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From Toxicity to Transformation: How Corine Lafont Found Self-Worth and Emotional Freedom · The FEEL Podcast: Women’s Empowerment, Emotional Wellness and Self-Leadership with Melissa Crook

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  More people, certain types of people constantly want to be in
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  my space or want to be around me, which I have to be careful
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  about because that in itself is also a, a clue and a trigger for
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  you. Because people see what I like.
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  You know, when you, when you watch those shoes and they, and
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  is there a nice little light? You're like, what is that?
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  You know, and you want to come and play with it, but you are
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  not bringing an energy to add value to me.
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  You are attracted to that land to drain me because you want
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  that. Yeah.
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  So we. Have to be very careful even
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  though we are when we start to work on ourselves, we are people
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  who haven't done the work and so they want that, they want that.
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  So there's a kind of plus minus balancing act you have to, you
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  have to work on and you have to be aware, so aware of yourself
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  that in that journey of the self-care and the, and the
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  boundaries and the healing and from trauma and all of that, you
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  have to know that you're going to become something that people
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  are attracted to. And those people are still toxic
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  and they want to be a part of that space.
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  They want to be aligned with that.
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  Hello, welcome to the Field podcast.
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  I'm here today with my new friend Corinne Lafong and
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  Corinne is going to make you feel alive today.
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  She has a contagious energy about her that is palpable
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  through the screen through if you're listening on Spotify.
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  It's just, she's just one of those people that has that aura
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  A about her. And so I'm excited to share her
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  today. If you if you pay attention to
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  our panels at all, you've met Corinne on panels this year in
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  2025, and now you're going to get to hear from her as we go
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  through the talking points today on our podcast.
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  So she reached out to me a few months back and I'm just so
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  thankful. I'm so thankful to have
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  connected with her. She describes herself as young
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  and sexy. Karina Fun.
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  Welcome to the Field podcast. Thank you so much, Melissa.
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  That's what we're doing today. Young, cute and sexy.
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  So if you if you don't think of yourself like that, sorry, this
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  is not the podcast. Oh, yeah, but.
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  But it's time to get on board with that.
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  If you don't think yourself that way, join us.
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  It's a fun way to go. It's a great way to live.
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  You're gonna feel alive. That's right.
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  That's right all. Right, my friend, talk to me to
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  start out with how you prioritize self-care in your
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  life and what that journey has looked like for you, because
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  it's been a journey. It has, it has and it continues
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  to be a wonderful journey. And I'm so glad that you asked
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  that question because the timing is perfect.
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  When I think that I have prioritized, prioritized
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  self-care, I'm actually getting more aggressive about it, you
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  know, as time, yes, as time progresses, it's like, no, I
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  need to do more of this. You know, I, I, I'm setting
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  boundaries. Self-care is not just about, you
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  know, putting on essential oils and doing your hair or makeup or
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  go into the spa. It's more to me about deciding
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  what you're allowing in your space, what you're giving
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  permission to, you know, because that brings more peace than
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  anything else. You could easily go to a spa,
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  make an appointment and just walk in and do what you got to
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  do. But if you come back out nicely
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  made-up here, done, nails done, toes done, body rub, done, and
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  you're still walking into that environment that's toxic for
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  you. All of that doesn't matter.
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  All of that doesn't matter. So it's the self-care has to be
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  from the inside out. Once you work on the inside and
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  the inside is saying I don't like talking to you, I don't
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  want to be in that space. I don't like working here.
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  I don't feel good having to get up on on Mondays.
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  I don't like Mondays. I mean, generally nobody likes
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  Mondays, but you know, I don't. But I don't want to do this job.
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  I don't like the people I work with.
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  I don't like people I want to work remote.
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  I'm at a different phase in my life.
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  So for me, as I'm going in that direction, I mean, I'm 25.
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  Just just to let you know, I'm 25.
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  Don't worry about the platinum here and all of that.
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  Let's just assume, OK, just assume that I was 55.
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  Let's just assume that number, but OK, so assume that I'm 55
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  and you know, you're on that face and women should
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  understand. And some men who are very aware
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  would understand you're in perimenopause.
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  Your body's going through a lot of stuff that you're trying to
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  figure out yourself because this is your first time.
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  It's not to say I've been around, been around this area
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  before. So it's new to you.
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  And so you're discovering a whole new you.
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  You're getting upset. You don't like people.
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  People are stupid. They're talking nonsense.
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  You know, it's a whole you don't want to, you don't want to
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  bathe. You know, what if you bathe your
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  bed once and you don't feel to brush your teeth, You know it's
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  a whole lot of things and so and you don't want to wake up this
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  time and have to travel and deal with the traffic and the people.
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  You know, it says a lot, a lot of things right until you fight
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  for yourself. I really need to change the way
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  I work when I was in my 20s teenage depend on the time you
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  start working. You could have tolerated and
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  accommodated hustling, you know, and dealing with all those crazy
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  crap. But when you hit your 40s,
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  fifties and your body start to change and you start to feel
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  differently, especially if you recognize it, you have to
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  recalibrate, you know, like a GPS and say, come back to
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  center, come back to call what I'm meant to be, where I'm meant
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  to go. And so for me, remote works for
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  me. It has always been my
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  personality. It has, it has always been the
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  preferred way and I'm not fighting it.
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  And I think where the issue comes in, in terms of self-care,
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  we want to be, we want to have our our foot, our body in, in
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  the materialistic, in what the world wants and what we want.
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  And you can't, you can't. That will drive you crazy.
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  You have to decide is that a me or them?
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  You know, like some don't in those kind of Western movies
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  where you show up High Noon, is that me or there, you know, but
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  you can't be in the middle or as you get shot, you know what
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  happened, but it shows up in the middle.
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  So, so you have to decide. So you have to choose you or you
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  should be choosing you and saying, look, I'm at a place in
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  my life now. And whoever's listening to this,
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  I don't know what place you are in or space you are in mentally,
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  physically, spiritually, emotionally, psychologically.
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  But accept that, talk to yourself.
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  Recognize that space. Don't fight it, OK?
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  Ask it questions. Try to discover more about why
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  you're feeling that way. Where is it really coming from?
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  You know, and go with it. And you will know, Melissa.
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  You will know. As you, as you decide to
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  discover, you will feel that peace.
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  You will feel that peace overcome you.
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  You just feel like, yeah, this feels good.
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  You know, not brushing my teeth feels good.
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  Not bathing. How much time for the day feels
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  good. Sleeping, staying in my pajamas
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  all day feels wonderful. You know, I want to do more of
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  this. Yeah.
