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Prioritizing Self Care: Daily Habits for Mental Health, Stress Relief & Work-Life Balance with Melissa Crook · The FEEL Podcast: Women’s Empowerment, Emotional Wellness and Self-Leadership with Melissa Crook

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  Hello, Melissa Crook here on the Field podcast.
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  Welcome back. This week we are back with
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  another empowerment session episode and just going to share
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  some insights with you today on prioritizing yourself care.
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  Now this May. Some people don't like that
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  language. Self-care, I'm afraid,
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  unfortunately has become a phrase that has been a little
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  bit overused and misunderstood and and unfortunately used as
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  some marketing propaganda. But it's a very real need.
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  But there's other ways you can look at it.
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  If self-care throws you, it might be self preservation,
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  self-sustaining, self leadership.
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  These are all words. The important point here is that
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  you are finding ways to care for you, to fill your cup.
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  So we're going to talk about that today and what it could
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  look like. So some questions to consider
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  are #1 do you, do you prioritize your Wellness?
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  Do you prioritize making time for you to fill your cup each
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  day to make sure that you're resourced and ready for whatever
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  each day, each week, each month has for you?
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  If you're not doing that, why? And I want you to really sit
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  with this part. If you're not doing it, I don't
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  want you to to make some notes to yourself, whether it's in
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  your journal, notes in your phone, notes in your mind.
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  What's getting in your way of doing that?
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  Because if it's, I think it's selfish, that's untrue.
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  That's a false narrative that women have been fed for
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  literally thousands of years that we really that I want to
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  help you unlearn and relearn the truth in that if you do
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  prioritize your Wellness, not only do you show up well for
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  yourself, which you are more than worthy and valuable of
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  doing, but for everyone else around you and how they
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  experience you. But I want you to get curious
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  about why if you're wise, there's not enough time, there
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  is. You might just need help
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  identifying it where it already exists.
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  And those are all ways that I can help you.
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  But hopefully so if you need more help after today, you know
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  where to find me embracinglayers.com dot contact
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  form. Let's get together.
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  But these are really important questions to consider an answer
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  because they're going to help you ensure that you are
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  prioritizing and remove the narratives that are not true
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  that you've been allowing yourself to believe that have
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  kept you from doing this. If you do make time for this,
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  what does it involve? Have you checked in with
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  yourself in a while to ensure that these things are still
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  actually filling your cup and not just a checklist item?
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  Because I think sometimes it's really easy to get into patterns
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  and all of a sudden maybe those patterns of of care, we aren't
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  working anymore because we shift and change over seasons in time,
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  but it works in our calendar. But we keep doing it.
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  But if we're doing it and it's not actually serving us in the
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  way that we need it to, there might be time to stop and
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  reflect and maybe go back to a list and consider again, what
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  actually fills my cup now and, and what do I, what might need
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  to shift or what do I need to maybe replace this with?
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  So these are really important questions that I want you to
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  consider as you're thinking about this.
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  Another thing I want you to add to this, and this might help you
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  answer that. If not, why is remembering that
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  little things really do add up? You don't have to set aside two
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  hours of your calendar every day.
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  There are really little things you can do throughout your day
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  that can feel your cup, that can settle your nervous system, that
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  can be for you. And some of those things might
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  look like when you're driving to and from work, it's just you in
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  the car. Maybe if you have kids, you've
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  already dropped the kids off while you're waiting for them to
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  finish soccer practice or piano lessons or drama or or whatever
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  it is, whether you're on your drive home and you're stuck in
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  traffic, maybe have more time than you thought you were going
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  to have. These are all some things that
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  you can utilize that time to fill your cup with.
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  It might be listening to your favorite music, listening to
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  your favorite podcast, taking some time to do some breathing
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  exercises, go for a walk around the block.
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  If you're waiting for a kiddo or a partner to finish up a meeting
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  or a practice or or something they're involved in after
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  school. Maybe you just need some quiet,
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  like silence where you close your eyes and you get really
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  present and you listen to the sounds around you.
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  You really ground yourself. You don't, you don't do anything
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  other than allowing yourself to settle a little bit.
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  You might, you know these. You might take a walk around the
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  block on your lunch break and maybe grab a friend if you want
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  to, to do it with you. These are all things and spaces
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  and time that already exist in your calendar that you don't
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  have to find that you might be able to find some ways to fill
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  your cup in these moments and take advantage of the time
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  that's already there. Some other things to think
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  about. And I really want you to sit
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  with this this week to help you tap into this important time for
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  self-care. As if you're having trouble
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  identifying what your self-care should look like, try writing
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  down all the emotions you are feeling at the beginning of the
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  day and then that can guide you on what you need, you know,
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  depending on what those emotions are.
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  Woody, do you need a little more space in your calendar?
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  Do you need to move some meetings to allow yourself some
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  space in between to regroup and refresh?
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  Do you need a really vigorous workout, really kind of move
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  some angst out and or you're feeling a lot of energy and you
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  need to move some of that out? Do you need a restful mindful
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  yoga exercise or meditation or walk out in nature?
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  Really paying attention to those emotions you're feeling and then
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  tending to what it is you need to help meet you that day.
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  And like I said, if you're feeling stressed or anxious,
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  that comes up, you know, there it's everybody's real deals with
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  their stress and anxiety differently.
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  Some people need something vigorous to work out.
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  Some people need a breathing exercise, some people need some
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  stretching or some yoga or some plotties.
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  And some days you need all the above.
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  I mean, so it just depends on who you are and what meets you
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  that day and how your body needs to work it through.
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  So just being open to what it is and how you operate and
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  remembering this is unique for all of us.
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  We it's important to to not get stuck in what other people do or
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  what you've heard is the best thing.
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  Find the best thing is for you. And, and, and be curious about
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  it and stay open to what's possible.
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  Stay patient, but remember that don't give up on this and that
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  you're worthy of this and that this is not only benefiting you,
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  but everyone around you. But yeah, thinking of those
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  things that will nourish you and then use one of those as a
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  catalyst to get started settling those nervous system
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  opportunities throughout the day.
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  It might mean setting, you know, if you're having in a high
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  stress situation at work or a high stress situation in your
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  personal life or family. Sometimes that means really
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  intentionally setting your alarm clock for at once every hour.
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  You stop for three to 5 minutes, walk around the block outside,
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  do some intentional box breathing exercises, sit
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  outside, breathe in the fresh air, listen to the birds without
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  any noise. You know, whatever that thing
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  is. So just meeting yourself where
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  you are each day, the most important thing is that you
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  carve out that time because you are worthy, you are valuable,
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  and you get to choose. And if you need more help with
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  this, reach out to me on embracinglayers.com on that
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  contact form. And let's talk about what's
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  going to support you in this area to get this in your
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  calendar. Remember, we prioritize what we
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  value and those things make our calendar.
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  Make sure that you are the first one that goes in and then you're
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  scheduling around that and not being the first one that goes
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  those out when things get hectic.
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  Take good care of yourselves. I hope you found this
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  supportive. We'll see you next time here on
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  the Field Podcast. Hello and thank you so much for
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  being with us today on this episode of the Field Podcast.
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  If you would like more information on how you can apply
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  these talking points that I share with our guests in each
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  episode to your own life, really utilize this field framework, go
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  to racinglayers.com, fill out our contact form and let's set
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  up a free 30 minute consultation to talk about how you can start
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  living your most authentic, organic, healthy, feel fueled
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  life. Thanks again for being with us
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  today. We'll be back to you soon with
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  another episode here on the Feel Podcast.