Latest / The Hypnotist / Soothing the Nervous System By Reassuring the Inner Child

Transcript

Soothing the Nervous System By Reassuring the Inner Child · The Hypnotist

0:00
Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
0:03
access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
0:07
issues. Brought to you by the
0:10
hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
0:14
royalty. Adam Cox.
0:16
These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
0:19
world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
0:23
hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
0:27
This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
0:30
severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
0:34
enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
0:40
Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
0:44
Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
0:48
that was created for a client that had.
0:51
Very elevated levels. Of anxiety and an overactive
0:57
sympathetic nervous system. This is the part of the nervous
1:01
system that is in this fight or flight response.
1:05
And this particular client that I was working with actually was
1:10
using an element of high level manifestation to think of the
1:16
ideal relationship that they would want.
1:20
However, in their childhood, they felt at a very intense
1:26
level that they were abandoned by certain family members at a
1:31
young age. So working with this client, it
1:34
was highly likely that there was a protective part and the other
1:39
clue of this protective part that the client was saying that
1:42
they were hearing in a dialogue that was stated.
1:45
Like 1/3. Person it was saying you rather
1:49
than I. And that combination.
1:51
Of these things led me to believe that this particular
1:54
client had a a part. Some people would call that an
1:59
ego state, a resource state, an inner child, or just a
2:02
conflicted part that was trying to keep them safe from something
2:07
connected to what? A relationship.
2:10
Would. Represent and that could be fear
2:13
of the loss of that relationship, fear of rejection,
2:17
betrayal, or indeed the part feeling like they would be
2:22
neglected or be replaced by someone else.
2:26
So in this particular session, what you're going to hear is not
2:31
direct parts negotiation therapy, but an element to.
2:35
Start. Communicating with this part to
2:38
build rapport with this part and to make that part as well as the
2:44
the overall client I was working with, feel safe.
2:49
A lot of the sympathetic nervous system is a reaction to feeling
2:52
unsafe and vulnerable and therefore.
2:55
A lot. Of these suggestions are linked
2:57
to this idea of feeling protected, loved and safe so
3:01
that the whole nervous system can calm down.
3:04
But I wanted to do this knowing that the next session with the
3:07
client would be probably parts negotiation or parts integration
3:12
therapy was to start building channels of communication with
3:17
this particular part. I would say this is going to be
3:20
very, very useful for anyone that feels like they are in a
3:26
heightened state of anxiety. And that it is.
3:31
Caused by some kind of conflict or inner turmoil within them, in
3:36
which case you would benefit more from this session than just
3:39
the average person. It was a particular climb that I
3:42
was working with. Therefore the inner child is
3:45
stated in the she gender rather than a neutral gender.
3:51
And it's worth me kind of echoing or doubling down on this
3:55
that almost all the client sessions that I do that I that I
3:58
share, I'm working with a client, but then confidentially
4:02
sharing that session. So you'll never know who the
4:06
client I'm working with is, but I am sharing my words, my
4:12
hypnosis that connected to that client.
4:14
And that means that sometimes I'll get comments on YouTube or
4:19
Spotify, they say, oh, why is this mentioned?
4:21
Because that doesn't apply to me.
4:23
And, and you're right, it doesn't, but it did apply to the
4:26
client that I was working with. So if you feel that.
4:30
Some of these. Sessions that you listen to
4:33
aren't quite right for you. Well, there's two things you can
4:37
do 1 you can search around. About 1000. 700 episodes that
4:42
I've published and find the right one that does feel like a
4:45
better fit. What some people choose to do
4:47
though is work with me directly and there will be a link in the
4:50
description where I've got free resources available.
4:53
But one of those resources is to schedule a free consultation
4:57
call to explore working with me. And then you would know that
5:01
you're going to be working with me directly.
5:02
And then the session is 100% calibrated and customized for
5:06
you, rather than a recording which is customized for the
5:10
original client that I was working with.
5:12
So if that appeals to you, have a look in the description.
5:16
For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
5:19
won't be disturbed. Relax.
5:21
And enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
6:15
you breathe in, breathe in that calm, relaxed feeling of
6:21
resourceful relaxation. And as you exhale, just allow
6:29
yourself to breathe out, but continue to breathe out beyond
6:35
your normal breath, almost taking two or three exhales,
6:43
breathing out so much, and even holding that outward breath.
6:48
So as you breathe in, you slowly start to activate your
6:53
diaphragm. And as your diaphragm starts to
6:59
expand, your breathing gets deeper and longer.
7:06
And I want you to think of the most calming colour, the most
7:11
soothing colour, and just imagine breathing in that
7:17
colour. Make it glow, make it feel like
7:23
a blanket for your soul and your nervous system.
