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⏳ Every Second Counts 4/7: Trust the Process, Trust the Clock #TrustYourselfThursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Greetings and welcome.
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Sweet Spot.
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: Today is Trust Yourself.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: Thursday on the Sweet Spot, and today we're going to be digging into the power of trusting time and process.
• 0:18
  Speaker 1: So I'm Dr Derek Sweet, I'm your host.
• 0:21
  Speaker 1: I'm a board certified psychiatrist.
• 0:24
  Speaker 1: I specialize in high performance and sports psychiatry, but more than that, I'm really into the mind and how we can use our minds to create the life we love and to be able to live the life we love and to be inspired by what we have in front of us, no matter what life is dealing to us.
• 0:46
  Speaker 1: And so that's why we're spending time today on time.
• 0:50
  Speaker 1: So all week long we've been talking about time.
• 0:53
  Speaker 1: This was an idea that my wife, darcelle gave to me, and I said to myself I don't know if I could really do this, because I don't know if there's a lot to say on time.
• 1:00
  Speaker 1: Boy, was I wrong.
• 1:00
  Speaker 1: Because I don't know if there's a lot to say on time.
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: Boy, was I wrong?
• 1:04
  Speaker 1: Oh goodness, there's so much to talk about with time.
• 1:07
  Speaker 1: You know, you think about time, and every memory we have is about time.
• 1:13
  Speaker 1: Think about our dreams and our expectation that's about time.
• 1:17
  Speaker 1: Think about what we're putting our attention on today that's about time.
• 1:22
  Speaker 1: Time is this invisible thread that's running through our lives, it's shaping us, it's the track that we run on in the race of life.
• 1:30
  Speaker 1: It's the prize that we want at the end of life my goodness, even to say end and beginning.
• 1:37
  Speaker 1: We're talking time.
• 1:39
  Speaker 1: Time is everywhere, my friend, and it's best for us to have a bigger and deeper consciousness of time so that we can win the race against it, master it and also use it.
• 1:51
  Speaker 1: There's nothing worse to me than losing someone and not being able to ever talk to them again because they're no longer here with us and we didn't spend that time correctly with them.
• 2:05
  Speaker 1: How many people have lost someone that they cherish those times?
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: Taking a picture, a selfie, is capturing a moment in time, and often in the present, which is also time, we are not always aware that we're creating a timeline, that we're in a timeline.
• 2:29
  Speaker 1: So it's fascinating this whole thing about time.
• 2:33
  Speaker 1: And today, in Trust Yourself, thursday, we have reached a point where we have to talk about trust and time, and I'd love to start with a quote from Tony Gaskins that puts it this way that trust is a process.
• 2:49
  Speaker 1: Your time is coming.
• 2:52
  Speaker 1: Just do the work and the results will handle themselves.
• 2:58
  Speaker 1: My friends, let's talk about trust, not just trust in people, but trust in yourself, trust in your path and the time it takes to build something great.
• 3:13
  Speaker 1: You're already doing it.
• 3:15
  Speaker 1: You're already a winner.
• 3:16
  Speaker 1: We established that yesterday.
• 3:18
  Speaker 1: You have already established yourself as a winner, but you have more to do.
• 3:26
  Speaker 1: There's bigger things ahead for you.
• 3:28
  Speaker 1: There are dreams and plans that you have.
• 3:30
  Speaker 1: We all do.
• 3:31
  Speaker 1: Look, let's get real.
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: Waiting is hard.
• 3:38
  Speaker 1: That's another thing that time has built into it.
• 3:43
  Speaker 1: Waiting, putting in the work when results aren't immediate that's tough.
• 3:52
  Speaker 1: Believing in yourself, which is about trusting yourself when things aren't lining up the way you want them or expected that takes real faith.
• 4:03
  Speaker 1: Who knew that faith had time wrapped up in it Until I started working with this whole time thing, I didn't see all the connections.
• 4:13
  Speaker 1: But real faith is about time, understanding that the time may not be now, but I have the faith that it will happen and can happen.
• 4:25
  Speaker 1: But here's the truth Everything we achieve in life happens in time, and those who succeed, they don't just trust time, they trust themselves in time.
• 4:42
  Speaker 1: And that was the distinction I had to make as I was thinking through Trust Yourself Thursday.
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: And how does this tie into the concept of time trusting ourselves.
• 4:53
  Speaker 1: And it hit me that winners and people who are successful don't just trust time, they trust themselves in time, they trust God, they trust their higher power, they believe in something bigger than just time, which is themselves and their higher power.
• 5:12
  Speaker 1: You ever notice how the best things in life don't happen instantly.
• 5:17
  Speaker 1: That's another thing.
• 5:19
  Speaker 1: They understand that, that you can't always have instant gratification.
