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Setting Yourself Up to Succeed; Not Fail · Reframe

• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Reframe, where honest conversations create new possibilities.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_01: We're Sarah and Danny, and each week we sit down together to explore life, growth, and everything in between.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_01: Hello, Danny.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_01: We're back.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_01: You may not have noticed, but we've had a couple of weeks off recording just for life things, really, more than anything.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_01: But God, it feels good to be back.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: It does.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: It feels so good.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: It does.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: We've had a few weeks off, like you say, things going on, and as we usually do, we really have checked in with ourselves, haven't we, each week to say, oh, it doesn't feel like this week's gonna happen, or this thing's going on, or we've just kind of sat with as we usually do.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we go with what comes up and what feels good, and when it doesn't, we've always been open to that, haven't we?
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: In the last few weeks, I think we both agreed it just happened to happen.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_00: We took a few weeks off and now we're back, and yeah, it gets to feel so good again.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_01: Do you know what?
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_01: I just realized that that whole process of us chant kind of checking in and going, do we have the right time, the right capacity to record this week is literally like it fits so beautifully into what we've decided to talk about today because we've just been having a chat as we do, getting together, catching up, hearing what we've both been doing, and then that leads into what's kind of like on our minds and how we see what's going on around us, what our perspective is on it.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_01: And um, I think we were talking about our businesses and work and just how tricky it is at the moment, I think, to feel like you're doing okay at what you do, or or you know, like really feeling that pressure from the external to be performing or turning up or showing up in the world, not just in your business but in life to the to your family, to your friends, maybe um, in a certain way, and when it doesn't feel right for you, you know how hard that can feel on you.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: Um anyone who's listened to the previous 12 episodes won't be surprised to hear me say this, but we yeah, we were having just a bit of a general chit-chat, and it came back to doing things our way, yeah, and listening to other people or not listening to other people, and the advice that's made it harder for us and kind of returning back to ourselves.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: And so we were having just like you say, a bit of a general chit-chat, and then you said the phrase so perfectly instead of setting ourselves oh go on, you say it was your phrase, you say it.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_01: Well, I don't know if I'm gonna say because you remembered it more perfectly.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_01: How do we how do we set ourselves up to succeed instead of setting ourselves up to fail?
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_01: Is that right?
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so when you said it, I was like, wow, this is what we need to jump on and talk about.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_00: And we stopped the conversation there, didn't we?
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: We got excited and was like, let's press record, and so now we're going into it.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I I love that.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: How do we set ourselves up to succeed and not fail?
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_00: Because we so often do, and I think some of the things we were talking about was really being business focused instead of personal focused.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like, how do I achieve this business task instead of how do I, you know, go to the gym or go for a walk or do something that's going to make me feel really, really good.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I feel there's probably lots that we can kind of delve into.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_01: Um just linking it back to the example there, so that we just kind of keep it in that context of the last two weeks where we haven't recorded, you know, there's a there's we'd kind of set out to kind of keep recording, at least up to about 20, we'd said, haven't we?
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_01: But then things just we hit things that just meant that we just weren't either personally didn't feel on the days that we were meant to record that it was it felt right with one of us or both of us had felt a little bit off, and then then we both were both away as well, but we'd kind of used up our little backstock of of recordings by then, and so but we really agreed, didn't we, that that was okay, just because it didn't work out the way that we'd intended to, that actually showing up and being in the right frame of mind and really wanting to be here and knowing that what you know why we're here talking to each other um is like really what we want to be doing, then that that made it really easy to say, okay, well, we just leave it this week and we we'll we'll check back in next week, or you know, whatever.
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_01: So that kind of not setting ourselves up to fail or feel like we've failed, but feeling that the success there is the fact that we've allowed ourselves to be um true to what was where we where we both were, and also to the success of the podcast episodes as well.
• 5:12
  SPEAKER_00: And so I hear what you say that we hadn't the aim is to look after ourselves and to set ourselves up for success, and we've done that, but also the the the backlog of that is the episodes would be different if we did turn up in some of the weeks where we were really stressed or we were really busy or things were going on, that probably would have come out in the actual episodes as well, and something that we've always said from the start is let's go with it, let's roll, let's see where we get to.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: We've kind of had no expectations on where it needs to go, what it needs to look like, and we've always said check in with each other when this doesn't feel good anymore, that's we have a conversation or it ends or whatever then comes.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and so as the episodes the kind of stock that we had, or like that we had a week or two buffer, didn't we?
