on
• 11:55
  the
• 11:55
  inside.
• 11:56
  What
• 11:56
  is
• 11:56
  true
• 11:57
  in
• 11:57
  you
• 11:58
  gets
• 11:58
  to
• 11:58
  show
• 11:59
  up
• 11:59
  in
• 11:59
  the
• 11:59
  world
• 12:00
  that.
• 12:01
  Integrity,
• 12:02
  wholeness,
• 12:03
  and
• 12:04
  it
• 12:04
  is
• 12:04
  the
• 12:04
  most
• 12:05
  magnetic
• 12:05
  way
• 12:06
  a
• 12:06
  woman
• 12:07
  can
• 12:07
  live.
• 12:08
  The
• 12:09
  why
• 12:09
  just
• 12:10
  might
• 12:10
  be
• 12:10
  my
• 12:10
  favorite.
• 12:11
  Yes.
• 12:12
  To
• 12:12
  herself
• 12:13
  first,
• 12:14
  always
• 12:15
  and
• 12:16
  unapologetically.
• 12:17
  Not
• 12:18
  at
• 12:18
  the
• 12:18
  expense
• 12:19
  of
• 12:19
  everyone
• 12:20
  else,
• 12:21
  but
• 12:21
  never
• 12:22
  again
• 12:23
  at
• 12:23
  the
• 12:23
  expense
• 12:25
  of
• 12:25
  herself.
• 12:27
  Ooh,
• 12:28
  friend.
• 12:28
  Finally,
• 12:30
  yes.
• 12:31
  Free
• 12:32
  from
• 12:32
  the
• 12:32
  outside
• 12:32
  approval.
• 12:33
  Intentional
• 12:34
  about
• 12:35
  who
• 12:35
  gets
• 12:35
  access
• 12:36
  no
• 12:37
  longer
• 12:37
  negotiating
• 12:38
  your
• 12:38
  worth,
• 12:39
  aligned
• 12:40
  with
• 12:40
  who
• 12:40
  you
• 12:41
  are,
• 12:41
  becoming,
• 12:42
  leaving
• 12:42
  self
• 12:43
  abandonment
• 12:44
  behind,
• 12:45
  living
• 12:45
  inside
• 12:46
  out,
• 12:46
  and
• 12:47
  yes
• 12:48
  to
• 12:48
  herself.
• 12:49
  That's
• 12:49
  right.
• 12:50
  She
• 12:50
  gets
• 12:51
  the
• 12:51
  first
• 12:51
  yes
• 12:52
  every
• 12:53
  single
• 12:54
  time.
• 12:55
  Ooh.
• 12:56
  Now
• 12:57
  this
• 12:57
  is
• 12:58
  exciting.
• 12:59
  This
• 12:59
  is
• 13:00
  where
• 13:00
  the
• 13:00
  portal
• 13:00
  opens
• 13:01
  and
• 13:01
  you
• 13:02
  are
• 13:02
  meeting
• 13:02
  her.
• 13:03
  So
• 13:04
  who
• 13:04
  is
• 13:04
  she?
• 13:05
  Okay.
• 13:06
  Who
• 13:06
  is
• 13:06
  this
• 13:07
  woman
• 13:07
  you
• 13:07
  are
• 13:08
  finally
• 13:08
  meeting?
• 13:09
  Well,
• 13:10
  let
• 13:11
  me
• 13:11
  introduce
• 13:11
  you.
• 13:14
  She
• 13:15
  is
• 13:15
  the
• 13:15
  woman
• 13:16
  who
• 13:16
  walks
• 13:17
  into
• 13:17
  a
• 13:17
  room
• 13:18
  and
• 13:18
  doesn't
• 13:19
  scan
• 13:19
  it
• 13:20
  for
• 13:20
  permission
• 13:20
  to
• 13:21
  be
• 13:21
  there.
• 13:21
  She
• 13:22
  walks
• 13:22
  in,
• 13:23
  she.
• 13:23
  Fills
• 13:24
  it
• 13:24
  with
• 13:24
  her
• 13:25
  presence
• 13:25
  and
• 13:26
  her
• 13:26
  truth.
