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'Have Courage. Be Kind': It's a Q&A with B&J Special · She's On The Money

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  Speaker 1: She's on the Money.
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  Speaker 2: She's on the Money.
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  Speaker 3: My name's Satasha Bamblet. I'm a proud First Nations woman
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  Speaker 2: I'm be excited and joining me today is the wonderful
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  Speaker 2: Jess Ricky. We're bringing back something special at the moment,
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  Speaker 2: and do you want to intro it?
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  Speaker 1: I mean you might have seen the title already, the
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  Speaker 1: acclaimed fan favorite being JAQ and I. I'm giggling excat
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  Speaker 1: off anyone actually joined it last time, and.
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  Speaker 2: That like the B and JQ and A is like
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  Speaker 2: that's something for us. It was like everyone else will
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  Speaker 2: be like, Okay, I don't know what that means.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's the Beck and Jess Q and A.
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  Speaker 1: We've got as to your ques, You've got cues for
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  Speaker 1: at A exactly right. I'm waiting to answer them now.
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  Speaker 1: We may not get around to all of them. So
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  Speaker 1: We can comment on this episode and we'll gather them
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  Speaker 1: all together. But I've got quite a fun list and
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  Speaker 1: it's a good mix. Today. We've got a few financy ones,
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  Speaker 1: a few random ones which you and I both do
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  Speaker 1: seem to love. Yeah, but I'll kick us off with
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  Speaker 1: a very fun one which is from A brook and
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  Speaker 1: who said, what reality TV show do you think you
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  Speaker 1: would do well at? Oh my goodness, I was gonna
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  Speaker 1: say you'd make great reality TV. I think you'd be
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  Speaker 1: so fun on TV.
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  Speaker 2: Just say it's so sweet.
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  Speaker 1: I think you would too.
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  Speaker 2: You'd be so like I think if you were and
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  Speaker 2: this this is not the question, but if you're in prison.
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  Speaker 1: You would be.
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  Speaker 2: I think you would accidentally be like you'd be ruling
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  Speaker 2: the roost, you know what you really would be.
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  Speaker 1: I don't I fear I would be too scared. No,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: You would accidentally be the head of that household, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like some.
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  Speaker 1: Brook Windom Energy maybe or something.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, hell yeah, But no reality TV show. I think
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  Speaker 2: everyone would like to think that they would be good
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  Speaker 2: at Survivor.
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  Speaker 1: Why was I thinking Survivor? I would not be good
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  Speaker 1: at Survivor the records.
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  Speaker 2: I just don't think either. But I think that I
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  Speaker 2: would be good on like I don't know if anyone
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  Speaker 2: knows the Trust or the Secret Millionaire's like very netflixy,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. There's just like ones where like You're
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  Speaker 2: it's kind of like Big Brother. I think I would
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  Speaker 2: do okay on Big Brother.
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  Speaker 1: You'd be great on Big Brother? Oh be so good
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  Speaker 1: to beg for Big Brother?
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  Speaker 2: You apply for it? Answer so many questions, Not that
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  Speaker 2: I've applied every year, but please let me hunt the show.
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  Speaker 1: Have you applied before?
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  Speaker 2: I have applied before.
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  Speaker 1: That's so far and no, never heard back.
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  Speaker 2: End your turned.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think I would be good for reality TV.
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  Speaker 1: I think I'm so nervous and introverted that I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: be good at all. So I was really racking my brains.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I may have said this before. But
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  Speaker 1: if I had to pick one, I would pick like
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  Speaker 1: a Dancing with the Stars's so fun to learn a
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  Speaker 1: dance every week and wear a sparkly costume, or maybe
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  Speaker 1: like a master chef. But I can't cook. I can
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  Speaker 1: only bake.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, British Bake Off. Oh my god, I'd be good.
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  Speaker 1: On the Great British Breakup.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god. Nothing screams just for me like Great
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  Speaker 2: British Fake Off. That would be so cute.
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  Speaker 1: And if I could do a fun one where they
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  Speaker 1: you have sometimes they get celebrities, like that would be
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  Speaker 1: a fun episode, Like not that I'm a celebrity, but
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  Speaker 1: it would be a fun episode to be around actual celebrities.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, they'd be so cute.
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  Speaker 1: So if anyone worked in TV production, land, call us
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  Speaker 1: call Us.
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  Speaker 2: The next one comes from Casey, who says, what's your
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  Speaker 2: go to comfort homemade meal?
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  Speaker 1: That's a good one, so homemade. If I'm sick, I'm
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  Speaker 1: making two boiled eggs with soldiers and an orange juice
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  Speaker 1: because that's what my mom used to make me when
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  Speaker 1: I was sick, Like a dippy egg. Yeah at the
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  Speaker 1: top of delicious, but as an adult, my comfort meal
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  Speaker 1: when I'm sick. It's giving home. Maybe it's not. There's
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  Speaker 1: a local restaurant. I don't actually know what cuisine it
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  Speaker 1: is specifically, but they do a crispy fried noodle and
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  Speaker 1: then it comes with like almost a broth with veg
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  Speaker 1: I get it vegetarian. Yeah, So it's like a you know,
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  Speaker 1: broccoli and all these things that's really yummy. And so
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  Speaker 1: the veggies are all steamed and then in this delicious
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  Speaker 1: like saucy mixture and then you pour that over the
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  Speaker 1: crispy noodles and the noodles go soft, and it's like
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  Speaker 1: just so wholesome, comforting, like feels good. It's got lots
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  Speaker 1: of veggies in it, Like I just feel good after
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  Speaker 1: I've eaten it. I think to myself all the time
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  Speaker 1: because sadly, a lot of businesses are closing where I live,
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  Speaker 1: like a lot of local restaurants and stuff. And I
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  Speaker 1: was like, if this restaurant ever goes out of business,
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  Speaker 1: I am going to be absolutely devastated. Yeah, because it's
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  Speaker 1: like they just call it a crispy combination noodle. Oh
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  Speaker 1: so it's not even like I can google it and
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  Speaker 1: find what it is. I love it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, they can never close because I need it. That's
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  Speaker 1: my sick food.
