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Full Purpose Living 1/7: You Were Made to Burn -- Not Flicker #MakingMovesMonday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: There you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, I'm glad you found me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm glad I found you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Making Moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're listening to The Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so glad you're here.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's go.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is Monday, sweet spotters, sweet builders, and sweet dreamers.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Making Moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today we're starting something together that by Sunday, I promise you, is going to land in a way you didn't even see coming.
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  SPEAKER_00: On the next seven days, over the next seven days, we're going to be building something here together.
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  SPEAKER_00: One truth at a time, one virtue at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And all I need is for you to stick with me all week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's make a promise and a commitment to each other that we're going to stick with each other all week long.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we're going to construct something that won't make complete sense until the very end.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm going to ask you to trust the process this week, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, to show up every day as we go through our series of full purpose living.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's right.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is about full purpose living this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: How to live on purpose, how to live with purpose, how to use purpose to drive us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we're gonna let each piece do what it's supposed to do this week, and we're gonna dig into purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, we're gonna start with passion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, a word you know something about, a word that you've used before, a word that drives you in the work that you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure you've been passionate about something, and you are most likely still passionate about something in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to tell you something about that word.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a word that uh that's very powerful and it means something to most people, but there might be a meaning about passion that you may not have heard, sweet spotter.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ancient Latin root for passion is called passio, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean excitement.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, it doesn't even mean feeling great or feeling good.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what it means?
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  SPEAKER_00: This passio means to suffer for, that's right, to endure for, to keep moving forward, something that matters so much that you simply cannot walk away from it, you're willing to suffer for it, to endure for it, and to go through it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know about you, but I didn't really appreciate passion and attach it to mean suffering for what you want or being willing to suffer for it or to endure it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a revelation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for Making Moves Monday, it's a great place for us to start because we want to know what passion is all about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, remember the passion of Christ?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now you understand it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I understand it.
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  SPEAKER_00: When they say the passion of Christ, that was when he was in the Garden of Gethsemane before he was going to the cross.
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  SPEAKER_00: The whole passion was he was enduring, he was suffering for what he really wanted.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, whenever you're passionate about something, whenever you have passion about something, know that a part of you is sacrificing, a part of you is willing to endure and maybe even suffer to get what you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, the question I want you to sit with today on Making Moves Monday isn't what excites you, but the question is, what are you willing to suffer for?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write that down if you need to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because whatever you answer, whatever your honest, unfiltered answer is to this question, what are you willing to suffer for?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is the very foundation of everything we're gonna build this week around this notion of living with full purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the ancient wisdom puts it this way: you've got to delight yourself in God, and your desires, the desires of your heart will be given to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Literally, it says that delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'm not preaching today, this is not preaching.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here on the sweet spot, we blend science, soul, and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: So trust me, you'll get some neuroscience, you'll get some ancient wisdom, you might even get some stoic quotes or whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: We cook it here, man.
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  SPEAKER_00: We we put a soap together, we put a weave together here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I tell you delight yourself in the Lord, and He'll give you the desires of your heart, and we're talking about passion and purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to understand what that phrase means.
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  SPEAKER_00: We gotta dissect it, unpack it.
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  SPEAKER_00: What does this mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: Delight yourself, and you'll get the desires of your heart, not the desires of your strategy or what looks good on paper, the desires of your heart, sweet spotter.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's right.
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  SPEAKER_00: The the ones, the desires that you don't even whisper out loud, not even to yourself, the desires that you have deep inside of you that sometimes feel too big, too, too risky, too far from where you're standing right now to even articulate it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something that you desire so deeply.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what the ancient wisdom was talking to you about.
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  SPEAKER_00: That you've got to find your divine connection and then allow the desires to flow from that source.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not an accident, that's a kind of an architecture that the divine wisdom was trying to get us to understand here.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's something that was placed inside of you on purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: For a purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: You like that one?
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  SPEAKER_00: Something was placed inside of you, sweet spotter, on purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: For a purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that purpose doesn't announce itself loudly, does it?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what happens, it reveals itself through what you keep coming back to.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want to know what your purpose is?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you keep coming back to?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it reveals itself through what you find yourself thinking about at midnight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through the thing you would do even if no one paid you, if no one promoted you, and no one praised you for it, you would still do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you feel so strongly about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what passion is, it's a fuel.
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  SPEAKER_00: And purpose, purpose is the destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: So hear me when I tell you that passion is the fuel, that's the gas in the car, and the purpose is the destination, that's where we headed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And without one, the other is just sitting there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, the other is just sitting there, just sort of waiting.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the part that nobody says out loud, and I need you to hear me when I say this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Really?
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to just listen to this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most people don't lose their purpose in one dramatic moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's no breakdown, there's no clear turning point that they can name or identify.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what happens?
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  SPEAKER_00: It occurs slowly.
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  SPEAKER_00: They trade their purpose slowly for something else, for comfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: They trade their purpose for comfort that feels reasonable.
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  SPEAKER_00: They trade it for safety, for safety that feels responsible on the surface, but it's really a trade-in.
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  SPEAKER_00: They trade it for a version of their life that looks fine on the outside, but's kind of hollow on the inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then one day they look up and they realize the fire is barely flickering, and they can't remember when did it go out?
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  SPEAKER_00: When did I lose my sense of purpose?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did it go?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did my passion go?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do I no longer have passion?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do I just get up and I'm just going through the motions?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just making it happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: I really don't feel anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just executing at this point.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever been in those situations?
