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Feminine Energy 👑 with Megsy · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Apoday production.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, guys, welcome back to Grow and Today.
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  Speaker 3: We have got Megsie here again and we're going to
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  Speaker 3: be talking about all things feminine energy, which is a
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  Speaker 3: topic I feel like so many women are so interested
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  Speaker 3: in and wanting.
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  Speaker 5: To lean more into. So I'm so excited to.
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  Speaker 6: Have you here today, me too. Thank you for having me.
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  Speaker 1: This is a topic I feel like you're really passionate
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  Speaker 1: about talking about, Like it lights you up.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, I love it. It's just like makes me down.
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  Speaker 6: Getting yummy.
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  Speaker 1: The word yummy or is reminded of you something's juicy
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  Speaker 1: and yummy.
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  Speaker 4: You know, It's like Oh.
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  Speaker 6: That's it.
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  Speaker 4: Let's get strained into it.
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  Speaker 1: In your own words, how do you describe what feminine
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  Speaker 1: energy is.
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  Speaker 6: It's definitely an energy, it's a vibe, it's a feeling.
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  Speaker 6: I would describe it as slowness and softness a lot
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  Speaker 6: of the time receiving well beautiful, but feminine energy can
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  Speaker 6: also be that like fierce protector, mummy of her cubs,
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  Speaker 6: the wild woman, the warrior woman. And you know, I
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  Speaker 6: think the best way that I help people understand what
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  Speaker 6: feminine energy is is by helping them drop into it
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  Speaker 6: and so they can feel it, which you guys like
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  Speaker 6: a quick little oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, yes, everyone can and join.
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  Speaker 6: Us in our home, join us if it's safe for
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  Speaker 6: you to do so. Andvite you to close down your eyes,
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  Speaker 6: start to take a few deep breaths in through your
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  Speaker 6: nose and out for your mouth, and I want you
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  Speaker 6: to envision the breath going all the way into your
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  Speaker 6: belly and softening your belly as it goes in. A
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  Speaker 6: lot of us are holding in our care most of
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  Speaker 6: the day. Hell out to soften in your belly and
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  Speaker 6: feel the breath going deep into your reproductive organs down
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  Speaker 6: to your yonie and just connecting with all of these
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  Speaker 6: parts inside of you. And as you ex how allow
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  Speaker 6: any tension to release. You can even sigh if you like,
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  Speaker 6: and just think about all things juicy and yummy your
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  Speaker 6: life and you think that brings you pleasure and enjoy, playfulness, receiving,
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  Speaker 6: whether it be love or anything else. And when you're ready,
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  Speaker 6: come back to your normal breathing and just.
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  Speaker 7: Wiggle your hips a little. You can just move them slowly,
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  Speaker 7: slide to side, coming back into the space that you are,
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  Speaker 7: wherever it is that you are, and you can open
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  Speaker 7: your eyes.
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  Speaker 6: How do you feel?
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  Speaker 1: That's such a nice start to this. I always think
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  Speaker 1: of the word flowy when I think of feminine energy,
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  Speaker 1: like she's soft, flowy, she adapts. Well, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, So I think feminine energy can be all of
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  Speaker 6: these things. But when people talk about wanting to tap
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  Speaker 6: more into their feminine energy or I'm running a lot
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  Speaker 6: in my masculine I think this is that feeling that
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  Speaker 6: they're wanting to tap into. When you know, spaciousness, lowness, breath,
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  Speaker 6: they're the things that help us feel into that. It's
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  Speaker 6: within all of us, whether you're male, female, Feminine energy,
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  Speaker 6: it's a part of us, and yeah, we get to
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  Speaker 6: allow ourselves to feel into it more So that's I guess,
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  Speaker 6: in a nutshell I describe it.
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  Speaker 3: Why do you think so many women this day and
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  Speaker 3: age struggle to tap into their feminine energy.
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  Speaker 6: I think a big part of it that just stands
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  Speaker 6: out to me after what I've just said, is that
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  Speaker 6: we live in such a hustle culture and our society
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  Speaker 6: has We're both like society has us just wearing all
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  Speaker 6: of the hats, juggling all the things.
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  Speaker 1: Motherhood were praising it too, Like you wear a gold
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  Speaker 1: medal if you're doing all of that.
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  Speaker 6: It's put on a pedestal. If you're doing all these things.
