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Bring it On - Hypnosis to Defy Anxiety for Good · The Hypnotist

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Hi, it's Adam here, and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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session that is designed to defy anxiety because there is a
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paradox with anxiety. And the paradox is that
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something makes you feel anxious or the idea makes you feel
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anxious, so you avoid or overthink whatever that thing
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is. And the avoidance increases
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sensitivity and the overthinking increases anxiety.
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So then you get more experiences of either avoiding or feeling
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anxious, not because of the thing itself, but because of the
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other overthinking connected to the thing.
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So how do you break that pattern?
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Well, there is a psychological phenomenon called the law of
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reverse effect that actually you do the very opposite.
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So instead of trying to avoid anxiety, you just say, bring it
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on. I'm ready for it.
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And and that energy paradoxically reduces the very
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probability of the anxiety. And a lot of anxious people
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would say, but I can't just say bring it on.
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I can't just do it in a defiant way because I'll get anxious.
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But actually it's doing it in that way that reduces the
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probability of, of anxiety. For example, you might remember
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when you were a school child, there would be certain people
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that would love the idea of acting or performing in front of
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other people. They couldn't wait to do it.
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They wanted the big audience and other people that were very
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self-conscious and those that really went into it and they
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weren't bothered what people think and they just thought, no,
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I want to perform. They ended up being good and
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those people, very self-conscious, ended up on the
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stage being a little bit nervous.
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Maybe they heard someone laugh and then that increased the
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anxiety. So it creates these diverging
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pathways, but both are self fulfilling prophecies.
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So I want you to think of, and this client, by the way, it was
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public speaking in front of other people.
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So it's defying the anxiety. It's doing the thing in a very
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kind of ambitious, courageous, brave way.
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I want you to think of what is your anxiety?
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What we're just doing it and not doing it tentatively.
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You're not doing it cautiously, but doing it brazenly.
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What would that be like for you? And hold that thought as you
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listen to this. And then you'll get more from
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this session. And if you like the idea of
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working with me, I'd encourage you to do one of two things.
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I have a suggestibility test in the description, but I also have
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a, a webinar where I explained the whole process of working
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with me. So if either of those things are
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of interest, check them out in the show notes.
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The descripcion of this episode. For now though, find a quite
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comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in.
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Not relaxation, but a feisty stubbornness.
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That feeling that you're done avoiding, you're done running
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away, you're done over preparing and exhale.
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Just any of those things that have a presupposition that you
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can't handle. Something excuses memories.
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Just allow them to leave your body in your outward breath.
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And I wonder if you can recall the time when you felt defiant,
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a time when you felt backing down was not an option, a time
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when part of you wanted to be tested, wanted to be challenged,
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breathing in and breathing out. And just imagine, imagine
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perhaps the pride of lions. Perhaps you could imagine the
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leader of that pride being tested.
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And instead of being worried by being tested by a younger lion,
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the lion seems to smile, projecting the ethos of you dare
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to challenge me. And if that essence, that
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essence of bring it on can exist in an animal, it can exist
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within you. So let's go back to that memory,
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a time when you were undeterred and you know for a fact that
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other people would have been intimidated, nervous, avoidant
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in that very same situation. But there was something
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different about you. You were the same person, just
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with a different part in control.
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That part that wanted to be tested, wanted there to be some
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risk. And if you can recall a memory
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like that to begin with, just observe that version with you
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with that quality, and let me know by nodding your head when
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you can go back to that memory as an observer.
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That's it. There would have been clues, of
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course. Facial expression if you were
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talking, the tonality of your words, subtle mannerisms that
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strong, undeterred, defiant, resilient.
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And maybe that version of you didn't want something to happen.
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But the fact that it was a possibility did not deter you.
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In fact, it activated something powerful and strong within you.
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And I want you to imagine seeing a colour glowing under the feet
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of that version of you. And then imagine not just like a
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spotlight there under your feet, but imagine it going upwards
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like a three-dimensional cylinder, like a beam.
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See that defiant, undeterred, confident version of you bathing
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in that cylinder of light? Imagine what colour that
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cylinder of light would be. See that version of you refusing
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to back down and notice at some level that quality in you meant
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the thing you didn't want to happen was less likely to
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happen. And the opposite is also true.
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There is an anxiety paradox where the anxiety increases the
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probability of the very thing the anxious person doesn't want
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to happen. Just imagine someone terrified
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of Wasps having a picnic. Everyone's enjoying themself.
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A wasp comes along, and that one individual terrified of being
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stung by a wasp can't help but focus on the wasp.
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It's just invisible to everyone else there at the picnic.
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But that person terrified of what if they get stung, is then
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standing up waving their hands. And the irony years that
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panicked individual is the most probable to be stung, even
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though they wanted the least. Or perhaps you could imagine in
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the same park or garden, someone terrified of dogs.
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For most people, they're fine around dogs, but the individual
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scared that what if they get bitten, will see a dog off its
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lead and fixate on the dog. And the dog becomes curious.
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Why is that human holding all of that eye contact?
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So they get closer and that human has that anxious reaction,
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which makes the dog more curious, which may mean that
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human starts to run and the dog starts to chase.
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And if you're unconscious, you can see the pattern of where
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anxiety increases the probability of the very outcome
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the individual is looking to avoid.
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Let me know by nodding your head.
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And that could happen in public speaking.
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Someone's worried about feeling anxious, a spike of anxiety.
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They prepare too much, think too much.
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They're on edge, vigilant, cautious, the very state that
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increases the probability of having that very spike of
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anxiety they want to avoid. Whereas someone that is
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indifferent doesn't need to over prepare or overthink too much,
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also doesn't want the spike of anxiety.
