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Ep 20: Midweek Reset: Don’t Blame Your Schedule-Check What You’re Carrying · Healthy Boundaries for Moms| Christian Life Coach

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  Moms, before you blame your schedule for how overwhelmed you feel this week, consider this.
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  It might be something that you're carrying that's weighing you down. We are going to unpack that
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  in this episode. If you're tired of people pleasing, caring too much, and wondering why
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  peace still feels so hard to hold on to, you're in the right place. Hi, I'm Lori, Mom, former
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  people pleaser, and your boundaries coach. Here we talk about how to protect your peace,
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  set healthier boundaries, and get clear on what actually matters so that you can build a life
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  that feels lighter, calmer, and more satisfying. So let's stop the chaos for a minute, Moms,
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  catch our breath, and get into this next episode.
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  Welcome back to Healthy Boundaries for Moms. This is your midweek reset,
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  and I am so glad that you're here. So Moms, I want you to take a breath,
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  pause just for a second, and let's get into this episode. Now, if you're feeling tired,
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  overwhelmed, like everything is on your shoulders, you might not have too much to do or on your
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  schedule. You might just be carrying too much, and not all of it is yours. So when I say that,
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  I want you to picture it like a backpack that you're wearing. Everything you're holding,
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  everything you're feeling responsible for, everything that you are managing, it's all in
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  there. So at the beginning, that backpack makes sense, right? It has your responsibilities,
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  your roles, things that are yours to carry. But over time, what do we do? We open the backpack,
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  we start adding things to it, right? We're adding our child's emotions, my spouse's responsibilities,
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  problems that aren't yours to solve, things that you fell into quickly. You said yes to
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  before you even knew what you said yes to, right? And now it's not just full, it's literally weighing
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  you down. So here's your reset for this week. We're going to do a quick audit of your backpack,
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  and then we are going to actually unpack it and deal with each thing that's in it. So first,
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  let's look at your backpack. What belongs to your kids? Like what are you doing right now
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  that your child is actually capable of doing or learning to do? And for a lot of us, this shows
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  up in our everyday things, like the chores, like doing their laundry, putting away their clothes,
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  cleaning up things that they're capable of handling. And maybe this week it just looks like
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  letting them put their own laundry away or helping them to unload or load the dishwasher.
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  How about wiping down the table? How about they can pick up their own things?
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  So one tip moms is when you find a bunch of things that are your kids, and if you live in a
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  two-story, this works for me because I just stick this cute basket on the stairs with all of their
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  things. And then they know to unpack that basket weekly and take it up and put it away in their
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  rooms. Another quick tip is that I've stopped making their lunches. Ever since my daughter
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  was in third grade, now she's a fifth grader, she has been making her own lunches as well as
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  my middle schooler. So if your kids are old enough, let them go ahead and start making their lunches.
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  You're going to have to supervise them at the beginning, but now my kids do it on their own,
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  and I don't have to help them at all. So this is two less things that I have to do for my kids.
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  And it doesn't sound like a lot, but those all add up and give time back to me and help them learn to
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  take responsibility for themselves. And again, moms, just because you can do it doesn't mean
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  that you should do it. So second, what can be shared? What are you carrying that doesn't have
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  to be yours alone? These are things that your spouse could help with or things that could be
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  divided up, things that you don't have to manage all by yourself. Because sometimes we don't need
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  to do more. We just need to stop doing it alone. So get the support that we need. Third, where do
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  you need support? What are you holding that you were never meant to carry all by yourself?
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  Maybe that's asking for help or letting someone step in. Maybe that's not pushing through
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  everything on your own. The fourth part of our audit is what can come off your list completely.
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  Like what are you doing that doesn't actually need to even be done or doesn't need to be done by you
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  or just doesn't need to be done right now. It can be put off to a future date because sometimes the
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  reason you're exhausted is not because you're doing life wrong. It's just because your list
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  is too full. So let's do a quick recap of what we're going to do when we feel overwhelmed and
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  we need to unpack those backpacks. You're going to pause and name it. What is weighing me down
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  right now? Number two, you're going to decide is this mine or does this belong to someone else?
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  Number three, hand it back to whoever it belongs to or set it down. Let them handle it, delegate
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  it, or let it wait and put it off onto your schedule at a later date. Number four, done is
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  better than perfect. We know that on this podcast, right? It doesn't have to be done your way and
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  still be done. We are going to be glad that it's off of our list. I hope this has helped you stop
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  and rethink what's actually causing your overwhelm and gave you a simple practical reset to check
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  what you're carrying throughout your week. Use this tool often. Come back to it when you feel
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  overwhelmed and remind yourself you don't have to carry everything.
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  I will also share some great tools and tips to help you along this journey. I have also included
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  to hit follow and leave a quick review on Apple. It really lets me know that this podcast is helping
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  you. More importantly, it helps more women find this podcast. Now go say no to something that's
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  stealing your peace and say yes to something you actually need. And I'll meet you back here in the next episode.