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Take Action Tuesday 2/7: Small Steps, Big Results- Interview with Cameron Clark, NFL Agent & Consultant · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Greetings and welcome.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the Sweet Spot.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: This is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: As you know, I'm a board-certified psychiatrist.
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  SPEAKER_00: I work in high-performance situations.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: And uh more than that, I'm your partner in life.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: As I've said to you on the Sweet Spot many, many times, I am on this journey with you.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm traveling alongside you, trying to figure out this mystery we call life.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Lucky for all of us today, we have the benefit, the privilege, the honor to sit with someone that I sit with, talk to, and vibe with often, Cam Clark.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: You met him yesterday on the sweet spot, Making Moves Monday, but he's back.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: He's gonna be with us all week.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: And today is Take Action Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Cam, we're gonna dive right in.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna take advantage of your pro-athlete NFL history.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna take advantage of your business uh acumen.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: And we're gonna ask you about action, taking action here on Take Action Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's this saying, actions speak louder than words.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I don't know where that came from, but the old folks seem to always get it right in some way, form, or fashion.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, sir.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_00: How do you when I say that to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: What goes through your mind as I say that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Could you say that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Could you repeat that for me one more time?
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  SPEAKER_00: Actions speak louder than words.
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  SPEAKER_00: What does that mean to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it true?
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  SPEAKER_00: First of all, is it true to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, does it make sense?
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: It does.
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  SPEAKER_01: Action speaks louder than words.
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  SPEAKER_01: To me, when I look at that, I think the actions, actions to me, are a result of our thoughts and where we are mentally and the planning or lack thereof.
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_01: So when I look at the actions, right, I like to use a see use of saying reasons or results, right?
• 2:20
  SPEAKER_01: Reasons or results.
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  SPEAKER_01: Either we're going to have reasons as to why we didn't do something or didn't accomplish a goal, or we're going to have results.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you can have good reasons or you can have bad reasons, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not, I'm not saying you can't have a reason as to why something doesn't happen.
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  SPEAKER_01: But at the end of the day, bottom line, either you did it or you didn't.
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  SPEAKER_01: And many times when you see people that are successful or someone that experiences success in an event, it's because of, not because of something that they said or or they told somebody, oh, I'm oh yeah, I'm gonna go to the league, I'm I'm going to get drafted, right?
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_01: Everyone says that, but it's the actions that you follow that follow that or precede, right?
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_01: The the thing, the the speaking.
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  SPEAKER_01: So to be anyone can talk, it's harder to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Reasons or results.
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  SPEAKER_00: That that just resonated with me, man.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I've had plenty of reasons.
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  SPEAKER_00: And good ones, I'm sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they're always good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm always good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that didn't happen, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Reasons or results.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you know, uh, it does make sense.
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  SPEAKER_00: It does make sense.
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  SPEAKER_00: So as you, as you well, first of all, you're so young.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did you get all this wisdom?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did that all come from?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, no, I mean, just a bit about my background.
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  SPEAKER_01: My parents are a bit older.
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  SPEAKER_01: So my dad actually turns, I think he turned 71 this year.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I was raised by older parents.
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  SPEAKER_01: My dad has a ton of euphemisms and sayings.
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  SPEAKER_01: He's from the country in North Carolina.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm from North Carolina.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and I spent a lot of time with my parents, my grandparents growing up.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I think it was just, I have a bit of an old soul and I naturally connect with older people.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, but reasons or results, man, I'm always trying to find as being a former athlete, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: I was, I wasn't just a top athlete, I was also a top student.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, I was I was on top of everything that I did.
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  SPEAKER_01: I was in my community, all those kind of type things.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I come from a place with a bit of lack of, um, I would say, positive examples of people doing a ton of the right things, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: So I was always looking for in for external things that I could internalize that could take me a bit further.
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  SPEAKER_01: So all those sayings I love and you know, reasons or results or something that I found when I was a sophomore in college and it's just stuck with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's on my board here.
