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From Tomboy to Center Stage, Finding Balance, & Dating app disasters with Acari · The REALationship Method

• 0:07
  Speaker 1: 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of the Relationship Method Podcast.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: I'm Chris and today I have a lovely guest Coming from Kila, california, the Bay.
• 0:19
  Speaker 1: Motherfuckers, she's a mom, she's a professional walker, she's an artist man.
• 0:26
  Speaker 1: I I got akari on this hoe.
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: What's up, girl, how you doing I'm good man, I'm doing great oh my god, that sounds so seductive.
• 0:36
  Speaker 1: You better calm down with that shit, girl is that what this podcast is about?
• 0:41
  Speaker 2: like no, no, not even not even, not even.
• 0:43
  Speaker 1: Uh.
• 0:43
  Speaker 1: It can't be.
• 0:45
  Speaker 1: I know uh, before we get um this motherfucker going um akari.
• 0:54
  Speaker 1: How did I get the yes from you to come on?
• 1:00
  Speaker 2: um, you know what I'm just honestly.
• 1:02
  Speaker 2: Just I'm trying to be more like out there, like as far as a, not just doing music.
• 1:10
  Speaker 2: I want people to kind of like like uh, fuck I I don't know I just want people to know me more as a person instead of just like a musician, because you know you got to share your story and stuff these days and I'm not very good at talking, so that's why we're here oh, I feel that.
• 1:28
  Speaker 1: No, I feel that, um it, uh, I never took public speaking classes, but, um, like, I'm in the military, so I am forced to speak in front of people even though I don't want to right so yeah, my problem is is when I'm in front of a crowd I go super fast, like because I just, I just want to get the fuck out of there.
• 1:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you just yeah.
• 1:55
  Speaker 1: I was like yeah, girl, exactly, exactly, and you and I was chopping it up and then I was stalking your story.
• 2:05
  Speaker 1: Where were you coming from?
• 2:09
  Speaker 2: I just came from Oracle Park in a Mestiza restaurant in San Francisco.
• 2:13
  Speaker 2: I was doing a shoot with my homie rapper, jf Bayani, and yeah, we were doing a song together.
• 2:23
  Speaker 2: Oh okay, yeah, it's like my first little dabble in like hip-hop, like trappy type shit, and I'm doing a hook in Tagalog.
• 2:33
  Speaker 2: So I'm kind of nervous but also like super excited.
• 2:36
  Speaker 1: Ooh wow, are you full Filipino or are you like some type of Iwanese or anese or an igra or whatnot?
• 2:47
  Speaker 2: Oh no, I'm straight from Quezon City.
• 2:49
  Speaker 2: I was born there, grew up there, oh, no way.
• 2:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 2:53
  Speaker 1: Okay, well, mabuhay, motherfucker.
• 2:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not lumpia, by the way, it's lumpia, I'm just saying.
• 3:01
  Speaker 1: Lumpia.
• 3:02
  Speaker 2: So to me you're crispy lumpia.
• 3:06
  Speaker 1: Hey, you know what it's.
• 3:07
  Speaker 1: It's better uh crispy than soggy that's true yep, take that to the back.
• 3:12
  Speaker 1: And um, and akari, you told me that you was a mama bear.
• 3:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, that's cute.
• 3:19
  Speaker 1: Um, how many?
• 3:20
  Speaker 1: Uh, if you don't mind me asking, and is it a boy or a girl or is it an it?
• 3:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a little alien, I don't know.
• 3:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Fuck them aliens.
• 3:31
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying?
• 3:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just kidding, he's a two-year-old boy, my little guy.
• 3:40
  Speaker 1: Oh, congratulations.
• 3:42
  Speaker 2: Thanks, man.
• 3:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so I have a six-year-old, an eight-year-old, an 18-year-old and a 20-year-old.
• 3:51
  Speaker 2: Holy shit.
• 3:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, I'm telling you my age, yeah.
• 4:02
  Speaker 2: So that right there should give you like my age kind of you know womp, womp, but shit, yeah, I know, I know right, but shit.
• 4:07
  Speaker 1: Eh.
• 4:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I know, right man, but still, man, fuck them kids, you know.
• 4:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, dude fuck them kids.
• 4:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 4:12
  Speaker 1: No, that's cool, so huh.
• 4:14
  Speaker 2: What do I have to look forward to at six and eight?
• 4:17
  Speaker 1: Oh, okay, what can I?
• 4:18
  Speaker 2: watch out for.
• 4:20
  Speaker 1: So that's when the personalities kick in.
• 4:23
  Speaker 1: So, whatever they're watching, whatever they're around, that's what they're going to pick up on.
• 4:33
  Speaker 1: If you read to them a lot, their vocabulary becomes pretty vast.
• 4:37
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
• 4:38
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, that's what I'm working with right now, with the six-year-old Talking back the eye rolls.
• 4:46
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
• 4:47
  Speaker 1: If you're eye rolling them now and they catch on that, oh got mom.
• 4:53
  Speaker 1: You know that's going to piss you off, but you can't do nothing but laugh at it.
• 4:58
  Speaker 1: You feel me?
• 5:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah man, I'm just waiting for the age he figures out like hey, my mom's actually kind of dumb.
• 5:05
  Speaker 1: Right Like oh gosh, let your boy take home a math assignment.
• 5:11
  Speaker 2: And you're like dog.
• 5:14
  Speaker 1: The stereotype is not real.
• 5:16
  Speaker 2: It's like this is too easy.
• 5:18
  Speaker 2: You can't figure it out.
• 5:19
  Speaker 2: See, I'm already coming up with comebacks.
• 5:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, hey.
• 5:23
  Speaker 1: It's like man, you know what?
• 5:24
  Speaker 1: We both dumb men.
• 5:25
  Speaker 1: All right, we both dumb.
• 5:26
  Speaker 1: We can't figure it out.
• 5:27
  Speaker 1: I can't figure it out.
• 5:27
  Speaker 1: This is just too hard for us parents.
• 5:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but cool, you know.
• 5:32
  Speaker 1: Hey, exactly, Wait, let me ask you this, Since you have a seed if your kid wanted to drop out of school and, let's say, pursue music, would you let him do that, or would you still have?
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: You know, hey man, graduate and then fuck college, go do your music.
• 5:58
  Speaker 2: That's hard.
