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[Ep 26] Run a Company, Raise a Family - Can You Stay Truly Fit? | Bonnie Barnes · Age Defiantly with Mark Young

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We're back at Performance Driven Living, and I am going to introduce you to somebody who
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I've got to be honest and tell you, I don't even know really well, because normally I
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get to know people a lot more before they come on this show.
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And then I kind of like poke and prod because I know where I want this storyline to go.
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But Bonnie Barnes, I don't know a lot about you to be honest with you, like you've been
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set up on here, and I'm excited to talk to you, because I think you're doing some really
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cool stuff.
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But you're going to have to lead me through a lot of this conversation, but I'm going
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to start by telling you, and I said this every podcast I do that our production team does
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such a beautiful job of these intros that I always read them, which sounds like I'm cheating,
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but it's not.
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It's because they write stuff that I could never possibly write myself.
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So I'm going to read this, and then you can correct it if it's wrong, right?
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It's true.
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And it says, welcome to back to Performance Driven Living, the podcast where we question
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everything, especially the things we blindly accept is truth.
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Today's guest is living proof that peak performance isn't reserved for just one area of life,
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that it's possible in business, in fitness, and in mindset.
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Bonnie Barnes is the founder of Fit CEO on the go, a transformation coach, entrepreneur,
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and high performance mom who's made it her mission to help high achieving women build
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unshakeable health and confidence without burning out.
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She's turning the old hustle narrative on its head, showing that success doesn't have
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to come at the cost of your body, your sanity, or your joy.
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Bonnie, welcome to the show.
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Thank you so much.
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How's that for an intro?
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Did they cover it?
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I might be a little offended and give you a bad review later, but it's okay.
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You're giving a bad review.
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You're giving a bad review.
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No, I'm just teasing.
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I think it's beautiful, no?
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No, it's perfect.
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It was fun.
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Well, I just don't make sure that it's accurate.
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That was great.
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Awesome.
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So where do you want to start?
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I don't know.
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I want to know about you because you've got fit CEO on the go.
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And first of all, I will say that that doesn't necessarily have a feminine ring to it.
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It doesn't.
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But you're targeting women.
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And I'm not saying that's not a sexist comment that CEOs are male, but fit CEO on the
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go sounds pretty androgynous to me.
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That sounds like it could be for anybody.
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Is that accurate?
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It is.
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It's for anybody.
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So let's think about, we'll start with that where I came up with that.
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Yeah.
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We're always on the go.
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Male, female, we're always going.
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My goodness, yeah.
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Brain is the CEO of your body.
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We are the CEO of our life.
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When does a CEO get most of it's processing done?
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Usually after a company shuts down, right?
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And when that brain goes into processing, what is it processing?
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It's like a computer.
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It's a hard drive, but it's a literal human hard drive, emotions, memories, you name
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it.
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Our body has to help us with recovery, all of those things.
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So traveling and doing all these things, my background for context is I started in
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health and wellness when I was 18 years old as a competitive triathlete, then I went
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into competitive bodybuilding and fell in love with Jim and hit the weights in that room.
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And the gym and I became, you know, it was a morning, it was a morning I looked forward
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to and coming out of high school.
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And like most of us, you have a troubled childhood, right?
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All kinds of things.
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Which is part of my story later, right?
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Because healing from trauma, healing the brain, your central nervous system, from the
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time you're born and your mom's womb, all the way up, affects who you are as an adult,
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right?
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I think your dad and I share that commonality in the training we've received, been trained
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in our old practitioner, which helped me tremendously in so many of those things.
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So backing up, becoming a pet of athlete, I was so intrigued with how the body worked,
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how it repaired itself, went into college, I went to my professors, I took as many college
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classes as I could on how to heal the body.
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I saw myself being a trainer on the sidelines, helping athletes.
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I just loved biomechanics.
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I loved seeing people in the gym and teaching them how to not just work out, but when you
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see the lights go on and somebody in their confidence build, because they know how to
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lose weight and they have control over their life and their choices, it's so empowering.
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So I owned a gym for 12 years, became a certified nutritionist and with that passion, it led
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me to other entrepreneur things where when I was in competitive bodybuilding and I decided
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to become a mom, I obviously wasn't competing, had two boys and while I was pregnant and
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raising my kids, I developed a bodybuilding business where I would sew and hand make
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these costumes.
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And in that period of time I was growing my business, these women would come into me and
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I would sit there and size them and I would listen to their story.
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It's a story of transformation.
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People want to better themselves.
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Everybody, for the most part, you're either stuck in a, in the mindset of victimization
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or you, or you really want to change in your working, right?
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And there's kind of this gap where people will change their body physically, but there
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was a disconnect in the coaches, right?
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They weren't helping these women emotionally and I would question that.
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How do you get to this high performance body, but your mindset isn't there and that
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became really intriguing to me, so I started to learn skills and coach these women.
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I wanted them that when they left my office, they knew that when they put that bodybuilding
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suit on and they got off of stage, it wasn't just a physical transformation that was one
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time that it continued on that like being healthy is a journey beyond coming off of stage
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because it was for me when I would compete, right?