• 13:27
  She
• 13:27
  is
• 13:27
  the
• 13:28
  woman
• 13:28
  who
• 13:28
  feels
• 13:29
  something
• 13:29
  and
• 13:29
  says
• 13:30
  it
• 13:30
  not
• 13:31
  cruelly,
• 13:32
  not
• 13:32
  loudly,
• 13:33
  but
• 13:33
  clearly,
• 13:34
  honestly,
• 13:35
  without
• 13:36
  apologizing
• 13:37
  for
• 13:37
  having
• 13:37
  a
• 13:37
  heart.
• 13:38
  She
• 13:39
  is
• 13:39
  a
• 13:39
  woman
• 13:40
  who
• 13:40
  makes
• 13:40
  a
• 13:40
  decision
• 13:41
  and
• 13:42
  stands
• 13:42
  on
• 13:43
  business.
• 13:44
  Without
• 13:45
  the
• 13:45
  committee,
• 13:46
  without
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  dissertation,
• 13:47
  she
• 13:48
  decides
• 13:49
  she's
• 13:49
  here.
• 13:50
  That's
• 13:51
  it.
• 13:51
  And
• 13:51
  that.
• 13:52
  Is
• 13:53
  enough.
• 13:54
  She
• 13:54
  is
• 13:54
  the
• 13:54
  woman
• 13:55
  who
• 13:55
  loves
• 13:55
  herself
• 13:56
  on
• 13:56
  the
• 13:56
  ordinary
• 13:57
  days,
• 13:58
  not
• 13:58
  just
• 13:58
  the
• 13:59
  breakthrough
• 13:59
  days.
• 14:00
  I'm
• 14:00
  talking
• 14:01
  the
• 14:01
  regular
• 14:01
  Schmegular
• 14:02
  Tuesday
• 14:02
  afternoon
• 14:03
  when
• 14:03
  there's
• 14:04
  nothing
• 14:04
  special
• 14:05
  hard,
• 14:06
  and
• 14:06
  even
• 14:06
  on
• 14:07
  the
• 14:07
  heavy
• 14:07
  days,
• 14:08
  she
• 14:08
  shows
• 14:09
  up
• 14:09
  for
• 14:09
  herself
• 14:10
  on.
• 14:11
  All
• 14:11
  of
• 14:12
  them.
• 14:12
  She
• 14:13
  is
• 14:13
  the
• 14:13
  woman
• 14:13
  who
• 14:13
  receives
• 14:15
  love,
• 14:15
  rest,
• 14:17
  help,
• 14:18
  abundance
• 14:19
  goodness,
• 14:20
  without
• 14:21
  deflecting,
• 14:22
  without
• 14:23
  deciding.
• 14:24
  She
• 14:24
  hasn't
• 14:24
  earned
• 14:25
  it.
• 14:25
  She
• 14:26
  opens
• 14:26
  her
• 14:26
  hands
• 14:28
  and
• 14:28
  she
• 14:29
  receives.
• 14:31
  And
• 14:32
  here's
• 14:32
  the
• 14:32
  truth,
• 14:33
  I
• 14:33
  wanna
• 14:33
  leave
• 14:34
  on
• 14:34
  your
• 14:34
  heart.
• 14:35
  She
• 14:35
  is
• 14:36
  not
• 14:36
  someone
• 14:37
  you
• 14:37
  have
• 14:37
  to
• 14:37
  become.
• 14:38
  She
• 14:38
  is
• 14:39
  someone
• 14:40
  you
• 14:40
  have
• 14:40
  to
• 14:40
  uncover.
• 14:42
  She
• 14:42
  has
• 14:42
  always
• 14:43
  been
• 14:43
  there
• 14:44
  underneath
• 14:45
  the
• 14:45
  people
• 14:45
  pleasing,
• 14:46
  the
• 14:47
  shrinking
• 14:48
  underneath
• 14:48
  every
• 14:49
  year
• 14:50
  of
• 14:50
  making
• 14:50
  yourself
• 14:51
  smaller.
• 14:52
  Than
• 14:53
  you
• 14:53
  are.
• 14:53
  She
• 14:54
  was
• 14:54
  always
• 14:55
  right
• 14:56
  there
• 14:57
  waiting
• 14:57
  patiently
• 14:58
  certain
• 15:00
  you
• 15:00
  would
• 15:00
  find
• 15:00
  your
• 15:00
  way
• 15:01
  back.
• 15:02
  And
• 15:02
  here
• 15:02
  you
• 15:03
  are,
• 15:03
  friend.