• 5:58
  Speaker 2: That's hard because, just like, based on my experience, like, yeah, like based on um my experience, like yeah, I would have done so much better if I, if I pursued music like full-time way earlier on, or if I was just like I'm gonna just go to music school, but obviously my parents were like we're not funding art school oh, so you had the typical filipino parents that wanted their daughter to to be in the um the medical field yeah, you know, and I think it just they just wanted me to have something stable.
• 6:42
  Speaker 2: But of course, like back then, I didn't understand that.
• 6:44
  Speaker 2: I was just like, look, I'm just trying to do like my shit, you know.
• 6:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want to be in a band and like play music all day.
• 6:52
  Speaker 1: But yeah, were you a rebellious kid when you told your parents that, hey, man, I don't want to do this, I want to do something else.
• 7:03
  Speaker 1: Like, did you rebel?
• 7:04
  Speaker 1: Or were you like, oh okay, but then you know, low key, just did your thing anyway.
• 7:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's exactly what I did.
• 7:11
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh yeah, I can pay for my own school, I'll go to like the community college and like fund myself.
• 7:20
  Speaker 2: Actually, I just never went to class and I just played shows here and there.
• 7:24
  Speaker 2: But see if he's interested in music, I would say go to music school, Okay.
• 7:30
  Speaker 1: After high school, yeah.
• 7:32
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 7:33
  Speaker 2: Okay, I mean shoot, I'm also thinking of homeschooling, though I don't know.
• 7:36
  Speaker 2: I don't know what's going to happen with our education system or the future of our education system.
• 7:43
  Speaker 1: Oh, is it because of Trump?
• 7:44
  Speaker 1: Or is it because of like California, like the California standards of educating kids?
• 7:49
  Speaker 2: I think both.
• 7:51
  Speaker 1: Mm.
• 7:51
  Speaker 1: Okay, interesting yeah, hmm, hmm.
• 7:56
  Speaker 1: Um are you putting it?
• 7:59
  Speaker 1: Would you put them in public or private?
• 8:01
  Speaker 1: Do you have enough funds for private?
• 8:03
  Speaker 1: Because I sure as hell don't.
• 8:04
  Speaker 2: Fuck, no, fuck, no.
• 8:04
  Speaker 2: Okay, who enough funds for private?
• 8:05
  Speaker 2: Because I sure as hell don't no, no, okay, who has funds for private school, especially in the bay area, like oh, I know you're like getting homeschooled oh, okay, okay, well, um, let's see.
• 8:16
  Speaker 1: Uh, when do you think you'll decide um like homeschooling the kid?
• 8:20
  Speaker 2: I think I have to decide pretty soon because he's gonna be in like preschool and all that.
• 8:25
  Speaker 2: So, yeah, I got to chop it up with my partner and come up with a legit plan.
• 8:29
  Speaker 2: What did you guys do?
• 8:33
  Speaker 1: We put the motherfuckers at school.
• 8:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 8:35
  Speaker 1: We're like man, we need our motherfucking rest throughout the day.
• 8:40
  Speaker 1: I need to decompress, because once 6 am or 6.30 am hits, it's like go, go, go, go, go until they go to school.
• 8:49
  Speaker 1: And then it's like, ok, now I have a little time to slow the fuck down, get myself ready for work and then, you know, do my thing until they get out.
• 9:00
  Speaker 1: So it's like, yeah, I definitely liked them going to school, but the whole what's it called, the whole homeschooling thing, like I was really open to that shit too.
• 9:12
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 9:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I feel like I could, I'm around, or my job, luckily, like you know, like lets me be around a lot more at home, so yeah, I think I can handle it.
• 9:27
  Speaker 1: Oh, you know what mama bear you can yeah, yeah yeah, um akari, uh, if you don't mind me asking, what do you do like on the outside world?
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: What's your uh, what's your nine to five or what's your whatever hour it is?
• 9:42
  Speaker 2: I sing at um mastro's Steakhouse.
• 9:46
  Speaker 1: Okay, I've heard of that Okay.
• 9:48
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 9:48
  Speaker 2: Oh, that's what you do at night.
• 9:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my like you know source of income.
• 9:54
  Speaker 1: That's your thing.
• 9:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my thing.
• 9:56
  Speaker 1: How cool is that Like you get to work on your vocals and get an audience response or reaction.
• 10:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, do you like it?
• 10:04
  Speaker 1: Okay, get an audience response or reaction.
• 10:07
  Speaker 2: Do you like it?
• 10:07
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 10:07
  Speaker 2: Okay, wait, hold on.
• 10:08
  Speaker 2: Do you like it?
• 10:08
  Speaker 2: Do you like working there?
• 10:08
  Speaker 2: I love mastro's.
• 10:09
  Speaker 2: I'm so lucky that they found me, and you know hooked me up with that job it's it's been super, super fun do you get free food fuck.
• 10:17
  Speaker 1: No, there's like 50 off, but like 200, so I never eat there bro, I would have been like how much is a fry, how much are the fries?
• 10:28
  Speaker 2: I know they sell fries.
• 10:29
  Speaker 2: You got free bread or some shit, I don't know.
• 10:31
  Speaker 2: Okay, free bread, free bread Get them.
• 10:33
  Speaker 1: Carbs in girl Get them carbs in.
• 10:35
  Speaker 2: I'm a carbs girl.
• 10:37
  Speaker 1: So my show.
• 10:37
  Speaker 1: How did you get this gig?
• 10:39
  Speaker 1: Because you're the first one that I've had on the pod that said that's what they do for a living is seeing at um, at a state joint so how, yeah, how'd you get this gig?
• 10:53
  Speaker 2: they found me um just on instagram shut your ass really yeah, so wow I just got really, really, I don't know what happened.
• 11:02
  Speaker 2: Her Right, exactly.
• 11:06
  Speaker 1: Oh well, do you have to dress a certain way when you're there, like you know?
• 11:16
  Speaker 1: Dress, or sultry, you know, like them old school, you know, yeah, singers Like jazz artists yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 11:24
  Speaker 1: Do you have to dress like that, or are you in like jeans and a shirt?
• 11:27
  Speaker 2: No, you're definitely not allowed to wear jeans and a shirt.
• 11:29
  Speaker 2: It's just, it's like cocktail attire.
• 11:31
  Speaker 1: Hmm, okay, yeah, oh.
