Latest / Health Tech & Wellness Podcast / You Don’t Need to EARN Rest. (Why Burnout Is Destroying People)
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- John Adams: Okay. Welcome to another week of the Health Tech and Wellness Podcast. I'm Jon Adams. Crystal Nevedale: And I'm Crystal Nevadale. John Adams: And let me ask you guys something. When was the last time that you actually relaxed? And I mean relaxed without feeling guilty about it. Seriously, not sitting there thinking about work, not stressing over what you should be doing, not mentally building tomorrow's to-do list like we all love to do. I mean actually just letting yourself breathe because somewhere along the way people started to believe that you had to earn that rest. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. . John Adams: that you had to put in 120 % before you could sit down. And there's nothing wrong with that, okay? Slowing down is not lazy, but people believe that slowing down is lazy. They believe that the pace means that they're falling, that peace, you know, just relaxing. They believe that it feels like they're falling behind. That if you're not constantly pushing, that you're failing. And honestly, I think that that mindset right there is what's completely destroying people mentally and their work and their family and their relationship. Because some people today, they don't even know how to relax anymore. And in this episode, Crystal, I want to talk about giving yourself grace. Not excuses, not quitting, not lowering your standards, but grace. The kind that lets you live life and enjoy time with your family or enjoy time away. Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: or just that vacation that you need to go on, that kind that lets you just live life without constantly being at war with yourself. And Crystal, I think one of the saddest things today is how many people feel guilty the second that they slow down. You finally sit down after a long day, but instead of feeling peace, you feel pressure to get up and start moving. We all do it. I'm building this whole new thing with the Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. John Adams: you know, production side and coaching and everything, and I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off. If I take a break, I feel like, man, I could be doing this to get myself ahead for this. You've got to really take a break. You feel the pressure, the pressure to do more. Crystal Nevedale: Well, you're way more productive if you take that break. I really, we need those breaks. And I remember back when I worked in nursing and I quit smoking. John Adams: You absolutely. Crystal Nevedale: And that was like my only like go and get a break. Well, then I tried to find another way. Like I would just remove myself from the situation because for months and months and months, I realized I was never taking a break. I was eating at my desk. I was doing everything at my desk. So really taking time away is a learned, it's learned, you you have to give yourself that grace to allow yourself to walk away. Even when I'm on vacation and stuff like that, I know that people don't realize it. It's also work for me. So just because I'm on vacation doesn't mean that I'm not in a work mode and thinking about what I need to collect, what I'm going to make with it, what I need. So there are times that I'll send myself to the beach and I will have zero goals. It doesn't matter what I find, but I have to mentally tell myself that, it's just about breathing and enjoying the atmosphere. It's not about what can I find for X, Y, and Z. So I mean, even Myself, I'm away on vacation, which everybody thinks, you know, I'm just like sitting in a lawn chair somewhere. It is not quite like that. ⁓ I do take lawn chair moments, but. John Adams: But you need that lawn chair moment though, know, just like you just said, you know? Yeah, okay, maybe in the back of your head you're thinking, well, if I find something cool, but you do, you need to go there with the intention of, well, if I find something cool, I'll pick it up, but don't go there trying to look all the time, because you're never going to get that break. Like you said, it's always going to be work. Crystal Nevedale: Yes, absolutely. Right. Right. And so when I was away a few mornings, got up before anybody else was up in the house and I headed out to the beach and even that 20 minute walk on the way there of nothing was so peaceful and relaxing. And it helped me manage myself for the rest of the day. I mean, when you're in the same proximity with someone or many someones for a week, I was with five women. for one week and six women for another week. So I mean, it is a lot to kind of pull yourself away from there. Give yourself some grace, give yourself some quiet time and just kind of enjoy the moment. John Adams: Well, let me throw this at you, Crystal. Let's kind of do that like I love to do the devil's advocate thing. And let's take social media into it little bit. So we post a lot, right? And I've kind of taken a small break because I'm building some things and I'm trying to get a few things in line and ⁓ we'll come back to it. Don't let me forget, say, hey, come back to this later. But I want to mention this right here. On social media, right? So you're posting your stuff that you're doing, you're finding these stones, you're building things, you're out on vacation, and they're seeing, man, crystals flourishing. And then I'm posting stuff about our podcast or about my production thing. did, I had a couple of people say, hey, put the full video up with Peter's. put that up. unintentionally, we do what I'm about to talk about, but we don't mean it in any way. But think about this. Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: How much do you think that social media kind of feeds into that not being able to rest thing, right? Because every time you open your phone, there's somebody building something and they're grinding and they're succeeding and they're waking up at 4 a.m. right to go down to the beach while everybody else is sleeping or you know, they're optimizing their life. And then eventually you start to feel like resting means you're losing. But here's the truth. You don't have to compare yourself to everybody else. Yes, it's nice to look and go, man, how do I get there? Crystal Nevedale: Okay. John Adams: but if you don't get that rest yourself. So my question to you, Crystal, and we're guilty of it, but we're trying to help people by doing what we're doing, but how much do you think that that feeds into that feeling for other people that, man, look at what this person's doing or look what this person's doing. And we both try to, if we're comparing at all, in a positive way to improve ourselves, not in a negative way, but how much do you think that that negatively impacts other people where they're, you know, feeds into that not wanting to rest. Crystal Nevedale: I mean, I'm sure it does, but it's all again about your mindset. It doesn't matter what anybody's doing and you can just like we talked about before, like you can turn that situation into motivation and inspiration in your time where it is go time. You know, not during your time that you're supposed to relax and recoup and, and really I have to be honestly like lately I have not even had my phone barely at all. Like I post at night sometimes I had an amazing weekend. didn't put one thing up. Like so many cool things happened. John Adams: Yes. Crystal Nevedale: And I'm just trying to be really more present in my life. Like, I will eventually post the things that have happened over the last week. But I, right now, it's like, I'm really on a kick right now with myself. John Adams: lost your audio. think you're... I lost your audio. ⁓ there you go. I can hear you now. I don't know what happened. ⁓ you're okay. Crystal Nevedale: So how do I make that? Let me fix that since we already paused for a second. Let me fix it so it doesn't happen again. John Adams: ⁓ Uh-huh. You should have some sort of do not disturb on there. Crystal Nevedale: Stay in the studio. Let me see if can pull this down while I'm on here or not. Yeah, I can't while I'm in the studio. Damn it. Okay, let's just pray for the best. John Adams: That's those little things, right? Crystal Nevedale: It's my whole motto, pray for the best. John Adams: you Crystal Nevedale: Alright hold on John, me get it straight back up again. Okay. Okay. Go back. Where the hell were we? John Adams: You're good. You were talking about you had a whole weekend or whatever where you didn't post and you're saving things to post later, which I'm actually going to piggyback off of because I'm trying that also. So you can start right there. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. So I've really been trying to put my phone down and trying to be more present. I'm really trying to build some new habits in my life right now. Like I'm trying to focus a little bit more on my eating. ⁓ I've never been a real healthy eater. So I'm trying to like do small things. I've been starting like a whole new regiment with shakes. Like I'm just trying to be very present with what I'm doing and social media. And I even have been writing like ⁓ intentions in the morning. And one of my intentions is to stop. So if I have like three things that I need to look up, I look up those three things and then I leave it alone. So I'm really dedicated in my own journey right now to trying to get rid of some of the noise. John Adams: Yeah, no, 100%. That's kind of been something that I'm trying to concentrate on because so I already struggle with, you know, putting things up because I don't want to ever feel like look at me, but I think that they help people. Right. And that's why we're doing the podcast is we're trying to help people and let people see where we've come from and where we're headed. So what I've done is I don't want to be that person who's at a concert or at a ball game that spent all that money. And they're spending the entire event posting what they're doing because and they're not paying attention to the event. I want to take the pictures. I want to