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304. Why We Chose 12 Months… Not 30 Days 📈🙌💻 · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to the She Rises podcast. I'm Ashi. And I'm Tiana.
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  Speaker 2: This podcast is about female empowerment and encouraging you to
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  Speaker 2: be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic version of yourself.
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  Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to laugh, cry, and talk about the topics
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  Speaker 1: everyone else is too afraid to talk about.
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  Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level self.
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  Speaker 1: Hello, everybody. Welcome back to She Rises. Thank you for
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  Speaker 1: joining us wherever you are in the world, morning, midday, afternoon.
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  Speaker 1: We appreciate you being here. We are your hosts, Tiana
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  Speaker 1: and Ashley. And today, we're going to be talking about
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  Speaker 1: why we chose 12 months, not 12 weeks or 28
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  Speaker 1: days on your self-development journeys. We're going to more depth.
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  Speaker 1: Before we do, we've got our shares of the week.
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  Speaker 1: Do you want me to go first?
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. So recently, I went for a little stake, eh?
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  Speaker 1: It's called Inverstanley and it's a farm stay. It's about
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  Speaker 1: two hours from the Gold Coast, like literally a two
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  Speaker 1: hour drive from my house. It was so beautiful, so peaceful,
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  Speaker 1: 4,000 acres, pool, tennis court, huge backyard, big house, homely, spacious,
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  Speaker 1: fresh air. It was just so beautiful. It was like
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  Speaker 1: a really nice nervous system reset. Actually a wedding location.
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  Speaker 1: So if you're looking for a really different wedding location,
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  Speaker 1: I would highly recommend checking this out too because it's
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  Speaker 1: You've got the land and then it's got this big
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  Speaker 1: lake and there's mountains in the background. So pretty. So
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  Speaker 1: you've got water, greenery and mountains. Like the photos would
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  Speaker 1: just be incredible and just so much space. So yeah, Inverstanley.
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  Speaker 1: I did a little reels on my Instagram so you
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  Speaker 1: guys can go and check it out. But it was
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  Speaker 1: just absolutely beautiful. I highly recommend. I love farmstays, just
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  Speaker 1: being out in nature.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, connecting back to nature after being in the city
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  Speaker 2: or Too much on technology is the best thing for
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  Speaker 2: your nervous system.
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  Speaker 1: We took our neighbors and their kids as well, and
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  Speaker 1: they've got three kids, and we just played touch footy
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  Speaker 1: and cricket and tennis and tag and just running around
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  Speaker 1: and being active with them. We had no screen time
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  Speaker 1: apart from when we watched the football, actually. Footy family.
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  Speaker 1: But other than that, there was no screen time at all.
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  Speaker 1: It was so beautiful.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, so nice.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, you come back feeling so refreshed after going to
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  Speaker 2: something like that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Love that. My share of the week is actually a book.
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  Speaker 2: It's actually called The New Psycho-Cybernetics. So the way that
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  Speaker 2: you spell that in case you want to write it
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  Speaker 2: down is P-S-Y-C-H-O-C-Y-B-E-R-N-E-T-I-C-S.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry about that.
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  Speaker 2: That is a mouthful. But I wanted to share this
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  Speaker 2: book with you because this book has been really helpful
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  Speaker 2: for me in terms of like shifting. It's very much
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  Speaker 2: like shifting identities. And I think this is a really
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  Speaker 2: powerful book. like a manifestation technique kind of thing, but
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  Speaker 2: it also mixes with like science and like epigenetics and like,
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  Speaker 2: it can be scientific, but it's also storytelling. And it
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  Speaker 2: also really is just a really cool way through this
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  Speaker 2: man's life. He talks about how he went through a
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  Speaker 2: huge journey of having absolutely nothing and then coming into,
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  Speaker 2: you know, a lot of success in his writing career.
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  Speaker 2: And then eventually, you know, ending up in like a
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  Speaker 2: presidential suite and like just the contrast between his life
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  Speaker 2: prior versus his life after and how he, through doing
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  Speaker 2: internal identity work, transformed his life. And he talks about
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  Speaker 2: it in the book and gives you strategies on how
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  Speaker 2: you can do that for yourself. And I remember reading
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  Speaker 2: it for the first time, walking on the beach on
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  Speaker 2: the Gold Coast and just being like, oh my God.
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  Speaker 2: I remember having these like perspective shifts one after the
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  Speaker 2: other and being like, I can apply this to my life.
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  Speaker 2: And wow, I see how this is relevant for me.
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  Speaker 2: And it helped me elevate my own identity.
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  Speaker 1: That's cool.
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  Speaker 2: And I think if you're into that kind of work,
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  Speaker 2: you will love this book because I've read it like
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  Speaker 2: two times now. I'm going to go for a third
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  Speaker 2: time soon and just reread it because I really do
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  Speaker 2: believe that you can always find new nuggets every time
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  Speaker 2: that you read something.
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  Speaker 1: And you audiobook that, hey? Absolutely. Yeah. I forget about audiobooks.
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  Speaker 1: Because when I hear you say read, I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I just struggle to get into reading a physical book.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But I do like the experience of turning pages.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But audio is so good.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I retain more when I read a
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  Speaker 2: physical book.
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  Speaker 1: Same.
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  Speaker 2: Because I think when I read audio books, if I'm
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  Speaker 2: not paying attention, I can do other things at the
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  Speaker 2: same time.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: And then it kind of just goes over my head. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: So I try to really listen while I'm mostly walking. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So you can be fully present. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Or if I'm cleaning, then I find I'm okay.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: That's cool. I need to listen to that. Love that.
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  Speaker 2: Back on my book train this year.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, so good. So good. I have not been.
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  Speaker 2: No, I haven't been, which is why I'm starting. I
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  Speaker 2: missed it.
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  Speaker 1: Never too late to start. Absolutely. So good. All right.
