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[EP22] How do you know you're letting go vs thinking you are · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  How do you know you're letting go versus thinking that you are?
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  I always use this analogy of, here, let me just use this object.
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  So, if I'm grabbing onto something, and I've just got this thing here I'm grabbing.
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  If I'm grabbing onto it, right, and let's say if this thing heats up like, you know, I don't know, like a hot rock or something.
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  Volcanic rock. Not a good idea to pick up a hot volcanic rock, but here.
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  Let's say, you know, I picked it up and I'm holding onto it.
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  to heat up some somehow magically just heats up gets really hot I'm still
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  hanging on to it well what's gonna happen is I get really kind of
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  uncomfortable and it's gonna burn and at some point unless I want to just burn my
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  hand completely you know we're built to just let go the body knows how to let go
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  the nervous system knows how to let go and letting go is letting the grip go
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  okay there you go just dropped everything that's what happens when you
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  drop your thing right it's like there's a difference what's the difference one is holding on
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  gripping the other is let go so on a physical level right sometimes doing it on a physical
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  level can feel much more tangible so in our yoga practice for example the hardest posture is that
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  last posture that we do even though everyone wants to comes for it it's
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  normally the people that don't want to do any of the postures they come for the
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  Shavasana the last posture they're normally the ones that don't want to do
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  Shavasana because when we get to Shavasana and you know we're there for a
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  few minutes that's when people in a yoga class are like how much longer you know
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  and they're like eyes are darting around because we cannot sit still and the
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  hardest part is to sit with ourselves and to let go so letting go one of the
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  practices you know I'll just share it here I've shared it before it's like you know when you're
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  lying on the ground and you're consciously scanning like as if like a laser beam scanning
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  right from crown of the head down to your feet and consciously letting go of muscle groups so you'll
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  feel the body actually letting go letting go letting go it's also it's a practice that you
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  can do if you struggle to go to sleep so people say to me like I can't sleep I don't know and most
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  of the time I've noticed I don't normally have this problem of sleeping because generally within
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  three seconds before someone can finish saying the word sleep I'm already asleep so it's like
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  they get to SLE before they get to the next EP I'm already asleep but sometimes I've had the
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  problem of not being able to sleep and I notice when I scan my body I realize that there's tension
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  I'm holding like where like you know maybe it's the neck or the shoulders or my jaws my face or
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  and I'm not completely relaxed in my body.
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  It's that same kind of physical action, you could say,
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  I'm just making it tangible, of releasing, of letting go.
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  The difference between letting go is one is free, is expansive,
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  and the other is contracted.
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  How do you know whether you've let go or not?
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  If you feel a contraction emotionally, physically,
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  will reflect emotionally as well, so the body will reflect it.
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  that contraction to me in my own body and my emotions says that I've not let go because I'm
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  still gripping onto the thing it's the same thing with like let's say if I'm angry or resentful at
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  someone or something it's still there I'm still some part of me is hanging onto it and it's a
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  completely different feeling when I've let it go I'm free from it there's an expansiveness of freedom
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  when I've let go.
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  So I use that hot rock,
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  which I've dropped a thing now,
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  but it's like hanging on.
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  So resentment, for example,
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  anger or hate, for example,
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  it's like,
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  there's a quote years ago I read
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  that says,
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  hate is like the poison that you drink
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  and hope the other person would die.
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  Anger, resentment is like
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  hanging on to that hot rock.
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  the thing that we hang on to
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  so often it's not just anger and resentment
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  so much of what we hang on to
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  is what makes us dis-eased
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  the diseases that we have so often
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  is the tension that we are holding and hanging on to
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  not just on a physical level
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  because the physical reflects the emotional
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  and that which we haven't let go of
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  that which we are hanging on to and contracted
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  when you're contracted, when you're stressed, when you're tense
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  energy cannot flow through
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  and that stagnation of energy
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  the lack of flow or just flow not being possible
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  becomes an unease and becomes a dis-ease
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  and when we take the dis-ease and give it a name
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  and call it a condition
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  and give it some tablets so that we don't feel it
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  It's just a wonderful way of dealing with it.