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The Feel Leadership Immersion: Leading with Empowerment, Wholeness, and Unapologetic Confidence · The FEEL Podcast: Women’s Empowerment, Emotional Wellness and Self-Leadership with Melissa Crook

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  Hello, Melissa Crook here. Welcome to the field podcast.
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  Today we're going to talk about what it can look like to lead
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  from a feel standpoint, from a finding empowerment, embracing
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  layers standpoint. And I call this the feel
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  leadership immersion. This is something you can work
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  with me one-on-one on. But today I'm going to give you
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  some tips that'll get you start thinking in this way and it
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  might give you all you need to get going or you might decide,
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  yeah, I do need to work with Melissa a little bit more.
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  All that information is in our show notes and the links to
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  embracinglayers.com and the contact form there, as well as
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  on our website, on our resources page.
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  But let's talk about feel leadership immersion today and,
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  and what does that mean? So this is really for visionary
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  women leaders, creatives, entrepreneurs.
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  And you want to lead movements, you want to lead businesses,
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  your families, your communities with wholeness, not burnout.
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  You want to be present, you want to feel resourced and refreshed
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  in your leadership. And, and, and what this really
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  delivers when you're able to do this is First off, you've taken
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  a deep dive into feel, finding empowerment, embracing layers as
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  a lifestyle first, which then allows you to move it into a
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  leadership operating system. So this means really believing
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  and adopting that. How do I prioritize myself?
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  Care what? How do I live out and deliver
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  and decide what my healthy boundaries are?
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  Do I understand to connect with all the connections between our
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  mental, emotional, physical, spiritual health?
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  Do I have activities and practices in place that honor
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  these areas of my life? Do I understand what it means to
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  live unapologetically for myself and as well as showing up to
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  support other women in doing so? Am IA chronic apologizer or do I
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  understand that I don't need to lead every sentence with I'm
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  sorry that when I'm walking in a room and asking for your time,
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  I'm saying hey, excuse me, I'd love to have a minute of your
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  time to discuss this in and and not going in with saying I'm so
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  sorry. Can I bother you for a moment?
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  That is not how we want to deliver it.
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  We want that first delivery. Do I lift myself?
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  Look clearly that way? Do I do?
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  Is that that really something I'm operating out of?
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  Do I understand what my why and my values are?
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  Have I asked myself those critical questions of the
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  activities that nourish me and how I want to feel the next six
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  months and who I am as a person and how I describe myself to
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  help inform what I care about, what my values are, what my why
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  is? Is my life and my work in
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  alignment with that? Am I actively living out of my
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  own expectations and what I wish for my life versus others?
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  Am I communicating those things clearly?
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  Am I embracing my layers, all those pieces and parts that make
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  up who I am? That some I might love, some I
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  might not love, but I am I able to be curious rather than
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  judgmental about those things. And then do I, through doing
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  this, through practicing this framework, am I able to really
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  see how this has impacted my relationship with myself as well
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  as how it impacts my relationship with other people?
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  So the first part in this field leadership immersion is really
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  learning and embracing how to live out this field framework
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  yourself. So you're like, I really like
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  that, but I need some help with the first before I can really
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  start applying this to my leadership.
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  Let's get together and talk about that.
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  We can get you on the right trajectory so that you can lead
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  from this place. But if you feel like, no, I've
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  done this work, Melissa, I have. And I have been practicing these
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  principles, whether it's through my framework or other people
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  you've listened and learned from, these are things that I
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  feel like are really fully entrenched, OK?
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  Are you taking that to work with you?
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  Are you applying that in your leadership?
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  Are you allowing these to also guide how you direct people, how
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  you train people, how you encourage your employees, how
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  you bring them alongside you in the journey?
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  And this, you know, also, it just really helps you clarify
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  your personal Wyan values as your North Star, which then
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  guide how you show up again in the spaces and honor your
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  employees Wyan values and their North Star.
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  You care about them more than just as employees.
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  You care about them as people and you're helping them and
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  supporting them in living out feel.
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  This really helps you align your health and your relationships
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  and work with how you want to feel over the next six months.
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  So all of these things are coming together.
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  You're not compartmentalizing. Well, I live out feel here, but
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  I'm not taking it to work with you.
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  Well, then you're not really fully living out feel.
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  If you're compartmentalizing it, that makes sense.
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  And then, but this immersion really helps you develop a
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  personalized road map to live and lead from identity, not
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  activity. You're you.
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  And then that encourages when your employees see you living
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  that way, they know it's safe for them to live that way.
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  They know it's safe for them to fill their cops and communicate
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  clearly because you're communicating clearly with them.
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  And when you're when everyone comes to work feeling supported
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  and seen and known and heard and resourced, then everyone's
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  productivity increases. I talked talked about before, if
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  you follow me at all, we are actually much more effective and
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  productive when we are able to come into our workspaces fully
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  filled cups, rested, appreciated, honored with
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  healthy boundaries and clear expectations.