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  Speaker 1: So today we want to talk about our 12-month transformational
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  Speaker 1: vault called Rise and Sight. This is a project that
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  Speaker 1: we've been working on for quite some time and we
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  Speaker 1: always talk about it. Even our PA, when she was editing,
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  Speaker 1: I think month 10 or 11, It's like masculine and
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  Speaker 1: feminine energy. And she was just saying like, that has
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  Speaker 1: been my favorite month, even editing this, like I've learned
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  Speaker 1: so much. She was just praising us on the value
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  Speaker 1: that these women get inside this transformational vault. And I
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  Speaker 1: just don't feel like there's many programs around like this,
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  Speaker 1: where you can go your own pace and you get
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  Speaker 1: to learn about so many different topics and It's not
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  Speaker 1: just us. We get the guest speakers on, there's the
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  Speaker 1: live chats, the community board, like there's so much involved
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  Speaker 1: in this membership at such an affordable price. But we
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  Speaker 1: wanted to explain why we chose to span out over
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  Speaker 1: 12 months rather than like jam pack it into 12 weeks.
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  Speaker 1: So we're going to go over each of the months
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  Speaker 1: and why we chose those particular topics and why they're
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  Speaker 1: important to us. And also the order that we put
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  Speaker 1: them in was very strategic and planned. to help you
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  Speaker 1: alongside your journey. Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm going to read out to you the order
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  Speaker 2: of the 12 months and then we'll explain to you
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  Speaker 2: what Ashley just said around the structure and why we
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  Speaker 2: did it that way. So it starts off nervous system, mindset,
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  Speaker 2: inner child, the confidence journey, thriving relationships, the health reset,
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  Speaker 2: boundaries and honest conversations, trigger me, teach me, the gift
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  Speaker 2: of the shadow, healthy masculine and feminine energy, the pleasure path,
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  Speaker 2: passion and purpose and finding your fire. So this is,
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  Speaker 2: as you can see, it is a full-blown journey for
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  Speaker 2: 12 months.
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  Speaker 1: It's a whole year.
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  Speaker 2: And naturally, we wanted to start with nervous system because
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure you've seen it enough on social media that
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  Speaker 2: everyone bangs on about nervous system. But there's a reason
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  Speaker 2: for that.
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  Speaker 1: It's so important.
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  Speaker 2: It's so important because good luck doing anything, achieving anything,
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  Speaker 2: being a parent, being a partner. without understanding how to
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  Speaker 2: actually be the person who soothes you first.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly. To be able to hold any kind of expansion,
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  Speaker 1: you need to be able to learn to regulate yourself.
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  Speaker 2: And something that we've noticed on social media is that
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  Speaker 2: nervous system work can sometimes be confusing or overwhelming. And
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  Speaker 2: we break it down so simple that it's easy to
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  Speaker 2: digest and something that you can implement immediately.
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  Speaker 1: The first thing we do is even explain what your
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  Speaker 1: nervous system is. I think people will throw it around,
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  Speaker 1: but they don't actually understand what your nervous system is.
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  Speaker 1: So we explain it and break it down We give
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  Speaker 1: different analogies. We give actual tools and a roadmap on
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  Speaker 1: how you can start to regulate your own nervous system.
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  Speaker 1: And this is stuff I wish was taught in schools.
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  Speaker 1: I know when I say that online, I get a
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  Speaker 1: bit of pushback from teachers being like, we are trying
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  Speaker 1: to teach it, but it's the parent's responsibility for sure.
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  Speaker 1: But I think there should be a whole class topic
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  Speaker 1: once a week where they're practicing the different tools. They're
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  Speaker 1: showing them different ways because how you regulate compared to
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  Speaker 1: how I regulate compared to how my kids regulate to Steve,
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  Speaker 1: everyone's going to have different ways that helps to soothe them.
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  Speaker 1: And when you become a parent too- How do you
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  Speaker 1: regulate your children's nervous system if you're dysregulated?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That is the biggest part of parenting is being able
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  Speaker 1: to co-regulate with them. But good luck if you can't
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  Speaker 1: regulate yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: They're not going to feel safe to express how they feel.
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  Speaker 1: So then they suppress and they grow up being anxious,
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  Speaker 1: not being able to express. And we see so many
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  Speaker 1: adults that their relationships get ruined because they don't know
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  Speaker 1: how to regulate. They don't know how to hold someone else.
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  Speaker 1: And you can only meet someone as far as you've
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  Speaker 1: met yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: So it is the absolute foundation that we were like,
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  Speaker 1: of course, this has to be month one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And all of our girls that come through Accelerator, that
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  Speaker 1: come to our retreats, this is the month we all
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  Speaker 1: refer them to because there's so much value in there.
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  Speaker 1: And there's not only our teachings, but also my old coach,
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  Speaker 1: Taylor Cecil, comes in and explains it more from a
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  Speaker 1: scientific background. And the way he explains it is completely
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  Speaker 1: different again, but it's all intertwined and it's just beautiful
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  Speaker 1: to learn about. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And it doesn't matter how much work you've done. I
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  Speaker 2: think it's really important, as we spoke about in a
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  Speaker 2: previous episode, to always be a beginner in everything that
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  Speaker 2: you do.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And sometimes life takes over. And because life takes over,
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  Speaker 2: we forget to go back to the basics. And I
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  Speaker 2: feel like a nervous system is a basic, but it's
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  Speaker 2: the most important one. And if you're not constantly revisiting that,
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  Speaker 2: it's really easy to let life take over and life
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  Speaker 2: will come over and consume you and you'll get sucked
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  Speaker 2: into the everyday moments of triggers and fights with your
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  Speaker 2: partner or being triggered by your children.
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  Speaker 1: That's right.
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  Speaker 2: There are so many things in life that will you know,
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  Speaker 2: show you and highlight you all of your triggers until
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  Speaker 2: you choose to face it.
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  Speaker 1: So true.
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  Speaker 2: That's why we started with this as number one. And,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it's really important as well on this journey.
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  Speaker 2: There's so much information out there, so much information, but
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  Speaker 2: sometimes that can become overwhelming.
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  Speaker 1: Where the fuck do I start?
