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Hypnosis to Reach a New Level of Self Acceptance and Release Supressed Emotions · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by the hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi. It's Adam here.
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  Now let me ask you this question on a scale of 1 to 100, with 100
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  being complete full self acceptance and any lower number
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  less than that, how much do you self accept?
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  How much self acceptance? Do you have?
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  And the reason I asked that question is that a large part of
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  what I do as a therapist is help people to find things within
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  themselves that they haven't fully accepted yet.
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  And sometimes there is an element of control and coping
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  strategies to work around those things that they don't quite
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  accept. Now, if you are carrying around
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  a feeling of you're not good enough as you are, that there is
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  something wrong with you, that you have to change yourself in
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  order to be accepted or validated.
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  These are clues. That there is something within
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  yourself acceptance that isn't fully accepted.
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  Now this session is helping you to find that self acceptance, to
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  activate that self acceptance and to release any suppressed
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  emotions. And the client that I was
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  working with had a difficult childhood with certain elements
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  that they felt they couldn't accept and it was still creeping
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  into their adulthood. So at the core, this is about
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  releasing suppressed emotions and activating a real place of
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  acceptance of who they are, what they're all about, but not
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  saying that everything's perfect, but that everything is
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  accepted. There could be a flaw within you
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  that you don't particularly like about yourself, still want to
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  change it, but accept that within you.
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  And acceptance is a superpower, so long as it comes with a drive
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  to improve. But there is a big difference
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  between improving through growth and through inspiration rather
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  than changing because there's a feeling that you are not
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  acceptable as you are. So if you can relate to any of
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  these themes, you might get some value from this session.
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  But it was created for an individual.
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  Therefore, some of the suggestions would have been
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  ideal for the client I was working with, and they won't be
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  ideal for you. So just ignore any suggestions
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  that don't quite fit, hone into the ones that do.
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  And if you like the idea of working with me directly, have a
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  look in the description of this episode for a link where you can
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  book a free consultation call. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel a wonderful feeling of release,
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  especially around your neck, your jaw, and anything connected
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  with breath. I want you to imagine as you
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  breathe in your breathing, in a relaxant, the breath itself
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  relaxes the nostrils, the back of your throat, your windpipe,
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  all the tiny muscles around your neck, down there into your
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  chest. And I want you to imagine your
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  heart, just as it does with oxygen, is taking that relaxant,
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  pumping it around in your blood cells to every cell in your
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  body. And in doing so, your whole body
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  relaxes more and just feel your jaw loosen, your neck loosen,
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  your chest, your diaphragm relax and loosen.
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  And in doing so, you're able to breathe even deeper, relaxed.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I want you to imagine floating up out of your own
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  body. Keep your physical body there as
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  your imagination goes on a journey.
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  I want you to imagine floating and flying over oceans and
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  cities. Imagine floating over mountains,
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  perhaps even deserts. And I want you to imagine
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  floating and flying like a superhero all the way to a
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  specific lake in New Zealand. Not just any lake.
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  I want you to think of a lake. A lake that, when you're close
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  to that lake, gives you a wonderful feeling of serenity.
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  So imagine just floating down beside that lake on a sunny day
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  with blue skies. And I want you to imagine being
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  there, in that location, connecting with that wonderful
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  feeling of calmness. I want you to notice what you
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  would notice if you were there. Sun reflecting on the surface of
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  the lake, a breeze, the warmth of the sun on your skin.
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  Maybe there's sounds of birds or insects.
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  Maybe there's trees nearby with the scent.
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  I want you to connect without feeling.
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  When nature felt alive and you felt alive, no one to judge, no
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  one to impress, just you being present with yourself.
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  I wonder if you could imagine the most comfortable chair
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  that's ever existed there by the lake.
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  And I want you to imagine sinking into that comfortable
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  chair, eyelids feeling heavier, feeling a desire to yawn but not
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  quite yawning. Imagine your arms and legs feel
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  limp, loose and heavy, like you're drifting off into a
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  wonderful, dreamlike sleep. There on that chair by the lake,
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  far, far away, no people around. I want you to imagine just
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  before you drift off into that dream like sleep.
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  Imagine there's a cat. Imagine a fluffy cat there by
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  the lake. Maybe it's looking for fish
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  there in the shallow waters or maybe just relaxing in the
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  sunshine. I want you to notice this is a
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  big cat, like a tiger or a lion, but a big domestic cat.
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  And the fact that this cat is big does not change the value of
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  the cat. I want you to get a sense then
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  that cat has value if it's a slim cat or if it's an
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  overweight cat. And I want you to notice.
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  Notice how that cat is not at all preoccupied with its weight.
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  The cat does what the cat does irrespective of whether it's
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  heavy or light, and I want you to get a sense that that cat,
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  without even trying, is full of self acceptance.
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  As you breathe in and breathe out.
