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- Lisa Dwoskin: Welcome back to life rescue podcast with Lisa. Welcome everybody Today is very exciting for all of you women out there. This is for you menopause What is it? We all know what it is How are you feeling going through menopause perimenopausal? menopause post menopause This is for women around the age of 40 and up, what are you feeling? Why are we women not talking about this particular subject that's so important? We are jumping right into this subject today. And I want all of you women out there who have questions about it, want to talk about it, tell me your experiences, please give me a call at 754- 222-4413, leave me a message, text me, whatever you want to tell me. If this resonates with you, let me know how it does or any questions you have. I am not an expert on hormones or I'm not a doctor. So everything I'm saying during this episode is strictly my experience as a 55 year old woman who is going through menopause or post menopausal, still kind of going through it. My experiences, how I feel, how I felt when I started going through it and how I navigated my way through it. So let's just take a moment. Today I'm going to place my palms with my purple nail polish. Don't you love it? Okay, palms down, close your eyes and I'm going to touch the ground beneath me. So we're going to do some centering, balancing, grounding for more alignment within your mind, your body, your spirit. So take a long deep breath. Breathe in beautiful positive energy. Exhale out any negative energy. Let's do that two more times. Breathe in. Peace, love and light. Exhale any fear, stress or worry. One more time, breathe in. Beautiful positive energy. Release what is no longer serving your highest good. Namaste. Okay, now we're ready to begin. If you're over 40 and your body feels different, you are not crazy. This is a conversation most women are not having openly with each other or online. Maybe they are starting to, and you are safe in this environment. Talk to me, call me, text me, whatever you want to discuss about it. I'm here to answer any questions about my experiences. Okay. So what women are feeling, let's talk about that. I'm just going to blurt out different bullet points and then we'll elaborate a little bit on it. Weight gain around the belly area, weight gain, low energy, mood swings, anxiety, brain fog, sleep issues, loss of identity. I don't feel like myself. This is not just a physical. change that we're going through. It is emotional and mental. So when it's mental, emotional and physical, then it's a very important topic that we need to talk about. Okay. All of those symptoms that I just mentioned, I, I, this is a funny quick story. When I was in my thirties, even forties, cause I didn't start going through menopause until I think 53. So yeah, about 53, two years ago. So I was one of those women who always said, I'm not going to gain belly fat because I have the body that's like hourglass shape. So I store more fat in my butt and thighs, not around my midsection. I've always had like a 24 inch waist. And that's been like my asset is my tiny little waist, flat stomach. I always said I am not going to go through menopause because I'm a fitness expert. I work out, I eat healthy. I'm not going to ever get fat in my belly. Okay, low energy. I am an energizer bunny. Woo, yes. Raise that vibe. Energy, energy, high vibing. Well, guess what? I did gain belly fat and my energy was affected and the mood swings, anxiety. I'm not an anxiety driven person. I had anxiety. had mood swings, brain fog 100%. My whole family can vouch for that. I was putting the cheese in the pantry instead of the refrigerator. Brian would laugh at me about that. My kids would be talking to me and I'd be like, what did what was I talking about? I totally forgot what I was talking about. So sleep issues. ⁓ my goodness. Sleep became a nightmare for me. Loss of identity. I don't feel like myself a little bit. was knowing, thank God that something was wrong, but I'll never forget going out to dinner with Brian one night and all of a sudden, like when the menopause hit me really hard, And it went from one extreme to the next. I started crying in the restaurant. There were some attractive women, younger women in there. And I'm crying like, you're not going to love me. I'm getting old and I'm gaining belly fat and what's wrong with me. And he looked at me like, what is wrong with you? Cause he had been with me already four years and I never acted this. Cuckoo So he was like what is going on and I was just breaking down and yes, it was not fun at all So it will hit every single one of you no matter what if you're a fitness competitor if you're Whatever an athlete triathl doing triathlons, whatever it is It will hit you and it will not be easy, but I'm here to tell you can navigate your way through it and come out on the other side better, healthier, fitter, stronger mental clarity. Okay, so this is not a decline in your life. I want you to know that I wrote that somewhere here that menopause is not the