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How I Finally Let Someone Take Care Of Me | EP 292 · Confident and Empowered Women

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  For
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  a
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  long
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  time
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  I
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  thought
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  independence
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  was
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  my
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  superpower,
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  and
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  it
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  was
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  until
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  it
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  became
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  a
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  wall.
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  If
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  you
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  have
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  ever
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  been
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  the
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  strong
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  one,
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  the
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  one
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  who.
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  Figures
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  it
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  out,
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  the
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  one
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  who
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  carries
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  it
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  all
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  and
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  never
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  asks
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  for
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  help,
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  and
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  gonna
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  crack
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  something
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  open
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  in
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  you
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  because
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  I'm
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  pulling
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  back
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  the
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  curtain.
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  On
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  the
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  moment.
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  I
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  realized
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  I
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  had
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  been
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  holding
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  on
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  so
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  tightly
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  to
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  protect
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  myself
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  that
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  there
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  was
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  no
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  room
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  for
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  love
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  or
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  support
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  to
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  actually
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  land.
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  So
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  let
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  me
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  really
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  talk
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  to
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  you
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  about
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  these
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  walls,
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  okay?
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  And
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  yes,
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  these
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  are
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  the
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  very
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  ones
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  my
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  husband
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  quite
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  lovingly
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  pointed
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  out
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  that
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  I
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  may
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  or
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  may
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  not
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  have
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  fully
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  acknowledged
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  at
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  the
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  time,
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  And
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  I'm
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  sharing
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  what
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  it
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  actually
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  took
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  because
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  friend,
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  opening
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  your
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  hands
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  when
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  you
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  have
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  been
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  gripping
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  this
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  tightly
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  is
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  a
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  whole
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  journey.
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  And
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  if
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  you've
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  been
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  wondering
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  why
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  the
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  love
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  and
• 1:07
  support
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  you
• 1:08
  say
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  you
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  want,
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  keeps
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  feeling
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  just
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  outta
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  reach,
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  let's
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  at
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  least
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  crack
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  the
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  door
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  open
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  for
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  someone
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  to
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  take
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  care
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  of
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  you.
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  Hey
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  friend,
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  real
• 1:20
  quick.
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  If
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  you
• 1:21
  are
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  not
• 1:22
  subscribed
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  to
• 1:22
  the
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  Confident
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  and
• 1:23
  Empowered
• 1:24
  Women
• 1:24
  Podcast
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  yet,
• 1:25
  what
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  are
• 1:26
  we
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  even
• 1:26
  doing?
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  Okay,
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  We
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  are
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  here
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  every
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  single
• 1:31
  Tuesday
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  and
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  Thursday,
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  and
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  this
• 1:33
  is
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  not
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  just
• 1:34
  a
• 1:34
  podcast.
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  This
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  is
• 1:36
  a
• 1:36
  community
• 1:37
  of
• 1:37
  women
• 1:37
  who
• 1:38
  are
• 1:38
  done
• 1:38
  shrinking,
• 1:39
  settling,
• 1:40
  hoping
• 1:41
  people
• 1:42
  pleasing,
• 1:42
  performing,
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  and
• 1:44
  putting
• 1:44
  herself
• 1:44
  last.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  remember
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  who
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  we
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  actually
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  are
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  and
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  build
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  the
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  life
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  that
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  reflects
• 1:52
  her.
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  We
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  are
• 1:53
  becoming
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  together,
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  friend,
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  and
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  if
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  you're
• 1:56
  not
• 1:56
  subscribed
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  yet,
• 1:57
  today
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  is
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  the
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  day.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey,
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  friend.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  yet
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  another
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  episode.
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  that
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  you're
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  here,
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  but
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  I
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  gotta
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  ask
• 2:08
  you,
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  okay,
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  are
• 2:09
  your
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  hands
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  open
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  or
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  are
• 2:12
  they
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  clenched?
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  Because
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  you
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  cannot
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  receive.
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  When
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  you
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  are
• 2:17
  holding
• 2:17
  on
• 2:18
  too
• 2:18
  tightly
• 2:19
  to
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  protect
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  yourself,
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  and
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  so
• 2:22
  many
• 2:22
  of
• 2:23
  us
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  are
• 2:24
  walking
• 2:24
  around
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  with
• 2:25
  our
• 2:26
  fist
• 2:26
  clenched
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  so
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  tight
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  around
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  our
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  independence,
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  our
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  armor,
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  or
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  just
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  in
• 2:34
  case
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  I
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  have
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  to
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  do
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  this
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  alone,
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  energy.
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  That
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  when
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  love
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  and
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  support
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  actually
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  show
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  up
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  and
• 2:42
  try
• 2:42
  to
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  land,
• 2:43
  there's
• 2:43
  nowhere
• 2:44
  for
• 2:44
  it
• 2:44
  to
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  go.
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  Okay.
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  I
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  am
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  speaking
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  from
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  experience
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  friend.
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  Okay?
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  Because
• 2:51
  for
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  a
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  really
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  long
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  time
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  I
• 2:54
  grew
• 2:54
  up
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  watching
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  single
• 2:55
  women
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  in
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  my
• 2:56
  life
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  do
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  everything
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  on
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  their
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  own.
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  Single
• 3:00
  moms,
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  all
• 3:01
  of
• 3:01
  them
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  figuring
• 3:02
  it
• 3:02
  out,
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  carrying
• 3:04
  it,
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  never
• 3:05
  asking
• 3:05
  for
• 3:05
  help,
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  because
• 3:06
  asking
• 3:07
  for
• 3:07
  help
• 3:07
  meant
• 3:08
  you
• 3:08
  couldn't
• 3:08
  handle
• 3:09
  it.
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  And
• 3:10
  I
• 3:11
  absorbed
• 3:12
  every
• 3:12
  single
• 3:13
  bit
• 3:13
  of
• 3:13
  that
• 3:14
  blueprint,
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  and
• 3:15
  I
• 3:15
  became
• 3:15
  the
• 3:16
  strong
• 3:16
  one,
• 3:16
  the
• 3:16
  capable
• 3:17
  one,
• 3:17
  the
• 3:18
  one
• 3:18
  who
• 3:18
  always
• 3:19
  figured
• 3:19
  it
• 3:19
  out.
• 3:20
  And
• 3:20
  then
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  became
• 3:21
  a
• 3:22
  single
• 3:22
  mom,
• 3:22
  myself
• 3:23
  and
• 3:23
  friend.
• 3:24
  I
• 3:25
  ran
• 3:25
  that
• 3:25
  blueprint
• 3:26
  so
• 3:26
  hard.
• 3:29
  I
• 3:29
  did
• 3:29
  it
• 3:29
  so
• 3:30
  well
• 3:30
  that
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  by
• 3:31
  the
• 3:31
  time
• 3:31
  real
• 3:32
  love
• 3:32
  actually
• 3:33
  showed
• 3:33
  up
• 3:34
  and
• 3:34
  I
• 3:35
  mean,
• 3:35
  real
• 3:36
  love.
• 3:37
  The
• 3:38
  kind
• 3:38
  that
• 3:38
  actually
• 3:39
  wanted
• 3:40
  to
• 3:40
  take
• 3:40
  care
• 3:40
  of
• 3:41
  me,
• 3:41
  I
• 3:42
  almost
• 3:42
  didn't
• 3:42
  let
• 3:43
  it
• 3:43
  in.