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  You know, I want to do more of this.
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  And so you decide how you want to work, where you want to work,
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  who you want to associate with the parties or the people you
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  used to hang with. You don't want to be doing that
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  because you realize I never really liked doing it.
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  Why was I doing, you know, that particular job I was doing, I, I
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  never really liked it. I just took it because of the
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  money. My children are now grown.
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  I don't have to be obligated. I could, I could sell tomatoes
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  on the side of the road if I want to, you know.
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  Yeah, just a half piece. Or work in our bakery and smile
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  and talk to people or do some sort of, I don't know, work in a
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  pub or something where you feel alive, alert, you know, take
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  them dancing like what I did, you know, I go dancing even
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  though I damaged my food the other day and I'm tending to
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  know. But hey, what the hell, you
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  know. You've just described what it's
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  like to live, you know, and live authentic to yourself.
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  And you mentioned boundaries where you're very specific about
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  where and who you give your time to.
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  This is, you know, this is not a conversation that we learned as
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  young girls growing up. It's a thing.
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  Had to learn sometimes the hard way as we went along.
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  When was the first time you realized, oh, so these healthy
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  boundaries thing, that's something I might need to
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  implement in my life. Girl, I really don't know
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  exactly when it happened, I'm just glad it happened.
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  I went, yeah, let's focus on, on, on the solution as opposed
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  to the. Yeah, yeah.
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  I'm really not going to say when did this.
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  No, it happened and I'm happy it happened, Yeah.
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  You know, and you responded to it.
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  I think that's. The key exactly.
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  Realize it and you responded to it because that is something so
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  important to acknowledge that it's one thing to realize that
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  it's our responsibility to take action and implement.
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  Yeah, yeah, yeah. And and taking action and
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  following through and consistently staying with it is
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  important because we can start something and then we fall back
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  into default what the world expects of us or what our
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  friends, friends in quote expects of us.
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  Because you really will see too, when you decide to move
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  authentically, like you say, what what really resonates with
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  your spirit, you will start to see things falling off.
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  You don't even have to do anything, Melissa, you don't
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  have to do. You will realize, wait a minute.
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  I haven't heard from Melissa in a while.
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  You know, it might just dawn on you.
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  You're like, it's been months because you're not supposed to
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  do anything it automatically. But here's where we go wrong.
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  We pick up the phone and call Melissa.
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  So we bring Melissa back. We bring Melissa back when the
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  universe has already decided, hey, you know, let Melissa go.
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  You know, some new people have probably come into your life or
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  probably you have spent so much time and have grown.
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  So you have a grown Melissa. Melissa not even probably
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  thinking about you. Everybody's just doing their
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  thing. But here you go, pick up the
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  phone and call back Melissa into your life.
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  Then you're wondering why is all this drama taking place?
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  Why? Why you bring it back?
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  That is so true. That is such a good example.
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  Thank you so much for that. Boy.
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  Think about that, listener. Think about that and how your
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  world and the universe and the choices you make are informing
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  and impacting those things and when it's OK to release those
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  things and relationships that are longer serving you there.
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  No, that season has passed and it's time to move forward into a
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  new season and meet up with those places and people that can
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  meet you where you are and serve you in a healthy way.
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  Absolutely. And you're able to do the same
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  thing. Yeah, you don't have.
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  To do a thing, you see, that is where the problem is.
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  You feel I have to control this or I have to manipulate that or
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  I have to get involved or have I say no, you don't have to.
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  Your only responsibility is to focus on you.
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  That's why it's called self. It's not our it's not our care.
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  It's not we care. It's not them care.
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  It's self. You know self means one me I.
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  Yeah, and that's who you're responsible for, period.
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  That's it. That's it.
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  But you see, we you mentioned something earlier, but we were
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  not trained and you're absolutely right.
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  We were trained to be people pleasers.
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  We were trained to tend to the needs of everybody else.
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  Because if you ever thought about take it, even put in a bit
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  ounce of cantias. Oh, you're selfish.
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  How could you, Corrine? How could you, Melissa?
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  How could you? Yeah, you're supposed to.
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  And you, and you're being shamed and guilty for it.
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  You're supposed to know better. Yeah, yeah.
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  Yeah, yeah. So when you hear that like one
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  too many times, of course it is programmed into your muscle
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  memory, mental archives that anytime you think about doing
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  anything for yourself, you're like, Nope, I can't do that.
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  I feel guilty. I'll tell you, I used to buy.
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  I used to buy cake. You know, like red velvet cake
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  carry home. I couldn't, I couldn't eat it
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  myself. Can you imagine?
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  You're old. You're buying a red velvet cake
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  when you should sit your butt right there and eat the damn
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  thing and enjoy the ambiance. You're travelling all the way
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  home with it to share. I know I love that so much.
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  It's such a great example of that, that taking time and not
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  feeling guilty about caring for ourselves and enjoying things
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  and feeling good and and and and tapping into the things that
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  bring us pleasure and such an important piece of this.
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  And so good to have those mindful, you know, understanding
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  and tap in not pushing that aside and not believing the lie
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  and the narrative that it's selfish.
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  I. Carry that cake, Melissa.
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  I carry that cake. Travel at home, you know, travel
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  with it. Make sure I held it properly so
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  that the cake is intact. That's the teller, the kind of
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  care. And then when I get home now the
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  kids are there and I'm feeding them.
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  I could hardly get any of the cake.
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  Sometimes I get numb. Yeah, because it's all about
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  giving to them. But here, what happened?
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  It took me some years. It took me some years.
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  It doesn't matter how long. And honey, I just about I think
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  2 nights ago I ordered a red velvet.
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  I don't know how red velvet is packed.
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  Yeah, yeah, honey, honey, I sat there with my fork and I took my
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  time and layered into that cake. Oh my gosh.
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  And enjoyed every single bite of it.
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  No guilt, no shame. That is how I could promote it
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  now, right? That is why I could promote it.
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  You dig into that. You feel if guilt ever rises up,
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  ever decide to raise up in you, You say you get thee behind me,
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  SATA. I'm enjoying this.
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  I'm enjoying this, Yes. I will not allow this moment to
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  be stolen from me. This is my moment, Red Velvet on
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  me. You stayed a hell of me from me,
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  SATA. Oh my gosh, that's so good.
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  And that's really, that goes nicely into you.
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  I want to talk about the connection between our
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  emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, sexual health, all
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  these pieces and parts of it that are connected that we
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  don't, we aren't taught to tend to all of them or even see the
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  connection between all of them. When did you realize there was a
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  a real, true connection between all those parts of your health?