• 5:25
  Speaker 1: That's a setup for having lots of disappointment and depression and all kinds of mental strain.
• 5:34
  Speaker 1: In nature a tree doesn't grow overnight.
• 5:37
  Speaker 1: It just doesn't.
• 5:38
  Speaker 1: Seasons have to change, roots have to strengthen and time has to do its work, and some of that is underground.
• 5:45
  Speaker 1: The tree starts as a seed Buried.
• 5:46
  Speaker 1: We don't even know what's happening, and some of that is underground.
• 5:47
  Speaker 1: The tree starts as a seed buried.
• 5:47
  Speaker 1: We don't even know what's happening.
• 5:48
  Speaker 1: It looks like nothing's happening.
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: So that's something to keep in mind, that in nature I heard a quote.
• 5:55
  Speaker 1: I'm going to butcher it, but it says that nature gets everything done but is never in a hurry.
• 6:02
  Speaker 1: It's something like that and it's kind of true, right.
• 6:07
  Speaker 1: The other quote is that the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, because it takes that long for a tree to grow.
• 6:14
  Speaker 1: And then the quote says what's the next best time to plant a tree is right now.
• 6:20
  Speaker 1: So this way you get a jump on the next 20 years.
• 6:23
  Speaker 1: I love it.
• 6:24
  Speaker 1: So now is always the right time, and that's the name of this series.
• 6:30
  Speaker 1: Your time is now.
• 6:31
  Speaker 1: So trusting in yourself as you trust in time is critically important In sports.
• 6:40
  Speaker 1: Every champion was once a beginner.
• 6:43
  Speaker 1: In time.
• 6:44
  Speaker 1: They didn't start at the top, they trusted the process, they trained, they failed and they kept going.
• 6:53
  Speaker 1: And I've been in sports over 15 to 20 years now and I've seen it.
• 6:56
  Speaker 1: I have seen it that they trust the process, they work hard, they fail and they get up and they keep moving.
• 7:04
  Speaker 1: It's really just no secret.
• 7:06
  Speaker 1: This is the path, and that's the same for you and me.
• 7:08
  Speaker 1: In life, the greatest stories aren't built in a day.
• 7:12
  Speaker 1: Every.
• 7:16
  Speaker 1: I heard this quote once by Ecker.
• 7:17
  Speaker 1: It was what every master was once a disaster.
• 7:22
  Speaker 1: So if you want to become a master of the game, you got to face a few disasters.
• 7:27
  Speaker 1: In fact, do you want to fly with a pilot that has never seen turbulence before, doesn't know what it is other than having read it in a book?
• 7:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know about you.
• 7:36
  Speaker 1: I don't want to fly with that kind of pilot.
• 7:38
  Speaker 1: I want a pilot that has seen and overcome some turbulence and who knows what to do when it hits.
• 7:47
  Speaker 1: So look, the difference between those who make it and those who don't really is trust.
• 7:52
  Speaker 1: The ones who win, they trust the process, even if they can't see the results yet.
• 8:00
  Speaker 1: They have a lot of faith.
• 8:01
  Speaker 1: And that is mastering time.
• 8:05
  Speaker 1: They take the time.
• 8:06
  Speaker 1: But why is that so hard?
• 8:11
  Speaker 1: It's not easy to trust ourselves because we're taught to doubt ourselves.
• 8:13
  Speaker 1: Remember the brain structures we've talked about in the limbic system that keep us worried.
• 8:19
  Speaker 1: They're trying to help.
• 8:20
  Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong.
• 8:21
  Speaker 1: This limbic system is not a bad thing.
• 8:23
  Speaker 1: Your amygdala, your hippocampus, temporal lobe, some of those areas they're really trying to help.
• 8:29
  Speaker 1: They want you to be okay, but sometimes the doubts show up when there's nothing to really worry about.
• 8:36
  Speaker 1: So fear whispers.
• 8:38
  Speaker 1: What if you're wrong?
• 8:40
  Speaker 1: And that erodes your trust.
• 8:43
  Speaker 1: Comparison another thief.
• 8:45
  Speaker 1: Right Comparison is the thief of joy, they say.
• 8:49
  Speaker 1: Right Comparison tells us look at how far ahead that person is.
• 8:53
  Speaker 1: You can never do that.
• 8:54
  Speaker 1: You don't look as good as this person.
• 8:56
  Speaker 1: Oh, you're not as smart as that person, or they're just much better than you.
• 9:01
  Speaker 1: That's another reason that we actually have low self-trust and impatience.
• 9:09
  Speaker 1: If it's not happening now, maybe it never will happen.
• 9:13
  Speaker 1: That's what happens when the voice in your head starts saying impatience.