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I carried those habits with my kids.
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You know, I was the mom that like sat them on the counter and they spent the time in
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the kitchen.
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I was cooking and teaching them and to me as a mom, that was what was important to me.
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So to remind those women was important to me, but I want to have the skills to do that.
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So I, can I jump in there real quick and that is, I love this because even in the introduction
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there was a comment in here about understanding your, your body, your sanity and your joy.
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But it also talked about how, you know, you believe that it's, that it's possible to have,
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you know, this idea of, of, I'm going to paraphrase and say physical prowess, but also emotional
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health.
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Yeah.
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And I'm going to say spiritual health as well that, that weird three-dimensional beings that,
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that all of this stuff needs to be in harmony and it's interesting because you're talking
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about a trauma background, obviously and funny enough, I was just talking about that
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exact same topic the other day with somebody about generational trauma and how trauma actually
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existed at a cellular level and like literally there was a study that they were, I'm
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saying studies probably tough, but it was, it was a study that was tracking and then proposed
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an outcome and that was, you know, obviously the, a fetus, a woman is born with all of
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the eggs that she ever is going to produce, which means that while you were in there,
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your mother, so your eggs actually were part of your grandmother, which means trauma literally
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on a genetic basis can be your grandmother's trauma, can even exist in your body because
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your mother was born with her eggs, which means technically your mother was in your grandmother's
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womb still with you, which is kind of a weird way of looking at that.
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But like every, every woman carries with her, not just her children, but her grandchildren
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in part and this idea of cellular trauma, working its way all the way there and my, my question
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to you is when you're, when you're working with these women, clearly emotional disconnects
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an emotional trauma and emotional, I'm going to say, energy because I'm, I would say recently
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really on this energy journey, but this whole energy frequency that thoughts are frequencies
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and frequencies affect cells. How can you be in a peak performance state? If you're speaking
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negative frequency at all of your cells and your cells are dealing with traumatic frequencies
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literally and a traumatic frequency causes inflammation because the cells go into defense
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mode because the cells are trained that if there's a danger, we need to respond in a
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certain way and a lot of that is inflammation, a lot of that turns into, I mean, cytokines
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we can get in all this, but, but the reality is that we're getting in this situation where
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these negative thoughts and these these self-deprecating belief systems that exist with, particularly
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with the women you're talking about, because we're talking about women in peak physical
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condition.
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Well, not just women, it's both men too. I saw some of the people I've, I've coached
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in the last five years, these men just having even their relationships with like their mom
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or the women in their life, right? And vice versa, the women and the fathers in their
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life. And you talked about cellular trauma. I think it's really challenging for people to
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understand because they can't comprehend. So to simplify it, it's almost kind of like
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you have a learned behavior and that's a pattern. It develops at the neurological level.
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So when you're diving in and you're healing these things, it's not going to make sense
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consciously as you're going through it. You have to make, you have to pull that out
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subconsciously right through words. And people don't realize the power and impact of words
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and how it truly, it's been, well, think about old school mindsets say, oh, you know, there's
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a negative condensation about how to do all these things. But when I learned the power of
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my words, not just for myself, because in order to help someone, you have to understand
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who you are first, right?
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So when I started to understand the power of my words, even in just like the slightest
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things, I grew up with a mom that was like anti sarcasm. And I, I mean, it was heavily
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like you don't do that in our house. And I didn't understand till I got older. And then
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I understood the impact on that on your brain. So when I understood the physiological things
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of what goes on in our brain just by words, I was like, oh my gosh, I totally get it.
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This isn't just about a motivational speech. It's you create self motivation and healing
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at the neurological level through the words you speak to yourself, which would then project
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outward. I've got a book proposal into hey house publishing right now in the name of the book
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is called co-creators. And the entire book is about the power of words and the impact it has
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on the reality that we create for ourselves. Literally going into the foundational biblical
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text of in the beginning was the word, right? And when you got spoke, the world was spoken
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into existence and words create. And we have the power to co-create our realities.
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Literally, the words we speak and we're finding out in this world of quantum science.
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And again, I go back to the word frequency that that we literally attract what we emit.
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Like the things that we project are exactly the things we attract, right? And it's, I use the
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word manifesting somewhat laughingly because it's overused and it's used improperly. But in it's
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in its actual form, I laughingly say that I'm just manifesting life at this point. Like,
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you know, if I want good things to happen, I'm just going to start speaking them out there. And it's
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it's happened so much. I agreed. But at this point, it's almost turned gamified.
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But like literally, I've had situations where I would be talking about somebody. I'm like, you know,
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I need to get a hold of so and so. And I'm somewhere somewhere else in the country and run into
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the person at a restaurant. And I'm like, I was just talking about you. Why are you here?
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And oh, why are you here? It's just like the weirdest things. And I'm like, that's the craziest.
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Like I would have no idea that this person would even be here. I don't know if you know who Jay Campbell
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is. No, like Jay Campbell, he's like a peptide, you know guy. And I was literally talking about him.
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And of all the crazy things, I went to this place to record a podcast in Tampa.