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  Speaker 2: Can you send me the name of that place because
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  Speaker 2: it sounds delicious? Absolutely, my one is. And I used
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  Speaker 2: to be made fun of for this because it sounds disgusting,
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  Speaker 2: but I promise it is. It's actually so good. I
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  Speaker 2: get like a big you know, the big cans of
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  Speaker 2: red salmon or pink salmon, red salmon if it's in
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  Speaker 2: my budget, and I like open it, and then I
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  Speaker 2: make a miggring and I keep the hot water in there.
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  Speaker 2: It's not like keeps the hot water, but it's like soupy.
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  Speaker 2: And then I dump the whole with all the juice,
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  Speaker 2: the whole can of salmon into the migring and it
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  Speaker 2: is so I promise you so good. It is so delicious.
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  Speaker 2: And then maybe a fried egg on top. And I
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  Speaker 2: know that all the combination of the salmon in a
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  Speaker 2: can and the fried egg and the migring, it sounds gross,
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  Speaker 2: but I promise you please try. It's delicious. It's really
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  Speaker 2: really good. That's probably my go to home cooked meal.
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  Speaker 1: I love that we both love a noodle. That's kind
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  Speaker 1: of fun. True, all right, one that's kind of let's
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  Speaker 1: say financi. It's not, but she's in the money. Related
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  Speaker 1: is from Macy who said what are your job titles
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  Speaker 1: or job roles? And she's on the money. I love
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  Speaker 1: the mixing personality between you guys, which is so nice.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you Macy. I could do some because
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  Speaker 1: I think a lot of people don't know this true.
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  Speaker 1: You don't actually work for shoes on the mone No,
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  Speaker 1: I don't.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that wild? And also it's scary because I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I guess you guys could be like, oh, don't come
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  Speaker 2: in anymore, and I would never would never, you would never,
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  Speaker 2: I would never.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much, very important, very valuable.
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  Speaker 2: But it is scary when you're like, I guess, like freelancing,
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  Speaker 2: maybe it's what I'm I guess that's what I'm doing here.
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  Speaker 2: I don't work for you guys, but I am usually
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  Speaker 2: a video producer, and I'd say I'm going on like
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  Speaker 2: three four months now of really not being able to
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  Speaker 2: find a job, but just freelancing as a video producer.
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  Speaker 2: So if anyone knows of any video editing, video producing,
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  Speaker 2: social media whatever roles, even anything, yeah, that's kind of
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  Speaker 2: what I do. I was working with iHeart and gold FM.
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  Speaker 1: That's how you came into our stratosphere.
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  Speaker 2: That's how we all met. And then yeah, just kind
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  Speaker 2: of life goes on and things move around, we all remain.
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  Speaker 2: We come here and meat and I think it's really beautiful.
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  Speaker 2: And yourself.
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  Speaker 1: My official title, I think is Content and Partnerships Manager. Yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 1: manager Partnerships, which is not that exciting, but I do it.
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  Speaker 2: So the next one from Rihanna, I really like this one.
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  Speaker 2: What is your favorite weird flavor combo? Example, mango and
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  Speaker 2: soy sauce, avo and veggimite.
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  Speaker 1: Mango and soy sauce is a crazy one. I don't
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  Speaker 1: think I've ever met anyone. I also have a crazy one. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: this comes from my childhood. I would take a glass
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  Speaker 1: of coke or now is enjoy. It would be a
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  Speaker 1: glass of Persy Max some freshly pop popcorn, yes, popcorn
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  Speaker 1: in the coke, just swizzling around this spoon, and then
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  Speaker 1: you pull it out with the spoon and eat it
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  Speaker 1: like cereal. And the crazy thing is, okay, I know
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  Speaker 1: at least one other person in the world does this
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  Speaker 1: because I learned this because one of my friends did
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  Speaker 1: it as a kid.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, so they're out there spreading the word.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, I'm going to grown adult, so it's
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  Speaker 1: not something I do often, but every now and again
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  Speaker 1: I'll do it and it is really yummy. It gets soft, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it gets soggy.
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  Speaker 2: You keep it in the coke.
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  Speaker 1: Just quit. It's like a dunk like I throw it
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  Speaker 1: in swizzle.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, understood.
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  Speaker 1: Cereal crazy Cereal texture basically wow. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Do you feel like you like it because you grew
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  Speaker 2: up with it?
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  Speaker 1: I think so. I think it's just like a like
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  Speaker 1: it's salty. Yeah, I don't know. As I'm explaining it,
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  Speaker 1: I fully acknowledge that it sounds absurd. That's the weirdest
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  Speaker 1: one I've got.