7:27
Warm, safe and cozy breathing in that colour of calm.
7:37
And as you exhale just imagine a colour that represents anxiety,
7:47
maybe something dark or intense. And as you exhale, just imagine
7:56
on your outward breath, that color of anxiety is leaving your
8:01
body. Breathing in calm and breathing
8:06
out anxiety. That's it.
8:11
Each breath means you're feeling more and more calm, and each
8:17
exhale releases more and more anxiety.
8:24
And maybe you could imagine one of those old fashioned scales
8:32
and just imagine they're. Weighted too much.
8:35
Anxiety and not enough calm. But each time you breathe in
8:39
that color of calm, the scales start to shift like a child's
8:48
seesaw in a park. We're tipping the balance,
8:54
exhaling anxiety and breathing in calm so that each breath
9:01
takes you even deeper. Relaxed.
9:05
That's it. And maybe you can see those
9:11
scales shifting, that seesaw balancing and tipping.
9:18
Or maybe you could imagine what was that intense color of
9:23
anxiety within? So much.
9:26
Of it has left your body in your outward breath, you can now
9:31
imagine more of that calm color within.
9:35
Imagine breathing in that color of calm, and imagine that color
9:43
of calm in your lungs, your heart taking that color of calm
9:48
and distributing it to every cell in your body, and you'll
9:54
know where you've been feeling more of that anxiety.
9:59
For some people, it's there in the gut, the second brain.
10:05
Sometimes it might be in the head, the chest, the neck, or
10:09
the shoulders. But think about where anxiety
10:13
has mainly been residing for you.
10:17
And as you breathe in that color of calm, see more of that color
10:24
in that location that anxiety used to reside, and continue to
10:30
breathe out that color of anxiety, each breath taking you
10:38
deeper and deeper, relaxed, more and more calm.
10:47
And don't be surprised if you can loosen those muscles in your
10:51
neck or your shoulders, your jaw.
10:57
The breathing feels more and more relaxed and deeper.
11:05
And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
11:10
And the more relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe.
11:14
And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens all parts of
11:23
your imagination. And I wonder if there's a part
11:29
within you that could imagine somewhere safe.
11:38
A home perhaps either in your reality or a different one from
11:44
your past, or even fictional. I wonder if you could imagine
11:50
the safest, most loving home, and if you could imagine
11:57
somewhere like that. Just imagine floating to that
11:59
place at any age that feels useful.
12:06
Maybe your current age, but maybe as a 14 year old, a 10
12:13
year old or a six year old just float back towards that safe,
12:23
loving family home. And then within that home, I
12:31
want you to imagine a bedroom. The safest, most loving bedroom
12:39
with clues of family and love. And maybe that's pictures.
12:48
Maybe that's even the way that room is decorated.
12:53
The kind of thing that would have required effort and love
12:56
and consideration. I want you to think of a place
13:01
that would be paradise, perhaps for that childlike version of
13:06
you to feel safe. And maybe you could just know
13:14
that there are other people in different rooms.
13:18
You are not alone in this home, but you feel safe in that room.
13:26
And then just imagine the most comfortable bed, a cosy, warm,
13:37
safe bed. And I want you to imagine
13:42
snuggling on that bed the way a child would, with the expression
13:47
they would have if they were safe and loved.
13:53
And maybe there's clues of things that would allude to
13:57
safety. Maybe it's the type of building
14:06
you know you're in, the type of location you're in.
14:10
Well, the kind of people that are there to protect, to love,
14:15
or to care. And I want you to imagine what
14:20
it would be like to find the most comfortable position on
14:24
that bed. Feeling safe, feeling loved,
14:31
feeling protected. That's it.
14:35
And maybe you can imagine your head on a pillow, duvet, or
14:42
covers over you and just feel how good it feels to completely
14:51
relax there. That's it.
14:56
I'm going to countdown from 12:50 with each descending
15:02
number I want. You to think.
15:04
About relaxing a part of your body to take you even deeper,
15:07
relaxed. 10 Just releasing any tension in your forehead.
15:17
I said breathing in that colour of calm and just releasing any
15:20
tension. That's it. 9 Just loosening your
15:29
jaw, feeling like any tension around your jaw or your cheeks
15:34
is just melting away. That's it taking you deeper and
15:40
deeper, relaxed. And then eight, think about your
15:46
breathing, breathing in through your nose and out through your
15:50
nose, but just feel like your body's doing the work for you.