• 3:43
  Not
• 3:44
  because
• 3:44
  I
• 3:44
  didn't
• 3:45
  want
• 3:45
  it,
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  but
• 3:46
  because
• 3:47
  I
• 3:47
  didn't
• 3:47
  know
• 3:47
  how
• 3:48
  to
• 3:48
  receive
• 3:49
  it.
• 3:49
  My
• 3:50
  hands
• 3:50
  were
• 3:50
  clenched,
• 3:52
  my
• 3:52
  walls
• 3:52
  were
• 3:53
  up,
• 3:53
  and
• 3:54
  I
• 3:54
  may
• 3:55
  or
• 3:55
  may
• 3:55
  not
• 3:56
  have
• 3:56
  fully
• 3:56
  acknowledged
• 3:57
  just
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  how
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  high
• 3:58
  those
• 3:58
  walls
• 3:59
  were
• 3:59
  at
• 3:59
  the
• 4:00
  time.
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  Okay.
• 4:03
  My
• 4:03
  husband
• 4:03
  would
• 4:04
  probably
• 4:04
  like
• 4:05
  me
• 4:05
  to
• 4:05
  go
• 4:05
  on
• 4:05
  the
• 4:05
  record
• 4:06
  saying
• 4:06
  that
• 4:06
  they
• 4:06
  were
• 4:07
  very
• 4:07
  high.
• 4:08
  I'm
• 4:08
  just
• 4:08
  gonna
• 4:09
  say
• 4:09
  that
• 4:09
  for
• 4:09
  argument's
• 4:10
  sake.
• 4:10
  I
• 4:10
  can
• 4:11
  see
• 4:11
  where
• 4:11
  he
• 4:11
  was
• 4:11
  coming
• 4:12
  from.
• 4:12
  Okay.
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  So
• 4:15
  let's
• 4:16
  really
• 4:16
  get
• 4:16
  into
• 4:16
  it,
• 4:16
  friend,
• 4:17
  because
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  wanna
• 4:19
  talk
• 4:19
  about
• 4:19
  something
• 4:20
  that
• 4:20
  just
• 4:20
  doesn't
• 4:21
  get
• 4:21
  enough
• 4:22
  airtime
• 4:23
  in
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  self-love
• 4:24
  conversation.
• 4:25
  And
• 4:25
  that
• 4:25
  is
• 4:26
  the
• 4:26
  difference
• 4:26
  between
• 4:27
  wanting
• 4:28
  love
• 4:28
  and
• 4:28
  support
• 4:29
  and
• 4:30
  actually
• 4:30
  being
• 4:31
  able
• 4:31
  to
• 4:31
  receive
• 4:32
  it
• 4:33
  because
• 4:33
  friend,
• 4:33
  those
• 4:34
  are
• 4:34
  two
• 4:35
  very
• 4:35
  different
• 4:35
  things.
• 4:36
  I
• 4:37
  grew
• 4:37
  up
• 4:37
  in
• 4:37
  a
• 4:37
  house
• 4:38
  full
• 4:39
  of
• 4:39
  strong
• 4:39
  women,
• 4:40
  and
• 4:40
  I
• 4:40
  mean
• 4:40
  that
• 4:41
  in
• 4:41
  the
• 4:41
  most
• 4:41
  loving
• 4:42
  and
• 4:43
  admiring
• 4:44
  way
• 4:44
  possible.
• 4:45
  These
• 4:45
  women
• 4:46
  were
• 4:46
  incredible.
• 4:48
  They
• 4:48
  showed
• 4:49
  up
• 4:49
  every
• 4:49
  single
• 4:50
  day
• 4:50
  for
• 4:51
  their
• 4:51
  families.
• 4:52
  They
• 4:52
  figured
• 4:53
  things
• 4:53
  out,
• 4:53
  that
• 4:53
  they
• 4:54
  had
• 4:54
  no
• 4:54
  business
• 4:55
  trying
• 4:55
  to
• 4:55
  figure
• 4:56
  out.
• 4:57
  And
• 4:58
  so
• 4:58
  many
• 4:58
  times
• 4:59
  I
• 4:59
  seen
• 4:59
  them
• 4:59
  do
• 5:00
  it
• 5:00
  without
• 5:00
  asking
• 5:01
  for
• 5:01
  help.
• 5:02
  Not
• 5:02
  because
• 5:02
  they
• 5:03
  didn't
• 5:03
  need
• 5:03
  it,
• 5:04
  but
• 5:04
  it
• 5:04
  was
• 5:04
  just
• 5:04
  because
• 5:05
  they
• 5:05
  handled
• 5:06
  it.
• 5:07
  And
• 5:07
  I
• 5:07
  watched
• 5:08
  all
• 5:08
  of
• 5:08
  that
• 5:09
  and
• 5:09
  I
• 5:09
  took
• 5:09
  notes.
• 5:10
  Okay.
• 5:11
  I
• 5:11
  took
• 5:11
  very
• 5:12
  detailed
• 5:12
  notes
• 5:13
  and
• 5:15
  Me
• 5:15
  being
• 5:15
  the
• 5:15
  enthusiastic
• 5:16
  note
• 5:17
  taker
• 5:17
  that
• 5:17
  I
• 5:17
  am,
• 5:20
  But
• 5:21
  I
• 5:21
  said
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  myself,
• 5:22
  that
• 5:22
  is
• 5:23
  what
• 5:23
  a
• 5:23
  strong
• 5:23
  woman
• 5:24
  looks
• 5:24
  like.
• 5:25
  That
• 5:25
  is
• 5:26
  what
• 5:26
  love
• 5:27
  looks
• 5:27
  like.
• 5:28
  That
• 5:28
  is
• 5:28
  what
• 5:28
  showing
• 5:29
  up
• 5:29
  looks
• 5:30
  like.
• 5:30
  You
• 5:30
  carry
• 5:31
  it,
• 5:31
  you
• 5:31
  handle
• 5:32
  it.
• 5:32
  You
• 5:32
  never
• 5:33
  let
• 5:33
  them
• 5:33
  see
• 5:33
  you
• 5:34
  struggle.
• 5:35
  So
• 5:35
  when
• 5:35
  I
• 5:35
  became
• 5:36
  a
• 5:36
  single
• 5:36
  mom,
• 5:37
  two
• 5:37
  kids,
• 5:38
  no
• 5:39
  backup,
• 5:39
  nobody
• 5:40
  to
• 5:40
  tag
• 5:40
  in,
• 5:41
  but
• 5:41
  me,
• 5:41
  myself
• 5:42
  and
• 5:42
  I,
• 5:44
  I
• 5:45
  didn't
• 5:45
  even
• 5:45
  blink.
• 5:46
  I
• 5:46
  just
• 5:47
  activated
• 5:48
  the
• 5:48
  blueprint.
• 5:49
  I
• 5:49
  was
• 5:49
  the
• 5:49
  person
• 5:50
  who
• 5:51
  loaded
• 5:51
  up
• 5:51
  as
• 5:52
  many
• 5:52
  grocery
• 5:52
  bags
• 5:53
  as
• 5:53
  I
• 5:53
  could
• 5:53
  carry
• 5:54
  because
• 5:54
  I
• 5:55
  refused
• 5:55
  to
• 5:55
  make
• 5:56
  a
• 5:56
  second
• 5:56
  trip.
