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Ep 8 | You Are Not Too Sensitive: Finding Safety in Your Own Heart · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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  Welcome to Rise and Realign, Conversations for
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  the Sensitive Soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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  is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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  and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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  explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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  your sensitivity as a strength. not something
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  to fix. You know, that is really so important
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  to understand as highly sensitive women with
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  this sensory intelligence. You know, there's
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  so much reflection and refinement that I have
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  discovered comes along, you know, with having
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  this type of design, you know, and what I've
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  witnessed in myself and those that I am brought
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  together to walk this journey with is that there
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  tends to be this striving. right? Like you can,
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  you can feel when things are off, right? Like
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  you can feel the discomfort, you can feel the
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  tension, you know, you can just, you feel so
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  deeply. And from that depth, is what inspires,
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  you know, this like strategic thinking or this
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  creativity or this consideration, right? This,
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  you know, conscientiousness, which that is an
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  aspect of being a highly sensitive person is,
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  you know, conscientious. And what I want to speak
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  to is, we can't just keep pushing through. You
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  know, we can't just ignore our own inner communication,
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  right? We can't ignore our body's messages, our
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  body's, you know, call for attention. Just because
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  we feel things so deeply and then reflect and
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  come up with what seems like a better plan, or,
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  you know, there seems to be this, I don't want
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  that to happen again. So I need to work harder,
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  I need to try something new. And again, I think
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  there's really so much beauty in the processing
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  of a highly sensitive person. I mean, it's very
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  kind and considerate. And I know that's something,
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  that's a quality that I really liked about myself.
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  But over time, you know, I became more aware
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  of how, boy, it was just automatic. Like, I would
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  just automatically think about that other person
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  or what was coming up. And it became this like
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  subconscious programming in a sense that my mind
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  and my body were in this loop. And I needed to
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  try to figure out how to make things better,
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  how things could just be better. And when we
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  live from that place, you know, we're not really
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  allowing ourselves to Breathe. Right? Like what
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  a perfect moment. Let's do that now. Take a couple
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  of deep inhales through your nose. And then a
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  nice long exhale out your mouth. Like that's
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  what we actually need more of. We don't need
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  to give more ideas. We don't need to give more
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  consideration for other people. We don't need
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  to give answers, right? Like we don't need to
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  give so much that we're just depleted and running
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  on automatic pilot. And we certainly don't need
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  to apologize for ourselves. right? For our emotions.
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  I mean, to really understand that when your tears
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  start coming up to the surface, that's a release.
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  Like that's a healthy energy in motion, emotion,
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  right? Energy in motion. Like that's something
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  to honor. That's something to pause. That's something
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  to breathe into. But so many have felt this protective
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  mechanism of, well, I need to hold the tears
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  in, or I need to not let them, you know, know
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  that I feel this way. And believe me, it's so
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  common, you know, that other people will say
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  like, oh, you're too sensitive. And it's like,
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  no, it's not that you're too sensitive. It's
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  that you feel more deeply than others do. And
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  when I say that, again, it's just to highlight
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  that roughly 80 % of the population do not have
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  the depth of caring, that depth of processing
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  that sensitive beings do. And again, there's
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  no hierarchy. No one is superior because there
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  is that differential susceptibility component.
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  So a highly sensitive person can certainly be
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  excelling at something when all of the ingredients
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  are supportive. But that same individual could
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  also deal with greater suffering. if the ingredients
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  leaned more in that direction. And that's, again,
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  just to highlight, you know, I'm not here talking
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  to say sensitive souls are, again, the word superior
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  is what keeps coming, because it's not that.
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  It's that I'm here to speak to the sensitive
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  souls so that they understand what makes them
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  feel the way they feel and also why they may
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  feel different, why they may have heard, you
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  know, many others, right? Point out things or
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  question things like, why do you think so much
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  or tell you you're thinking too much? You know,
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  I'm here to say that you're not too much, you
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  know, you're not too sensitive, you know? I'm
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  here to invite you to connect with yourself.