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And as I'm walking out the door or in the door, he was walking out. And I'm like, I was just
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talking about you this morning, like, why are you in Tampa? And he's like, oh, I was here to do a
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thing. And I'm like, just weird stuff, right? And and it's funny because people are like, well,
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that's just, you know, I had one point in my life. I would agree that that was just all focus
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and, you know, Tony Robbins self-taught kind of stuff. And I'm like,
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yeah, but I'm kind of in it now. Didn't you, wasn't there like a part of you that questioned
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when I hear these things, I feel good. And my first experience with Tony Robbins is when I was 18,
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I was handed a stack of CDs, if you know what those are. I'm older than you. And I was like,
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who's Tony Robbins? But that was the first intro to like sales, sales,
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building, right? Because if you can understand people's emotions, you understand their thoughts,
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you know, how they're tick, you're a really good salesman, right? People will tell you who they are.
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You just have to be listening. Yeah. So here I am listening to these and I was like, I feel really
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good when I listen to this kind of stuff. Why does that impact me the way that it does when I go to
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church, I'm not a practicing religious person, I'm very spiritual now. But when I hear these things
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biblical stuff, I mean, the sequence of words are hypnotizing. Why does it make me feel so good?
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And that became intriguing, especially at the brain level and what led me in ultimately this product
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is fast forward into my 30s. I left a very traumatic marriage over time. Those words that were
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exchanged really had an impact on my self-esteem. I found myself rebuilding myself, myself a steam
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who I was and coming home to me, right? I lost myself, which most women do when you get tied up with
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kids, a business. And before you know what you're like, who am I? And so the work that goes into
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therapy, coaching, it's exhausting. You are literally taking a neural pathway, which if you picture
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a trail and you've got to have that trail get overgrown, I mean, hiking, and I literally thought
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about this a week ago, this trail is paved down. You have to chop down trees, pull weeds and
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stomp it down over and over again. And I think I read some statistic that said when you're creating
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that new neural pathway, it takes 400 and something times when you're practicing it. But if you make
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it fun, then it's like 10 times for you to remember the new pattern, which creates that behavior.
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And I wanted to be a completely different person. I didn't want to the old Bonnie to have any part
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in my life or any triggers. And it wasn't just in that marriage, but what caused me in that marriage
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to be or act or do whatever it was went back before to my childhood to the womb. So you're doing
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this work. I'm learning about my brain. And I'm exhausted. And this gentleman that I meet in the
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gym says, Hey, have you ever tried ketones? I'll give you something. I'm like, I'm not a keto
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dieter. Now given my background, I don't know what exogenous ketones are. Nobody really knows
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what they obviously don't educate on that. So this is what I want to back up and say, and you
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were a nerd nutritionist. And I was a nutritionist, right? Practicing where I actually had clients come
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in. I the protocol was we didn't have all these fun gadgets that take the guesswork out. A client
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would write down everything they'd eaten a day. And you would do the actual work to say what foods
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worked. And didn't we did process of elimination. And most people felt really good on a low carbohydrate
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diet, no processed foods. And so imagine that, right? Imagine that being a competitive bodybuilder,
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I think you bring up a benizati, right? If you look at his protocol, it's exactly what I
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followed as a competitive bodybuilder, no processed food, high protein diet. We just label it
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something in bodybuilding. I got to be a little bit more restrict. I did more cardio. But essentially,
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I trained my body metabolically to switch fuels, timing my carbohydrates, right? And I would teach
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that to my clients. So that being said, I noticed while I'm healing my brain, I'm like, all right,
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I'll take these ketones. It is the only supplement I'm taking as I'm rebuilding not just my life,
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but my internal like who I am. And I felt differently. And I went, this is really weird. I
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I die. It's crap because I'm working more than I ever have. I'm a single mom of two and
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figuring stuff out. But I feel like I'm ready to compete, but not ready to compete. I take pictures
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I track and I'm like, oh my gosh, I've lost weight. My brain feels good. I just feel differently.
