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The Deeper Truth Behind Why Women Feel Stuck · A Life Without Struggle

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  Speaker 1: My name is Erin Lindauer, and you're listening to A
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  Speaker 1: Life Without Struggle. I'm a wife, a mother of two
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  Speaker 1: wonderful children, a two-time best-selling author, and a highly driven
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  Speaker 1: and successful entrepreneur. In my 17 plus year career as
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  Speaker 1: a mindset and health expert, I know what holds women
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  Speaker 1: back from a life you only dream about. Whether you're
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  Speaker 1: a CEO, a businesswoman or executive, I started this podcast
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  Speaker 1: because I have been where you are and I know
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  Speaker 1: you want and deserve more out of your life. I
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  Speaker 1: believe women are limitless. We just get lost along the way.
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  Speaker 1: The process to get you there is the topic and
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  Speaker 1: purpose of this podcast. When you understand what you want,
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  Speaker 1: you can truly step into a life without struggle. Welcome,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm so thankful you're here. Welcome back to another
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  Speaker 1: episode of Life Without Struggle. My name is Erin Lindauer,
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  Speaker 1: and this podcast is titled The Deeper Truth Behind Why
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  Speaker 1: Women Feel Stuck. So it's not really about the weight,
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  Speaker 1: although that's what most women tell me. So I want
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  Speaker 1: to dive deeper into what are women really struggling with?
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  Speaker 1: Because what I have found, and this may kind of
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  Speaker 1: check a few of you listening to this, but I
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  Speaker 1: want you to understand there's a purpose behind why I
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  Speaker 1: deliver these messages, is you've lost trust in your body.
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  Speaker 1: I've seen this time and time again that women come
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  Speaker 1: to me and they're like, I don't know what works.
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  Speaker 1: I've been an athlete all my life. I've taken care
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  Speaker 1: of myself all my life. Or you just say, listen,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I looked up one day and I had
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  Speaker 1: all this weight on my body. And so we lose
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  Speaker 1: trust because we feel foreign and we're afraid that our
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  Speaker 1: best years are behind us. And what I hear over
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  Speaker 1: and over again, and personally, I've said this too, is
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  Speaker 1: you just want to feel like yourself again. So I
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  Speaker 1: want you to understand that I get you because I
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  Speaker 1: am you. I have experienced this stuff as well in
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  Speaker 1: this perimenopausal space of life. And I want you to
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  Speaker 1: understand that this isn't about just restricting your nutrition and poof,
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  Speaker 1: everything just magically comes together. But I want you to
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  Speaker 1: see that there's a path forward. So it's not about
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  Speaker 1: the 15 pounds. So Women come to me and they'll say, Erin,
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  Speaker 1: I just want to lose this belly fat. I know
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  Speaker 1: there's usually something much deeper behind these words because it's
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  Speaker 1: not always about the belly fat. It's about looking in
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  Speaker 1: the mirror and you don't recognize yourself. It's about working
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  Speaker 1: out five days a week, eating what you think is healthy,
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  Speaker 1: and you wonder why you're not seeing any changes. It's
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  Speaker 1: about missing out the woman you used to be. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of us have had life. Okay. Most women
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  Speaker 1: that I encounter, you've gone to school, you got the job,
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  Speaker 1: you got married, you had a couple of kids. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: And we get into this very, like, which end is
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  Speaker 1: up kind of feeling. So I have countless conversations with
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  Speaker 1: women who sound different on the surface, but they share
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  Speaker 1: similar frustrations. They're not lazy. They're not unwilling to do work.
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  Speaker 1: Just many of them are already working hard, but it's
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  Speaker 1: the wrong strategy, okay? And it's not working with her hormones.
