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Why Love Wins 2/7: Love the Process. Master Love's Routines to Reap Its Real Rewards . #TakeActionTuesday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Greetings, hey everyone, and welcome back to the Sweet Spot.
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: So glad you're joining me again here on the Sweet Spot for Take Action Tuesday.
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: I'm Dr Derek Sweet and, like I said yesterday, I am your fellow traveler this week, as you and I keep exploring this amazing idea of what it really means to be loved.
• 0:29
  Speaker 1: You know, yesterday, on Making Moves Monday, we had a great time, didn't we?
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: We explored love in a rugged way.
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: We talked about love being rugged.
• 0:41
  Speaker 1: We talked about love being a choice that we make.
• 0:45
  Speaker 1: Beyond Valentine's Day, beyond the chocolates, beyond the candies, beyond all the romantic things we see, which is really cool, we recognize that love is a rugged choice.
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  Speaker 1: It's both a shield and a weapon, something that gets us through and gets us over the days and the humps in life.
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  Speaker 1: And today, here on Take Action Tuesday, we are going further in.
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  Speaker 1: We're taking the idea of making moves and thinking about what is it that keeps us going once we've decided to make the move?
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  Speaker 1: Because it's one thing to take the first step right.
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  Speaker 1: It's another thing entirely to keep going, day after day, week after week, especially when things get rough and tough.
• 1:41
  Speaker 1: And you know life will throw everything but the kitchen sink.
• 1:44
  Speaker 1: Well no, it'll throw everything and the kitchen sink at you.
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  Speaker 1: How does love help us stay on track, to keep showing up, to keep taking action, even when the finish line seems miles away, so far in the distance, and we're not getting immediate results?
• 2:05
  Speaker 1: Well, here's the thing, my friend Taking action consistently isn't always glamorous.
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  Speaker 1: Love is not always glamorous, no matter how they try to put it on TV, no matter how they try to portray it in the movies.
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  Speaker 1: What I've learned over life is that real love is not glamorous.
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  Speaker 1: It's rarely about taking that one big heroic leap and running into somebody's arms.
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  Speaker 1: That's a part of it, absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: But most of the time, love is about those daily, sometimes boring, often challenging, small steps we must do every single day.
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  Speaker 1: And this, my friend, is exactly where love really shines.
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  Speaker 1: See, if our only motivation is the external stuff, the makeup, the clothes, the swag, the money, the praise all of that is superficial, all of that can run out.
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  Speaker 1: But the drive that comes from love, love for what you're trying to build, love for the purpose that you have in life, love for the people you are serving, for your family, for those you care about, or even just a pure love for your own journey and your own growth.
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  Speaker 1: That's like an endless wellspring.
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  Speaker 1: That's where real love lives and it just keeps flowing once you tap into it.
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  Speaker 1: Think about a musician, an artist I work with many musicians and performing artists and I think about famous artists.
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  Speaker 1: John Lennon he said love is the answer.
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  Speaker 1: And you know that for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Musicians are very disciplined individuals generally.
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  Speaker 1: And what John Lennon said there, that's not just a nice lyric, right?
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  Speaker 1: It's the deep truth behind every single chord.
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  Speaker 1: These musicians learn Every lyric they write.
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  Speaker 1: Every single hour they spend practicing and they can spend hours and hours and hours.
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  Speaker 1: Just like an athlete in the gym.
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  Speaker 1: Musicians spend that time in the studio, hours, on trying to get it right, practicing and practicing until it's just right.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's that genuine love for the music itself, for the way it connects with people, that keeps them going consistently.
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  Speaker 1: These musicians, they don't just make a move, they live their art persistently through their actions, through their routines, through their practice.
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  Speaker 1: And speaking of routine, let's hone in on that for a second.
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  Speaker 1: The power of routine, the power of consistency and quiet sacrifice.
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  Speaker 1: This is where love truly shows up in everyday lives, not just in the music studio, not just on the basketball court or on the field In life.
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  Speaker 1: It's about routine, it's about consistency and it's about quiet sacrifice.
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  Speaker 1: I grew up looking at my parents, my aunts, my uncles, my family members and the parents of great friends.
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  Speaker 1: I just watched them and studied them when I was growing up and I saw how the elders always stuck to a routine, that they were consistent.
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  Speaker 1: My dad would cook God rest his soul.
