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let it burn 🔥 · Magic Divorce Club Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: I'll just re-say what I've just said there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so welcome to Magic Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you can have a piece of paper that isn't attached to your notebook at the end,
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  SPEAKER_00: there'll be an invitation to write whatever feels right on there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then if you would like to, you can go and burn it in your garden afterwards.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay so last week we were focusing on breathing down into the root and I want you
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  SPEAKER_00: to keep doing this but keep imagining because we have three diaphragms we've got one
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  SPEAKER_00: in the throat one actually called the diaphragm under our rib cage and then
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  SPEAKER_00: the pelvic floor is actually not a floor at all it's a movable living Breathing part
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  SPEAKER_00: of us,
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  SPEAKER_00: and sometimes we can get really locked in there,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially if you don't feel safe,
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  SPEAKER_00: if your nervous system is constantly feeling anxious,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's really important that we're not bracing,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially down in the lowest diaphragm,
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  SPEAKER_00: because that can cause all sorts of injuries, as I have learned this year.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I've had issues in my hips and all sorts,
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  SPEAKER_00: and it's come from this constant Bracing that I didn't even know I was doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you can imagine like we're not just breathing into throat and ribs,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's all the way down like the whole of our trunk is this living,
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  SPEAKER_00: breathing, moving,
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  SPEAKER_00: being almost and trying to imagine that you're doing that as you're breathing in
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  SPEAKER_00: and out today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so get yourself comfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to wrap yourself up in a blanket, go ahead and do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if closing your eyes feels nice, you can, or just have a soft gaze in front of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just very gently slowing down the breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Being aware of the space that you're in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Any sounds that you can hear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anything that you can smell, feel on your skin.
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  SPEAKER_00: Noticing the temperature.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your feet on the floor.
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  SPEAKER_00: The backs of your legs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your lower back.
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  SPEAKER_00: All the places where you're touching the ground beneath you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Slowly bring in your awareness inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Could do a little body scan and just noticing if anything feels tense.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can you use your breath to help your muscles to settle?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just gently letting the body know that it's safe to slow down.
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  SPEAKER_00: But greeting your body with full acceptance for how it's showing up today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a deep breath into the front of your shoulders.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you exhale, you can roll them back and down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe move your head from side to side, just encouraging the neck and the jaw to relax.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let your tongue relax in your mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your forehead, the space between your eyebrows to soften.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can you use a few breaths to help your eyes to settle?
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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling down your arms, inhaling all the way to your fingertips.
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  SPEAKER_00: Exhale and let your arms really soften and relax into the ground,
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  SPEAKER_00: being held up
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  SPEAKER_00: by your legs, your armchair, your bed, wherever you are resting.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might let your palms open up towards the ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now bring your awareness to your breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: The gentle rise and fall of your chest.
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  SPEAKER_00: The sound your breath makes, by any colours or visuals you see when you breathe in and out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Softening and slowing down with every breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you find yourself standing in front of the Magic Divorce Clubhouse.
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  SPEAKER_00: This familiar, inviting building, surrounded by its blue protective layer.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you feel comfortable to step inside,
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a moment to slowly move in,
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  SPEAKER_00: being aware that anything that isn't yours,
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  SPEAKER_00: that doesn't belong to you,
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  SPEAKER_00: any threads or cords that are attached,
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  SPEAKER_00: anything that's taking up space inside of you,
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  SPEAKER_00: it all fizzles away as you slowly step inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we send it back with love and compassion to wherever it belongs,
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  SPEAKER_00: but it is not yours to carry.
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  SPEAKER_00: And slowly making a way to your space with your name.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you wrap yourself up in a blanket of compassion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling aware that there are other people in this space
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  SPEAKER_00: resting and healing and
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  SPEAKER_00: that there is nothing for you to do here.
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  SPEAKER_00: You do not need to perform.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be anything other than yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you feel completely safe to relax back.
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  SPEAKER_00: And give yourself permission to rest.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to receive all the healing, compassionate energy that is circling around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And using that deep breath That engages all three of your diaphragms,
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  SPEAKER_00: the throat,
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  SPEAKER_00: just below the ribs
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  SPEAKER_00: and in the pelvic area,
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  SPEAKER_00: feeling relaxed enough to breathe using all three, like you're filling up a balloon.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make sure your jaw is really relaxed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with every breath,
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  SPEAKER_00: draw that healing,
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  SPEAKER_00: compassionate energy all the way down into your lower belly and your root.
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  SPEAKER_00: Exhaling and relaxing as much as you can.
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  SPEAKER_00: Within every inhale, you start to feel steadier.
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  SPEAKER_00: The energy not only feels healing, but also brave.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feel it fortifying you, strengthening you from the inside out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feel your insights filling up with this blue and golden sparkly energy up past your heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Strengthening that shield that surrounds your heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every breath expanding your ribs at the front, the back and the sides.
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  SPEAKER_00: Filling you all the way up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your shoulders, your throat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Turn your arms up into your head and out through the crown of your head.
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  SPEAKER_00: From this space of bravery and assertiveness,
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  SPEAKER_00: just take a moment to think about if there's anything you're ready to let go of.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you were truly honest and direct with yourself,
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  SPEAKER_00: what would you need to say goodbye to?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you may want to stay with the feeling full of that blue golden energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or if you get a really direct response, you may want to write it on that piece of paper.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're not sure, you could start by just writing and see what comes out of your pen.
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  SPEAKER_00: A little bit different to what we normally do.
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  SPEAKER_00: This
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  SPEAKER_00: is very much a,
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  SPEAKER_00: well for me personally it's been
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  SPEAKER_00: kind of letting go of constant pressure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whereas normally we would be like,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so happy and grateful that, but I believe that there is room for all of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's room to be like,
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  SPEAKER_00: this is what I want to call in,
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  SPEAKER_00: but we can't reject the parts of us that are grieving or feeling other things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I truly believe that if you give those harder things space,
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  SPEAKER_00: they feel seen and heard and then you're much more able to move on
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  SPEAKER_00: without constantly sabotaging yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's when you ignore those emotions that they come up and they'll show up
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  SPEAKER_00: in things like you're not motivated to do the things you want to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you have a really great idea one day, get excited and then can't do it the next.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how I experience it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's all like you've The prime example would be you've been on a diet
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  SPEAKER_00: and you've done really well, not necessarily a diet, but like a healthy eating plan.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then at the end of the week, you just sabotage it all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even though you're like, I didn't want to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why did I do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's always because there's something in the back of your head that's like,
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  SPEAKER_00: it's not safe to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because you haven't given it that space and time to be seen and heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let me know how that felt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your action for today, I have decided for you, so you don't need to tell me what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're going to go burn that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Preferably today, this afternoon.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if it's tomorrow, that's fine too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or, you know, the rest of the week, whenever you want.
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  Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, tell me, how did you find that?