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  We'll get a lot more done in a less amount of time than if
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  we're feeling confused, burnout, unsupported, fearful.
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  So these things really all do coincide together and help you
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  align all these things. This helps you also develop a
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  personalized road map to live and lead from identity, not
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  activity. Like I said earlier, I think I
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  just said that. Sorry about that.
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  It also helps you learn how to model and extend this support to
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  other women around you. Again, it's what I already said
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  about if they see you living it, they feel safe and honored and
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  heard known to live it as well. So what this gives you when
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  you're able to live out, feel personally and then bring it
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  into your workplace and lead from this feel perspective.
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  You step into unapologetic leadership knowing you deserve
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  to be seen, known, and heard in every room you walk into.
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  And then you're also giving your employees that sense.
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  When you're in meetings together, there's no
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  interrupting. Everyone's allowed to be heard.
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  Everyone's supported in that, with clear ideas and
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  perspectives shared. And you're not worried about
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  whether you're the only one that's making the decisions or
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  not. You're open to hearing others
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  and then clearly talk about what works and doesn't work, about
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  the different ideas. But there's this definite sense
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  that not only you know you, you're not threatened by other
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  ideas because you know in a confident in your ability to be
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  seen, known and heard. So invite that in when you're in
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  rooms with your employees, with other people, with other
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  leaders. So again, it allows you to step
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  into unapologetic leadership where your success is defined by
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  authenticity, freedom and impact, not external other
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  people's other businesses, other corporations expectations, but
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  your own that you've developed out of your very solid core
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  field framework lifeline, the way you're where you're doing
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  your life. This will help you emerge with a
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  new standard for living and leading that's grounded in power
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  and ease and stability because your identity isn't coming from
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  your how much power you have or success you have on the
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  spreadsheet. Although if you live in a
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  healthy way and, and come fully resource, that's going to
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  happen. That's going to come.
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  But you're, you're grounded in who you are.
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  You trust your instincts, you trust your value.
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  And so you're not waiting for other people's affirmations to
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  confirm whether you're value aren't you already know that and
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  you're living out of that and operating out of that and the
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  fruits of your labor come out of that.
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  So that is what a field leadership immersion looks like
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  feels like if this I hope this was a good reminder to you today
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  that this this way that we live it, it bleeds into all the parts
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  of our lives. So it's really important like,
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  you know, what if I am living this way, of course I want to
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  invite other people into living this way too.
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  But if I invite them into this, but I'm not providing a road map
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  or direction or leadership or opportunity for them to step
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  into that, then am I really leading from that space?
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  So hopefully this this perks up some ideas in you for your to do
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  this week. I want you to take a look at
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  this framework and really see, OK, this is how I'm doing it in
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  my personal life. How can, how am I doing this in
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  my, in my work life? Am I leading this way in the
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  same way? Or do I feel like I am, but I'm
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  not seeing that from my employees?
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  What is it that I can do to encourage them?
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  Is there something that's happening in our meetings, our
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  workspaces, my communication style that's holding me back or
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  holding them back in somewhere? There's some areas that need to
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  be, you know, if I have some really clear, great
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  communication styles at home, but I don't carry those over
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  into my workplace where I'm clearly delivering boundaries to
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  my family and expectations to my family.
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  What I expect of them, they expect of me.
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  But I'm not doing that in the workplace.
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  Why am I not doing that in the workplace?
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  So just like see where the crossover is or if you're like,
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  Melissa, I'm not even doing this in my own life, let alone in my
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  leadership life. Well, let's start there.
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  Let's get together, go to that contact form.
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  Let's talk about how we get this going for you.
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  Or if you're having like, I feel like I've got it, my personal
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  life down, but I don't know how to, I don't know how to transfer
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  this into the workplace. Again, let's get together, let's
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  talk about it. Go to
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  thatcontactform@embracinglayers.com. Check out the leadership
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  immersion information on our website.
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  But hopefully this gives you some ideas or maybe just some
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  reminders of, of leading unapologetically with
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  compassion, with grace, with empathy and with confidence.
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  I call it a humble confidence where you know you deserve to be
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  seen, known and heard, and you also are ready to learn and be
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  curious from the people around you in this space as well.
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  So it's a really, it's a humble confidence, a humbly confident
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  leader who appears, sure appears really foundational in who they
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  are and what their values are and also does so from a place
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  of, of really support in an unapologetic living and
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  invitation for others to be seen, known and heard.
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  So I hope this again feels supportive to you.
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  Remember, you are worthy, you are valuable, and you get to
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  choose. Take good care of yourself.
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  Check out this information on our website at
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  embracinglayers.com. But take good care of yourself
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  and we'll see you next time here on the Field podcast.