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241: Jumpstart Challenge Day 3 - Roll With It · JOY LOVING HOME - SAHM, Productivity, Home Organization, Declutter, ADHD Mom, ADHD SAHM, ADHD Brain

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  Happy Wednesday. We are in day three of our jumpstart challenge.
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  I have not been calling that that name from the beginning, so I might have to
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  go back and fix my titles because I actually like it. We're in a jumpstart.
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  It is September. I chose now to do a jumpstart because a lot of times we have
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  this feeling of a fresh start because we're all on new routines thanks to school
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  starting up And it just feels like the right time.
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  But sincerely, this little five-day jumpstart challenge, kind of commit to memory where it is.
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  And I started at such a random time in episode 239.
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  But you could literally use it any time you just need to get yourself going
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  again. So, hoping that you're not arriving on this in the middle,
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  but if you are, don't worry.
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  Every single day's challenge is independent of the other days.
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  So, you could start right now with me and then explore what the others are,
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  or you can zip back to 239 and do them in the order I happen to record these.
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  But there truly is no rhyme nor reason. I could have recorded them in any particular
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  order. they are all standalone, very quick hit challenges.
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  The goal here is just to get us moving. For whatever reason,
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  our ADHD brains can have big dreams and very little action.
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  And the cure for inaction is,
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  to, well, I was going to say, in order to get motivation, you actually need to start moving.
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  That's where my head was going. But in the middle of that sentence,
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  I got lost. I would love to know the cure for inaction.
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  We're trying to get ourselves to act. And so for whatever reason,
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  sometimes challenges will kick us into gear. And that's what we're looking for here.
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  If I leave this in, it's just because welcome to the Joy Loving Home podcast.
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  It is a series of chaos here.
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  Hopefully it fits your brain and suits you. And if it's driving you crazy,
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  then I'm probably not the person for you.
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  There are very organized professional organizers who would suit you better.
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  And that's okay because there's somebody for everybody.
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  But if you are into this rambling and I am your person, then proceed forward
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  because we are here to help each other out and to get into motion.
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  So what I want to do is dig into our third day, which I am calling roll with
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  it and I'll explain it right after this.
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  A wise person once said, everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its
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  ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it's stupid.
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  Well, fish, quit trying to climb trees while getting advice from well-intentioned monkeys.
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  It's time to jump in the water and learn how to swim with the current of your
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  life. I'm Joy, a professional organizer, mom of four, and fellow Fishbrain.
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  If you're looking for a place to get understanding, encouragement,
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  and ideas for your home that actually fit how your brain thinks,
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  then I'm glad you're here.
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  Let's ditch the type A advice and embrace what makes our brains and our homes unique.
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  Together, we could have a joy-loving home.
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  Okay, after that chaotic intro, I feel like I need to give you some quick qualifications here.
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  I have been doing this Joy Loving Home podcast for three years,
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  and to save you the effort of going back to the beginning, I call it Joy Loving
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  Home because most importantly,
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  I feel like having happiness in our home is what we're all striving for,
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  and it has nothing to do with the aesthetic of our home.
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  And I sympathize, empathize with folks who struggle keeping their home in some
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  kind of order and feeling like they're broken.
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  And I have done three, four different certifications now.
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  I have been a mom of four for 25 years.
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  I have been in all stages of absolute chaos. I know what it's like to be exactly
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  wherever it is you're sitting right now, even if it's not my current reality.
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  And I was deep diving into trying to figure out how to quote-unquote fix myself
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  and my home when it hit me that a lot of the organizing advice that I was reading and searching for were,
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  it was all coming from people who had just been naturally organized.
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  And because you're naturally organized, you can tell other people how to get organized.
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  It's not entirely wrong. I'm not saying they're wrong. I'm just saying we're not their audience.
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  That should be type A people for type A people, which is what most of the organizing industry does.
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  It caters to people like us who are chaotic, but it is meant for people who are not.
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  And that's, I discovered that along the way when I was getting my certifications.
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  I did not intend to become a professional organizer. I was just so close to
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  a certification by the time I quit trying to like deep dive for myself that I was like, hey, why not?
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  And then I discovered when I was with clients, because I was like,
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  I have the certification,
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  let me go try and use it, that I had a particular type of empathy that some
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  of my clients who had tried other organizers were not getting because their
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  organizer didn't get it.
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  And if you don't get it, then it's really hard to help somebody with anything
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  other than a, here's what you need.
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  You need a strict system. You need to stay on a routine.
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  You need to be consistent. Those things will help.
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  I'm not saying they're wrong. I just know our brains don't work that way.
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  And I was just tired of seeing women beat themselves up because I'd felt it,
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  because I'd beat myself up enough to be like, it's got to be something else.
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  It's got to be a different way to approach this.
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  And that's where this whole podcast was born. I, by the way, am Joy.
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  Actually, I am Joy Loving. That is my middle name, sincerely.
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  And it just felt like a fun little play on words. So.
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  Introduction to me. Hello. I'm really glad you're here. And if this sounds like
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  a place that just suits you, please stick around.
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  Share it with a friend who also needs some love and encouragement and grace
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  and kindness to ourselves to find a new way.
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  And one of the new ways is that I am never going to prescribe a one-size-fits-all approach.
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  I am going to give you the novelty that your brain is seeking by treating your
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  home like some grand experiment.
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  And in experiments, you try things that could work for a little bit, then quit working.
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  They could not work at all. They could work quite well, but you have life happen
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  and it's time to shift gears.
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  Those are not failures. Those are discoveries.
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  And our home is about a series of discovering things along the way that delight
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  you and you continue with until you don't.
