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EP 25: The Biggest Life Hack for Overwhelmed Moms · Healthy Boundaries for Moms| Christian Life Coach

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  Moms, do you want less stress, better boundaries, more energy, more patience, and honestly a
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  life that feels more satisfying?
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  What if I told you one thing affects almost all of it?
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  And honestly, I think it might be one of the biggest life hacks for overwhelmed moms.
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  If you're tired of people pleasing, caring too much, and wondering why peace still feels
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  so hard to hold on to, you're in the right place.
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  Hi, I'm Lori, mom, former people pleaser, and your boundaries coach.
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  Here we talk about how to protect your peace, set healthier boundaries, and get clear on
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  what actually matters so that you can build a life that feels lighter, calmer, and more
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  satisfying.
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  So let's stop the chaos for a minute, moms, catch our breath, and get into this next episode.
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  Welcome back to Healthy Boundaries for Moms.
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  So before we jump into today's episode, I just want to let you know that I'm going to
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  be opening up five free coaching sessions very soon, and these are going to be first
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  come first serve.
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  And I am so excited because this is going to give us a chance to work together one-on-one
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  on some of the very things that we are talking about here on the podcast.
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  So if you're wanting to get help, you're trying to prioritize your health and create better
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  boundaries, you want to reduce your overwhelm and build some healthier routines, and you
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  just want to create a life that feels more intentional and aligned, this is going to
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  be the space for that.
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  So be on the lookout because I'm going to be sharing details really soon, and those
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  first five spots will go quickly.
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  Okay, so today we're going to talk about what I think may be one of the biggest life hacks
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  for busy moms, because I think a lot of moms are trying to fix overwhelm, stress, schedules,
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  relationships, right?
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  While we're just ignoring the foundation underneath all of it.
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  What am I talking about?
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  I'm talking about our health.
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  And before you tune this out and you think we're just talking about another episode about
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  diets and workouts, that is not what I'm talking about.
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  This is about prioritizing how your health changes the way you are experiencing your
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  life.
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  Because healthy habits, they don't just change your body, they're changing your very capacity
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  for life.
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  Because I think prioritizing your health is a keystone habit.
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  And what do I mean by a keystone habit?
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  This is a habit that creates positive ripple effects into other multiple areas of your
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  life.
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  Okay, not just your health.
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  Because once you start taking care of your health, other things begin improving.
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  You begin to think more clearly.
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  Now all of a sudden you're more proactive.
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  You're building these better routines and you're showing up differently in your relationships.
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  And I think health may be one of the highest ROI investments you can make in your life.
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  Because health is one of those few investments that pay you back in almost every area of
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  your life.
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  There is this compounding effect that I don't think we're getting.
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  Almost all healthy habits work like compound interest or like a debt snowball.
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  You start with these tiny wins.
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  You're drinking more water, you're going on these walks, you're starting to eat more protein,
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  your sleep's getting better, maybe you're making some meals ahead of time.
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  And that feels small, right?
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  But over time it's compounding.
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  Just like investing money creates more options later, prioritizing your health is creating
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  more options for you in the future, in your life, okay?
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  Because think about this, you're spending less time making emotional decisions, you're
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  reducing chaos, you're creating structure.
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  And now you start to look more proactive, right, instead of just reacting to everything
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  around you.
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  And honestly, healthy habits create structure and structure creates freedom.
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  The more structure I created, built around my health, honestly, I felt less chaos and
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  I was experiencing less chaos in every area of my life.
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  So what I think is crucial here is that we start thinking about creating healthier habits
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  and we align that with actually wanting this life for yourself, this type of life, okay?
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  I think that a lot of moms have spent so long in survival mode, they almost stop envisioning
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  what it would be like to truly thrive, to feel peaceful, clear-minded and strong, to
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  feel intentional and rested.
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  Like can you imagine what are your mornings going to feel like?
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  What are your evenings going to be like?
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  What's going to happen to your marriage?
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  Are you going to have more patience with your kids?
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  Yes, you are.
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  So you need to ask yourself what would change if you actually started living like health
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  mattered because eventually we're going to embody the life that we believe that belongs
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  to us.
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  So if we think we deserve fast food and no real sleep, that's the life we're going to
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  live.
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  And I think a lot of moms are deeply, we're craving a life that feels elevated, peaceful,
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  intentional and aligned.
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  But why do we keep living like we're stuck in survival mode?
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  If you want a more elevated life, eventually your habits are going to have to match that
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  vision.
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  And I think one of the first places we begin building that life is through our health because
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  healthy habits are not just changing your routines, okay?
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  They are reinforcing a brand spanking new identity.
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  So what are the practical steps?
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  I want to make this really attainable, okay?
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  Because I think a lot of moms overcomplicate health before they even start, right?
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  We get on Pinterest, we start looking at things, we ask 5 million questions, we complicate
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  it.
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  But healthy habits do not have to be extreme to change your life, okay?
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  Some of the biggest changes come from some of the simplest habits, just repeated consistently.
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  So if you're wondering where to start, just start simple.
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  Things like drinking more water, walking more consistently, let's prioritize protein, we're
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  going to create a better sleep routine.
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  How about we start strength training a couple times a week, lifting weights, okay?
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  Because that's important for women.
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  And if going to the gym feels not attainable, okay, right now, just buy some free weights
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  and keep them at your house and create an area for you that feels good to lift weights,
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  okay?
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  You don't have to go to a gym.
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  I want you to create systems that support the life you're trying to build.