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  Connect with your breath and your sensitivity.
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  Because it truly is a sensory intelligence that
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  emerges from within you. But nobody else can
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  really tell you how to navigate it because no
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  one else knows what it feels to be you. And so
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  it's really an invitation for you to get more
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  comfortable and familiar with yourself. You know,
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  I've said countless times to the women that I
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  work with, you know, our body is our best friend
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  because it is the only one that we are always
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  with, right? Always. No one else are we with.
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  as much as we are with ourself. But when we don't
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  pay attention to how we're nurturing the relationship
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  with ourself, then we're really missing some
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  crucial understanding of how our life works,
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  right? Like how we experience life. And so I'm
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  here as always speaking from my heart to those
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  of you sensitive souls who just are ready to
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  hear, hear more about, you know, you don't need
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  to change. You don't need to be less sensitive
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  or toughen up or hide your emotions, right? I
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  mean, discernment is healthy. We want to be discerning
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  about who we share our thoughts and feelings
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  and inner experiences with because not everybody
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  can hold the space for us to. You know, as I
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  say that, I am being reminded of A dear, dear
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  friend who she has been one of those people,
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  you know, in a really, really difficult time
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  of my life. You know, she was someone who I felt
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  safe with. Somebody I could truly share my thoughts
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  and feelings with. you know, could feel understood
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  and supported most of the time. And that's such
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  a beautiful gift. You know, and sometimes we
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  receive a gift like that through a friendship,
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  through even a professional relationship. You
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  know, the point is, is that having someone that
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  we feel safe with, someone that we feel cared
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  by, someone who can really listen and really
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  hear what our heart is expressing. I really feel
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  like that's the best gift, you know, to meet
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  somebody along your journey through life that
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  can be there for you. And, you know, it doesn't
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  always mean it's somebody that stays with you
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  your whole life. Boy, I remember being younger
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  and, you know, definitely, definitely thought
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  I would be married forever. I did. I thought
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  it was forever. Um, and I met a best friend,
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  you know, within a couple of years after that.
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  And I just thought, you know, as an introvert,
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  right? Like I got it made. I have, you know,
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  my husband, I have my best friend, I have my
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  mom, like I have everything I need. Cause 70
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  % of us who are highly sensitive are introverts.
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  And so we don't need huge social groups or gatherings
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  or busy schedules. But having at least one person
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  that we really feel safe with and who can, again,
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  hold space to allow us to tap into that depth.
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  you know, that's within us to really talk about
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  what's in our heart. That's, that's really important.
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  You know, life can take some unexpected twists
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  and turns. You know, I have spoken before in
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  2008, I had a very profound shift in consciousness,
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  I experienced, you know, what back then I just
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  called a spiritual awakening, I didn't know what
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  else to call it, you know, but for five to six
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  weeks, I just had a very blissful, love filled
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  experience. And that inner voice of, you know,
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  fear and subconscious programs and all that was
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  just silent. And it was really beautiful. But
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  my life revealed to me a whole new journey. And
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  so I did end up moving away from my best friend
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  and that relationship changed. I did end up separating
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  from my husband and, you know, we divorced. So
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  my point in sharing this is that, you know, we
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  find these types of relationships and we certainly
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  want them to last forever. But when things change,
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  as they can and often do, You know, what's important
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  is to know that you still are valued. You still,
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  you know, deserve to feel safe and held and heard,
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  you know, because the experiences that come,
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  you know, when we do experience a type of loss,
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  whether it's through, again, somebody moving,
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  somebody divorcing, somebody, you know, passing
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  from this physical experience i mean we we all
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  experience that type of loss and this is a time
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  where again we're more going inward you know
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  we've had the winter solstice where light is
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  starting to you know increase and and we're softening
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  and maybe seeing things in a new light, you know,
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  but it doesn't change what we feel. It doesn't
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  change the heaviness of, you know, what we may
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  experience. And so, you know, really, I am here
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  to extend. an invitation for you to connect with
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  your heart, your soul, and your breath in each
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  day. You know, the outside world, if you want
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  to call it that, you know, the, oh, there's so
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  much to it. It can, again, affect sensitive women
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  um in a deeper way because there's so much that
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  you process about your own experiences you know
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  what's going on in the world that directly or
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  indirectly you know affects you and just knowing
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  that you're not alone and how you feel that you're
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  not alone and how you think That you're not alone
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  in, you know, what your heart and soul is revealing
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  for you. And so really, I sign on each week to
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  really speak from my heart, to reach out to your
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  heart. Because I know how painful it is to experience
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  loss. I know how painful it is to be so confused
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  by life, you know, and why things happen. And
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  having a place where you can breathe, having
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  a place where you can be reminded that you are
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  important that you are valuable, that your experience
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  deserves respect and to be honored, and to remind
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  you that you are your own best friend. And so
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  really tune into you and be there for yourself.