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  Speaker 2: That's right. Where do I start? And like, what do
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  Speaker 2: I even work on first? And that was the biggest
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  Speaker 2: question that we were getting asked in our DMs at
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  Speaker 2: She Rises of like, I want to go on this
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  Speaker 2: journey and I want to work on myself. I want
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  Speaker 2: to be a better mother, partner, friend, person, version of myself.
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  Speaker 2: So where do I even begin? And that's exactly why
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  Speaker 2: we created this pathway. And the cool thing about what
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  Speaker 2: we've done here is that we're not just going to
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  Speaker 2: give you 12 months worth of content upfront so that
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  Speaker 2: you can binge, consume, and be done in three weeks.
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  Speaker 1: You're not integrating it then?
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  Speaker 2: No, absolutely not. There is a difference between learning and absorbing.
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  Speaker 2: And knowledge is not power. Applied knowledge is power. And
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  Speaker 2: I will repeat that till the cows come home. And
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  Speaker 2: we will repeat that till the cows come home. Because
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  Speaker 2: if you are not implementing, nothing has changed. Someone once
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  Speaker 2: said to me, if you read a book and you
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  Speaker 2: don't implement what you learned in it, there was no
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  Speaker 2: point in you reading the book. Same thing goes for
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  Speaker 2: the courses. Same thing goes for the masterclasses. Same thing
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  Speaker 2: goes for all of the spaces that you invest into.
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  Speaker 2: If you are going into these spaces and you are
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  Speaker 2: not applying what you are learning, there is no point
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  Speaker 2: in you being in there. So this is where you
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  Speaker 2: get to just give yourself permission, one, that we're going
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  Speaker 2: to show you the pathway forward. If you come join
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  Speaker 2: us here in She Rises. And also that when you
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  Speaker 2: apply yourself in every area that you go in, you
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  Speaker 2: will always come out having learned something more about yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Creating change in your life too. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So cool. So nervous system, number one. Number two is mindset.
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  Speaker 1: mastery mindset is so important how you perceive things the
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  Speaker 1: meaning you put on them there's so much conditioning and
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  Speaker 1: old stories that we have from growing up from our
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  Speaker 1: child or from our parents from teachers and And your
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  Speaker 1: mindset is really going to either limit you or progress
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  Speaker 1: you forward. And we can change that at any point
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  Speaker 1: in time. So this is a really important topic because
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  Speaker 1: we believe to go into the rest of the months,
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  Speaker 1: if you don't have not just like a positive mindset,
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  Speaker 1: but a strong mindset, it's really hard to absorb and
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  Speaker 1: integrate all the future things that we're going to be
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  Speaker 1: teaching you. Very true.
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  Speaker 2: Mindset is huge, hey? I think it either determines whether
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  Speaker 2: you have like an optimistic outlook or like a pessimistic outlook. Well,
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  Speaker 2: we were talking about this before of like glass half
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  Speaker 2: full or empty.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And mindset is such a big one because you kind
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  Speaker 2: of absorb the mindset of the people who lead you.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: So like your parents, your guardians, even your siblings, like
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  Speaker 2: everyone around you who influences you, they all have input
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  Speaker 2: on like what your mindset ends up being. What's the quote?
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  Speaker 2: Somebody once said, your mind is a terrible master and
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  Speaker 2: a beautiful servant. And it means like if you let
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  Speaker 2: your mind lead you, like you will end up like
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  Speaker 2: all over the shop. But if you teach it to
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  Speaker 2: do what you want it to do, it will be
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  Speaker 2: an amazing servant. Because you are the person who controls
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  Speaker 2: your mind, not the other way around. Yeah. I heard
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  Speaker 2: that quote and I was like, wow, that's so powerful.
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  Speaker 2: Because sometimes, at least in my life, I felt in
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  Speaker 2: the moments where I've been like, oh, like I feel
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  Speaker 2: such a victim to this situation or I feel in
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  Speaker 2: a really negative headspace and I don't know how to
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  Speaker 2: get out. But the moment that I remember that I'm
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  Speaker 2: the one who's in control, it's like I can actually
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  Speaker 2: change my outcome.
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  Speaker 1: That's beautiful. It's really powerful. I haven't heard that one before.
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  Speaker 2: It's really cool. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I love that one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Up next, we go into inner child. This is a
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  Speaker 1: really big month. And I think once again, this gets
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  Speaker 1: thrown around on the internet quite a lot, but I
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  Speaker 1: don't think you can really know the value of doing
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  Speaker 1: this work until you dive deep into it. Because I
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  Speaker 1: think when I first heard about this, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not a child. I didn't understand. I'm like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't need to connect with her. I'm an adult now.
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  Speaker 1: This is who I am. I don't need to go
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  Speaker 1: back in my past and relive and go through all
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  Speaker 1: of that. But Your inner child is a part of
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  Speaker 1: you that's always going to be there. It exists in you.
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  Speaker 1: It's a part of you. He or she is not
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  Speaker 1: going anywhere. And you'll notice the inner child come out
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  Speaker 1: in you, in your behaviors, in your patterns, in the
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  Speaker 1: way you react, the way you have your little tantrums
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  Speaker 1: or your bratty moments. It's like where in your younger
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  Speaker 1: years of your life were you not attended to? Were
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  Speaker 1: you dismissed? Were you not acknowledged? Were you not heard?
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  Speaker 1: You'll notice that come out in your relationships. I still
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  Speaker 1: can see parts of myself that come out that I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's that little girl wanting to be seen. I'm raising
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  Speaker 1: my voice or I'm like, kicking my feet or I'm
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  Speaker 1: saying a certain thing to try to be heard. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: that is her screaming and like really wanting to be
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  Speaker 1: validated in this moment.
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  Speaker 2: She's like, pay attention to me.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely. And I'll literally say that to Steve sometimes. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, as much as I'm an adult version of myself,
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  Speaker 1: when I express this, there's still that little girl in
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  Speaker 1: me that's so desperately wanting to be seen by the
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  Speaker 1: man in her life. And I didn't get that with
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  Speaker 1: my father. So with you, I'm really craving that, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and I express that there's a little girl inside of
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  Speaker 1: me that so desperately wants to be seen. It can
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  Speaker 1: be very uncomfortable work. Oh, yeah. And you really do
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  Speaker 1: have to go back and I think the right coach
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  Speaker 1: will lead you and take you through the processes, but
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  Speaker 1: you do almost have to go back and relive some
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  Speaker 1: moments where you were dismissed or not heard or not
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  Speaker 1: seen and didn't get what you needed in those moments.