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  Also think one of the best things you can do is simplify your health instead of constantly
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  reinventing it every day.
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  Figure out your staple foods, what are your go-to breakfasts, what are just some quick
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  easy lunches, some simple dinners that satisfy and meet your goals that you're looking for.
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  Meals that keep you full, they're going to give you energy and they fit in your lifestyle
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  already.
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  You don't have to change your whole life, okay?
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  You can fit them into your lifestyle because honestly, one of the biggest life hacks is
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  reducing decision fatigue.
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  We've talked about that on this podcast.
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  We've got to reduce the friction to get to the things that we're trying to reach.
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  So one of the biggest things I prioritize personally is protein, okay?
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  And a good general guideline is about 0.7 to 0.8 grams of protein per pound of ideal
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  body weight.
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  And once you know your goal, break it down into smaller goals, okay?
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  You know what you're trying to hit for the day.
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  So break it up with breakfast, have protein at lunch, at dinner, you can even break it
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  up with your snacks, okay?
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  And that makes things feel so much more attainable and manageable.
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  And if your goal is weight loss or simply feeling healthier and more energized overall,
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  I'm going to share a few tools with you inside our Facebook group.
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  So if you haven't joined yet, go ahead and join us there either now or after you finish
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  listening to this episode.
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  And if you're not subscribed to the newsletter yet, I will also have that linked in the show
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  notes and inside the face group as well.
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  And I'm going to be sharing some extra resources, some tools and support there to help this
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  make this whole process feel simpler and more sustainable.
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  So definitely go there and join, okay?
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  And when you prioritize your health, you actually start showing up differently everywhere, right?
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  You feel more confident in your relationships because you feel better about yourself.
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  You start to connect with your spouse differently because now you have all this emotional capacity
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  you didn't have before and you have more energy.
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  And guys, it even changes how you parent because you're not just feeling bad because you're
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  telling your kids to eat healthier, right?
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  But they're watching you, like you feel proud because they're seeing you live this out.
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  So let's talk about how this affects your spirituality because I think your habits,
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  when they start aligning with your values, they start aligning with who you are and who
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  God has made you to be.
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  So scripture says in 1 Corinthians 6, 19 through 20, that our bodies are temples of the Holy
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  Spirit and that we should honor God with our bodies.
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  And in Galatians 5, it says self-control is one of the parts of the fruit of the Spirit.
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  So God really wants us to think about these things when we are trying to align spiritually
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  because I don't think discipline is about punishment.
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  I think we're talking about alignment here.
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  So let's talk about how our habits, when they align with our values, how they create a different
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  atmosphere in our lives too, because we stop living in constant survival mode and we begin
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  creating rhythms that feel peaceful and intentional and even supportive.
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  And I think that's something that a lot of moms, they are truly craving and we're not
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  necessarily needing more stuff, right?
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  But we want more peace.
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  We want more care.
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  We want more room to breathe.
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  And I think we also need to redefine what luxury actually means because for a long time,
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  I think we imagine luxury as like expensive things or having a lot of money, but let's
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  be real.
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  Some of the richest moments in our lives are the simplest ones, right?
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  Like I can tell you, starting to take care of like my face as I'm getting older, like
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  just washing my face at night instead of just falling out of bed exhausted like I used to.
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  Or now I have this like sleep routine where I set up this heated blanket on my bed.
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  It's already warmed up.
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  I have this soft ambient lighting.
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  I have my meditation app on, which is the pause app, which I have shared on this podcast.
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  So definitely check that out if you haven't already.
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  I just set up this environment that feels peaceful.
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  And you know, I used to have to take sleep medication to go to bed and now I've built
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  these rhythms so well that I'm out in like five minutes.
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  I'm, I'm asleep.
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  And honestly that feels luxurious to me.
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  And I think healthy habits, they're helping to create that.
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  And this whole subject, it's very personal to me because a couple of years ago when I
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  started this whole journey of prioritizing my health, I thought I was just trying to
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  eat better and I'm trying to just exercise and get in that routine.
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  But what actually really changed was my, my identity.
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  I became more disciplined.
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  I became more intentional and more aligned.
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  And eventually I realized something.
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  My career was really the only area of my life that no longer matched this person that I
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  was becoming.
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  Because once I proved to myself that I could be consistent with my health, it changed what
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  I believe was possible in other areas.
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  So these healthy habits, they were raising my standards for the rest of my life.
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  And my health journey was crowding out the parts of my life that no longer aligned.
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  It was just happening on, on its own.
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  It was doing that for me.
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  So guys, I just want you to know, you don't need to overhaul your entire life overnight.
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  You just need to start making small deposits into the life you want to build.
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  Because healthy habits, they compound like interest.
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  So if you're wondering where to start after listening to this episode, just start simple.
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  Drink more water, walk more consistently, prioritize your protein, create a better
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  sleep routine, strength train a couple of times a week, figure out your staple meals,
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  and reduce this decision fatigue by creating systems that will support your peace instead
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  of chaos.
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  Make these foundational changes first, because these foundational habits support everything
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  else that comes later.
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  They create the stability that allows you to eventually tweak and you can optimize it,
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  you can grow it.
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  But first, let's start with the basics.
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  We need rhythms, we need structure, we need consistency and habits that are supporting
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  this life that we're trying to build.
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  And honestly, I think one of the first places we begin building a more elevated and intentional
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  life is through how we care for ourselves.
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  Now go say no to something that's stealing your peace and say yes to something you actually
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  need.
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  And I'll meet you back here in the next episode.