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241. Check In, Then Move · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Your Enriched Self Podcast. I am your host,
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  Speaker 1: Milee Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach
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  Speaker 1: and what that means is I am here for you.
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  Speaker 1: I know that you live and work and play, and
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  Speaker 1: in the space of all of that, there's not a
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  Speaker 1: lot of room for you to think, for you to
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  Speaker 1: process your thoughts. And so that's what this podcast and
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  Speaker 1: this space has been created to help curate with intention,
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  Speaker 1: some space that you can sit in each week to
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  Speaker 1: manage your thoughts. Because thoughts are really the birthplace for
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  Speaker 1: everything you're going to do in life. Every idea that
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  Speaker 1: you will ever execute start with a thought. Your thoughts
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  Speaker 1: become things, and those things and are impacted by the
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  Speaker 1: words and the activity and actions that you take throughout
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  Speaker 1: your day. So that's what this podcast is all about.
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  Speaker 1: If you are new here, I want to welcome you
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  Speaker 1: and thank you. I know that you were brought here
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  Speaker 1: repeat listener, I want to thank you for being here
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  Speaker 1: from the bottom of my heart that you have been
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  Speaker 1: part of your Enriched Self family. Thank you for sharing
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  Speaker 1: and commenting and just being part of the weekly conversation.
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  Speaker 1: Could not have done it without you. Now, if you know,
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  Speaker 1: you know, one of the things I do each and
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  Speaker 1: every week is make a deposit into the bank of you,
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  Speaker 1: and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are
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  Speaker 1: a great way to start your day and to command
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  Speaker 1: your mourning. And this week's affirmation is, I honor my
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  Speaker 1: progress and I commit to one action that moves me
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  Speaker 1: forward today. I honor my progress, and I commit to
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  Speaker 1: one action that moves me forward today. I honor my progress,
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  Speaker 1: and I commit to one action that moves me forward today. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your
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  Speaker 1: Enriched Self podcast. Okay, there's nothing wrong with taking a
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  Speaker 1: pause and taking a breather, but I'm gonna challenge you
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  Speaker 1: in this episode to do one thing. One thing changes everything.
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  Speaker 1: And I've said that before on this podcast, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: sure you've heard it before, or perhaps you've experienced that
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  Speaker 1: the one thing that you did when this was occurring
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  Speaker 1: in your life, or the one change that you made
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  Speaker 1: started to unravel a series of changes that led you
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  Speaker 1: to this path. And so there is power in one move.
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  Speaker 1: So let's never minimize the importance of one or the
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  Speaker 1: importance of a first step. And so that's really what
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  Speaker 1: I want to spend this conversation today talking about. I
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  Speaker 1: really want this to be a check in opportunity. I
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  Speaker 1: know that things may not have gone as planned when
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  Speaker 1: you think about your first quarter, but let's reflect on
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  Speaker 1: what actually happened. And I think it starts with how
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  Speaker 1: did I show up or how did you show up?
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  Speaker 1: What did you follow through on? Because yeah, you got
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  Speaker 1: to recognize the things that you did do and then
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  Speaker 1: on the flip side, what didn't you do? Because see,
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  Speaker 1: progress is not in a capsule. It doesn't come from
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  Speaker 1: you just thinking about what needs to be changed. It
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  Speaker 1: comes from you being honest about where you are so
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  Speaker 1: that you can start there. So that's really what I
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  Speaker 1: want us to do today. I want us to be
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  Speaker 1: honest with ourselves. I want you to be honest with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to be present in this conversation because
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  Speaker 1: I want to spend this time walking through some questions
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  Speaker 1: and I don't want you to just li listen to these.
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  Speaker 1: So this may require you to hit pause on this
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  Speaker 1: recording or on this podcast, get a pen, get a paper,
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  Speaker 1: and come back to listen for and get answers to
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  Speaker 1: those questions, because by the end of this episode, here's
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  Speaker 1: what I really want the goal to be. And it's
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  Speaker 1: a really simple, really really simple goal. It's to choose
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  Speaker 1: one thing. I know a lot of times, especially where
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  Speaker 1: I work, a lot of times there's you know, three
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  Speaker 1: to five action items, or here's the top fifteen or
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  Speaker 1: the top ten or what have you. But really, for
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  Speaker 1: the purpose of this episode, I want you to choose
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  Speaker 1: one thing. So one action item and one thing you
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  Speaker 1: can move forward on. Right, So that's the purpose of
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  Speaker 1: today's podcast episode. All right, So let's think about this, right,
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  Speaker 1: and these are this today and these questions are really
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  Speaker 1: in the category of self evaluation, right, and I want
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  Speaker 1: you to listen to the question and allow yourself time
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  Speaker 1: to process so that you can, you know, go through
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  Speaker 1: the process of getting the critiques that you need. But
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  Speaker 1: that's really what I want for you to get from
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  Speaker 1: these questions. I want you to get the tone, get
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  Speaker 1: the understanding, and before you start to critique yourself, acknowledge right,
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  Speaker 1: acknowledge the things. So the first question is what is
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  Speaker 1: one thing you're proud of yourself for having done today?
