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- 0:22Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe and welcome
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- 0:31Speaker 1: Mylene Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach.
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- 2:34Speaker 1: this week's affirmation is, I move forward in faith knowing
- 2:41Speaker 1: God is with me. I move forward in faith knowing
- 2:48Speaker 1: God is with me. I move forward in faith knowing
- 2:55Speaker 1: God is with me. Now, let's get ready for this
- 3:00Speaker 1: week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. This series
- 3:10Speaker 1: for me is deeply rooted. It has me almost emotional
- 3:16Speaker 1: about the topic of fear. And the reason why is
- 3:20Speaker 1: because I've lived it and it took me a very
- 3:26Speaker 1: long time to recognize what this was. This thing that
- 3:34Speaker 1: had a grip on my life, meaning my decisioning and
- 3:40Speaker 1: my movements were always limited to what this wanted for me.
- 3:47Speaker 1: It literally started scripting how I would move, what I
- 3:51Speaker 1: would say, if I would say anything, right? Almost muting
- 3:56Speaker 1: my voice and limiting my movement and my steps. And
- 4:00Speaker 1: so that's why this conversation, this topic on fear is
- 4:05Speaker 1: so important to me. And it's really critical because so
- 4:09Speaker 1: many people, I mean, think about the year that you've had, right?
- 4:13Speaker 1: And think about where we are now. We're in that
- 4:15Speaker 1: final quarter of this 20, 26 year. And this is
- 4:21Speaker 1: where momentum has to be built, right? Because, you know,
- 4:24Speaker 1: the holidays are going to take hold of you, the activities,
- 4:27Speaker 1: the busyness, the end of year, end of month, uh,
- 4:31Speaker 1: requirements and things of that nature. And you kind of
- 4:35Speaker 1: lose your grounding, right? And so this is a really
- 4:38Speaker 1: good time this month to get in alignment. And in
- 4:44Speaker 1: order to do that, you've that no longer serve you.
- 4:49Speaker 1: And the thing about fear is that it just doesn't
- 4:54Speaker 1: go away, right? You must be intentional about acknowledging that
- 5:02Speaker 1: it's there, recognizing that it's there, right? And its role
- 5:11Speaker 1: in that season and eradicating it. And so that's what
- 5:16Speaker 1: this No Fear series is all about. When I did
- 5:21Speaker 1: a podcast a few years ago, probably one of the
- 5:24Speaker 1: earlier podcast episodes I did, it was about fear. And
- 5:29Speaker 1: it was about fear as a driver in my life,
- 5:32Speaker 1: like a literal driver. Think an Uber driver or, you know,
- 5:37Speaker 1: back in the day, a taxi driver that would basically
- 5:41Speaker 1: have you in the passenger or the backseat rather, not
- 5:44Speaker 1: even a passenger seat, and would literally navigate you around.
- 5:49Speaker 1: And so today on this particular episode, I want you
- 5:53Speaker 1: to let fear know that you can't drive anymore, right? Now,
- 6:01Speaker 1: in order for this to really take hold, I know
- 6:05Speaker 1: for my life, this, like I said, is not a
- 6:10Speaker 1: topic that should be looked at lightly. And so when
- 6:14Speaker 1: I think about fear, I think about scriptures that help
- 6:19Speaker 1: me to reinforce where the true power comes from, okay?
- 6:26Speaker 1: And anchoring this message in God's word is absolutely essential
- 6:33Speaker 1: for anyone, for me for sure, to understand its power,
- 6:41Speaker 1: meaning fear's power, but also recognizing that God is the
- 6:48Speaker 1: ultimate power, okay? So this No Fear series is recognizing fear,
- 6:55Speaker 1: standing against the intimidation, and moving forward in faith. And
- 7:01Speaker 1: so faith comes by the word of God. It does.
- 7:06Speaker 1: And so when I think of this particular episode, right,
- 7:11Speaker 1: that you can't drive anymore, I think about Joshua, right? right?
- 7:17Speaker 1: So Joshua was the next man in line after Moses died.
