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81. Stop Absorbing Other People's Energies Reality Transurfing · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

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  Today we're going to talk about absorbing other people's energies.
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  An energy field is all around you and they are contagious.
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  We're going to use some Reality Transurfing principles today.
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  And I'm going to give you 12 simple tips that you can take to protect yourselves from destructive pendulums.
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  We'll talk about pendulums and more.
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  You're listening to the Stop the Mind Screw Podcast.
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  I'm your host, Kathie Owen certified fitness trainer and certified life coach since 2002.
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  On this channel, we talk about having a growth mindset, healthy habits, Fitness and some Reality Transurfing.
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  And today we're talking about absorbing other people's energies, how this happens and what we can do about it.
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  Let's get into the episode.
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  So the first time I really, really got this was I stopped absorbing other people's emotions and energies.
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  When I learned about pendulums in the book, Reality Transurfing.
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  And today I'm going to give you a description of a pendulum.
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  Define constructive and destructive pendulums.
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  And give you simple steps to start your journey free of other people's negative energies.
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  This is a very important skill that is invaluable to you as a coach, entrepreneur, or simply just being human in general.
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  Because it happens.
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  Who am I to explain this?
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  I received a clinical diagnosis of complex post-traumatic stress disorder in 2006.
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  This came after years of chronic abuse from someone with narcissistic personality disorder.
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  And by the way, we all have narcissistic tendencies.
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  I spent many years in counseling and study human behavior on an extensive basis.
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  Today I am a survivor of my diagnosis and I teach others that we are not victims of our circumstances.
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  As a coach, entrepreneur, or just being human in general, there are going to be times when you need to be careful of those around you.
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  Absorbing other people's emotions is a real thing.
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  Today I'm going to discuss the ways that worked for me.
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  When it came to dealing with others, negative emotions.
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  These skills come from years of study and analysis of human behavior.
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  I also teach others how how to find success using Reality Transurfing principles.
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  What does Reality Transurfing say about absorbing other people's energy?
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  Reality Transurfing is a book written by Russian quantum physicist, vadim Zeland.
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  The book is full of great ideas and concepts for creating a reality that you love.
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  It is also full of topics on how to deal with other people's energy.
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  Take a deep breath.
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  And let's discuss.
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  One of the best concepts in Reality Transurfing for dealing with other people's emotions is a pendulum.
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  A pendulum is simply a thought structure that everyone thinks, and it only wants your energy.
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  Easy examples of pendulums are sports teams.
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  Imagine this you're at a stadium watching a huge sporting event.
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  All of a sudden the home team scores.
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  The entire stadium erupts into huge cheers.
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  And you do too.
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  You can't help, but get caught up in the energy field of excitement.
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  Then the next thing, you know, a famous team member makes a huge mistake.
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  It is detrimental to the entire game, the whole stadium erupts into a yelling match.
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  You can feel the negative energy in the air.
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  The poor guy simply made a human mistake and now everyone hates him.
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  What happened in that stadium is a pendulum prod.
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  As I said, the pendulum is simply a thought structure that everyone thinks, and it only wants your energy.
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  It pendulum is like an energy vampire.
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  And if you are not careful, it will suck your energy dry.
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  Energy vampires are everywhere.
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  They rely on the emotions of others to get you pulled into their sway.
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  Vadim Zeland says it himself in the book, a pendulum's favorite dish is dissatisfaction and lack of fulfillment.
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  So how does one learn how to stop absorbing this lack of fulfillment and dissatisfaction also known as emotional energy feelings of others and emotional experiences.
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  Well today, I'm going to answer that question.
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  The first step is to identify the negative pendulums in your life.
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  Remember these negative pendulums can be other people's feelings, an emotional experience, and even social anxiety.
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  Since pendulums are everywhere, you must realize which ones are destructive and which ones are constructive for you and your energy levels.
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  For example, the gal who works at CNN news has a constructive pendulum of negative news.
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  That is her job.
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  That is what she works on every single day.
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  And she thrives on it.
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  I on the other hand would identify that news pendulum also known as negative energy as destructive.
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  Why?
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  Because the negative news causes me to feel other people's emotions that I do not want to feel and causes me to give up my own energy as a result.
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  So now I'm going to give you 12 simple tips.
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  You can take to protect yourself from destructive pendulums, also known as other people's stress emotions of other people and even energy vampires.