• 11:34
  Speaker 1: So mommy be going dressed to work then, huh.
• 11:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm just like Hmm, okay, good stuff.
• 11:42
  Speaker 1: How does your partner think of you singing at these places?
• 11:46
  Speaker 1: Because I could only imagine there's guys there that you know maybe shoot the shot or give you the look or whatnot.
• 11:53
  Speaker 1: How does he handle that shit?
• 11:55
  Speaker 2: You would think there would, but I mean not really, not for me, I guess.
• 12:02
  Speaker 2: Maybe I just give off that energy like stay six feet away, motherfucker you know, you got, you got the rbf I do.
• 12:10
  Speaker 2: I do have an rbf.
• 12:11
  Speaker 2: I was born okay I don't know how to get rid of it, yeah and I'm always just like out of there real quick.
• 12:19
  Speaker 2: I don't like drink or anything, so like as soon as my shift is up, I'm like I'm out.
• 12:23
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, that's good girl, that's good.
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: I am happy for you and I hope all these um.
• 12:31
  Speaker 1: Are you going to college or anything, or are you just straight working?
• 12:33
  Speaker 1: Oh, excuse me, working and doing this other stuff just working and doing music.
• 12:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, last year I've just been doing the music thing kind of full time.
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: Oh, okay, are you working with producers or anything?
• 12:49
  Speaker 1: Or are you just doing covers or whatnot?
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: What's on your list of songs?
• 12:59
  Speaker 1: Are you writing?
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I already asked that shit, so what are you doing?
• 13:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm writing, like, are you writing?
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I already asked that shit.
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so, yeah, what are you doing?
• 13:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm writing.
• 13:07
  Speaker 2: Luckily, my partner is a producer.
• 13:09
  Speaker 2: Ooh okay.
• 13:10
  Speaker 2: And lately I've been working with the Ray Resurrection.
• 13:15
  Speaker 1: Uh-huh.
• 13:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and yeah.
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: That's man, that's dope.
• 13:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, man, that is dope.
• 13:21
  Speaker 2: I write my shit.
• 13:22
  Speaker 2: It's special to me, I guess.
• 13:27
  Speaker 1: Oh, and how would you describe your music?
• 13:31
  Speaker 2: genre I guess.
• 13:31
  Speaker 2: I would say I'm a genre fluid.
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: Right now I'm coming up with an EP and it's got a little bit of everything.
• 13:39
  Speaker 2: I'm so excited for it to come out.
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: Oh girl, I'm excited for you.
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: I've been brewing.
• 13:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've been brewing some music and I just can't wait to put it out.
• 13:48
  Speaker 2: That's also kind of why I'm here.
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: Doing this podcast is to let people know the music is coming.
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: Oh girl, the people in Hawaii will know.
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: Oh, for sure that's awesome.
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: I'd love to play a show out there.
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: Hey, girl, do it.
• 14:06
  Speaker 1: And then, um, let me know, so I could like show up and be like hey, I know her oh yeah, I know her, you're guest list for sure, motherfucker.
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and then, um, what, uh?
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: What part of uh cali are you in?
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: San Jose.
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: Oh, San Jose 408.
• 14:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, 408.
• 14:29
  Speaker 2: Where were you?
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: at before.
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: I lived in Marina, the Monterey County.
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay, nice.
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like right near Pebble Beach, Santa Cruz and shit.
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay, I love Santa Cruz and Monterey.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I know we have like the best clam chowder.
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the pier huh.
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: Yep, I'm glad you fucking agree.
• 14:49
  Speaker 1: Hell yeah, hell yeah.
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: Sanho man, I miss Sanho because for the longest time In-N-Out was there and I wasn't a big cheeseburger guy but I loved their animal fries and that's where all the racers would link up at like super late at night.
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: Oh, that's where I live, on Capitol Expressway.
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: Oh shit, no way.
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, it's nonstop Like those racers.
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: Go crazy, it's wild.
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: So yeah, back in the day, yeah, that's where we would link up, like friday, saturday nights we would go there and then, you know, race, and then I would.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: I would ditch school, I would ditch class just to go to independence independence bro no, no, no, no, don't get up, it was.
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: It was the thing you know, like you know, it was the thing like oh, because you know, uh, back then it was all you know, fucking chat rooms, right, and then oh, like AOL chat rooms yeah, so it's like ASL yep yep, asl pic please we would just randomly do that or give out that information and just randomly like send pictures to fucking internet strangers girl for real.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: So I would meet, dude, I would meet a lot of uh females in sanjo at independence and um, I'm not gonna lie, it was like the time of my life.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: Why are you laughing?
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: Is Independence cracked out or something?
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: Is it bad?
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: No, my partner went there.
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: I just hear stories Okay.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: That's where we went, and then we would chill at Nickel City.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: Is Nickel City still there?
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: Hell yeah, no, it's definitely not there anymore.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: My old band would play shows there and then we would chill at nickel city.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: Is nickel city still there?
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, it's definitely not there it's gone, huh, but yeah, my old dad would play shows there, hella fun for real yeah oh wow.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: But yeah, nickel city was a spot and then we would always meet up.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Well, me and the boys would always meet up with females that like what was it called excel or perfect studios or whatever where's that at?
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: I've never oh god, it's like one of them, you know before cell phones and shit, it's one of them, uh, photo boot, photo shoots, uh, photo buildings, where oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's like the sears type shit yeah, yeah, but it'd be like one of them holding the walls and shit yeah, yeah yeah, so, oh man, I missed it there ah and I used to skate in that indoor skate park at the mall at eastridge yeah, eastridge, I used to be there a lot.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: I used to skate there, holy shit, wow, that's oh my gosh, yeah, so much, so much fond memories and stuff wait, are you talking about a san jose?
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: I think, because at Eastridge there was an ice rink.
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: No, so in one of those malls I forgot what it was Inside of it there was like there was a legit.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: I don't know if it was a Vans store or whatever, but inside this place there was like a skate park.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: At Great Mall.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: It was a Vans.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, great Mall.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: Okay, if that's what it was yeah, great Mall, oh my God.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: And then what did they have?
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: They had Mr Rags over there, no, or those old stores that don't even.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: They're extinct now.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: Basically, but oh my, gosh Bringing me back, girl Bringing me back.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: So you and Sanho, what high school did you go to?