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  When I left my toxic 27 year relationship, I've been back
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  home in Trinidad 2017 and I like Just like with perimenopause and
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  leading to menopause, it's a whole discovery.
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  I I start to discover me, I'm telling you I'm looking cute,
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  young, cute and sexy right now compared to before.
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  You could look back and I'm telling you you if you take
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  pictures of yourself. I'm not a picture person, but
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  I'm sure during our lifetime we would have taken pictures.
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  Sure. If you look at the you back then
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  and the you after deciding to really care for yourself and
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  come and set boundaries and be away from all this is a toxic
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  thing. You're going to start to see a
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  physical because you see it works from the inside out.
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  You're going to start to see a change in your skin in the in
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  the youthfulness is actually bursting at the pores.
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  It's coming out of you. People are just like how you
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  introduce me. You know, you talk about how
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  exuberant and exciting and the type of person I am, not that I
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  wasn't that way before, you know, because I've always been
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  high energy, but it's, it's exuding more now more people,
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  certain types of people constantly want to be in my
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  space or want to be around me, which I have to be careful about
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  because that in itself is also a clue and a trigger for you.
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  Because people see what I like, you know, when you, when you
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  watch those shoes and they and you see a nice little light,
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  you're like, what is that? You know, and you want to come
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  and play with it, but you are not bringing an energy to add
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  value to me. You are attracted to that land
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  to drain me because you want that.
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  So we. Have to be very careful, even
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  though we are, when we start to work on ourselves, we are people
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  who haven't done the work. And so they want that, they want
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  that. So there's a kind of plus minus
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  balancing act you have to, you have to work on and you have to
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  be aware, so aware of yourself that in that journey of the
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  self-care and the, and the boundaries and the healing and
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  control and all of that, you have to know that you're going
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  to become something that people are attracted to.
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  And those people are still toxic and they want to be a part of
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  that space. They want to be aligned with
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  that, you know, but they have to do the work themselves.
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  They have to do the work themselves or else they drain
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  you and they take you right back, way you, right.
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  So you have to align yourself. So it requires a solitude, which
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  most people don't want to do. People are incapable, unable,
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  unwilling to be by themselves to close off everything.
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  I don't have a TV, I don't have a radio.
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  I mean communication. Some people are like, what?
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  How is that possible? But let me tell you, it gives me
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  such clarity because I am not, as they say, I'm in the world,
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  but I'm not of the world. I'm not influenced by what I
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  hear and see. When you're in communications
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  most, well, most of the people who I know in communications,
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  they have to be on everything, news, this, that.
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  So you're bombarded. There's no clarity.
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  And if you're making a decision, then decision is based on what
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  this one said. Who's saying that also, as
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  opposed to stepping back and making a very clear, crisp
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  decision? Based on facts, information,
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  based on what is and considering all the other people, but not
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  being influenced by what is being said out there.
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  So you remove yourself from that by taking the time to be away
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  from everything. And I'm not saying to lock
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  yourself in like in a prison, but but you know, you're very
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  careful, as I said, where you go, who you go, the time you go,
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  if you have to go, you know, anywhere, because you could do
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  all of that within your own space.
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  I have a nice little humidifier, what you call it thing really
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  cute. I just put it away a while ago
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  and it's I put my tea tree oil, yes.
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  So I have my own little spa thing going on in here and I put
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  tea oil in there and it lets out a little misty thing and, and it
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  turns different colours red and the blue and the green and the
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  hues. And I'm like, Oh, I take off all
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  the lights and stuff. And if I want, I could light
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  some candles and then mix my extra virgin coconut oil with,
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  with tea tree oil and peppermint and and rub my skin, my lovely
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  black skin and massage, you know, So what I'm saying, you
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  know, yes, that's, that's what we do.
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  That's. How we oh so good.
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  I love that so much. I love how you talk about
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  creating space for clarity, creating space for quiet,
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  learning how to be alone with ourselves and being able to take
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  that noise and heal it and allow it to process, allow it to be
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  felt and acknowledged so that you can you can clear that space
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  and be open and receptive, but also aware so that you're not
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  allowing those old horses in to steal your energy.
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  You're mindful of who you surround yourself and.
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  This. Yeah.
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  And this is what really has allowed you to show up
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  unapologetically as yourself. And now, and now it is because
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  of that, you're also able to share that in a way that really
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  inspires other women to do that as well.
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  Just in the conversations you have, the show you have, you're
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  not only become a resource for you, you've become a resource
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  and encourager for other women. Talk to me about the evolution
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  of that. Oh, well, I guess I'm making
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  reference to my podcast. Yeah, yeah.
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  And I have been doing some rebranding, so it's still a work
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  in progress, you know, taking and making it that ecosystem,
• 22:44
  because that's what I'm building an ecosystem to help.
• 22:48
  Not only women, just people, women and men, teenagers,
• 22:51
  wherever you are because everybody needs it.
• 22:54
  And just as how we were trained in our time to to be people
• 22:59
  pleasers, I want my podcasts to be able to train people to
• 23:03
  recognize the signs of that and not spend so much time, you
• 23:08
  know, so it's like shorten the learning curve for the younger
• 23:11
  folks so that they don't, they don't spend so much time and
• 23:14
  have to wait till I get to 1450 to realize this.
• 23:18
  But nothing is wrong with that. Nothing is wrong with that.
• 23:21
  If that's the time it takes you to learn the lesson, that's the
• 23:23
  time. Because there isn't a specific
• 23:26
  timeline to do anything. There is wrong or right.
• 23:29
  So if it takes you 40-50 years, be thankful.
• 23:32
  If it takes you 5, be thankful. Because when I tell people about
• 23:36
  my relationship, they're like girl, I was older there in two
• 23:39
  months. So the time I saw those signs I
• 23:40
  was ordered, but it took me 27 years, OK.
• 23:44
  And it doesn't make me stupid and then more intelligent.
• 23:49
  It's just I, I had to go to that journey at that time.
• 23:53
  So you have to give yourself grace and you shouldn't be
• 23:55
  comparing yourself with anybody. So my podcast is, is an
• 23:59
  ecosystem that allows persons to, to listen to engage, because
• 24:04
  I will have guest episodes like how we're doing here.
• 24:07
  And I have been adding or I will be adding solo episodes.
• 24:10
  So you will hear me alone talking and having a dialogue
• 24:13
  that supports the guest episode, the person that I would have had
• 24:17
  on my podcast. In addition to that, what's
• 24:20
  being added to is resources. I have additional resources and
• 24:25
  reflections to help you to, to really sit right, to really sit
• 24:31
  with what you have heard, what you have listened to.