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The tool of having an energy source that was helping my brain is what connected the dots for me
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when I dove into the research. And I went to go work for the company and it took me even deeper
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because I went, I'm going to work for a company that sells this. I better be taking myself and
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believe. And otherwise, that's just how I tick, right? I have to be passionate or it just doesn't drive
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me. So after taking it and sitting in sales meeting, I went to go work for the company on the
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ingredient side. I sat in two years of sales meetings. And sports nutrition is like this much
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of your marketplace. And you have like a lifestyle, right? What protein and amino's are for your
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muscles? Keytones are for your brain that essential fuel. And my past experiences, it all clicked
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for me one day when I went, oh my gosh, this isn't like, here you go, you're a keto diet or here you
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go, you are this or that. This is, this is the fuel for your brain. And I went, how do I help people
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with this? So I put together an easy, ready to go product because I'm a mom on the go and every
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mom can relate to this is, if you're hungry enough, you will find a snack on the site of your
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car. Oh, like a kid dropped a snack and you'll eat it because you're so hungry. This thus the
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sour patch kids that we got. So I brought sour patch kids because the inspiration for the flavor came
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from my son when I was getting samples. And he was like, oh my gosh, this tastes like gas station
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candy. And I went, all right, I got it. Something that I would take can also be safe for kids,
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tastes good. I don't keep stuff in my cupboards. My kids wouldn't eat. So you've got all these
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caffeinated crap out there. Why would I give sugar or caffeine to my son if I'm not going to eat it,
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right? Having an understanding of that. But if I can replace it with something that tastes just as
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good, that's even better. It's gonna sound terrible. So I've got my cousin has a son and he's,
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I think he's 11 years old or something now and he's a chubby little kid. And you know, it messes
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with his head and whatever. And it's like, and it kills me because she made a comment not too
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long ago. And it's like, we just can't get him to stop eating McDonald's. And, and I honestly,
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I sat there and I like, it's one of those things that the statement was so dumb that you can't even
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respond to it. And I was like, he's 11. Like, what do you mean you can't get him to stop eating
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McDonald's? Like, you know why he's eating McDonald's, right? Because you're driving through
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the door. They're responsible adult. You are teaching them now. You just taught your son how to
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be a victim of circumstance instead of saying, Hey, here's the choices. We only have fruit in our
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house. We went to a restaurant one time and my boys ordered vegetables and salad. And the lady
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about pooped her pants. She was like, I've never had a kid want vegetables. How do you do it? And I
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said, I just don't put crap in front of them. I mean, given we have cereal bowl nights sometimes
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for dinner, because I don't feel like cooking or we have treats, but it's not to where I'm teaching
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them that you're a victim of something you're choosing. Well, and I'm going to say this like I eat
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relatively healthy and not perfect. But it's like, I laugh because it becomes a joke amongst my
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friends that like sometimes, you know, I say that I'm going to go to a movie and I'll go to a movie
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by myself. Like, that doesn't faze me at all. And it's code for I want popcorn for dinner.
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And there's zero nutritional value to it. And I understand I'm probably pouring seed oils all
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over it before I eat the popcorn. I'm like, sometimes I just make a bad choice because it tastes
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good. And I think that's balanced too, right? I mean, once every three months, right? You're
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having a bowl of popcorn because you're like, you know what? Let's taste good. I like it. And
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but it's the balance. I think that people don't follow, though. It's I wouldn't do that every day.
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I'm not going to, but you know, having a slice of birthday cake at somebody's party isn't going
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to immediately throw you in some kind of coma either. But if you're eating cake every day,
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obviously, there's an issue. And but it is that balance. It's and I think that goes in all areas
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of life, though, right? And that is if we, if we find things and you're talking about boundaries,
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it's really what that boils down to, right? Like I don't put it in the house if I'm not going to
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eat it. And sometimes I irritate myself with that because I won't put things in the house
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that I won't that are not healthy to eat. Yeah, even as an adult, right? And then I do
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irritate it with myself. So man, I just want something to snack on. And there's nothing.
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Because I find myself eating pickles or something because, you know, that's what's in the fridge
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that I can snack on. Let me ask you, I want to get into the product that you have, which is all
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this BHB, you know, beta hydroxybutyrate infused gopax. And I want to try one here too.
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Especially if they taste like sour pitch, kids, you've got me intrigued. But I wanted to,
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what does your routine look like now? Because you've said you're on the go constantly.
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Yeah. Obviously you're a fit woman. You keep yourself in great shape. You clearly are
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living the lifestyle, which I think is super important for a CEO of a company to be a, you know,
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a billboard for what they're recommending. I know some people who are in this, you know,
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biohacking longevity space. And I look at them. I'm like, I wouldn't want to look like you.
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I think we judge that way and it's terrible as it sounds. But you're living the lifestyle,
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right? You're obviously there. You're doing it. But what else? I know you're saying this is the
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only supplement I'm, I'm really taking. And I'm a supplement freak. Like I take about 75
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different supplements a day. And for multiple different reasons. And I can explain why on each of
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them. But what does your day look like other than this? We'll get to this. Like good question.
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So I do believe in supplements when they're needed, right? So I'll be 40 this year. So I look at like
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my routine. If I'm traveling, I try to time things. I wake up at four o'clock in the morning.
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If I'm good about it, I try to get a meal in before I go to the gym because if you have the protein
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in there when you're training with weights, especially for women, it kind of helps with that
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muscle retention. So I do a pre-imposed meal, protein, carbohydrates. And I try to get in some
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magnesium, beet powder, really good creatine. Creatine would be like, when you combine it with
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BHP, if I take those in the morning, it's like the match that lights the BHP on fire. That's a good
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way. And why I take creatine, it's going to be that supporter. And I do actually notice a difference.
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It's not an instant fill, but I notice how sustained I am during the day. It's really quite
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interesting. So creatine BHB's magnesium, beet powder, chloril, I'm going to say that wrong.
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Corrella. Thank you. Corrella. I put that in my water. Sometimes I squeeze lemon just to keep myself
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hydrated. Try to dose my meals throughout the day. Because I mean, if you're a bodybuilder,
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I mean, I was like, you're eating, you still have that habit of like six habits snacking or something
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a day. You're a bowl for your gut. I know. It's so bad. See, that's the stuff.