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  Speaker 1: That man was an awesome cook and he would make the best breakfast every morning for us while me and my brothers were getting ready to go to school.
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  Speaker 1: He never stopped doing it.
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  Speaker 1: He always did it.
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  Speaker 1: There's something about that consistency, something about that routine, that quiet sacrifice that sometimes we don't even say thank you for that.
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  Speaker 1: Parents and aunts and uncles and loved ones, wives and husbands, we do for each other or we do for the children.
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  Speaker 1: That tells us that this is love.
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  Speaker 1: Love isn't just about a grand gesture or a big declaration.
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  Speaker 1: That's only a part of it.
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  Speaker 1: It's about being profoundly dependable.
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  Speaker 1: It's about that quiet, steady presence that your family and your loved ones count on you for, day in and day out.
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  Speaker 1: It's how I grew up.
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  Speaker 1: It's what I saw in my mother.
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  Speaker 1: It's what I saw in my father.
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  Speaker 1: It's what I saw in my grandparents.
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  Speaker 1: It's what I saw in every aunt and uncle that I spent the night at their house.
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  Speaker 1: It was amazing how family did that as I was growing up, and that was love.
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  Speaker 1: My cousins, my best friends, yeah, that's love.
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  Speaker 1: That's real love.
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  Speaker 1: And their actions, their persistent, quiet, routine actions, is the fabric and the substance of love.
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  Speaker 1: You think about what moms and dads do generally, how consistent they are, what they do out of love.
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  Speaker 1: It's the parent who gets up every morning, even when exhausted, to pack the school lunch, to, like I said, make the breakfast, drive the kids to school, get to work and get back.
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  Speaker 1: I saw my mom as a nurse work two jobs, not just one.
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  Speaker 1: It's the steady rhythm of bedtime stories.
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  Speaker 1: It's the patience in helping with homework night after night.
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  Speaker 1: It's the thousands of loads of laundry, the quiet effort to keep the household running, to pay the mortgage, to pay the rent.
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  Speaker 1: These aren't always exciting actions, are they?
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  Speaker 1: These aren't always exciting actions, are they?
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  Speaker 1: But they are absolutely soaked in love.
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  Speaker 1: These are the actions of love.
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  Speaker 1: They're the acts of unwavering commitment, the silent promise to show up, to provide, to nurture.
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  Speaker 1: That's love in action.
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  Speaker 1: Even when my parents argued, the next breakfast was still on the table, the routine still kept.
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  Speaker 1: That's love in action, woven into the very fabric of the daily routine, the boring stuff.
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  Speaker 1: It's the ultimate example of deep love and this is Take Action Tuesday.
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  Speaker 1: Whatever your routine is, this is the message.
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  Speaker 1: Whatever your boring routine is that you're getting up every day and doing, do it with love.
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  Speaker 1: Do it with love Because I'll tell you that is the stuff that makes the difference in somebody else's life and in your life.
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  Speaker 1: That's dependability.
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  Speaker 1: The sun always rises and it sets.
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  Speaker 1: You get to breathe oxygen every day.
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  Speaker 1: It's not like some days there's no oxygen in the atmosphere, or some days there's no sun or no moon or there are no trees.
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  Speaker 1: Today there's a certain consistency in the universe and we ought to reflect that.
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  Speaker 1: That's the love.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes in life you know I mentioned life will throw the kitchen sink at you.
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  Speaker 1: Look, sometimes somebody in the family goes down.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you have to care for a loved one who is mentally or physically sick or ill, someone who is bedridden or severely compromised.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I love in those moments?
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  Speaker 1: What I love watching is watching family and friends and loved ones care for each other in those compromised moments.
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  Speaker 1: This isn't a one-time heroic act.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I say love is a gangster.
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  Speaker 1: It's quiet, it's determined, it's fierce, it's rugged and it's gonna care for you, whether you're in a wheelchair, whether you're in a bedridden.
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  Speaker 1: There will be love.
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  Speaker 1: It's an ongoing, deeply committed action, day in and day out.
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  Speaker 1: It's showing up every single day to provide comfort, administer medication, help with personal care, navigate complex medical systems or simply offer a loving patient presence.
• 11:14
  Speaker 1: Offer a loving patient presence.
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  Speaker 1: I once spoke to an athlete who told me he drove 200 miles every day to see his grandmother before she died.
