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Hypnosis for Shame and Judgment - Build Self-Acceptance and Inner Confidence · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. Now, if you've ever experienced
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  deep shame, and I'm not just talking about being ashamed,
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  like you did something and you were like, oh, I'm ashamed I did
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  that. I'm talking deep shame like
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  there is something wrong with you.
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  Like you don't deserve to be alive because of that kind of
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  shame. Then you.
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  Might be able to connect to the essence of this hypnosis session
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  because I was. Working with.
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  A client that, based on their childhood shame, was used as one
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  of the primary weapons to control them, to humiliate, to
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  make them feel exposed, to make them feel vulnerable, to
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  effectively control them by the fear of being publicly shamed.
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  Now, because of that childhood, they were very sensitive to
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  anything that felt like judgement, anything that felt
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  like conflict, anything that felt like all eyes were on them.
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  Of course, they were highly sensitized to that because that
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  was such a brutal weapon used against them in childhood.
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  So this hypnosis session aims to release a lot of childhood shame
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  and release the key ingredients that lead to judgement.
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  And that's really important because actually acceptance is
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  one of those things that if you truly accept certain areas, then
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  being shamed or judged or criticized doesn't really work.
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  And I'll share this with you because I think it's helpful.
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  When I was in my 20s, I started losing my hair and I was quite
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  self-conscious about that. And I, I hadn't accepted that.
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  And therefore if someone made a comment or was kind of made a
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  joke about it, I was triggered by that.
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  I was sensitive. About that.
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  And I don't feel that way now because I fully accept that I'm
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  bold and I think I look OK with no hair but it comes from self
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  acceptance. But if I didn't accept it then
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  it would still be a trigger for me now for the client I was
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  working with. It was other.
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  Things It was things about dominance, it was things about
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  control, it was things about winning and losing that were
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  triggers for them. But acceptance is still the
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  antidote to that feeling of being ashamed.
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  Or criticized or. Judged.
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  So if you can relate to any of those themes, you might get some
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  value from this session. But to get the most of the
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  session, I would encourage you to think what is it that you
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  feel ashamed about or what is it that triggers you?
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  Because that will give us a. Clue.
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  As to the area of your life that you may still benefit from a
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  level of self acceptance. So hold that thought and then as
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  you listen to the session, the suggestions that are relevant to
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  you and your circumstances will be more influential than if you
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  just listened passively. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep. Breath in, and as you breathe
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  in, breathe in a resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, that's it. Allow your eyelids.
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  To close. And as they close, adjust your
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  body in such a way where each breath allows you to go deeper
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  and deeper. Relaxed.
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  Scan your whole. Body for clues.
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  Of tension, perhaps around your forehead, your jaw, your neck,
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  or your shoulders. Breathing in relaxation and
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  exhaling tension. Consider every outward breath as
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  a. Release a release.
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  Of shame a. Release of.
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  Judgement A. Release of any.
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  Feelings of unworthiness. And as you breathe in, imagine
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  breathing in radical self acceptance, the kind of
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  acceptance that can make you immune to criticism, judgement
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  or the manipulation of others. And I want you to think that if
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  self acceptance had a colour, what colour would it be?
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  And as you breathe in, imagine breathing in a glowing colour of
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  radical self acceptance. And I want you to think.
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  Think of things that in the past created some kind of reaction,
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  shaking, overthinking. And I want you to allow your
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  unconscious mind to consider. All of your beliefs, all of your
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  rules. Like a complex game of four
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  dimensional chess those times in the past.
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  That you were triggered. Is like a move and think of the
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  counter move as a question. What would I need to accept
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  within myself so that if the same thing was to happen again,
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  it wouldn't bother me at all? And you might be surprised to
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  learn that it may come down to just one or two things.
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  What you. Accept within yourself or
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  perhaps how you evaluate the person that's doing the judging,
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  the criticizing, or behind the conflict.
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  Continue to breathe in relaxation.
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  Exhale tension, breathe in worthiness, exhale unworthiness,
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  breathe in acceptance, and exhale judgement.
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  I want you to explore a possibility.
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  What if your harshest critic is yourself?
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  What if most of the judgement is coming from you?
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  I want you to imagine that if you were attempting to play
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  chess with yourself, if you're both the player and the
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  opponent, how is it possible to win?
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  If a part of you wins, the other part loses, and if the other
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  part wins, the original part loses.
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  And I want you to get a sense that radical self acceptance
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  starts with finding a sense of harmony within.
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  I want you to imagine. A place.
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  That used to spend time alone in childhood, perhaps a safe place.
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  A place that even if you didn't feel safe outside, in that
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  place, you felt safe even if it was just within your
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  imagination. And when you found a place like
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  that, let me know about nodding your head.
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  And I think, I think there's a part within that has been using
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  judgement and shame and criticism as a way to fuel your
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  success and accomplishments. And if that feels true, let me
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  know by nodding your head. And I want you to imagine being
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  there in that safe place to invite that part of you into the
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  room, the part that judges you harshly if you lose or fail,
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  don't quite meet an exceptionally high standard.
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  And when that part is in the room with you, let me know by
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  nodding your head. And I want you to see how that
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  part seems. Are they insecure or confident?
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  Are they strong? Are they weak?