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Silver Creek.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Okay, I heard of Silver Creek.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: I think we played y'all like in football.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: I think we lost, we got pretty good support.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: I don't remember yeah.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: So I've seen and heard.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: I think y'all whooped us in basketball.
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: Ah, who cares, though?
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: Who fucking cares?
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: So, who fucking cares?
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: So, Akari, when you are, let's say, doing these projects, right, you're singing, and everything do people like guys particularly, do they?
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: shoot their shot at you, like in any way, shape or form you know what, to be completely real and honest.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: I wish they would, but they don't, oh shit.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I wish a motherfucker would man Goddamn I'm over here.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: I just want to turn someone down one time Like, oh shit, sorry, I have a kid, I love my family, I'm sorry yeah yeah.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: I think it's just my energy.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: I'm just like.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: You're here for work, and that's it.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: I'm not here to fuck around.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe no, you know what?
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: That's good.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: That means you're super focused.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: You're super focused and no one's going to fuck with you.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: You feel me?
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess, or if that even gets close.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: I'm just like I'm out, like if I feel anything weird, you know.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: Really, is that how you do with like, let's say, in your past, when people were trying to get to know you?
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: You're like, nah, I'm good.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: So you would go like the opposite direction and everything.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty much.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Have you seen the movie Superbad?
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: Yes, I did Bye.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, seen the movie super bad.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: Yes, I did bye.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: yeah, exactly, I do the 360 playing and I just oh my gosh, uh-huh.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: Or maybe I just like act weird on purpose, so like they don't, you know really but they get the ick like instantly I don't know, oh, okay, okay.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: But guys like the, I guess the weirdos and stuff, you think so yeah, oh, I know.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: So I definitely know, so yeah.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: Explain further please, because oh man.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: So you know, you say ics, right, but to some guys it's like, oh man, that's kind of cute, like I had this conversation with one of my boys.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: I had this conversation with one of my boys and we came to the conclusion that we like women that other guys don't like, and then when these guys start liking them, it's like okay, I don't like her anymore, I'm going to back off, you know.
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: Why is that that type of shit?
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Why is it Like a territorial thing or like?
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Bro, you know what girl I?
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: I honestly don't know, because there's been a situation.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: There's been situations where I've been what I, where I've been in, where I think like a female's cute, right, and then everyone else around me is like, oh no, I wouldn't no but then no, it doesn't make me like her more, but it makes me like okay, cool, you know like, but I think she's cute.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna I'm not gonna like spit my game, but I'm gonna get to know her.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: You know, like, have a conversation or two, but then let's say I don't know like day, a couple days of like talking to her, getting to know her.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: My guy friends would be like, you know, she actually kind of cute.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: You know she becomes cute all of a sudden.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: I'm like what the fuck, like man?
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: So when they start spending they shot, I'm just like, ah, whatever.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: So I would like back off or I'd, uh, I'd see how would she handle.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: You know all the, you know these, you know hand her up.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: But yeah.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: So I mean, I'm telling you right now like it happens.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: It happens when guys are just you know, they see the weird ones talk to them and then all of a sudden guys in the background is like oh damn, she cute.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: All of a sudden I was like okay, okay, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool.
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: Do you think that's kind of like a herd mentality?
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: kind of thing.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: You know what it can be, but explain the herd mentality thing.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: Because I don't know like when me and my sister watched, like we used to watch K-dramas a lot, like during COVID.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Ah yeah, and I wouldn't.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, eh, whatever this guy's, and then my sister would be like so crazy in love with him and I'd be, like I'd start to imagine like, oh, why would she think he's cute?
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: It doesn't happen all the time, but sometimes you're like, oh yeah okay, I could see why he's cute.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: Has that ever happened to you, where you thought a guy was cute, cute and then all of a sudden you're like, oh he is.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: Or the opposite, where he wasn't cute but then he became cute afterwards or after like a week later, or some shit?
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: Has that ever happened?
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: oh yeah, like the ones that build up over time.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: I like that a lot better actually.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: I think I know myself enough to know that the instant attraction thing is just not good.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: Really, yeah, not good as in like oh man, I'm finna, get at that or not good as in like man.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: I've been in this situation before and it didn't pan out the way I wanted.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: It fades quickly, I think.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: But I'm curious what are these like icks in girls that you and your guy friends?
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, so my main ick I can't speak for them, but my main ick is dirty fingernails.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: That's a very big ick.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, don't make fun, but toes.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: Dirty feet.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Dirty feet is a very big ick Because, oh and long toenails, oh my gosh.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: Like you know, like this is the end of the sandal, this is your toe and your nails are like coming over Hell.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: No, Hell.
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: No, you don't want them on your back, like just scratch your back.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Girl, if I wanted to get scratched, man, I'll buy a cat.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, you know.
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: And then, oh, what else is the ick?
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: Uh, my another ick is when, okay when, when women wear, you know, they wear the, the, the, the strap shoes, where, or the strap sandals.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: They got the sandals and they have to strap it around their leg or whatever.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: All right, so if, oh gosh, this is kind of bad, but I don't care.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: Um, if, if you have to put it on the last hole and the strap is like hanging on for dear life, yeah, that's a fucking egg too you know what I'm saying very specific oh, it's super specific because if it's holding on for dear life, that means your ankle or whatever is not getting in circulation.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: So it's like the thing is like folding over.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: Oh, it's like just gives you too much anxiety.
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah it does.
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my God, it's like Miss, can I go buy you some like flip flops or something, some 99-cent flip-flops, because your ankles is fitting a freaking bleed yo Like for real, straight up.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Your whole life must be hanging by a thread if you wear your shoes like that.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, definitely, Maybe that's why, or why do you think these are icks for you?
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: I guess?
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: Why, oh wow, are you like self-medicating me?
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Like, hold on, why are they icks?
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: So with the hands and feet, I think if you don't take care of these, because they're very specific, right, I think you don't take care of everything else you know.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Because with the hands, it's like okay, I see my hands every day, all right, cool.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: With the feet, it's like if you got claws, it's like, oh my gosh, yeah, it just tells me that everything here is like unkept.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: You already let yourself go?
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: huh, there's probably some yeah, yeah, pretty much yeah musty shit going on in other places you know.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: And then you know like, um, I'm I'm used to.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: You know, like I have a wife and everything and I'm used to the underneath boob sweat.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: You know, like I'm used to that.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: So if I smell that it's okay.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: You know what?