end. It's the new beginning of your next chapter in your life. That's what I wanted to say. It's a transition. It's an awakening. Your body is changing, but so is your perspective. Opportunity is there to come back to yourself. Trust me. So let's just go over a little bit of a guide of how to navigate your way through it. This is not the end of your youth. It's the beginning of your power. Power. Yes. Make those muscles. You're strong and empowered woman. And this is such an important topic that I want to talk about. It is not the end of your youth. It's the beginning of your power because a woman in her mid forties to late forties to fifties becomes very empowered. And I'm always talking about this with my close girlfriends and my clients that are all from. I would say 40 to 60, that age range. And we become a different woman when we are like 45 to 55. We don't care as much about what other people think of us. We're not trying to please everyone. We become empowered. We become more worthy and strong and just centered and grounded. That's why I did that breathing with the grounding because that balance that center that grounding feeling of empowerment is the new way of becoming and this is a beautiful thing. So yeah, is menopause a bitch? Yes, it is. Although you will get through it and you will feel empowered and that's where I'm at right now. And that's what I want to share with all of you. So I want to give you a little guide of things that I did that helped me that will definitely help all of you. Number one, movement, movement. I'm always talking about movement. If you love dancing, go out dancing, line dancing, disco dancing, whatever kind of dancing you want to do. Get up and jump up and down and spin all around and act crazy. So movement is so important. for your mind. Now let's talk about your body going through menopause. The most important movement that you can do going through menopause is strength training with weights or like I'm, I'm always saying I'm sitting on my Pilates bed right now. Pilates is amazing. It's safe. It helps your back. helps your core. It strengthens your body. Weight lifting, strength training is so important because you want to keep your posture so you're standing up tall. You want to take care of your joints. You want your muscles strong so that you're burning fat at rest. Strength training is so important. If you have any questions and you need a program, call me, leave me a message, text me 754-222-4413. Straight training is so important. Walking, walking is amazing for your body and your mind and your spirit. I walk every single day. I try to do 10,000 steps a day. And if I don't do 10,000, that's because I'm either on the bike or on the stair master, the step mill that I have here in my house, but I'm always doing cardio, not to lose weight, to keep my heart. healthy pumping and my mind. It's so important. I love to go walking outside and in nature. It's beautiful. Okay. Nutrition. is so important. Protein intake for women going through menopause is the most important thing. Reduce your sugar balance, moderation for alcohol. You don't have to give up your wine if you love your wine or your beer or whatever it is you drink, but moderation, try to keep it on the weekends. That's what I try to do. Two to four glasses of wine a week. Would I like to drink wine every night? I was just telling Brian that yes, I would love to live in Italy and walk around with a bottle of red wine and eat pasta and live and grow grapes and a vineyard out there. Yes, I would love to do that, but I don't like the way my body starts to look or I start to feel when I drink wine in excess. So keep it at a balance. Moderation is everything. But protein intake. So let's talk about this for a moment. One gram of protein per body weight. So I weigh about 144 pounds. That's usually what I stay at. And I try to eat and I never hit 140. four grams of protein, but I'm always over 100 grams of protein a day. And I like to be around 125 to 130 grams of protein a day. And it's a lot. And you have to be consciously aware of it. It's not like you just eat three meals, two snacks, and you're going to hit your protein. No, you have to be consciously aware of how much protein you're eating every single day. I get protein from my protein shakes, protein bars. eat a lot of chicken, a lot of fish, a lot of lean ground turkey meat. I love to have ⁓ yogurt with a scoop of protein, oatmeal with a scoop of protein. Protein is essential for going through menopause because you want to keep the tone in your body and muscles. Protein is key. Stress. We all have stress in our lives. Try to minimize it somehow. Start taking care of you. Watch my other episodes. Create boundaries. Make yourself feel happier. Take care of you. Very important. When the cortisol levels go up and the stress takes over, you're going to disrupt your sleep, interrupt your sleep, you won't sleep as well. And then you're going to start storing body fat in your belly. So try to keep your nervous system relaxed by closing your eyes and breathing. Exhaling. When you do