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  Speaker 6: And new mothers are, you know, needing to get back
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  Speaker 6: to work straight away. They're not being supported by tribe
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  Speaker 6: around them and other women, and we're just out there,
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  Speaker 6: got to do it on our own. And the next
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  Speaker 6: reason kind of flows into that is that I think
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  Speaker 6: over generations, as women we've almost had to fight for
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  Speaker 6: rights and flipped things on its head because men have
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  Speaker 6: kind of held the power for so long and we're
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  Speaker 6: now like, I'm an independent woman and I want to
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  Speaker 6: earn the money and I want this level that in
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  Speaker 6: this position, and we deserve more pay. And you know,
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  Speaker 6: all of these things has kind of put us into
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  Speaker 6: our masculine to fight for these rights and this power.
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  Speaker 6: So I think that some of the main reasons.
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  Speaker 1: Why we obviously carry both our masculine and our feminine
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  Speaker 1: energy at all times. How do you teach women to
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  Speaker 1: be able to embody both because I know when I
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  Speaker 1: talk about this on social media and I say in
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  Speaker 1: a way that like, oh, i feel like I'm running
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  Speaker 1: more of my masculine and I'm go, go go, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm deadlines and it just doesn't.
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  Speaker 4: Feel as good.
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  Speaker 1: I get quite a lot of pushback that they think
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  Speaker 1: I'm putting down the masculine energy. But both energies, in
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  Speaker 1: my opinion, are really really important. And my masculine energy
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  Speaker 1: really serves me in my work life and it's super
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  Speaker 1: important and it's beautiful. I love my masculine energy, but
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  Speaker 1: I also love my feminine I just know at my core,
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  Speaker 1: I'm more feminine. So when I'm running more of my
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  Speaker 1: masculine I don't feel as good. So how do you
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  Speaker 1: help encourage and teach people to embody both energies.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, that's such a good question, and it's so interesting
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  Speaker 6: that you get pushback on that because you know this
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  Speaker 6: is your experience and you're finding that in a certain moment,
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  Speaker 6: let's say at the end of the day, you're wanting
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  Speaker 6: to connect with your partner that being in more in
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  Speaker 6: that masculine doing and getting things done kind of mode
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  Speaker 6: isn't quite serving you here. And that's really beautiful that
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  Speaker 6: you've got that when and so you're absolutely right, like
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  Speaker 6: we've got both within us and both serve us. You know,
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  Speaker 6: we want to be able to think logistically and have
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  Speaker 6: structure and be givers and doers. And these are more
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  Speaker 6: what I would call like masculine energy traits. So I
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  Speaker 6: think the way that you get to look at this
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  Speaker 6: is kind of like a sliding scale, So say, feminine
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  Speaker 6: energies on one end and masculine energies on the other.
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  Speaker 6: It's like a mixer on like a DJ turntable or something,
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  Speaker 6: and you get to kind of play with the mix
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  Speaker 6: of it, and you know, what does this situation now
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  Speaker 6: need of me? Do I need to be a little
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  Speaker 6: bit more here or there? And where can I recognize
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  Speaker 6: the button? The slider's kind of stuck here in this
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  Speaker 6: point And maybe for some people they might be finding
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  Speaker 6: that I'm too much in my feminine flow. I'm too
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  Speaker 6: easy going, I'm not.
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  Speaker 1: Really achieving my goals, like working towards them exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I find too that the more I tap into
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  Speaker 3: feminine energy, the easier I find it. I feel like
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  Speaker 3: now I'm finding it a lot easier than I did, say,
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  Speaker 3: like six months ago, when I first started tapping into it.
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  Speaker 3: So I thought, maybe you could give a few tips
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  Speaker 3: of different ways that women can try to tap more
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  Speaker 3: into this energy.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah. Number one that comes to mind is slowing down.
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  Speaker 6: And when I say slowing down, some people are like,
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  Speaker 6: oh my god, I don't have enough time in the day.
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  Speaker 6: But literally, it's internally and it can be taking three
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  Speaker 6: D rests like we just did. It didn't take us
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  Speaker 6: much time at all, and you just get to kind
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  Speaker 6: of find some inner calm and slowness within yourself that
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  Speaker 6: helps you feel safe in your body. Because again, to
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  Speaker 6: be able to drop more into your feminine or tap
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  Speaker 6: more into it, you need to be able to feel
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  Speaker 6: safe in your body. And so you know, if you
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  Speaker 6: think about it, in like cave man days, the man
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  Speaker 6: was the protector and he's out there hunting and the
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  Speaker 6: women kind of tending to the children, and you know
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  Speaker 6: she needs to be protected in that so she can
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  Speaker 6: mother and she can just focus on that. So when
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  Speaker 6: we're talking about the energy of that, if we are
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  Speaker 6: always on high alert and we're like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 6: I need to get this and this and this done,
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  Speaker 6: it makes it harder for us to tap into it.