• 15:06
  And
• 15:06
  this
• 15:06
  is
• 15:07
  for
• 15:07
  the
• 15:07
  woman
• 15:07
  who
• 15:08
  is
• 15:08
  ready
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  take
• 15:09
  everything
• 15:09
  she
• 15:10
  just
• 15:10
  heard
• 15:10
  and
• 15:11
  actually
• 15:11
  do
• 15:11
  something
• 15:12
  with
• 15:12
  it.
• 15:12
  Because
• 15:13
  if
• 15:13
  this
• 15:13
  series
• 15:14
  has
• 15:14
  been
• 15:14
  speaking
• 15:15
  to
• 15:15
  you
• 15:15
  in
• 15:15
  the
• 15:16
  way
• 15:16
  I
• 15:16
  think
• 15:16
  it
• 15:17
  has,
• 15:17
  you
• 15:18
  are
• 15:18
  going
• 15:18
  to
• 15:18
  want
• 15:19
  the
• 15:19
  main
• 15:19
  character
• 15:20
  momentum
• 15:20
  builder
• 15:21
  in
• 15:21
  your
• 15:22
  hand.
• 15:23
  Friend.
• 15:23
  This
• 15:24
  is
• 15:24
  a
• 15:24
  digital
• 15:24
  guide
• 15:25
  for
• 15:25
  the
• 15:25
  woman
• 15:25
  who
• 15:25
  is
• 15:26
  finally
• 15:26
  ready
• 15:27
  to
• 15:27
  get
• 15:27
  clear
• 15:28
  on
• 15:28
  who
• 15:28
  she
• 15:28
  actually
• 15:29
  is.
• 15:30
  Start
• 15:30
  trusting
• 15:30
  herself
• 15:31
  for
• 15:31
  real
• 15:32
  and
• 15:33
  walk
• 15:33
  fully
• 15:34
  into
• 15:34
  her
• 15:34
  main
• 15:35
  character
• 15:36
  energy.
• 15:37
  Not
• 15:37
  perform
• 15:38
  it,
• 15:38
  but
• 15:39
  live
• 15:39
  it.
• 15:40
  It
• 15:40
  is
• 15:40
  all
• 15:41
  in
• 15:41
  the
• 15:41
  show
• 15:41
  notes,
• 15:41
  so
• 15:42
  go
• 15:42
  grab
• 15:42
  it
• 15:43
  after
• 15:43
  this
• 15:43
  episode.
• 15:46
  Okay.
• 15:47
  You
• 15:47
  already
• 15:48
  know
• 15:48
  information
• 15:49
  without
• 15:50
  application
• 15:51
  is
• 15:51
  just
• 15:51
  inspiration
• 15:52
  that
• 15:53
  fades
• 15:53
  by
• 15:53
  Friday.
• 15:55
  So
• 15:56
  here
• 15:56
  is
• 15:57
  what
• 15:57
  we
• 15:57
  are
• 15:57
  actually
• 15:58
  going
• 15:58
  to
• 15:58
  do
• 15:59
  with
• 15:59
  everything
• 16:00
  we
• 16:00
  just
• 16:00
  covered.
• 16:01
  It
• 16:01
  moves
• 16:02
  you
• 16:02
  into
• 16:02
  real
• 16:03
  life,
• 16:04
  into
• 16:04
  your
• 16:04
  journal,
• 16:05
  into
• 16:05
  your
• 16:05
  mirror,
• 16:06
  into
• 16:06
  the
• 16:07
  quiet
• 16:07
  decisions
• 16:08
  you
• 16:08
  make
• 16:08
  when
• 16:08
  nobody
• 16:09
  is
• 16:09
  watching.
• 16:10
  Let's
• 16:11
  get
• 16:11
  into
• 16:11
  yourself.
• 16:12
  Love
• 16:13
  two
• 16:13
  step.
• 16:14
  Think
• 16:14
  of
• 16:14
  it
• 16:14
  as
• 16:15
  me
• 16:15
  getting
• 16:16
  the
• 16:16
  party
• 16:16
  started,
• 16:17
  and
• 16:17
  then
• 16:17
  you
• 16:18
  keep
• 16:18
  it
• 16:18
  going
• 16:19
  in.