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  Speaker 1: And so many women say, man, you get me. Well,
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  Speaker 1: I get you because I am you. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: work my tail off and I love it. I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: have it any other way. I impact women on a
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  Speaker 1: pretty deep level. I have two kids, I have a husband,
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  Speaker 1: I have aging parents, okay? But there's no shortage of
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  Speaker 1: being pulled 50 directions, yet here we are working out,
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  Speaker 1: we're eating well, and why are we not seeing the
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  Speaker 1: scale go down, let alone it's going up? So there's
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  Speaker 1: another space that I catch women. They're saying, I'm doing
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  Speaker 1: everything right, but nothing is working, right? So what you
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  Speaker 1: tell me is, I'm working out five, six days a week.
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  Speaker 1: I eat healthy. I don't understand why I'm not seeing results.
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  Speaker 1: If I had a dollar for every time I've heard
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  Speaker 1: this statement, this is what y'all say, and even myself, okay? So...
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  Speaker 1: you what you're saying is you used to know what
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  Speaker 1: worked with your body. And now you feel like you've
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  Speaker 1: lost control. And you don't know who to trust. You're
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  Speaker 1: looking on the internet. And once you hit one person's thing,
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  Speaker 1: then your floodgates and your algorithm completely gets skewed. You've
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  Speaker 1: got some 2030 something influencers or hell, even have some
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  Speaker 1: 50 plus year old influencers who have no degree in
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  Speaker 1: this industry, and I just will be bullish. You cannot
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  Speaker 1: replace the four years of education that I have had,
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  Speaker 1: the six years that my husband has had, his thesis, okay?
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  Speaker 1: You cannot replace all my internship. You cannot replace physics
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  Speaker 1: from 6 to 9 p.m. on a Wednesday night, and
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  Speaker 1: I thought I was going to fail. No. You cannot
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  Speaker 1: replace the amount of education, let alone I have over
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  Speaker 1: 20 years of experience in understanding what works with the body.
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  Speaker 1: And then here, even myself, I've had weight go on
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  Speaker 1: my body and didn't understand because I was doing all
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  Speaker 1: the things and it forced me into additional schooling. So
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  Speaker 1: I want you to understand that I understand your discipline.
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  Speaker 1: I understand you're strong. But the reflection in the mirror
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  Speaker 1: is not matching what you're doing and you're pissed. This
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  Speaker 1: is where I understand women, but you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: accept this. So many women tell me, well, Erin, is
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  Speaker 1: this just how my body is now? And I'm like, no.
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  Speaker 1: And here's the thing I want to call out. is
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  Speaker 1: even if you're 55, 65 years old, and you've been
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  Speaker 1: dealing with this for the better part of 20 plus years,
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  Speaker 1: it is not too late. It is not too late
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  Speaker 1: to get your body in really, really good shape. It's
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  Speaker 1: just gonna take the right strategy. So some things that
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  Speaker 1: I want to really encourage you to work through is
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  Speaker 1: it isn't so much about gaining this weight. It's about
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  Speaker 1: feeling like you've lost the ability to understand your own
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  Speaker 1: body and Even myself, I couldn't believe how dismissive this
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  Speaker 1: time and space because, okay, here's me, and I know
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  Speaker 1: this hits home for a lot of women, is I
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  Speaker 1: would go to my doctor because I didn't feel well.
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  Speaker 1: I was super lethargic, very fatigued, brain fog, now full disclosure,
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  Speaker 1: I had two very young kids, ran a business, and
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  Speaker 1: had a fair amount of stress in that particular point
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  Speaker 1: of my life. But for the first time I had
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  Speaker 1: weight on my body, but I was doing all the things.
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  Speaker 1: I went to my medical providers because surely something was wrong.
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  Speaker 1: And I can't tell you how many women, you know,
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  Speaker 1: agree with this is, you know, you order the labs
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  Speaker 1: and you pray for just a little something to be
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  Speaker 1: off to help explain. Everything was normal. Everything was fine.
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  Speaker 1: My thyroid was a little sluggish, whatever. That wasn't the
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  Speaker 1: reason why my weight. Okay. So I understand how your nutrition,
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  Speaker 1: your recovery, your stress, your sleep, your training, and all
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  Speaker 1: your individual health factors all matter. And this is why
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  Speaker 1: we do such a personalized approach because this isn't just
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  Speaker 1: about some random workouts. This isn't about some meal plan
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  Speaker 1: that's just gonna magically do this. Oh, and PS, this
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  Speaker 1: is not about a supplement that's gonna change your life.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be real. So there's another deeper truth
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  Speaker 1: that women feel is, I just want to lose my belly.