15:55
You don't have to force a breath, just allow your body to
15:57
breathe, continuing to breathe in that calm and exhaling any
16:03
tension or anxiety. And then seven, just focus on
16:09
your neck and your shoulders. And sometimes when there's been
16:14
too much cortisol or adrenaline, those muscles around the neck
16:20
and the shoulders could be tense and tight.
16:22
And just imagine it's safe now to release that tension.
16:28
Sometimes when people are anxious, they unconsciously have
16:32
that brace position, but you don't need that brace position.
16:39
So give permission to let go of that tension that's been keeping
16:45
you. Steer for tight.
16:46
That's it. Just release it now and then. 6
16:54
Feel that relaxation spreading down your arms.
16:59
Arms feeling limp, loose and heavy, almost like the limbs of
17:06
a puppet with no strings. That's it, more and more
17:12
relaxed. And then imagine your internal
17:17
organs starting to relax. Your lungs, your heart, even
17:23
your stomach. Just imagine it all relaxing as
17:28
it feels like we're dialing down any anxiety.
17:33
Anxiety is good if there's a threat, but you are safe here.
17:40
Now to dial down all of that anxiety.
17:43
You don't need it because when anxiety is dialed down, your
17:50
body can naturally prioritize healing.
17:55
When anxiety is high, everything outside of immediate survival is
18:01
deprioritized. But you're safe now.
18:08
You are safe. And as you dial down that
18:12
anxiety, you are now prioritizing recuperation,
18:19
rejuvenation, sleep, and recovery.
18:24
And imagine that happening. Imagine the healing happening to
18:29
all of your internal organs and five shifts to four.
18:35
And now focus on your gut. And I want you to imagine your
18:40
intestines like an old garden hose, old knotted, filled with
18:48
holes. But I want you to imagine that
18:51
now that you've dialed down anxiety, the healing is taking
18:56
place in your gut. Your Biome is enhancing.
19:04
All of those probiotics are healing your gut.
19:07
And just imagine that old twisted leaky hose turning into
19:13
a brand new garden hose. Imagine your gut healing.
19:18
It's healthy. And because it's healthy, you
19:22
can let go of any anxiety there in the gut.
19:26
And the combination of that healed gut, that wonderful Biome
19:35
filled with the right bacteria, means that you are awakening
19:40
your second brain. And this second brain, your
19:44
intuition, knows at your very core that you are safe.
19:54
Your reaction wasn't to a reality, it was to a
19:57
possibility. So we can calm down everything
20:03
now. Your decisions will decide your
20:07
future, and the safer you feel, the better your decisions
20:14
become. Nobody makes great decisions
20:19
when they're scared. That's it.
20:23
Just feel any anxiety, any twisting or knotted sensations
20:29
there in the gut, just evaporating, just diluting and
20:32
melting away. And four becomes three.
20:36
That starts to shift down into your legs.
20:41
Initially the top of your legs as three becomes 2.
20:44
Now your calf muscles just allow your legs to feel limp, loose
20:52
and heavy. Now your arms, like your legs
20:57
are like that puppet with no strings, just so relaxed.
21:02
Now that's it. And then two becomes one.
21:08
Just feel that relaxation, even in your ankle, your toes, feel
21:17
that sensation of that's it, deeper and deeper, relaxed.
21:27
And I want you to imagine drifting off into a dreamlike
21:30
sleep. And I want you to awaken that
21:36
childlike version of you. And I know she's listening and I
21:49
want to thank her because she is precious, valuable, diligent,
22:01
working so hard to keep you safe.
22:06
And that part within you has sometimes felt neglected.
22:13
But it's working tirelessly for you.
22:18
And I want to thank her for her wonderful intention.
22:30
That's it. That part that has these
22:39
wonderful intentions, has all of that tenacity.
22:46
Deep down just wants what you want.
22:51
Love connection to feel important.
23:03
And that part within you will never be shut away.
23:11
That part within you will never be rejected or hidden, will
23:18
never be suppressed. That part is safe.
23:26
That part will always be loved, but sometimes you can have two
23:36
parts pulling in different directions.
23:45
And sometimes what we think is anxiety is just the tension
23:51
coming from pulling in different directions.
23:59
And I know that part cares for you deeply.
24:04
It's trying to protect you. And that part will only take you
24:16
to that place where it's good for you and good for them, when
24:23
they both feel happy, when they both feel safe.
24:29
And sometimes the world is a scary place and sometimes
24:35
there's things that feel emotionally painful.
24:41
And the obvious thing to do is to try and avoid those things.
24:50
But that part is a wonderful part.
24:57
She doesn't need telling off or reprimanding or being ignored.