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: When that started to get down, part of me actually was like, Okay, let's let's test ourselves in not getting an episode out.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: So for every for the last 12 weeks, it's been a one every single week.
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_00: Now there'll be a bit of a gap.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: Part of me was like, okay, let's challenge ourselves to navigate this as well.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: And so I'm really I'm really glad and I'm really proud of ourselves for how we've handled it, but also just listening to ourselves because there's been lots of things, hasn't there, in the last few weeks that have popped up.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_00: I know one of them was my partner had fainted.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, that was that was the one.
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's a really just different variety of things, haven't they?
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but we're here and we're back.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: And it's so good to be back.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and I and I really think, you know, coming to that thing of how we set ourselves up to succeed and not to not not to fail is one of those things, is allowing flexibility and fluidity within how we operate, you know, being okay with that as a way of working and being in response to what's happening instead of thinking that you have to stick to the plan.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_01: Like, even you know, the plan is like we've planned this, so we must, we must, you know, execute this exactly as we planned it.
• 7:17
  SPEAKER_01: You can't you can't ever foresee everything that's going to happen in and around the plan.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_01: And so, whilst I'm really all for having some structure to give us a focus and direction, because obviously you need that, within that, there has to be uh the possibility to go, actually, the plan's not working for me today.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I'll come back to the plan, but today, or the plan just needs to be softer, or the plan just needs to be changed, tweaked, whatever.
• 7:49
  SPEAKER_01: So that you give yourself that um that check to check in with yourself and not be governed by something that's external to you.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_01: So allowing yourself that flexibility, I think, is a big tick for success for me.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: And as we're speaking now and I'm kind of reflecting, what we didn't do was force ourselves to show up, force ourselves to record, to really push through things that we were dealing with.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: We actually didn't do that.
• 8:22
  SPEAKER_00: And so for me, now I'm reflecting it and speaking this out loud.
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so glad we've had that time to do it because I've definitely in the past felt like regardless of what's going on, push through, regardless of what's going on, show up.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: You've got to do this, you've got to do this.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I think the certain messages that we hear of especially discipline online is do it when you don't feel like it, which is also something that we were talking about in terms of consistency, and that's what sparked the beautiful phrase that you said, was because we were talking about how consistency we often feel is linear and a straight line and it's the same every day.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: And I'd recently read a book which says, you know, write down the things that you want to do and do them each day as a formula for success.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 9:08
  SPEAKER_00: But what I said to you was in my head, that is a whole list of things to do and to get done, and that wouldn't be listening to myself and honouring my own success.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: And so actually, one day that to-do list could be one thing, and another day it could be five things, and that's where you said it also doesn't need to be a work task, it could be the walk, or it could be the gym, or it could be something for me as well.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: So, again, I can see how how we've put that into practice, we've listened to ourselves and not maybe pushed through the pattern that I would tend to do.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: And now I'm seeing the results of the success as we've had a break, but refresh and happy to be back here.
• 9:49
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and we both said it, we're really excited to be back here, and hopefully that's something that can really be kind of like you know, the the joy of being back together having a conversation.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_01: I'm really feeling it, really, really feeling it.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_01: And I think that that is something as well.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_01: I um I actually um posted something this morning on my stories about how the how do we start our day, what's the foundation of the day, what's the foundation, you know, the what because how you feel in something creates the language that's in your mind.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_01: Those are the words that are kind of they are the let's like they're creating the the sense of what you're what your day is, what you're gonna say, how you're gonna say it, the tone with what you're gonna say it, you know.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_01: So if you are feeling stressed and depleted and like you've not got enough time, you've not got enough money, you've not got enough clients, you're in that kind of like an energy of lack or not enoughness.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_01: And even if you're saying other things than that, it's in the like it's literally energetically within the tone of of who of what you're saying.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_01: So you could be saying one thing, but energetically, what people read from it could be something completely different, and we don't ever want to show up with that, you know.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_01: What the the intention behind what we do, the foundation of how we feel about it, before we even open our mouths and speak about it and be together here, that's important.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_01: That's setting ourselves up for success.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_01: And if one of us is having a day where they're not quite getting over whatever it is that's going on for them or isn't can't, you know, then I totally respect that because sometimes life is hard and that's okay that you're having a day, and we do rearrange sometimes, and we've you know moved it an hour or done whatever, because after all, we're both manifesting generators in human design terms, which is exactly what we would do.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_01: But I just think it's to remember that it's you you could it's that not performing because performance is only maybe covering up what's really underneath, yeah, and actually to show up authentically means you can't do that, yeah, you can't perform being happy to be here if that's not what you're feeling.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm so glad that you said the word perform then, actually, because they'd got to maybe the week before I went away because I was away, and also funny how that aligned.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: We both had a both away, didn't we, on the same week?