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  Speaker 1: So what you tell me is, I hate how my
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  Speaker 1: stomach looks when I wear my shirts. Nothing feels comfortable.
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  Speaker 1: I don't feel comfortable in my clothes. I just want
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  Speaker 1: this belly gone. And what you're really saying is, you
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  Speaker 1: don't feel like yourself anymore. You feel so misaligned and
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  Speaker 1: so uncomfortable, and you just feel unattractive in your own skin.
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  Speaker 1: So this is where this gets really personal. And so
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  Speaker 1: many women avoid wearing certain clothes. I know I did.
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  Speaker 1: We don't want to get in the photo. We don't
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  Speaker 1: want to get dressed in the morning because it's like, well,
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  Speaker 1: what the hell fits? We don't want our husband to
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  Speaker 1: see us naked because we I want to make it
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  Speaker 1: clear that wanting to change your body doesn't make you
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  Speaker 1: vain or shallow or whatever words we use. And it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't mean you have to hate your body to want
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  Speaker 1: to feel better. Okay. Sometimes when women say they want
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  Speaker 1: their old body back, what you're really saying is I
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  Speaker 1: want my confidence back. I want my energy back. I
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  Speaker 1: want to recognize myself again. So it's not that we're
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  Speaker 1: chasing this young version of yourself. It's I want to
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  Speaker 1: feel strong, healthy, confident in this body that I have today.
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  Speaker 1: Another thing that I hear women tell me all the
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  Speaker 1: time is, Erin, I have tried everything. And you have, right?
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  Speaker 1: You've done the keto, you've done Whole30, you tracked your macros, supplements,
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  Speaker 1: different workouts, and just nothing works, nothing sticks. So when
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  Speaker 1: you tell me you've done everything, this is what you really,
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  Speaker 1: really mean when you're talking to me and you're considering
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  Speaker 1: my program. Erin, I'm scared to get my hopes up again.
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  Speaker 1: I'm scared to put in All this effort and to
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  Speaker 1: be disappointed one more time, let alone the financial pressure
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  Speaker 1: of it, the exhaustion, the emotional exhaustion of repeatedly starting over.
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  Speaker 1: And again, it's not that you're lacking any motivation. You
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  Speaker 1: lack the confidence that this next attempt will be any different.
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  Speaker 1: And I feel you. But this is where I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: tell you, you're not afraid of doing the work. You're
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  Speaker 1: afraid of doing all the work and ending up right
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  Speaker 1: back where you started. So I wanna give you permission
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  Speaker 1: to stop searching for the most extreme solution and start
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  Speaker 1: looking for one that fits your needs, that fits your preferences,
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  Speaker 1: that fits your lifestyle. But I'm also gonna encourage you
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  Speaker 1: You gotta go all in, okay? You can't put one
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  Speaker 1: toe in, one toe out. You can't be all over
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  Speaker 1: the pumpkin spice latte and not realize like, yo girl,
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  Speaker 1: that's 350 calories or more, okay? Another one that I
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  Speaker 1: hear often is, I don't have time to focus on myself.
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  Speaker 1: So what you're saying to me is, my life is crazy,
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  Speaker 1: I've got kids, I got a husband, I got a job,
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  Speaker 1: everything else, all the household stuff falls on me, And
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  Speaker 1: I just can't make myself a priority. What you mean
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  Speaker 1: is I don't know how to take care of myself
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  Speaker 1: without feeling like I'm letting everyone else down around me.