• 24:33
  And my podcast is 15 minutes. It used to be 30 minutes.
• 24:37
  I've reduced it to 15. So it's not a lot of time, but
• 24:40
  it gives you the time to really soak in.
• 24:42
  So it's like a self-care, It's like your own spa moment.
• 24:45
  Take half an hour, an hour. I mean, oh gosh, you deserve an
• 24:49
  hour for yourself, right? Just one moment, go and say, you
• 24:54
  know, I'm going to listen to Korean's podcast between the
• 24:57
  Lines. And you listen to it, you hear
• 24:59
  the solo episode, you go into the reflection and there's
• 25:03
  addition, an additional step if you want, where there's a deep
• 25:07
  dive into that particular issue that you can do some study, you
• 25:12
  can do even more reflection and look, because what it does, it
• 25:17
  allows you that deeper dive I go into allows you to take it into
• 25:22
  the into your life, into your personal and professional
• 25:25
  relationship. So you could, you could
• 25:27
  actually, you're walking in normal, empowered, more
• 25:31
  discerning. So that conversation that you
• 25:34
  might have had yesterday or last week or last year, you're going
• 25:37
  to be looking at it differently now, which is exactly where
• 25:40
  change happens. Because the me that you see
• 25:43
  today, it's not the me from before, not that something was
• 25:46
  wrong with the me before. It's just I I didn't know what I
• 25:49
  know. No, you know, I worked with what
• 25:52
  I had then. So you're working with what you
• 25:55
  have. No, and what the podcast between
• 25:58
  the lines that I host does is help you to move from you before
• 26:04
  today you that you should become.
• 26:06
  No, I'm going to the future with so if that, you know, helps to
• 26:10
  encourage someone. I, I, I look forward to having
• 26:13
  you as a fan, a follower, a friend.
• 26:16
  I guess someday, you know? Yeah, thank you so much for
• 26:20
  that. So good.
• 26:21
  And this really your why and your values now are so aligned
• 26:26
  with how you show up in the world.
• 26:29
  Talk to me about where you, you know, coming out of, you know,
• 26:32
  when you made that pivotal decision decision in 2017 to
• 26:36
  move forward for yourself, for, for your health and well-being
• 26:41
  and, and we're able to find the identify your why your values,
• 26:45
  not someone else's that made imposed upon you.
• 26:49
  Talk to me about the the evolution and the freedom that
• 26:52
  that brings. I I told you 2 nights ago I had
• 26:56
  my red velvet kick. That is freedom.
• 26:59
  I didn't have to share it with you, Melissa.
• 27:04
  Yes. Right, right.
• 27:06
  And when I ordered, it was from Pizza Hut.
• 27:08
  That is one of the places we have here.
• 27:10
  We order. So I ordered pizza and the red
• 27:12
  velvet cake. And I told the delivery guy said
• 27:15
  I'm not hungry. You know, he's like, you're not
• 27:16
  hungry. And you order pizza like, no, I
• 27:19
  fell for it. I want the pizza, so I'm going
• 27:22
  to buy it. I work hard and I deserve to get
• 27:24
  the pizza, the red velvet cake. So that kind of freedom.
• 27:28
  But the evolution, I'm glad you said that because evolution
• 27:32
  never stops. Yeah, evolution constantly goes
• 27:36
  and the discovery is hard to say when that discovery took place
• 27:39
  because like I said, I don't focus on the timeline.
• 27:43
  My focus is on I'm glad it happened and I could do
• 27:47
  something about it now. And so the evolution is, is
• 27:52
  really continuous growth, continuous development in, in,
• 27:58
  in yourself. I want to, I want you to repeat
• 28:02
  that question for me because I want to make sure I'm targeted.
• 28:05
  Yeah, yeah. You talk to me.
• 28:06
  What have you learned? What is your why and your
• 28:10
  balance? Yeah.
• 28:12
  That you've learned for yourself.
• 28:13
  Not what other people told you, but what you.
• 28:15
  Exactly. That's my point.
• 28:17
  Yeah, that's my point I wanted to make.
• 28:19
  I like how you said that the why and the distinguishing between
• 28:24
  my values are not what somebody else says.
• 28:26
  And that is something that we have to do deep work on.
• 28:30
  And when I say deep, I'm not saying sit down and a
• 28:32
  psychologist share anything but the conversations with yourself.
• 28:36
  Because a lot of the things that we do, a lot of the decisions
• 28:40
  and choices we make, most of the time, if you sit, it is not of
• 28:44
  you. You will be hearing the voice.
• 28:50
  It's coming through you. So you obviously you will hear
• 28:52
  your voice, but it is it was sung like you, but it is not
• 28:57
  you. Those voices and the decisions
• 29:00
  is actually coming from your parents, the church, society,
• 29:04
  media, school, some sort of person who was put forward as a
• 29:11
  as a influence in your life growing up.
• 29:14
  Because remember, we are born into this world and we know
• 29:17
  nothing. As far as I know, we are
• 29:19
  dependent on everybody else to tell us how to go.
• 29:21
  What? So the voices on the stuff is
• 29:24
  not really of you. What we have to do is discern
• 29:27
  those voices. Am I me?
• 29:30
  Is this really what I want? Who am I?
• 29:35
  Who am I? What do I really want?
• 29:38
  Do I feel good doing this? Some people, Melissa, end up in
• 29:43
  a in a spiral. They end up having multiple
• 29:46
  partners. They end up going into drugs.
• 29:49
  They end up and they don't know why.
• 29:51
  Yeah, they don't know why. And it is, it is too.
• 29:57
  It's like they're attacking their own cells like a sort of
• 30:00
  cancer. They're doing things that they
• 30:01
  know intelligently. It's wrong.
• 30:04
  People coming up to them. Your friends, whoever say it's
• 30:07
  wrong. They know they're not dumb, but
• 30:10
  they can't figure out why they're doing it.
• 30:13
  Yeah. They can't.
• 30:15
  And until you figure out why I keep having multiple partners,
• 30:18
  why am I doing drugs? Why am I staying out late?
• 30:21
  Why am I drinking myself and I'm sick every day?
• 30:24
  Why am I hurting myself? It's because of something from
• 30:27
  your past that you're trying not to deal with.
• 30:30
  And when I when we talk about the voices, the voices is also
• 30:36
  what comes at you in your alone time.
• 30:38
  So when I encourage solitude, believe it or not, those demons
• 30:42
  are going to be coming at your baby.