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  I'm going to countdown from 5 to 1 and you will imagine drifting
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  off into a dreamlike sleep 5. Eyelids getting heavier 4.
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  Big deep breath now three arms and legs limp, loose and heavy
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  2. Just feel an intense feeling of
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  relaxation there in your abdomen.
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  Just imagine each of those 8 abdominal muscles starts to
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  release and relax, either all at the same time or 1 by 1.
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  That's it. Imagine you're breathing from
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  the belly, not the chest, and each breath makes all of those
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  abdominal muscles more and more relaxed, and one drifting down
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  from your toes to the top of your head, all the way down to
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  the tips of your fingers. Feel that wave of relaxation
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  drifting into that dreamlike sleep.
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  And I want you to imagine. Imagine what you would feel like
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  if you were high up on one of those mountains in New Zealand.
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  Maybe imagine being right at the very top.
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  And I want you to imagine you're carrying two empty suitcases,
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  one in each hand. And maybe they're big suitcases
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  or the kind of ones you put in the overhead luggage, but
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  imagine them empty and light. And I want you to imagine what
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  it would feel like to fill those bags up.
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  Not with things, but with feelings.
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  I want you to scan your body for any feelings of frustration,
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  either current frustration or previous frustrations.
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  And sometimes frustration has a location, and sometimes it just
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  feels wherever it happens to be. And I want you to scan your body
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  for that frustration and just move it psychologically up your
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  body, down your arms, into these empty suitcases.
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  Feel that you're transferring frustration from you into the
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  bags. And what do you feel then?
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  Any historical frustrations are now no longer in you, and
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  they're in the bag. Let me know by nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And now let's find a heavier emotion.
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  I want you to scan your body or any clues or echoes or any
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  suppressed emotions of rejection times that you felt you weren't
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  included, left out, or perhaps that feeling of not being wanted
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  even for a moment. Scan your body for the location
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  of that rejection, and when you found it, start to move it from
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  wherever it is up into your chest, down your arms and into
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  the bags and feel these suitcases, these bags getting
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  heavier. They now contain frustration and
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  they contain any feelings of rejection or abandonment.
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  And now scan your body for any shame and all the cousins of
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  shame, embarrassment, humiliation, self-conscious,
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  anything like that. Move it from you into the bags
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  and feel those bags getting heavier and heavier.
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  But let's find more. Perhaps any regrets?
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  And there's two regrets that most people have.
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  Those things that we did that we wish we didn't.
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  But sometimes what's heavier are the things we didn't do.
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  But if we had that time machine, we would definitely do them
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  differently. Scan your body for any regrets.
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  Move them down your arms into the cases and allow them to feel
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  heavier and heavier and heavier. That's it.
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  And now any sadness and the sibling of sadness is pity.
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  Perhaps you can recall memories and just extract any sadness,
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  any pity, any feelings of not being enough.
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  Extract them, distill them and move them down into the bags.
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  And the bags get heavier and heavier, but your body feels
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  lighter. And then anything else, any
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  anger, any feelings of resentment, bitterness, any
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  blame, but also any suppressed emotions, anything very deep,
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  perhaps down in the gut, allow it to move, be released down
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  your arms into the cases. And you're on the top of a
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  mountain with two heavy cases now.
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  And if you can imagine feeling the weight of those cases, let
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  me know by nodding your head. And what's crucial is that you
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  retain the wisdom, the knowledge, the experience of
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  your past, but you don't need to hold on to any heavy emotions
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  anymore. And I want you to imagine how
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  liberating, how freeing it would feel to release those cases 1 by
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  1. So let's do the first one.
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  Swing that case and then open your hand as you release it
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  when you feel you've released one of the bags, let me know by
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  nodding your head. That's it.
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  And then start swinging the other case in the other hand.
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  Feel its heaviness and then and feel that wonderful sense of
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  release as you open your hand and you release it.
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  And then just feel a sense of lightness that you've let go of
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  so much and you've been holding on to these emotions for years,
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  if not decades, but you've now created space for something new.
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  I want you to imagine what you've lost in all of those
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  emotions you're now replacing with feelings of confidence,
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  high self worth. Shame is replaced with pride.
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  Regrets are replaced with wisdom, any frustration is
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  replaced with self acceptance. And I want you to feel all of
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  those wonderful resources being absorbed into your body and that
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  tension deep within. Feel that that is melting away
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  like an ice sculpture, and in its place is a feeling of
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  complete self acceptance. You have permission to be
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  unapologetically you. You don't have to meet the
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  criteria of what other people deem to be acceptable.
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  And I want you to get a feeling, a feeling of increasing self
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  esteem and confidence and a deep belief that self acceptance
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  doesn't harm your motivation, it enhances it.