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  Speaker 6: So finding slowness and stillness within yourself to be able
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  Speaker 6: to soften and drop more into your feminine Second tip
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  Speaker 6: that I often give is having a look at how
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  Speaker 6: you're feeling what are you wearing now? What you're wearing
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  Speaker 6: doesn't determine what energy you're going to drop into. I
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  Speaker 6: could be running around in active wear and be able
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  Speaker 6: to drop into my feminine energy, right, But we have
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  Speaker 6: kind of associated clothing with feminine and masculine. So if
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  Speaker 6: you think that pinks and reds, or like soft silky materials,
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  Speaker 6: or a skirt and a dress, like if that to
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  Speaker 6: you is more feminine, have a look. Are you getting
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  Speaker 6: around most of your day inactive wear or suits when
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  Speaker 6: you're more in a masculine world, or what are you
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  Speaker 6: wearing and at the end of the night, can you
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  Speaker 6: pop something on that feels more feminine and It's just
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  Speaker 6: like a little marker, a little QueQue yeah, for you
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  Speaker 6: to be able to drop in. It's not like wearing
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  Speaker 6: this makes you more feminine or gives you feminine energy,
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  Speaker 6: but it's just a little mental yeah cute.
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  Speaker 4: I absolutely love that because that is so true for me.
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  Speaker 4: Like I think of.
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  Speaker 1: Florals, I don't wear florals often all like flowy dresses
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  Speaker 1: and skirts because I live in active wear and I
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  Speaker 1: love working out. It's always active wear. So that tip
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  Speaker 1: that you taught me was life changing, even at nighttime.
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  Speaker 1: It was like I used to wear Steve's oversized shirt
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  Speaker 1: to bed, and yes, that's so comfortable and great when
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  Speaker 1: I'm tanning, but swapping that to a silky lacy ninety
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  Speaker 1: or I wear a lot of robes now, and robes
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  Speaker 1: are so comfortable. I just feel so feminine and cozy
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  Speaker 1: and soft and like nice in them. And then even
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  Speaker 1: you teach a lot about this too, but just instead
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  Speaker 1: of just whacking on your skincare, like actually sitting down
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  Speaker 1: in front of a mirror and taking your time applying
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  Speaker 1: and like touching your body with your body oils and
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  Speaker 1: your skin care. That's just so nice to Once again,
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  Speaker 1: it slows you down, it connects with your body and
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  Speaker 1: it just helps bring more of that beautiful energy into
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  Speaker 1: your day to day.
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  Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be hard to do this.
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  Speaker 1: It's fine in those little micro moments that add up
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  Speaker 1: over time and help you feel like that more often.
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  Speaker 1: Then it becomes more natural too, because anyone listening might
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  Speaker 1: be thinking like, oh, I'm so busy, I can't do that,
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  Speaker 1: And it might feel really uncomfortable when you first start
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  Speaker 1: doing it, but it's like anything, the more that you
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  Speaker 1: do it, the more practice you do, the better you
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  Speaker 1: get at it, and the more natural it does feel,
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  Speaker 1: and then you'll enjoy it more.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Absolutely, And I'm a big one for especially with mammas
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  Speaker 6: and busy mammas, giving those like little five minute quick Yes,
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  Speaker 6: it's like this work doesn't have to be hours long
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  Speaker 6: of breath work to create shift, you know, and even
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  Speaker 6: just choosing floral underwear to wear if it's not like
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  Speaker 6: your full entire outfit for the day, or there's nothing
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  Speaker 6: that you think is femine that you want to wear,
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  Speaker 6: you know, and yeah, you're right, it starts to feel easier.
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  Speaker 6: And I think that was such a cool point that
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  Speaker 6: you made as well about it. Getting easier for you because,
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  Speaker 6: like we said before, being in your masculine, being in
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  Speaker 6: the hustle, it's been so pedestaled and so so the
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  Speaker 6: good girl in us all wants to be doing these things,
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  Speaker 6: so it can feel hard. And I've had clients come
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  Speaker 6: to me and be like, how can I drop more
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  Speaker 6: into my feminine energy? But I'm scared that I'll lose
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  Speaker 6: this other part of me. I'm scared that the hustle
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  Speaker 6: and the thing that gets things done, or this part
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  Speaker 6: of my personality everyone loves the like tomboy girl or
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  Speaker 6: you know, like this part of me, I'm frad off, Yeah,
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  Speaker 6: losing her. And that's where I get to tell you
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  Speaker 6: that it's all gets to be a part of you.