• 5:59
  If
• 5:59
  I
• 5:59
  could
• 5:59
  do
• 6:00
  all
• 6:00
  of
• 6:00
  it
• 6:00
  in
• 6:00
  one
• 6:01
  load,
• 6:01
  that's
• 6:02
  what
• 6:02
  was
• 6:02
  going
• 6:03
  down.
• 6:06
  And
• 6:06
  listen,
• 6:07
  I
• 6:07
  am
• 6:08
  so
• 6:08
  proud
• 6:10
  of
• 6:10
  that
• 6:10
  woman.
• 6:11
  She
• 6:11
  was
• 6:11
  incredible.
• 6:13
  She
• 6:13
  showed
• 6:13
  up
• 6:14
  every
• 6:14
  single
• 6:15
  day
• 6:16
  for
• 6:16
  her
• 6:16
  babies
• 6:17
  and
• 6:17
  she
• 6:18
  figured
• 6:18
  it
• 6:18
  out.
• 6:19
  But
• 6:20
  now
• 6:21
  that
• 6:21
  I
• 6:21
  know
• 6:22
  what
• 6:22
  I
• 6:22
  know,
• 6:23
  she
• 6:23
  was
• 6:24
  also
• 6:24
  slowly
• 6:25
  teaching
• 6:25
  herself
• 6:27
  that
• 6:27
  needing
• 6:27
  help.
• 6:28
  Was
• 6:29
  weakness,
• 6:30
  that
• 6:30
  receiving
• 6:31
  was
• 6:31
  dangerous,
• 6:33
  that
• 6:33
  the
• 6:33
  safest
• 6:34
  thing
• 6:34
  she
• 6:35
  could
• 6:35
  do
• 6:36
  was
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  never
• 6:36
  let
• 6:37
  anyone
• 6:37
  else
• 6:38
  get
• 6:38
  close
• 6:38
  enough
• 6:39
  to
• 6:39
  her
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  disappoint
• 6:40
  her
• 6:41
  and
• 6:41
  friend.
• 6:42
  That
• 6:42
  is
• 6:42
  not
• 6:43
  strength.
• 6:44
  That
• 6:44
  is
• 6:45
  armor
• 6:46
  and
• 6:46
  that
• 6:47
  armor
• 6:47
  is
• 6:48
  heavy.
• 6:49
  The
• 6:49
  blueprint
• 6:50
  built
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  armor
• 6:52
  and
• 6:52
  the
• 6:52
  armor
• 6:52
  did
• 6:53
  its
• 6:53
  job
• 6:53
  until
• 6:54
  it
• 6:54
  started
• 6:55
  keeping
• 6:55
  out
• 6:56
  the
• 6:56
  very
• 6:56
  things
• 6:57
  she
• 6:58
  was
• 6:58
  longing
• 6:58
  for
• 6:59
  the
• 6:59
  most.
• 7:00
  And
• 7:00
  here's
• 7:00
  where
• 7:01
  it
• 7:01
  really
• 7:01
  gets
• 7:01
  real.
• 7:02
  So
• 7:02
  many
• 7:03
  women
• 7:03
  are
• 7:03
  doing
• 7:04
  this
• 7:04
  without
• 7:05
  even
• 7:05
  realizing
• 7:06
  it.
• 7:07
  And
• 7:07
  when
• 7:07
  my
• 7:08
  husband
• 7:08
  came
• 7:08
  along,
• 7:09
  and
• 7:09
  let
• 7:09
  me
• 7:09
  just
• 7:10
  say,
• 7:10
  God
• 7:11
  really
• 7:11
  outdid
• 7:12
  himself
• 7:12
  on
• 7:13
  this
• 7:13
  one.
• 7:13
  Okay.
• 7:16
  Because
• 7:17
  when
• 7:17
  he
• 7:17
  came
• 7:17
  in,
• 7:18
  I
• 7:19
  knew
• 7:19
  my
• 7:19
  worth.
• 7:20
  I
• 7:20
  had
• 7:20
  done
• 7:21
  the
• 7:21
  work.
• 7:22
  I
• 7:22
  had
• 7:23
  been
• 7:23
  through
• 7:24
  enough
• 7:24
  to
• 7:25
  know
• 7:25
  exactly
• 7:26
  what
• 7:27
  I
• 7:27
  would
• 7:27
  and
• 7:28
  would
• 7:28
  not
• 7:29
  accept,
• 7:29
  and
• 7:30
  I
• 7:30
  was
• 7:30
  not
• 7:30
  about
• 7:30
  to
• 7:31
  let
• 7:31
  anybody
• 7:32
  come
• 7:32
  up
• 7:32
  in
• 7:32
  through
• 7:32
  here
• 7:33
  and
• 7:33
  set
• 7:34
  me
• 7:34
  back
• 7:34
  to
• 7:34
  zero.
• 7:35
  Okay,
• 7:38
  so
• 7:38
  the
• 7:38
  walls
• 7:38
  went
• 7:39
  up,
• 7:39
  friend.
• 7:42
  And
• 7:42
  not
• 7:42
  just
• 7:43
  no
• 7:43
  little
• 7:43
  cute
• 7:43
  walls,
• 7:44
  not
• 7:44
  the
• 7:44
  little
• 7:44
  cute
• 7:45
  white
• 7:45
  picket
• 7:46
  fence
• 7:46
  type
• 7:46
  situation.
• 7:49
  We
• 7:49
  are
• 7:49
  talking
• 7:50
  full
• 7:51
  fornication,
• 7:52
  honey,
• 7:52
  we
• 7:52
  are
• 7:52
  talking.
• 7:53
  He
• 7:53
  had
• 7:53
  to
• 7:53
  earn
• 7:54
  every
• 7:54
  brick
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  move
• 7:55
  it.
• 7:57
  And
• 7:57
  here's
• 7:58
  the
• 7:58
  thing,
• 7:59
  some
• 7:59
  of
• 7:59
  that
• 7:59
  was
• 8:00
  completely
• 8:00
  healthy
• 8:01
  and
• 8:01
  necessary,
• 8:03
  knowing
• 8:03
  your
• 8:03
  worth
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  protecting
• 8:05
  your
• 8:05
  peace.
• 8:06
  That
• 8:06
  is
• 8:07
  self-love
• 8:07
  friend.
• 8:08
  But
• 8:09
  somewhere
• 8:09
  between
• 8:10
  protecting
• 8:10
  yourself
• 8:11
  and
• 8:12
  being
• 8:12
  guarded,
• 8:13
  there
• 8:13
  is
• 8:14
  a
• 8:14
  line.
• 8:15
  And
• 8:15
  when
• 8:15
  you
• 8:15
  cross
• 8:16
  that
• 8:16
  line,
• 8:17
  you
• 8:17
  are
• 8:17
  no
• 8:18
  longer
• 8:18
  protecting
• 8:19
  yourself
• 8:19
  from
• 8:19
  being
• 8:20
  hurt.