• 9:16
  Speaker 1: This is one that gets me all the time.
• 9:17
  Speaker 1: You want it right here, right now, immediately, and sometimes you have to learn to wait.
• 9:23
  Speaker 1: I speak to myself.
• 9:24
  Speaker 1: So here's the mindset shift that we have to do.
• 9:31
  Speaker 1: Trust isn't passive, it's not just waiting and hoping, don't get me wrong.
• 9:35
  Speaker 1: Trust is an active process where you are actively believing, actively building, so that the patience doesn't mean that you have to passively endure anything.
• 9:45
  Speaker 1: It means that you have to be farsighted enough to believe and trust the end result and in the process, and let that keep you moving through time with faith.
• 9:55
  Speaker 1: Ancient wisdom puts it this way he has made everything beautiful in its time, ecclesiastes.
• 10:06
  Speaker 1: He's made everything beautiful in its time, ecclesiastes.
• 10:09
  Speaker 1: He's made everything beautiful in its time.
• 10:10
  Speaker 1: That means your time is coming.
• 10:14
  Speaker 1: Your journey has its own rhythm and the process that you're going through right now, difficult as it may be, challenging as it may be, boring if that's what's going on, as it may be is refining you, it's molding you, it's shaping you into what you're meant to be, and you're going to look back in time, and how often has this happened to me where I've looked back in time on a situation or something that seemed to be difficult or a pain and ended up making me a better human being because I learned new skills.
• 10:54
  Speaker 1: So look, how do we actually trust time while taking action?
• 10:59
  Speaker 1: Here's how you have to detach.
• 11:01
  Speaker 1: Number one.
• 11:01
  Speaker 1: The one thing you have to do is detach from the outcome and commit to the work in front of you.
• 11:06
  Speaker 1: Success is not about what happens today, my friend.
• 11:11
  Speaker 1: It's about showing up every day, focusing on the task at hand and controlling the controllables and getting yourself ready for the future that you know is coming.
• 11:21
  Speaker 1: Detach yourself from the outcome, don't worry about that.
• 11:24
  Speaker 1: Now Show, get it done.
• 11:28
  Speaker 1: The second thing you do is reframe doubt and make it into data.
• 11:32
  Speaker 1: Change your doubt into like data.
• 11:34
  Speaker 1: So doubt doesn't mean stop.
• 11:37
  Speaker 1: That used to get me on term.
• 11:38
  Speaker 1: If I doubted, I used to freeze, but now I don't.
• 11:40
  Speaker 1: What doubt does is it tells me pause, adjust and then move forward.
• 11:46
  Speaker 1: So doubt should not not stop you.
• 11:50
  Speaker 1: It should just make you pause, make an adjustment and still move forward.
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: Trust that learning is part of winning.
• 11:58
  Speaker 1: Sometimes you've got to learn something I've got to learn, and this doubt and wrestling with it is all part of it and then use micro progress thinking instead of looking at the whole staircase We've talked about this before in other podcasts Focus on the next step, because every time you take one step I know it doesn't feel like much, but you're building muscle, you're increasing trust, and then you take another step and another step.
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: So in this way, you give time a role.
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: You don't give it control.
• 12:35
  Speaker 1: You're taking it bit by bit.
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: So time is your tool, not your roadblock.
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: Your job is to move.
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: Time's job is to reveal the results in time.
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: You just have to keep moving in faith, in trust, with consistency, with discipline, with balance, making wise decisions with your steps.
• 12:59
  Speaker 1: So today I want you to ask yourself where in life do you need to trust the process?
• 13:05
  Speaker 1: Is it your career?
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  Speaker 1: Is it a personal goal?
• 13:10
  Speaker 1: Is it a relationship?
• 13:11
  Speaker 1: Whatever it is, your time is coming.
• 13:15
  Speaker 1: The results you want are already in motion.
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: Your only job is to stay in this race.
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: Be wise, seek wise counsel.
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: Remember everything is made beautiful in its time.
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: So you have to trust the process and take action.
• 13:34
  Speaker 1: See yourself as a winner.
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: Don't wait for some future date to be a winner.
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: Behave like one, be consistent in the action, one step at a time.
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: Keep trusting, keep building and keep going.
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: All right now.
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: That's it for Trust Yourself Thursday.
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: If this spoke to you, please share it with someone, and I'll see you tomorrow for Finish Strong Friday, where we're going to talk about closing out this week and every challenge with strength.
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: That's it, my friend.
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: Stay amazing.
• 14:08
  Speaker 1: This is Dr Sweet, and I'll see you on TikTok, I'll see you on Instagram, I'll see you on LinkedIn and, of course, right here on YouTube.
• 14:19
  Speaker 1: Bye, bye.