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But those are the dissonances that I think are allowed to exist for us though. Like the idea,
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like the popcorn, right? Like you're eating six times a day. I would never do that. Right.
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I've got my other vices. Well, it just depends, right? So that might be look like an apple with
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a protein shake or peanut butter. And it's a small snack. I should probably reframe that.
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I get my greens in. There's a great green powder. I like from one of one. It's a Floyd Marri other
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brand. I think all the green drinks out there are really crappy. But those ingredients, they're all
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organic and it tastes great. That drink is well. And I've noticed it does actually help my gut biome.
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So I love that brand. And then at nighttime, magnesium, the calm, that magnesium is awesome.
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So if I can, I'll either do a cold plunge or I'll try to hit the sauna more than anything.
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That's a meditative thing aside from like the physical benefits. But I try to feed like
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during the day, because I'm I'm work full time. Yeah. I try to feed that brain energy
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because I'm sitting. But I and keep that sustained with clean food. And if it's not, that's when
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a supplement is in place for me, but magnesium, vitamins, BHBs. So you're obviously in peak position
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and peak performance right now. And I mean, you're firing on all cylinders. Like what is it that
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you attribute that to? Is it just clean living? I think it's clean living for as long as I did it.
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I would say if you had to compare me today, when I was 20, I had set up the disciplines
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and consistency in my food. So I could almost like a savings bank account. I probably have worse
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habits now than I did six years ago, because life circumstances just, it's cumulative.
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Right. It's cumulative damage is cumulative and stopping the damage sooner is better.
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Right. And so it's kind of like, all right, get back to those habits. But I think that's what
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it has contributed to because I'm aging. And I looked the way I looked because of how I was in my
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20s, how I was in my 30s. And how what I'm doing now when I'm 60, 70 is going to be the result of,
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yeah, right? You age from the inside out. And so I get that question a lot. I just turned 50.
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And thanks. I like that shocked face. That's why when you asked if I remembered, I'm like,
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I'm older than you. But yeah, I mean, I just turned 50 a couple weeks ago. And, you know,
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and I do get questions because a lot of people don't, they're like, well, you're 50 years old.
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And like, well, yeah, but it's not because it's not an accident that people look the way they do
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and behave the way they do. And I'm high energy and I do everything. And you know, I'm at the gym
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every day doing hit training. And I laugh because I'm out performing 20-somethings. And you know,
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I'm like, yeah, grandpa's here, like, what's going on? But it's lifestyle. It's all of the things
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you do. It's not a, and where I'm getting with this is it's not a one home run. There is no single
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solution that fixes everything. It's lifestyle choices. It's, it's, and I get back to the basics of
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it's sleep hygiene and it's, and it's balanced. And it's making sure that all of these boxes are
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checked. It's not one thing or another. It's, it is good diet, even if imperfect. And then when
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we supplement, the point that I'm making is that people think supplements are a replacement for
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good behavior. No. When in fact, getting into supplements and stuff like that, in my opinion,
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is is only to enhance already good. Like, I'm already in a good place. Now I optimize. And
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through supplementation and to this type of stuff, we're able to optimize ourselves. As opposed
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to I'm going to go take a pill because I'm not, you know, I'm going to go eat garbage and then
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take some supplements so that I get my nutrition. It's not really the way that works.
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But I love this. I want to, I want to talk about your, your product that you're, that you're
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talking about right now. And this is this Let's Go, which is a, a gel pack. So that easy fast
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on the go squeeze reminds me of triathletes who use this type of stuff. So clearly this medium
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of delivery is familiar to you because it reminds me of the gel packs that, you know, you take during
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like marathon running. So I get annoyed with powders. I don't always have a bottle of water. And I
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needed something for myself that was easy. And I wanted to be inspired. Let's go as a call to action.
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Kind of like the CEO of your brain, right? You're in charge. Take ownership, take responsibility.
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So if I could make it easy, your brain skips one steps and it becomes a habit. So you would rip
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sip. I'm going to sip. Look at that. It might kick you in the throat a little bit.
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It's called tangy citrus. And I'm going to be honest with you. It tastes like cake frosting.
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Cake frosting. That's the new one. It's not a bad thing. No.
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Immediately I thought of like a like a Dunkin Nines cake frosting or something like that.
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That's funny. It's good though. You're right. There's a kick in the throat. That's the citrus.
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Yeah, that's the citrus. I had that happen the other day with a piece of gum. I got some of that
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minty goodness in the back of my throat and started choking. And then, you know, on every sachet,
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there's a little positive saying, right, to remind you and each batch it'll change. But what
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inspired that was those kombucha's I would buy. I'd get the little messages. And I looked forward
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to buying this kombucha just for the message. And I would pick the flavor just to get a different
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message, right? And to me, Rob actually had this idea when I was working from he thought the same
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thing. He's like, how cool? That'd be if you got a product that had a motivational saying on it.
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I was like, I'm going to incorporate his idea on this. What was the company that used to do that
30:05
under the lids? It was like a snapple or you know, there's a company that still does that. I know
30:08
here. And they will they do it on the pop cans too that there's a can that where you pop it on.