• 8:20
  You
• 8:20
  are
• 8:21
  protecting
• 8:21
  yourself.
• 8:22
  From
• 8:23
  being
• 8:23
  loved,
• 8:25
  and
• 8:25
  my
• 8:25
  husband
• 8:26
  recently
• 8:26
  reminded
• 8:27
  me
• 8:27
  very
• 8:28
  lovingly,
• 8:29
  very
• 8:29
  gentle
• 8:30
  with
• 8:30
  receipts.
• 8:31
  Of
• 8:31
  course.
• 8:34
  That
• 8:34
  those
• 8:35
  walls
• 8:35
  were
• 8:36
  real
• 8:36
  and
• 8:37
  big,
• 8:38
  and
• 8:38
  I
• 8:38
  may
• 8:38
  or
• 8:39
  may
• 8:39
  not
• 8:39
  have
• 8:40
  initially
• 8:40
  been
• 8:41
  like,
• 8:41
  I
• 8:41
  don't
• 8:41
  know
• 8:41
  what
• 8:41
  you're
• 8:42
  talking
• 8:42
  about,
• 8:42
  but
• 8:43
  for
• 8:43
  argument's
• 8:44
  sake,
• 8:47
  let's
• 8:47
  just
• 8:47
  agree
• 8:48
  to
• 8:48
  disagree
• 8:49
  and
• 8:49
  just
• 8:49
  say
• 8:49
  that
• 8:49
  I
• 8:50
  can
• 8:50
  see
• 8:50
  where
• 8:50
  he's
• 8:50
  coming
• 8:50
  from
• 8:53
  Because
• 8:53
  here's
• 8:54
  what
• 8:54
  I
• 8:54
  understand
• 8:55
  now,
• 8:56
  when
• 8:57
  your
• 8:57
  fists
• 8:58
  are
• 8:58
  clenched
• 8:59
  around
• 8:59
  your
• 8:59
  independence
• 9:01
  and
• 9:01
  your
• 9:01
  armor.
• 9:02
  And
• 9:03
  all
• 9:03
  of
• 9:03
  your,
• 9:04
  I
• 9:04
  can
• 9:04
  handle
• 9:04
  this
• 9:05
  alone.
• 9:05
  Energy.
• 9:06
  There
• 9:06
  is
• 9:07
  literally
• 9:07
  no
• 9:08
  room
• 9:08
  for
• 9:08
  anything
• 9:09
  else
• 9:10
  to
• 9:10
  land.
• 9:11
  You
• 9:11
  cannot
• 9:11
  receive
• 9:12
  love
• 9:13
  with
• 9:13
  closed
• 9:14
  hands
• 9:14
  or
• 9:15
  a
• 9:15
  closed
• 9:15
  heart.
• 9:16
  You
• 9:16
  cannot
• 9:17
  receive
• 9:17
  support
• 9:18
  with
• 9:18
  your
• 9:19
  arms
• 9:19
  crossed.
• 9:20
  Okay.
• 9:22
  You
• 9:22
  cannot
• 9:23
  receive
• 9:24
  care
• 9:25
  when
• 9:25
  every
• 9:25
  part
• 9:26
  of
• 9:26
  you
• 9:26
  is
• 9:27
  braced
• 9:28
  for
• 9:28
  disappointment.
• 9:29
  And
• 9:30
  so
• 9:30
  many
• 9:30
  women
• 9:31
  are
• 9:31
  doing
• 9:31
  this
• 9:32
  not
• 9:33
  just
• 9:33
  in
• 9:33
  romantic
• 9:34
  relationships,
• 9:35
  but
• 9:35
  everywhere
• 9:36
  with
• 9:36
  friendships,
• 9:37
  with
• 9:37
  family,
• 9:38
  with
• 9:38
  opportunities
• 9:40
  with
• 9:41
  God.
• 9:42
  And
• 9:42
  if
• 9:42
  God
• 9:43
  isn't
• 9:43
  your
• 9:43
  jam,
• 9:44
  feel
• 9:44
  free
• 9:44
  to
• 9:45
  insert
• 9:45
  your
• 9:45
  beliefs.
• 9:46
  Here
• 9:47
  We
• 9:47
  are
• 9:47
  saying
• 9:48
  we
• 9:48
  want
• 9:49
  things
• 9:49
  and
• 9:50
  then
• 9:50
  holding
• 9:51
  on
• 9:51
  so
• 9:51
  tightly
• 9:53
  to
• 9:53
  the
• 9:53
  way
• 9:53
  we
• 9:53
  have
• 9:53
  always
• 9:54
  done
• 9:55
  things
• 9:55
  that
• 9:56
  there's
• 9:56
  no
• 9:56
  space
• 9:57
  for
• 9:57
  anything
• 9:58
  new
• 9:58
  to
• 9:58
  arrive.
• 10:00
  So
• 10:00
  where
• 10:00
  are
• 10:00
  you
• 10:01
  blocking
• 10:01
  what
• 10:02
  you
• 10:02
  want,
• 10:02
  friend?
• 10:03
  Is
• 10:03
  it
• 10:03
  in
• 10:04
  your
• 10:04
  thoughts
• 10:05
  telling
• 10:05
  yourself
• 10:06
  it
• 10:06
  is
• 10:06
  not
• 10:06
  coming
• 10:07
  or
• 10:08
  that
• 10:08
  you
• 10:08
  don't
• 10:09
  deserve
• 10:09
  it?
• 10:10
  Is
• 10:10
  it
• 10:10
  in
• 10:10
  your
• 10:10
  self-talk
• 10:11
  saying
• 10:12
  you
• 10:12
  are
• 10:12
  fine
• 10:12
  when
• 10:13
  you
• 10:13
  know
• 10:13
  you
• 10:14
  ain't
• 10:14
  fine?
• 10:16
  I
• 10:16
  mean,
• 10:16
  you
• 10:16
  fine
• 10:17
  looking,
• 10:17
  but
• 10:17
  you
• 10:17
  ain't
• 10:18
  fine.
• 10:18
  Fine.
• 10:18
  You.
• 10:21
  Is
• 10:21
  it
• 10:21
  in
• 10:22
  your
• 10:22
  behavior
• 10:23
  refusing
• 10:23
  to
• 10:24
  ask,
• 10:24
  refusing
• 10:25
  to
• 10:25
  receive,
• 10:26
  refusing
• 10:27
  to
• 10:27
  let
• 10:27
  anyone
• 10:28
  close
• 10:28
  enough
• 10:29
  to
• 10:29
  see
• 10:30
  the
• 10:30
  real
• 10:30
  you
• 10:31
  Because
• 10:31
  wherever
• 10:32
  it
• 10:32
  is,
• 10:33
  that
• 10:34
  is
• 10:34
  where
• 10:35
  the
• 10:35
  clinched
• 10:35
  fist
• 10:36
  is,
• 10:36
  and
• 10:37
  that
• 10:37
  is
• 10:37
  exactly
• 10:38
  where
• 10:39
  we
• 10:39
  are
• 10:39
  going
• 10:39
  to
• 10:39
  open
• 10:40
  it.
• 10:40
  now
• 10:40
  you
• 10:41
  know
• 10:41
  where
• 10:41
  the
• 10:41
  walls
• 10:42
  are
• 10:42
  and
• 10:43
  you
• 10:43
  know
• 10:44
  what
• 10:44
  they've
• 10:44
  been
• 10:44
  blocking.