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  Speaker 6: When it's just in this situation. What's best going to
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  Speaker 6: serve me? And do I need to play with that
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  Speaker 6: little mixer? How can I do it? What's a tool
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  Speaker 6: to help me tap into it?
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to be in a box, right, And
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  Speaker 1: I think different seasons like anything like if you're just
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  Speaker 1: if you just had a baby, you're in a more
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  Speaker 1: feminine season and era where you are slowing down and
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  Speaker 1: you've got lots of skin to skin and breastfeeding, being
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  Speaker 1: with your baby the whole time, or I know you've
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  Speaker 1: kind of come out of all of that and you've
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  Speaker 1: been more leaning into your self development and focusing on
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  Speaker 1: your business. Like there's different seasons where you might sway
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  Speaker 1: more into your masculine, sway more into your feminine, and
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  Speaker 1: honor those and acknowledge them and enjoy them and be
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  Speaker 1: proud of that. You can take the different hats off
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  Speaker 1: when you need to, but it does take practice if
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  Speaker 1: you've been running more in one to be able.
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  Speaker 4: To tap into the other.
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  Speaker 1: Yep, I'd love to dive into relationship dynamics because I
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  Speaker 1: feel like anyone who's listening who's in a relationship, and
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  Speaker 1: it's something just I see a lot in a lot
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  Speaker 1: of forums that I'm in and just talking to a
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  Speaker 1: lot of friends. I suppose in relationships that what happens
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  Speaker 1: when the dynamic is both in their masculine or both
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  Speaker 1: in their feminine, or say the feminine goes into her
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  Speaker 1: masculine a lot, and then the masculine drops into is feminine,
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  Speaker 1: and then it's like that polarity has really shifted, and
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  Speaker 1: then that can really affect the relationship. Resentment starts to
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  Speaker 1: build up, especially if they don't know how to communicate
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  Speaker 1: all of that, Like, could you talk more about how
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  Speaker 1: to bring them together in an intimate relationship.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, that's such a good question, because obviously we
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  Speaker 6: want to be attracting to each other, we want those
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  Speaker 6: magnets the polarity to be there. I think that one
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  Speaker 6: thing I would love to add to this whole conversation
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  Speaker 6: is just reminding you that to be able to drop
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  Speaker 6: into your feminine, you do need to feel safe. So
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  Speaker 6: if you're in a season where let's say there's financial
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  Speaker 6: troubles or you're trying to move house, or like you're
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  Speaker 6: trying to get a business up and running, that is
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  Speaker 6: feeling like, oh my gosh, I need to make this work,
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  Speaker 6: and you're dropping more into your masculine. So true, and
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  Speaker 6: it's going to take a lot more work to be
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  Speaker 6: able to drop into your feminine. And if this is
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  Speaker 6: new to you, you're gonna be like, why can't I
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  Speaker 6: do it? Like this is so hard. Nurturing your nervous
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  Speaker 6: system is going to be the first step, and just
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  Speaker 6: recognizing what is going on here in my entire universe,
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  Speaker 6: in my entire internal world, and zooming it back out
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  Speaker 6: that This isn't like a meat and you problem, you know,
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  Speaker 6: like you and your partner and how are you a
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  Speaker 6: team here with this? And where you guys are rat
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  Speaker 6: if there's nothing major going on and you're just finding that, Yeah,
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  Speaker 6: our energies are you know, he's a lot more in
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  Speaker 6: his femine. I'm a lot more of my masculine. You
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  Speaker 6: get to have a look at how has things been
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  Speaker 6: playing out the past six months, the past six years,
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  Speaker 6: whatever it might be. Have you been leaning back, dropping
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  Speaker 6: into your feminine, opening your heart and allowing him to
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  Speaker 6: step into his masculine and to be more receiving to
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  Speaker 6: that when he tries to make plans or he is
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  Speaker 6: driving the car, are you quick to give directions? Are
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  Speaker 6: you quick to take control? And just there gets to
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  Speaker 6: be self reflection on this and where can you maybe
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  Speaker 6: start to shift and change some of these things and
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  Speaker 6: how you're showing up with your energy And the reason
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  Speaker 6: why I lead here is because you can't go and
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  Speaker 6: change your partner. You can also have conversations and talk
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  Speaker 6: about your wants and needs and where you're at and
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  Speaker 6: where you think the relationship's at. But even if there's
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  Speaker 6: work for him to do, you can't force him, you
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  Speaker 6: can't make so it's easiest just to start with how
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  Speaker 6: am I showing up? You know? And this isn't to
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  Speaker 6: bring any shame or guilt to you. This is just
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  Speaker 6: to have inquiry, get curious. Yeah, you know, like, how
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  Speaker 6: am I playing with this polarity field between us? And
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  Speaker 6: am I doing it any justice? Am I doing any disservices?
