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Ep 22: Look how far you've come! · She Resets: Mindset, Fitness, Confidence

• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: Hello, hello, and guess what?
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: It is celebration week.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: It is week 12, the final episode of our 12-week reset mini-series.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: And this week is all about looking at how far you've come.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: So before we talk about what's next, I want you to just stop.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_00: Actually, stop and look back.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: Because I suspect you've probably spend a lot of your life looking at how far you still have to go to get what you want, achieve what you want, do what you want, be what you want, the weight you still want to lose, the fitness you still want to build, the clothes you still want to fit into, the career you still want to have, the business you still want to run, the things you still haven't achieved, the person you think you still need to be.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: But today we're going to look at something different, which is how far you've come.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: And don't you dare if you're sitting there thinking, I've got nothing to celebrate, I've not done anything.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: You will have, and you just need to look for it.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: You absolutely will.
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_00: I will not take nothing for an answer.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_00: So go back to episode one.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: Remember when we started and I asked you to set a goal.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: What did you choose?
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Why did you choose it?
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: And now ask yourself, what has changed since then?
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: So what has changed in the last 12 weeks?
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: That's three months.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't just mean, did you achieve the goal?
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because that is only one measure of the last 12 weeks.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to think about what else has changed, what else happened?
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: What have you learned about yourself?
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: Did you discover that you were more perfection than progression and that was holding you back?
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: Did you learn how to manage overwhelm a little bit?
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: Did you deal with a setback differently?
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: Do you now understand your deeper motivation?
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: Did you create a new habit?
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_00: Did you start thinking differently about what discipline means to you?
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: Did you change the way you talk to yourself?
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: I really, really, really, really hope you have.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_00: Have you started feeling stronger?
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: Have you become more comfortable in accepting of your own body?
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: Have you stopped waiting for Monday?
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: Like all of these things matter just as much, if not more, than the goal.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: And we get so fixed on a goal, we don't see like the bigger picture, we don't see the bird's eye view.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: Because the goal was never just the goal.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_00: And that is something to really, really understand.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: Your goal was never just the goal.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: Because, say for example, dead easy example, your goal was to lose weight.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: If you've spent the last 12 weeks learning to eat more consistently, building strength, moving your body, talking kinder to yourself, stopping the all or nothing cycle, and learning how to get back on track, then actually you've achieved something far bigger than the number on the scales.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: Because with all those things happening, that number will come.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe your goal was to get fitter, and now you are, you know you're stronger, you can walk further, you can lift heavier with ease, you're less frightened of the gym, you feel more capable, and that's massive.
• 5:10
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe your goal was simply to feel like yourself again, and maybe you're actually starting to begin to feel like yourself again.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_00: And these are all the things that I really care about.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_00: So wherever's happened in the last 12 weeks, wherever you are on the way to that goal, you are not starting from scratch.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: If you've not hit it, you're not starting from the beginning.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: You are starting with 12 weeks' worth of new knowledge that you didn't have before.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_00: So think about the next time you have a difficult week, because you will, life happens, life life.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_00: But you're not going to go back to the woman that you were before these 12 weeks.
• 5:57
  SPEAKER_00: Because you've now got knowledge, and knowledge is power.
• 6:00
  SPEAKER_00: You've got some experience.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: You know what your triggers are.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: You know how you respond to setbacks, and perhaps how you'd like to respond to setbacks.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: You know that motivation disappears.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: And you know that perfection isn't required.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_00: And you know how to build habits.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_00: You know that your environment is important.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_00: You know that your body doesn't need to be your enemy.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_00: You know how important your deeper reasons are.
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_00: And most importantly, you have evidence that you can change.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, love it.
• 6:51
  SPEAKER_00: So, what are you taking forward?
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: So, have a think about these questions.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: You might want to pause, you might want to come back to it.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: But have a think.
• 7:01
  SPEAKER_00: What have I learned about myself?
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: What am I proud of?
• 7:08
  SPEAKER_00: What habit do I want to keep?
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: What belief am I leaving behind?
• 7:19
  SPEAKER_00: What do I want to feel more of?
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe what's your next reset?
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: What are you gonna do next?
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_00: Because you can now work on something else.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: You've got all these skills to be able to put into something else.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, it's brilliant.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I don't want you to spend the next 10 years waiting to become smaller, to lose that extra half stone I spoke about the other week before you become more confident, before you allow yourself to be more confident.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I don't want you to believe that your life starts when you've lost weight.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want you thinking that you're too old because you're not.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: You're 40 something or 50-something or 60 something.
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_00: You have still got many, many years left.
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_00: Sorry.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_00: On this planet that we call Earth.
• 8:22
  SPEAKER_00: Many, many years.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: And it's up to you what you choose to do with them.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to feel strong.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to feel capable, I want you to trust your body, I want you to feel confident in your own skin.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to look after yourself without feeling guilty.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to put yourself back on the list.
• 8:46
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to stop believing that looking after yourself is selfish because it isn't.
• 8:54
  SPEAKER_00: And your life doesn't need a complete overhaul.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: Your reset might be simply to do two strength sessions a week, have a proper breakfast every day, go for a walk, go to bed earlier, say no, ask for help, take an hour for yourself or even half an hour.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_00: Remember those minimums.
• 9:15
  SPEAKER_00: Start small.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: Speak to yourself with more kindness and compassion and empathy, like you would to a friend.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: Get back up when you've had a wobble.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: Because there's no such thing as a perfect life.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're watching anybody on Instagram that's portraying that, and then it's total and utter BS, doesn't exist.
• 9:40
  SPEAKER_00: They're just showing you what they want you to see.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: So the aim isn't to create a perfect life, it doesn't exist.
• 9:49
  SPEAKER_00: The aim is to create a life that you're actually living.
• 9:54
  SPEAKER_00: And if you have listened to all 12 episodes of this mini-series, I want to give yourself some credit and I want to thank you.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um, because you know, you didn't actually need to do any of it.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: You didn't need to achieve anything, you didn't need to keep coming back and listening.
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_00: But if you did, then awesome.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_00: Hope you've learned loads.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_00: And if you take nothing else from this 12 weeks, remember that you are worth it.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: You're worth looking after.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: Not when you've lost weight, not when you're fitter, not when you're more confident.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: You're worth looking after now.
• 10:31
  SPEAKER_00: You know, there's people in your life that need you to look after yourself now.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: You know, if you don't decide to look after yourself, you hit a wall.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't take a break, your body decides when you need a break, and it will usually be at the most inconvenient time.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: So look after yourself now.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: And look how far you've come and keep going.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_00: And please share with me if there's anything massive happened for you.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: Please share it.
• 11:02
  SPEAKER_00: I would really, really love to know and celebrate with you.
• 11:08
  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, 12 week reset over and out.
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you in the next episode of She Resets.