• 10:46
  So
• 10:46
  let
• 10:46
  me
• 10:46
  just
• 10:47
  share
• 10:47
  with
• 10:47
  you
• 10:47
  what
• 10:47
  actually
• 10:48
  happened
• 10:49
  when
• 10:49
  I
• 10:49
  started
• 10:50
  to
• 10:50
  open
• 10:50
  my
• 10:50
  hands.
• 10:51
  So
• 10:52
  my
• 10:52
  husband,
• 10:53
  bless
• 10:54
  him,
• 10:54
  he
• 10:55
  said
• 10:55
  something
• 10:56
  to
• 10:56
  me
• 10:56
  early
• 10:56
  on
• 10:57
  that
• 10:57
  I'll
• 10:57
  never
• 10:57
  forget.
• 10:58
  He
• 10:58
  said,
• 10:59
  you
• 10:59
  know,
• 11:00
  you
• 11:00
  don't
• 11:00
  have
• 11:00
  to
• 11:01
  do
• 11:01
  it
• 11:01
  all
• 11:01
  on
• 11:02
  your
• 11:02
  own.
• 11:03
  And
• 11:03
  friend,
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  ugly
• 11:05
  cried
• 11:05
  in
• 11:05
  the
• 11:06
  shower.
• 11:06
  Okay.
• 11:07
  Because
• 11:07
  of
• 11:08
  course,
• 11:08
  you
• 11:08
  know,
• 11:08
  I
• 11:08
  didn't
• 11:09
  want
• 11:09
  anybody
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  hear
• 11:09
  me,
• 11:10
  but
• 11:10
  it
• 11:10
  was
• 11:10
  like
• 11:11
  that
• 11:11
  full
• 11:11
  ugly
• 11:12
  cry.
• 11:12
  I'm
• 11:13
  talking
• 11:13
  Mariah
• 11:14
  Carey,
• 11:14
  break
• 11:15
  breakdown.
• 11:15
  Okay?
• 11:19
  The
• 11:19
  kind
• 11:19
  where
• 11:19
  your
• 11:20
  face
• 11:20
  does
• 11:21
  things
• 11:21
  you
• 11:21
  did
• 11:21
  not
• 11:22
  know
• 11:22
  your
• 11:22
  face
• 11:22
  could
• 11:22
  do.
• 11:25
  Because
• 11:25
  I
• 11:26
  had
• 11:26
  been
• 11:26
  doing
• 11:26
  it
• 11:27
  on
• 11:27
  my
• 11:27
  own
• 11:28
  for
• 11:28
  so
• 11:28
  long
• 11:29
  that
• 11:30
  I
• 11:30
  genuinely
• 11:31
  forgot
• 11:31
  that
• 11:31
  was
• 11:31
  an
• 11:32
  option.
• 11:33
  I
• 11:33
  forgot
• 11:33
  that
• 11:34
  I
• 11:34
  was
• 11:34
  allowed
• 11:35
  to
• 11:35
  put
• 11:35
  it
• 11:35
  down.
• 11:36
  I
• 11:36
  forgot
• 11:37
  that
• 11:38
  asking
• 11:38
  for
• 11:38
  help
• 11:39
  did
• 11:39
  not
• 11:40
  mean
• 11:40
  I
• 11:40
  failed.
• 11:41
  I
• 11:42
  forgot
• 11:42
  that
• 11:42
  receiving
• 11:43
  was
• 11:43
  not
• 11:44
  the
• 11:44
  same
• 11:44
  as
• 11:45
  being
• 11:45
  weak.
• 11:46
  And
• 11:46
  letting
• 11:46
  someone
• 11:47
  take
• 11:47
  care
• 11:47
  of
• 11:48
  me.
• 11:48
  It
• 11:48
  didn't
• 11:48
  happen
• 11:49
  all
• 11:49
  at
• 11:49
  once.
• 11:50
  It
• 11:50
  was
• 11:51
  not
• 11:51
  one
• 11:52
  big
• 11:53
  rom-com
• 11:53
  moment
• 11:54
  where
• 11:54
  the
• 11:55
  walls
• 11:55
  came
• 11:55
  down
• 11:56
  and
• 11:56
  the
• 11:56
  angel
• 11:56
  sang
• 11:57
  and
• 11:57
  everything
• 11:58
  was
• 11:58
  immediately
• 11:58
  perfect.
• 11:59
  Okay.
• 12:00
  It
• 12:00
  was
• 12:00
  slow.
• 12:01
  Okay.
• 12:02
  It
• 12:02
  was
• 12:03
  uncomfortable
• 12:04
  at
• 12:04
  first.
• 12:05
  It
• 12:05
  felt
• 12:05
  strange
• 12:06
  to
• 12:06
  say,
• 12:07
  I
• 12:07
  need
• 12:07
  help
• 12:08
  with
• 12:08
  that.
• 12:08
  It
• 12:09
  felt
• 12:09
  vulnerable
• 12:10
  to
• 12:10
  say,
• 12:11
  actually,
• 12:12
  I'm
• 12:13
  not
• 12:13
  okay
• 12:13
  today.
• 12:14
  It
• 12:14
  felt
• 12:15
  terrifying
• 12:16
  to
• 12:16
  just
• 12:17
  let
• 12:17
  him,
• 12:19
  but
• 12:19
  here's
• 12:20
  what
• 12:20
  happened.
• 12:20
  When
• 12:20
  I
• 12:21
  started
• 12:21
  opening
• 12:22
  my
• 12:22
  hands,
• 12:22
  even
• 12:23
  just
• 12:23
  a
• 12:23
  little,
• 12:24
  and
• 12:24
  I've
• 12:24
  said
• 12:24
  this
• 12:25
  before.
• 12:25
  I
• 12:26
  became
• 12:26
  more,
• 12:27
  not
• 12:28
  less,
• 12:29
  more
• 12:29
  creative,
• 12:30
  more
• 12:30
  focused,
• 12:31
  more
• 12:31
  aligned,
• 12:33
  more
• 12:33
  present,
• 12:34
  more
• 12:35
  me,
• 12:36
  because
• 12:37
  I
• 12:37
  wasn't
• 12:37
  spending
• 12:38
  so
• 12:38
  much
• 12:38
  time
• 12:39
  managing
• 12:39
  everything
• 12:40
  alone,
• 12:41
  that
• 12:42
  I
• 12:42
  had
• 12:42
  nothing
• 12:43
  left
• 12:43
  to
• 12:43
  actually
• 12:44
  live.
• 12:45
  And
• 12:45
  the
• 12:45
  Soft
• 12:46
  Girl
• 12:46
  era
• 12:47
  friend,
• 12:48
  it
• 12:49
  was
• 12:49
  not
• 12:49
  born
• 12:49
  from
• 12:50
  weakness,
• 12:51
  it
• 12:51
  was
• 12:51
  born
• 12:52
  from
• 12:52
  safety,
• 12:53
  from
• 12:53
  finally
• 12:54
  having
• 12:54
  a.