• 30:44
  They're going to be coming at you.
• 30:46
  Yeah. And what do some people do?
• 30:49
  Turn on the TV, Netflix it all day?
• 30:51
  Drink. Because they're trying, yeah.
• 30:56
  You're trying to silence it, but that's the wrong thing.
• 30:59
  You're supposed to stand up to it because it's actually a voice
• 31:03
  trying to tell you something that you need to face.
• 31:05
  And you realize that demon is it ain't that big and mad.
• 31:09
  It's actually a small thing trying to trying to make you
• 31:13
  feel is all that it isn't. So my why is actually and my
• 31:18
  values is actually around that is about recognizing who I am as
• 31:24
  I go along, as I evolve in this journey to be able to discern is
• 31:30
  that really from Corrine? Who is Corrine as opposed to is
• 31:34
  it from Melissa when she told me that 30 how much years ago or is
• 31:38
  it for you know, we have to know and that's where the
• 31:41
  authenticity that term that we keep using nowadays to find out
• 31:46
  who really am I what what really brings me joy and bliss.
• 31:52
  You know, what really do I want? You know, we tend to focus on
• 31:57
  what we don't want. But you see, the universe
• 32:00
  doesn't know the difference between what you want and what
• 32:03
  you don't want. If I say don't want, I don't
• 32:07
  want that, that is exactly what you're going to get because
• 32:13
  because you're spending so much time say I don't want that and I
• 32:16
  don't want that, that is where you're putting your energy.
• 32:19
  I wanted to say where energy goes, my focus goes, energy
• 32:22
  flows. Yeah.
• 32:23
  So instead of spending time talking what you don't want,
• 32:27
  spend the time talking about what you do want and feel all
• 32:31
  that feels to you. Yeah, Yeah.
• 32:35
  That's what it feels to you. Yes, yes.
• 32:40
  And that allows you with this next talking point is this
• 32:44
  allows you to live out of your own expectations versus others.
• 32:50
  This allows it opens the door for this to happen.
• 32:53
  But these other things, you got to put them into play to open
• 32:57
  the door for that opportunity. Yeah.
• 33:00
  And, and you will see a shift as you start communicating these
• 33:04
  new expectations and living out of these new expectations you
• 33:08
  mentioned earlier. You will see changes in your
• 33:11
  life in terms of relationships and how you're showing up in the
• 33:14
  world. And you have embraced that.
• 33:17
  You have not fought it. You have embraced that.
• 33:21
  I love that so much. Talk to me about the embracing
• 33:24
  of being able to live out of your own expectations with the
• 33:28
  joy and jubilance that you do. Oh, that's so sweet.
• 33:32
  Well, first to begin, I have no expectations.
• 33:37
  And I said to myself, I have no ambition.
• 33:40
  You know, the days of ambition is so gone.
• 33:42
  I thank God that I did my degree and my master's and all those
• 33:46
  things years ago, because if I were to do it, no, I clearly
• 33:49
  would not be doing well. I am actually doing a course,
• 33:54
  another certification, which I always wanted to do, and I'm
• 33:57
  going through it. But it's like a struggle, you
• 33:59
  know, It's like a struggle. And I'm like, what the hell?
• 34:02
  If I do it, I do it. If I don't, I don't.
• 34:04
  I don't need to prove anything to anybody.
• 34:06
  What the hell? You know, Yeah, it's just good
• 34:10
  to have. And, you know, because I do
• 34:11
  consultancies, you know, you're still dealing in the world with
• 34:15
  people who consider these certifications as important.
• 34:18
  But, you know, I don't need to prove myself.
• 34:22
  You know, when I get to it, I'll get to it, you know?
• 34:25
  But yeah, you know, it's, it's really, it's really a lovely
• 34:31
  place to be when you can embrace who you are, when you don't have
• 34:35
  to explain yourself. You don't have to validate, you
• 34:37
  don't have to justify. A lot of people like to ask.
• 34:40
  So why are you like that? And why did you just like I saw
• 34:45
  somebody just today, earlier today before coming on to this,
• 34:48
  somebody post something on LinkedIn and they shared a
• 34:52
  screenshot of the WhatsApp conversation.
• 34:56
  And I'm going to kind of paraphrase it, right?
• 34:58
  So in the person wrote to them, it seems as if the receive of
• 35:02
  the of the messages in real estate or something.
• 35:04
  So the person, I don't know the person reached out, but they
• 35:08
  reached out to WhatsApp and all she showed was a screenshot that
• 35:12
  she said, hey, you know, very professional, how can I help you
• 35:15
  kind of a thing. And the person went back, you're
• 35:17
  a failure just like that, you're a failure.
• 35:21
  So of course that take her for a spin.
• 35:24
  But where I would say she went wrong was to respond.
• 35:27
  She went in to respond to somebody she don't even know.
• 35:30
  So a total stranger text you on your, on your phone, on
• 35:36
  WhatsApp. OK, And it's not even e-mail
• 35:40
  they use, they use your personal phone, your but it's your work
• 35:43
  phone, WhatsApp, whatever. And they, they have the audacity
• 35:46
  to take their whole self text you, you decide.
• 35:50
  Oh, OK, hey Melissa, you know, how can I help you yada yada.
• 35:54
  And then you see the response or failure and then you decide to
• 35:59
  respond to a total stranger to explain and tell them, you know,
• 36:02
  how could they? And that is our reflection on
• 36:05
  them and their character. I ain't doing that.
• 36:09
  I. Didn't I wasted my energy on
• 36:12
  that? No, from the time you respond
• 36:16
  later, it's a immediate block and delete.
• 36:19
  Yeah, that's what my energy is. It's a immediate block and
• 36:23
  delete, you know, because you take your whole life to decide I
• 36:28
  am coming at Korean and Melissa today, you're a failure.
• 36:31
  You wake up with that in your mind.
• 36:33
  You. Wow.
• 36:35
  And that's just not the kind of energy you need in your life.
• 36:38
  And what? And hear what?
• 36:40
  So she responded to tell the person oh, about their
• 36:44
  character, understand that. And what?
• 36:45
  And not only that, she took her extra step.
• 36:47
  She put it on LinkedIn so you know the person who is actually
• 36:52
  reading that or following her, because clearly the person must
• 36:54
  be following her would see oh, I got to her, I got to her so
• 37:01
  you're. Absolutely holding the power.
• 37:03
  You're giving them power. Why?
• 37:07
  Why? And then here, what happens on
• 37:10
  LinkedIn? You put that force and then
• 37:12
  other people start commenting. So you're giving the person
• 37:15
  energy on your feet. Oh, my God, why?