30:12
But yeah, that's good. Maybe it was a snapple. Maybe a snapple. That's good. Now it was it was one
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of those others, but it always had like some kind of inspo message kind of like steak and shake always
30:20
has that on the bottoms of their cups and stuff like that too. Mine says, if you quit once,
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it becomes a habit. So never quit. Never quit. I like it. Seriously, no, I think this is fantastic.
30:32
And what an easy throw a bunch in the desk drawer, even when you're at work and you start to get
30:37
that slump, let this be a pick me up that actually, you know, puts it over the edge and I love that.
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I mean, that's easy. What's nice is if you didn't want to take it direct and you actually want to
30:48
do enjoy it in your water, you can put it in a bottle water. And it takes it from the sweet
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tart to a sweet heart. You can enjoy it in your adult sippy cup, what we call standlies.
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She's one of those girls. But it makes it, it makes it fun, you know, I really wanted to make
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things easy and a great way for people to get their BHBs and another tool in your toolkit.
31:14
Now this is 4,000 milligrams of BHB. What kind of effect can somebody expect from that after
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taking it? And what's the time frame? It depends on how fast you metabolize and it goes into your
31:25
body, right? So with a straight acid, that's going to be instant because it's sublingual and it goes
31:29
right into your blood. When this is because it's encapsulated in a fat lipid, it's liposomal form,
31:34
it's going to travel a little bit farther down your duodenum, that small intestine to give a little
31:39
bit better, deeper effect. And because that fat lipid has to melt a little bit, you're going to
31:43
sustain it just a little bit longer. And I, I didn't bring it to show you, but keto mojo, I've
31:48
been getting feedback that people are saying that they have found their keto meter reading. So
31:53
you're getting less product for more effect, which is great because then you can take them and
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sustain them a little bit longer all day long. But the, the goal is for it to have a longer effect
32:03
and more sustaining while enjoying, right and not spikes. Well, and when you, when you're talking,
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we talked about like the marathon runners who are squeezing the energy packs and stuff like that,
32:14
that spike energy, like they're, they're doing it to get the, to get that extra, the instant
32:20
jewel to energy, right? Like they're, they're doing it because they're starting to tire out and
32:25
it's giving them that that's not what this is. Now, this is, you're going to fill some people within
32:30
like a five minutes, maybe up to 15 minutes. And it's not a punch in the face like, oh, like a
32:35
stimulation, which you notice is all the sudden your brain has nutrients that it needs and it
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calms down. And there's focus and everything else like, imagine like all the chaos in the
32:47
background, everything just gets calm right here and it's good. Well, and I think that, that is a
32:53
mistake. Like people associate energy with stimulants rather than energy being a sustained source
32:58
of energy, right? Like your body is creating this on the regular, the ATP production, like
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it should be steady. Like good healthy energy is not giant spikes. It's not, it's not that because
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the spikes, you know, those mountains come with valleys and, and a nice stable amount of energy
33:14
all day long until I go to bed is what I should have. Yeah. And this is providing that as opposed
33:20
to providing those, you know, last mile spikes and, you know, those performance type things that
33:25
are trying to hack performance through, through stimulants. I love that. Yeah. You're, you're a mom,
33:31
you're a CEO of your own company now. You're a scientist in this way. You're a, a competitive
33:39
athlete or we're a competitive athlete, but so obviously staying great shape. Like, what's your
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mission? What are, what are, what is, if anything drives you in the world, I've got to know what
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that is. Oh my goodness. That's a great question. My mission is to educate and to empower
33:58
and what I'm getting goosebumps because my little boy, my boys, I called the one yesterday and I
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said, I need to know, do you believe in my product or do you just like it because I'm your mom?
34:12
And he said, well, mom, and he is very direct. There's no BS with this kid. How old is he?
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He's 13 or soon to be. So, and he doesn't care what people think. So he'll,
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he'll just shut up the way you need to hear it, right? So I know I know I'm getting dragged.
34:25
Best truth. And he said, well, I took it for football for my brain. And I helped my focus.
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So I know it works there. And it tastes good. So I like it. And I, and I was sick and you told
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me to take it. And I took it because he had a sore throat and the liquid just kind of coats it.
34:45
So I know it works there. So I believe in your product. And I said, awesome.
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That's all I needed to know that those boys, they inspire me, you know, the next generation coming
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up, talking about all the crap and all things out there. If I can put things in front of them
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and teach them how to be good leaders, I mean, that's what I get excited about being a mom.
35:08
It's so, and I'll say this, like, my parents were born in the 50s. And food wasn't garbage in
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the 50s, right? Like they grew up on something different. And it's like, I was born in the 70s. So
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my childhood is spent during the 80s and into the 90s in high school. And it's like, I say that it
35:26
was like the peak of the processed food world when there weren't labels, even on anything. Like
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the ketchup from 20 years ago is not the ketchup we have today. No, we saw a label. It was like
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two ingredients. It's the same label with totally different nutritional facts. And you're like,
35:40
what the how happened and how did nobody notice this, right? And it's this type of stuff is
35:45
happening. I would say like during my formative years, early adult late teens, like we didn't
35:51
know better. Like I was, you know, Mountain Dew and Taco Bell. Like that was that was life.