capture the experience, but then put my phone away. Save them for later. Or if I have an idea, hey, ⁓ you know what? This just happened. This make this would make a good post to put up. I'll throw a note in with Siri or whatever and. Move on right and then now what I'm trying to do is save those for later. Now it's evening. I'm slowed down a little bit. Crystal Nevedale: Yes. Yeah. John Adams: create them, schedule them, and let them go out. I'm trying to be more, like you said, in the moment, more in tune with everything around me. It's been really tough with Cindy, especially with her mom, and she's there all night, and I'm trying to make sure that I'm getting the time with her. Building all of this and her going through all this stuff with her mother, it's been tough, and I want to make sure that we get our quality time. Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. John Adams: But I'm still investing the time into this and doing everything to push this forward too. So yeah, making sure that I'm very mindful in those situations has been tough and that's something that I'm working on also. Crystal Nevedale: And I know that you like get up super early and stuff for your job and all that. I've noticed too, like with myself, like this is starting my busy season. So like my relationship hasn't experienced busy yet with my job. So trying to manage everything, picking up all these things needed to be done and then still manage my personal life, my private life, my kids, my grandkids. It's a lot of juggling. And if you're going to see that with me for like the next four months, it's going to be a lot of juggling. But if I don't get this under wraps now, with putting my phone down, paying attention, I'm going to get lost in these four months. So I figured if I start now to kind of clear things out, get in order what I need to be doing, then I'll be better off when it does get insanely busy and I don't have a breath to take. But in the back of the past, I used to get up super early. When stuff like this would happen, I would just get up three, four hours early. John Adams: No. Crystal Nevedale: But gosh, by time it's five o'clock, you're sleeping in your chair. John Adams: That's the biggest problem. I'm up at 2 a.m. It's so hard. know, come 6 o'clock. Yeah, I'm going at 6 o'clock. I'm looking at, you know, getting ready for bed mode. And it's tough, especially with, you know, our schedules have been off. Her mother is, ⁓ she's having sundowners because it's getting close to the end of time, you know, for her. And night times are rough and she's worried that's when she's going to go. And that's when Cindy's trying to be there the most because she's worrying. Crystal Nevedale: Yeah, there's no way to get up earlier. John Adams: So our schedules are completely screwed up together. ⁓ So yeah, it definitely having those moments when we can, you know, be with each other. And we just celebrated 25 years. So if we can make it those 25 years, this next one, yes, thank you. Thank you. Yeah, it's been fun. ⁓ But yeah, so what we're talking about in this episode is not stopping, right? We're not talking about, you know, putting things aside. Crystal Nevedale: Congratulations! ⁓ John Adams: We're talking about giving your best, but we're also talking about taking those breaks for yourself, for your relationship, for your family. So Crystal, what are your thoughts on how, ⁓ like, just even on the social media side too, maybe not just us, but just in general, right? We see all the grind out there. Do you, and we kind of touched on this a little bit, but do you think that even yourself, like seeing, and I know we don't compare Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: that way. But do you see that, you know, all these people are out there, they're just go, go, go, go, go. And now you're getting into the busy season, you're about to be locked into your store for a while, you're going to be doing a lot of stuff like that. So do you you see that affecting you personally or anybody around you? Crystal Nevedale: No, I don't even have time for social media in the summer. I, you'll notice my posting will go to the side. Like there'll be, I'll hardly have time to do any of that. Like a lot of times I post to for my business during the slow season, cause I need to have sales to get revenue to live. ⁓ But in the summer, it's so busy that I don't have time to even think about that end. So like I almost go dormant for four months in my social media, really. So I don't think it really affects me very much. I don't have the time to even look at it to be comparing myself to anybody or anything. So I guess that's a benefit for me. John Adams: ⁓ yeah, for sure. But now let's look at it though. So you're going to be really busy. So now you're going to have a lot going on. You're in that busy time. You've got a new relationship. You've got a lot going on. So this is where you've got to really be careful because you're going to get those few moments where you might get that little bit of rest or that time, you you and Emily, but then everybody gets