that breath three times in a row, morning, afternoon and night, it scientifically is proven to reduce the cortisol levels in your body, in your mind and relax your nervous system to a more peaceful state of being. When your cortisol levels are lower, your stress is better, you have more peace in your life, you sleep better. and you won't store that belly fat so much. Okay, sleep non-negotiable. You have to have good, proper sleep in order to maintain a peaceful and healthy and happy life. So when I was going through menopause two years ago, I was at a very stressful time in my life and my career. I was shooting my TV show, Life Rescue. Well, that was about a year and a half ago, almost two years ago. I wasn't shooting it, I was preparing it. I was putting it together, I was writing it, I started producing it. I started mapping it out in my mind and then we needed to pay for it. So Brian and I, every day he was helping me. we were stressed out about it, especially me, because I wanted it so bad and all of these things started happening, ups and downs, meeting the wrong people, the right people, the wrong people, getting investors, sponsors. It was so stressful that by the time I got to the point of shooting it, I was not sleeping. My cortisol levels were through the roof. I started gaining the belly fat. It was not a very enjoyable time in my life, although I got through it. But before, when I started preparing all of this, I wasn't even perimenopausal. And then I went from perimenopause to full-blown menopause like that. My doctors were even like, wow, what happened? but it was because the cortisol levels went up, stress was out of control. I wasn't sleeping and it just escalated. So try to manage your stress. It's very, very important. Okay. Remember this. You are not losing yourself. You are evolving. Yes. You're evolving to be that sexy, empowered goddess woman that you are. you're evolving. Remember that because there will be moments. Trust me, there were many moments and there still are some moments where you feel, ⁓ God, I'm getting old. ⁓ my love. My partner is going to want a younger, sexier woman or ⁓ I feel terrible. Or I look in the mirror and whoa, what are all those wrinkles and Why am I seeing more cellulite on my butt and all that stuff? Of course we're women. We're all going to have those moments. Men do too. But remember you haven't lost your youth. Don't think of it that way. You are evolving to the goddess, emperor, empress that you are a goddess, beautiful, empowered woman. Remember that because what you tell your brain tells your body, tells your spirit. And it really, affects how you feel throughout your day. Let go of the old version of you. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Step into confidence, wisdom, beautiful boundaries that you're setting for yourself and for the people around you because that is super, super important. So yesterday I was power walking with my client, one of my favorite clients I've been training for. over six years, I started out as her life coach and then we kind of flipped it into fitness expert and life coach. we power walk, we multitask, we talk and walk, burn calories and work on the mind. And yesterday we were talking about this whole subject of menopause and our age and being a woman. And so she was sharing a beautiful story with me. And then I was sharing with her that at the beginning of this week, so today's Thursday at the beginning of this week, I would say Friday night, Brian and I went to dinner and we, I ate a little more than usual, drank a little more than usual Saturday. was good Sunday. I did it again. So by Monday I woke up and I was like, so bloated. I got on the scale. The scale went up three pounds, which I don't hardly ever get on the scale. I measure my body fat and I try on my jeans and when my jeans get tight, I know I have a problem. I know that wheat fluctuates with salt and water and cortisol and sleep and all that stuff. I'm very aware of that. But I just happen to want to weigh myself because I woke up feeling like, ⁓ my gosh, I'm so bloated. And recently my stomach has been flatter. I've been fitter, leaner. So I weighed myself and it went up three pounds and I started like, ⁓ my gosh, what's going on? How could I gained weight so quick when I'm really consciously aware of what I eat every day? I'm counting my macros. I know I'm hitting my protein. So I was like, what is going on? But then I realized that three days later, which is today, I woke up with a flat stomach. Cause I haven't had wine this week. I've been very low on the salt. I've been hitting my protein, working out, sleeping good. So it's all like a mind, you know, that word beep that starts with an F or E it's like a mind, you know what? Like it really is. And my client and I were talking about this, that you could feel a certain way. And then when you look in the mirror, you're like, you see, that way that you're feeling the negative way the bloated way the fat way the ugly way the older way or you can wake up one morning and you feel different you feel flatter