• 16:19
  Whatever
• 16:20
  feels
• 16:21
  most
• 16:21
  aligned
• 16:22
  for
• 16:22
  you.
• 16:22
  Okay?
• 16:23
  You
• 16:23
  already
• 16:23
  know
• 16:24
  how
• 16:24
  to
• 16:24
  do
• 16:24
  this
• 16:24
  by
• 16:24
  now,
• 16:25
  because
• 16:25
  with
• 16:25
  every
• 16:26
  single
• 16:26
  episode,
• 16:27
  we
• 16:27
  do
• 16:27
  the
• 16:27
  work.
• 16:28
  That
• 16:28
  is
• 16:29
  the
• 16:29
  practice.
• 16:30
  This
• 16:30
  is
• 16:30
  what
• 16:30
  makes
• 16:31
  this
• 16:31
  more
• 16:31
  than
• 16:32
  a
• 16:32
  podcast.
• 16:33
  It
• 16:33
  makes
• 16:33
  it
• 16:33
  a
• 16:33
  transformation.
• 16:35
  So
• 16:35
  for
• 16:36
  our
• 16:36
  finale,
• 16:37
  I
• 16:37
  wanna
• 16:37
  give
• 16:37
  you
• 16:38
  two
• 16:38
  things
• 16:39
  that
• 16:39
  belong
• 16:40
  to
• 16:40
  you,
• 16:41
  not
• 16:41
  my
• 16:41
  words.
• 16:42
  Not
• 16:42
  my
• 16:42
  declarations,
• 16:44
  but
• 16:44
  yours
• 16:45
  in
• 16:45
  your
• 16:45
  voice
• 16:46
  for
• 16:47
  your
• 16:47
  life,
• 16:48
  for
• 16:48
  this
• 16:48
  exact
• 16:49
  season
• 16:50
  of
• 16:50
  your
• 16:51
  becoming.
• 16:52
  Step
• 16:53
  one,
• 16:53
  write
• 16:54
  your
• 16:54
  finally
• 16:55
  declaration.
• 16:56
  Take
• 16:57
  every
• 16:57
  letter
• 16:58
  of
• 16:58
  the
• 16:58
  framework
• 16:59
  and
• 16:59
  make
• 16:59
  it
• 16:59
  personal.
• 17:00
  What
• 17:00
  does
• 17:01
  free
• 17:02
  from
• 17:02
  outside
• 17:03
  approval
• 17:04
  look
• 17:04
  like
• 17:04
  specifically
• 17:05
  in
• 17:06
  your
• 17:06
  life
• 17:06
  right
• 17:07
  now,
• 17:07
  what
• 17:08
  does
• 17:08
  Yes
• 17:08
  to
• 17:09
  herself
• 17:10
  look
• 17:10
  like
• 17:10
  in
• 17:10
  the
• 17:10
  decisions
• 17:11
  you
• 17:12
  make
• 17:12
  tomorrow
• 17:12
  morning?
• 17:13
  Write
• 17:14
  the
• 17:14
  whole
• 17:14
  declaration
• 17:15
  and
• 17:16
  keep
• 17:16
  it
• 17:16
  someplace
• 17:17
  sacred.
• 17:18
  Your
• 17:18
  journal,
• 17:19
  your
• 17:19
  nightstand
• 17:20
  on
• 17:20
  your
• 17:20
  mirror,
• 17:21
  somewhere
• 17:22
  you
• 17:22
  can
• 17:22
  find
• 17:22
  it
• 17:23
  when.
• 17:23
  You
• 17:24
  forget
• 17:24
  because
• 17:25
  you
• 17:25
  will
• 17:26
  forget
• 17:26
  sometimes.
• 17:28
  We
• 17:28
  all
• 17:28
  do.
• 17:29
  That
• 17:29
  is
• 17:29
  not
• 17:30
  failure.
• 17:31
  That
• 17:31
  is
• 17:32
  human.
• 17:32
  The
• 17:33
  declaration
• 17:33
  is
• 17:34
  what
• 17:34
  brings
• 17:34
  you
• 17:35
  back
• 17:35
  to
• 17:35
  yourself
• 17:36
  every
• 17:37
  single
• 17:37
  time.
• 17:38
  step
• 17:38
  two,
• 17:39
  the
• 17:39
  meeting
• 17:40
  mirror
• 17:40
  moment
• 17:41
  tonight.
