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[EP3] How to overcome procrastination · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  So the question was, distractions, procrastination, until last minute, especially on weekends when I'm bored or want to postpone things, I know they need to be done and I distract myself by eating or doing something other that's not serving the purpose, how to overcome.
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  So a couple of things I would say is, you know, we might think it's about motivation, like the motivation to do it.
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  And you could say maybe like that could be a question underneath the question.
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  How do I motivate myself when I'm, you know, procrastinating maybe?
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  So I'm guessing like a question underneath the question here.
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  And as far as like our human nature, you know, the way our brains are wired, you know, our mind is wired.
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  We are generally either drawn towards something or we are moving away from something, right?
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  So that's generally how our minds like to work.
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  from or towards. And for some of us, you could say our motivation is towards. Like I'm generally
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  more big picture thinking and I'm, you could say, a visionary. So I generally am more drawn to a
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  vision of how things could be. And if you try and motivate me, influence me by pushing me away from
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  pain then it generally doesn't work you know but if you can help me connect with a vision that i
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  have um then i'm generally kind of just drawn to it you know the energy of that vision i'm pulled
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  towards it um for some of you that might sound quite odd because you're like i'm not drawn
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  towards the vision i need to kind of push myself away from some kind of pain basically which is
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  It's just kind of how some of us are wired and some of us like it's a combination.
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  So for some of you, it might be that you would need to motivate yourself away from pain.
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  So the pain might be if that thing was not done, then what would be the repercussions of that?
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  When someone tries to sell me on the repercussions on things, I'm not interested because I'm drawn towards something.
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  right so generally anyone does that who here is kind of more towards anyone
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  okay and then who's away from would you say like just a rough guess on how your mind works okay
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  and then who's like a bit of both a bit of both towards but then also you need the away from
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  so you can use these to help you and then another way i would say is um recently i've kind of you
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  in a way been reinventing myself to the next version of me this year has been quite a bit of
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  that that's been my journey um and so again like connecting with the vision right so for me it was
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  like creating the vision of the future me that i am wanting to call forth the future that i'm
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  wanting you know i'm wanting to create for myself and what it would take for me to get to that place
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  within myself. So let's say a certain level of fitness, a certain level of health. You know,
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  in my business, I want to kind of turn things around and grow it even more. You know, certain
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  relationships, you know, near and far that I'm wanting to heal or develop and grow.
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  So just to give some examples and, you know, like what are the steps that are required. So if I
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  think about one of the things from a fitness point of view is that you know I never really
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  went to the gym or lifted weights I just did it back in the day when I was training as an athlete
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  and we used to kind of do more like circuit training bit of weights but mostly circuit training
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  but now I do you know I've started going to the gym this year and it's been an interesting journey
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  and you know like i went to the gym today and um i don't generally feel like wanting to go
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  and sometimes you know there's a lot of steps seems like there's a lot of steps it's like oh
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  i need to finish that i need to put this together i need to prepare that i need to do that and it's
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  like keep taking one more small step in the direction of getting that thing done right so
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  getting that thing done that you're procrastinating on might have several steps or stages or parts to
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  it you know so how can you actually just get started with the smallest part and this is
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  another thing you've probably heard me say many many times you know break it down into the smallest
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  chunk the smallest thing that you can manage and then do that immediately like as immediately as
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  possible so it could be like you know you've got you've just woken up and you know the first thought
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  in the mind is like oh just you know shit today's the day i said i'll go to the gym or get on the mat
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  and you know that you know probably from experience having experienced it many times
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  that the mind is going to then continue to stack those kinds of thoughts on top of you know itself
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  so that the emotions that you're going to feel from those thought patterns is very quickly like,
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  I should just stay in a bit. It's cold. I'll just pull the blanket over. Let me just stay here for
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  a little bit more. Another five minutes, another half an hour. And that's the moment you want to
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  interrupt that train of thought. Interrupt that train straight away by, okay, just throw the
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  throw the sheets away right so straight away it's like okay you feel some cold
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  and it's like that's annoying like okay now just get the upper body up like get up right and it's
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  like all right take the first leg out of the bed take the second leg out and like get on your feet
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  like stand up and it's like ah the floor is cold the room is cold or whatever it is like you know
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  in i think most of us in northern hemisphere so right it's like ah it sucks that's annoying
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  but it's like I'm one step closer to, let's say, getting to the gym today, right?