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  Speaker 2: I learned from a friend. But she makes a meso oat.
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  Speaker 2: I would personally think that oats are like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you brown sugars, your milks, You're like, I know, I'm
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  Speaker 2: thinking like a swim eat treat wreckfast. Yeah, But she
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  Speaker 2: puts miso in her oats and has like boiled eggs
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  Speaker 2: in it, and I think it's it's delicious. It's really
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  Speaker 2: delicious and maybe like a some sort of green. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: it's like a spinach. But like, break me if I'm wrong,
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  Speaker 2: But spinach has changed in my lifetime. It used to
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  Speaker 2: be like the big chunky stalks, but now it's like
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  Speaker 2: spinach is little lee, little Lee's No, it used to
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  Speaker 2: be big. Sure, I'm so sure, even like Popeye. Look
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  Speaker 2: at Popeye, he's eaten spinach like that big green What
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  Speaker 2: is that? How do I find it? And what's it called?
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  Speaker 2: But anyway, definitely was not that before. And so I'm
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  Speaker 2: thinking that big hearty green leafy spinach and miso oats
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  Speaker 2: and a jammy boiled egg? Crazy?
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  Speaker 1: Do you refer to a runny boiled egg as jammie?
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  Speaker 3: Yes?
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  Speaker 2: What's it called runny?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Is that a queenslandthe No?
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  Speaker 2: Maybe it is because my friend calls it Jamie and
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  Speaker 2: she's Queensland. So there you go.
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  Speaker 1: That's so interesting.
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  Speaker 2: What do you call it? Runny?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: A runny eggs? Oh my god? To people call it
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  Speaker 1: a dippy egg. Dippy egg that's what Victoria calls it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: dippy eg.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god's cute, very cute. Okay, out to you?
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  Speaker 2: What do I call it? Well, I've really lost myself.
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  Speaker 2: I think I called it a running egg. Usually, God,
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  Speaker 2: I've been learning a.
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  Speaker 1: Lot here today. Next time that I've got is from
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  Speaker 1: Oh I'm so sorry. I'm gonna butcher your name, Nil Yak.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe do you think that sounds right?
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  Speaker 2: That sounds right, beautiful, perfect.
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  Speaker 1: Who wants to know? What have we learned from each
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  Speaker 1: other since we started working together?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, that's beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, it's a really cute question.
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  Speaker 2: That is a really cute question. And obviously I've learned
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  Speaker 2: from yourself and Victoria that I think that was just
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  Speaker 2: so scared of money before I started, And I think
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  Speaker 2: I was also scared of like maybe I would feel
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  Speaker 2: as though my money story or my lack of money
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  Speaker 2: would make me appear a certain way socially and societally.
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  Speaker 2: But I've learned that it's not true that everyone has
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  Speaker 2: this idea of money. It's like people who are super rich,
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  Speaker 2: can you know, kind of see money in this way
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  Speaker 2: that's like socially, we'll still all get along, basically, is
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  Speaker 2: what I'm trying to say. And I think that's really
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  Speaker 2: beautiful because us we came here together on this podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It's like if we met out in the world, who knows.
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  Speaker 2: But then we are like set sitting here, we're talking
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  Speaker 2: to each other, and we're like, oh, we're all just
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  Speaker 2: the same. And I think it's really beautiful. But obviously
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  Speaker 2: you've taught me so much about money as well, and like,
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  Speaker 2: but how the way I'm viewing it is maybe not
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  Speaker 2: very sustainable and not gonna like serve me in the future.
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  Speaker 2: So god, so many things I've learned from you, guys.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I've learned so much from you as well.
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  Speaker 1: I think the biggest one is you have this wonderful
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  Speaker 1: way of looking at things with such an open mind
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  Speaker 1: and heart, do you know what I mean? Like you,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like we both have this experience where being
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  Speaker 1: on a podcast, I find it very anxiety inducing sometimes
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  Speaker 1: because there's this and it's not from our community, but
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  Speaker 1: there's this modern thing. I think I've seen people refer
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  Speaker 1: to it as what about meism? Yeah, bean soup thing
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  Speaker 1: is what they call it. On TikTok Whees, someone will
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  Speaker 1: post a recipe for bean soup and someone will say, well,
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  Speaker 1: I don't like beans, so what can I use instead?
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  Speaker 1: And it's the idea that, like everything you're sharing must
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  Speaker 1: appeal to every single person who could possibly ever listen
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  Speaker 1: to it here at see it whatever totally, which is
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  Speaker 1: extremely hard to do. But I think what you are
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  Speaker 1: so good at is you are just naturally so inclusive,
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  Speaker 1: do you mean, Like the easiest example I can think
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  Speaker 1: of to give is like when we're talking about maybe
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  Speaker 1: somebody's money deliver and they write in and I will
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  Speaker 1: always look at things through my own lens of like, well,
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  Speaker 1: I have a boyfriend and I live like this, and
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  Speaker 1: this is jadata. Whereas you're so inclusive with your language,
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  Speaker 1: you're so you look at things from so many perspectives
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  Speaker 1: as well, like you so easily are very open minded,
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  Speaker 1: and you go, well, you could be seeing this, you
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  Speaker 1: could be experiencing this, and then you you tack that
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  Speaker 1: onto the answers that you give. Whereas I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I'm getting better, but it just doesn't come as naturally
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  Speaker 1: to me. I feel like I'm always too selfish in
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  Speaker 1: that way. And whereas you're so good at putting yourself
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  Speaker 1: in somebody else's shoes and like their experience and their
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  Speaker 1: thoughts and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: That is so sweet. Thank you so much for saying that.