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I remember the week before, and I think we had we were due to record, and I was like, I just feel a little bit muted.
• 12:39
  SPEAKER_00: So for me to then if we did record, I probably would be in that performative energy, and again, I just think that that we can sense that, even if someone listening wasn't consciously thinking, Oh, Danny feels like she's performing today or she's a bit different.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: We do sense it unconsciously, don't we, when we aren't in our authentic energy, and I'm sure you can speak a lot more to that, but it's also bringing up for me previous conversations where we've had about resting and the importance of rest, and I guess is another live in action.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_00: I felt before I went away for the week, oh, I'm slowing down, I'm wrapping up.
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_00: Things were getting a bit more difficult because I was aware, oh, I need this rest and I need this week.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: And so again, today, I think I said to you, I'm a little bit tired coming back into routine and that, but it's a different energy to oh, I need a I need a rest to refuel.
• 13:33
  SPEAKER_00: I've had the recharge, I'm back, but I'm also taking it very slow today.
• 13:38
  SPEAKER_00: So I've got this call, I've had another call, a couple of things in my diary.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: But apart from that, I'm really taking the space back for myself, and I guess it all goes hand in hand for just knowing ourselves when we need to check in with ourselves and what we need.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's something that you talked about before we we jumped on live as well.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, definitely that kind of um check it, yeah, checking in in with yourself about where you are at the beginning of the day, where you are, where how do I feel today?
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_01: So, how do I, if I'm gonna feel different at the beginning of my day, what do I need to give myself now so that it'll kind of help me through, you know, I'll feel differently through my day instead of just getting on with things and trying to override things.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_01: That's a really important thing for me, really important.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_01: I you know, overriding the the core of what I'm feeling is is not optional for me anymore.
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_01: I used to do it all the time, and um you know, it just creates chaos.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_01: Well, it for me it did create absolute chaos in my life.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_01: Um but I think also we we just we we just have we have to learn to trust the feeling as something that's guiding us.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_01: So if you don't feel like doing something, there's nothing wrong with you.
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_01: You're probably just being guided in that moment that the time's not right or the thing's not right, and that maybe you need to do it differently, or that there'll be a time when it is right for you.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_01: I've got a really nice example of this, actually, uh just a little one.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_01: So um a couple of weeks ago I arranged to go to see the ballet with my friend, and we I was really excited to go.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_01: I was looking forward to seeing the ballet, I was looking forward to seeing her, but there was something about the day where I was like, oh god, this feels a bit heavy.
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not why do I feel like this about going?
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, it was a bit of a stormy, it was one of those stormy nights.
• 15:34
  SPEAKER_01: Like, why do I feel a little bit heavy about it?
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_01: And we'd arranged to get the train and meet at the train station and walk across town.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_01: And when I really felt into it, what I realised was it was the getting the train that wasn't the thing that was lighting me up, and so I said to her, I've I've changed my mind, I'm gonna drive.
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_01: I'm really happy to come and pick you up if that would be helpful, or I can just meet you in town or wherever.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_01: Anyway, in the end, she said yes, that would be lovely.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_01: She had booked her ticket though, and like she'd already booked a ticket, but she said, No, please, it would be really nice if you came and picked me up.
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_01: We can then chat in the car on the way in and everything.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_01: I just had a really bad feeling about the train.
• 16:15
  SPEAKER_01: I just don't every time I just put myself on the train, I was like, no, that's not working for me today.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_01: Anyway, we went and we had a really beautiful evening, it was lovely.
