EP 689: How to Become Securely Attached: Belief Work

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice · Sep 28, 2026 · 44m

What if the reason you keep repeating the same relationship patterns has nothing to do with willpower, and everything to do with the map your brain is still using?

You know your attachment style. You can name your triggers in real time. And somehow you're still ending up in the same place with a different person. Here's what I wish someone had told me in my twenties: awareness is necessary, but awareness alone won't make you secure. Underneath every pattern is a system of beliefs your brain built to keep you safe, and in this new three-part series on what actually changes your attachment…