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: I'm saying Like I'm like I'm all for it.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: You know, like you know the boob, and you put it up and you go like this and you're like oh, okay, it smells like my armpit kind of.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: I know, right, you just go like this and you're like oh, yeah, yeah, just go like this.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: And you're like oh, yeah, yeah, um no, but also like, oh, I, uh, I play, I used to play with a lot of like female, uh, basketball players, right, and then of course I would see, like the boob sweat, that would like kind of ache me out.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: But then you know, I'm just like dude, I'm sweaty all around too.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: So there's like I shouldn't be like like that.
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: So, yeah, I got, I got used to it and yeah yeah, I played basketball in high school and it's just like the, the wet, like the sweaty, like hair, you know, and it just like rubs against you oh yeah no, I'm done were you, uh, were you a big sweater when you played basketball in high school, or when you played basketball?
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: No, but I turned really, really red and it's embarrassing.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Really.
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: I turned super red.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm not a sweater I wish Like drunk red Like Asian glow red, yeah, or just.
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: Like everywhere, like my neck, like Asian glow red yeah, or just Like everywhere Like my neck.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: Like, yeah, oh, it's like.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: Oh, man, she got an allergic reaction to something.
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: Man, you better give her some goddamn Benadryl or some shit.
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: I'm going to give her a shot, yeah right.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: Hey, she's finding her croak right now.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Man, oh, that's funny.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: So you hooped back in the day yeah, did a lot of guys find you more attractive because you were an athlete?
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: I don't fucking think so.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: I think I was a tomboy.
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: I think I still am.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: I don't know if that kind of deterred a lot of people away.
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: I just do my own thing.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: You know, you did your own thing.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what's funny when I talk to a lot of guys and you know, and also like back in the day I was attracted to like the tomboy look for some odd reason, I don't know, like yeah, like I don't know what it is, but and also my friends too when we see a woman just dressed in boy clothes, I'm not saying it's a turn-on, I'm not going to fucking jack off real fast, but it's like, oh, I find her very pretty because I don't know, it doesn't make me gay.
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying it doesn't make me gay, but it's like it's an attraction thing.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: Oh, interesting.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: Well, I guess everybody's got you know, got some yeah.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, some weird fetishes and shit.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: What are your?
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: What are your?
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: Icks in a guy?
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, miss Akari, uh if you smell weird you know, okay, what's a weird smell if I get close to you.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: Uh, there was one person that was pretty cool that I was like when I was dating back in the day before I had a kid, he was like really cool and had a cool personality, but it's like it was just the smell.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: I couldn't you know you smell like vinegar.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: Kind of like a little muscule.
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: I can't explain it A little sour, you know what I mean.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: Do you think that's his natural smell?
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: Did you ever brought it up to him Like, hey, dude, that I like let me tell you something.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: You kind of smell a little off.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: No, I just did my Fogel thing and I was like bye.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: Oh poor guy.
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: You couldn't just been like hey, man, you kind of, you know, you kind of smell and shit.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: Do guys appreciate that more?
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: If I was just straight up like like you know he's stinky, like I can't do this because I didn't want him to try and like make himself smell better, I was just like nah, I do think like when a woman says something, but like let's say you know the right place, right time, right.
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: You're not dogging them out in front of everyone, you're just you pull them to the side.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: I think we take it a little bit, a bit more like oh, dude girl, thank you, you know I'll work on that bitch.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: You know, as opposed to like damn motherfucker, you stank as hell, you rancid.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: You know For real, for real deadass, like it's better to do it in private than you know blasting him in front of everyone.
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: Ah, okay, yeah.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you should.
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: You should have Akari Fine.
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: Sorry, akari, let me ask you.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: I'm a little rancid.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: Oh, thank you.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: Thank you for not busting it.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: Let me ask you your partner right?
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: If he had a booger in his nose in public.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: What would you do?
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: I would just.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: Pick it for him.
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: I'm like I got you.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: That's love, that is love.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: I'd be like hold on, stop, I'll batter.
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: You just gotta make it romantic a little bit.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: Then it's not like how about if he had bad breath?
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: Would you Be like?
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: Or would you just be like, hey, you want some gum or a tic tac or some shit?
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: I'd be like mmm curry, I like that.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's your safe word, like he would know what.
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, I'm just kidding.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: I was like curry.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Ooh.
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: Ooh.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: How long have you guys been together for?
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: Three years.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: Three years.
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: Three years, yeah, okay.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: Are you open to marriage or are you happy?
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: Just the dynamic of what you guys are right now?
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: I'm open to it.
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: I feel like all girls romanticize that and I'm really at the point in my life where I want to build and he's definitely like he's got the same mindset like he wants to build.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: You know, we have, we have a child and we want to raise him right and teach him about love and yeah.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's cute.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: What's one thing he did to like say to get you, you know, like make you think like, hey, this dude is a he's a pretty straight edge fellow.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: You know, I might give him some of my time.
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: He, just he was persistent.
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: He was persistent.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: Oh, okay, persistent, okay.
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: So if he wasn't persistent, it wouldn't have gone nowhere, because would you have chased him too, or no?
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: I don't think I was actually looking for a relationship when we met, so I would have just kept my head just on music.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah.
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: I was like I was on Tinder for like a year during COVID.
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: It was the worst fucking experience ever and I was like, yeah, I'm done, I'm done with this shit.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: I'm just going to, like, do my thing and do music and yeah, speaking of Tinder, there he is Poof, there he is, there he is.
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: Um speaking of tinder, uh, give me an experience on, like, why you hated it.
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: What made it so un akari-esque?
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: well, first of all, let me clarify why I was on there in the first place.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: My little sister, who is my little sister, was on it and I was like, what the fuck are you doing on this app?
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, maybe it's okay for me to be on it because she's on it.
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: She's way younger than me.
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: I was like, what's this all about?
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: What are you on on here?
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: But I think what I didn't like about it is it felt like everyone was expendable.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: You know, mm-hmm, yeah, like it didn't feel like I was actually talking to humans.
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: I was just the next thing like on the app.
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like everyone had an expiration date on Tinder.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and there was always the next one, you know like if yeah and you didn't know in that way speaking to old school uh, how did you and your partner meet?
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: he slid in my dms on instagram On Instagram, but we met before then though.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: Apparently.
