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The VIP Upgrade: Self-Worth, Boundaries & Sustainable Success · The FEEL Podcast: Women’s Empowerment, Emotional Wellness and Self-Leadership with Melissa Crook

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  Hello, Melissa Crook here at the Field Podcast.
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  Welcome to another one-on-one empowerment time with me here
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  today. Today we're going to talk about
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  the VIP. Are you treating yourself like
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  you're AVIP? We tend to treat a lot of other
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  people like they're the VIPs, but are you treating yourself
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  that way? Because if you think about it,
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  if you're treating yourself like a VIP, you're going to show up
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  in all your spaces, your workspaces, your home spaces,
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  spaces, your faith spaces, or you as AVIP.
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  But in order to show up as AVIP, we've got to make sure we're
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  treating ourselves like AVIP. So I really want to focus in on
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  that and our time together today.
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  It's something that really helps me.
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  And these are really 3 pillars that guide me.
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  If you follow me on social media, you've probably heard me
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  talk about this or see me post this, but these really help me
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  shift from over performing to fully living.
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  And that's a key component of living.
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  Like AVIP Identity overproductivity is number one.
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  You're more than your To Do List feel, finding empowerment,
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  embracing layers. And this framework that I'm so
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  passionate about that I've created for you out of my own
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  journey reconnects you to your layered, multifaceted self #2
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  liberation through boundaries. Boundaries aren't walls, They're
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  bridges to deeper relationships and sustainable success.
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  And boundaries go in a variety of places.
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  They don't just happen between people.
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  They happen in the time you give to your sleep.
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  They happen in the time you give to your daily care, your
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  workout, your meditation time, your walk, your 10 minutes of
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  quiet. You're listening to your
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  favorite music on the way to work, your favorite podcast, or
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  just again, the silence, whatever it is, you put these
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  things in place. You create time within your
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  calendar each day to make sure you're taking care of yourself
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  in these ways. And that's, that's, that's what
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  boundaries are. They're for you.
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  They're not about others. They're for you, about you.
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  And these really are bridges to deeper relationships and
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  sustainable success because your time is aligned with you.
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  What refreshes you, what emboldens you, what empowers you
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  and allows you to show up as that VIP in all your spaces and
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  relationships. So that's where that deeper
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  relationships and sustainable success part really comes in.
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  And then embodied wholeness, emotional, mental, physical,
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  spiritual, sexual health aren't separate.
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  They're all connected. They feel each other and feel
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  teaches you to honor all of them, not just one of them, but
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  all of them. And so these three pillars
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  really guide me and they really inform and empower and give me a
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  place to check back into to make sure that I'm living out feel
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  that I'm looking at the framework in the places I need
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  to, to make sure I'm honoring myself, that I'm treating myself
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  like the VIP that I am. Because we also, but by doing
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  that, teach other people how to treat us.
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  And it becomes very clear if we see ourselves as valuable,
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  they're going to honor that. And it it's so many times it's
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  subconscious. It's just an observation of you.
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  If you are not the person that is constantly being taken
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  advantage of and you're not allowing that in your space,
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  they're not going to ask that of you.
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  So it's really a key component to that as well and treating
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  ourselves like the VIP, we are making space and then we're also
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  resource and we want to help make space for others too.
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  We want to invite them other women into this with us.
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  We, when we lead our organizations, our corporations,
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  we are leading as AVIP because we've treated ourselves like
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  AVIP and we're encouraging our employees and those we work with
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  to do that. As we can say all the things we
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  want to say in the world, the people remember what they saw
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  from us. And if what we're saying and
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  what we're doing isn't an alignment, they're going to
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  remember what we did, not the words that were speaking if
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  they're not in conjunction with each other.
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  And this, this goes for our kids, this goes for our
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  partners, this goes for our best friends, our sisters, our
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  parents, our Co workers, those we're leading again, all the
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  spaces and places we show up in. If this is something you feel
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  like you need more support in, don't you worry, I got resources
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  for you. But maybe this was just the
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  simple reminder you needed the through this principles that I
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  talked about earlier. These are LinkedIn, our show
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  notes today, those 3 pillars that guide me so you can get
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  access to it there. You can also, if you need a
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  little more work on this, you need a little more guidance, We
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  got an online course. It's the VIP upgrade.
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  It's everything that Ioffer in the essentials plus you get an
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  hour with me to ask me questions to and that hour can be divided
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  up into 15 minute segments throughout the online courses
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  you're going through it or it can be the full 60 minutes at
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  one time, whatever it is. And I really invite you to
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  invite other women into this as well.
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  This is a great if you are leading an organization of any
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  kind, this is a great thing to do together as an organization
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  because you can support each other and hold each other
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  accountable and you've got it forever.
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  Like if you want to share it again in a year, you want to
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  kick off every new year revisiting this, you've got it.
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  You get it one time and you've got it for life and it's so I
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  that's the way I really, really encourage it and what I love so
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  much about that. But if you need even more, you
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  need some one-on-one time with me.
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  Let's do that. But maybe this episode was what
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  you needed. So I'm hoping that this really
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  invites you and reminds you to live like the VIP that you are
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  and remember that that allows you to show up as a VIP in all
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  your spaces and places. Take good care of yourselves.
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  Thanks so much for being with me on Field Podcast today.
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  You are worthy, you are valuable, and you get to choose.
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  We'll see you next time.