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  Speaker 1: That's the work of going back and giving it to yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And reparenting yourself and being able to self-soothe. It takes
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: it back to nervous system as well as being able
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: to soothe yourselves in those moments that you weren't given
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: to it by your parents or caregivers.
• 13:26
  Speaker 2: It's so right. It's so true. Yeah. You know, it's funny,
• 13:30
  Speaker 2: I think as adults it's really easy for us to
• 13:32
  Speaker 2: look at other people and hope that other people will
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: come to our rescue or solve things for us or
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: be the leader and like take away our problems. But
• 13:40
  Speaker 2: in the moments that are really the most painful, no
• 13:43
  Speaker 2: one can really do that for us. And like instead
• 13:46
  Speaker 2: of running or finding a distraction or procrastinate or, you know,
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: fall into substances or something that is like a clutch
• 13:54
  Speaker 2: so you don't have to look at it. Mm-hmm. It's
• 13:56
  Speaker 2: like instead of doing those things, you actually get to
• 13:58
  Speaker 2: lean on yourself. And that's why this work is so
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: empowering in this month, why it's a necessary step to
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: what we have on this pathway. Because when you can
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: be that for yourself, it's like you don't need to
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: rely on those things or those coping mechanisms so that
• 14:12
  Speaker 2: you can get through. It's like you learn how to
• 14:14
  Speaker 2: get through in a really productive way instead.
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: And it's cool as an adult when you're going through something,
• 14:19
  Speaker 1: it's like asking yourself, what do I need in this moment?
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: Or like, what would I have needed as a kid? Mm-hmm.
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: What do they need to hear? And when you become
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: a parent and you see what your kids are like
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: demanding or needing when you didn't get that when you
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: were a little girl, it's so cool to be super
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: hyper aware of that once you've done it in a
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: child work because then it's like, oh, I can see
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: what they need right now. And if I don't give
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: that to them, I can see how that could really
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: impact them growing up. Yeah.
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: It gives you more compassion.
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: It's so much more compassion.
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: Like for yourself and for the people that you love.
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: Especially having a daughter. I felt like that really highlighted
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: for me. Oh, really? When I see her upset, I'm like, oh,
• 14:49
  Speaker 1: that's how I would have felt. I'm not going to
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: dismiss her or put her in a naughty corner or
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: shove her in a room and close the door because
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: that's what I got. And as a little girl, that's terrifying.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: I'm going to sit with you in this mess. I'm
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: never going to run away from you when you're at
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: your messiest, loudest, most vulnerable moment where you're screaming and
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: upset to me about whatever it is, even if I
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: don't think it's a big deal. For her, in her world,
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: it is.
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: It is.
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: And damn straight, I'm going to sit with you and
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: make sure you know that I still love you in
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: this moment because I've got the complete opposite of that.
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: So it's really beautiful work to do. That's so powerful. Yeah. Yeah.
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: That's rewriting the story, isn't it?
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: It is.
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: Like making sure that you can show up in those
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: ways to recreate those wounds.
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: And if you can do this before becoming a parent,
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: so powerful. But even if you do it when you
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: become a parent, equally as powerful or both.
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: And I'm sure that there are things that you learn
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: when you become a parent that you wouldn't if you
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: didn't have children.
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: So much.
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: Because you don't have the opportunity to learn that.
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: So it's like then you get initiated into that.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Which is beautiful. So good.
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. The next one is the confidence journey. I
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: think this one is self-explanatory. The importance of believing in yourself.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: How much do we see it in like all of
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: our societal pressure and conditioning of like you need the
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: next beauty thing and this and that and you've got
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: to look a certain way and dress a certain way
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: and feel a certain way and like all of the things,
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: you know. I feel like there's a lot of pressure
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: on women to be a certain way. And I think
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: like without that level of confidence– To guide you through
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: all of the ups and downs, like it feels a
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: lot more chaotic. You feel a lot more insecure on
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: the journey. It's harder to hold things. It's harder to
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: have like a resilient kind of perspective and outlook on
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: why things end, why things didn't work out.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: Why you feel a certain way. And when we talk
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: about comparison and like when you have a strong sense
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: of self-worth and strong sense of confidence, Not to say
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: that you'll never compare yourself again, but it will just
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: make it easier when you do because you'll be able
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: to rationalize with yourself.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: Definitely. We hear a lot of women say, oh, I'll
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: do that when I'm more confident.
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: All the time.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: Whereas it's like, okay, I hear that mindset, but confidence
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: doesn't come natural. You get confident from doing the hard
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: things that you didn't think you could do or you
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: doubt yourself in. And so we dive a lot more
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: deeper into the psychology around that theory and how true
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: it actually is. Absolutely. It's so powerful, especially for women.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah. And it's so funny too. I almost feel like
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: it's an unspoken thing. It's like, well, if I'm seen
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: wanting to be confident, that means that I'm not confident.
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: But then it stops women from actually going on the
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: journey because then they're scared of being seen as someone
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: who doesn't already have it.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: I feel like I've been that woman. I've definitely done that.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: I've been like, oh, no, no, no.