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  Speaker 1: It's true.
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  Speaker 2: God, you're really amazing at that too. I think that
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  Speaker 2: like you're amazing at it, and you're a lot more
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  Speaker 2: succinct or like the way you word things is because
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  Speaker 2: I fear that I just ramble so much when I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I haven't thought about this, and so I better, I
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  Speaker 2: have better enter this real and I'm like, oh my
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  Speaker 2: god's a quick way to do that. But you're so right,
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  Speaker 2: and I think that I get really paranoid about like
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  Speaker 2: if I was to say something that is probably objectively true,
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  Speaker 2: like yeah, I think I've said this for like, eating
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  Speaker 2: your own poo is kind of gross, but there might
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  Speaker 2: be someone out there listening that's like I love eating
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  Speaker 2: my own poo. That makes me feel really sad. And
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  Speaker 2: then I'm like, I would be devastating to know that
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  Speaker 2: I've made someone sad because I've said some in this
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  Speaker 2: way that's like objective and so like black and white,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't want to ever exclude anyone. Yeah, thank you,
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  Speaker 2: that's really sweet. Oh my god, my one was boring
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  Speaker 2: compared to yours, and so sorry. This one is from Liira,
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  Speaker 2: who says why am I scared of changing my money
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  Speaker 2: story when I know it could be so much healthier.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure there's probably psychology behind it, like there's safety
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  Speaker 1: or comfort in what you know. Yeah, I think making
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  Speaker 1: change is hard, especially I think money is such a
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  Speaker 1: deeply personal thing and exactly as you were saying before.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of us feel anxiety or shame or stigma
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  Speaker 1: or all of these things around money because we are
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  Speaker 1: all shown a traditional pathway to success. I think there's
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  Speaker 1: like a very clear and it has changed a little
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  Speaker 1: bit with time, but you know, go back to our
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  Speaker 1: parents generation, it was okay, well, you go to university
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  Speaker 1: and you get a good job, and you get married
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  Speaker 1: and you have two kids, and you take a holiday
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  Speaker 1: once a year and did it. And it was like
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  Speaker 1: just a very clear linear path. And while that path
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  Speaker 1: has opened up more, I think there are still very
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  Speaker 1: traditional markers of success that people uphold as the gold
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  Speaker 1: standard doing, like a good job or a good salary.
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  Speaker 1: You can't see me, but I'm using talking marks. And
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  Speaker 1: so I think that wanting to change your money story
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: is scary because you have to admit that you want
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: something more. You have to put yourself out there. Which
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: there's also this for me myself personally, there's this fear
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: of failure that I feel a lot of the time,
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm behind, and so making a change
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: requires you to say I want more. And firstly, sometimes
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: people shame you for that, Like there's the tall poppy
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: syndrome is very much a real thing, and people say, well,
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: you should be happy with what you have for you
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: to do that, So there's you're fighting against that, but
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: also in saying you want more, you're putting yourself out there.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: You run the risk of failing. Most people do fail,
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: or most people do fall off the horse. Most people
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: we will build up their savings and then have to
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: spend them or build up their investments and then get
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: nervous and pull it out. There are so many opportunities
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: to quote unquote fail that it's scary to put yourself
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: in that situation because we all are trying to uphold
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: this impossible standard that we see online on social media
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: or in the normal news and stuff, and it feels
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: like an overbearing weight sometimes. And I think all of
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: those things I'm straying really far from the original question,
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: but all of those things overlay over the top, so
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: that when you do try to make a change, be
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: it financial, be it something different, it can feel scary
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: and overwhelming because you go, well, I don't want to fail,
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: and I don't want people to laugh at me, and
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: oh my god, well what if I can't do it?
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: And all of this doubt from all of these pressure
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: creeps in. But I think if you break it down,
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: you know you want to change your money story incredible.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: Everybody deserves better, everybody deserves more, Like we all are
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: entitled to live the best, most wonderful, most fulfilling life
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: that we can. Yeah, and I think wanting more, wanting
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: change is really positive. Break it down into small steps
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: so that it feels less overwhelming. That would be what
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: I would recommend.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: I love that, I completely agree. It's also sometimes a
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: bit scary to be like how far does this go?
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: When you're like, I haven't even looked at my finances.
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: I don't know what the trajectory of my life looks
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: like financially. And then if you start kind of like
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: brushing off the dust of your financial story and your
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: finances right now, then you're like, how much is there
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: to uncover? How much is there to learn? How bad
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: of a position am I in that I maybe I
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: don't know yet, And it's just like a scary thing
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: to explore, but like, yeah, just exactly like one step
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: at a time, small little goals. And if you're not
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: interested in it, that's the other things. Sometimes you're not
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: like obsessed with something, so you just don't care. It's
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: like mental effort to like think about it. But if
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: you're not obsessed with it, that's okay. Just do the
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: little things you need to do to make sure you're
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: not gonna, I don't know, be in a really bad
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: financial position later. It doesn't have to be a whole world,
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: but yeah, just tackle things bit by bit.