• 12:55
  Space
• 12:56
  where
• 12:56
  I
• 12:56
  could
• 12:56
  put
• 12:56
  down
• 12:57
  the
• 12:57
  armor
• 12:58
  and
• 12:58
  just
• 12:59
  be,
• 13:00
  and
• 13:01
  from
• 13:01
  learning
• 13:02
  that
• 13:02
  being
• 13:02
  taken
• 13:03
  care
• 13:03
  of
• 13:04
  does
• 13:04
  not
• 13:04
  make
• 13:04
  me
• 13:05
  less
• 13:06
  strong.
• 13:07
  It
• 13:07
  made
• 13:07
  me
• 13:08
  recognize
• 13:09
  I
• 13:09
  was
• 13:10
  already
• 13:10
  whole.
• 13:12
  because
• 13:12
  listen,
• 13:13
  that
• 13:13
  Erykah
• 13:13
  Badu
• 13:14
  bag
• 13:14
  Lady
• 13:15
  Energy
• 13:15
  friend,
• 13:16
  it
• 13:16
  is
• 13:16
  real.
• 13:19
  I
• 13:20
  mean,
• 13:20
  you
• 13:20
  gonna
• 13:21
  miss
• 13:21
  your
• 13:21
  bus
• 13:22
  dragging
• 13:22
  all
• 13:23
  them
• 13:23
  bags
• 13:23
  like
• 13:23
  that.
• 13:26
  Erykah
• 13:26
  Badu
• 13:27
  tried
• 13:27
  to
• 13:27
  tell
• 13:27
  us
• 13:28
  at
• 13:28
  some
• 13:28
  point
• 13:29
  you
• 13:29
  have
• 13:30
  to
• 13:30
  put
• 13:30
  some
• 13:30
  of
• 13:30
  them
• 13:30
  down,
• 13:31
  friend.
• 13:32
  Not
• 13:32
  because
• 13:33
  you
• 13:33
  cannot
• 13:33
  carry
• 13:34
  them,
• 13:34
  but
• 13:35
  because
• 13:36
  you
• 13:36
  deserve
• 13:37
  to
• 13:37
  walk
• 13:38
  freely.
• 13:39
  So
• 13:40
  pack
• 13:40
  light.
• 13:44
  A
• 13:44
  friend
• 13:44
  I
• 13:45
  remember
• 13:46
  sitting
• 13:46
  with
• 13:46
  so
• 13:47
  much
• 13:47
  awareness.
• 13:48
  And
• 13:48
  absolutely
• 13:49
  nowhere
• 13:50
  to
• 13:50
  put
• 13:50
  it
• 13:51
  like
• 13:51
  something
• 13:52
  had
• 13:52
  cracked
• 13:53
  open.
• 13:53
  But
• 13:53
  I
• 13:54
  didn't
• 13:54
  know
• 13:54
  what
• 13:54
  to
• 13:54
  do
• 13:55
  with
• 13:55
  what
• 13:55
  was
• 13:55
  spilling
• 13:56
  out.
• 13:56
  I
• 13:56
  had
• 13:57
  all
• 13:57
  the
• 13:57
  feelings
• 13:58
  and
• 13:58
  none
• 13:59
  of
• 13:59
  the
• 13:59
  clarity,
• 14:00
  and
• 14:01
  I
• 14:01
  kept
• 14:01
  circling
• 14:02
  the
• 14:02
  same
• 14:03
  questions,
• 14:03
  wondering
• 14:04
  why
• 14:04
  nothing
• 14:04
  was
• 14:05
  shifting.
• 14:05
  And
• 14:06
  then
• 14:07
  I
• 14:07
  started
• 14:07
  asking.
• 14:08
  More
• 14:09
  high
• 14:09
  vibration
• 14:10
  questions.
• 14:11
  That
• 14:12
  is
• 14:12
  when
• 14:12
  everything
• 14:13
  started
• 14:14
  to
• 14:14
  move,
• 14:15
  not
• 14:15
  because
• 14:15
  I
• 14:15
  had
• 14:16
  all
• 14:16
  the
• 14:16
  answers,
• 14:17
  but
• 14:17
  because
• 14:17
  the
• 14:17
  right
• 14:18
  questions
• 14:19
  help
• 14:19
  me
• 14:20
  to
• 14:20
  hear
• 14:20
  the
• 14:20
  answers
• 14:21
  I
• 14:21
  already
• 14:22
  had
• 14:22
  inside
• 14:22
  me.
• 14:23
  If
• 14:23
  you
• 14:24
  are
• 14:24
  sitting
• 14:24
  in
• 14:25
  that
• 14:25
  place
• 14:25
  right
• 14:25
  now,
• 14:26
  that
• 14:26
  is
• 14:27
  not
• 14:27
  a
• 14:27
  dead
• 14:27
  end
• 14:28
  friend.
• 14:28
  That
• 14:29
  is
• 14:29
  an
• 14:29
  invitation
• 14:30
  to
• 14:30
  ask
• 14:31
  yourself
• 14:31
  more
• 14:32
  high
• 14:32
  vibration
• 14:33
  questions
• 14:34
  and
• 14:34
  this
• 14:35
  feeling
• 14:35
  you
• 14:35
  have
• 14:36
  right
• 14:36
  now
• 14:37
  this
• 14:37
  is
• 14:37
  exactly
• 14:38
  the
• 14:38
  right
• 14:39
  time
• 14:39
  to
• 14:39
  use
• 14:40
  them.
• 14:40
  While
• 14:41
  something
• 14:41
  is
• 14:41
  still
• 14:42
  cracking
• 14:43
  open
• 14:43
  and
• 14:43
  ready
• 14:44
  to
• 14:44
  receive
• 14:45
  the
• 14:45
  Main
• 14:45
  Character
• 14:46
  Energy
• 14:46
  Journal
• 14:47
  Prompts,
• 14:47
  I
• 14:47
  linked
• 14:48
  them
• 14:48
  for
• 14:48
  you
• 14:48
  in
• 14:48
  the
• 14:48
  show
• 14:49
  notes.
• 14:49
  They're
• 14:50
  gonna
• 14:50
  help
• 14:50
  you
• 14:50
  get
• 14:50
  out
• 14:51
  of
• 14:51
  your
• 14:51
  head
• 14:52
  and
• 14:52
  into
• 14:53
  your
• 14:53
  heart
• 14:54
  where
• 14:54
  your
• 14:54
  truth
• 14:55
  resides.
• 14:56
  And
• 14:56
  friend,
• 14:58
  I
• 14:58
  think
• 14:58
  you're
• 14:58
  ready.
• 15:01
  Okay
• 15:02
  friend.
• 15:02
  Here
• 15:03
  is
• 15:03
  your
• 15:04
  self-Love.
• 15:04
  Two
• 15:05
  step
• 15:05
  for
• 15:06
  the
• 15:06
  Day
• 15:07
  friend.
• 15:08
  This
• 15:08
  is
• 15:09
  called
• 15:09
  Let
• 15:10
  Someone
• 15:10
  In.
• 15:11
  Ooh,
• 15:12
  friend
• 15:13
  Yes.