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  Do they feel wise or on edge? And I want you to thank that
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  part. It's not expecting to be
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  thanked. It thinks it's going to be
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  criticized, but I want you to thank that part for a wonderful
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  intention. And I want you to ask that part.
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  Ask that part if it's trying to do something good for you.
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  And if it is, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And I want you to ask that part
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  if it's trying to help you succeed and accomplish and grow,
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  or if it's something else. And if it's to succeed and
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  accomplish, let me know by nodding your head.
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  I want you to ask that part what is it doing for you?
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  And if it responds, let me know by nodding its head.
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  That's it. And I want you to acknowledge
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  that a wonderful intention can lead to a great deal of stress,
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  sometimes low self worth. It might have been trying to
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  give you high standards to help help you find acceptance, love,
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  respect, but I want you to ask that part if it's willing to.
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  Help. Meet the underlying intention in
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  a different way, and if it's respective and responsive to
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  that, let me know by nodding your head.
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  I want you to stream, almost telepathically, memories of all
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  of the emotional pain that you felt as a direct consequence of
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  these good intentions moments. You felt unsafe, unworthy, small
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  and vulnerable, and weak. Telepathically.
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  Stream those memories straight to this part that have these
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  wonderful intentions, like your colliding intention with
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  consequence while acknowledging that it's given you a lot of
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  good things. Motivation.
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  Work ethic. Responsibility drive.
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  But it's also come at a cost. And if that part responsible for
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  those good intentions acknowledges that these
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  intentions have come at a cost, let me know by nodding your
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  head. And I want you to reassure that
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  part that it can keep the intention, maintain the high
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  standards, but avoid some of the emotional pain.
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  Because how can you have the highest standards if you feel
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  unsafe, unworthy. I want you to communicate to
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  that part. Then whenever someone is
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  triggered, they can be manipulated.
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  And I think, I think this part is so influential because.
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  It helped you. Cope with an unfair past.
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  And if that's true, let me know about nodding your head.
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  That's it. I want you to offer this part a
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  new role that instead. Of strict.
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  Standards and rules. It uses acceptance, inspiration,
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  and encouragement. You can never lose your drive
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  for success and accomplishment. That doesn't mean it has to be
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  done in only one way. You can accept yourself and
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  still have a desire to improve yourself.
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  You can accept your current capabilities while striving to
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  improve them. You can accept current
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  limitations or weaknesses while planning on defending and
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  strengthening them. And if this part is willing to
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  help you in a way where you feel more resourceful than ever
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  before through a hybrid of self acceptance and a desire to grow
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  because you value growth, not because you need external
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  validation or permission. Let me know about nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And I want you to promote that part.
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  Give it more responsibility, but make that additional
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  responsibility include radical self acceptance.
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  They say you can't manage what you don't measure.
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  How cute. How can you?
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  Improve something if you can't accept where you are and if that
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  part is willing. To.
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  Neutralize feelings of shame and judgement through radical self
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  acceptance without losing the hunger to grow and improve.
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  Then it's worthy of its promotion if it's willing to
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  take on that increased responsibility.
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  Let me know by nodding your head and then seal it with a
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  handshake, a hug with this part and then notice.
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  How the physical? Representation of this part is
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  now evolving, changing somewhat. Maybe it seems more nuanced,
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  wiser, more capable, more influential, and I have a
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  feeling that this part will embrace this new role.
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  Because how can you truly be? At your highest standards, if
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  the stick of judgement and shame is used to motivate you rather
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  than the carrot of growth, of improvement, of pride and
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  fulfilment. I want you to imagine seeing
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  that part responsible for all of this shame and judgement,
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  leaving with a new insight, a new role, a new level and way of
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  thinking. But before we leave.
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  This safe place I want you to connect with some ideas you
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  begin to notice how safe it feels to let.
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  Your worth? Come from inside you rather than
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  other people's words or reactions,
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  and each time you accept yourself more fully, your body
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  naturally relaxes and your mind becomes more at peace.
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  It's your own judgement that carries more weight, and there's
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  no need to scan or brace for judgement when you already know
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  who you are. And don't be surprised if other
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  people's opinions gently lose their power as your own inner
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  authority grow stronger. Disagreement does not mean
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  rejection, and difference does not mean danger.
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  And your nervous system is learning that confrontation can
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  be calm, respectful, even useful.
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  And the more you accept yourself, the less vigilant your
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  mind needs to be. And you notice that judgement
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  from others communicates more about them than it ever did
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  about you. Your body releases.
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  Tension. The moment.
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  You stop. Bracing for criticism.
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  That never truly. Belong to you, and each day you
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  rely more on your own internal standards and less on any
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  external validation. And as you think of your future,
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  you feel a growing sense of freedom, a self acceptance
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  replaces fear and calm replaces vigilance.
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  Imagine yourself a year from now.
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  A year of having that part within work, as an ally, as an
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  internal coach rather than a harsh judge and critic.
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  A year where yourself worth comes from your own evaluations,
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  not the evaluations of others. And if this future feels more
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  desirable, more empowering, and you're reassured that you still
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  grow, accomplish, and succeed, let me know by nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  So now it's time to leave that safe place and start to float
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  all the way back to the present, taking all of these changes with
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  you, and in particular the change to that part with the
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  positive intention that had the unintended.
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  Side effect of. Excessive shame and judgement.
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  So take a deep breath in through the nose and out through the
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your
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  toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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  you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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