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Bit by bit, step by step. That's it, beautiful. Well,
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: we're gonna take a really quick break, but when we
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: come back, we're gonna be answering more of your burning
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: questions that don't go anywhere.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: Welcome back, everyone. So this week's episode, if you're just
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: joining us, is a special edition of Q and A
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: with B and J. So we've been answering some of
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: your questions, some left of center, some a little bit
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: more financy. I guess we'll just jump straight back into it.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: So the next one comes from Tina, who says, do
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: you have any advice for someone wanting to make money
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: online and move away from a nine to five?
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: My big one is don't fall into the trap. There
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: are so many people online who are selling you courses
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: who it's so easy to quit your nine to five
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: and da da da, I can do this, that and
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: the other. By my course, I'm not saying it's always
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: scam because there are some great online courses out there.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: We sell some online courses which are fantastic. But I
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: think a lot of the people who you see online
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: jumping up and down saying, oh my god, I make
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: fifty thousand dollars a month from selling things online. I'm
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: not disclosing either that that is correct because there's no
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: regulation around that, or I'm not disclosing that the bulk
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: of their money is coming from selling people these courses. Yeah, right,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: And so I think it's very possible in this day
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: and age. You mean, like this podcast. I think about
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: the job that is employing us right now do not
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: exist howe many years ago. This is technically an online job,
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: right totally. So it's like, there are lots of things
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: that you can do and lots of revenue streams that
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: you can build. But I would just encourage everybody to
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: look at things with a healthy dose of skepticism because
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: there are some dodgy things out there. With that being said,
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: the great thing about making money online all of the
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: time is you don't need a lot of capital to
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: start it up. Whether you are becoming a social media
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: creator or a video editor or a podcaster. A lot
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: of these things you can start with the resources you have.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: You can start with your phone and your laptop and
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: that's all you need. And then as you build some
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: momentum or build some clientele or whatever that looks like,
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: you can then start to invest back into the things
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: that you're using. But I think, like when you're dabbling,
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: I would say just don't necessarily go hell to leather either,
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: Like don't go, oh my god, I'm going to start
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: a podcast, so I'm going to buy the three thousand
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: dollar microphones and the ten thousand dollar camera and all
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: of these things start small.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: For sure.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: We're a ween dabble as well. Like there's lots that
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: you know, you can sell things on Etsy. You can.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: There's this one girl I remember I followed her for years.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: I think her name is Type Hailey, and I think
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: she still does it. But back in the day, she
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: got started because she would make video graphics and intros
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: for people's YouTube videos, and so a lot of the
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: big creators that I followed at the time would use her,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: and then she sells. Now I believe she sells just
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: like everyday graphics that anybody can jump on our website
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: and purchase or you can do custom ones. That's like
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: that girl saw a gap in the market for her
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: skill set and it wouldn't have taken a lot of capital.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Like she probably already had the laptop or the iPad
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: or whatever she uses to animate and she just went, oh, like,
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: this is a good thing, and she's worked away at it,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: worked with some big creators. Yeah, got her namy out
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: in front of the masses. So I think there's lots
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: you can do. But find something you're passionate about as well,
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: because she was I believe maybe a graphic designer or
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: something like that, and then made that work for her
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: in the digital world, which is incredible. Yeah, speak about
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: what you enjoy it as well, exactly.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: And in the interim, just like, honestly, I know it's
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: they're quite rare to find, but like something that you're
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: already doing. But jump on LinkedIn and keep refreshing that
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: remote work section and just like try and find something
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: that's remote in the interim if you want to, because
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: there's I'm shocked by how many jobs that are out
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: there that are able to be remote, So I'm like,
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: just do that for a song as.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: You can, and remember as well. I think there's this
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: misconception that when you leave you're nine to five, you're
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: living like this cruizy, beautif good life. I think most
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: people who freelance or work for themselves will tell you
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: that it's the opposite. You know, there are some people
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: who get to a point where they can retire early
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: off of the business that they've built, and that's incredible,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: and then maybe they do live that balanced lifestyle, but
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: a lot of the time when you're doing that kind
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: of work invoices come late is such a big one.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: So like, prepare yourself mentally and financially for the fact
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: that your income is not going to be regular, especially
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: if you're doing something like content creation where you're relying
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: on you know, brands or AdSense or whatever that looks
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: like ye. And also just you're working for yourself, so
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: you don't have boundaries that you have in a regular job,
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Like it's very easy for it to bleed into other
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: areas of your life. And if especially if you're like
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: me and you do something on the side of a
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: full time job, it's a lot to take on. So
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: also just prepare yourself for that, because I think there's
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: we're sold this dream of everybody's quitting their nine to
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: five to become a content creator or build a business
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: or do whatever. And you can do it and can
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: be amazing and it can be really profitable. Yeah, but
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: it's also not this easy pipeline that people make it
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: out to be.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: From Charlotte, this one's for you, Jess. How are you
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: managing to keep costs down with the build? Any tips?