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: I'm more confident than what I actually am and pretended
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: like I was. But what that did is like stop
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: me from being able to grow into my confidence. I see.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: Because I was pretending to be up here. Yeah. So
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: there was nowhere for me to grow into because I
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: was just already pretending to be that when really I
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: was just hiding parts of myself that I didn't think
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: were good enough. I think a lot of women are
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: currently doing that and going through that.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: It's just so liberating on the other side when you
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: can go through this confidence journey. And like run through
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: what we talk about inside Rise Inside in this month.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: And actually start to rediscover who you are as a
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: woman again.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: I think people think confidence is like what you look like.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: And yes, that's definitely a part of it. It's a
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: part of it. It's definitely an inside journey.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: Truly is an inside journey.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: Which we take you deeper into. So it's a really
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: cool month.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: We see it all the time. Like when people, you know,
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: say if somebody like we see change in them and like, wow,
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: you look so different. Wow, you look so good. Something's
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: different about you. Yeah. It's not usually because they change
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: something about themselves. No. Because they've internally changed. shifted and
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: they glow internally and i'm sure that maybe that you
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: know maybe a new bronzer or a new blush or
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: a new dress or whatever but it's like it's rarely.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: Those things yeah it's how they hold themselves you see
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: when women come out of a relationship or even men
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: out of a really toxic relationship and then they look
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: so different they just glow about them like you look
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: so much more confident it's like yeah because i don't
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: have someone weighing me down or telling me every day
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: that i'm not good enough or i'm too much you
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: see them like blossom and get that glow up but
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: it's like it's an internal.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: Glow it really is you know who did that recently
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: nicole kidman Oh, I don't really. Yeah, her and her husband.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: I don't follow it. I saw her pop up and
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: she just looked incredible. People are saying she's had a
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: huge glow up since leaving her husband, Keith Urban, I think.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: Oh, there you go. Yeah.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: And Nina Dobrev, I don't know if you know who
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: that is.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: No, I don't.
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: She's the main actress from The Vampire Diaries.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, I've never watched Vampire Diaries.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: Oh, it's so good. That's another recommendation.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: Vampire shows I just can't get into.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: Oh, I love it.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: I know. Everyone raves about it.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: I feel like you're also not, you don't love like
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: mystical side of things.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I don't like things that I'm like, that's not real.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: I'd rather watch something like a real crime. Yeah, a
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: real story that I can learn from and relate to.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: Whereas like I love mystical stuff like vampires and mythical
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: creatures and fairies and things. I get into it real deep.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Love that. Anyway, getting sidetracked. The next one is thriving relationships.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: This is, once again, self-explanatory, but I truly believe the
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: quality of relationships determine the quality of your life. If
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: you have solid, deep, connected, aligned relationships, you're going to
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: thrive in every area.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: On the opposite, if you have relationships that aren't serving you,
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: that don't feel connecting, that don't feel aligned, that drag
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: you down, that they don't believe in you, they secretly
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: fucking hate you, that aren't supporting you, That's going to
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: drain your energy, make you doubt yourself, question everything. It
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: is just so important. So in this topic, we don't
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: just talk about intimate relationship. We talk about friendships. We
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: talk about all the relationships in your life and how
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: important it is to consistently check in to make sure
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: that they are the right relationships for you. you're at
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: right now. I love this topic. It's a good one.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: Hey, it's such a cliche quote, but everyone talks about
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: you are the five people that you spend the most
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: time with. It's so true. But like the relationships, whether friendships, co-working, family, intimate,
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: no matter what one it is, like it's going to
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: impact you.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: It does.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: Impact you. Yeah. And yeah, I think it's really important
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: like what you said to audit all of those relationships
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: and just check in with like where you're at too.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: There's so much to learn about relationships. It's something we
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: love learning and talking about. So we've got a lot
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: to share. Like we don't shut up in those workshops. Yeah,
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: we don't.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: We don't.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: But it's good.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: I think if we get really honest with ourselves, like
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: it's something we really crave is thriving relationships. Yeah. You know,
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: I think a lot of people come into the world
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: and I guess I'm just speaking for myself here, but
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: like super lonely. Yeah. I think we come into the
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: world lonely. We leave the world on our own. You
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: know what I mean? But then in between everything, we
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: just like want to know that we can connect with
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: our people. And I think there is like a huge
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: epidemic of like lonely people at the moment and people
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: who are struggling to connect with other people in the
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: way that they want to actually connect with. And I
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: think it's a skill that you have to learn. I
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: don't think it's something that we're taught.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: No. I think social media has had a really big
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: impact on that as well. People think they're connected by
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: following people and watching people, but it's not the true
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: connection that you actually need. And it's a big core
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: reason of why we do what we do at She Rises.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: It started as a podcast, but very quickly we were like, no,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: we need more face-to-face. We need to bring women together.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: We need to create safety, heal the sisterhood wounds, show
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: how powerful it is to have women in your life
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: that truly support you and love you and see you
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: in all your mess and still love you unconditionally. Absolutely.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: No matter what's happened, no matter what mistakes you've made,
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: like our retreats, like it's just you can't explain it
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: until you're there. And you truly feel what it's like.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: I think we've seen this a lot in the women
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: who are moms as well.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: You know, again, I haven't been on this journey myself,
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: but I imagine, you know, you go through that season
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: of becoming a mother, your whole world changes. Yeah. And
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: then your identity shifts.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: So much.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: What you prioritize and what you care about changes. And
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: then you've got to find a new level of friendships.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: And things like that.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: Even if you're not a mom, women go through this anyway.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: It's a real challenge. So it's definitely, yeah, I like
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: that you mentioned that because it is something that's been
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: really important for us from the very beginning.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: And so special. So special. the health reset, had to
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: put this in. I wasn't sure where to put this in, actually.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: This is the one month I was like, oh, for me,
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: a healthy mind and a healthy body, and I'm sure
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: you agree, is such a strong foundation. So it was
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: hard to not have this right at the start, but
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: this just ended up being where it flowed in. But
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: this is all about health, fitness, wellness, a bit of mindset,
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: your habits, your routines, and just having a solid routine
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: and taking care of your body and taking care of
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: your mind and what you put into your body, supplements
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: you take, Like all of that is covered in this month.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: And just like little hacks and tips and tricks on
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: how to make a healthier lifestyle easier because I think
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: it's so overcomplicated these days. It really is. Let's bring
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: it back to basics and we break it down in
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: an easy way that throughout this month you're going to
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: be like, oh, I can fucking do this. I don't
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: have to do what all the bodybuilders are doing or what,
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: you know, all my favorite influencers are doing. Like I
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: literally can bring it back to basics. And our goal
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: for you throughout this month is to find what works
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: for you. We're going to guide you the whole time
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: and you're going to be able to go on this
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: cool journey together. in the month and beyond, but we
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: want to find what works for you that's sustainable, maintainable, long-term.