you feel leaner you feel happier and you look in the mirror and you're like I love you Lisa it's so crazy how that flip of the switch in your mind can make you feel great or feel low So trust me when I'm telling you it is a mind set. It's a mindset. You need to tell your mind. I have not lost my youth. I am a beautiful empowered woman who's maturing. I'm feeling more grounded. I'm feeling happier within healthier within I'm setting boundaries. And this is my new chapter of my life. And it's a beautiful one. Because right now I'm 55 and I feel I'm going to live to be 105. So I have another 50 years to be feeling great, secure, loving myself worthy of myself feeling like I am enough. So that's my message for all of you women watching today. Please understand that yes, you will have all these feelings, mood swings, anxiety, lack of sleep, belly fat, whatever, but you will get through it. I did get through it when I started counting my macros, which I've never done in my life. And all you have to do, I've told you this before, talk into the phone, chat, GBT is my best friend. This is what I ate today and you don't even have to measure your food. Just talk into the phone. This is what I ate and it'll tell you if you hit your macros and what else you need to eat for the day. Make sure you keep your protein intake up so that you can build lean muscle exercise every single day. Try to keep your stress level low. I know we all have it, but try to keep it lower. so that you could sleep better, you can feel better and you won't store the body fat. Exercise every day, even when you don't feel like it, unless you're sick or you're sore and your body needs a break, don't over train because that's not gonna work. And before we wrap this up, a couple of things I do wanna say, do not starve yourself and exercise more. because over the age of 35 to 40, it does not work anymore. Especially when you're going through menopause, because I've done that in my youth when I competed as a fitness competitor, fitness figure, bodybuilding. Yes, it worked great in my 20s, but now and in my 40s, no, I was so frustrated. I would decrease my calories could barely move because I had no fuel in my body, worked out like a mad woman. I had pain everywhere and it doesn't work. So trust me when I tell you workout, do weight training 30 days, 30 minutes a day, five days a week. And then I walk 30 minutes a day. So I'm working out an hour a day, five to six days a week. And I do yoga. So If I don't do weight training, then I do yoga. and stretching and I do what makes me feel good. And you will get back because when I started counting macros up to my protein started working out smarter. I actually got rid of the body belly fat and decrease my body fat. So it is possible. Remember if you have questions, if you need advice, Call me 754-222-4413 and I will definitely help you. And I want you to tell me what are you struggling with during this phase? And the last thing before I close, hormonal replacement. I'm only touching on it for one minute because I am not a doctor. I do not have the expertise to tell you all what to do. I'm only telling you what I do. I am on Estradial. I am on one, I was on 0.5 and now I'm on one, I believe it's milligram every day, one pill. It was 0.5 and I upped it to one when it started not working as much. I take that every day and I take the pill because I'm not a good patch person. I don't want the gel. I take the pill. I've been on it for almost two years. And then I take progesterone, I take 100 milligrams once a day at night. Now I had a partial hysterectomy, so they told me I don't need progesterone and that is not true. So do your research ladies, because I believe I have a friend who's, my cousin is a nurse practitioner and a friend who works in hormones. They both had partial hysterectomies and they both take progesterone. So push your doctors. So my one doctor told me I didn't need it. So I went to a homeopathic doctor and she told me, yes, get on progesterone because progesterone helped me with my joint pain. It helped me with my stress. It helped me with sleeping. The Estradial helped me with hot flashes, with mood swings, with brain fog. So I do believe in hormonal replacement therapy, which I never used to. I've never taken anything pretty much in my whole life, but get educated on it yourself, but also go to your medical doctor, go to your homeopathic doctor because hormonal replacement is a necessity. at least for me in my life. I remember I'm not a doctor. I'm only here sharing my story with all of you. I can't give medical advice. I'm just telling you what worked for me. So everything I told you, the hormonal replacement therapy with the exercise and nutrition, it all helped and there is hope for you. So don't be in despair. And again, if you have any questions, please call me, text me. Share your story with me, comment on here on my YouTube video. You are not alone. This is your new beginning. Life Rescue is here for you. Namaste, everybody. Have a beautiful day. I hope this helped all of you. peace, love, and light. Bye.