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: Well, if you've watched my YouTube video where I break
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: down all the expenses that I've paid so far, I'm
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: not necessarily doing a very good job giving the expenses down.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: I spend a lot of money at my color appointment
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: and my electrical appointment. But my big plan is that
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: I have kind of a roadmap of things that I
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: want to do once the build is completed. So I'm
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: trying to keep costs down initially by spacing things out
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: where I can, and I'm also looking at what things
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: I can do myself versus paying someone to them. So
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: I know that I'm hoping to install my own sheer
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: curtains and stuff because I've seen people do it online.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: It looks pretty easy to install your own tracks and
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: hang it yourself, and planning on putting in my own laundry.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: We covered a few of these in an episode that
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: dropped recently where we spoke kind of about my house
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: build update. I'm looking at what things I can do myself.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: I would consider myself pretty DIY savvy, so any DIY
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: options that are available to me, I am taking those.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: Also for furniture and stuff like that. I think I've
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: mentioned like I haven't bought new furniture since I moved
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: out of home, Like almost everything I own his secondhand
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: because I was moving it from house to house. And
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: so I'm really looking for sales or purchasing things that
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: I want from warehouse sales or outlets or anything like
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: that to try and keep my costs down as well.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: Like I've been able to snag a few things that
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: are on my wish list for really good prices by
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: shopping in this way. But it is just being savvy
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: and also just knowing I can't, like I'm not going
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: to be able to buy everything that I want at once,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: Like it's just simply not possible, even things like appliances,
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: Like I'm just going to have to move in my
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: fridge that is literally as old as I am into
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: the new house, and it's not going to fit, and
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: it's going to be ugly, and it is what it is,
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: and I'll just have to save and work hard to
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: eventually be able to upgrade those things when I'm in
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: the pres.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: So yeah, hell yeah, all right.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: Next question I have is from Nundiny, who said, if
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: you guys could host any podcast for one week, which
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: would you pick? Which is a fun question?
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: I like this, I like this, I like this. Well,
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: some of my favorites are like Betrayal or obviously other
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: than She's on the Money Betrayal pod, everyone has an X.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: But the one that I think would be like really
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: fun science versus one, Oh my god, you would love it.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: I think they just kind of like take any old subject.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: Let's say, you know, skincare or meditation, and it's like
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: the main host, Wendy's looking in, we'll go and ask
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: experts in that field, unpack experiments, and you know, just
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: kind of like get down to the like science of
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: it all in a way that is really palatable. But
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: it just like sounds really fun. Sounds like the team
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: are really fun. So that is probably a podcast that
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: I would love to host just for one week and
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: then come straight back.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: I don't listen to a lot of podcasts, so I
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: found this question hard. I would love to do an
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: interview format podcast because I think working here, that's one
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: thing I've learned. Is any chance that I have had
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: to sit down with someone like I sat down last
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: year with Emma Edwards, like when Victoria was on maternity leave,
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: the first time you know you and I had a
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: few guest hosts for Friday Drinks. I've always really really
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: enjoyed speaking to other people and getting to like pull
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: apart their expertise, like I just find it so interesting.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: The only interview podcast that I can think of is
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: Diary of a CEO, which I have literally only ever
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: listened to one of those episodes. I don't know why
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: that's the first one I got, but he's had some
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: really good guests. Yes, so any guest podcast, because I
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: love learning things, maybe even at science when you taught you,
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: it would be good for me, Like I love learning things,
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: and I love asking people questions and getting to understand
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: their thought process or their knowledge a little bit better.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: So any podcast where I would have the opportunity to
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: do that. I feel like I would really enjoy The
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: sext one comes from.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: Who says, how do you price items on deep Pop
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: in brackets item plus postage? I lost money after deepop
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: took their fee.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Oh have you ever sold on deepop before?
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: No, I haven't sold on Deepop. I've bored on deepop,
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: but I don't really know how it all works, So
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: probably one for you.
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I My understanding is that so detop chi is
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: a ten percent commission I believe on everything, and I
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: believe that also comes off the top of your postage fee,
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: because I think what happens, at least the way I
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: see it roll into my PayPal is deepop pays me
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: a blanket fee of like X amount, and then PayPal
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: pays a flat fee back. And from when I've looked
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: at it, that flat ten percent comes off everything, which
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: includes the postage. It's really frustrating. So you do need
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: to look at either building a bit more into your
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: postage fee or into your item fee to cover that
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: ten percent that will come out.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: Ten percent is seems exorbitant.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: No, yeah, it feels like deep hop in the UK.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it's only like two or three percent.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: I've seen a lot of conversation recently about how like
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: Deep Hop fees here are much higher than other places,
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: which fun fact for everybody. eBay are offering fee free
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: sales for a period of time, so that might be
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: worth looking into. That's something I'm looking into. But in
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: terms of pricing your product, I personally think if you're
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: going to sell something secondhand anywhere, you need to be
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: selling it for cheaper than what someone could get it
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: from for on the website. And I think most websites
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: offer a minimum of thirty percent discount, you mean with
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: a code or whatever these days most places true, so
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: I think you can be just counting an item by
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: forty percent or more. My general rule of thumb is
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: a minimum of half price, okay, depending if the item
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: is new with tags or how warn it is, is
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: it like whatever, But I would be pricing it for
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: me personally, generally a minimum of half of the retail price,
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: sometimes more if it's worn or if it's an older style.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: Take all those things into consideration. The other thing I
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: would do is sense check what are other people charging
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: for the same items, So if it's a blue glassons
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: jumper or a dish white dress or whatever that looks like,
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: searching it up on the platform and just seeing because
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: there's a very good chance that other people are selling
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: the same thing or something very similar, and just sense
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: checking your pricing against those as well, because if it
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: comes down to two similar items, realistically, any person myself included,
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: is going to pick the cheaper one. Yeah, if your
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: discount still sets you significantly higher than the average of
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: what everybody else is charging, you're probably not gonna sell it.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, it's a really good point.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: Question I've got now is from Karna who said, I've
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: seen your instant stories, Beck, what are you building?