• 15:15
  Listen,
• 15:15
  you
• 15:16
  know,
• 15:16
  we
• 15:16
  love
• 15:16
  us
• 15:17
  a
• 15:17
  good
• 15:17
  two
• 15:17
  step
• 15:18
  around
• 15:18
  here
• 15:18
  because
• 15:18
  it
• 15:19
  is
• 15:19
  simple
• 15:19
  and
• 15:20
  it
• 15:20
  always
• 15:21
  gets
• 15:21
  the
• 15:21
  party
• 15:22
  started.
• 15:22
  And
• 15:23
  don't
• 15:23
  forget
• 15:23
  to
• 15:23
  stick
• 15:24
  around
• 15:24
  for
• 15:25
  the
• 15:25
  remix.
• 15:25
  Okay?
• 15:27
  Step
• 15:27
  one,
• 15:28
  find
• 15:29
  the
• 15:29
  clenched
• 15:30
  fist.
• 15:31
  Where
• 15:31
  specifically
• 15:33
  are
• 15:33
  you
• 15:33
  blocking
• 15:34
  love,
• 15:35
  support,
• 15:35
  or
• 15:35
  connection
• 15:36
  right
• 15:37
  now?
• 15:37
  Not
• 15:38
  in
• 15:38
  general,
• 15:39
  but
• 15:39
  specifically
• 15:41
  is
• 15:41
  it
• 15:41
  in
• 15:41
  your
• 15:42
  thoughts,
• 15:42
  your
• 15:43
  self-talk,
• 15:44
  your
• 15:44
  behavior?
• 15:46
  Is
• 15:46
  it
• 15:46
  your
• 15:46
  walls?
• 15:47
  Name
• 15:47
  it,
• 15:48
  because
• 15:48
  you
• 15:49
  cannot
• 15:49
  open
• 15:50
  what
• 15:51
  you
• 15:51
  have
• 15:51
  not
• 15:52
  identified,
• 15:53
  so
• 15:53
  get
• 15:53
  honest
• 15:54
  with
• 15:54
  yourself.
• 15:55
  No
• 15:55
  shade
• 15:56
  and
• 15:56
  no
• 15:57
  shame.
• 15:58
  Just,
• 15:58
  where
• 15:58
  is
• 15:59
  the
• 15:59
  fist?
• 15:59
  Clenched
• 16:00
  the
• 16:00
  tightest
• 16:01
  right
• 16:02
  now.
• 16:03
  And
• 16:03
  then
• 16:03
  step
• 16:04
  two,
• 16:05
  open
• 16:05
  one
• 16:06
  finger.
• 16:07
  I
• 16:07
  am
• 16:07
  not
• 16:08
  asking
• 16:08
  you
• 16:08
  to
• 16:09
  tear
• 16:09
  down
• 16:09
  all
• 16:10
  of
• 16:10
  your
• 16:10
  walls
• 16:11
  all
• 16:12
  the
• 16:12
  way
• 16:12
  down
• 16:12
  right
• 16:13
  now,
• 16:14
  because
• 16:14
  listen,
• 16:15
  I'm
• 16:15
  not
• 16:15
  asking
• 16:15
  you
• 16:15
  to
• 16:15
  become
• 16:16
  a
• 16:16
  completely
• 16:17
  different
• 16:17
  person
• 16:17
  overnight,
• 16:18
  but
• 16:19
  I
• 16:19
  am
• 16:19
  inviting
• 16:20
  you
• 16:20
  to
• 16:21
  open
• 16:22
  one
• 16:22
  finger,
• 16:23
  one
• 16:24
  small
• 16:24
  act
• 16:25
  of
• 16:25
  receiving
• 16:26
  this
• 16:26
  week.
• 16:27
  Ask
• 16:28
  for
• 16:28
  help
• 16:28
  with
• 16:29
  one
• 16:29
  thing,
• 16:30
  accept
• 16:30
  support
• 16:31
  when
• 16:32
  it
• 16:32
  is
• 16:32
  offered.
• 16:33
  Instead
• 16:33
  of
• 16:34
  saying,
• 16:34
  I'm
• 16:35
  fine,
• 16:36
  let
• 16:36
  someone
• 16:37
  do
• 16:37
  something
• 16:37
  for
• 16:38
  you
• 16:39
  without
• 16:39
  feeling
• 16:39
  guilty
• 16:40
  about
• 16:40
  it.
• 16:41
  One
• 16:41
  finger.
• 16:42
  That
• 16:43
  is
• 16:43
  all
• 16:43
  because
• 16:44
  one
• 16:44
  finger
• 16:45
  leads
• 16:46
  to
• 16:46
  another,
• 16:47
  and
• 16:47
  then
• 16:47
  before
• 16:48
  you
• 16:48
  know
• 16:48
  it,
• 16:48
  your
• 16:49
  hands
• 16:49
  are
• 16:50
  open
• 16:51
  and
• 16:51
  friend,
• 16:52
  open
• 16:52
  hands
• 16:53
  receive
• 16:55
  everything.
• 16:56
  And
• 16:57
  now
• 16:57
  for
• 16:57
  the
• 16:58
  remix,
• 16:58
  because
• 16:59
  listen,
• 16:59
  you
• 17:00
  cannot
• 17:00
  receive
• 17:01
  what
• 17:02
  you
• 17:02
  are
• 17:02
  holding
• 17:02
  onto
• 17:03
  tightly
• 17:04
  to
• 17:04
  protect
• 17:05
  yourself
• 17:05
  from
• 17:05
  it.
• 17:06
  So
• 17:06
  loosen
• 17:07
  the
• 17:07
  grip
• 17:07
  friend,
• 17:08
  not
• 17:09
  because
• 17:09
  you're
• 17:09
  not
• 17:09
  strong
• 17:10
  enough
• 17:10
  to
• 17:10
  keep
• 17:10
  holding
• 17:11
  on,
• 17:11
  but
• 17:12
  because
• 17:12
  you
• 17:12
  are
• 17:13
  strong
• 17:13
  enough
• 17:13
  to
• 17:14
  finally
• 17:15
  let
• 17:15
  go.
• 17:16
  So
• 17:17
  this
• 17:17
  is
• 17:18
  your
• 17:18
  YOU
• 17:19
  step.
• 17:20
  Get
• 17:20
  still,
• 17:21
  get
• 17:21
  quiet
• 17:22
  and
• 17:22
  ask
• 17:22
  yourself,
• 17:23
  what
• 17:24
  is
• 17:24
  my
• 17:24
  heart
• 17:25
  telling
• 17:25
  me
• 17:26
  to
• 17:26
  do
• 17:26
  next?
• 17:27
  Whatever
• 17:28
  comes
• 17:28
  up,
• 17:29
  that
• 17:29
  is
• 17:30
  your
• 17:30
  next
• 17:30
  right
• 17:31
  aligned
• 17:31
  step.
• 17:32
  Not
• 17:32
  the
• 17:33
  whole
• 17:33
  plan,
• 17:34
  just
• 17:34
  the
• 17:35
  next
• 17:35
  move
• 17:36
  and
• 17:37
  trust
• 17:37
  her
• 17:37
  friend.
• 17:38
  She
• 17:38
  already
• 17:39
  knows.
• 17:40
  Now
• 17:40
  lemme
• 17:41
  pour
• 17:41
  into
• 17:42
  you
• 17:42
  real
• 17:42
  quick.