25:07
She wants to work with you. And sometimes the intuition
25:15
knows more than we think. And what seems like sabotage is
25:23
just the power of the intuition, using creative strategies to
25:31
keep safety and protection. And I want you to tell that part
25:40
you will never abandoned her. I want you to tell that part
25:48
that you will always listen. And she knows.
25:59
And you know, it doesn't have to be win or lose.
26:08
Sometimes it's about finding what's good for that part and
26:15
good for you. A new destination.
26:22
A destination that gives you the love that you desire and gives
26:32
that precious part within you the safety and reassurance that
26:37
they desire. And we don't have to figure out
26:41
what that future is. Just be open to the possibility
26:46
that it exists. And I want you to imagine a
26:59
rose. A rose and a beautiful garden.
27:07
And I want you to imagine you give this rose a name.
27:13
Maybe you call it rosy or rosy, but just imagine a precious
27:20
rose. You decide the colour of the
27:22
petals, and I want you to see how fragile and delicate those
27:31
petals are, but also how sharp those thorns are on the stem.
27:39
And what if what you thought was sabotage, what you thought was
27:54
somehow something bad? Even the anxiety could be to
28:00
protect what is precious and fragile.
28:09
And I want you to get a sense that those thorns have been
28:17
built up over years, designed to keep you safe.
28:24
To keep her safe. And what if you considered
28:32
something so perfect that that Rose felt that it was going to
28:38
be neglected and you were going to see something even more
28:41
perfect than that Rose? And I want you to reassure that
28:47
part that even if you find what you consider true love, that
28:58
does not take away the love you have for that fragile,
29:06
beautiful, delicate rose. And I also want you to reassure
29:14
this part. It is not about one or the
29:20
other. I want you to reassure that part
29:24
that the only thing you're interested in is something that
29:30
is good for you and good for them, because otherwise that
29:40
part could feel rejected even if that wasn't your intention,
29:44
could feel abandoned even if it wasn't your attention.
29:50
But that isn't true and I want you to give that part all of the
29:54
reassurance it needs, like a cozy warm blanket.
30:01
That part all of the reassurance, the blanket, the
30:06
hug, the cuddles. Even imagine just stroking their
30:14
skin and just soothing that part until they feel safe, listen to
30:22
and reassured. I just noticed.
30:28
The physical. Changes in your body that as you
30:31
reassure that part, your whole nervous system seems to calm
30:36
down. That tension and anxiety can
30:43
melt away. What if that part felt then, it
30:51
had influence for years and years, and then wasn't going to
30:54
be listened to? So you can reassure that part.
31:03
That part is not an an enemy. It's not a saboteur.
31:12
This part is your confidante, your cheerleader.
31:20
This is a part that will help protect you in new ways, even if
31:25
we don't know what those new ways are yet.
31:31
And I want you to ask that part if it's happy to help you to
31:38
find a future way forward that gives you the love that you
31:44
desire while keeping all parts of you safe.
31:51
Would it be open to that possibility?
31:59
And if that part agrees, just let me know by nodding your head
32:04
that's in and smile at that part.
32:10
Tell that part that they are precious, they are loved, they
32:15
are so important. Tell that part that you respect
32:25
how badly they want to keep you safe.
32:30
But also tell that part then anxiety leads to worst
32:37
decisions, and worst decisions increase the possibility of
32:46
being less safe. And you need the help of that
32:49
part to dull down the anxiety so that better decisions can be
32:57
made. Decisions that lead to love and
33:02
safety. Not either or.
33:09
And I want you to see the look on that part's face.
33:13
They're given more responsibility, more influence.
33:22
And if you can see that part smiling, let me know by nodding
33:26
your head. That's it.
33:31
And I want you to thank that part not just for the past, but
33:40
for the future. Because the more resourceful you
33:45
are, the better able you are to make great decisions.
33:51
And the better your decisions, the more love and safety you
33:56
have in your future. This part was never an enemy,
34:03
always an ally. But sometimes the people that
34:10
love you the most will do the most to try and protect you.
34:14
And you can even thank that part for that because that's all
34:20
they've been doing, trying to keep you safe.
34:38
And I want you to feel a new bond being created.
34:45
Not win or lose, not my way or the highway, but a partnership,
34:54
a dream team. And I want you to ask that part
35:00
honestly if it can help you more if you're anxious or if you're
35:07
feeling resourceful. And if that part believes it can
35:17
help you more if you're both resourceful and resourceful
35:22
might be sky high confidence, self esteem, amazing sleep, and
35:30
low anxiety. In that place, perhaps it's
35:36
easier to manifest what you truly desire because it comes
35:41
from alignment, not conflict. Everyone knows then when you're
35:50
desperate for something, it can repel it.