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: It's not like a short-term, quick, four-week quick fix where
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: we're going to solve all your problems and you're going
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: to lose all the weight and be in the best
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: shape of your life in four weeks. It's not about that.
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: It's about really understanding how to have a healthy lifestyle
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: and a healthy relationship with yourself and with food and
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: with your body so that you can actually enjoy how
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: you're living day to day.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: Beautifully said.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: Beautifully said.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: It really is such an important part. It's one thing
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: to do the mindset work, but it's another thing to
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: like implement how you treat your body and what you
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: actually do in the actions you choose when it comes
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: to your health, what you put in your mouth, how
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: you move your body and like how you take care
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: of yourself ultimately. It's such an important part of the journey.
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: And if we're really honest with ourselves, everything that we
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: put in our mouth impacts the way that we feel
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: in our physical body. So if you're thinking about, okay,
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: I want to get like really on top of my mindset,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: my regulation, like what are you putting into your body
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: that's impacting how that energy feels? So you're going and
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: eating KFC and no judgment to anybody does, but if
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: you're going and eating KFC and then you feel like
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: you need to nap for six hours, is that in
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: support of the mindset and the emotional regulation that you
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: want to have or not? This is where this comes
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: into play. It's such an important pillar of being able
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: to overall take care of who you are as a person.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: your energy and how you're showing up in the world.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: It is a foundation.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: So important.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: Something we will always preach. Yeah. And you notice how
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: everything else slips when your health slips. Yeah. And without
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: your health, I'm sorry, but you're dead. Yes. You cannot
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: survive without a healthy body. And if you are just
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: like just surviving and not thriving, that's something to look at. Yeah.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: Your body can only take so much. And if you
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: mistreat it for years and years, it's going to start
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: to break down and give you a lot of symptoms
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: and messages and potentially disease. Because it needs to be
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: taken care of.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: It does.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: It's so important. Yeah.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: It's non-negotiable.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: Non-negotiable.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: The next one is boundaries and honest conversations.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: This is a good one.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: This is a juicy one.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: Boundaries and healthy conversations or honest conversations is a part
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: that I think most people avoid. I know I have
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: in the past.
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: And not taught. Not taught.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: No. Because nobody, I mean, other than these next generations...
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: Before that, it wasn't normalized to talk.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: No.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: It wasn't normalized to go to therapy and it wasn't
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: normalized to work through your feelings and like be supportive
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: of the other person and holding space for them.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: It was sweep. Yeah. That's right. And ever again.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah. And everyone wonders why like that generation like have
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: a struggle.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: Their avoidance.
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: With relationships.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: They're all avoidance.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they really are.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: So true. But yeah, I think we all as women
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: especially have to learn how to be strong in our boundaries.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: But before being strong in them, learn how to actually
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: set them. And before we do that, we need to
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: learn what they actually are. And I think there's like
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: a three-step process almost to this of like what that
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: looks like and then being willing to be transparent of
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: what you actually want, what you feel, what comes up
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: for you and like being willing to invite the people
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: that you love into that.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Into your world. Boundaries, you speak about it so well too,
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: just about boundaries with your body too. Like who you
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: allow in, the whole Sydney Swans thing, allegations at the
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: moment where they're apparently the football players and obviously we
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: don't know we weren't there but what they're reporting on
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: is that the footballers invited dancers exotic dancers like strippers
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: back to the hotel and some of the footballers touched
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: them inappropriately and gosh it was just disgusting to see
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: some of the comments threads of just like oh you
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: know they're dancing half naked what do they expect I'm
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: like good on these girls for having boundaries been like
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: yes I'm dancing for you it doesn't give you any
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: right to enter my body or touch me in the
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: places I don't give approval for you to touch me.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: It just popped to my head then. I was like,
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: that is a boundary. I will dance for you because
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: obviously she likes to dance and it's great for whatever reasons.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: But that doesn't give you permission to just like slip
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: your fingers in. Absolutely not. Yeah, it's a great example.
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: It's a great example, isn't it? It's like not just
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: in that area of your life, but boundaries around whatever
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: you need boundaries around to actually be able to use
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: your voice. And I think it's so sad that so
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: many women really, we hear it all the time, whether
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: it's friends, family, or in our DMs, in our bestie submissions,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: like women struggle to have boundaries.
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: It's so sad, but it's a conversation that needs to
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: be had more. And that's why we did a whole
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: month on it because you need to learn how to
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: communicate effectively, how to have your boundaries and hold them,
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: how to be okay that it's not going to be
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: residual sometimes. And there's going to be pushback. It doesn't
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: mean you're doing anything wrong. It's the biggest part, isn't it?
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: And we dive very deep into that.
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: It's a huge month.
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: Next one is trigger me, teach me all about triggers.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: And I love our guest speaker that we got on
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: for this. He's just so good. We got Lewis on.
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: He's been on the podcast before. He's just an absolute
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: gun explaining all of this, but Yeah, we talk about
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: triggers and how we all get triggered. We all project them.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: It's a part of human nature. But how to manage
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: them a little bit better so it doesn't impact our
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: relationships in a really negative way. Yeah.
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: It's like bringing awareness to them and then giving you
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: the tools to be able to learn how to deal
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: with them in your everyday life. Yeah. I know we
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: mentioned this before, but every single month we have an
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: expert speaker who joins us in the trainings. Well, not
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: joins us, but also does their own training. Yeah. Very
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: specifically based on that month and that topic. Yes. We've
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: pulled like the best people from the best places who
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: are going to be able to be there to support
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: you as well through this journey. And I also love
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: the way that Lewis describes it as well. Like we
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: do our own teaching, but also love having a man's
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: perspective on this as well. I think to have the
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: both is really, really powerful.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: It is cool. And you can see how we left
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: this one later on in the year, but you can
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: see how nervous system regulation is going to play into
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: the trigger month. If you get triggered and you don't
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: know how to regulate yourself, Good luck having a healthy
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: conversation with the person that you're triggered with.