it. maybe you haven't, but just be cautious, especially, you know, you're in that new phase. ⁓ You get that rest finally, but then you feel guilty that you got that rest because you're in the busy season, right? Vermilion is going to be hopping. The downtown area is going to be booming and you're going to be trying. This is when you're going to make the money to get you through the winter time, right? So that's the biggest thing is you make sure when you're getting that rest and you're getting that recovery that you're actually being mindful because you're not quitting. Crystal Nevedale: Right, right. Right. John Adams: It's intentional. You're going for calming and grounded experiences with you and Emily and your grandchildren and stuff like that. So that's where I think that all of us need to learn from. And me included is just a lot of the recovery time that we need, we don't take because we feel guilty when we take it. So here's some things that you've mentioned, that I've mentioned ⁓ that I think Crystal Nevedale: Okay. John Adams: We all need to just take that break. Whether it's you're grinding on your health and you're feeling amazing or you're building a company or you're just whatever it happens to be. It's summertime. I know it's going to be your busy season, but when we all get the time, sit outside, whether it's at the water, whether it's just outside with your kids or your grandchildren or your significant other. Taking that drive still. I know you've taken your vacations, but we... Just take that little drive, even if it's just up the road, whatever, know, listening to music, laughing with somebody, being present. Heck, for 30 minutes, do absolutely nothing. Or, like you say, get that little bit of scrolling, but set your alarm, right? know, tell Alexa, set the alarm. You know, make sure you get those times because we need that as much as... Crystal Nevedale: Right. Right. A nap. Yep. Yeah. John Adams: Sometimes we can do it way too much. We still need those times to let ourselves breathe and be us. Crystal Nevedale: I think that making a schedule is the way to be successful at it. You need to, know, say that you, cause I'll tell you my schedule. I work from 11 to four. So from four to five o'clock, I'm unreachable. It is my time to get home. It's my time to get in maybe more comfortable clothes. Maybe it's my time to start dinner, but it is my time for no interruptions, no phone calls, no nothing. I know television usually. John Adams: Yeah. Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: I usually put my music on and I spend that first hour just preparing the rest of it. But having a schedule is to me very helpful. I tend to stick to things that are healthier when I have a schedule. John Adams: Yeah, 100%. And I'm the same way. And that's kind of one of the biggest things that we need to hold on. I'm trying to pull up this post that I put up the other day, but that's one thing that we need to really, you know, as people concentrate on is when you can have that schedule, when you can build those habits, when you can have those little things that you know, keep moving forward, keep you moving forward. That's what's going to keep you grounded, right? We all kind of do this. Most people, myself included, for many, many years, we forget that life is supposed to feel good, right? Yes, it's supposed to be a grind. Yes, we're supposed to do our best. We're supposed to give 110%, but it's supposed to feel good. If your entire life feels miserable while improving yourself, especially in the improvement phase, eventually you're gonna stop improving and you're just gonna give it up. Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: So here's something that I put out the other day, speaking of posting on Facebook, you know, what will next year look like? What about next month? Next week or tomorrow? The truth is none of us actually know. Life can change in a phone call, a diagnosis or an accident. A loss or a blessing you never saw coming. People fall in love, families grow, babies are born and friends get married. At the same time, People get sick, people change, people leave, and people fight battles they never expected to face. This last year has been a reminder to me of one or more of those things across the board. Don't waste today. Not your time, not your words, not your moments, and not your people. Because tomorrow is not promised. And I think that's the biggest thing. Crystal Nevedale: Cheers. Cheers. John Adams: We need to grind. need to, in the same token, we don't want to waste today when we're trying to improve ourselves, but we also don't want to miss those moments. We only get so many of them, and tomorrow's not guaranteed. Crystal Nevedale: Right. Okay. And that's important to remember. John Adams: Yeah. So I think self-improvement accidentally becomes exhausting for a lot of people because now it feels like every habit, every meal, every workout, every minute has to be optimized. We're talking about building a schedule. That doesn't mean it has to be you miss something and you messed up and now