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  Speaker 1: And I know we are talking reflective on the first quarter,
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  Speaker 1: but I want you to think about today because a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times, you know, we might look back and
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  Speaker 1: not see what we want to see. But hey, you're
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  Speaker 1: stepping or you're doing things in the present that are
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  Speaker 1: you making a step in the right direction. So again
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  Speaker 1: it goes into the conversation of the small things count.
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  Speaker 1: The small things matter, showing up, being disciplined or staying
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  Speaker 1: disciplined and choosing differently, those things matter. So what is
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  Speaker 1: the one thing you are proud of for proud of
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  Speaker 1: yourself for today? Okay, here's question number two. What is
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  Speaker 1: the one thing you said you would do but you
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  Speaker 1: didn't And for this answer, I don't want you to
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  Speaker 1: think of uses. This is more of awareness. This gives
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  Speaker 1: you a pulse of where you are, kind of a
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  Speaker 1: calibration of sorts of where you are. It's not about
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  Speaker 1: you being or feeling any shame or guilt, but it's
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  Speaker 1: defining your gap. You have an intention, right, you said,
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  Speaker 1: these are some things or something you intended to do.
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  Speaker 1: So that's a gap between what you intended to do
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  Speaker 1: and what you actually did or didn't do. And this
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  Speaker 1: matters because the key here is if you don't face it,
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  Speaker 1: you can't fix it. Right. If you don't face the
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  Speaker 1: reality of exactly what that thing is, it's gonna be
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  Speaker 1: hard to fix it. So you gotta stare it in
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  Speaker 1: the face, acknowledge it, and then charge after it. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: and now we're getting into that last quarter type thing.
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  Speaker 1: What is the one thing from last quarter that still
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  Speaker 1: needs your attention? So this happens from time to time,
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  Speaker 1: even maybe from day to day where there's something you
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  Speaker 1: wanted to do yesterday but you didn't get it done,
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  Speaker 1: So it's a carryover, right, Maybe you underestimated your time,
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  Speaker 1: maybe life lifeed or something came up that caused you
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  Speaker 1: to delay or postpone or pause, or are you just
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  Speaker 1: simply avoiding this thing? And I understand avoidance. Avoidance a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times is your reaction when you don't have
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  Speaker 1: a known right. You're in what I call the space
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  Speaker 1: or the season of unknowns, and because you don't know
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  Speaker 1: the outcome, it almost makes you paralyze and you just
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  Speaker 1: avoid even going there. So there may have been something
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  Speaker 1: happening internally that made you avoid the thing. So these
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  Speaker 1: things matter, especially when you think about where you want
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  Speaker 1: to go. Right, I know that we still have three
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  Speaker 1: more quarters and we're already stepping into April. So it's
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  Speaker 1: so important to use this time wisely to manage your
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  Speaker 1: unfinished commitments so that you can continue to work. If
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  Speaker 1: you manage these unfinished commitments of the first quarter, you
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  Speaker 1: can continue to do things as the year goes on,
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  Speaker 1: and you don't have this baggage or this weight of
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  Speaker 1: something that you wanted to do but didn't do and
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  Speaker 1: haven't done it all year. So this is a really
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  Speaker 1: good time to lock in on this. And then the
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  Speaker 1: last question I'm going to ask is what is the
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  Speaker 1: one thing you can do within the next twenty four
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  Speaker 1: hours to move forward? And this is sort of a
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  Speaker 1: big question, but I want you to not make it
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  Speaker 1: so big that it's intimidating, because I know that I've
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  Speaker 1: done that where when I think about what needs to
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  Speaker 1: be done, I'm more concerned with the big pieces of
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  Speaker 1: what needs to be done, and I'm not seeing the
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  Speaker 1: small things or the little pieces that will help pave
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  Speaker 1: a path for me to get on the road to
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  Speaker 1: where I need to go. So I really want you
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  Speaker 1: to be gentle with this one. I don't want you
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  Speaker 1: to do five things. I don't want you to have
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  Speaker 1: a full plan. I just want you to have one,
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  Speaker 1: one clear, doable action. And again, I know when you
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  Speaker 1: think of one thing, you're like, well, I gotta make
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  Speaker 1: it big. I gotta make up for the time I have.