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  Speaker 6: That would probably be the first tip I would give
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  Speaker 6: before even diving into full on conversations.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I absolutely love that because I think all of us,
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  Speaker 1: if we're being true to ourselves, there's definitely moments that
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  Speaker 1: we could drop into, you know, bossing them around or
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  Speaker 1: criticizing how they're doing something, and that in itself is
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  Speaker 1: just not going to do any good to your relationship.
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  Speaker 1: But like you said, it comes back to us regulating
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  Speaker 1: our own nervous system, getting back to our own body
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  Speaker 1: to be able to see clear on how we're showing
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  Speaker 1: up and how we can do things better. And yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there's no shame around it, because we all drop in
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  Speaker 1: there and we're human and humans are messy. But having
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  Speaker 1: the awareness and having conversations like this to have the
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  Speaker 1: knowledge around it, when you know more, you can do
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  Speaker 1: more So that's such a good step to just anyone
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  Speaker 1: listening to be like, oh, okay, I was just blaming
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: him for being too feminine, not taking charge and not
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: doing this. It's like, okay, well, how have I contributed
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  Speaker 1: to that? What can I do to sit back and
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: allow him to step into that? And how can I
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: be more feminine and soften and be open to receiving
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: such a good tip. Yeah, I love that for too.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: How you spoke about you need to feel safe to
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: tap into your feminine energy. Do you feel like that
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: kind of goes hand in hand as well with childhood trauma?
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: How he kind of spoke about in a child in
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: our previous episode. Can that affect us as well, tapping
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: into that energy more and kind of feel safer to
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: be the protector and.
• 17:41
  Speaker 5: Be looking after ourselves because we might not have had
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: that in our childhood.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, absolutely definitely, And that's exactly what I'm talking about,
• 17:49
  Speaker 6: feeling safe and at any given time, how safe you
• 17:52
  Speaker 6: feel in your body. Your childhood trauma or experiences in
• 17:56
  Speaker 6: the past is going to play such a big part
• 17:58
  Speaker 6: in that. So that's why this work is so layered
• 18:01
  Speaker 6: and so nuanced. It's like it all goes hand in hand,
• 18:05
  Speaker 6: and it all kind of connects to each other and
• 18:08
  Speaker 6: usually comes back to this inner child and past experiences
• 18:11
  Speaker 6: or past traumas. So getting to work and having a
• 18:15
  Speaker 6: look at and unpacking those things, having a look at
• 18:17
  Speaker 6: what the relationships were like with your father and your
• 18:21
  Speaker 6: first boyfriends and partners, and how you were treated and
• 18:25
  Speaker 6: where you might have got stuck in a flight of
• 18:27
  Speaker 6: fight mode from somewhere else. You know, I've experienced in
• 18:31
  Speaker 6: my own life being in a fight or flight response
• 18:35
  Speaker 6: in a situation with my partner and realizing this is
• 18:39
  Speaker 6: actually residual from a past relationship and I'm not dealing
• 18:43
  Speaker 6: with that same man. This is a different man I'm
• 18:45
  Speaker 6: dealing with. So I'm feeling all of this whatever, I'm
• 18:49
  Speaker 6: feeling this heightened state, and in the moment it's directed
• 18:52
  Speaker 6: at my partner. When you can take two seconds and
• 18:55
  Speaker 6: you can breathe, and you can stop and pause, you
• 18:58
  Speaker 6: can realize, actually, this is a lot of what I'm
• 19:00
  Speaker 6: feeling how I used to feel in this past relationship.
• 19:03
  Speaker 6: So this is mine, This is my own stuff, and
• 19:07
  Speaker 6: I get to work on that and come back to
• 19:10
  Speaker 6: the conversation or come back to the relationship. In a softer,
• 19:14
  Speaker 6: more open, more loving, more compassionate kind of state.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: I guess I love that because it's like, in the moment,
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: you have a choice there to step back and take
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: a breath and take responsibility and take your time. But
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: then in the biggest scheme of things, you also have
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: a choice to get a coach or you know, however,
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: you choose to do the work to unpack that stuff
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: so it doesn't have to keep showing up like that.
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, that's really powerful.
