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Why Your Boundaries Fail And How To Keep Them · Work Stress Anxiety | Burnout Prevention & Work Anxiety Help

• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to ABGW Amazing, Brilliant, Gorgeous, Wonderful.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: This is the final episode in this mini series.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: No fireworks, just steadiness.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: So when boundaries don't work, it's usually because they were requesting uh I'll say that again.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: When boundaries don't work, it's usually because they were requests, not limits.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: Or they weren't held consistently.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: For me, a boundary isn't a sentence, it's a pattern.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: So pick one phrase, okay?
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: Keep it boring.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, this is about experimentation.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to think about this.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: I can do X by Friday or I can do Y by Wednesday.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: Which do you want?
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: Feel the urge to explain, but let it pass.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: Repeat the same sentence.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: One tiny action today might be to send one email that clarifies what you're doing, what you're not, and what you need.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: One meeting line to keep.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: I'm happy to help.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: What are we deprioritizing to make space for this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, remember all these mini episodes has an accompanying blog post on her guru.co.uk that goes into much more detail about what we're doing here.
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_00: What I want you to remember is just notice what you notice in each episode.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: If you smile, sigh, or if you recognize yourself somewhere along the way, you know what?
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: That's progress.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: You know, one of the things that's really important to me is to understand that growth doesn't have to look tidy to be real, it doesn't have to be in a nice straight line.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what I mean?
• 3:03
  SPEAKER_00: Growth is growth, and it's about learning.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_00: And if you want something steady to return to, like I said, I created the emotional first aid kit, and that's waiting for you at her guru.co.uk.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: Go gently.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: You're doing the best that you can, you're doing better than you think you are.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, there's the blog post if you want more detail.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_00: And remember that every step you take, no matter how small, is a step towards a brighter, more balanced future.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: Trust in your journey and remember progress is progress, no matter the pace.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you're all doing well.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: Bye for now.