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  Speaker 1: This is something that I see women do over and
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  Speaker 1: over again. And I'm going to tell you that this
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  Speaker 1: is an excuse. And I'm going to say that very
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  Speaker 1: lovingly because I feel you. We've got a lot on
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  Speaker 1: our plate. but I'm going to show you how you
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  Speaker 1: can still take care of you and not let anyone
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  Speaker 1: else down. Okay, you still are going to eat. Why
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  Speaker 1: not nourish your body? Why not understand what works with
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  Speaker 1: your body? Why not understand what foods support a fat
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  Speaker 1: loss phase? So I spend hours upon hours talking to
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  Speaker 1: women who have spent years making sure everyone else is good,
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  Speaker 1: but yet they don't take the time for themselves. But
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  Speaker 1: what they don't realize is your life is never going
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  Speaker 1: to slow down. And we actually can fit this in
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  Speaker 1: because you're already doing the things. They just need more direction.
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  Speaker 1: So this is where we really understand busy schedules, family meals.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, we're still in this phase of life and
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure everyone We're just going to get busier with
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  Speaker 1: kids getting into things and as they're getting a little
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  Speaker 1: bit older and you're going to have unpredictable days. You're
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  Speaker 1: going to have days where you're carrying a little bit
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  Speaker 1: more of a mental load. I feel this on a
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  Speaker 1: daily basis. You know, I didn't want to call my
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  Speaker 1: father back the other day because I knew it was
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  Speaker 1: one more thing with my mom and her health and
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  Speaker 1: it weighs on me. I also hear women say, I
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  Speaker 1: just want to be healthy. You want more energy. You
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  Speaker 1: want to be healthy for your kids. That's a very
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  Speaker 1: common one I hear. I don't want to keep feeling
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  Speaker 1: this way. That's common that I hear. And what you
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  Speaker 1: may really mean is I'm worried about what my future
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  Speaker 1: looks like if I don't change. You're thinking about these
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  Speaker 1: kiddos that you're absolutely putting, I would say, before yourself,
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  Speaker 1: but then you're worried about what the future is going
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  Speaker 1: to look like. I'm here to tell you that what
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  Speaker 1: you do in your 40s, 50s, and 60s will hands
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  Speaker 1: down shape your 70s, 80s, 90s, and beyond. We have
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  Speaker 1: technology and science to live to 150 plus years. Now,
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  Speaker 1: the reason we're not seeing people live that far is
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  Speaker 1: because they're not taking care of themselves. They're super inflamed,
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  Speaker 1: eating all kinds of garbage, justifying it, but that's the
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  Speaker 1: world we live in. So you're worried about what your
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  Speaker 1: future looks like if you don't change. And so let's
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  Speaker 1: not wait for the serious health problem because sometimes that
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  Speaker 1: wakes people up, but sometimes it doesn't. And here's another
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  Speaker 1: thing to call out is women always say, oh, I've
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  Speaker 1: got a vacation coming up. So there's my motivation. Or
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  Speaker 1: I just want to wear a certain clothing size. And
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  Speaker 1: I get having some sort of motivators like that. But
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  Speaker 1: you got to do this because this is just who
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  Speaker 1: you want to be. That you want to see a
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  Speaker 1: certain woman in the mirror. And you're trying to protect
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  Speaker 1: a life that that you want to live a good 10, 20,
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  Speaker 1: 30 plus years from now. When you think about being
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  Speaker 1: the grandma, you know, in the rocking chair, I'm just kidding.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know why I think of rocking chair and grandma,
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  Speaker 1: but like when you see yourself as a grandmother, do
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  Speaker 1: you want to be the one that can get up
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  Speaker 1: and down, can hold the babes, can do all the
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  Speaker 1: things with them that can maybe take the load off
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  Speaker 1: of your kid, meaning your adult kids? I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: would think so. I think for most of us, we
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  Speaker 1: want to see ourselves being super able-bodied. And I'm sure
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  Speaker 1: all of us know a family member, loved one, that
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  Speaker 1: maybe didn't take care of themselves. And as a consequence,
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  Speaker 1: the later years of life were really tough and tough
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  Speaker 1: on everybody around them. So we want to talk about
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  Speaker 1: building sustainable habits that support long-term health. But listen, let's
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  Speaker 1: just be real. Nobody gets excited when I say sustainable habits, okay?