35:54
But if you can desire something, be open to it.
35:59
Sometimes that can be a powerful magnet.
36:04
So ask that part. Can it help you more from a
36:09
place of resourcefulness or anxiety?
36:13
And if it can help you more from that resourceful place, let me
36:17
know about nodding your head. That's it.
36:21
And a hug. That part, call that part by its
36:27
name. Feel connected to that part.
36:36
It's been helping you all this time, but sometimes it didn't
36:40
feel like help. But what if it can truly help
36:46
you at a whole new level now? Instead of you going in One
36:52
Direction and this part going into a different, what if for
36:59
the first time perhaps in years, you get to go to the same place
37:08
and ask that part. If you could agree on that same
37:11
place then before what felt like sabotage would now feel like
37:19
help and ask if it's OK with that idea.
37:25
Even if you don't know what that place is yet, but just being
37:30
open to moving in the same direction.
37:35
You need an ally, not an enemy. And just notice that the
37:46
possibility of that place, that same direction that you're
37:50
moving to, empowers this part. It doesn't have to use intrusive
38:01
thoughts. It doesn't have to use
38:07
sabotaging something valuable. Because when that part and you
38:13
want the same thing, you turn tug of war, pulling in different
38:21
directions into a three legged race where you're moving in the
38:25
same direction. So the happier that part is, the
38:31
happier you are. And the happier you are the
38:33
happier that is. But most of all, tell that part
38:49
they are safe. They are loved and now more than
38:55
ever before they are listened to.
39:04
Isn't it true that every child that is ignored, they either
39:08
raise their voice or throw a tantrum?
39:12
They crave the attention they need to be listened to.
39:18
One of the cruelest things you can do to a child is pretend to
39:22
be invisible. You don't see them, you don't
39:25
hear them. To tell this part.
39:29
You see them, you hear them, they matter and maybe they open
39:39
up. And I want you to ask this part.
39:44
It's positive intention, what it's been trying to do for you
39:47
all this time, what it tells you.
39:52
Just let me know by nodding your head.
40:01
Maybe just ask this part if it does have a positive intention.
40:07
You don't need to know it right now, but just you believe deep
40:10
down that it has and it doesn't matter to you if it's
40:15
protection, safety, love, or something else.
40:23
But I want you to thank that part for its positive intention.
40:28
Even if you don't know what that positive intention is yet, you
40:34
can validate it is doing something positive for you
40:40
without knowing the details. And I want you to tell that
40:47
part. Whatever you do going forward,
40:55
you will listen to them. You will take their input into
41:02
this future so that it's safe for you and safe for them.
41:13
And I don't want you to imagine holding the hand of this part
41:19
and doing something together. It feels like harmony or
41:25
connection. That feels like trust or
41:31
recognition. Maybe that's play or something
41:37
creative or something else to make this part feel.
41:45
You are a team in harmony, not opposing forces in conflict.
42:03
I want you to hug this part and tell them that whatever they
42:08
have to say, you will listen. They are loved, they are
42:14
listened to and thank them for helping you dial down all of
42:20
that anxiety. They are safe, you are safe,
42:28
everyone is safe. Don't be surprised in the next
42:34
few days if you find yourself sleeping for deeper and longer,
42:41
finding it easier to relax. And I want you to know for
42:47
certain that whenever. You go to sleep.
42:51
This part is with you. You are never alone because this
42:57
part is with you and you are with them.
43:02
So you don't need the help of friends or family members
43:10
because you are with them and they are with you.
43:12
And if that part feels that acknowledges that, let me know
43:19
about nodding your head. That's it.
43:23
To give them one last hug and tell them you'll be back.
43:29
And then imagine finding yourself there in that dreamlike
43:34
sleep, in that safe, loving family home, awakening from a
43:42
dreamlike sleep within your imagination.
43:47
And then imagine floating from that place all the way back to
43:50
the here and the now. So take a deep breath in through
43:52
your nose and out through your nose.
43:57
Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
43:59
Start to connect and calibrate into the here and the now.
44:03
Feeling a healed relationship with such a precious part within
44:08
you starting to count to awaken you. 123 waking up 456 more
44:19
alert. 7-8 open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
44:26
Wide awake. Wide awake.
44:47
Thank you for listening to The Hypnotist with Adam Cox, the
44:51
show that gives you inside access to cutting edge hypnosis
44:54
with real clients facing genuine issues.
44:58
To automatically receive the latest episodes, please
45:01
subscribe. If you'd like to support the
45:04
show, please share this episode with just one friend you think
45:07
it could help. And if this episode helped you,
45:10
please leave us a five star review.