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  Speaker 1: 200 miles on a daily basis.
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  Speaker 1: Talk about sacrifice.
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  Speaker 1: That's the kind of love I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 1: That kind of care.
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  Speaker 1: It demands an immense personal sacrifice.
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  Speaker 1: You're sacrificing your sleep, you're sacrificing your social life, your career, your personal time, and yet it's done out of a profound, enduring love.
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  Speaker 1: And this is the point on Take Action Tuesday.
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  Speaker 1: My friend, let your actions be consistent.
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  Speaker 1: You're making a selfless choice to be in the situation that you're in right now.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you're getting up and going to practice.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you're getting up and going to the doctor.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you're getting up and going into the yard to garden.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you're getting up and making breakfast for everybody.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you're cleaning and washing the dishes.
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  Speaker 1: You're making a selfless choice.
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  Speaker 1: These are your Tuesday actions.
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  Speaker 1: This is Take Action Tuesday, and you're gonna be stuck in your routine, but you're gonna do it with love and with excellence.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna adapt to whatever it is that you have in front of you Because, let me tell you, let me tell you, whatever it is that you have in front of you, because, let me tell you, let me tell you, you have strength when you take action and you find routine.
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  Speaker 1: You get strength from that when you choose to be loved and you choose to be loved relentlessly.
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  Speaker 1: This is what makes love the quiet gangster.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't crave the spotlight, it's not looking for applause, it's not looking for attention.
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  Speaker 1: It works in the shadows, like you've been doing, willingly giving up the limelight to execute every day, like you've been doing day in, day out, asking for nothing in return.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I like about you.
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  Speaker 1: Even if I don't know you, I still like you.
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  Speaker 1: It's the unglamorous, uncompromising sort of unheralded adherence to the routine that makes love so powerful.
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  Speaker 1: Love is a steadfast presence.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I don't know about you if you've ever been down or hurt or needed something and love came and took care of you and it stood by you, it walked with you, it gave you courage.
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  Speaker 1: You truly understand how powerful love can be and how unstoppable it is.
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  Speaker 1: What a force and here's the crucial point especially when life gets messy, true love never abandons you.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't bail when the stress hits the roof Actually it moves closer or when arguments flare up or when disagreements come.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, I'm not saying love doesn't take a break.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying love doesn't go out and get a deep breath.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying love doesn't take a break.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying love doesn't go out and get a deep breath.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying love doesn't feel a time when it has to just recalibrate itself.
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  Speaker 1: But the kind of love we're exploring doesn't fade.
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  Speaker 1: It's a gangster.
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  Speaker 1: It's not backing down from arguments and it understands that things come and things go.
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  Speaker 1: The kind of love we're exploring, this choice to be love is never violent.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't resort to aggression when challenged.
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  Speaker 1: Instead, because it's steeped in love, it seeks understanding, it offers patience.
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  Speaker 1: It knows when to remove itself, take a break and come back.
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  Speaker 1: It recalibrates quickly because guess what?
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  Speaker 1: We talked about it in Making Moves Monday Love is patient.
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  Speaker 1: It knows when to remove itself, take a break and come back.
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  Speaker 1: It, recalibrates quickly, because guess what?
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  Speaker 1: We talked about it in Making Moves Monday.
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  Speaker 1: Love is patient, it is kind.
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  Speaker 1: It does not keep a record of wrongs.
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  Speaker 1: If you're keeping a record of wrongs, you're not walking in love.
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  Speaker 1: It's just that simple.
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  Speaker 1: That's according to the ancient wisdom and that's ancient wisdom, that's biblical, I'm not messing with it.
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  Speaker 1: Love is always looking for a resolution.
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  Speaker 1: It's always trying to forgive.
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  Speaker 1: If you're not forgiving, you're not walking in love.
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  Speaker 1: It's just that simple.
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  Speaker 1: When we choose to be love in the tough moments, we're choosing consistency over chaos.
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  Speaker 1: We're choosing connection over conflict, reconnection over conflict.
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  Speaker 1: We stick with it, we work through it because we are bonded by love, by the commitment of love and by love itself, which is stronger than any passing storm.
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  Speaker 1: Love is so dependable, it's so steady, it's such a presence.
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  Speaker 1: Real love moves, it builds, it lifts, it protects.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't just talk.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, if it's only talking, it's PR.