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: It's very true. Right?
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And it's still a work in progress. I'm not
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: sitting on my high horse. I still struggle with it.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: It's still a work in progress depending on who it
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: is or what it's about or how big the trigger is.
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: We all do. I still have to like catch myself
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: and be like, okay, I'm feeling very triggered right now.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: What am I going to do in this moment? And
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: the best thing you can do is go and regulate.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: Take some breaths. Like get out in nature or like
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: do whatever you need to do to be able to
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: come back and have a healthy conversation.
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's super important.
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah. It's a really big month.
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: It's another layer of personal development. Like it's not like
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: a manifestation kind of conversation. It's like, this is uncomfortable.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: This is going to trigger you. It's going to activate you,
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: but in the right ways to show you what you
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: need to see in yourself. Yes.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: Cool to have the awareness of when you get triggered.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: It's like, it's so easy to blame the other person,
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: whoever it is, but it's like, actually, there's a reason
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: I'm being triggered because part of me believes it's true.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: Or part of me hasn't worked through that or part
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: of me has avoided that for so many years. It's like, oh,
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: there's a trigger there. My body's activated for a reason.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: I just truly believe your body's always speaking to you.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: And if it's activated and causing a reaction, there's something
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: in there for you to look at. You can deny
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: it all you want and try and sweep it where
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: you want, but the longer you leave it, the more
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: it's going to show up. Damn straight. And it's going
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: to get bigger and bigger and bigger. And it's going
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: to get to a point where it explodes and you
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: can't avoid it anymore.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, then it will be a problem. Then it's a problem.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: We don't want to wait until it gets to a problem. No.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: So good. Then we've got the gift of the shadow.
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: So this is where we dive into shadow work, but
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: not your traditional shadow work teachings. So we dive into
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: what shadows are, how to understand what yours are, how
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: they're playing out in your life, all of that. But
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: then we also touch on the really powerful part of
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: having shadows to begin with, which is when you free
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: yourself from these aspects of yourself, you actually learn that
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: there is a beautiful gift on the other side of that.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: And what we do is teach you how you can
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: identify what your specific gift is and how that's actually
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: going to benefit you once you integrate these parts of yourself,
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: which I just think is a really beautiful way to
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: do shadow work because it stops you. If you've ever
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: heard the word shadow work and be like, oh my God,
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: that sounds so scary and dark.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it does.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: I'm so scared of that. What the fuck is that?
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: I don't want to look at that.
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: Then this will bring some ease to it. It just
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: like helps you see it. It's like productive. It's a
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: benefit to you to do shadow work, to see these
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: aspects of yourself that maybe you're not aware of. And
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: then to learn how to integrate them back into your
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: life so that you can come back into whole. Because
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: that's what shadow work is. It's like we are like
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: fragmented right now as souls. Mm-hmm. And then when we
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: come back as whole and we integrate these parts of ourselves,
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: we can be whole, therefore have a deeper understanding of
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: self-acceptance for who we truly are.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: I like the way you explain it. I'm going to
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: probably butcher it. I'm still learning about shadow work.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: No, bring it in.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: There are shadows in only the parts of ourselves that
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: we have suppressed and put away because we carry shame for.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: We're not acknowledging that they exist inside of.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: Us, right?
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. There's so many parts of ourselves. Yeah.
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: Fun confronting and all the things.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: Absolutely. It's a journey. Yeah. There's times where it pops
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: up for us and we're like, oh, we need to
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: do some shadow work on that.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: Yes. Cheeky. Yeah.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: It's cheeky. It's resurfaced again. No. And then the one
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: after that is healthy, masculine and feminine energy. We're talking
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: about this in the podcast, but once again, through Rise Inside,
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: we get to go really, really deep. There's two full
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: hours with us and we've got our guest speaker and
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: then we do the live chat. But This is just
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: a beautiful topic because I think in social media too,
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: it's like, oh, you're more masculine, you're more feminine, but
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: we believe you can have a healthy balance of both.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: And I think both serve us really well depending on
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: where we're at, whether we're in work mode, whether we're
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: in mom mode, whether we're in a relationship. And I
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: think both energies in males and females, when they can
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: do a dance together, it's so beautiful. I love our
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: masculine energy. We get shit done and we achieve so
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: much and we get to create a credible life that
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: we're really proud of. And I also love just being
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: so feminine and playful and soft and receive and also
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: expand my beautiful home. Like there's so many beautiful parts
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: of both energies. So we explore both of them and
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: neither is good or bad. No. Yeah.
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: And it interchanges based on what season that you're in.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Yes, true. That's a good point. Oh, yeah.
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: That's a fun conversation.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: There's lots we dive into.
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: You've got to be there to enjoy it. The next
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: one is going to be the pleasure path. So this
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: is really just about activating that once you balance your
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: masculine and feminine energies, this is going to happen naturally.
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: So naturally, this is the natural next step. Of really
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: connecting back with yourself, your body, your essence, your pleasure,
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: like your fun. And I just like it's this real
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: like oozy kind of fun, playful energy that brings like
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: a zest for life.
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: It does.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: That maybe you haven't had. And you'll know what I'm
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: talking about if you don't have this because you'll be like, oh,
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: I just feel like I'm so serious all the time
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: and life is hard and it's a slog and it
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: feels like Groundhog Day every day. When you're in that season,
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: you don't have a lot of pleasure in your life.
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: But when you do have it, you're going to be confident.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: You're going to be bold.