you got to freak out about it. Build a schedule, start slow. Crystal Nevedale: Right. Yeah. John Adams: and work into it, right? Because once it becomes habits, it won't be so miserable when you mess up. Crystal Nevedale: And it shouldn't be miserable. Like I have a great schedule. I, but I block out time for free time. Like think about it. How many people scroll for three or four hours a night, watch a movie that means nothing to them. ⁓ when they could be taking a walk with their family. Yeah, exactly. Take a walk with, they could be taking a walk with their family. They could be reading a book. They could spend some time doing self care on themselves. So it's really about your priorities. You just have to set them straight. Like what you want. John Adams: Yeah. and then say they got no time for anything? Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: And with me, I say what I want a lot and I don't follow through because I'm so busy. So when I write things down, they happen. Because I go back to them and I go, ⁓ gosh, I missed that. Let me, I got 30 minutes. Let me go ahead and try to get that done. But it really does help me like writing things down. It helps me so much be accountable. John Adams: Yeah, yeah, I have to. mean, between, you know, putting things, you know, in a schedule or my journal, writing down has really been, it's been the biggest thing to save me. You know, I have to put things out of my mind into my journal. I have to make notes all day. I use my notes app on my phone all day long. I've even, I've even optimized it to the point where every day at 10 a.m. it says, go in and clean out your notes app because Crystal Nevedale: Hahaha! John Adams: I had so much going in there that I wasn't going back to check, seriously. Because I drive, my brain doesn't stop. I'm OCD and ADHD all at the same time and those two are bad together. And I'll be driving and I'll be thinking of something, you know, and I can't mess with my phone. So I don't want to say the word out loud, but hey, the Apple assistant, make this note for me. And it was getting, you know, to point where I'm like, okay, well, I don't even know what I got in here now. So I do, I have every day at 10 a.m. It pops up, check your notes app. And then Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. Right. . . John Adams: I've got files for that. Does it matter? Was it a thought that I'm like, ⁓ you know what, that really didn't make any sense anyway, get rid of it? Or is it something I should act on right now, right? Can I go in and do something with this? And it's really kind of optimized that for me, setting those schedules. It's huge. getting the things written down out of your head, it's helped me sleep at night better. How many times are you laying in bed at night and something pops into your head? and now you're thinking about it and now you're planning about it or you're worried about it or you're stressing about it and you can't go to sleep. Crystal Nevedale: Right, right. I pop out of bed all the time. Sometimes I just pop out of bed and do that darn thing. So that I don't have to lay there and think about it no more. I do, I'm not gonna lie. That is totally me. John Adams: You write it down and get out your head. Well, that's why I... Yeah. Yeah. That's why I like using the... Look, I'm kind of a geek, but that's why I like the assistants. You know, the Alexos of the series. I don't like saying the words I lost, said everybody's off, including our own. ⁓ But you can say, know, hey, take this note for me and just get it out. OK? I took your note. And once I hear that they took it, I don't worry. I don't think about it. Now, next day at 10 a.m., it'll pop up and say, John, check your notes. ⁓ Crystal Nevedale: Hey. John Adams: Because that did. Like, I can't tell you, I already have a hard enough time sleeping. That's where meditation comes in, and that's where I gotta clear my mind. And then when one of those stupid things pop into my head, I'm up all night. You know, it won't shut off. So, that's kind of why Living 95 is so important to me, because it's not about perfection, it's about sustainability. How can you make life sustainable? How can you make those systems, those habits, set those alarms? Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: you know, the 30 minute alarm for you while you're on social media, the 10 a.m. check your notes app, those things that just make life work, make it stupid simple and remove those hurdles from actually growing. And that's kind of why I built this whole thing. Because here, your plan makes things easier. And if your plan makes you hate life more, your plan probably isn't the right plan, right? Crystal Nevedale: Time to re-evaluate. John Adams: you tweak it, it's time to reevaluate all day long. So if you're not going to stick with it, reevaluate, do it again. You know, sometimes people need a little more pressure to get them to reevaluate it. ⁓ and that's, know, that used to be me too, but that's okay. At the end of the day, you don't need permission to breathe. You need to give yourself