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  Speaker 1: That's different than love.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, if you ever hear just the words, that's PR.
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  Speaker 1: That's not love.
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  Speaker 1: Because love without action is just a pretty idea.
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  Speaker 1: Action without love is just noise.
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  Speaker 1: I'll say it again Love without action is just a pretty idea and action without love is just noise.
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  Speaker 1: But you know what.
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  Speaker 1: When you put action and love together, you put them together, you get revolution.
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  Speaker 1: You get the changes you're looking for.
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  Speaker 1: So let us not love with words or speech, my friends, but with actions.
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  Speaker 1: And in truth, that's how you do love.
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  Speaker 1: Stick to your routines.
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  Speaker 1: You can have all the love in your world, all the love in the world, you can have all the love in your heart, but if your hands and your feet aren't moving to help somebody else, does this really count?
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  Speaker 1: No, you've got to put action, because even faith without works is dead.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: Don't waste your time waiting for some good deed to happen, my friend.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: Be love in motion.
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  Speaker 1: Today it's Take Action Tuesday, and I want to thank you right now, in case somebody hasn't thanked you.
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  Speaker 1: I want to thank you for sticking to your routine.
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  Speaker 1: I want to thank you for the sacrifices that you're making.
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  Speaker 1: They're not unnoticed, at the highest level.
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  Speaker 1: In the ancient wisdom, love was always tied into sacrifice, always tied into sacrifice.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: The sacrifices you're making were made at the highest levels.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: Remember in John 3.16, in the ancient wisdom in the Bible, what it said that God so loved, loved the world.
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  Speaker 1: That what did he do?
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  Speaker 1: He gave up his only son so that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
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  Speaker 1: So love and sacrifice are tied together.
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  Speaker 1: When you love something, think about anybody you really love.
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  Speaker 1: You will sacrifice with them.
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  Speaker 1: You will not let them go down.
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  Speaker 1: And this is not just true of Christian.
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  Speaker 1: In Buddhism, this concept of compassion being a boundless, active force that involves selflessness and sacrifice is right there.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: There's a term called karuna true compassion.
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  Speaker 1: In Buddhism, this term speaks to the direct thing that I'm talking about the unwavering, consistent effort, day to day, that love in its most practical and enduring form gives us.
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  Speaker 1: It's sacrifice.
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  Speaker 1: And here's the cool thing about persistent action and sacrifice when it's fueled by love, it's how those great ideas in your head become real.
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  Speaker 1: It's how things get safe, because we know we can count on love.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: We can count on the routine, we can count on the consistency, we can count on you to always be there and to show up, not just when it's easy, but especially when it's hard.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Love is amazing in its ability.
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  Speaker 1: Amazing in its ability to answer the call when nobody else wants to.
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  Speaker 1: So, on this, take Action Tuesday.
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  Speaker 1: My friends, let's really lean into the enduring power of love in our daily hustle.
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  Speaker 1: Let it be the steady, unwavering force that has always been in your life.
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  Speaker 1: Just double down on it.
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  Speaker 1: You keep doing it.
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  Speaker 1: You're amazing.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're not doing it, think about one area in your life where you need to take consistent action.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: Just before you jump into anything, think about am I taking consistent action?
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: Am I being consistent?
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  Speaker 1: Connect with the love, and let this be your affirmation today I am love, and my persistent actions today are going to be a testament to the power of my commitment.
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: You've been listening to the Sweet Spot.
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  Speaker 1: This is Take Action Tuesday.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dr Derek Sweet and I thank you for joining me and walking alongside me on this incredible journey, this incredible journey in choosing love and being love.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: So listen, join me tomorrow for Win it All Wednesday, where we're going to explore how love helps us not just achieve success, but how it helps us find true victory, even when life throws us curveballs and things that don't really settle in our souls too well.
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  Speaker 1: Until then, my friend, you keep choosing love, you keep being loved, you keep taking consistent actions.
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  Speaker 1: Stick to your routines.
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  Speaker 1: Routines make you dangerous, routines make you formidable Routines, and consistent action is what makes you the best at what you do.
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  Speaker 1: It's not about being in the limelight, it's being in the shadows and getting it done.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I love you All right now.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: See you tomorrow, and if you have a friend who might need to hear this message about taking action, about the routines and the consistency of love, please share this, and I know you already subscribed.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Thank you.