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  And the next step, it's like, okay, you need to do whatever, right?
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  Go to the bathroom, get changed, whatever.
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  And it's like minimum number of steps for you to get to that thing and get it done.
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  And so often, one of the ways we, you know, procrastinate or distract ourselves
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  is that we do a lot of things that don't really, so to speak, move the needle.
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  We do this in all areas of our lives.
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  You know, same thing with business as well.
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  Like, you know, those of you who run a business,
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  we do a lot of little things that kind of give us the quick hit,
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  like, you know, like a quick dopamine hit, a quick high of like,
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  oh, I took something off my list, right?
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  I did one more thing off my list.
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  And it's like we're doing lots of little things that actually doesn't really add up.
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  you in the same place as you were yesterday, last week, last year, you know, it's not really moving
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  the needle forward, so to speak. Whereas, you know, there's certain things that you've committed to,
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  you know, you want certain results. So if you reverse engineer the results, you know, it equates
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  to a lot of steps like, okay, on these days, you know, or this many times I need to get on the mat,
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  or I need to get to the gym, or I need to be doing this thing. And it's normally the thing that we
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  resist the most, right? And that's where our growth is. That's where the transformation is.
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  That's where the new you, right? Like that future you lives. You could say on the other side of
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  that resistance, you know, on the other side of that procrastination. Because whatever, you know,
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  our nervous system is, you know, it's going to keep us in what feels comfortable. Because comfortable
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  and predictable means safe and safe means you might survive.
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  So remember, our nervous system is always wired for survival, even in the smallest ways.
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  So it is training an emotional muscle, talk about, you know, working out.
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  We're training an emotional muscle of doing the thing that feels uncomfortable,
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  feels you know difficult feels out of your character right it's not in your realm of
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  what is normal because what is in the realm of your normal has already given you the results
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  you've gotten so to get new results you have to do different things which will be outside of what
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  you're comfortable with, meaning it's in the outside of the comfort zone, I mean it's
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  uncomfortable, right, it's unreasonable, you cannot achieve something new from being reasonable,
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  from being comfortable, like you have to get unreasonable with yourself, and we are now
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  in a time, like for a while now, yes, humanity, it's like, you know, we are, we've just kind
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  of cushioned ourselves and we don't want to feel any discomfort.
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  Previous generations, like generations
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  before us, they came out of, what was it, like
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  World War II and recovering from that. So there was no time to sit and
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  feel things. It was like, get shit done. Rebuild.
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  Get moving. Which had its repercussions.
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  We have now gone to the other extreme where we don't want to feel any discomfort.
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  you know but when there isn't that kind of you could say um pressure or discomfort
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  or friction within ourselves nothing new can be created we're just going to keep getting the same
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  thing so to summarize you know how do you get out of procrastination i would say use those away from
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  towards, right, you could say motivation
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  and line it up with your values
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  and also your vision for yourself
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  and what you want to create for yourself
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  and who, the who, right, the you, the future you
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  that you're wanting to call forth and create
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  and reverse engineer that into the smaller step
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  today or this week
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  and take that very first step
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  in the most immediate instance of time,
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  whatever that may be.
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  You've gone through, let's say, Miriam,
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  applying for jobs.
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  It wasn't comfortable, it wasn't easy,
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  but then once you started to do one,
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  you started to do a few more,
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  and it's like, okay, it's a little bit more comfortable.
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  It's not the most comfortable thing, maybe,
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  but the more you do it, the more comfortable you will get.
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  And that's how we get comfortable with something.
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  It's like we just do it a lot,
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  reps, so to speak, repetitions.
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  Hope that helps.