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  And we need to get a feeling then when self criticism, shame
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  and the lack of acceptance is used as motivation, even if you
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  get the outcome, you got there through coercion, even if it was
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  by yourself. And I want you to feel that from
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  this point forwards, you want to grow through inspiration and
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  aspiration, not criticism and certainly not shame.
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  But first, let's go back and heal.
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  Heal apart with you there on the top of the mountain.
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  Just imagine an old school from childhood.
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  And I want you to imagine you're floating back to that place as
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  an invisible observer. I want you to see how that
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  younger version of you carried yourself.
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  Did you speak up or did you make yourself small?
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  Did you embrace who you were, or were you embarrassed by it?
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  And I want you to go to a specific moment.
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  The evening before you were made to speak up in an English class.
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  And if you can recall where you would have been perhaps the
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  evening before, maybe in your bedroom alone, let me know by
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  nodding your head. And I want you to imagine
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  entering that room and switching from being invisible, divisible.
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  And that younger version of you is surprised.
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  Who is this person in their room?
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  But because you are them, you can convince them that you are
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  them from the future. And you can do that by sharing a
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  secret that only they know. Tell them things that they did
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  that only they would know. And when you've built rapport
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  and a connection and trust with that younger version of you, let
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  me know by nodding your head. That's it.
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  And I want you to listen in a way that no one else did for you
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  back then. The concerns, the doubts, the
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  frustrations. Just listen.
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  And I want you to tell that younger version of you what you
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  needed to hear back then but never heard.
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  How capable, how valuable, how worthy.
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  I want you to feel like you are projecting unconditional love
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  from yourself to that younger version of you.
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  And see see how they change. Just like a flower that hasn't
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  had sunshine or water for several days, how quickly they
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  change with a bit of sunshine and water and see this same
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  thing happening to the child almost coming back to life and
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  tell them what will happen the next day.
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  That asshole teacher that will attempt to embarrass them.
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  But things aren't going to go to plan for that teacher.
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  I want you to imagine coaching that younger version of you.
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  What to say, how to relax their chest and their neck muscles,
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  how to accept themselves 100%, how to project their voice, how
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  to project that confidence. And perhaps it could be a witty
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  response so that if anyone attempts to kind of mark or
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  laugh, you're in the driver's seat.
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  And I want you to tell that younger version of you that they
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  can practice it before it happens because all of this is
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  in your imagination. So imagine creating that same
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  scene, show that younger version of you what actually happened,
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  and then rewind it and think how you would want it to have
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  happened. Keep playing it back again and
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  again, changing certain things, projecting more confidence, more
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  self acceptance. And when that younger version of
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  you knows what they would do differently, let me know by
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  nodding your head. That's it.
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  Rewind. Allow them to step into that
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  memory with all of the knowledge and all of the coaching and all
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  of the confidence that you've given them, and then observe as
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  to how things are now different. The teacher still attempts to
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  embarrass, but what they're not expecting is that confident,
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  self accepting, empowered version of you.
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  And you can keep changing it until it's exactly as you would
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  have wanted it to have been. And when you find that, allow
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  the childlike version of you to step out and you step in at your
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  current age into the child of that body and feel what it would
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  feel like to relive that moment again as you would have wanted
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  it to have been. Feel defiant, empowered,
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  confident. When you're full of self
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  acceptance, no words can sting. You've experienced it as you
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  would want to have experienced it.
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  Let me know if I nodding your head.
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  That's it. Imagine leaving that classroom
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  back there in the room with that younger version of you.
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  Tell them. Tell them they are worthy no
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  matter what their weight is. Tell them that they are valuable
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  no matter what anyone says or thinks.
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  But also tell them that they can make changes not to please other
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  people. They can change simply because
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  they want to change. And they don't need permission,
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  because the only permission they need is their own.
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  And imagine giving that younger version of you full permission
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  to make changes on your terms. And when that younger version of
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  you accepts, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. Give that younger version of you
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  a hug. Tell them that you'll see them
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  again soon. Imagine floating back to that
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  top of the mountain, still seeing tiny dots far below.
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  All of that emotional baggage has been released.
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  And then imagine floating all the way back to that comfy chair
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  by the lake in New Zealand. But as you get up out of the
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  chair, you notice that cat is still there, but looking leaner,
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  stronger and just as confident as it did before.
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  Imagine stroking that cat, saying goodbye, and floating all
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  the way back to where you are now.
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  But feel that all of that emotional baggage is far, far
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  away at the bottom of a mountain.
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  As you breathe in, breathe in that feeling of pure distilled
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  worthiness. And as you exhale, notice some
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  tension is missing from where it was before.
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  You can breathe differently, further down, deeper in the
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  diaphragm. And very soon I will count from
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  1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you. And you will awaken with a new
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  level of self acceptance, a new feeling of release.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your
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  toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now
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  count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8 open your
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  eyes. Open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, Wide awake. Wide awake.
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  Thank you. So much for joining me on
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  today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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