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  SPEAKER_01: I used to write it on the front of all my notebooks because it keeps me on mind with understanding that, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Today is Take Action Tuesday, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: At the end of the day, I have to take action.
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  SPEAKER_01: If I have a dream, I have to act on it, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: If I have a duty, I have to act on it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if we can focus on that, man, I mean, it's if we can keep it simple, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Keep it simple.
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  SPEAKER_01: What's the goal, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's set the goal and then let's reverse engineer, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: If if my goal is to, I mean, we talk about a lot of guys that I do, but my goal is to be an NFL player and not just a guy that makes it, but a guy that can sustain a career there.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, that's the goal, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: The goal is not uncommon.
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  SPEAKER_01: Everyone has the same goals, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: But what you're willing to sacrifice to accomplish those goals is what's going to separate you.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, how can we reverse engineer from the end goal to where we sit right in this moment and then make a plan moving forward, a day-to-day plan that isn't overcomplicated, but simple, that's that we're taking small steps in that right direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: 100%.
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  SPEAKER_00: That makes so much sense.
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  SPEAKER_00: The idea that you have to act and taking the small step of faith.
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  SPEAKER_00: Taking the small step of faith that we saw our parents do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think of my dad, God rest his soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think of my mom, I think of aunts and uncles, I think of others who I've watched over the years make these sacrifices, take these small steps.
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  SPEAKER_00: People on whose shoulders we stand now, and and because of their sacrifices and the actions that they took, we are where we are today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that small step of faith, Cam, also means something to me because to your point, it's not good enough just to think, to just think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because even in the ancient wisdom, you know, here on the sweet spot we talk about science, so unsuccessful, we always bring it to the ancient wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ancient wisdom puts it very clearly about action.
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  SPEAKER_00: It says faith without works is dead.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's pretty strong, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: It didn't say faith without works is kind of weak or it'll struggle.
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  SPEAKER_00: They called it dead.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you actually have to act.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so important that you have to act, you have to take an action.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I think it was Albert Einstein who had another uh, I may be wrong on this, and somebody will probably correct me, but in physics he said that nothing happens until something moves.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love that quote.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you let that land for a minute, just think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing happens until something moves.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think for myself and I think for the audience, when when hearing that, it doesn't say how much it moved.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't say how much it just moved.
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  SPEAKER_01: So whatever, if someone's listening, you know, I'm speaking to myself as well.
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  SPEAKER_01: Take the small step.
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  SPEAKER_01: Take the small step.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's look at your goal.
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  SPEAKER_01: What's the smallest step that we could take right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then let's just do that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if we do that small step, guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: We're better off than what we would have been if we didn't take that small step.
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  SPEAKER_01: Makes so much sense.
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  SPEAKER_01: We might have a thousand more steps to go.
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  SPEAKER_01: Mm-hmm.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: But it's better than a thousand and one.
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  SPEAKER_00: 100%.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the journey of a thousand miles, they say, begins with one step.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got to take the step.
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  SPEAKER_00: So whatever it is that's blocking us today, whatever it is that we need to start today, is it the book that you have to write?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it the money that you have to save?
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_00: Is it the workout that you have to do?
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, you know, there's this author, I think his name is James Clay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think he wrote the book called Atomic Habits.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that's who wrote it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But in that book, which I must confess, I didn't finish reading the book because it was too deep.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: After a while, it was just really, it was just a lot, but it's a great book.
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  SPEAKER_00: He talks about, like, if you don't like working out, like I don't like working out, he talks about the tiny microhabits that you have to have of like just maybe taking your sneakers and just putting it by the door.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then maybe that's the first step.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the next step is putting on the sneakers.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the third step is just going to the gym and sitting there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the four and just how those steps add up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then like doing one push-up.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't want to do a thousand, you're a pro-athlete, you probably do 10,000 push-ups a day.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: But guy like me, you know, when he said one push-up, I'm like, I took him, I took him at his word.
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  SPEAKER_00: One push-up is good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you know, you it's hard to do one push-up.