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  There's so much wisdom within each one of us.
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  But we don't all take the time to actually just
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  be, be with ourself, right? To really tune in
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  and feel what we want to feel or need to feel.
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  So just want to remind you that I'm here speaking
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  from my heart. broadcasting to you, you know,
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  that you have a beautiful heart, you have a beautiful
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  soul, and your experiences are uniquely yours.
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  And there's just so much that gets talked about,
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  you know, on social media or, you know, wherever
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  people are tuning into. There's so much out there
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  and it's so overstimulating and very quickly
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  overwhelming for those of us who are sensitive
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  because, again, we receive more data, more stimuli,
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  you know, like five times more than somebody
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  who does not have, you know, this high sensitivity
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  trait. And so we need to be reminded, you know.
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  To honor ourself means we honor our own rhythm.
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  We honor our own needs, you know. We can't keep
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  abandoning ourself to keep figuring out things
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  for everybody else, you know, or even strategically
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  figure out, you know, how we can just relax.
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  Because it just keeps us in that pushing, in
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  that performing mode. And that's not where true
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  healing comes. That's not where true remembrance
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  comes. Like we really do need to understand the
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  importance of slowing down and connecting with
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  our breath, with our body. And to really, you
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  know, follow our heart. Your heart has way more
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  intelligence and guidance. than most people understand
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  or give it credit for. I mean, I love research.
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  I love how research will show me what I already
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  knew. You know, I love HeartMath Institute. You
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  know, I love their research that lets you all
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  know, lets us all know, the heart has the largest
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  electromagnetic field. It emanates, you know,
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  It's just the strongest. It's not coming from
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  your head. It's your heart. And it knows before
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  the logical thinking part of you has a clue.
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  So really, let's take a break and breathe love
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  together. So I invite you to place a hand on
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  your heart. And just inhale through your nose.
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  Exhale out your mouth and just release any tension,
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  any stress. And just continue. Inhale through
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  your nose. Just focus on that hand on your heart
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  and exhale and relax even more. You don't need
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  to do anything right now. Just breathe. Just
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  be here. Just connect with you, the most beautiful
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  part of you. So as a reminder, we're here to
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  rise together. to reclaim, to remember. Where
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  the heart leads, the body remembers, and the
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  soul awakens. If something in today's reflection
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  resonated and you'd like support integrating
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  it into your own life, I offer Rise and Realign,
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  an integrative intensive for sensitive women.
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  It's a contained one -to -one experience. It's
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  designed to help you reconnect with your rhythm
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  and inner authority. It's not therapy. This is
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  about creating a container of safety, of resonance,
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  and to help you rise. out of old conditioning
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  and old patterns and realign with your authentic
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  voice and truth. So if you would like to learn
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  more about me, you'll find everything at realignwithmelissa
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  .com slash links. So take good care of you. Much
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  love and light.