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Break the Barrier 7/7: The Barrier of Misalignment--You Were Built for Rhythm #SlowDownSunday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: For science, for soul, and for success, you've been listening to The Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back, Sweet Spotter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the final episode in our series Break the Barrier.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is episode 7 of 7 on Slow Down Sunday, where we're gonna take stillness, surrender, silence, solitude, and the solar system and figure it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Figure it all out.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're just gonna figure it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, I'm your host here on The Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's been my joy, my absolute privilege to work alongside you, to walk alongside you, to sit with you, sweet spotters, as we unpacked breaking through barriers.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a breath with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: In through the nose and a slow exhale out through the mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not the shallow kind of breathing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna try that one more time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you take an inhale all the way in, down into the diaphragm area, and then you let it out slowly with a really slow exhale that's longer than the inhale, you are slowing down your breathing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in so doing, you are resetting your nervous system, you're sending a message to your vagus nerve, the longest nerve in the body, and you're telling yourself, hey, it's gonna be okay, it's gonna be good.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is good for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you take a breath with me, a real one, you're not you're not wasting time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are resetting, recalibrating, and refreshing, like we talked about yesterday.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you didn't hear self-care Saturday yesterday, there's still time.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's still time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So as we close out this series, this wonderful series we've been doing on Break the Barrier.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, I just want to remind you, you showed up on Monday, you faced turbulence and you didn't flinch.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tuesday, you rewrote the internal code that had been running your decisions without permission.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Wednesday, you walked into resistance and held your composure when everything around you said react.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Trust Yourself Thursday, you learned to trust the signal underneath that noise.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Friday, you pushed through the finish line when your body and your mind wanted to quit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yesterday, you learned that rest isn't the opposite of breaking barriers, it's what makes the barriers stay broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now here we are, beautiful souls.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sunday, the final episode, the capstone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna do something different today.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna push you forward, I'm not gonna invite you upward.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we're gonna talk about five things: stillness, surrender, silence, solitude, and the solar system.
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  SPEAKER_00: And by the end of this episode, I want you to understand something that might change not just your week, but your entire orientation to life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you're not fighting the universe, you're part of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you slow down enough to feel that, really feel what I'm saying, the barriers we've been talking about, they don't just break, they dissolve, they dissolve.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's right, the barriers dissolve.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about that?
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  SPEAKER_00: How about that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Tell me how would that feel to you if you slow down enough and the barriers resolved and dissolved.
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  SPEAKER_00: Does that feel good?
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  SPEAKER_00: I bet it does, because it feels good to me too, just to take that time and to allow it to sink in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you're not fighting the universe, you're part of it, and when you slow down enough to feel it, those barriers they dissipate.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me start with a question that's going to feel strange to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: When okay, you're gonna like this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: When was the last time you looked at the stars?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not on a screen saver, that doesn't count, or a photo, that doesn't count.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean the actual sky.
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  SPEAKER_00: When was the last time you stood outside at night or looked out through your window and let the stars make you feel small?
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, sometimes you might say, some people might be telling me, Well, I don't got stars where I am, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I live in the city, we don't see stars.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, make it the sky, all right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, when did when was the last time you stood outside at night or uh during at some point in the day and let yourself feel small under the big sky?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because here's what's wild.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most of us spend our entire lives trying to feel big, important, and significant and to matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: We hustle for visible for visibility, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We we grind for recognition, we we break barriers so that the world will notice us, and none of that is wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's all okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing wrong with being noticed.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why you put on those clothes today.
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  SPEAKER_00: So look.
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  SPEAKER_00: The perspective though changes when you look up at the sky.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something happens when you look up at that night sky, and you realize you're standing on a rock that's spinning at a thousand miles an hour, orbiting a star at 67,000 miles per hour inside a galaxy that contains 200 billion other stars, and that galaxy is just one of two trillion galaxies in the observable universe.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a whole lot of math to say that we're pretty small here on this earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, when you get that perspective of where we fit in this massive universe or multiverse, something shifts.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying your problems disappear, but they resize.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying the barriers vanish, but they stop feeling permanent, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And for the first time all week, maybe all month, maybe all year, we can exhale.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not giving up.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're you know, it's because we're remembering something that we forgot.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're a part of something so big.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been fearfully and wonderfully made, but it's a huge universe.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is this, it's so much bigger than what we have to do today.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so much bigger than what we're facing, it's so much bigger than what we're dealing with, even though what we're carrying does feel big to us.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you zoom out and you go up a trillion miles up, or we're a speck.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is what the science gets really beautifully because the universe isn't just big, it's rhythmic, and your body knows that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, deep inside your brain, I'm gonna get geeky for one second.
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  SPEAKER_00: Deep inside your brain, just behind the bridge of your nose, sits a structure that regulates so much of our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's called the SCN, the superchismatic nucleus.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about the size of a grain of rice, tiny, and it is the master clock of your and my entire body, the suprachismatic nucleus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every cell in your body has its own internal clock.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your liver, your heart, your lungs, your skin.
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  SPEAKER_00: They all keep time, but it is the SCN, the suprachismatic nucleus, that's the master conductor.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what does it take?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does it take for this thing to work?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you think it's getting its cue from?
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  SPEAKER_00: Light.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, specifically the light of the sun.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely, sweet spotter.
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  SPEAKER_00: When sunlight enters your and my eyes in the morning, it's hitting these specialized receptors in the retina that send a signal directly to this SCN, this supracosmatic nucleus.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then this SCN tells the entire body, it tells your body, hey, it's time to wake up, it's time to release cortisol, it's time to activate.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've heard of melatonin, it's not just a supplement, it's something you produce, it's a hormone you produce in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: It tells your body it's time to slow down, it's time to repair, it's time to sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: All controlled by the universe, light and dark.
