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Episode 678: 5 Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Before an X comes back, there are usually signs.
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  It's very rare that an X all of a sudden pops up one day and
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  wants you back. Today, I'm going to break down
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  the top five signs that show your ex may still have feelings
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  for you and may even want to rekindle things with you.
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  So whether you're looking foreclosure or hoping for a
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  second chance, stick around because by the end of this
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  video, you'll know what to watch out for.
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  Hi, this is Lucia with the Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  And welcome back my beautiful no contact army.
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  Have you been a good little soldier?
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  Well, if you have and you've downloaded my app Silencio, then
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  you have given me either a review or a rating in the App
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  Store or on Google Play. And if you too would like to
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  join our beautiful no contact army, all you have to do is hit
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  the subscribe button and the bell notification and you're in.
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  And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
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  can read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
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  And by the way, before I get started, I'm going to give you
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  an update on my client who I talked about last week in my
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  video titled Warning This will make you break No Contact.
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  He still has not heard from his ex and it's been 2 weeks since
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  he left her the letter pouring out his feelings.
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  He did hear from her daughter who now told them that he needs
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  to call because his mother is afraid of getting rejected.
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  Well too bad, this is crazy. He left her a letter saying that
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  he wasn't cheating and still had feelings and she still has not
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  reached out. So either she's playing him or
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  the daughter is doing this behind her mother's back.
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  But I will keep you posted as to the developments on that story.
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  OK, so the first sign that your ex eventually will come back is
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  that they are confused about their decision or about your
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  behavior. And this looks like asking you a
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  lot of questions. Why are you doing this?
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  Why are you doing that? Who's that person?
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  What does this mean? They want to make themselves
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  feel more secure about their decision, meaning it's now your
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  job to make them feel insecure about their decision so that
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  they will rethink and decide that they want you back.
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  You want to think that maybe they made a mistake and they
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  can't do that if you keep reassuring them, as most of you
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  want to do. You think you have to be nice
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  and polite to get them back, but all you're doing is shooting
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  yourself in the foot. Remember, when it comes to
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  getting an X back, it's usually counterintuitive, so don't do
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  what you feel like you should be doing, IE reaching out, and do
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  what you don't think you should be doing, which is ignoring them
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  unless they say something significant.
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  Now, if they broke up with you because you needed to change
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  your behavior, if they ask, how are they supposed to trust that
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  you've changed? You can respond well with well,
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  you can't know until we start dealing with each other again.
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  But I think you can probably see in my energy and in my actions
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  over the past X number of weeks, stays however long it's been,
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  that I'm not the same person I was before.
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  I've been doing a lot of work on myself.
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  Tell them about some of the things you've done, the books
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  you've read, that you worked on yourself, not to get them back,
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  but because you want to grow as a person.
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  And the truth is, they can never really know that you've changed
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  until you're triggered and you don't react in the same way that
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  you used to. One of my clients, one of the
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  reasons his ex broke up with him was because he was too jealous.
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  He worked on that and when they got back together, she would
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  test him and try to push those buttons, but there was no
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  reaction. This is why instead of sitting
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  around being upset about the breakup and about being in no
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  contact, you should be working on yourself so that if you do
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  get the chance to get your ex back, you'll present the new
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  improved version of you. 2 point O Otherwise we'll stop them from
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  breaking up with you again if the issue hasn't been resolved,
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  right? The second sign is that your ex
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  is angry. And they're not angry because
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  you won't leave them alone and stop contacting them.
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  You've left them alone, but they're still angry.
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  And one of my clients recently heard from his ex after six
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  months of no contact. He was a good little soldier and
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  boy was his ex angry. And I wish I could tell you what
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  she said after I'd told them what to respond to her first
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  message, but I can't because the situation is ongoing.
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  But once this has been resolved, I will definitely tell you
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  because it's so funny. But I can tell you that it was a
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  very nice calm response and that made her even angrier.
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  So that tells me she still has feelings for him after six
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  months. And as I mentioned in a previous
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  video I did titled What to Do If Your Ex is Angry and I'll put
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  the link in the upper right hand corner on YouTube.
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  It's actually a good sign if they're angry.
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  It's a very bad sign if they're apathetic and couldn't care less
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  and are not reaching out. So don't be scared when you see
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  that your ex is angry. If they weren't interested in
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  you, they would not be angry. Think about it.
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  Think about an ex from the past who you're totally over.
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  Did you get angry at them once you were over them?
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  Well, maybe if they owed you money or something and wouldn't
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  give it back, but other than that, once you're over someone,
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  you couldn't care less what they do or don't do, who they're
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  dating, how much they've leveled up, etcetera, etcetera.
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  So your ex may be angry because you've been in no contact and
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  they thought you were going to chase them and now you've hurt
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  their ego and their sense of self, self worth, which I
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  suspect is the case with my client's ex.
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  Or maybe they're angry because you've actually made the changes
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  that they asked you to make, but you're no longer together.
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  Or maybe they're angry because they see you being happy, and
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  they secretly hoped that your life would go downhill after
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  they broke up with you. Yes, I know it happens.
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  Or maybe they're angry because you leveled up and you look
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  great and now they're missing out.
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  See, there's a lot of reasons why Next could be angry.
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  So if your ex is angry, don't worry.