• 19:39
  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, that is the work. It's recognizing it in
• 19:43
  Speaker 6: the moments and seeing if you can do different. And
• 19:45
  Speaker 6: then also there's the feeling part of it, the back
• 19:48
  Speaker 6: end part of it, the heavy lifting part, so you can,
• 19:50
  Speaker 6: like you said, clear it and it doesn't keep repeating
• 19:53
  Speaker 6: with these things that we're like, oh this keeps happening,
• 19:55
  Speaker 6: or I keep I hold a grudgual day after we've
• 19:58
  Speaker 6: had an argument and why do I do that? And
• 20:00
  Speaker 6: why can't I change that? And next time I'll try better,
• 20:03
  Speaker 6: And you know, we try, and we try and try,
• 20:06
  Speaker 6: but until we clear the why we're doing it, it
• 20:09
  Speaker 6: can be difficult.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: It can be hard, and you know what, I love
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: that to taking it step back and I feel like
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: you've obviously got done a lot of this work, and
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: you've gotten really good.
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: At being able to just go hang on a second.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I just need some breath if you're not quite at
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: that point, because I know for me sometimes if I
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: get in a heated discussion with my husband, I'll need
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: a couple of hours. I don't like that saying it's like, oh,
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: I never go to bed angry, but sometimes you can
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: go to bed and just have the night to sleep
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: on it process. It takes some time out the next
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: day to get in the sun or journal or whatever.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: Take your time to regulate yourself before you go back
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: to the conversation, because otherwise you're going to go back
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: in reacting instead of responding, and you might go back
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: into that old pattern of then criticizing and mothering and
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: putting them down, rather than coming from a beautiful feminine
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: state which is more love and really soft energy and calm.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: I saw on your Instagram the other day you even
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: talking about nervous system regulation.
• 21:00
  Speaker 5: So much of this.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: Work all goes hand in hand, which I'm discovering which
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: I didn't really think. Like you hear of inner child work,
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: and then you hear of feminine energy. Then you hear
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: of regulating your nervous system. And for me personally, I
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: didn't actually realize in my mind that it all really
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: does work together.
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: It's so true.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Even like your physical, your mental, or emotion, your spiritual,
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: they're all interconnected and they all do this beautiful dance together.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: But for some reason we separate them. But they actually
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: all work so nicely together.
• 21:27
  Speaker 6: Yeah, we're such complex beings and our brains can't even
• 21:31
  Speaker 6: keep up, so it tries to compartmentalize everything and give
• 21:35
  Speaker 6: labels to things and box things in just to help
• 21:37
  Speaker 6: us cope with Like, Okay, I need to look here.
• 21:39
  Speaker 6: I need to look there, looking at our body and
• 21:43
  Speaker 6: our spirit and our energy and our emotions and our
• 21:47
  Speaker 6: being a lot of our nervous system, and the state
• 21:51
  Speaker 6: that we're in, whether we're in flight flight or if
• 21:54
  Speaker 6: we're more calm, or just however we be, how safe
• 21:57
  Speaker 6: we feel in our body, That is going to determine
• 22:01
  Speaker 6: what choices we make from there. That is going to
• 22:03
  Speaker 6: determine how triggered we are, going to determine how we're
• 22:06
  Speaker 6: able to be confident or have boundaries, and that is
• 22:09
  Speaker 6: going to be based on how we were treated as
• 22:11
  Speaker 6: a child, or what we're currently experiencing, what season of
• 22:15
  Speaker 6: life we're in. So a lot of it comes back
• 22:17
  Speaker 6: to nervous system and our past traumas. You know, why
• 22:21
  Speaker 6: we show up today, why we can or can't change
• 22:23
  Speaker 6: things or shift things, or why we're not going after
• 22:26
  Speaker 6: our dreams, or why we're feeling like we're just surviving
• 22:30
  Speaker 6: and not thriving. I think bringing it all back to
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: nervous system and seeing how it's all connected from there,
• 22:37
  Speaker 6: it's really powerful to recognize.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: That nervous system's almost like the foundation for everything though Hey, yeah,
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: kind of helps lead where you want to go, or
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: sometimes if you're not regulated, then it takes you where
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: you don't want to go.
• 22:49
  Speaker 6: Yeah, because then you're just you're unconscious, You're running around
• 22:53
  Speaker 6: and your body is making decisions based on how it feels,
• 22:56
  Speaker 6: rather than our cognitive mind being like actually I want
• 22:59
  Speaker 6: to do this, yes, Or have you ever said something
• 23:01
  Speaker 6: and being like, oh, I wish I didn't say that.