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  SPEAKER_00: How amazing is that that you have this SCM thing in you that we have it in us?
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  SPEAKER_00: This system called the circadian rhythm is not a preference.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is not some kind of a lifestyle choice that we're making here.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is four billion years of evolution written into your biology.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the earliest organisms on earth, the single-celled life, ancient ocean organisms, already had light-sensitive rhythms.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before there were brains, before there were even eyes, before there was anything we would even call consciousness, life was already synchronized with the turning of the planet.
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  SPEAKER_00: You and I built for rhythm, day and night, effort and rest, output and silence, up and down, left and right.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, just think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not just good advice, it's it's your biology, it's your cosmic design, and and here's the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the real problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was simple back then, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You got up in the morning, the light was up, you went to bed, it was dark, you farmed, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's that's that's that's not what's happening anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've broken that rhythm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Artificial light.
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  SPEAKER_00: We I live in a city that never sleeps, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just artificial light, blue screens at midnight, notifications that are arriving at 2 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: TVs that are on all the time, work emails that are arriving before sunrise.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've disconnected ourselves from the very cycle that our bodies were designed to follow.
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  SPEAKER_00: The body is simple, it knows when it's light and dark and it puts you to sleep and wakes you up based on that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we have reversed everything because we control artificial light.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we wonder why we're anxious, we wonder why we can't sleep, why we feel burned out after a vacation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not because we were weak or anything, we're just we're misaligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're fighting the rhythm instead of flowing with the rhythm.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's all.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why we called Sunday here on the sweet sot slow down sundae.
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  SPEAKER_00: Slow down Sunday, not just a nice idea.
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  SPEAKER_00: Slow down Sunday is a is a really intentional idea of biological realignment with the way the universe actually works.
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  unknown: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So these pillars that I'm talking about, um, stillness, and I'll do them one by one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stillness, stillness is not the absence of movement, it's the presence of alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: All week long we've been moving, breaking through, pushing forward, executing under pressure.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what you've been doing all week.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of it was necessary.
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  SPEAKER_00: Getting the job done, getting in the car, getting on the train, getting on the bus, getting to work, but not being still.
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  SPEAKER_00: No chance for neural replay, like we talked about yesterday, where your brain can consolidate new patterns.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's so little time to rest.
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  SPEAKER_00: But stillness is where the architecture, the memory, all of it gets built.
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  SPEAKER_00: When your body is still, when you stop scrolling, you stop planning, you stop executing, you allow your nervous system to reset.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your default mode network starts to calm down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's the idea of surrendering to the moment, of being silent, of allowing stillness to come in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you allow silence to enter your stillness and your surrender moment, it's not empty.
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  SPEAKER_00: Silence is not empty, it's actually full, and the universe has been teaching this lesson since humans existed.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Psalm 19, in the ancient wisdom, it says the heavens declare the glory of God, the skies proclaim the work of his hands, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Day after day they pour forth speech, and night after night they reveal knowledge.
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  SPEAKER_00: They have no speech, they use no words, no sound is heard from them, yet their voice goes out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wow, into all the earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wow, listen to that.
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  SPEAKER_00: The heavens are speaking, day after day and night after night, are speaking to us, and yet no sound is heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: The universe is always speaking.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a line, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That we always talk about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those who hang with me know we always say that the universe is always speaking.
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  SPEAKER_00: The universe communicates through rhythm, it doesn't communicate through noise, it communicates through cycles, not announcements.
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  SPEAKER_00: And through the very silent turning of the planets, the wordless rising of tides, the quiet rotation that gives us dawn and dusk, we learn something.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where our deepest knowing comes from.
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  SPEAKER_00: All week, we've talked about the signal under the noise.
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  SPEAKER_00: All week we've talked about barriers.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's been a barrier that has been constructed that doesn't allow us to experience solitude anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not talking about loneliness, I'm just talking about the practice of being reconnected with ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: All week we've been in busyness with our barriers, with our audiences, with our obligations, with the voices in our head, with the pressures of performance.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every one of those things matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying anything is wrong, it's just that they really do take over.
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  SPEAKER_00: And solitude is hard to find.
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  SPEAKER_00: Solitude just says, hey, you don't have to be anything right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to perform, you don't have to produce, you don't have to respond.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just you just get to exit and chill.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in that time you can be repaired.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, the neuroscience shows that solitude, genuine chosen, unstructured solitude, reduces the activity of the brain's monitoring networks.
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  SPEAKER_00: It calms the brain down, the brain quiets down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when they do, the creative and integrative work of the networks in the brain actually light up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of the greatest breakthroughs in history come not just from my mom, who tells me that she sleeps and she gets great ideas in the morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: And boy, that's so true.
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  SPEAKER_00: But some of the greatest breakthroughs in history come not from grinding harder, but from walking and taking it easy by yourself alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, Darwin did this, Charles Darwin, Einstein did this, Beethoven did this.
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  SPEAKER_00: They were uh masters of being in solitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even Jesus in the Word and the ancient wisdom took back roads and found time to be alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Isolated.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, it's slow down Sunday.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about giving yourself some permission to be alone with the universe?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not lonely.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want you to be isolated or anything like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just alone, just be intentionally alone for even if it's just like 20 minutes, just let your brain stop performing for an audience, stop doing something, just be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just be.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you can do that, you can do nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might just accomplish everything that you're seeking to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes your performance needs this reset where you unplug so that when you get plugged back in, you're ready to go.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, tomorrow is Making Moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be in a whole new series.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely, we will.
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  SPEAKER_00: So reset today, recalibrate today, refresh yourself today, slow down, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, and you're listening to the sweet spot for science, for soul, and for success.
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