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: Ah? To be honest, I'm not building anything. But my
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: best friend who owns a queper in North Fitzroy, Fitzroy
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: North Bernie's upstairs is where she lives, which is very funny.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: I think if you're like because I'll often go over
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: to just like hang out and the bar is open.
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: I'm laying upstairs, I gotta go downstairs to go to
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: the toilet. It just feels like I'm like at a
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: house party that I've left to go to bed, and
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: then I come downstairs. I'm like, please, no one talk
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: to me. I just so it's a very funny vibe.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: So she lives upstairs and there's one big room and
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: two like kind of medium ish small rooms, and so
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: one of those rooms she just wants to turn that
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: into like I don't know, maybe like a gallery space
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: for people to show things, yeah, or like somewhere where
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: people can do like life drawings. I mean, she's not
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: just super sure what to do with the space yet,
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: but right now we're just like, yeah, kind of tiding
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: it up because it is it's in a very space,
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: I guess, so like I wanted to put a pool
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: table in some for people to like have a little
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: lie down, but we'll see. So right now we're just
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: like tiding it up. So unfortunately, I personally not building anything.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: I'm just painting some walls, which is a lot of fun.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: Coming covered in paint today.
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: Yes, exactly. I'm really trying to milk it. I'm really
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: trying to milk it. I'm making sure I don't wash anything.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: I just love the look of having like paint splatters
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: or it's artistic. It's like, oh, this person's worked hard
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  Speaker 2: a day in their life. I'm gonna make sure everyone
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  Speaker 2: knows that as well, but yes, thank you for following along, Trina,
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  Speaker 2: and please come in and visit.
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  Speaker 1: That's so cute. Next time I've got is from miss Sharish,
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: who said, what are y'all's mayers Briggs personality types? Just fun?
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  Speaker 2: Have you done the test? I haven't done the test. No,
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  Speaker 2: I did a similar one. I don't remember anything though, perfect,
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  Speaker 2: but I know that, Okay, this is probably different test.
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  Speaker 2: But the lowest on my list of things like qualities
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  Speaker 2: that I have is impulse control.
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  Speaker 1: Impulse control.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, my lowest quality, my least quality, you guys get
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  Speaker 2: it is impulse control, which really tracks, tracked, which really felt,
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  Speaker 2: I really felt seen. I can't remember what my highest was.
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  Speaker 2: I think it was like compassion or something like that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so curious to know what test this was now,
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  Speaker 1: because I didn't think I've heard of that one.
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  Speaker 2: I can't remember what it was, but I hope that
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  Speaker 2: answers that a little bit for me. But do you
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  Speaker 2: have your.
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  Speaker 1: I do know my mayers Briggs. I am an I
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  Speaker 1: n s J. I'm pretty sure which is introverted. I
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  Speaker 1: don't remember what the ND stands for feeling judging, so
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  Speaker 1: I think I nfja's from memory it tracked with what
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  Speaker 1: I know about my staffs okay, which I'm not super
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  Speaker 1: into star signs, but it was like compassionate, empathetic knowledge seeking.
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I just heard introvert and I was like, well,
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  Speaker 1: she's read me to feel So you know, I NFJ
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  Speaker 1: this site. I'll send you the site because there's a
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  Speaker 1: free one you can do.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: It's fun because it tells you celebrities that fall into
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: the same personality type. And I don't know, I know
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  Speaker 1: that these things are not scientific or deeply rooted in anything,
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  Speaker 1: but they're just to be fun. It's I love when
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  Speaker 1: something like even on the podcast a few weeks ago,
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  Speaker 1: where you were like you look like someone who loves
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: the potato chip. Like, I just love anything that puts
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  Speaker 1: me in a box.
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  Speaker 2: You know, we just want to beat a little bar
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  Speaker 2: a box that's so cute, so funny. Oh my god. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I'll give you the final question, which is like, oh,
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: so sad, I really love these I We've.
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  Speaker 1: Brushed through it. We should have taken longer.
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  Speaker 2: God, I know, I wish let's do another one soon.
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  Speaker 1: Let us know if you want to B and JQ
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  Speaker 1: and know to make a comeback please.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. For our final question, someone asks what is your
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  Speaker 2: most uplifting thought slash saying that makes you feel good?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, that's a great question.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is a great question. So beautiful and what
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  Speaker 2: a beautiful when it ended.
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  Speaker 1: I do love a quote. I'm one of those bitches
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  Speaker 1: like I love a print on a water like, there's
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  Speaker 1: so many that I like. One that really sticks with
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  Speaker 1: me that brings me joy, which I think is what
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  Speaker 1: this person was saying. Was from Cinderella, from the update,
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  Speaker 1: but from the live action, which took me don't like
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  Speaker 1: a live action, but I did really enjoy Cinderella. And
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  Speaker 1: have courage and be kind, yes, and I just like,
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  Speaker 1: I think those are two things that are just so
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  Speaker 1: important and it's it just makes me happy. Have courage
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  Speaker 1: and be kind, like be brave, do the thing, but
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  Speaker 1: also be gentle as well with people. I think the
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  Speaker 1: other one that I can think of, which isn't a phrase,
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  Speaker 1: so I don't know if it counts a word, it's uhuru,
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  Speaker 1: which means I think freedom in Swahili, and that just
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  Speaker 1: has a lot of meaning to me because the first
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  Speaker 1: time I ever went overseas. I've told this story before,
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  Speaker 1: so from repeating myself. I went to Tanzania, which was
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  Speaker 1: like the most eye opening, life changing, wonderful experience I've
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  Speaker 1: ever had. But while we were there, we climbed Mount
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  Speaker 1: Kilmajaro and that for me was a personally very testing experience.