permission to breathe, but you don't need life to give you permission to breathe. You need to take those times for yourself. You don't need to punish yourself to improve your life. Crystal, where do you kind of think people cross the line between healthy growth, which is what we're trying to help people with, and constantly kind of pressuring themselves and burning themselves out? Where do you think that that line is where people usually cross it? Crystal Nevedale: That's a tough one, John. I don't have an answer for that. I think every individual has a different line, but I don't think it should be uncomfortable. I don't think growth should be uncomfortable to the point where we should be excited about learning new ways to make our life more manageable. Nobody has it all figured out. Not one person in this world has it all figured out. We're all trying to find new systems all the time to keep improving our life. What I do know if you're not doing that, you're stagnant and you're not growing. And if you're not growing, you're dying. So we need to keep going forward and growing. I mean, I reevaluate my life five times a day. If something doesn't feel good, I don't do it anymore. If it feels great, I do more of it. Like it's a a constant growth. It's what life's about though, it should be exciting. If it's uncomfortable to you, you're gonna have to meditate. John Adams: Yeah, yeah. Here, here, I'm going to go to the way back machine a couple months back when you, called me out on the workout thing, right? And you said, well, do you have goals? And I said, well, yeah, I have goals. Well, do you have them written down and do you, you know, actually, I know you have goals, but do you write them down? Do you try to compete with yesterday? That was a game changer, right? So yes, it should be a little uncomfortable. Growth is uncomfortable in general, but Finding those things, the setting a goal and competing against yesterday, write down how you did today and can I just get a little bit better tomorrow? You make it fun, you find those systems, right? And that's what we talk about regularly, it's systems. Systems are gonna make it so you can keep going. It allows you to enjoy your life without guilt, right? You're allowed to laugh, you're allowed to rest, you're allowed to take breaks and enjoy food occasionally in those systems. Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. Right. you John Adams: You prepare for it, you know it's coming up. You had your nice breakfast in the morning in your water or whatever to get yourself ready. Those systems are gonna keep you going without feeling like you're failing. I think the biggest thing that I would like people to take away is sometimes healing starts the moment that you stop treating yourself like the problem constantly needs fixing. Yes. we need to fix ourself. But you don't have to dwell on it all day long. Build the systems. Go ahead. Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: I have a good one. I have a good real quick strong kept me alive but gentle made me heal. So that is powerful and that's in a song that recently I've been listening to and that's a true thing. Strong will keep us alive. John Adams: Beautiful. Crystal Nevedale: But we have to learn to be gentle with ourselves because gentle with ourselves is where healing happens. And we all need healing. Sorry, it just popped into my mind. John Adams: And here's the thing, no, no, I 100 % and that was perfect. That was well said. But here's the thing, and I can already hear somebody, either when this launches that day or 10 years from now, because these will be out forever. I can already hear somebody. But you guys are making people weak. You're saying, know, listen, grace isn't weakness. Sometimes grace is, you know, the very thing that kind of keeps you going, right? It's the thing that Crystal Nevedale: No. John Adams: gets you over that hurdle where you're stuck because you can Crystal Nevedale: Grace is where you stop competing with other people and you start taking care of yourself. It's not about a competition. It doesn't matter what Joe Schmo has to say. Like it's about yourself and being gentle with yourself and making you feel happy. Because at the end of the day, you're pushing every, if you're pushing yourself to please everybody else, you're never going to be truly happy ever. We need to stop looking outside of ourselves and start realizing that it's. John Adams: Yeah. Yeah. That's it. Crystal Nevedale: Everything that we need is already here. John Adams: We talked about it a couple episodes ago. Stop comparing yourself to everybody else because truthfully, most people don't even know you exist. Compare yourself with yourself. What's going to make you 1 % better tomorrow? That's it. If you strive to be 1 % better than you were yesterday, tomorrow, that's all. It's not always going to be happening. Some days you're going to fall backwards. It's going to happen. That's life. Crystal Nevedale: That's it. Right. John Adams: if we can just be 1 % better every single day. Crystal Nevedale: If we can