- 7:25Speaker 1: I think everybody knows Moses was the one to set
- 7:32Speaker 1: or go to Pharaoh and say, let my people go, right?
- 7:34Speaker 1: Based on the information and the direction from God. And
- 7:40Speaker 1: there was a promise to get the people in the
- 7:46Speaker 1: not close enough. And so Joshua steps on the scene, right?
- 7:50Speaker 1: He's kind of like the predecessor. He is the person
- 7:53Speaker 1: who was the understudy, so to speak. And now he's
- 7:57Speaker 1: standing in that role. And what God says to him
- 8:01Speaker 1: in Joshua 1 and 9 is, have I not commanded thee,
- 8:07Speaker 1: be strong and of good courage, be not afraid, neither
- 8:14Speaker 1: be thou dismayed, For the Lord thy God is with
- 8:20Speaker 1: thee wherever thou goest. And that's the King James Version, okay?
- 8:27Speaker 1: There are other versions of this same scripture that might
- 8:31Speaker 1: read differently, but ultimately is be strong and courageous because
- 8:36Speaker 1: I will be with you wherever you will go. And
- 8:40Speaker 1: I think that is very important, okay? as you think
- 8:45Speaker 1: of all the places that you're going to go, right?
- 8:48Speaker 1: And you have to be in good courage because as
- 8:51Speaker 1: I mentioned, fear doesn't go away. You have to be
- 8:56Speaker 1: of good courage. You have to be not afraid, okay?
- 9:01Speaker 1: Or dismayed, meaning don't be confused, right? That's why I
- 9:05Speaker 1: always tell people, watch your words. Oh, I'm confused. Oh,
- 9:08Speaker 1: I don't know. Listen, you're coming into alignment and into
- 9:12Speaker 1: agreement with fear. Because fear is about confusion and fear
- 9:17Speaker 1: and being afraid and lacking courage. And what God is
- 9:20Speaker 1: saying is be of good courage. Know that you're going
- 9:24Speaker 1: to need courage and you're going to have to lean
- 9:26Speaker 1: into courage, right? Because this thing, this fear will be there.
- 9:34Speaker 1: The thing about fear is that unfortunately for many of you,
- 9:40Speaker 1: And I speak from experience. It has been directing your decisions.
- 9:46Speaker 1: But today, right now, as you listen, I want you
- 9:50Speaker 1: to be consciously ripping the pages that fear has written
- 9:57Speaker 1: about your life to script your life. to create a
- 10:01Speaker 1: whole blueprint and direction for your life. Because I promise you,
- 10:05Speaker 1: if you don't, it will continue to run, drive, direct
- 10:12Speaker 1: where you go. Right. And what God is calling us
- 10:16Speaker 1: to do, calling you to do is be conscious. of courage.
- 10:20Speaker 1: It reminds you, this should remind you of his presence,
- 10:26Speaker 1: his omnipresence. Okay. And the beauty of this all is
- 10:32Speaker 1: you don't have to do it alone. You don't have
- 10:36Speaker 1: to do it alone. Here's what I want you to
- 10:40Speaker 1: take away from this particular episode. Identify number one, where
- 10:45Speaker 1: has fear been driving you? Because the thing about it is,
- 10:50Speaker 1: and this is what happened with me. I think a
- 10:52Speaker 1: lot of times when we hear fear, the word, we
- 10:56Speaker 1: think panic, mayhem, all of the things. This is where
- 11:01Speaker 1: it got me. I don't know for you, but listen up.
- 11:04Speaker 1: Here's how it got me. It got me in the
- 11:07Speaker 1: space of procrastination. It held me down in a place
- 11:11Speaker 1: of silence. It immobilized me with this idea of perfectionism.
- 11:19Speaker 1: The list goes on, people pleasing for some of you, or,
- 11:23Speaker 1: this is the one, this is the one, waiting until
- 11:27Speaker 1: you feel, feel ready. And those are the ways, right?