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  SPEAKER_00: The mind doesn't let you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You, you, you oh, yeah, nah, I can do three or four more.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: So it's just getting started is so important because it'll catch fire.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: I remember when we started the sweet spot and we said we were gonna do it every single day.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: And it was, it just seemed impossible.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like there were all these conversations that I had three years ago, Pam, where individuals said to me, Doc, you know, it's not gonna happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna quit.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it it's just too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do it uh twice a week or once a month, or just do it on Sundays or whatever.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: But that wasn't what was in my heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I just started with Monday, and then we figured out Tuesday, you know, and then I look up and three or four years have passed.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_00: So uh it's amazing, it's extraordinary, and I think that it sounds so simple taking this one step, but it is absolutely critical.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: And let me tell let me put it to you this way another way to look at it is this you can light one match in a forest and you can bring that forest down.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_00: No doubt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, power.
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_00: So don't despise I think the ancient wisdom says, don't despise the small beginnings.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: Don't despise the small beginnings.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have something to do, start small, break it into smaller.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: What do they say?
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: What's the best way to eat an elephant?
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  SPEAKER_00: So whatever the task is, however big it is, break it down.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that that's the message that we want to repeat here on this.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's not the first time we've said it on the sweet spot, but it's the first time we've had a conversation with Cam Clark about it.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, so reasons or results.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you gonna have reasons or do you have results?
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: Which one do you have?
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: I really get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's always a good reason not to get it done.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_00: There's always a good reason why it's not going to work.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: It'll always be available.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look, we're not judging if you don't have results.
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: Uh here's something I say on Take Action Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have results, you don't have them yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just add the word yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're still works in progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't always get the results right away.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that does not change the perseverance, the direction, the determination.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And to the audience, I think it would be misleading to say or to come across as if either of us, I think, have it all, and I'll speak for myself, right?
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_01: That that I have it all together and we're always making the right decisions.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_01: I think the most successful people current today and in history have mastered the importance and the action of taking the first step.
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_01: Think of the person you look up to in your field, whether it's a psychiatrist, whether it's a physician, whether it's a physician, whether in my field it could be an agent, right?
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_01: Or whatever, or a client of mine, it could be a pro bowl or holoff, whatever it may be, right?
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_01: That person, you the only reason you know who that person is is because they decided to act.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_01: They didn't talk about it, right?
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_01: To loop back in the beginning of this conversation you asked me, talking versus doing.
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  SPEAKER_01: They didn't just talk about it, right?
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_01: They did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: 100%.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: A hundred percent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I hope today our listeners feel a sense of empowerment, knowing that they can take one step, that we can all do one thing that moves us in the direction of our dream, that moves us in the direction of our health, that moves us back to stability, or moves us to another level, a higher level.
• 14:02
  SPEAKER_00: That's what it's all about here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what leads to success.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: Success isn't a final destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: Success isn't trying every day.
• 14:11
  SPEAKER_00: Falling to fall down, what do they say, fall down seven, get up eight?
• 14:15
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, without a doubt.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: So, Kim, I want to thank you once again for sharing your wisdom.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_00: Once again, for letting us spend some time thinking about whether we have reasons or results on Take Action Tuesday.
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_00: This is wonderful stuff.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm grateful for you, brother.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_01: Appreciate you.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I'm grateful for you and the opportunity to share my thoughts and ideas with you and your audience.
• 14:42
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's it's well, I gotta tell you, this is uh it's it's a privilege and an honor to sit across from wisdom and to see how blessed we all are if we would just open up and have these kinds of exchanges.
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_00: So I look forward to seeing you.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow is Win It All Wednesday.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna talk about something you know a lot about being a pro athlete.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something about we're gonna talk about winning and being a winner and what that's all about.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: So looking forward to seeing you tomorrow, sir.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_00: Will you join me?
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: Can't wait to join you.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, got it.
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: Take care.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_01: Bye bye.
• 15:16
  unknown: Bye bye.