• 37:20
  So it comes back. The embracing is to know who you
• 37:23
  are. We feel that we obligated to
• 37:27
  give a response to everything. Why did she feel that she have
• 37:32
  to do that? Because she feels I need to
• 37:34
  redeem myself. So to redeem myself, I'm going
• 37:38
  to tell you this and that. And it's about your character.
• 37:42
  Do you think the person who sent her that message really cares?
• 37:47
  Yeah. No, and they're not.
• 37:48
  And they're no position to receive it, because if they
• 37:51
  were, they would have never sent that message in the first place.
• 37:56
  So you're wasting your time. Yeah.
• 37:59
  And energy, yeah. And the person is looking at it
• 38:03
  and saying I got her. Yeah, and you're giving them
• 38:07
  all. The other people, all the other
• 38:09
  people who are comment. Yeah, yeah.
• 38:12
  Oh man, we need to stop being. We need to stop feeling
• 38:16
  obligated to respond. No response is a response.
• 38:21
  Silence is a powerful approach in communication, and it doesn't
• 38:27
  mean you're weak. It just means that you're just
• 38:29
  not giving your energy to things.
• 38:32
  That just makes no sense. Yes, Oh my gosh, that's such a
• 38:36
  good example. Thank you so much for that
• 38:38
  because I think especially as women, we are the over
• 38:41
  explaining champions of the world of the of the world.
• 38:46
  And so that is such an important piece to remember.
• 38:50
  Thank you so much. That was pure gold.
• 38:52
  Thank you so much for that really.
• 38:54
  And it's like. It's on LinkedIn, you could
• 38:56
  check it. It's it's.
• 38:59
  There, Yeah. I was tempted.
• 39:01
  I was tempted to say to her, the person who put the post, of
• 39:04
  course put the post. I was going to say it.
• 39:06
  I said, and why did you respond? That was what I was going to
• 39:09
  say. But I'm like Kareem, you're
• 39:12
  going on Melissa's podcast in the next few minutes.
• 39:15
  You are not good. Yes, I tell you, I had that
• 39:18
  conversation. You are going on Melissa's
• 39:20
  podcast in the next few minutes. We are not doing this before
• 39:24
  meeting Melissa. We are not carrying this energy
• 39:26
  into Melissa's podcast. We are going to sit down in Zen
• 39:30
  mode with our mentee in the hand because that's what I have here.
• 39:36
  I got my ginger tea. We're.
• 39:38
  Alright, alright. So we are here with our Minty
• 39:42
  and all that. Such a drama.
• 39:44
  We're not doing that. Yeah, OK.
• 39:47
  Yes. So good.
• 39:48
  Thank you so much for that. And that really goes nicely into
• 39:52
  accepting the layered aspects of ourselves.
• 39:55
  You have been able to do that. You just set, set a great
• 40:00
  example of how it's so important to do that because when you're
• 40:03
  able to do that and accept all those pieces and parts of your
• 40:07
  story, and you mentioned it earlier, with empathy, with
• 40:10
  grace, with compassion and, and, and being and understanding that
• 40:15
  life is a journey and wherever you are.
• 40:17
  That journey is where you are, and you take those lessons and
• 40:21
  you move forward with that. With love, you've been able to
• 40:24
  really embrace all those layers. So talk to me about the
• 40:29
  importance of doing that. Oh, that's so important.
• 40:34
  I'll give you another live example.
• 40:37
  Yesterday I read another post on LinkedIn.
• 40:39
  This is somebody of course I'm connected to.
• 40:41
  So she is into hiking. So she was like she learned so
• 40:45
  much from this particular event. She has been hiking is a 26.2
• 40:50
  kilometers up some mountain. So in ultra, right, it's a long
• 40:55
  a long distance, obviously, and she's preparing for it every
• 40:58
  year she's going and this year she trained, you know, better
• 41:02
  for it, I guess, and you know, she was so looking forward to.
• 41:05
  So she was doing planning to do a sub six hours, you know for
• 41:08
  that trip. She said so many things started
• 41:12
  to happen. The first thing she did wrong
• 41:13
  was take a call just before for my client just just before and
• 41:22
  it clearly throw off the yin Yang energy off of her when her
• 41:26
  mind you are going to be climbing you are hiking terrain
• 41:32
  26 point. Imagine you saying ball the
• 41:36
  fastest man in the world or or somebody climbing up Mount
• 41:40
  Everest. He said I'm going to take a call
• 41:42
  from Corrine or from Melissa just before I ring.
• 41:45
  While I'm in the starting blocks, I'm going to.
• 41:48
  Everybody just wait, wait. Oh my gosh, right.
• 41:56
  So boom #1 that's true. Then she forgot something.
• 42:01
  She called her Garmin. I don't know what that is.
• 42:02
  I guess that's how I can talk. Something, some something that
• 42:05
  she had to put on and she forgot to turn it on in order to track
• 42:08
  her time. She said her blood pressure, her
• 42:11
  blood pressure before she even make a certain amount of miles
• 42:15
  was 194. She was ready to quit, you know,
• 42:19
  all sorts of things. And she learned she still made
• 42:23
  it. She was able to help her
• 42:24
  teammate. But it just shows people focus,
• 42:30
  Focus. Listen, there are a lot of
• 42:33
  things that come to distract me. You know, Melissa, a lot of
• 42:37
  things. And you know what I say about
• 42:38
  that? Anytime you're on the right
• 42:44
  path, anytime you are on the right path, you know what you
• 42:46
  know? Because distractions will come.
• 42:50
  Yeah, distractions will come to take you off of it.
• 42:54
  Yeah, OK. Whether it is a test of fate or
• 42:58
  whether it is the devil trying to get you off, I don't know.
• 43:01
  But whether or not the point about it is distractions will
• 43:05
  come and it comes very subtly that call that text that will
• 43:10
  take your mind off. If you have the TV on something
• 43:12
  show up and suddenly or you're just doom scrolling on YouTube
• 43:16
  or TikTok or whatever. And the whole point of what
• 43:19
  you're supposed to be doing, you're not focus on.
• 43:21
  Yeah. The end of the day comes and
• 43:24
  next thing you know, you're in bed, you're sleeping, and
• 43:25
  another day comes. It happens.
• 43:28
  But what we need to do is zone in.
• 43:32
  We don't have to immediately respond to every e-mail, every
• 43:35
  text, every knock on the door, whatever.
• 43:40
  I don't care who it is. I always say to people, I'm not
• 43:42
  911 my number. I'm not 911, OK.