- 11:36Speaker 1: Not the panic, not the big stuff that you might
- 11:39Speaker 1: be thinking about, but these little pockets where fear can
- 11:45Speaker 1: dig its grip into and create roots. And we know,
- 11:52Speaker 1: as we've talked about on this podcast, that when things
- 11:56Speaker 1: create roots, it has to grow down. When a seed
- 12:00Speaker 1: create roots, it has to grow down before it grows up.
- 12:03Speaker 1: So you won't see it. That's the thing. You won't
- 12:05Speaker 1: see the panic. You won't see all the things on
- 12:08Speaker 1: the surface, but what's happening is it's establishing roots in
- 12:11Speaker 1: your life. And this is what I'm telling you. You've
- 12:15Speaker 1: got to get your weed eater out, okay? Your weed
- 12:18Speaker 1: killer out. You've got to get your root system in
- 12:21Speaker 1: check because otherwise fear will literally start creating ecosystems of trees,
- 12:31Speaker 1: of doubt, of lack, of limitation if you don't uproot
- 12:36Speaker 1: them now. If you don't weed kill them now, okay?
- 12:40Speaker 1: Because it starts off like that. And eventually it's like,
- 12:43Speaker 1: it's a weed. And then it's this big old crazy
- 12:45Speaker 1: looking thing. That's some type of tree that has no fruit.
- 12:51Speaker 1: That's how you know it is not for you because
- 12:54Speaker 1: it's not bearing any fruit. Remember fruit is going to
- 12:58Speaker 1: help you, right? Think about a tree that is bearing fruit.
- 13:02Speaker 1: It's there to help people to feed people. This type
- 13:06Speaker 1: of tree has no fruit. It's taking up room. It's
- 13:09Speaker 1: literally taking, disrupting your root system, the things you really
- 13:14Speaker 1: want to grow into, limited, unable to, okay, because of
- 13:20Speaker 1: what's happening underneath. And so now it's time to ask yourself,
- 13:25Speaker 1: where have I allowed fear to make a decision that
- 13:30Speaker 1: should have been mine? And I know when you hear this,
- 13:33Speaker 1: you're thinking, this fear isn't a person. I want you
- 13:35Speaker 1: to start thinking about it like that and talking to
- 13:38Speaker 1: it like that. Cause I know this is going to
- 13:40Speaker 1: sound a little cray cray, but I've done it. I
- 13:42Speaker 1: have literally sat fear down like I did in that
- 13:46Speaker 1: podcast episode before. And I've had that conversation. Like you
- 13:49Speaker 1: don't run this. Okay. This is not a view. And
- 13:53Speaker 1: I have to go back to these scriptures because it's
- 13:56Speaker 1: a way to combat in that conversation, the truth about
- 14:00Speaker 1: who you are in Christ Jesus. Okay. Next, you got
- 14:04Speaker 1: to change your focus from the giant thing. Listen, there's
- 14:10Speaker 1: something everyone is fearful of. Everybody is fearful of something. Listen,
- 14:17Speaker 1: I'm not here to tell you fear isn't real. Let's
- 14:20Speaker 1: keep that a book, as people say. I don't say that,
- 14:23Speaker 1: but I'm saying that right now. Let's keep it a book.
- 14:26Speaker 1: Fear is real. So I'm not saying it's not real.
- 14:32Speaker 1: What I'm saying is you have to face it. Remember,
- 14:36Speaker 1: be of good courage, meaning you're going to have to
- 14:39Speaker 1: lean into that courage to face the fear. One of
- 14:45Speaker 1: the famous stories in the Bible that everyone is very
- 14:49Speaker 1: familiar with is the story of David and Goliath, right?
- 14:53Speaker 1: We know Goliath to be that giant. We know David
- 14:56Speaker 1: to have the five smooth stones and a slingshot. We
- 15:00Speaker 1: know that David took down the giant. That's the story
- 15:03Speaker 1: we know, right? Pretty familiar, right? Here's what you did
- 15:07Speaker 1: not hear, right? As I'm reading the scriptures again, and
- 15:13Speaker 1: I'm now finding all these parts of the story that
- 15:16Speaker 1: wasn't sensationalized. David was telling the giant who his God was. See,
- 15:24Speaker 1: what we do in real time, in real life, when
- 15:28Speaker 1: we face the fear is we tell God about the fear.
