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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: There's Nothing Helpful About Assuming The Worst · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What's going on? Everyone?
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  Speaker 2: Emily ABOUDI here you are listening to five Minute Friday
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  Speaker 2: from Hurdle.
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  Speaker 1: Hi, Hello, how are we?
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  Speaker 2: You know it's funny as I asked that question, I
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  Speaker 2: think about the answers that I've been giving to it
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  Speaker 2: this week. Obviously, when you go into a store, you
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  Speaker 2: talk to a barista, you check into a workout class,
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  Speaker 2: it's always Hi, how are you? And this week was
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  Speaker 2: the first time in a long time that I stopped
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  Speaker 2: and answered that question authentically. I knew that saying something
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  Speaker 2: like good for me this week didn't really feel right.
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  Speaker 2: I walked into my yoga studio and the woman asked me, Hi,
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  Speaker 2: how are you? And I said good? And then I
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  Speaker 2: took a pause, and I took a backstep and I said, actually,
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  Speaker 2: not so good, but I'm here, And that felt right
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  Speaker 2: for me. I went to dinner on Wednesday night and
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  Speaker 2: the man that was taking our order when I said
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  Speaker 2: how are you, he didn't even lie, he was like, well,
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  Speaker 2: And there was just something that didn't need it to
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  Speaker 2: be said. And so I want to hold space for everyone,
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  Speaker 2: regardless of how they feel right now, and know that
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  Speaker 2: whatever it is that you are feeling, I can promise
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  Speaker 2: you that you certainly are not alone in that. On Wednesday,
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  Speaker 2: I woke up and I couldn't really walk well. And
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  Speaker 2: it's not because I ran a marathon last Sunday. It's
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  Speaker 2: because on a Tuesday morning, I was cleaning up around
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  Speaker 2: my apartment and I nailed my toe into the couch.
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  Speaker 2: It was throbbing and immediately turned like a deep shade
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  Speaker 2: of purple, and I couldn't put shoes on, and when
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  Speaker 2: I went to bed on Tuesday night, it kept me
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  Speaker 2: awake in the evening. I woke up on Wednesday and
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  Speaker 2: I was convinced it had to be broken, like I
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  Speaker 2: had never experienced a pain like this, And as the
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  Speaker 2: day went on, I had to leave a house. At
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  Speaker 2: one point couldn't put on a sneaker. It hurt too much.
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  Speaker 2: Put on a pair of Birkenstocks because they were the
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  Speaker 2: least offensive option when about my business came home.
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  Speaker 1: Later that evening, I.
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  Speaker 2: Again went to try to put a sneaker on and
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  Speaker 2: was able to get it on with a lot less
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  Speaker 2: pain than earlier in the day, and slowly I realized that, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: maybe it's not as bad as I thought it was
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  Speaker 2: going to be, and understandably. So when I woke up
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  Speaker 2: on Wednesday, I was catastrophizing it. I was like, what's
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  Speaker 2: going to happen here? The worst case scenario, et cetera,
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  Speaker 2: et cetera. And granted, sometimes that catastrophizing can be warranted
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  Speaker 2: and certainly understandable. But as I sit here now another
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  Speaker 2: twenty four hours later, recording this podcast, I have some
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  Speaker 2: perspective on what I thought was god the most frustrating thing.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I'm going to run a marathon and
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  Speaker 1: then stubbing.
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  Speaker 2: My toe, AKA what I thought was breaking my toe
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  Speaker 2: is going to be the thing that takes me out.
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  Speaker 1: The couch is going to be the thing that takes
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  Speaker 1: me out.
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  Speaker 2: All of this to say, sometimes you just got to
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  Speaker 2: take a beat, right, don't jump to the worst possible conclusion.
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  Speaker 1: I was literally.
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  Speaker 2: Sitting there thinking about how I was going to go
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  Speaker 2: about the next month of travel and work things, and
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  Speaker 2: where I should go to a walking clinic, and should
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  Speaker 2: I be buying a boot and all of the things
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  Speaker 2: gestures loosely here behind my microphone.