• 17:42
  Stand
• 17:43
  in
• 17:43
  front
• 17:43
  of
• 17:43
  your
• 17:43
  mirror.
• 17:44
  Look
• 17:44
  yourself
• 17:45
  in
• 17:45
  the
• 17:45
  eyes.
• 17:46
  Really
• 17:46
  look,
• 17:46
  not
• 17:47
  a
• 17:47
  glance,
• 17:48
  a
• 17:48
  full
• 17:49
  real.
• 17:49
  I
• 17:50
  see.
• 17:50
  You
• 17:50
  kind
• 17:50
  of
• 17:51
  look
• 17:51
  and
• 17:52
  say
• 17:52
  out
• 17:52
  loud,
• 17:53
  I
• 17:53
  see
• 17:53
  you.
• 17:54
  I'm
• 17:55
  sorry
• 17:55
  it
• 17:55
  took
• 17:55
  me
• 17:56
  so
• 17:56
  long.
• 17:57
  I'm
• 17:57
  not
• 17:58
  going
• 17:58
  anywhere.
• 17:59
  We're
• 17:59
  doing
• 18:00
  this
• 18:00
  together.
• 18:01
  Then
• 18:02
  say
• 18:02
  your
• 18:02
  name,
• 18:03
  your
• 18:03
  full
• 18:04
  government
• 18:05
  name
• 18:05
  friend.
• 18:05
  Okay.
• 18:06
  And
• 18:06
  say
• 18:07
  she
• 18:07
  finally
• 18:08
  met
• 18:08
  her.
• 18:09
  Let
• 18:10
  yourself
• 18:10
  feel.
• 18:11
  Whatever
• 18:12
  comes
• 18:12
  up,
• 18:13
  the
• 18:13
  emotion,
• 18:14
  the
• 18:14
  relief,
• 18:15
  the
• 18:15
  recognition,
• 18:16
  let
• 18:17
  it
• 18:17
  all
• 18:18
  come
• 18:18
  and
• 18:19
  flow.
• 18:19
  Because
• 18:20
  what
• 18:20
  rises
• 18:21
  in
• 18:21
  that
• 18:22
  moment
• 18:22
  is
• 18:22
  not
• 18:23
  weakness.
• 18:24
  It
• 18:24
  is
• 18:24
  healing.
• 18:25
  That
• 18:26
  is
• 18:26
  wholeness.
• 18:28
  That
• 18:28
  is
• 18:28
  you
• 18:29
  finally
• 18:30
  coming
• 18:30
  home
• 18:31
  to
• 18:32
  yourself.
• 18:33
  Now
• 18:34
  lemme
• 18:34
  pour
• 18:35
  into
• 18:35
  you
• 18:35
  real
• 18:35
  quick
• 18:36
  as
• 18:36
  if
• 18:36
  this
• 18:37
  whole
• 18:37
  episode
• 18:38
  hasn't
• 18:38
  basically
• 18:39
  been
• 18:39
  just
• 18:40
  that
• 18:40
  dedicated
• 18:41
  to
• 18:41
  you.
• 18:44
  Okay
• 18:44
  friend,
• 18:44
  but
• 18:44
  I
• 18:45
  want
• 18:45
  you
• 18:46
  to
• 18:46
  just
• 18:46
  pause
• 18:47
  with
• 18:47
  me
• 18:48
  for
• 18:48
  a
• 18:48
  moment.
• 18:49
  Put
• 18:49
  everything
• 18:50
  down
• 18:50
  if
• 18:51
  you
• 18:51
  are
• 18:51
  safe
• 18:51
  to
• 18:52
  do
• 18:52
  so.
• 18:53
  Just
• 18:53
  be
• 18:54
  right
• 18:54
  here
• 18:55
  with
• 18:55
  me
• 18:55
  because
• 18:56
  I
• 18:56
  know
• 18:57
  who
• 18:57
  is
• 18:57
  listening
• 18:57
  to
• 18:57
  this
• 18:58
  today.
• 18:58
  She
• 18:59
  is
• 18:59
  the
• 18:59
  woman
• 18:59
  who
• 18:59
  has
• 19:00
  been
• 19:00
  giving
• 19:00
  everything
• 19:02
  she
• 19:02
  has
• 19:03
  to
• 19:03
  everyone
• 19:04
  around
• 19:04
  her
• 19:05
  and
• 19:05
  wondering.