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It just thinks if it happens they'll deal with it and then it
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becomes more elusive. I want you to think of that time
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when you felt undeterred, defiant.
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See you there standing in that beam of light.
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And imagine seeing that version of you in a different context,
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right before a presentation, right before a huddle, right
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before an important meeting. But see yourself with exactly
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the same mannerisms, exactly the same facial expression.
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If you're talking, exactly the same tonality.
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See that version of you undeterred, defiant.
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With that bring it on attitude oozing from every pore and that
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version of you is not fazed at the possibility of an anxiety
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spike. That version of you could not
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care less. Almost once wants to be tested,
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knowing that nothing would deter them.
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And in doing so, the very anxiety becomes more elusive.
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And I want you to see that version of you doing the kind of
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things that a different version of you would have some
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trepidation in the past. But if that undeterred, defiant
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version of you seems to be unfazed, unbothered, highly
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capable in exactly the circumstances, let me know by
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nodding your head. That's it.
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Rewind it. Step into that version of you.
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But let's go back to the original memory.
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You feeling defiant, undeterred. Remember where you were.
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Remember how you were talking. Remember your inner dialogue.
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You weren't naive, you were aware there was a risk.
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It's just the risk did not deter you.
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That's the very essence of being undeterred.
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It's not that there's no challenge, it's that the
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challenge doesn't stop you. I want you to imagine re
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experiencing whatever you experienced back then, when you
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felt defiant, undeterred. You were aware of the
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possibility of something challenging, a risk perhaps.
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It did not stop you. You weren't anxious, you weren't
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worried. You were resourceful, resilient.
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You felt defiant and undeterred and just scan your body for
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where you feel that sensation within you and just point to
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that location, that feeling of being resolute, defiant,
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undeterred. That's it.
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Imagine a shape there. Make the shape 3 dimensional,
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give it a color, notice how it moves.
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Increase the size of the shape, the brightness of the shape.
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Feel. Feel that feeling of being
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defiant and undeterred there. And then imagine taking that
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feeling into the very next presentation, the very next
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huddle, the very next meeting. Keep the same in a dialogue, the
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same posture, the same breathing.
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People can read that expression on you, embody that, feel that
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shape there in that location, vibrating, emitting that color
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in that intensity. And just imagine saying to
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yourself with a smile, an act of challenge.
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Bring it on. I'm ready.
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The paradox being your act of defiance.
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Feeling undeterred shrinks the very probability it reduces it.
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It says I don't fear you anymore.
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Most anxiety is the fear, the fear of the physiological
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consequences of fear, a self fulfilling prophecy.
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And when you call the bluff, even if something that was real
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in the past. But what if it was real in the
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past? Not because the threat was
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credible, but because you thought the threat was credible.
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Just imagine doing that thing in that defiant, confident,
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undeterred way. A sense that nothing will stop
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you and nothing will have you going back to that cautious,
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anxious, on edge version of you. In psychology, they call it the
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law of dominant effect. A dominant emotion displaces A
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weaker emotion by activating that confident, defiant,
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undeterred version of you. There simply isn't space for
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that anxious version of you to be present.
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Imagine a big boss with only one driver's seat.
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If the doors open and that confident, defiant, undeterred
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version of you grabs the steering wheel first, there is
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no space for that anxious version of you to be in control.
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And I want you to imagine three months of that undeterred,
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confident version of you being in the driver's seat.
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And just imagine going to that future and being told there is
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an unexpected presentation, a big meeting.
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And just imagine, the moment you hear about it, it automatically
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activates that confident, undeterred version of you and
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think, how would you feel? Three months of not a single
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spike, because the version of you that would contribute to the
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spike has had no influence If you're unconscious at that point
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would come to the conclusion that this fear is now in your
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past, not a concern anymore. Let me know by nodding your head
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and imagine six months, and then 12 months and then two years.
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Imagine what you could be doing if any fear or anxiety felt like
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a distant memory that you can recall that there was genuine
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times when you felt that way, you just hadn't felt it for so
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long, kind of didn't feel like it was you anymore.
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What would be possible for that version of you?
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What opportunities would you say yes to?
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What difference would it make as it ripples through your
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business? What additional doors may open?
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Some people believe that everything you desire is on the
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other side of fear. But I want you to think of just
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one thing you desire on the other side.
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Make it appealing, genuinely desirable, beneficial in some
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way. You don't need a million
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reasons, just one. And that defiant, confident,
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undeterred version of you is the very part of you that will
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influence and secure that outcome.
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Remember that shape, that colored area in your chest.
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Give it a sound and be aware of your inner dialogue when you're
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in that state, and just say 3 words in a particular tonality
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of defiance. Bring it on.
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Keep saying it until it feels true, real, authentic, and when
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you've got those 3 words in that tonality and whenever you want
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to feel this way, think of that shape there in that location, in
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that color color, and just say those words repeated until they
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match this tonality. And then you know you have
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activated the very part within you that is not bothered, not
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daunted, not scared, and in doing so eliminates the very
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concern that's been concerning you.
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You are harnessing the self fulfilling prophecy for you
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rather than against you. And you are just a few
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presentations away from having irrefutable evidence that how
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you feel right now was true all along.
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It's time to return to the present, taking this state, this
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feeling with you. Looking forward to that next
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presentation, wanting to say yes to a talk meeting, initiating
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the very things you've been avoiding.
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So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose and wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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Starting to count 123 Waking up 456.
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More alert 7-8 Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910.
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Wide awake, Wide awake. Wide awake.
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