• 16:24
  SPEAKER_01: But when she looked at her phone later, her train that she had been going to get had been cancelled.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_00: Ah I love this.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_01: And so I might have thought that that bad feeling about the train was for me, but actually, it was just for the whole evening, working out successfully and not being stressful.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_01: So I'd got the feeling that I needed to drive and pick her up and everything.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_01: And I really truly trust that as an that was an insight for me that the train was not the way to go.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_01: When we trust these insights for ourselves, even at the beginning of our days, when we look at our to-do list, what feels right for me to do today, like just because you wrote down three days ago that that's everything that you're going to achieve this week, really check in with yourself.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_01: You might just be taking it, be being taken in a slightly different direction than what you expected.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_01: And that's how, just bringing it back around, how we set ourselves up for success to allow ourselves to attune and have that reflectiveness and responsiveness, the way to respond to how we're feeling in our lives and the flexibility to change and giving ourselves permission to change our minds if we need to.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: I love how you were able to see that with the train cancer, and I fully believe that as well.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_00: That sometimes, and and that's probably credit to you as well for encouraging that in go with the feeling of when you need to nip to the shop and do it, or like notice when you don't want to get the train and and don't, but what an amazing way to be able to really kind of tangibly see ah, this feeling was guiding me to it was gonna get cancelled, and then we know that our train being cancelled puts us into stress, and we have to then figure out something else, and all of that was avoided.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I love I love that.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for sharing that.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_00: And I think this is something that you first said to me as well was interesting, the I feel like doing this today instead of this task.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: So the task written on the paper might not be the one that I'm energetically feeling that I should do.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I sometimes struggle with that because if it's fine to go, oh, this activity or this task feels really good, I'm gonna do it.
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: Which means the one on the paper, like you said, that needs to be done, I find it often then doesn't get done.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: But also to bring back what you've also told me is that sometimes that's it's my process.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'll kind of start one thing, it'll end and it won't make sense, or it'll be kind of stop starty, but there'll be a time where it does come together and it does all make sense.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_00: And so again, now I'm learning that and leaning into okay, this feels like this task isn't getting done, or it's I started and it haven't stopped it, and just trusting that it will get to the point where it's whole at some point or it comes together in some way.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_01: I I mean I have lots of different examples for how I mean we all need structure, and I know that I I need to have some structure in order to give me guidance.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_01: I'm very I could very easily kind of like just flow from this to that to this to that without really kind of moving in the right direction for myself.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_01: So kind of having an intention for what I want to try and achieve is really important.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_01: Having a project, you know, having an eye on the project that I'm trying to achieve, but how I'm going to achieve it and when it's going to get achieved, does I'm flexible and flexible with.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_01: And I really, I mean, I have I'm in a marketing container with um with somebody, and what I love about that is Monday mornings we always have a co-working online, and I see that as my hour on a Monday morning where I get some marketing done.
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_01: There's always a prompt to give you some kind of inspiration, but I don't feel that I have to do the prompt, but I like the fact that I set an hour of my time aside on a Monday to choose what I want to do, and it's like that it's a dedicated time to do that, and that's important because I might not do that otherwise.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_01: So I do like that it's recognizing when the outside structure is really helpful to you, like that's a helpful structure for me, so that sets me up for success.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and it's also recognizing where the structure, like so.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_01: If I was trying to every week just do the prompt that was given to me, but it didn't feel comfortable or it wouldn't feel like the thing that I wanted to do, but I was doing it because I was being told to do it, that would be setting myself up to fail in a way, because it wouldn't energetically have that kind of like this is something that you know feel like it feels good and it's what I need to be doing for my business.
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_01: I need to trust that I have a sense of what's right for me and my business over what somebody else is telling me is right for my business.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I know when we jumped on, and I was like, let's messily do it, let's see where we go.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: And now I feel like I'm really just oh, reflecting on so much.
• 21:35
  SPEAKER_00: So again, thank you for saying that because something I've been working on is the foundations, like you say.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: For me, it's been the time that I go to sleep and the time that I wake up when I'm eating and making sure that I'm having the productive parts of my day as well as the rest parts.
• 21:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm productive, but not always in business, just being productive in in a way that feels productive.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: To me and real kind of rest.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_00: And what came up for me then as you said that was before I started the wake-up time specifically, I've been allowing myself to just rest and again not really having an alarm and I was waking up, you know, sometimes like eight, nine, sometimes even later than that.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: And so having a set time where it's literally half seven, it's not, it's no 5am club.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_00: Half seven has allowed me to have the time to myself in the morning and then to get up.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I've noticed that I've been switched switching on to work things earlier.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_00: But actually, that's felt really good because I've always felt like I am quite productive in the morning.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_00: My energy is like it's it's a starting energy.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_00: And so now I'm reflecting on ah, this is actually it works for me.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_00: And I've always said, Oh, I struggle with a morning routine.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you wake up at nine and then you've got an hour to do certain things, and I wasn't getting started till 11, and then it was lunchtime, so that wasn't pretty good for me.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm very motivated by food.