• 19:06
  In
• 19:07
  the
• 19:07
  quiet
• 19:07
  moments,
• 19:08
  when
• 19:08
  will
• 19:09
  it
• 19:09
  finally
• 19:09
  be
• 19:10
  her
• 19:10
  turn?
• 19:11
  She
• 19:11
  is
• 19:11
  the
• 19:11
  woman
• 19:12
  who
• 19:12
  has
• 19:12
  been
• 19:12
  showing
• 19:13
  up
• 19:13
  so
• 19:14
  faithfully
• 19:15
  for
• 19:15
  everyone
• 19:16
  else's
• 19:16
  story
• 19:17
  that
• 19:17
  she
• 19:17
  almost
• 19:18
  forgot
• 19:19
  she
• 19:19
  was
• 19:19
  writing
• 19:20
  her
• 19:20
  own.
• 19:21
  She
• 19:21
  is
• 19:21
  the
• 19:22
  woman
• 19:22
  who
• 19:22
  knows
• 19:23
  somewhere
• 19:24
  deep
• 19:25
  beneath
• 19:25
  all
• 19:26
  of
• 19:26
  the
• 19:26
  performing
• 19:27
  and
• 19:27
  producing
• 19:28
  that
• 19:29
  there
• 19:29
  is
• 19:29
  more
• 19:30
  that
• 19:31
  she.
• 19:32
  Is
• 19:32
  more
• 19:33
  that
• 19:33
  the
• 19:34
  life
• 19:34
  she
• 19:34
  is
• 19:34
  actually
• 19:35
  meant
• 19:35
  to
• 19:35
  live
• 19:36
  looks
• 19:37
  different
• 19:37
  from
• 19:38
  the
• 19:38
  one
• 19:39
  she's
• 19:39
  been
• 19:39
  living.
• 19:40
  I
• 19:40
  need
• 19:40
  you
• 19:40
  to
• 19:41
  hear
• 19:41
  this
• 19:41
  like
• 19:42
  it's
• 19:42
  the
• 19:42
  only
• 19:42
  thing
• 19:43
  that
• 19:43
  matters
• 19:43
  today.
• 19:44
  You
• 19:44
  are
• 19:44
  not
• 19:45
  asking
• 19:45
  for
• 19:45
  too
• 19:46
  much.
• 19:46
  You
• 19:47
  are
• 19:47
  not
• 19:48
  too
• 19:48
  much.
• 19:49
  You
• 19:49
  are
• 19:49
  not
• 19:49
  hard
• 19:50
  to
• 19:50
  love.
• 19:51
  You
• 19:51
  are
• 19:51
  simply
• 19:52
  a
• 19:52
  woman
• 19:53
  who
• 19:53
  has
• 19:53
  spent
• 19:54
  too
• 19:55
  long
• 19:55
  making
• 19:56
  herself
• 19:56
  available
• 19:58
  for
• 19:58
  less
• 19:58
  than
• 19:58
  she
• 19:59
  deserves.
• 19:59
  And
• 20:00
  the
• 20:00
  fact
• 20:00
  that
• 20:01
  something
• 20:01
  in
• 20:01
  you
• 20:01
  recognize
• 20:02
  that
• 20:03
  the
• 20:03
  fact
• 20:03
  that
• 20:03
  you
• 20:04
  found
• 20:04
  this
• 20:04
  series
• 20:05
  showed
• 20:06
  up
• 20:06
  for
• 20:06
  this
• 20:06
  work
• 20:07
  and
• 20:07
  made
• 20:08
  it
• 20:08
  all
• 20:08
  the
• 20:09
  way
• 20:09
  to
• 20:09
  this
• 20:09
  finale,
• 20:10
  that
• 20:11
  is
• 20:11
  not
• 20:11
  an
• 20:11
  accident.
• 20:13
  That
• 20:13
  is
• 20:14
  your
• 20:14
  becoming
• 20:15
  calling
• 20:15
  you
• 20:16
  forward,
• 20:16
  the
• 20:17
  woman
• 20:17
  you
• 20:17
  stopped
• 20:18
  abandoning
• 20:18
  yourself
• 20:19
  for.
• 20:20
  She
• 20:20
  is
• 20:20
  not
• 20:20
  someone
• 20:21
  you
• 20:21
  have
• 20:21
  to
• 20:21
  earn.