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: According to him, we had met and spoken before that.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: Oh, was he talking about like elementary school?
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: Like oh yeah, man, I was like right behind you in science class, you know what I'm saying.
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: You talked to me and shit, now I'm here, baby, type of situation like right behind you in science class, you know I'm saying you talk to me and shit, now I'm, now I'm here baby type of situation we were actually no, we were actually um in battle of the bands at san jose state and his, his band went against my band.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: Uh-huh, I remember, um, his singers are the rapper and singer from his band I don don't remember him because I don't know, I was really shy, I didn't really go out of my way to talk to people or anything.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: When you were in this band, were you the lead singer or were you a guitarist, bass player?
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: What were you?
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I sang.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: So how were you shy if you have to sing?
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: I know right, it's so weird, it makes no sense, sense, I don't know it doesn't miss akari, it doesn't I really have to put myself out there.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was really fucking shy like way back then.
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: I'm a lot different now, I think really what?
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: what's what's switched, because I was a shy kid as well.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: What switched to where Akari's more confident and ready to be outspoken?
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: What changed?
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: I think just like my self-esteem and like just you know, building that up like in myself, yeah, yeah, I used to like really care was how I was perceived, you know.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: But now I'm just like I don't care, like if you think I'm weird or you don't like me, like yeah yeah oh, um, I think because I was shy, I think when I started playing basketball heavy and when I started like just break dancing in the hallways, I think that's when, like, my confidence started getting up there, because, of course, basketball you are in front of, like your school, so you have to I guess, guess perform at your greatest right right and then with breaking, it's like you're by yourself.
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: So it's if you fuck up, you fuck up.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: If you do good, you do good.
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: So it's like I think that was my confidence booster and where you know what fuck what these motherfuckers start thinking.
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: You know like I could do this and they can't fuck what these motherfuckers are thinking you know like I could do this and they can't.
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: I'm finna like go ham, you know.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: Oh, so you break dams.
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: I did.
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I girl.
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: Let me tell you back in the day I went to any better time battle motherfuckers yeah I had cyphers like that at indie yeah, like back in the day, yeah, and then um, remember when, uh, so you think not, so you think yeah, um, so you think you can dance and fucking um, was it?
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: What's that thing that's on mtv?
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: Uh, america's next best when that shit was popping, like that's when I started, uh you know, dancing like I used to uh dance with, uh uh, mvp San Jose you ever heard of, or VIP San Jose okay, yeah, yeah, I used to like, I used to take classes, like over there, and then, um, and then when uh, funks was popping up in Frisco, I took classes up there too.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: so that whole fad, like I was whole dancing, I was in that dancing, oh wow Like heavy yeah.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: Were you in a dance crew.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was actually yeah.
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: What was your crew name?
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: So I was into two.
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: One was INR, it's called Infamous Night Rockers and Choreology.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: Choreology.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so, so, yeah, and then yeah, so, uh, yeah, and I trained with like, and I trained, I watched all these other dance crews, like you know, the company grv um cookies and everything like I watched them all through up and down.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: You know cali, when world of dance was popping.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, I used to do all that shit when I used to live in Cali before I joined the Army.
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: Oh, wow, cool, Cool.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: Little background on you.
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: I know, right Cool.
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: Oh, thank you I love dancer energy.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: Oh word, could you tell, I have that.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, if you don't mind me asking.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, a little bit.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: Stop Kind of I think it's the hand movement oh, or I play piano, I don't know.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's funny.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, in your band, right?
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: Was this like punk or were you playing alternative right?
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, was this like punk or were you playing alternative music?
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what was?
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: alternative.
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like alternative rock type shit what type shit Not a lot of female-fronted Asian people were doing that at that time.
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: Uh-huh, yeah, oh, that's cool, are you still?
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: with these bands Like are these members like on your team still, or you guys?
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: Excuse me, you guys drifted and did your own thing.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: Oh, we're also friends, like we're family you know, mm-hmm, yeah, some of them are musicians Tim, our old guitar player, he just won a Grammy.
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: Musicians Tim, our old guitar player, he just won a Grammy.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: Yes, wow, good for him.
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: I know right, I'm so proud, I'm so proud.
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: He's from San Jose, like from our neighborhood, and he won a Grammy.
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: You know, that's so fucking dope.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: You're next, akari, you're next.
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: I'm going to manifest it, I'm going to say it to the world Akari is going to get a Grammy.
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: Hey, you said it here first.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: Hey, hey, oh my gosh, if they do a documentary on you like years, years, years now.
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: I want them to pull up this old podcast and be like oh yeah.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: And then they interview me, I'll be like man, I knew she had it.
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: Crispy lumpia.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, lumpia, lumpia.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: Uh, yeah, lumpia, it's.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, I'm like yeah, man, you know I knew akari when she only had one kid um, she wasn't even married.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: She wasn't even married yet.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: You know, she was just coming from a photo shoot.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: You know I'm saying we were just we're just chopping it up, shooting the shit, that's talking about independence, high silver creek independence.
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, talking about Independence, high Silver.
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: Creek.
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: Talking about Independence yep Eastside.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: Talking- about bands in Nickel City.
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: Actually, my band did play there at the birthday room.
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: Really yeah.
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: Did y'all do cover songs or did you have original songs for your bands?
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: We did both because that was like the beginning of the YouTube era, kind of Uh-huh yeah.
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: So we did covers, but we also put out originals.
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: Are you on the tube?
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: Is it under Akari?
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: No, it's a different name.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: What's the name?
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: We were April Chase.
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: April Chase, just regular spelling April.
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: Chase Yep, yep, yep.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: Huh.
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: Yep, yep.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: Okay, why didn't everyone continue in the band?
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: Was there something that made y'all split up, or y'all just wanted to do y'all's own thing?
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: We were really young, you know, we didn't fucking know.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: We were honestly like a garage band that ended up getting paid and playing shows and we played like a Warped Tour show and we were just I don't think we knew the business part of it as much, even though we were trying.
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: And then yeah, it's a Bay Area like you just got to have a job.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Facts you want, girl, you, you, a Bay Area, like you just got to have a job.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, facts, girl, you ain't lying.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: Miss San Jose.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: Let me ask you is San Jose, is it?
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: Is the Winchester house still there?
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, good, yeah Because before I left there was like talks of it like getting shut down or whatever, because it's like right near the highway, right.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: Not so much.
