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GratitudeUnlocked 1/7: Widen the Frame — Turn Pressure Into Clarity #MakingMovesMonday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, you made it! Welcome to Making Moves Monday here on the Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you know, I'm a board certified psychiatrist.
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  SPEAKER_00: I work in high performance and I love working with individuals who want to live their best life ever and also want to be the best version of themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what I'm on.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope you're on that too.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're gonna go in.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna go in on gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been going in on gratitude for the past couple of weeks.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's been amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're learning so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this week, before we jump in, I want to set the stage for what we're gonna be doing and tell you why we're gonna be walking through a book, The Work of Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Robert Emmons.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may not be familiar with him.
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  SPEAKER_00: Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Emmons is the leading scientific voice on gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: And his book called Thanks is one of the clearest looks we have at how gratitude rewires the brain, how it strengthens resilience, sharpens focus, and boosts performance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you haven't heard some of the other episodes we have put together on gratitude, I invite you to go back and listen to last week's Sweet Spots on Gratitude, and you will enjoy so many of the insights we've already come to.
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  SPEAKER_00: But yes, this week we're going into this book.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna spend the entire week with Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Robert Emmons' book, Thanks.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's why I chose his work for this series.
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  SPEAKER_00: Emmons doesn't treat gratitude like a feeling, he treats it like a skill, something you can train.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that matters because every high performer, every athlete, leader, clinician, first responder, lawyer, doctor, businessman, I don't care what you do, needs skills that they can actually use, not concepts that they admire.
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  SPEAKER_00: At some point, you gotta have the skill.
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  SPEAKER_00: And gratitude is one of those skills, and we don't learn enough about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I didn't get any teaching on gratitude in school.
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Probably not.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Emmons, his research shows that gratitude can calm the nervous system, and we've talked about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can sharpen attention, it can improve decision making, it can increase motivation, expand perception, and make you mentally steadier under pressure.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a lot that gratitude is giving to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why we're spending seven days here together using gratitude as a performance tool, as a grounding tool, and as a meaning-making tool.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, let's get into it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's making moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's do this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the quote I'm going to take from Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Emmons' book, Thanks, which I would love for you to pick up, says this: gratitude helps us see the opportunities in front of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: If there's one thing Emmons makes clear, it's this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude sharpens perception.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, gratitude will sharpen your perception.
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  SPEAKER_00: It widens your field of vision.
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  SPEAKER_00: It helps you see what's possible and not just what's stressful, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's it's uh here's how you actually would use that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whenever you feel your mind tightening around a problem, even a small one, pause.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pause for five seconds and name one thing that's working.
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  SPEAKER_00: One thing that's steady, one thing that's still in your favor in the current situation that feels so tight, that feels so problematic.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how you use it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That tiny recognition, as we've been talking about, will widen your lens.
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  SPEAKER_00: Suddenly, the obstacle in front of you isn't the whole story anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: You start noticing the openings around it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's exactly what the Stoics were talking about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, Marcus Aurelius wrote, the impediment to action advances the action.
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  SPEAKER_00: The obstacle becomes the way, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you can you can see when you use gratitude that inside the obstacle there's something that you can still have control over.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it creates steadiness, the mental quiet you need to see the next right move.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the scriptures, the ancient wisdom actually speaks to this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Acknowledge him in all your ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes that simply means noticing that you're not walking alone and being thankful for that in the middle of your storm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude strengthens that connection, that divine connection, the invisible connection that keeps you afloat, keeps you anchored, and keeps you steady.
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  SPEAKER_00: And connected people make wiser, calmer decisions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even the neuroscience backs up the ancient wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you pause and name even one thing you're grateful for, your brain shifts gears.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, we talked about the prefrontal cortex, your CEO, the planning center of your brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: It lights up, helping you see your next step instead of just replaying the last one.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you practice gratitude, the insula, remember that?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's your internal scout.
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  SPEAKER_00: It stopped firing off false alarms.
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  SPEAKER_00: It stopped misinterpreting your body's cues.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your body stopped bracing for hits that aren't even coming.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your ACC, remember the anterior cingular cortex?
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  SPEAKER_00: We talked about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the error detector.
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  SPEAKER_00: It settles down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Less hesitation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your choices get cleaner because you're moving in gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so your motor circuits, once your brain starts shifting into more of a gratitude configuration, your motor circuits switch on, signaling your entire body, your entire system.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're more steady.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the real power of gratitude in this book.
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  SPEAKER_00: It steadies your inner world so you can move with clarity in your outer world.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Michael Jordan captured it with this beautiful quote: I'm thankful for every obstacle.
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  SPEAKER_00: It taught me something I needed to learn.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what gratitude does.
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  SPEAKER_00: It turns obstacles into information.
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  SPEAKER_00: It turns stress into a strategy and the moments into movement.
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  SPEAKER_00: It makes the next step visible.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's your task for making moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Name one opportunity in front of you today, big or small, one lane you can step into.
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  SPEAKER_00: Name it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And decide that you're going to move with gratitude no matter what happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I'm moving with gratitude and I will turn my chaos into clarity.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's your affirmation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I'm moving with gratitude and I will turn my chaos into clarity.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to Making Moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are in the middle of a seven-day analysis of Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Robert Evans's book, Thanks.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are unlocking gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stay with me all week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's jump into Take Action Tuesday tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: And please, if this helped you, please share it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love and blessings.