• 23:03
  Speaker 6: I was a bit heated in the moment, and it's
• 23:04
  Speaker 6: like your body is just in this sphere or projecting
• 23:07
  Speaker 6: and it's just doing. So we want to start to
• 23:10
  Speaker 6: learn to allow our minds to run the show and
• 23:13
  Speaker 6: our life and take that control. And that's why we
• 23:16
  Speaker 6: talk so much about pause and breath before we do,
• 23:19
  Speaker 6: because you're giving your brain a minute to go hold on,
• 23:22
  Speaker 6: this is how I want to react, or this is
• 23:24
  Speaker 6: how I want to have a situation. You've got choice exactly?
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Would you find that most women that you coach this
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: is something that they're struggling with. It's a pretty common
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: thing that you're dealing with.
• 23:35
  Speaker 6: Yeah, definitely, this is the root of it all. You know,
• 23:38
  Speaker 6: if someone is feeling stuck and they don't know what
• 23:41
  Speaker 6: their purpose in life is. I bring it back to
• 23:44
  Speaker 6: nervous system regulation because it's the more that you feel
• 23:47
  Speaker 6: safe in your body, the more you get to know it.
• 23:49
  Speaker 6: You get to know what do I like, what don't
• 23:52
  Speaker 6: I like before the world tells me. And because a
• 23:55
  Speaker 6: lot of us feel like, oh, I can't make that
• 23:57
  Speaker 6: decision because so and so will think this of me
• 23:59
  Speaker 6: or that of me, you're thinking so much outside of
• 24:01
  Speaker 6: yourself because you don't have the safety within to trust
• 24:05
  Speaker 6: yourself within. So, whether it's that or wanting to be
• 24:09
  Speaker 6: calm in parenthood and how you react to your children,
• 24:12
  Speaker 6: or if you want to drop into your feminine energy
• 24:14
  Speaker 6: with your partner, and you know, these are the common
• 24:16
  Speaker 6: things that women are wanting to shift and change, and
• 24:20
  Speaker 6: it's yeah, or comes back to that foundation of nervous system.
• 24:24
  Speaker 5: Something I'd love to know as well.
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: Have you seen any changes in people's health as well,
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: because we haven't really tapped into that. But I'm someone
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: who has struggled a lot with my periods and a
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: big thing I've been doing is delving more into nervous
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: system regulation. But my periods are really like changing.
• 24:40
  Speaker 5: It's really crazy.
• 24:41
  Speaker 6: Absolutely. I think that when your body is feeling more
• 24:45
  Speaker 6: safe and regulated, then it's operating more optimally physically. It
• 24:49
  Speaker 6: doesn't have as much information information cortisol, like your hormones
• 24:53
  Speaker 6: affected massively when it comes to that side of things,
• 24:56
  Speaker 6: because when you're in fight and flight, you think about it,
• 24:59
  Speaker 6: your body is trying to get away from a danger.
• 25:02
  Speaker 6: It's like adrenaline and all of the hormones a running differently,
• 25:06
  Speaker 6: or your body thinks, oh, it's no time for me
• 25:08
  Speaker 6: to have a period. Now I've got to run away
• 25:10
  Speaker 6: from the tiger. True, so your body is always being affected,
• 25:14
  Speaker 6: and I think also learning about our feminine and connecting
• 25:19
  Speaker 6: with ourselves in that way, loving on ourselves and loving
• 25:22
  Speaker 6: on our feminine and connecting more with our periods and
• 25:25
  Speaker 6: our cycles and our yoni and our womb and all
• 25:28
  Speaker 6: of these things, and honoring all those parts of us
• 25:31
  Speaker 6: instead of feeling the shame and these things that so
• 25:34
  Speaker 6: many women have grown up with. It allows it all
• 25:37
  Speaker 6: to just flow and to be and to work in harmony.
• 25:40
  Speaker 6: And there's that word again, flow like the feminine energy
• 25:43
  Speaker 6: and women talk about humans being complex beings, like women
• 25:47
  Speaker 6: just are, like we're like an entire universe within us,
• 25:52
  Speaker 6: like we create life, and when things are feeling stagnant
• 25:56
  Speaker 6: in our body, in our internal world, it's going to
• 25:59
  Speaker 6: show up in our body too. And physically, yeah, yeah.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: I thought to wrap up the episode to be really cool,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: if we can all share some things that have really
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: helped us tap more back into our feminine energy.