• 43:54
  I don't work as a first responder and even if I did, I'm
• 43:58
  not on shift so I'm not I'm. Not the one or the 2.
• 44:07
  I'm not the one or the two. Don't call me, OK?
• 44:14
  Because if you do and you're dying, well, you know what will
• 44:17
  end up happening? You'll just be dead.
• 44:19
  So that's just what it is. You know, you're not going to
• 44:24
  you're not going to I I have to lock out.
• 44:26
  And people might say, oh, Kareem, you're doing that.
• 44:28
  What if somebody did that to you?
• 44:30
  Great. I wouldn't know.
• 44:34
  I'm sitting here. And if the person don't respond,
• 44:37
  great. What?
• 44:38
  What could I do? I'm not going to call them, but
• 44:41
  listen, you're not going to make them.
• 44:43
  No, I don't have the time for that energy.
• 44:46
  Yeah. Exactly, exactly, Yeah, so good.
• 44:52
  So talk to me. You have you are such a great
• 44:55
  example of living out feel, finding empowerment, embracing
• 44:59
  layers. You have done that and and what
• 45:03
  it has done is obvious for you like it is.
• 45:06
  How it has impacted your relationship with yourself is
• 45:10
  obvious. How it has impacted your
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  relationship with other people and how you see them is obvious.
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  What is the most important thing you have learned in this
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  process? To stick with my boundaries.
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  Don't compromise. I don't.
• 45:29
  I don't do the compromising crap.
• 45:31
  People say, well, you need to compromise.
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  That's just another way of saying allow people to
• 45:34
  manipulate you. Dim your light.
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  No. Oh, you wouldn't have friends.
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  OK, I'm fine with that. Yeah.
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  Oh, nobody would want to hang around.
• 45:50
  OK, you see, they they throw the things at you that matters to
• 45:55
  them or they always in the world.
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  But what they don't realize is that I, I'm just not.
• 46:01
  I'm just not. There's nothing you could come
• 46:03
  at me with that will motivate me to move in that direction.
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  So if you try to make me feel I'm missing out on something,
• 46:10
  the friends, they're hanging out.
• 46:12
  The people wanted to be with me. I'm sorry.
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  I don't have a fear of missing out anything.
• 46:18
  Yeah. You know, it's actually you
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  missing out. You're missing all the peace.
• 46:23
  Yes, and living your life authentic to.
• 46:27
  You exactly. I am quite OK.
• 46:30
  Why are you standing over there and having a problem with me
• 46:34
  over here? I don't understand it.
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  Aren't you supposed to be happy with where you are?
• 46:40
  So clearly you're not happy with where you are.
• 46:42
  Why? You're taking up time focusing
• 46:44
  on me? Because I am not taking up time
• 46:47
  focusing on you. So why are you making me the
• 46:50
  focus of your life? It's telling me you don't have a
• 46:54
  life. Yeah.
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  Because if you do, you wouldn't have the time to be watching me.
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  Yes. Because I'm not watching you.
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  So I'm like, why are you making what I'm doing over here
• 47:07
  problem? Why?
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  Yeah, I'm trying to make. Me.
• 47:13
  I'm trying to make me come across by you to do all the
• 47:15
  things misery loves company. You're unhappy over there and
• 47:18
  want me to join you. No.
• 47:20
  Yeah, it's not happening. Yeah.
• 47:23
  No. Oh, you feel you have a certain
• 47:25
  definition of happiness and peace, and you feel your
• 47:28
  definition should be the one I live by.
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  So you define it that particular way.
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  And that definition is hanging out with friends, drinking,
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  doing all the stuff, you know, taking people's calls, whatever,
• 47:41
  answering and whatever. And I should be doing that
• 47:44
  because that's what peace and happiness is.
• 47:45
  So, Corrine, you need to live like that.
• 47:47
  No, I have my own definition. Yeah.
• 47:52
  And you know the thing about it, it's so hypocritical because I'm
• 47:55
  not asking them. Right my.
• 47:58
  Definition. I'm not, I'm not, I'm not
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  asking, I'm not forcing nothing. I am quite OK over here eating
• 48:08
  my red velvet cake. I.
• 48:13
  Yes, I think that's the key too. That's that key, that
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  realization of, you know, I, I am totally happy for you living
• 48:24
  the way that makes you feel happy.
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  I'm just asking you to have the same respect for me.
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  And if you can't, and if you, and if that's not something
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  you're able to move to, I can't help you with that.
• 48:34
  And and let's. Just it's OK.
• 48:36
  Yeah. And I don't even want to help
• 48:38
  you, that's the thing. I'm not even, well, it's not
• 48:40
  your job too. It's not your job today.
• 48:42
  I'm not even offering. Yeah, I would just say I wish
• 48:46
  you well. Yeah.
• 48:49
  If you can't respect that, then, hey, it's nothing.
• 48:54
  You know, if that's how you want to live a girl, you go for it.
• 48:58
  You go for it, sweetie. But I'm just not there with you.
• 49:02
  Yeah. Why do you need my company?
• 49:04
  Why do you you think I should live in your frame?
• 49:07
  You define it. You're unhappy in your frame and
• 49:10
  you want me to join you there? No.
• 49:12
  Yeah. And you see, that is the thing.
• 49:14
  People, like I said, I want what you have, but they're not
• 49:20
  willing to do the work. So instead they decide I am
• 49:23
  going to get her to be unhappy like me.
• 49:27
  So we're all in the same, you know, the same month together.
• 49:33
  And from the time you resist, if you resist and you're not
• 49:37
  joining them in that, Oh, you think you're all that?
• 49:40
  Yes. I don't think it.
• 49:42
  I am all that, yes. Yes, I love that.
• 49:48
  Yeah. Yeah, you're right.
• 49:50
  You gotta run. Absolutely.
• 49:52
  I am all that. Yeah.
• 49:54
  Oh, you think you're all that? Yes, I am.
• 49:57
  All that and a bag of chips plus the factory that made the chips.
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  I am all. Oh my God.
• 50:06
  Because. They're going to make you.
• 50:07
  They're going to want to make you feel everything is the guilt
• 50:10
  and shame you for the decision and the boundaries because they
• 50:14
  cannot manipulate you. So instead, if you have a
• 50:18
  problem with me being all that I am good being all that by
• 50:21
  myself, you know I am quite good being all that without you.
• 50:26
  Yeah, yeah. Trying to take that energy.
• 50:29
  Absolutely, Absolutely. Yes.
• 50:32
  It's because it's because it's without them.