• 20:22
  She
• 20:22
  is
• 20:22
  not
• 20:23
  someone
• 20:23
  waiting
• 20:24
  on
• 20:24
  the
• 20:24
  other
• 20:24
  side
• 20:24
  of
• 20:25
  perfect.
• 20:25
  She's
• 20:26
  you
• 20:27
  right
• 20:27
  now
• 20:27
  in
• 20:28
  this
• 20:28
  moment,
• 20:29
  worthy
• 20:29
  of
• 20:30
  every
• 20:30
  single
• 20:31
  thing
• 20:32
  you
• 20:32
  have
• 20:32
  been
• 20:32
  withholding
• 20:33
  from
• 20:33
  yourself.
• 20:36
  Ooh,
• 20:36
  a
• 20:36
  friend.
• 20:37
  Just
• 20:37
  know
• 20:38
  I
• 20:38
  love
• 20:39
  you
• 20:40
  and
• 20:40
  I'm
• 20:40
  sending
• 20:41
  you
• 20:41
  the
• 20:41
  biggest
• 20:42
  virtual
• 20:43
  hug.
• 20:44
  We
• 20:44
  started
• 20:45
  out
• 20:45
  this
• 20:46
  series
• 20:46
  with
• 20:47
  a
• 20:47
  question,
• 20:48
  what
• 20:48
  would
• 20:48
  your
• 20:48
  life
• 20:49
  look
• 20:49
  like
• 20:49
  if
• 20:50
  you
• 20:50
  stopped
• 20:50
  abandoning
• 20:51
  yourself?
• 20:52
  And
• 20:52
  I'm
• 20:52
  here
• 20:52
  to
• 20:53
  tell
• 20:53
  you
• 20:54
  10
• 20:54
  episodes
• 20:54
  later.
• 20:55
  This
• 20:56
  is
• 20:56
  not
• 20:56
  a
• 20:56
  question
• 20:57
  anymore
• 20:58
  that.
• 20:59
  Your
• 20:59
  life.
• 21:00
  Your
• 21:01
  life
• 21:01
  looks
• 21:02
  like
• 21:02
  a
• 21:02
  woman
• 21:03
  who
• 21:03
  knows
• 21:03
  herself.
• 21:04
  Your
• 21:05
  life
• 21:05
  looks
• 21:06
  like
• 21:06
  boundaries
• 21:07
  that
• 21:07
  don't
• 21:07
  require
• 21:08
  apologies.
• 21:09
  Your
• 21:10
  life
• 21:10
  looks
• 21:10
  like
• 21:11
  standards
• 21:12
  that
• 21:12
  don't
• 21:12
  bend
• 21:13
  under
• 21:13
  pressure.
• 21:14
  Your
• 21:15
  life
• 21:15
  looks
• 21:15
  like
• 21:16
  love,
• 21:17
  real
• 21:18
  love
• 21:19
  that
• 21:19
  starts
• 21:20
  from
• 21:20
  within
• 21:21
  and
• 21:22
  radiates
• 21:23
  out
• 21:23
  your
• 21:24
  life
• 21:25
  Looks
• 21:25
  like
• 21:25
  her.
• 21:26
  The
• 21:26
  woman
• 21:27
  you
• 21:27
  were
• 21:28
  when
• 21:28
  you
• 21:28
  started
• 21:28
  this
• 21:29
  series?
• 21:30
  Honor
• 21:30
  her.
• 21:31
  She
• 21:31
  was
• 21:31
  doing
• 21:32
  everything
• 21:32
  she
• 21:32
  knew
• 21:33
  how
• 21:33
  to
• 21:33
  do.
• 21:34
  But
• 21:34
  the
• 21:34
  woman
• 21:35
  you
• 21:35
  are
• 21:35
  right
• 21:35
  now,
• 21:36
  okay,
• 21:37
  she
• 21:37
  is
• 21:38
  unavailable.
• 21:41
  Unavailable
• 21:42
  for
• 21:43
  settling,
• 21:43
  shrinking,
• 21:45
  unavailable
• 21:45
  for
• 21:46
  performing
• 21:46
  for
• 21:47
  everyone
• 21:47
  else
• 21:48
  at
• 21:48
  the
• 21:48
  cost
• 21:50
  of
• 21:50
  herself.