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: I can start if you like.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: I feel like something that's really helped me is being
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: really mindful of who I spend my energy with. And
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: I felt like the last couple of years, I've been
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: wanting to surround myself with more feminine women and women
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: who have like a really beautiful, healthy relationship with their
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: energy because I think for so long, and I'm speaking
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: about this a lot on the podcast at the moment.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: Is how I have been so of my masculine and
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: goals and hustling and business and structure and deadlines and
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: managing a team, and I'd loved it, and it's worked
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: until it hasn't worked until I haven't enjoyed it, And
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: that's at this point in my life. So I'm definitely
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: wanting to lean more into my feminine energy and.
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: That's a process for me.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: But surrounding myself and being around women that are really
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: in touch with their feminine has helped not normalize it,
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: but just helped it feel more flowy and easy and
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: feel nice and feel more natural. And that's really helped me.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: Another thing has been dancing. He's a dances little girl,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: and Steve always says, you can tell I'm happy when
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: I'm dancing and singing.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: But going to heels dance.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: Classes it's so sexy and feminine and slowy and juicy
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: and yummy. Yeah, it's so awesome. My next step is
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: to like wear lingerie to a dance class. I want
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: to go do like a teas class. Always just on
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: the heels classes, but that's like my next out of
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: comfort zone, but like next level dancing. But that fills
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: up my cup for the whole week. I feel like
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: by the next time it comes around, I'm like ready
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: for more of that juiciness. But that's really helped me.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: And another thing that really helps me day to day
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: is the music I listen to, like I love really
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: like slow, girly, like just soft music that helps me
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: be in that energy for longer as well. So they're
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: probably my top three main ones as well as they're
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: wearing the ninety at nine or robes and the moisturizing
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: creams and just taking time to be and feel and
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: touch my own.
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: Body, so they've bit my top tips.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: Mine is just really tuning in, really listening to my intuition,
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: checking myself regularly throughout the day and being like.
• 28:07
  Speaker 5: How does this feel right now?
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: Even with say like deadlines and things for work, I
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: used to feel like I just had to get everything done,
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: especially on a Monday morning. I would get in and
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: be like, oh my gosh, there's so much here, And
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: now I'm like, mah, just leave it to Wednesday, leave
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: it till Thursday. Like create space when you feel like
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: you've got space, because Mondays.
• 28:24
  Speaker 5: Are always just a really busy day.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: And another thing that I actually read about that I
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: feel has really helped is tapping into my senses, which
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: is like an easy little thing, so like before you
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: eat a delicious, yummy meal, taking the hover to like
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: breathe it all in and smell all in its full florals,
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: like visualizations, like different things that you know just look
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: really pretty for me to have more of that in
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: my life, putting on beautiful hideaway creams because it makes
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: me smell nice and I'm touching my body, So yeah,
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: leaning into my senses, I think.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: And then you mentioned that with the clothes through like
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: silky different materials or nice fluffy blankets at night, or
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: the robes.
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: That feel all like cloud like, since this is a
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: nice one. That's cool and.
• 29:02
  Speaker 5: Probably last one be reading.
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: I think, especially when I read about this stuff, it
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: makes me more aware and makes you know, the more
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: you learn and concentrate and focus on things, the more
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: you tap into and following accounts that you know feminine
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: energy accounts. One little thing as well is I bought
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: these little bracelets that are rose courts and straw records
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: for me to wear on my wrists just to remind me.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: So every time I look down or I hear them,
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, you know, like tap into that feminine energy.
• 29:28
  Speaker 5: So it just reminds me.
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: I love that. That's so cute.
• 29:31
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I love that. One of my go tos is play.
• 29:36
  Speaker 6: So anything that can help me tap into that playfulness,
• 29:39
  Speaker 6: that joy, because that's light, that's fun, that's flirty, that's
• 29:44
  Speaker 6: juicy and yummy. So whether it be getting silly with
• 29:49
  Speaker 6: sunny my daughter, or thinking of a fun date night
• 29:52
  Speaker 6: to do with thor or having a girl's day, or
• 29:55
  Speaker 6: just how can I be more played to my day?
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: Love that. It's such a helpful tip.
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: I think as adults we sometimes forget that we can play.
• 30:03
  Speaker 6: Get to play.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that we get to I feel like kids are
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: the best of that. They really bring you back into
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: it because they lost all about play. For them, it's
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: the best thing they're having kids. They really bring it
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: back in.
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Oh, thank you so much.
• 30:14
  Speaker 5: For joining us, Thank you for having me.
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: We will leave all of your details in the show
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: notes if anyone wants to connect with you and work
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: with you or just learn more from you, or pop
• 30:23
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• 30:24
  Speaker 5: Thank you, Thank you.