• 17:43
  And
• 17:43
  this
• 17:43
  is
• 17:43
  where
• 17:44
  I'm
• 17:44
  speaking
• 17:45
  directly
• 17:46
  to
• 17:46
  the
• 17:46
  heart
• 17:46
  of
• 17:47
  the
• 17:47
  woman
• 17:47
  who
• 17:48
  has
• 17:48
  been
• 17:48
  the
• 17:48
  strong
• 17:49
  one
• 17:49
  for
• 17:49
  so
• 17:50
  long.
• 17:50
  She,
• 17:51
  she
• 17:51
  doesn't
• 17:51
  even
• 17:51
  remember
• 17:52
  what
• 17:52
  it
• 17:53
  felt
• 17:53
  like
• 17:54
  to
• 17:54
  not
• 17:55
  be.
• 17:56
  The
• 17:56
  one
• 17:56
  who
• 17:57
  handles
• 17:57
  everything,
• 17:58
  the
• 17:59
  one
• 17:59
  nobody
• 18:00
  worries
• 18:00
  about,
• 18:01
  because
• 18:01
  she
• 18:02
  always
• 18:03
  figures
• 18:03
  it
• 18:03
  out.
• 18:04
  The
• 18:04
  one
• 18:04
  who
• 18:04
  says,
• 18:05
  I'm
• 18:05
  fine,
• 18:06
  so
• 18:06
  automatically
• 18:08
  she
• 18:08
  doesn't
• 18:08
  even
• 18:09
  check
• 18:09
  in
• 18:10
  if
• 18:10
  it's
• 18:10
  true
• 18:11
  anymore.
• 18:12
  I
• 18:12
  see
• 18:13
  you
• 18:13
  friend,
• 18:14
  and
• 18:15
  I
• 18:15
  want
• 18:15
  you
• 18:15
  to
• 18:15
  know
• 18:16
  the
• 18:16
  strength
• 18:17
  that
• 18:17
  got
• 18:17
  you
• 18:18
  here.
• 18:18
  It
• 18:18
  is
• 18:19
  real
• 18:20
  and
• 18:20
  it's
• 18:20
  beautiful,
• 18:22
  and
• 18:22
  it
• 18:22
  carried
• 18:22
  you
• 18:22
  through
• 18:23
  things
• 18:24
  that
• 18:24
  would've
• 18:24
  broken
• 18:25
  so
• 18:25
  many
• 18:26
  other
• 18:26
  people.
• 18:27
  I'm
• 18:27
  not
• 18:27
  asking
• 18:28
  you
• 18:28
  to
• 18:28
  give
• 18:29
  that
• 18:29
  up.
• 18:30
  But
• 18:30
  friend
• 18:31
  strength
• 18:32
  was
• 18:32
  never
• 18:32
  meant
• 18:33
  to
• 18:33
  be
• 18:33
  a
• 18:33
  solo
• 18:34
  act.
• 18:35
  Even
• 18:35
  the
• 18:35
  strongest
• 18:36
  women
• 18:37
  need
• 18:37
  someone
• 18:38
  in
• 18:38
  their
• 18:38
  corner.
• 18:39
  Even
• 18:40
  the
• 18:40
  most
• 18:40
  capable
• 18:41
  women
• 18:42
  deserve
• 18:42
  to
• 18:42
  be
• 18:43
  taken
• 18:43
  care
• 18:44
  of.
• 18:44
  Even
• 18:45
  the
• 18:45
  woman
• 18:45
  who
• 18:45
  always
• 18:46
  figures
• 18:47
  it
• 18:47
  out
• 18:48
  deserves
• 18:48
  to
• 18:49
  have
• 18:49
  someone
• 18:49
  figure
• 18:50
  it
• 18:50
  out.
• 18:51
  For
• 18:51
  her,
• 18:51
  sometimes
• 18:53
  you
• 18:53
  are
• 18:53
  allowed
• 18:54
  to
• 18:54
  put
• 18:55
  it
• 18:55
  down.
• 18:56
  You
• 18:56
  are
• 18:56
  allowed
• 18:57
  to
• 18:57
  receive.
• 18:58
  You
• 18:58
  are
• 18:59
  allowed
• 18:59
  to
• 18:59
  let
• 19:00
  someone
• 19:01
  take
• 19:01
  care
• 19:02
  of
• 19:02
  you,
• 19:03
  not
• 19:03
  because
• 19:03
  you
• 19:03
  can't
• 19:04
  handle
• 19:04
  it
• 19:04
  alone,
• 19:05
  but
• 19:06
  because
• 19:07
  you
• 19:07
  don't
• 19:07
  have
• 19:07
  to
• 19:08
  anymore
• 19:09
  open
• 19:10
  your
• 19:10
  hands.
• 19:10
  Friend.
• 19:11
  Everything
• 19:12
  you've
• 19:12
  been
• 19:12
  asking
• 19:13
  for
• 19:14
  has
• 19:14
  been
• 19:14
  trying
• 19:15
  to
• 19:15
  find
• 19:15
  its
• 19:15
  way
• 19:16
  to
• 19:16
  you
• 19:17
  give
• 19:17
  it
• 19:18
  somewhere
• 19:18
  to
• 19:18
  land.
• 19:22
  Ooh,
• 19:22
  friend.
• 19:23
  Friend.
• 19:23
  Yes.
• 19:25
  I
• 19:25
  can
• 19:25
  even
• 19:26
  feel
• 19:26
  your
• 19:26
  hand
• 19:27
  opening
• 19:27
  as
• 19:28
  we
• 19:28
  speak.
• 19:29
  Yes,
• 19:30
  friend.
• 19:31
  And
• 19:31
  remember,
• 19:32
  you
• 19:32
  are
• 19:33
  not
• 19:33
  an
• 19:33
  extra
• 19:34
  in
• 19:34
  somebody
• 19:34
  else's.
• 19:35
  Story.
• 19:36
  You
• 19:36
  are
• 19:36
  the
• 19:36
  main
• 19:37
  character
• 19:38
  of
• 19:38
  your
• 19:38
  very
• 19:39
  own
• 19:39
  story,
• 19:40
  so
• 19:41
  go
• 19:41
  be
• 19:41
  her,
• 19:42
  the
• 19:42
  one
• 19:43
  you've
• 19:43
  been
• 19:43
  becoming.
• 19:44
  She's
• 19:45
  been
• 19:45
  waiting
• 19:45
  on
• 19:45
  you
• 19:46
  to
• 19:46
  live
• 19:46
  out
• 19:47
  loud.
• 19:48
  And
• 19:48
  no
• 19:48
  matter
• 19:48
  what
• 19:49
  comes
• 19:49
  your
• 19:49
  way
• 19:50
  together,
• 19:50
  we
• 19:51
  can
• 19:51
  Encourage
• 19:52
  Over
• 19:53
  Everything.
• 19:54
  Friend,
• 19:55
  I'm
• 19:55
  cheering
• 19:56
  for
• 19:56
  you
• 19:56
  loud
• 19:57
  and
• 19:57
  obnoxiously
• 19:58
  always,
• 19:59
  and
• 19:59
  I
• 19:59
  will
• 19:59
  see
• 20:00
  you
• 20:00
  in
• 20:00
  the
• 20:01
  next
• 20:01
  episode.