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  Speaker 1: Know what you need to do is be intentional. You
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  Speaker 1: need to think clearly, not with your emotions, but with
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  Speaker 1: your intentions. I want you to think with intentionality, not
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  Speaker 1: with emotionality, and be specific about the one thing. It
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  Speaker 1: may be a phone call, it may be some research,
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  Speaker 1: It may be sitting with someone and having a conversation.
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  Speaker 1: It could be a variety of things that aren't as
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  Speaker 1: big as we make it. I think sometimes we make
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  Speaker 1: it big so we have a way to avoid it,
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  Speaker 1: to say, well, it was too big. So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: encourage you with this one to be gentle and not
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  Speaker 1: look at the full plan. But maybe a step in
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  Speaker 1: the plan that you hadn't considered, or a step in
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  Speaker 1: a plan that you haven't checked off yet. I'll say this,
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  Speaker 1: and I'll keep saying this over and over again, but
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  Speaker 1: that thing builds momentum, and that momentum of the small
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  Speaker 1: step that's intentional goes a long way, and it's worth
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  Speaker 1: your time. So I'm going to include these questions in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes because I think they are that significant
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  Speaker 1: to your journey to completing and becoming more of your
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  Speaker 1: enriched self in the year twenty twenty six. You know,
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  Speaker 1: as you go, you went through these questions, and if
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  Speaker 1: you go through them again just to get some more clarity,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes you do have to exert your energy or do
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  Speaker 1: something a second time, or give it a fresh look
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  Speaker 1: or a fresh feel. Is the good news is the
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  Speaker 1: great news is you've done the hard part. The hard
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  Speaker 1: part is to walk through these questions as we did,
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  Speaker 1: but also get honest with yourself. And I think sometimes
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  Speaker 1: we don't spend time and that's that's a big part
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  Speaker 1: of this podcast and this journey and becoming more enriched
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  Speaker 1: is to spend time managing your thoughts. And that's something
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  Speaker 1: we don't often get time to do or and we
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  Speaker 1: don't make time to do it because we are in
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  Speaker 1: such a society that requires us to move fast and faster,
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  Speaker 1: and so what we often skip is the things that
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  Speaker 1: people don't see, all the behind the scenes, all the
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  Speaker 1: heads down and the quiet. People wanna see your heads up,
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  Speaker 1: and they wanna see things being produced, and sometimes the
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  Speaker 1: production is all of the things you are working behind
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  Speaker 1: the scenes, all of the mindset work, all of the
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  Speaker 1: things that you're unlearning. All of those things are part
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  Speaker 1: of you becoming honest with what you need to do
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  Speaker 1: and you doing the hard work before you start doing
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  Speaker 1: and producing the outcomes. So awareness, awareness, awareness, but let's
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  Speaker 1: make sure there's action with it. So part of this
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  Speaker 1: podcast conversation was the awareness, asking the question and getting
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  Speaker 1: that self evaluation, that self awareness exercise. But now, as
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  Speaker 1: I said, I want you to walk away from this
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  Speaker 1: podcast doing one thing, and that one thing is gonna
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  Speaker 1: require you to take action. If you don't take action,
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  Speaker 1: nothing changes. If you don't take action, nothing changes. So
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  Speaker 1: you want change, you want transformation, to see a different year.
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  Speaker 1: You want to have new outcomes, you want to experience
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  Speaker 1: new things. You need to make some changes. In order
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  Speaker 1: to make some changes, you need to take action. You
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  Speaker 1: take action, you address those gaps, and now you can
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  Speaker 1: move forward. Please don't overthink this, Please don't try to
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  Speaker 1: fix everything at once. All of those things are going
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  Speaker 1: to do is overwhelm you. Let's go back to the assignment.
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  Speaker 1: The assignment is choose one thing that one action will
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  Speaker 1: help you to move forward. That one decision will help
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  Speaker 1: you get an alignment or stay in alignment with who
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  Speaker 1: you say you want to be, who you're becoming. And
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  Speaker 1: then there's the follow through and then guess what consistency
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  Speaker 1: consistency Consistency. Consistency isn't the big moments. It isn't the
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  Speaker 1: big moments, it's the small decisions. It's the repetitive daily activity.
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  Speaker 1: That's what consistency is. So I want you to go
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  Speaker 1: do your one thing. I want you to be honest
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  Speaker 1: that you're just going to do the one thing, and
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  Speaker 1: I'll see you on the other side. I think you
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  Speaker 1: will find that you will be proud of this work
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  Speaker 1: that you're doing because that one thing you do is
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  Speaker 1: going to give you the momentum that you need, because indeed,
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  Speaker 1: one thing truly does change everything. I hope you enjoyed
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  Speaker 1: this week's episode of the Urine ritsub podcast. And the
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