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: It's on Winchester Road.
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: Kind of close to the highway, yeah, I guess.
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like they wanted to like tear it down to make more highway or something.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: I forgot the back story, but before I left, left I remember them saying that they were trying to like tear that motherfucker down that's wild.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: I can't even imagine that thing being down.
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: I think it's like haunted and shit right oh my gosh, it is haunted, it is.
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: I love that part of no mobile shit.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: I'm into that shit so I wouldn't go there if I knew the way.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: Are you kidding me?
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: No, I live really close to it actually oh.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to do their night tour on Halloween.
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: Oh right.
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: I would love to do that.
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: Are you into that stuff?
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: Huh, I think a lot of Filipinos are Into like the paranormal.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah.
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: Oh, like the aswang and the anting-anting, huh.
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: And fucking the white lady.
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, don't even talk about the white lady, because I've seen one in the philippines growing up tell me that story.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: I want to hear it but why is it?
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: it's just I don't know if this is gonna like get me canceled for thinking that like a white lady is terrifying you know what we'll say.
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: Disclaimer right now, we ain't talking about your race, we're just talking about a motherfucking lady in a white dress.
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: So if you're listening to this shit and you're getting offended, we're talking about a paranormal ghost that wears a white sheet with black hair and she is not white.
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: Slash Caucasian.
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: Get that shit out your butt All right, there you go.
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: Go ahead, Not white, yeah, yeah, I'm not scared of white people Fuck no, hell, no, pasty ass motherfuckers man.
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: No, oh my gosh.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: No, I go on their head man, I go motherfucking putting raisins in fucking potato salad.
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: Who does that shit?
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: That's a weird combination, you know.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: You know, putting mayo with everything.
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: No, I'm sorry, Mom, but tell me about the white lady.
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: I want to know.
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: I want to know.
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I saw a white lady and a capre at our old house in the philippines it's like the really really tall guy apparently that like lives in the trees.
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: I don't know is that the one where he's supposed to be smoking a cigar?
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: that's him right yeah, isn't that weird, that's like, it's so specific.
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: But multiple people, like all over the Philippines, have seen this exact same capre man thing, you know.
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: I don't know if it's because, like, we're really close to the equator, that just there's just weird shit going on in the Philippines all the time.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: Girl, one of my homeboys.
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: He lived in the Philippines, you know, for like a good seven to nine years and he would say and he lived in the Philippines and he lived in Japan and they're semi close together.
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: Was he born here?
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: Was he born here.
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: No, he was born overseas.
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay, okay.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: So he was living in Philippines because his dad was stationed there.
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: Living in Philippines because his dad was stationed there and for the seven to nine years a lot of paranormal things was happening in his home.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: And then you know how Japan is close by, he would go to Japan and Japan.
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: He loved Japan.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: Nothing happened there.
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: So he honestly believes that it's just like you know how the Philippines is like super religious, right.
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: So if they're all praying for some good stuff, of course some bad stuff you know, I guess what's that word Some bad stuff do exist because you know like they're praying and shit.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: So he honestly believes that it's just a fight of like good and bad.
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: But the bad is like winning for some reason because of all these religious people praying and shit.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: So the bad is like for some reason, because of all these religious people praying and shit.
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: So the bad is like oh yeah, you know what.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: You keep on praying.
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: I'm motherfucking here, let's test your faith, type of bullshit.
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: So yeah, maybe yeah, or maybe because they, we are.
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: So it's such a religious country that the first thing you think would be like oh, it's a fucking demon.
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: Right, I don't know, I can't explain it.
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: I really believe it's like just something about being close to the equator.
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: Like there's just weird shit going on in like that middle realm.
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: You know, like maybe that's where, like everything comes together, do you?
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: believe in the paranormal, like that.
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: I can't say I don't believe in it, but I also can't say I do believe in it 100%.
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: There's some shit that I just can't explain.
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: That's happened and that's all I know.
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to say I like I believe or not.
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: Does it give you goosebumps just saying it, or are you like you get the heebie-jeebies girl?
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: I do, I do, and in the Philippines it's like it's very, very enhanced, like here in the US.
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: Like I don't I'm not as, like I don't get as many weird tingly feelings.
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: But over there all the time.
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: Oh, fuck, yeah, Like the Encanto shit.
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: I believe that's real.
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: I think that's real.
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: Like the ones that live in the trees and stuff like the spirits, because there's so much more like trees and you know over there, yeah.
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: How about Duendes?
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: Do you believe in those little motherfuckers?
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: so I've heard so many stories about that, about like people from here that don't even know what the duende is and they would step on like the mound or whatever and just have all these like ailments and sicknesses that can't be cured by doctors.
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: I how do you explain that?
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: You know, oh, you know, what Funny story my cousin, he was playing by one of these mounds in the Philippines when he was like super young, I'm going to say, I'm going to say like in between the ages of like seven and 10, right, he was playing near these mounds and then the next day he had all these like uh, they look like, um, is this cyrus?
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: No, oh, cyrus, no, uh, what is that?
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: Eczema?
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: Okay, eczema or psoriasis, is that?
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: right, am I saying all right yeah he had all these psoriasis thingies on his body and we're like what the fuck is that?
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: And then his mom would tell us, like yo, he was fucking around some little, um duende mountain, and that's how he got that shit.
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: And I was like bruh, I ain't ever fucking with no little mounds, you know I'm saying, but till this day he, I mean he still has it, but he lives in minnesota right now and it's um, I guess it's inflamed by the, by the weather, so the cold, like, I guess it doesn kill it, but it doesn't inflame it as much.
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: But throughout, like from you know, when he was young, till you know he's like late 30s now, he had this all over his body.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: So I remember there's this one year where he went back to the Philippines.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: His aunt took him to one of them Um, I don't want to say Bruja, but it's like yeah, yeah, One of them witch doctors and he came home and that shit was like damn, you're fucking gone.
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: Right yeah.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: And then his dumb ass went back another year and then that shit came back.
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my God, another year and then that shit came back and I'm like, oh my god, dude, what the fuck are you?
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: I was like, dude, what the fuck are you doing?
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, so I really believe in that shit, like the whole little dwarf mountain where, um, uh, bad things happen to you when you're like either step on the mound, near the mound or whatever like that stuff.