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a cost to ignoring it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not like you have this huge failure thing or a big disaster when I say a cost.
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  SPEAKER_00: What I'm talking about is this the life that slips through your fingers, and it's no longer your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're just living it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're just existing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and you feel like you're almost non-existent because you're like a robot.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're just getting it done day after day.
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  SPEAKER_00: You ever feel like that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Seneca, the stoic philosopher that we've discussed here on the sweet spot, said that fire tests gold, but suffering tests brave men.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Suffering tests brave men and women.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's not romanticizing suffering when he says this.
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  SPEAKER_00: What he's saying is something very true that things worth doing will cost you something.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you don't do those things from a deep place, if you don't do them from a place where you're really coming from your deepest passions, they will eventually just become like a noose around your neck and an obligation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you won't feel anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, maybe that's you right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Still showing up when your body is telling you to stop, still building something the world hasn't rewarded you for yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Still getting up every day, putting one foot in front of the other, that kind of thing, still pouring into the people that need you, even when you don't feel like you have anything else left to give.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your passion is no longer aligned with your purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've lost it somewhere along the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you lose passion, you're losing one of the most powerful forces in all of human life.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are individuals who must have passion inside of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have to have the burn that gives us the joy to keep us going.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rumi, the poet, said, set your life on fire and seek those who fan your flames.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not your career or your brand.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's not asking you to set those things on fire.
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  SPEAKER_00: Set your life on fire.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's sit with that for a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: Seek those who fan your flames.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are the people closest to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they adding oxygen to what's burning inside of you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they help helping your fire burn higher or are they quietly draining you or turning the heat down?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they dialing down your thermostat?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you around the circus?
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, we can't be around clowns because they just do what clowns do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: You just gotta stop going to the circus.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you've gotta ask yourself, what's draining my passion?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I in the wrong job?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I in the wrong position?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have I lost my way?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I do any recovery work on me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have I been pushing and draining myself to the point where I simply don't have any fuel left?
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  SPEAKER_00: These are the questions that you must ask on a Making Moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And listen, you don't have to make dramatic moves today.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you do need to be honest about whose company is leaving you more alive, what habits or practices are right for you or not right for you, and you know what they are.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's leaving you more depleted?
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  SPEAKER_00: What behaviors are you involved in that's leaving you depleted?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or what is it that you're not doing that's not pouring energy into you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust me, that awareness alone here on a Making Moves Monday can change everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I want to take you somewhere for a moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Come with me, sweet spotter, come with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about a time when you were so locked into something that time just disappeared.
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  SPEAKER_00: When the work didn't even feel like work, when the when even the hard parts of what you were doing feel like they just belong to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you finished, you were like, Wow, this is who I am, this is what I'm here for.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: That wasn't luck.
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  SPEAKER_00: That wasn't luck at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: That wasn't luck.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was your moment, that was you in your passion, that was your brain operating exactly the way it was designed to when passion and purpose are working together.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here on the Sweet Spot, we're about science, soul, and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna tell you point blank, neuroscientists have a name for what I just discussed.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you don't need the name, you need to remember the feeling because the feeling is the signal.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you feel, you feel that passion, it's in your bones, and if you haven't felt it in your while in a while, that's not something to be ashamed of or be worried about, that's something to just pay attention to.
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  unknown: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bob Marley saw the finish line of all of this when he said, the greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and in his ability to affect those around him positively.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's like passion grown up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Passion that has moved through suffering, stayed rooted in purpose, and now has become something that reaches far beyond the person.
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  SPEAKER_00: The greatness of a person, the greatness of a woman is not in how much wealth she or she acquires, but in her integrity and her ability to affect those around her positively.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is mature purpose and passion working together.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's who you are, that's who you want to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about the people watching you live this out right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your kids, your team, the person in your orbit, your husband, your wife, your friend, whoever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about the example that you have set.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're the reason they're still trying because they see your purpose and passion really kicking in.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they're watching how you burned with this passion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what they see in you is either permission to live fully or permission to stay small.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you're not made to flicker.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not made to flicker, we're made to burn, sweet spotter, and it's Mickey Moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've got to burn this Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the fire inside of you, the one that keeps coming back, no matter how many times life tries to put it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: That fire inside of you is trying to tell you something.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to listen to that fire and access this fire all week this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's your passion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ignite it, feel it, and use it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's your assignment for today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just one thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to write it down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what it is this statement.
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing I would still show up for even if no one was watching and nothing was working, yet, the one I keep explaining away because taking it seriously would actually cost me something, is what?
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing you would still show up for, even if no one was watching you.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is it?
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  SPEAKER_00: That blank?
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever you put there, whatever you say is that thing is your passion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that passion is pointing directly at your purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your purpose is fueled by what you're passionate about.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is where full purpose living begins.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sweet spotter, on making moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you showing passion when you show up for practice?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you showing passion when you show up for work?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you showing passion in your relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where is the passion?
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  SPEAKER_00: How are you allowing it to fuel your purpose?
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  SPEAKER_00: For science, for soul, and for success, you're in Making Moves Monday here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you know someone who can use a message about the connection between their passion and their purpose, definitely share.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you tomorrow, sweet builder.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll definitely see you tomorrow for Take Action Tuesday, where we're gonna explore and reframe, reframe what we just talked about in a way that you don't even expect.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're just gonna take it to another level.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: And until I see you tomorrow, stay in the sweet spot.