- 15:34Speaker 1: But what David did was he looked at Goliath and
- 15:36Speaker 1: he said, let me tell you about my God. What
- 15:38Speaker 1: we do is we tell God, let me tell you
- 15:40Speaker 1: about my Goliath. Right? There is a difference. There is
- 15:46Speaker 1: a distinct difference between speaking about the being that controls
- 15:53Speaker 1: all things, where all things work together for your good,
- 15:57Speaker 1: that knows the end from the beginning, right? And letting
- 16:02Speaker 1: your fear letting your Goliath in life, whatever that might
- 16:08Speaker 1: be for you. In David's time, it was a nine
- 16:12Speaker 1: foot being, right? Person with all this armor all over him.
- 16:19Speaker 1: Very intimidating for a little scrawny kid as David was.
- 16:24Speaker 1: So it's time for you to level up your conversation
- 16:29Speaker 1: and stop telling God about your Goliath and start telling
- 16:34Speaker 1: the Goliath about who God is. That's the part of
- 16:37Speaker 1: the story no one got to read or hear in
- 16:41Speaker 1: how it was told in the past. But I'm here
- 16:43Speaker 1: to tell you, if you go through scripture, you will
- 16:45Speaker 1: see how David went to this Goliath and actually knew
- 16:50Speaker 1: that he wasn't gonna defeat by his own stature, right?
- 16:54Speaker 1: His own might, it would be the might of the Lord.
- 16:57Speaker 1: And that is how he was able to defeat this giant.
- 17:01Speaker 1: He simply refused to let this or make this giant
- 17:07Speaker 1: the focal point. While others were focused on the threat,
- 17:11Speaker 1: David was focused on God's power and God's faithfulness. That
- 17:16Speaker 1: is where his conversation, that is where his focus was,
- 17:20Speaker 1: not on the thing, but on the creator of all things.
- 17:25Speaker 1: I don't know what circumstances you have going on in
- 17:29Speaker 1: your life right now that deserve your attention, but don't
- 17:32Speaker 1: worship that thing. It does not deserve your worship. Remember
- 17:38Speaker 1: what you believe about God. And I know this is
- 17:41Speaker 1: where this is going to really force some people to
- 17:45Speaker 1: wrestle with that. And that's okay because I'm telling you
- 17:48Speaker 1: right now, if you're, let's just take a pause for
- 17:50Speaker 1: a minute. I'm going down this path. I'm speaking about
- 17:54Speaker 1: this because guess what? We are in a time of life.
- 17:58Speaker 1: If you turn on the news. If you look at
- 18:02Speaker 1: a social media post, if you hear people talking in
- 18:05Speaker 1: the water cooler, if you see as you go through
- 18:08Speaker 1: life and walk through the grocery stores and places of worship,
- 18:12Speaker 1: everybody is dealing with the reality that the world is
- 18:17Speaker 1: changing at the most rapid pace that I think any
- 18:20Speaker 1: of us have ever seen in a lifetime. The way
- 18:24Speaker 1: new cycles are cycling is unreal. It is unheard of
- 18:29Speaker 1: the number of changes that we're seeing. And here's the thing.
- 18:33Speaker 1: These changes are not great. These changes are not for
- 18:36Speaker 1: the benefit of many. There are few people that are benefiting.