• 50:34
  It's because it's without them, Melissa, that is the problem.
• 50:37
  You're living life without them. Yeah, and they don't know what
• 50:42
  to do with that because they haven't done their own work.
• 50:45
  Can't help you? Don't want to help you.
• 50:46
  Not offering, not making apologies, unapologetic.
• 50:50
  Isn't that what we say? There we go.
• 50:51
  That is unapologetic. Yes, Oh so good.
• 50:55
  All right, tell me 5 activities that nourish you.
• 51:01
  Red velvet cake. Let's get our priorities right,
• 51:06
  Melissa. OK, Latin dancing, drinking lots
• 51:14
  of water, doing my spa. I don't know.
• 51:19
  Have I reached 5? I'm just calling things.
• 51:21
  I don't know. I'm just living in peace, quiet
• 51:27
  moments. I love that.
• 51:29
  I love to hear the voices. Other people don't, but I love
• 51:33
  it. I welcome the voices all day,
• 51:35
  all night. I talk back, I answer back.
• 51:38
  I love it because I, I am good with it.
• 51:43
  You know, I am I, I tend to have it.
• 51:46
  Well, I guess it's because I am by myself.
• 51:48
  So I guess it's my companions, I suppose.
• 51:52
  But I love to hear the voices, and it has me to know that if
• 51:56
  you're able to have a conversation with those voices,
• 52:00
  it's telling me I'm getting better every day.
• 52:03
  Yeah, I'm getting closer and closer to the person I'm
• 52:07
  supposed to be. So.
• 52:09
  That's so good. I love that so much.
• 52:11
  So good. All right, and five words on how
• 52:14
  you want to feel in the next 6 months.
• 52:18
  Young, cute, sexy. That's sweet.
• 52:23
  Let's get our priorities right. Melissa.
• 52:26
  That's great. Young, cute, sexy, more sexy.
• 52:35
  I love that. That's so good.
• 52:38
  Red velvet cake. Young, cute, sexy.
• 52:40
  Let's go. That's.
• 52:44
  What we're doing, baby, that's what we're doing.
• 52:46
  Oh my gosh, Corinne, tell people where they can find you and
• 52:50
  follow you. This will also be on our website
• 52:53
  at embracinglayers.com, on our resources page.
• 52:56
  Listeners, don't you worry, you're going to be able to
• 52:58
  access all of this, but share with people right now where they
• 53:01
  can find you and follow you. Well, LinkedIn is one of the
• 53:04
  first places. Of course you will see this cute
• 53:06
  face. You can't miss it.
• 53:08
  So you put in my name. You can see it on the screen.
• 53:11
  Corina phone. You can find me.
• 53:12
  So that's one. Another place you could find me
• 53:14
  is of course, do a search on Apple podcast for between the
• 53:18
  lines. That's me now.
• 53:20
  Don't come at me. My podcast it's revamping.
• 53:23
  I have been doing this for 13 years, but you will see some new
• 53:28
  changes on stuff. So bear with me.
• 53:30
  You know, we're making some changes, but the stuff there is
• 53:32
  absolutely awesome. And it's going to be even more
• 53:34
  awesome. So on Apple Podcasts, Between
• 53:37
  the Lines, LinkedIn with my name, and of course on my
• 53:40
  website, which also is being built out too, it's on Beyond
• 53:44
  the Lines Learning. So you have Between the Lines,
• 53:48
  my podcasts and then you have Beyond the Lines Learning dot
• 53:51
  store STORE. OK, Yeah.
• 53:55
  But that's where you will get the other resources to support
• 53:58
  Between the Lines. Because when you come in between
• 54:00
  the lines, you're actually between the lines.
• 54:02
  You're still trying to figure out what's going on.
• 54:05
  Yeah, but when you're finishing Between the lines or Between the
• 54:08
  lines is finished with you, you need to go beyond the lines.
• 54:12
  Oh, I like that. That's so good.
• 54:14
  Oh, so much. Oh my gosh.
• 54:17
  Is there any last thoughts you would like to share with our
• 54:20
  listeners today before we wrap this up?
• 54:23
  I don't believe in last thoughts.
• 54:25
  Last thoughts is always finality so I don't use the word last but
• 54:28
  what I will share. I like.
• 54:31
  Because I know this will never, this will never be all final
• 54:35
  conversation or final interaction.
• 54:37
  So I don't use a word last, but I would like to leave some
• 54:41
  wisdom to to persons or additional wisdom, I should say.
• 54:46
  Yeah, trust yourself. Learn to trust yourself, you
• 54:51
  know, learn to. When I say learn to trust
• 54:53
  yourself, it comes back to what I was saying before.
• 54:55
  In order to trust yourself, you need to discover who you are to
• 54:59
  trust. It's like I would put your trust
• 55:00
  in a friend, you know? Trust in whatever you know.
• 55:05
  Yeah. Trust yourself.
• 55:06
  I put my my trust in God and he is the my sole source savior,
• 55:13
  everything that I go to and I am tempted many times because it's
• 55:17
  human. Yes, something happened.
• 55:19
  Let me call up Melissa. I want to share this with
• 55:21
  Melissa. I stopped in my tracks
• 55:23
  immediately and I'm like, Nope, I'm going to go to God with
• 55:26
  this, you know, so it is something I've been working on.
• 55:30
  So instead of trying to pick up the phone and call Melissa to
• 55:32
  share, which tends to sound very gossipy, I'm trying to I'm
• 55:37
  working on that. I'm looking, I'm working on
• 55:40
  moving more to the source, to the person who created me, who
• 55:44
  is the person that's leading me where I need to go into the
• 55:49
  purpose that I'm meant to. You know, So that is why I put
• 55:53
  my trust, not in man, not in things, not in anything
• 55:57
  materialistic. So I put my trust in that
• 55:59
  because I know he's my creator and if he's my creator, then I
• 56:05
  need to stay close to my creator to know what he created me to do
• 56:08
  so. So good.
• 56:11
  Thank you so much for being with me today.
• 56:13
  I have such a pleasure to have you listeners.
• 56:16
  So much gold here. Go back, take notes, tap into
• 56:20
  those resources and and know your value.
• 56:24
  Trust yourself. Take that with you today.
• 56:27
  I love that so much. Take good care of yourself
• 56:30
  listeners. Take good care of yourself.
• 56:32
  Corinne. I'll see you again soon.
• 56:34
  For sure. Absolutely.
• 56:36
  And thanks so much listeners, for joining us today and we'll
• 56:39
  see you next time here on the Field podcast.
• 56:43
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• 56:47
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