35:57
Didn't think anything of it because generationally and I grew up in a family, believe it or not,
36:01
that was very unhealthy in that respect. Everyone was thin, but except me, but nobody was nobody was
36:10
a was a health freak by any play. It was the clean plate club kind of kind of Italian family where
36:15
you showed love through food. And I would say that, you know, coming out of that and seeing this
36:22
current generation, like I'm watching a movement of, and I've said this a dozen times on this podcast
36:28
because I believe it. And that is I believe the Bobby Kennedys and the Casey Kelly means and the
36:34
people who are really at the the crest of the wave of this health movement that we're seeing around
36:40
the country. If not the world, I don't believe they've driven the wave. I believe they're riding the
36:46
wave. I believe that if the wave didn't already exist, if the zeitgeist didn't happen prior,
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Bobby never would have caught wind. Like he didn't create a message. He was following a pattern of
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what was taking place and that it was a timing issue when that message made sense because there was
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that there was a generational opening that wants it. And we're seeing that in in the greatest
37:08
population that's in influx into the church is 20 something year old males. Like that's the group
37:14
you never would have expected to be at church. And yet that's the greatest population. We're seeing
37:19
recently that alcohol consumption in this current college group is 70% down from prior generations.
37:28
And it's like this stuff isn't all accidental, right? We've got other issues like social media and
37:34
all this other stuff that didn't exist in prior generations. But when it comes to actual
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physiological health and looking at labels and movement and people just getting active, like I
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really think that the young people of today are going to change the way that generations following
37:51
do things like they're they're they're back. Like we went from the everything was normal and food
37:56
had one ingredient to it's like this way up here kind of world that I grew up in and now we're
38:01
coming back to them. Maybe we should just be normal. Like that maybe we shouldn't be drinking as
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much as as you know, because it used to be a right of passage in college. You had to be drawn
38:10
all the time where you weren't a good student. But it's like we're just seeing this movement from
38:14
there that it's cool to go to church. We're seeing this, you know, nutritional hygiene is something.
38:20
We're seeing young people wearing wearables like aura rings because they're tracking that they're
38:25
actually getting sleep. And I remember being in college that pulling an all-nighter was a badge
38:30
of honor. Like that's just not happening anymore. It was a badge of honor. And I was that roommate
38:35
where my friends were out parting and I was like, say 30, I'm going to go to bed.
38:41
Right. It was not cool. It was not cool. But nowadays like I think that sort of stuff is becoming
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cooler. It is. And I love that wave. And it's like for kids you're like your kids age like
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I think it's a great time for them to not only have a role model like you that's that's teaching
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them that way, but they're moving into a culture that I think they're going to be swimming with
39:01
the crowd and not against it. And I think that's exciting. And I think young voices getting to
39:06
be part of that conversation is so important. It's huge. The biggest person behind the inspiration
39:13
of this is Rob Rogers. I mean, if he hadn't put product in my hand at that time, I don't know
39:20
that I would have discovered or been able to have a tool that really. So some guy hits on you
39:25
at the gym and it changes your life. I see how this played out. I went to him and I was like, yo,
39:33
you're mine. Not everything changed. But truly having someone like him who is driven and excited
39:43
and in that generation that comes from I mean, he's not that way, but that old school mindset way
39:49
of like what you talked about the food, the cycle and him being able to use his age, his fitness
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to inspire that age demographic. And then also inspire my sons who are stepping into that. I
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mean, we'll be sitting at home and it's just funny because my son will take off and we're like,
40:04
what are you doing? And he says, I'm going to go meet my buddies in cold plunge like I was not doing
40:08
that at 16, right? But I love that we are creating this model of health and wellness with
40:23
everything just to be inspiring that like it doesn't matter your age, your mindset, you can always
40:28
change, you have the choice, the tools are there in front of you and we're inspiring that. And I
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want to I want to draw one big circle around all of that. And that is in order for us to have a
40:40
healthy mind, we first have to physiologically be healthy, right? Like there's no way we deal with
40:46
the crisis of our time, whatever that is for whoever without without high performing bodies and
40:54
high performing bodies lead to high performing minds, which is where great things happen and high
40:59
performing minds have real spiritual experiences and existence, which leads following that cycle into
41:06
better health habits, which leads to better bodies. And that cycle continues to flow, right? We're
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a three-legged stool. And if any of that falls apart like the entire program fails. And I think
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this health crisis has contributed, I'm not going to say caused, but contributes to so much of
41:24
the emotional crisis and the psychological crises that we see happening because we're functioning
41:30
with bad machines, right? It's we're putting premium fuel in a car where we've never changed the
41:36
oil. And then mad that it's not performing right. It's like, that's not the way this works.
41:42
Holistically, you nailed it, right? You somebody who works that and goes to the gym works on
41:49
their physical. If you don't work on your mindset, you're not complete. And if you don't work on
41:53
the spiritual side, then how do you know your purpose in life? And if you'd like each component,
41:58
I don't I think there's like eight pillars of health. And you can be heavily cited on one of them.