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  Speaker 1: But the peak is called Uhua Peak, and so I
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  Speaker 1: had this awful expirit. I got aultshoutic on like day
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  Speaker 1: two four days up, two days down. I was sick
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: for three days, didn't he couldn't keep down any liquid,
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: was not sleeping. It was horrific. And so you hike.
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  Speaker 1: We hiked through the night in the snow. God every
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: few meters I was falling, boy knees, puking in the ground,
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: kind of wanting to just say there. And someone's like, well,
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: you gotta keep moving or you're gonna die because it's snowing.
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  Speaker 1: So we did this whole thing right, and we got
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: to a point which when you reach there, you have
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: technically summited the mountain. And so the guy that was
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: taken to like, okay, everybody, good job, take your photo whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Anyone who wants to continue to the peak can do so.
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  Speaker 1: Come this way. Everyone who wants to start walking back
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: down to the right, and I was like, to the
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: right I go. And someone on my trip was said
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  Speaker 1: to me, did you really just go through all of
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: that to not go to the top?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god?
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my god. And so we
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: checked another however many hours to hit to a peak.
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  Speaker 1: And for me that was just like very much a
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: physical and mental test of strength. I guess I was
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: ready to quit until that guy said said that to me,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, you're so right.
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  Speaker 1: And so to me just means it brings back that
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  Speaker 1: memory of like pushing through and doing hard things and
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  Speaker 1: like breaking the mental barrier because I think I'm someone
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  Speaker 1: who really struggles with my own mental limitations and self
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  Speaker 1: doubt and all those sorts of things, and like knowing
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: that I did this physically and also mentally, very very
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: difficult thing, I did it. I did it. And that
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  Speaker 1: is like such a wonderful memory that I have with
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  Speaker 1: me for the rest of my life. And so the
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  Speaker 1: word like, I love that it means freedom as well.
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  Speaker 1: It's really beautiful. But yeah, to me, that word just
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  Speaker 1: takes me back to that moment in that thought process.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Wow, that is a harrowing story.
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  Speaker 1: It was not fun to live, but like as in
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: hindsight as a life lesson, it's loving.
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  Speaker 2: Just that's incredible. Oh my god, do you do you quote?
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  Speaker 1: Sure?
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: Obviously as you know, I'm and for those listening, I'm
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: going I'm through a breakup right now. So a few
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: quotes and I don't want to like be that guy,
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: but there there are a lot of my own that
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: I like, uh, kind of just made up, but they
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: really have gotten me through and helped get me through.
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: But I think that they also are applicable in times
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: we are not going through a breakup. But the one
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: that I like to use that is or obviously quite
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: a privileged thing to say because it doesn't apply to everyone,
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: But I like to say, being okay is inevitable even
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: if you're trying to actively not heal, even if you're
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: just doing nothing to like toward healing, Like your body
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: is constantly adapting to a new normal and constantly healing,
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: even if you're not doing anything to help yourself get there.
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  Speaker 2: So being okay is inevitable. And then I also like,
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: this isn't for me, it's from somewhere some meditation something,
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  Speaker 2: but I really like be where you are, and I
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  Speaker 2: tell myself that all the time, because if I'm really
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: anxious about something, if I'm thinking about something I said
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: in the past it was really silly, or I'm thinking
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: about possible things in the future that are making me
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: really sick and sad and anxious, I'm just I tell
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: myself to be exactly where I am, and that is
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: right here, there's a I'm sitting on a couch and
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: I'm looking at you, and I'm going to be exactly
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: where I am. That also is applicable for if you're
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: sad that you've made the wrong life choices and you're like, oh,
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: I don't you know you're thinking about what could have been,
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: or you're thinking about what you want to do. Just
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: know that, like we're kind of always if you're not
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: ready to make a decision, you haven't made it yet.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: Like if you're like, oh, I wish I had started
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: this ages ago, I wish I had like already saved
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: this amount of money, Like if you just weren't ready
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: at that time, just be exactly where you are because
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: you are here for a reason. You're you can't have
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: lived a different life, you can't have a different brain.
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  Speaker 2: Be exactly where you are and because that's exactly where
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: you should be.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: You have the best bechisms, Like there's so many things
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: like that that you say that are just so quotable
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  Speaker 1: and so lovely. That's so nice. Thank you, really beautiful take.
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  Speaker 2: That's a beautiful way to end it.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: I thought, I really agree. What a good spot. It's
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: been a very fun episode. It's always such a joy
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: when we get to get together and do something fun
• 38:38
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• 38:50
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• 38:52
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  Speaker 1: us this week. Thanks for hanging out, and we'll see
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: you on Friday for an episode of Friday Drinks.
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much much, guys, We'll see you then,
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