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: I honestly believe and I was like, oh my gosh, and like he was living proof of that well, yeah, I was taught as a kid to always apologize, like say sorry, never point at trees, apparently okay, I never heard that one.
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: If you point at a tree.
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: You gotta like bite your finger.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: You never heard of that for real well, because like a spirit could like marry you or put a ring on you or something, and like attach themselves to you wow, yeah, bro, I'm finna.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: Go on youtube or, like you know, the filipino channel, and look up like movies of fingers and getting rings on it and seeing if there's like a movie on that, because, dude, I'm super interested in that shit.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: Tell me another folklore or another fucking, uh, philippine superstition shit.
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: My grandpa.
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: He lived in Pateros and, like he, he lived like by an elog or whatever, and um, their family was very poor so they went to like witch doctors.
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: But um, he told me the story of like one of his friends it was, it was another mound story where they like had gotten a lump and gotten really sick and the way that the witch doctor, or the albolario, cured him was like they put a mirror on like the lump on his back, prayed on it and the albolario was like okay, when this mirror falls off and breaks, that means like the curse is gone.
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: And that's exactly what happened.
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: They put the mirror.
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: It just stuck on their back, fell, cracked after like a couple days and the lump was gone.
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: So fucking weird, I don't know.
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: I don't know how to explain this shit.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: Wow, akari.
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: Um, you and I could be talking for hours about this shit, because I'm like oh, I know I got so many, maybe next time yeah, next time dude girl.
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: Oh my god you know what my grandpa's got?
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: all the stories but I love, I love like oh my gosh, the old people of the philippines.
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: Because I love, like, I love open, because in hawaii there's a lot, there's a lot of ilokanos here, right oh yeah and um, girl, I'd be chopping it up with, like the old folks, because you know I could, I could kind of speak the dialect, like, but when I speak it it's all Ilocano, tagalog and Bisaya, it's all jumbled.
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: So they laugh at me because I'm like trying, but yeah, I understand what they're saying.
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: You know like 100%.
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh shit, for real, oh man, no way, you know.
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: So yeah, I know, come on.
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: So yeah, I, yeah, I know, oh, but it's uh, it's crazy because, like, I do really chop it up with these, you know with.
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: You know nanas and shit.
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: So yeah, they're so.
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: They're so fucking cool, and like the stories that they say about growing up in the, you know, in the province, I'm like, wow, you know just I just I love it.
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: I love it, maybe it's because I love history, you know me too.
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: It's.
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: It's very, very interesting.
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: It's just the things that you can't explain, that aren't written in books.
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: That's why it's so interesting to me um akari, before we dip.
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: Uh, what else interests uh you?
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: that's such a weird question.
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: Um, okay, I'll spit, I'll spit something, and then, uh, be quick with the answer, all right okay um cooking yes, that was like a question, I was like yes I just want to get better at it, okay, okay.
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: What interests you?
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: Okay writing, for sure, yeah, Because you like writing.
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: Okay reading yes, what kind of books.
• 56:19
  Speaker 2: Recently, actually just yesterday, kenny's mom Let Me Borrow you.
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: I haven't read it, but Is it a mystery novel or is it like a non-fiction?
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, or it's.
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: You know that Netflix show show you it's like based on that um he's like a stalker or something oh no.
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: So you like, you like books like that, like um thrillers I like greek mythology a lot.
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: Oh shit, Okay yeah.
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: Okay, that's, do you believe?
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: Okay?
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: So I like the Viking, I'm into like that Viking whole era.
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: Have you seen the Last Kingdom?
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh yes.
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: Yes, I did.
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: That's my shit Is that the one with my name's Uhtred son of Uhtred, son of Uhtred, fuck yeah.
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: Dude and Vikings too, like Bjorn.
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: And Ragnar, oh my gosh.
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know why I love Vikings in just that whole era.
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: Right, oh my, we got a lot of things in common, miss Ikari.
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, man, I'm glad.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's because we're from California.
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a Cali thing you know I know right?
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh Shit.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: Miss Akari, that was fun.
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: I wish we could go on.
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: You know more tangents and shit.
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: Do you have any shout outs and where can these people find you at?
• 57:50
  Speaker 2: I am everywhere.
• 57:50
  Speaker 2: I'm on pretty much all the socials.
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: Ew, akari, you better get your ass on.
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: Ew, ooh Ooh, still recording.
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I am technical difficulties, everyone.
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: Akari's computer died.
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: I'm actually on a messenger right now.
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: I'm like yo, your computer died, get your ass back on the on your cell phone.
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: So that's what we're doing right now.
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you for listening to this shit.
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: I do appreciate y'all.
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: I cuss a lot, so thank you for bearing with me and I do hope you love and enjoy.
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: You know the guests that I have on here and the topics that are you you know on here as well.
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: Um, what else, uh, do I gotta say?
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: Uh, dude, kudos to y'all for tuning in every week, watching, following, giving me topics and questions, for you know my guests to answer and also me to like ponder on.
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, I do appreciate y'.
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: You know my guests to answer and also me to like ponder on.
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, I do appreciate y'all, you know.
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: Thank you, so much.
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: As of right now, we're waiting for Akari to come back on.
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: Oh, there she is.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she a loser as hell too, but your phone quality look good though.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: Okay, cool, cool, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, so your computer died was.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: Is it a macbook?
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: Yes, hp, all day I'm just playing.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 2: I used to do that.
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: Now hp, android, oh no, I got an iphone, so I mean shit, it's so easy.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: It's's so easy to continue what we were saying.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: Where can these people find you at, and do you have any like shoutouts for them or anything?
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: oh yeah yeah.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 2: You can find me on all the socials under aparimusic and I'm coming out with a new song with my friend Jaya.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna sing a song.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna sing my hook in Tagalog, so I'll put that out for that.
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: I got more songs coming Another one, hey, and do you understand the Tagalog?
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: Do you understand what you're saying?
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I grew up there.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm just playing.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: I was just hoping to get something out of it.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: I was just playing, I'm just playing, I'm playing, I'm playing.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: I was, I was just hoping to get something out of it.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: I was just playing.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: Well, akari, hey man, you've been a lovely guest.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: Um, shout out to oh, you're very welcome.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: You're very welcome.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: Uh, shout out to KO Studios.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: Thank you for the lovely home.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: Rafi Bite, thank you for the lovely vibe and with that,