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  Number one set clear and healthy boundaries.
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  Boundaries are one of the best ways to protect yourself from an emotional sponge, an energy vampire or a suspected source of negative energy.
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  Oftentimes what happens is we let our guard down and we let someone come in and drain our energy.
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  And then we are left, unprotected and drained.
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  By having boundaries, you're able to say no.
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  No is a complete sentence.
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  Now I get it.
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  This can be difficult, but let me add this.
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  It can be difficult at first.
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  Sometimes changing boundary patterns with friends and family is a retraining process.
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  But being consistent with setting a kind, but firm boundary will protect you from energy vampires.
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  It just takes consistent practice and action.
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  Number two ground yourself in nature.
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  Simply taking a five minute walk in nature can be a great way to bring yourself back into flow or away from negative energies.
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  Oftentimes we need to heal and release and being in fresh, clean green environment or around water clears negativity.
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  The earth emanates healing.
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  Try going barefoot and feeling the Earth's power through your feet.
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  To shed other people's energies, feel the grass between your bare toes and walk in the sand or the soil.
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  Feel the nurturing medicine of the earth coming through your feet to ground you.
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  It can be a beautiful feeling and can release positive energy and positive emotions.
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  Number three practice mindfulness.
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  Mindfulness is the human ability to tune in to the moment.
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  And mindful person is fully present, fully aware and fully connected with themself.
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  A few key mindfulness tactics include touching objects with unique texture.
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  Looking at and naming the colors around you.
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  And taking deep breaths.
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  By focusing more on the experience of the moment.
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  You can keep others energy separate and deflect their negative emotions.
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  Number four meditate.
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  Meditation can be a very personal experience for highly sensitive people.
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  But meditation is not always the same for everyone.
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  You do not have to sit on a pillow and stare at the clouds to actually get the benefits of meditation.
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  Personally, I meditate while walking or while exercising at the gym.
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  Meditation allows you to look inwards and observe your emotions from a distance.
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  Providing much needed relief.
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  When you pick up someone else's energies, observing your emotions from a distance is a great way to stop the pendulum prod and release yourself from other people's stress.
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  Breathe deeply and imagine all the negative feelings leaving your body and replace.
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  Place those dark thoughts with clarity and positivity.
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  Number five, protect your space.
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  Life on the outside world can be tough.
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  Heck life in the world of the internet can be tough.
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  We easily become vulnerable to the mix of emotions as we Jostle through crowds, and we can be easily overwhelmed by the many different pendulums vying for energy and attention.
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  Once you get home, it might not be any better.
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  You might be living with a lot of people.
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  You can't avoid being bombarded by emotions.
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  If you're someone struggling to find peace, the first step is to create a quiet, comfortable and calming space for yourself where you can recharge.
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  Fill your space with art plants and calming scents so your energy can recuperate.
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  It doesn't have to be a bedroom.
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  Either your safe space can easily be a bathroom or a closet.
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  Just make sure it's somewhere.
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  You have time alone and stay away from the chaos of your phone, that television or other people.
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  I really like how these two books talk about protecting your space.
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  That is a Psycho-Cybernetics.
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  And the book Innercise and I'll have links to those in the show notes and description.
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  Number six use humor.
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  Humor is one of the quickest and best ways to stop a pendulum sway.
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  Think about it for a moment in the above example of the sporting event, how could we use humor to release the pendulum prod?
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  We could laugh at how silly we are behaving at an event we personally have no control over.
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  We could also laugh at how excited we got over the victorious score and how quickly that changed in a heartbeat.
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  Once you really understand how a pendulum operates in your life, you can use humor often.
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  Laugh at how silly you must look to an alien who has no understanding of the game whatsoever.
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  Think about that for a moment.
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  A mental diet.
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  And mental diet is a habit of refusing to entertain any negative thoughts and mental diet is one of the best life strategies you have to combat.
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  Attracting other people's negative energies.
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  As soon as you notice inner thoughts telling us negative story, you immediately release them like a regular diet, mental diets require discipline and attention, and they're best done in short stints, which can help you to quick start into a new way of thinking as a lifestyle.
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  While it is very simple.
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  It can also be quite challenging.
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  In fact, most teachers tell us that if you encounter difficulty, you are doing it right.