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That's what I hope to inspire is like touch on all of it. I mean, spirituality, you know,
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the old school way of thinking that is like it's a religious thing. But it's so much deeper than that.
42:17
And for me, that's a big part of my journey has been like, I could go down the rabbit hole on
42:23
that all day long. I love it. You know what I love most about what you said? And this is going to
42:26
sound really crazy that your son was meeting his friends to go a pulled plunge. And you know,
42:33
when we talk about emotional and psychological health, so much that is just the people you surround
42:38
yourself with and the fact that your son has friends who are also in that same mindset will help
42:44
steer and direct all the decisions that he makes forward because he's surrounded by like-minded
42:49
people. And you know, if you're the average of the four other people you spend time with,
42:54
I think that's amazing that that's his group. Can I share a story on that real quick? Please.
42:59
I was like, proud mom moment. He came to me with a decision he was making and he said,
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hey, I have this friend. I don't know if I should really hang out with them anymore. And here's why.
43:08
And he shared the experience he was having and I, and he told me how it made him feel.
43:13
This is the older one. He recognizes most people just say, I like the way I feel, but they don't
43:18
understand the why, right? Like, I like doing these things, but they don't understand the why. And he
43:22
said, this one friend, when I'm around them makes me feel this way. They don't have my same values,
43:28
you know, we're just on the same page. And so I just think I'm not going to be friends with them
43:31
anymore. I loved that he recognized that because I want him to always have that high standard for
43:38
himself. And then I loved that he had enough confidence in himself to know that like, I'll find
43:41
new friends. And if that, that right there, just if more of us, even just as adults or anybody
43:49
can understand who we are inside our self confidence, huge, right? Yeah, no, I love that. And again,
43:57
that doesn't happen on accident, right? Like that happens because he's got a mom who's mentoring
44:02
that stuff. And I love that. And I love you. No, they roll their eyes and you're like, oh,
44:05
gosh, they already know everything. They already know everything. I'm already know everything.
44:09
I'm done talking by their teenagers. They know everything. But but I love the fact that not only
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are you crushing it as a mom, that's amazing, crushing it with your own health and your own
44:19
determination. But you're bringing products to the world that is something that people need with
44:23
a very niche audience, which I love that. And again, while it's pervasively can be used by anybody,
44:29
you've got a very clear mission on who you're talking to and how people can really
44:33
increase this executive function and also their own health and biology through this type of intake.
44:38
The thought process behind making it, you know, they're ready to grab, you know, pouch. Obviously,
44:45
that's a that's an outtake from your busy life. But man, you're crushing it everywhere. I love that
44:50
that's amazing. Thank you so much. Like if people wanted to get in touch with you and learn more
44:55
about your journey and what you're doing, where would they find you? Um, I'm a Tik Tokens flu
45:00
answer. And I'm kidding. Um, social media, LinkedIn, Instagram, I have a YouTube channel. Let's go
45:07
BHB. Okay. And the BHB acronym starts for brain, heart and body because everything starts in
45:12
brain. And you to coincidentally beta hydroxyl beer. Imagine that. Not that you've heard of that
45:17
before. But again, it comes back to, you know, I want to remind you who you are. So I hope that
45:23
these platforms inspire you to like take action. And I love that you're not fixing a problem just
45:28
physiologically, but you're actually talking about that holistic approach to to somebody's health.
45:32
And I love so much that you're talking about words and the the spiritual and psychological
45:38
aspects of physiological health because we literally can't do everything right physiologically
45:44
and keep these negatives here and expect a positive outcome. Like just that's not the way
45:49
we work. Well, and you said something too, you're like, speak in manifest, right? So I just said,
45:55
okay, God, what do you want my purpose to be? What do you want me to do? And I'll do it. Here's
46:00
the deal. I tell people, you know, I'm just going to speak great things into existence and see
46:03
what happens. And they're like, well, I mean, I don't know. I mean, that's just, and I'm like,
46:08
hey, did it cost me anything extra? I'm just going to speak life. Like it doesn't cost me anything
46:13
extra. Like it's not like it was double the admit, you know, the admission to get into speaking
46:17
good things as opposed to bad things like, why wouldn't I? Anybody who's trying to find out more
46:22
about Bonnie Barnes, take a look down in the show notes and you will be able to learn everything
46:26
about Bonnie, learn about let's go the product, which is a BHB infused liposomal. Can I call it a
46:32
gel? Is that fair? So it was a gel. It was tasty. I'm not going to lie. I think, as I said,
46:39
like it tasted like like a cake frosting. Probably said that I know what cake frosting tastes like,
46:47
but that's a different problem, I suppose. So check out, let's go check out all of Bonnie stuff
46:51
down here in the show notes. And it's been such a pleasure talking to you, Bonnie. Thank you so
46:55
much. Here we started the show with me saying I didn't know much about, you know, I feel like I
46:58
know tons. I'm so glad. That's what it meant. Thank you so much. Thank you.