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  Speaker 1: And what if I didn't do that?
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  Speaker 2: What if instead I thought about the best case scenario,
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  Speaker 2: What if instead I just took a deep breath. I
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  Speaker 2: think I know actually that that can really help with
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  Speaker 2: a lot right now. And so my prompt for you
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  Speaker 2: this week, instead of a prompt, really is maybe just
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  Speaker 2: urging you to do the same. To inhale for four seconds,
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  Speaker 2: to hold for four seconds, to exhale for four seconds,
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  Speaker 2: to hold for four seconds. Do four rounds of that
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  Speaker 2: and see if it helps with however it is that
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  Speaker 2: you're feeling right now. And now a listener question. Hey, Emily,
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  Speaker 2: I'm a long time hurdle listener, but this is my
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  Speaker 2: first time writing in to seek advice. I'm wondering if
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  Speaker 2: you can offer any insight into how you balance your
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  Speaker 2: bodies need to rest with using running as a part
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  Speaker 2: of your mental health care and self care when you're
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  Speaker 2: going through a really difficult time. I lost my mom
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  Speaker 2: recently and it's been incredibly challenging. I'm seeing a therapist
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  Speaker 2: and leaning on my friends and family, but I've also
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  Speaker 2: been running more than ever to help me move through
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  Speaker 2: the loss. It's the only thing that feels somewhat good
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  Speaker 2: or natural right now. Generally, I don't think run streaks
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  Speaker 2: are a great idea. I respect the bodies need to
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  Speaker 2: rest and recover, and a run streak just isn't something
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to achieve here Mentally, I just need to
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  Speaker 2: hit the pavement. Though. Have you ever encountered something similar
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  Speaker 2: in your relationship to running? How did you help yourself
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  Speaker 2: strike a balance when you did? Thanks for the good
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  Speaker 2: you put out into this community, and I'm grateful for
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  Speaker 2: your advice. Kimberly. Wow, can I relate to this? Kimberly,
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for sharing. I'm so sorry to hear that you're
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  Speaker 2: going through a hard time, and I appreciate your sentiments
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  Speaker 2: around the concept of a run streak knowing the importance
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  Speaker 2: of rest. With that said, I think everybody's different. I
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  Speaker 2: don't think that there is much quote unquote danger in
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  Speaker 2: moving a bit in the every day, especially if you're
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  Speaker 2: running in a way that's super recreational. But you know
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  Speaker 2: you and your body, and I too, am not going
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  Speaker 2: to sit here and encourage you to run every day
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  Speaker 2: as a coping mechanism. So what I will say is,
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  Speaker 2: maybe there's another way that you can move your body
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  Speaker 2: that you can find some of that same solace in.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe there is, And this is something that's in my routine,
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  Speaker 2: a specific yoga class on Sundays that feels like a treat,
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  Speaker 2: or a time that you meet a friend to go
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  Speaker 2: for a spin glass on Tuesdays, or even just heading
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  Speaker 2: out for a nice long walk and ending at a
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  Speaker 2: coffee shop or a destination that makes you feel a
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  Speaker 2: little bit of warmth inside. I ensure you that there
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  Speaker 2: are alternate movement practices that you can implement into your
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  Speaker 2: regular schedule that can bring you some of the same
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  Speaker 2: light that running does. But in order to do that,
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  Speaker 2: you need to be open to the fact that yes,
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  Speaker 2: they may feel different at first, and also they can
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  Speaker 2: be just as good. Meet yourself with where you're at,
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  Speaker 2: be open to trying something new, and I promise that
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  Speaker 2: your movement routine can both vary a bit and you'll
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  Speaker 2: start to like it. I'll be thinking of you. For
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  Speaker 2: anyone else who has a listener question, I am all Ears.
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  Speaker 2: Send them on over to our email at Hello at
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  Speaker 2: hurdle dot us. Follow along on social I'm over at
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  Speaker 2: Hurdle Podcast and at Emiliabody Another Hurdle Conquered.
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  Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.