• 23:01
  SPEAKER_00: And you did say it's in my chart, so I'm I'm I'm easing into that.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I'm just reflecting out loud really how that structure has really allowed me to work with the energy of feeling productive in the morning and having a long break at lunch or in the afternoon also feels really good and restorative for me.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_01: And you and you do have um structure is and and a level of um kind of consistency in when you do things is good for you.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_01: It's in your chart.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_01: So if you've if you've got that kind of like almost like a set time when you wake up or a set time when you eat, I think from what I can remember, that's actually quite that's a good thing for you.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_01: Because for people where that's important, what it means is it frees your mind to have to think about how you're gonna do that.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_01: Like if you don't have a set time of maybe when eating's just one of these, one of the things.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_01: But if you were like somebody who would like to go to the gym three times a week and you set that in you set that into your week, then you're not trying to think about when you're gonna fit that in in your week, yeah?
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_01: Because it you're freeing your mind up from the the needing to think about well, what how am I gonna fit that in?
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_01: Whereas for me, I if I do, if I put in that's the three, that's when that's happening this week, that can start to feel a little bit restrictive to me.
• 24:24
  SPEAKER_01: I like to be able to just decide okay, today's gonna be one of those days, and then tomorrow's gonna be so we're all what I'm saying is how we how we interact with a level of structure or plan or strategy is really different for all of us, and how we set ourselves up to therefore succeed is to understand how that works for us and to not feel pressurized to conform to anybody else's set of rules and and standards around that, and that's really important.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_01: That's the for me, if we're not setting ourselves up to fail, we want to set ourselves up for success, we need to understand how we work and what's right for us, and be okay with then going, This is right for me, so this is how I'm doing it.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I really that really related when you told me about food being in my chart, and you'd I think you'd literally said to me it would be good for you to have um maybe it's consistent food times or meal prepped, so I I know, and and when you said that it it really makes sense to me because I do have a lot of food noise, and that is what am I eating and when is it, and what is my next meal?
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and that and it is that, and so having the consistent food time of I'm gonna have my lunch at you know half twelve, I'm gonna have a snack at four, and knowing what that snack is allows me to get into work mode or task mode or to do something else because I've got that structure and it allows me to go.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I don't need to be worrying about my next meal because I know exactly what it is.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: So, again, I guess that's the example for well also knowing human design and how that plays out, but how that understanding really helps me to succeed.
• 26:15
  SPEAKER_00: So, I'm wondering then is the one thing that you can commit to for the rest of the week that really would set you up for success, put you on the spot.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, okay.
• 26:28
  SPEAKER_01: And I I will say to you, it will be to tune into myself each day and check in with what I need.
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_01: So, one of the things I said to you around consistency for me that I talk to my clients about is is people come people do come to me and with struggling with consistency.
• 26:46
  SPEAKER_01: Why can't I stick to this?
• 26:47
  SPEAKER_01: Why do I start this and and then and and lots of people have that as a way of they're supposed to be like that anyway in their design, so it's accepting.
• 26:57
  SPEAKER_01: But the thing that really changed for me and that I know works, and I've seen it work with my clients as well, is how you have to be consistent with yourself.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_01: So I have to tune into myself each day and go, where am I at today?
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_01: What do I need today?
• 27:13
  SPEAKER_01: Is like look at my diary, look at like go and like really kind of think about where where that all lands for me, how does it feel?
• 27:22
  SPEAKER_01: Is it all possible?
• 27:24
  SPEAKER_01: Do I need to tweak anything?
• 27:26
  SPEAKER_01: And allowing myself to make those tweaks if they if they need to be done, allowing myself to say no if or to change my mind, all those things, just being consistent with myself is the way that I would cons I would set myself up to succeed every day, every day.
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, how about you, how about you?
• 27:49
  SPEAKER_00: Mine will be touching on what I've just said, will be consistent wake ups, consistent food time, bedtime, because again, just that structure I notice how that sets me up for the day.
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, at the moment, I'm working on like a 70-30 productiveness and rest, so that's really important for me to get good chunks throughout the day of rest time, and especially having been away last week and kind of some of those routines and structures slip in for me this week is about getting back into.
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm at home, I'm in my routine, I'm in my structure because that sets me up for success.
• 28:30
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes it gets to be just as simple as that, doesn't it?
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_01: It's been really lovely to explore this with you.
• 28:38
  SPEAKER_01: And um, yeah, take care and keep being successful, yeah, and set yourself up for success and and uh not for failure.
• 28:49
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, and what works for you, not what works for anyone else.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, thank you, Sarah.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_00: Great to speak to you, great to be back.
• 28:58
  SPEAKER_01: All right, take care.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_01: Take care, bye.