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  However it is also recommended that if it gets too overwhelming, just stop and try again a few weeks later.
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  I have a mental diet resource guide at www.kathieowen.com/mentaldiet.
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  I'll have a link in the show notes and the description for that.
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  A mental diet is the best way that I know to identify negative thinking patterns.
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  Notice I said, identify, this does not mean repressing them or suppressing them.
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  Once you identify them, you can rewrite them using the pruning shears of revision that Neville Goddard teaches.
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  Number eight monitor your self-talk.
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  We are not spared from the critical inner voice that makes catty remarks inside our heads.
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  As an entrepreneur, we run the risk.
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  We will continuously criticize ourselves.
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  You know that overzealous imposter syndrome sets in You're only a single person in this great big world.
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  The best way to fight these negative voices is to practice.
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  Self-compassion.
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  Become constantly aware if and when you are suffering, so you can acknowledge how you feel and respond appropriately.
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  Cultivate self-forgiveness no one is perfect and we really need to know that that's okay.
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  Number nine, repeat mantras to yourself.
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  Mantras are positive and affirmations can help us navigate away from negativity and back to a more centered place.
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  Some examples of mantras could be:return to sender or I release any emotion that isn't mine.
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  It's better to not use a negative statement.
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  Like I don't feel anyone's emotions.
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  You can also say something like I am focused on my emotions and I am setting aside.
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  Everyone else's.
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  Affirmations can be a part of your meditation or they can be used when you slip into someone's negative feelings.
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  Number 10, let go of expectations.
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  Expectations are a funny thing we expect to win.
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  We expect to succeed.
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  We expect to get that family member to act in a certain way, but life is not fair and bad things happen.
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  When we reduce expectations, things shift.
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  Notice, I did not say totally released them.
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  Why?
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  Because expectations are important.
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  We must expect certain things along this journey.
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  We are not yet at the destination.
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  To enjoy the journey.
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  As much as the destination, we must realize that some expectations are not going to be met.
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  Let it go and pick up from where you left off and enjoy the journey.
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  Number 11, identify what drains you.
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  Not all pendulums are bad.
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  Remember how I said the gal who works at CNN is constructively motivated by the news.
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  And I am destructively motivated by the news.
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  Well, when you identify which pendulums hurt you.
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  It makes it so much easier to stop absorbing other people's feelings and emotions.
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  When you catch yourself paying attention to a destructive pendulum, you walk away, observe it with humor.
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  Or step into your protective zone for a moment.
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  Many times this is all that is needed to stop the pendulum sway and return to your true feelings and your true power.
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  Number 12 find a healthy way to release emotions.
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  Healing takes place in the mind, the body and the soul.
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  The mind needs to process emotions rationally.
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  It needs to understand.
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  Journaling is an excellent way to release emotions in the mind.
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  The entire body process of emotions physically.
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  If we do not release emotions, physically, we may endure physical symptoms of pain and physical discomfort.
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  Exercise punching a pillow or just taking a quick walk around the block are great ways to process emotions physically Another thing i enjoy doing for a physical cleanse is Epson salt baths This helps you release toxins and is a handy form of protection from other people's energy and pendulums And as for the soul it is all about connecting with your solar plexus your envelope of white light And or your higher being.
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  Take some time alone to process these emotions meditate and find your inner light And know that there are infinite solutions to every problem And unresolved issues So the 12 simple steps are set clear and healthy boundaries.
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  Ground yourself in nature.
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  Number three practice mindfulness.
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  Number four meditate.
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  Number five protect your space.
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  Number six use humor.
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  Number seven a mental diet.
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  Number eight monitor yourself talk.
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  Number nine repeat mantras to yourself.Number 10, let go of expectations.
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  Number 11, identify what drains you.And number 12, find a healthy way to release emotions So in conclusion the next time you feel toxic energy from another person's emotions ask yourself is this a destructive pendulum stealing my energy Am i wasting a lot of time on this stressful situation?
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  Create strong connections with constructive pendulums create your own system to help you find the important things in life.
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  Perhaps you need a mental diet or to exercise to meditate or even watch a funny movie.These types of emotional boundaries will serve to protect you the next time you feel yourself absorbing other people's energy.
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  I hope this helps thank you for spending part of your day with me if you know someone who could benefit from this please share it with them and I hope you have a great day and until next time i'll see you next time peace out And Namaste.