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  It's a great sign. And by the way, if you're
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  finding this video helpful, be sure to share it so that we can
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  give other people hope that their ex will be back.
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  The next sign that your ex will eventually come back is that
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  they stay in touch. They want to talk to you.
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  They want to be friends. So their interest level isn't
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  yet high enough for them to want to come back, but they don't
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  want to totally lose you from your life.
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  And this is a good sign because if they were totally done and
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  their interest level was very low, they wouldn't want to have
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  anything to do with you. So if they keep reaching out
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  even though you stay in no contact and don't respond,
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  that's a good sign. Even though you're rejecting
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  them, they're not giving up. If they didn't care, they would
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  not be contacting you. And by the way, if you are in
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  touch with your ex and you want to throw them a curveball and
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  find out how they really feel about you, I have a little trick
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  for you. Tell them that you're thinking
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  of moving out of town and make sure you do this in person or
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  over video so that you can see their eyes.
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  And what you're looking for is the look of shock and panic.
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  So let's say you live in the continental USA.
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  Say that you're thinking of moving to Alaska.
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  If you're in Europe, mention another country in Europe which
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  isn't close to where you are. If you're in Australia, mention
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  the city that's on the other side of the country.
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  I know Australia is a big country.
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  Or even say you're considering moving to the US.
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  If they try to talk you out of it, if they try to tell you why
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  it's not a good idea, along with a panicked look on their face,
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  that's a great sign. If they just say oh OK, nice,
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  that's not a good sign unless they're bluffing.
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  So keep in mind that if they are talking to you, it's a good
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  sign. If they're trying to talk to
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  you, it's a good sign. And especially if they are
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  bringing up memories that you share, trips, inside jokes,
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  concerts you attended, etcetera, etcetera, they're still
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  interested and may eventually come back.
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  The next sign is our old friend jealousy.
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  They're jealous about who you're seeing and or what you're up to.
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  Now this can be confusing because they broke up with you
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  and now they're jealous. It doesn't make sense, right?
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  Well, it actually does make sense.
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  People's feelings don't immediately go away just because
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  they broke up with you. Jealousy means that they still
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  feel an emotional connection to you, otherwise they wouldn't
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  care. Maybe it's because they never
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  expected you to move on so quickly after they broke up with
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  you, or they thought you'd be heartbroken and they could get
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  you back whatever they wanted. They may not have consciously
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  thought this, but they definitely assumed it.
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  Everyone assumes that when they break up with someone, it's
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  like, yeah, I can get them back anytime.
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  But now you've flipped the tables and they feel as if they
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  were dumped. And This is why, before you ever
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  break up with someone, you need to ask yourself if you're
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  prepared for any consequences that may come up as a result of
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  the breakup. Are you prepared to never hear
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  from them again? Are you prepared for them to
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  block you and to never see their social media again?
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  Are you prepared for them to quickly start dating someone
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  else? And if you're not, then you may
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  want to rethink breaking up with them, at least for the moment.
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  So that's something to keep in mind in the future.
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  And something a jealous X. Sometimes the jealous X is going
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  to cave in and ask you to get back together just to prevent
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  you from moving on. Sneaky, sneaky.
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  So jealousy is a great thing. This is why I recommend the two
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  drink trick. After a minimum of 30 days of no
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  contact, you're going to post a photo or a video of two drinks
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  together and you want to tag the location, which will either be a
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  restaurant or a bar. And I did see A twist on the two
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  drink trick recently, and that is a girl.
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  She took a picture of the drink, but she held it up so that she
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  covered the face of the guy who was across from her so you can
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  see she's on a date, but you can't see his face because of
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  the drink. And I posted it in my community
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  tab last week on YouTube, so be sure to check it out.
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  And if they're trying to make you jealous, that's fine.
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  Again, if they didn't care, they would not be trying to make you
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  jealous. So don't get played, don't take
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  the bait and get reactive and leave a message like oh, I can't
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  believe you moved on that fast. Did you ever really care about
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  me? Stop it, be cool as a cucumber.
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  Yes, sometimes they're trying to get revenge and hurt you, but
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  even that shows that they're still emotionally invested.
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  And then finally, the 5th and final sign is that they are
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  being unusually nice to you and often have a big smile when they
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  see you. Now this of course only applies
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  if you're in contact with them for some reason.
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  Either you have children together, a business together,
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  things to wrap up after the breakup, you're working the same
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  place. Yes, they could be doing it out
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  of guilt, but it could also be because as time goes by, they're
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  having second thoughts and they realize that maybe they made a
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  mistake. They don't want to come right
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  and say it. So they're hoping that by being
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  nice to you, you'll get the hint and make a move so they don't
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  have to risk getting rejected. And some of you will fall for
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  it. But of course, don't do that
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  unless you cheated or took your ex for granted.
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  They broke up with you, so they need to put things back
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  together. OK, so obviously the more of
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  these signs that you get, the higher the chances of getting
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  your ex back. So now I want to hear from you.
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  How many of these signs have you seen from your ex and how is no
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  contact going? Hopefully you've seen one or
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  more of these signs and if you would like my help to get your
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  ex back, you can contact me at theartoflove.net and we will
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  And finally, remember, love inspires and powers, uplifts and
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  enlightens.