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  Speaker 1: Even I cringe when I say that. But this is
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  Speaker 1: where I catch so many women is you're just trying
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  Speaker 1: so many damn things. I mean, even a GOP, which
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  Speaker 1: I have mad respect for a GOP and support a
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  Speaker 1: lot of women on a GOP But if you're not
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  Speaker 1: doing it with the right strategy, you will absolutely put
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  Speaker 1: the weight back on and you will be in a
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  Speaker 1: worse metabolic shape because you didn't protect your muscle and
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  Speaker 1: you didn't put more muscle on. So you don't need
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  Speaker 1: to fight your body. You need to understand physiologically what
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  Speaker 1: works with your body now. This is why I created
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  Speaker 1: my Infinite Women Hormone Optimization Method This is designed to
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  Speaker 1: look beyond the number on the scale. We do very
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  Speaker 1: personalized when it comes to your nutrition. We do appropriate
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  Speaker 1: strength training, help you with recovery, lifestyle, your habits. And then, yes,
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  Speaker 1: we're going to hold you accountable. Now, I can't hold
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  Speaker 1: your hand. I can't make you do the things. But
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  Speaker 1: I can give you that voice of hope. of, hey girl,
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  Speaker 1: try doing this a little bit differently. Hey, just because
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  Speaker 1: you get stressed and binge the ice cream, hey, what
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  Speaker 1: if we did something just a little bit different? What
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  Speaker 1: if we just planned those calories? What if you didn't
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  Speaker 1: have to feel the stress the way you feel it?
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  Speaker 1: And also we connect you with a medical wellness provider
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  Speaker 1: when and if appropriate. So I don't believe women over
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  Speaker 1: 40 need another person telling them to eat less, exercise more.
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  Speaker 1: I believe you need someone who will actually listen to
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  Speaker 1: what you're experiencing. Look at the bigger picture, help you
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  Speaker 1: build a personalized strategy that makes sense with your body
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  Speaker 1: in this phase of life, because you deserve more than
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  Speaker 1: just a temporary result. You know, my biggest thing is
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  Speaker 1: number one, getting your foundation firm. Number two, get you
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  Speaker 1: in a fat loss recomposition phase. Number three is the
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  Speaker 1: most important part of my program, and I get really
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  Speaker 1: frustrated when a woman leaves my program and she's not
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  Speaker 1: quite there. She thinks she's there, but she's not quite there.
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  Speaker 1: And consequently, six months, a year goes by, and she's
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  Speaker 1: back in my DMs. That actually just happened, and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, dang it, I knew? I knew we weren't
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  Speaker 1: there because I see things that you don't. I see language.
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  Speaker 1: I see patterns. And I understand what it takes to
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  Speaker 1: have true change, to truly change that, hey, this is
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  Speaker 1: how I view the holidays. This is how I view food.
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  Speaker 1: And a lot of women, they think they can just
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  Speaker 1: grit through this and that's never, never going to serve you.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you really want back? So here's what
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  Speaker 1: I want you to think about today. When you say
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  Speaker 1: you want to lose 15 pounds or whatever the number is,
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  Speaker 1: what would losing 15 pounds actually mean to you? Would
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  Speaker 1: it mean feeling confident when you get dressed? Would it
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  Speaker 1: mean having energy to get through your day? Would it
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  Speaker 1: mean finally feeling comfortable in your body? Or would it
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  Speaker 1: mean that you're in control, in control of your health?
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  Speaker 1: Because all these answers matter. And I want you to
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  Speaker 1: know that you don't have to keep repeating the same cycle,
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  Speaker 1: hoping that this time something is magically different. So my
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  Speaker 1: recommendation is you're thinking you need to change your body,
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  Speaker 1: but what you're really looking for is to feel confident,
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  Speaker 1: to feel capable, to feel healthy, to feel like love
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  Speaker 1: the woman you see in the mirror. And I want
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  Speaker 1: you to know that that is 100% possible.