make one better choice than yesterday. It's that simple. One choice different, that's better. John Adams: Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that choice doesn't have to be physical. It could be mental. could be, know, yesterday I was a grumpy, sour SOB, right? What can I do today to be better? What can I do to be better to my spouse, to Cindy, or you to be better with Emily, whatever. What can we do to be that better person every single day? And I struggle with that. I do all the time. I'm not gonna lie. I get frustrated over Crystal Nevedale: could be anything. John Adams: Stupid stuff. And I gotta just, give me a second, me breathe, you know? And that's one of my things that I work on daily. So this week, everybody, I kinda wanna leave you with this. I want you to give yourself intentional grace, one moment of peace without the guilt. Maybe sit outside, take a quick drive, put your phone down. Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. John Adams: sit and watch a sunset, listen to some music, spend some time with somebody that you care with, not on your phones, not even watching a movie, just sitting with each other. And then when that voice shows up that says, you should be doing something else, you know this is wasting time, you're not improving yourself, I want you to do this, quietly to yourself. Tell it to F off. Give yourself that minute and rest. Because your mental health matters. It matters more than you'll ever think. And if you get one of those moments, I would love... Look, best thing in the world you shared with me. One of our listeners, probably somebody you know because they sent it to you. One of our episodes, we were talking about where did you fall on the A through D scale? And the person filled it out. Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: and send it to you. That meant the world. So what I would love, if listening to this episode, you have one of those moments this week where you're trying to get that intentional rest moment, grace moment, and that little voice in your head pops up and you give it that screw off moment, throw in the comments. Just say, yeah, that happened this week and I told it to f off. I don't care. You know what I mean? Throw it in the comments because at the end of the day, we all need those moments because burning yourself out is not going to improve your life. We're only going to begin to grow and improve our life when we can realize that we can give 110 % when we can, but we can give ourselves grace when it doesn't. Anything else for you, Crystal, before we wrap this up? Crystal Nevedale: That's it. Keep shining, folks. John Adams: Awesome. Well, people, I think that we all need that space and we all need to slow down again. So when you're looking for that calming place or that thing that you just need, maybe if you're out by a Vermillion, Crystal's Treasure Box is one of those places. It feels different the second that you walk in the door. In a world of constantly demanding your attention, everything, your buzzing, your phones, sometimes finding peaceful... Sometimes finding peaceful faith. Why can't I say spaces? Sometimes finding peaceful spaces matters more than people realize. So stop into Crystal's Treasure Box, check it out. It's gonna be her busy season. Go on in there and help her celebrate the fact that she's gonna be there a lot more than she's been in a while. So check out everything she's got in there. She's got a lot of great items. And on the Amplify side, guys, this applies to creators too because burnout isn't always caused by working hard. Sometimes it's caused by feeling like you never shut your brain off. That's why Amplify exists. I focus on creating systems that feel sustainable because content creation shouldn't feel like a constant mental war. You should be able to create and still have life. Maybe healing isn't about a complete different personality, right? Maybe it's finally learning to stop and just stop being at war with yourself over things. I have a client that I'm taking on right now. Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: He actually is a doctor in the mental health world. He works with children. He worked with children that are abused, children that are having behavioral issues. He found one thing. Guess what? The people that work in that mental health field, they have just as many mental health issues as the people that they're working with, because they're taking all of that home with them. So we're going to build a system for him to get out here and share that message. It doesn't stop. with us. It goes all the way up. At the end of the day, guys, take those moments for yourself. Find those moments of grace. Just give yourself grace because balance isn't weakness, it's survival. And as always, stay healthy, stay balanced. Crystal Nevedale: And keep driving forward. John Adams: We'll see you next time. Crystal Nevedale: We messed that up but we fixed it. No! It was perfect! It worked out! John Adams: You want to do it again? It was good. It was good. Editing works. OK, let me hit stop.