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: You're going to be assertive on your boundaries. You're going
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: to feel like you're glowing and you've got like a
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: pep in your step and you feel just sexy in
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: your body no matter what you look like. And it's
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: a very different way of doing life. And integrating that
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: is going to bring so much more fun and play
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: into your life.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: It's so much fun. I honestly describe it when you're
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: in your pleasure. And this doesn't just mean having an orgasm.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: It's like finding pleasure in the mundane tasks, in the
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: everyday moments, in your everyday life. Literally, you can find
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: pleasure in so many things. And when you are in
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: that energy... it is a life force energy. You literally
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: feel electric, magnetic, so lit up. And I'm not always
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: in that, but I tell you when I am, I
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: feel so alive. When I'm not in it, I feel
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: dead inside. There's such a contrast. So when you learn
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: about this, you get easy to pull yourself back into it.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: But if you're not aware, you can go a whole
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: year without pleasure and be like, oh, life's just hard
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: and shit. And it's not my season, dah, dah, dah,
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: you know?
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: Don't you reckon you can tell when a woman's in
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: it versus when she's not?
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: Absolutely. It's like chalk and cheese, hey? Yeah. From a
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: mile away. You can see it, feel it.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: Then there's passion and purpose, and this is finding your fire.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: So if you've ever, maybe even along the way, you
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: felt like you've kind of fallen off your path or
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: you feel disconnected from your purpose, this month is really
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: going to bring all of these months full circle for
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: you so that you can do the internal transformation and
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: then come out the other side from your elevated version
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: of yourself to finding your why and your passions again.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: And I think this is a really important part because
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: maybe right now you're making a decision of like what
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: your purpose is may come from a previous version of
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: you or a wounded version of you or a version
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: of you that is limited based on your past. And
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: we want to activate you entirely first before we can
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: take you on that journey. And I truly do believe
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: that life will be so different when you are connected
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: to something that is bigger than you and when you
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: can understand what your passion is and tie that into
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: your purpose, it's like that's the sweet spot of life
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: where you can make money doing what you love to
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: do and actually live a life that feels really fulfilling.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: Absolutely. Even if you don't tie them in, having passions
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: that are just pure passion, pure enjoyment, hobbies, like for me, dancing,
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to make a career out of it,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: but that's my passions. And then purpose, like you said,
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: something outside of yourself that makes impact, that serves the community,
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: that's something just like bigger.
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: Having that deep purpose that you just know you were
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: born here to do and If you can combine them, perfect.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: I agree. That's like the ultimate duo. Sweet spot. Sweet spot. Yeah.
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: But even if you don't combine them, it's okay to
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: have passion and purpose separately. But knowing what both of
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: those are and actually living them is so important. If
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: you don't have passion, like things that light you up. Yeah.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: That's not as fun. It's not as fun. It's not
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: as fun.
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: No. Because then you're just like, oh, I feel like
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: an adult. Yeah.
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: And then as an adult, when I get asked this,
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: it's like, oh, how do I find my passion? Like,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: what did you enjoy as a little girl? This is
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: how I rediscovered. I went back to dancing. Yeah. I
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: signed up for netball again. Then I got pregnant. Yeah.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: But like I started doing the sporty things that I
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: loved doing as a kid. So fun. Even when we
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: went for that staycay, played touch footy, played cricket, tennis,
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: like all the sports. I'm like, oh, I just felt
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: like a kid again. I got to play that with
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: my kids. It was just the best.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: That's so nice.
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: So I feel like that's a good way to find
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: your hobbies. And still, if you don't know, it's like
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: go try some things. Go try a pottery class or
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: painting or naked yoga, whatever you want to do. Find
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: your passions by like putting yourself out there and just
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: giving things a go. You won't know until you try.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. Yeah. Couldn't have said it better.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: So that. is why we chose 12 months. You can
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: see each of those months need time to not only learn,
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: bring awareness, but also integrate into. So every month is
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: locked until you complete all of it. You cannot move
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: onto it faster than what you'd like to. We have
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: some girls like, oh no, I smashed it in two days.
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: I'm like, cool. Now you've got three and a half
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: weeks to actually integrate it, practice it, talk about it,
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: ask questions, dive deeper, redo the meditations, the pep talk.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: That's another thing too, is you get four meditations per
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: month and four little pep talks as well. So It's jam-packed,
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: but I really believe you can go at your own pace.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: And once you're in, you can cancel any time, but
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: you also revisit. So some of the girls that have
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: gone through six months are like, oh, it's a heavier
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: season in life. I've actually gone back to the nervous
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: system again because those meditations is what is going to
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: get me through. So you can like revisit the months.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: Sometimes even a book, like you said, you're going to
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: read that book for the third time. You can hear
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: things so many times at different seasons of your life
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: and take on different pieces of information.
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. Because every time that you revisit something, you are
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: a different version of yourself. So the way that you're
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: interpreting what you're reading changes based on what you need
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: at that new level. Yeah. And that's what I love
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: about it. I've even got a client of mine who,
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: you know, is in Rise Inside and she's like, oh,
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: right now I'm just like really struggling with the mindset aspect.
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: I went in and I've gone and listened to the
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: Mindset Month and I'm starting from there.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: So cool.
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: But it's like she's revisiting it from a new version
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: of herself with a new challenge and a new problem
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: based on what's coming up for her in that present moment.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: So it's like just constantly being open to receiving what
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: it is that's there so that you can actually evolve
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: through that challenge.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: That's so cool.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: So awesome.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: So if you're listening and you're like, holy fuck, I
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: didn't know where to start and now I know where
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: to start, just DM us through at Rise Inside and
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: we can answer some questions and just take you along
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: that journey and send you the links. We'd love to
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: have you involved in the community. I think it's the
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: best place to start when it comes to working with us.
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: Like obviously you can go into it, do Accelerate and
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: come to the retreats and work with Tiana one-on-one. But
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: if you've never done any of this work before, or
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: maybe you did years ago and you've kind of stopped,
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  Speaker 1: this is the perfect place to start. I truly believe it. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's a powerful place. Do lots of fun things in there.
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  Speaker 1: We do. So I hope that helps answer all your
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  Speaker 1: questions that we have come through about Rise Inside. We're
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  Speaker 1: very proud of it and we just know it's going
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  Speaker 1: to changed a lot of people's lives and is changing
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people's lives. So it's really cool. I'd
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  Speaker 1: love to see you in there.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for listening and we'll see you on the
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  Speaker 2: next one.
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  Speaker 1: Bye.