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  And I will argue and argue and argue till the cows come home that we have been
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  conditioned to believe when we can't keep our house up that life got in the way.
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  Never ever ever believe that life
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  is getting in the way of a pristine home
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  because then you have it incredibly backwards
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  life is the point life is why you're doing this you your job is to fit managing
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  your home into the margins of choosing life first so I just emphasize that our
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  goal is the joy in our home.
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  It is the being present. It is the choosing moments over things.
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  I hope that's hitting home because I did not mean to go on this tangent.
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  My podcasts are a series of quickly jotted notes that I can barely read and
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  then hitting record and rolling with whatever flies out of my mouth.
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  But you are here for the Roll With It Challenge and we're going to zip it up
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  and we're going to get back to what this means.
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  Okay, so super quick. None of these challenges,
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  are a new invention. They are all just restating things you have probably heard,
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  but maybe you haven't done them in a while.
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  And it's time to go, you know what, I'm going to do this with her.
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  This is what this challenge is about.
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  I am going to commit to the next 15 minutes to doing whatever this challenge is.
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  And I'm just going to get into motion, which is the whole point.
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  So what the roll with it challenge is, is you grab a sheet of paper or open
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  the notes app on your phone, get a list ready to number one through six,
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  and jot down six locations in your home that tend to need.
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  Tidied up over and over and over again.
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  And so for me, I wrote down bathroom, bedroom, kitchen, laundry, entry, family room.
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  And what you do in your six can be any, any six you want. Those were just the
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  first six that came to mind when I was jotting notes.
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  You grab a die, if you can find one.
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  Go raid the games cabinet. Grab out a die. When you roll it,
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  you will see a number one through six.
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  Whatever number that lands on, set your timer for 15 minutes and commit to just
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  spending time tidying up in that space for 15 minutes. You're not looking for a finish.
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  You're not looking for perfection. You're improving it by 15 minutes. That's it.
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  If you absolutely cannot stomach walking into the space you just rolled,
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  you get one roll again. One.
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  You don't get to sit here and roll until you get the five because you really
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  wanted it to land on a five.
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  And if you're like, Joy, you do not understand the state of my house,
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  there's no chance I'll know where to find the dice out of some game.
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  What I want you to do is push the little button on your phone or if you happen
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  to have one of those Alexas or whatever, and just say, Siri or Alexa,
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  give me a random number between one and six, and she will do that for you.
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  There's ways around all of it. So why will this work? Why is doing this something
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  that will get you up and get you into motion?
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  One, because it takes away the decision.
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  Sometimes we sit in our paralysis because we can argue inside of our head why
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  any one of these six is more important than the other.
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  And we can sit there in a loop overthinking it. This is just,
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  I've got six things down. I'm going to roll. I'm going to let my,
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  my die be the brain right now, and I'm just going to move my feet into the direction
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  it told me to go when I rolled.
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  That's one reason. The other reason is it adds a slight little gamification
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  to this activity, which for whatever reason, spikes a little dopamine in our brains.
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  And that little extra nudge of dopamine by holding that die and rolling that
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  die or giving the, you know,
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  the talk of give me a random number between one and six, it allows us to get
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  that spike of dopamine that will get us going.
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  And that's, that's what we need. The whole point is to overcome inertia here.
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  We're just getting ourselves into motion.
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  Once that 15 minute timer goes off, full permission to stop.
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  If you're like, I'm on a roll now, why would I stop? I'm on a roll.
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  Hit start over and see if you can push yourself for another 15.
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  If that's still going well and you can find yourself humming through things
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  now, take it as long as you have the time to take.
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  I hate it when people stop a roll.
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  Like you've finally gotten yourself into motion. You're like,
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  well, timer went off. I got to stop now.
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  Give yourself permission to hit repeat on that timer as many times as you have
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  the time to. It's wonderful.
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  Lean into that action. That's how things get done.
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  But if you're like, I really, really, really want to work on this other project,
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  then commit yourself to 15 minutes of this and then go get busy on the other
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  because the motion will cause action on your project as well, which is,
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  part of what this whole challenge is about. So the final cool thing about this
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  is you can hold on to this six days.
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  Sorry, my dog is doing a low growl. You can do this six days in a row if you
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  wanted to, because you just tell yourself, if I roll a five again,
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  I can't, I got to roll again.
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  Any task you've already done, just promise yourself you won't repeat until you've
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  gone through all six numbers on your list.
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  You can use it when you have a task list of to-dos that aren't about cleaning
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  and you're like, I have to call and make a dentist appointment.
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  I have to return this thing to the store.
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  I have to, you know, whatever your to-do tasks are, you can put those on a numbered
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  list and do it randomly as well.
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  There's lots of uses for the roll with it type of challenge.
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  So hopefully that's helpful. You can enjoy it. I have rambled far too long.
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  I'm actually almost at the 15-minute mark, so you could literally re-listen
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  to this if you want and just work the whole time because it's 15 minutes long.
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  But anyway, I hope you are enjoying this. Please, please share and tell a friend.
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  Rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts if that's where you listen.
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  It means the world to me so that other moms like you who might be struggling
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  a little bit with their homes can find somebody who understands.
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  And that would just mean the world to me. If you want to reach out to me in
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  any other capacity, I love to hear from my listeners. I love any suggestions
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  and things you'd love for me to talk about.
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  And you can reach me by just emailing joy at joylovinghome.com.
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  And if you go to joylovinghome.com, you can find all the ways to join my community,
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  my membership. Work with me.
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  All the things are there. Until next time, which is tomorrow, continue to choose joy.