- 18:41Speaker 1: Most of the time, these changes are hurtful. They are
- 18:45Speaker 1: derogatory changes. They are changes that set us back as
- 18:49Speaker 1: a people, as a nation, as a world. So if
- 18:53Speaker 1: you are walking out with all of these changes and
- 18:57Speaker 1: you don't have faith, and you don't have a place
- 18:59Speaker 1: to lean into, and you are just walking out here blindly,
- 19:03Speaker 1: I promise you, you're going to have the hardest walk
- 19:08Speaker 1: in life. And listen, as a Christian, I recognize that
- 19:14Speaker 1: the walk in the Christian life is not easy. No
- 19:18Speaker 1: walk is easy, but there is a place of refuge,
- 19:24Speaker 1: of peace, of joy that you can lean into, that
- 19:28Speaker 1: you can lay into, right? That can be your rock
- 19:32Speaker 1: and your safe place that you can go to to
- 19:36Speaker 1: get that. And I'm just encouraging you, if you don't
- 19:39Speaker 1: have that, you need to find it. Because if you
- 19:41Speaker 1: go out in the world, the world will dictate to
- 19:44Speaker 1: you what you believe in. See, when I'm walking my walk,
- 19:47Speaker 1: I'm walking with a belief system, okay? when you walk
- 19:51Speaker 1: your walk, depending on who you are and what you
- 19:53Speaker 1: believe and you don't have a belief system, the world
- 19:56Speaker 1: will create one for you. That's how it works. And
- 19:59Speaker 1: so whatever the hot topic is, whatever is making everybody
- 20:02Speaker 1: bleed or hurt or in pain, that will be where
- 20:05Speaker 1: you anchor yourself. I can't afford that. I can afford
- 20:09Speaker 1: for that to be how I live and how I
- 20:12Speaker 1: and what I rely on. So I need something better,
- 20:15Speaker 1: bigger and much more reliable. Because if you read the Bible,
- 20:20Speaker 1: if you know the word, right, and I'm not here
- 20:21Speaker 1: to preach to you. I'm just here to tell you
- 20:24Speaker 1: that you're on a winning team when you're with God. OK,
- 20:28Speaker 1: I'm off my soapbox for now. But yes, the giants
- 20:31Speaker 1: in your life need to know their place. You don't
- 20:34Speaker 1: need to tell God the giant. You need to tell
- 20:37Speaker 1: the giant who God is. And then the final thing is,
- 20:41Speaker 1: and I said this and I keep saying it, don't
- 20:43Speaker 1: wait for fear to disappear. It's not going to disappear
- 20:47Speaker 1: for you to make your next move. The thing is,
- 20:52Speaker 1: as I mentioned, you don't have to feel fearless. You
- 20:54Speaker 1: don't have to be like, you know, when all the
- 20:55Speaker 1: fear is gone, no, it won't be gone. Then you'll
- 20:59Speaker 1: take that next fateful step. No, no, no, no, no. Remember,
- 21:02Speaker 1: be of good courage, meaning you are going to walk
- 21:06Speaker 1: into a situation where fear is staring at you, trying
- 21:10Speaker 1: to give you a ride. And you're going to be
- 21:12Speaker 1: able to say, no, I refuse. And you're going to
- 21:14Speaker 1: stand in that be of good courage moment. And you'll
- 21:18Speaker 1: be able to speak up and not shudder away. And
- 21:23Speaker 1: you're going to be able to do the thing that
- 21:26Speaker 1: your heart, that your mind, that you have been purposed
- 21:30Speaker 1: to do, but you have not achieved. You have not
- 21:35Speaker 1: gotten on the path. You got on the path And
- 21:38Speaker 1: you got off because you got afraid. I say when
- 21:40Speaker 1: you get afraid, recognize what it is and go past it.
- 21:45Speaker 1: Speak to it. Let it know who your God is, right?
- 21:48Speaker 1: Going back to the Goliath versus the God. Because there
- 21:53Speaker 1: is a business in you. There is a book in you.
- 21:55Speaker 1: There is a conversation you need to have. There's something
- 21:57Speaker 1: that you want to pursue. There's something that you feel
- 22:01Speaker 1: uncomfortable about. And yes, I know fear is telling you no.
- 22:07Speaker 1: but it's time for you to tell fear to go, right?
- 22:10Speaker 1: The goal isn't to go when you don't feel fear anymore.
- 22:14Speaker 1: The goal is to stop allowing fear to prevent you
- 22:18Speaker 1: from making the move. I hope you enjoyed this week's
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