• 21:51
  Unavailable
• 21:52
  for
• 21:52
  relationships
• 21:53
  that
• 21:53
  require
• 21:53
  her
• 21:54
  to
• 21:54
  be
• 21:54
  less
• 21:55
  unavailable
• 21:56
  for
• 21:56
  a
• 21:56
  life
• 21:57
  that
• 21:57
  fits
• 21:57
  everyone
• 21:58
  around
• 21:58
  her
• 21:59
  and
• 21:59
  leaves
• 22:00
  no
• 22:00
  room
• 22:01
  for
• 22:01
  her.
• 22:02
  She
• 22:02
  is
• 22:03
  unavailable
• 22:04
  for
• 22:05
  self
• 22:05
  abandonment.
• 22:07
  And
• 22:07
  this
• 22:07
  is
• 22:07
  not
• 22:08
  the
• 22:08
  end
• 22:08
  of
• 22:08
  this
• 22:09
  series
• 22:09
  friend.
• 22:10
  This
• 22:10
  is
• 22:10
  the
• 22:10
  beginning
• 22:11
  of
• 22:12
  your
• 22:12
  story.
• 22:13
  The
• 22:13
  one
• 22:14
  where
• 22:14
  you
• 22:14
  are
• 22:15
  the
• 22:15
  main
• 22:16
  character,
• 22:17
  the
• 22:17
  one
• 22:18
  where
• 22:18
  you
• 22:18
  stopped
• 22:19
  abandoning
• 22:19
  yourself.
• 22:20
  The
• 22:21
  one
• 22:21
  where
• 22:21
  you
• 22:21
  finally,
• 22:22
  and
• 22:22
  I'm
• 22:23
  mean,
• 22:24
  finally
• 22:25
  meet.
• 22:26
  Her,
• 22:27
  she's
• 22:28
  been
• 22:28
  waiting.
• 22:29
  Go
• 22:29
  meet
• 22:29
  her.
• 22:30
  And
• 22:30
  remember,
• 22:31
  being
• 22:32
  confident
• 22:32
  enough
• 22:33
  to
• 22:33
  disappoint
• 22:35
  might
• 22:35
  be
• 22:35
  one
• 22:35
  of
• 22:36
  the
• 22:36
  most
• 22:36
  loving
• 22:37
  things
• 22:37
  you
• 22:37
  ever
• 22:37
  do
• 22:38
  because
• 22:38
  every
• 22:39
  time
• 22:40
  you
• 22:40
  choose
• 22:40
  alignment
• 22:42
  over
• 22:42
  attachment,
• 22:43
  you
• 22:44
  strengthen
• 22:44
  the
• 22:44
  belief
• 22:45
  that
• 22:46
  you
• 22:46
  can
• 22:46
  trust
• 22:46
  yourself
• 22:47
  the
• 22:47
  moment
• 22:48
  you
• 22:48
  reconnect
• 22:49
  to
• 22:49
  your
• 22:49
  standard
• 22:50
  self-trust.
• 22:51
  Deepens
• 22:52
  go
• 22:53
  within.
• 22:54
  Trust
• 22:55
  what
• 22:55
  you
• 22:55
  find
• 22:56
  and
• 22:56
  fall
• 22:57
  in
• 22:57
  love
• 22:57
  with
• 22:58
  yourself
• 22:59
  for
• 22:59
  real
• 22:59
  This
• 22:59
  time.
• 23:00
  Stay
• 23:01
  encouraged.
• 23:02
  Stay
• 23:02
  unavailable
• 23:04
  for
• 23:04
  self
• 23:05
  abandonment,
• 23:06
  and
• 23:06
  always,
• 23:07
  always
• 23:08
  choose
• 23:09
  her
• 23:10
  first.
• 23:11
  You
• 23:11
  are
• 23:12
  the
• 23:12
  main
• 23:12
  character
• 23:13
  of
• 23:13
  your
• 23:13
  life
• 23:13
  friend.
• 23:14
  Okay,
• 23:15
  go
• 23:15
  out
• 23:15
  here
• 23:16
  and
• 23:16
  do
• 23:16
  your
• 23:16
  queen
• 23:17
  thing.
• 23:18
  Okay.
• 23:20
  Love
• 23:20
  you
• 23:20
  friend.