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#221: You’re Not Losing Weight Because of The Trauma Connection · The Hotmomz Lifestyle Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Founder, creator of Hot Moms Lifestyle with a Z, helping the brave, driven, as successful career women, helping them get fit, sexy bodies, healthy, and super fit, without doing cardio, without doing a bunch of fucking HIIT training and training too much and all that stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we do it by healing trauma, trauma-informed coaching.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you address your hormones and your food and your workouts and you don't address the nervous system and the woman living in the body and what she's experienced and her beliefs based on the traumas that she's been through and micro-traumas, then you're just gonna keep running into the same old shit.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: And there's very few people who actually want that level of change.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: So um, yeah, that's what we do, and that's why I've got so many results.
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  SPEAKER_00: Over 3,000 positive case studies, and we stopped counting because I've been doing this for 17 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've committed my life to it, it's changed my life, it's changed my client's life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what's cool is when they work with me, not only do they get the bodies and the outcome of the body, some of them no longer have autoimmune issues, Hashimoto's, adrenal fatigue, thyroid problems, but they improve the relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: They some of them that struggle with uh infertility can have babies, they make more money, they're but they become more valuable in the marketplace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, we've I can't tell you the number of women who have increased their income just by working with us to get healthy because you can only experience a level of success based on what your body can hold.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, if you're like me and most people, you can get the result, you can make the money, you can get the body, but you don't you keep it's hard to keep it and or sometimes you lose it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just like you're always starting over.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's because your nervous system, you've never addressed the trauma in the nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a there's a limit, there's an there's like an upper limit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, your nervous system doesn't believe it's safe for you to have what you actually want.
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  SPEAKER_00: So people come here and we help you to clear all that so your body can actually hold more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so that's why that's why we do what we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm a self-made, you know, made millions of dollars, come from nothing, literally come from the dirt group fucking gardens over here.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I was not supposed to be healthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not even here to share my thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: What I want to come on here and talk about today, and we'll put this on the podcast on the Hot Mom's Lifestyle podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're not following that, definitely fucking go listen.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll lose weight and you'll learn more on that shit than you will reading 10 books and hiring a fucking$10,000 coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this morning I was in the gym, there was a lady in there, and uh I can read energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: People this is another reason why people pay me is because uh they call me the string bikini shaman because I can feel and sense and see everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this is woman in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can tell by looking at her, she's she definitely has been in the gym before because she had muscle memory.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can just tell, like, she she's been in the gym before.
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  SPEAKER_00: She was a bit older, but her energy was very um kind of like insecure in a way that's like um I well, I know what to do, and I know, I know, I know, I know, I know.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it reminded me of this one lady who who joined us, and honestly, we get this a lot when people are big on their titles.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when we get women who are like yoga masters, energy healers, um, physicians or trainers themselves, they have big egos, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who who they are, you know, just they would it's almost like it blocks them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me explain.
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  SPEAKER_00: There was this one girl, she was like this yoga master.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I've had a few other ones that are in the energy work, and they're like, Well, I've already done all the work and I've done all this stuff, and I'm this and I'm that and I'm this and I've done this and I'm that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, yeah, but you're what I want to say is, yeah, well, you're fat.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, and they've got a reason for everything, and they already know everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, okay, so why are you here?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you had healed the thing, if you had done the work, you would not be where you're at.
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  SPEAKER_00: You would have the body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you've been in the gym, this is a rude awakening.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have been training for years and you've been in the gym and you know what to do, and your body doesn't look like these, like like a legit fitness girl, you're fucking doing something bad wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I I'm just healthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm bullshit.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know how you feel, I know the shit on the deeper subconscious level, but you're not allowing yourself to go there because it matters that much, and you can't fucking stomach the disappointment and the shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is gonna free you, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you stop avoiding the shame, you're gonna, it's gonna free you the fuck up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Seriously.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the the thing is is let your let yourself care that much.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let your self-care.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to, I had to look at my life and go, I've been in this 17 fucking years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I'm alive and I shouldn't be, technically, based on my past health history, mental health and everything, uh, physical health.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'll tell you this, I'm way healthier.
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  SPEAKER_00: I used to be sick all the time, every month.
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  SPEAKER_00: I always had something going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was in chronic fatigue, I had autoimmune issues, I had hypothyroid, everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it went undiagnosed for many years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I'm healthier now, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, we were so thankful.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, and I'm 40 and I've had a total hysterectomy, and that's another thing I see women bitching about perimenopause.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I was that's cute.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's real perimenopause is cute, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was doing that shit in my 20s.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whoop do you fucking do?
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  SPEAKER_00: I had an elective total hysterectomy at 33 because I know what to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I've I've already gone through what most women are gonna go through when they're fucking 60.
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  SPEAKER_00: So accept the age part and the identity and all that shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's like, y'all, that's that's smoke and mirrors, man.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're they're they're just selling y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's not even a problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's just trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get to a certain age, you gotta you gotta address your fucking trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't just keep putting shit over it and throwing cute perimenopausal like hormonal things shit over it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, oh, just eat protein and walk.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, literally, if that worked, then you wouldn't see all these women out here looking older and older and older and older.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, my point is, yes, I'm thankful for what this work has done.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, there was a part, there was a time in my life, like I'm blowing boogers here.
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  SPEAKER_00: There was a time in my life where I had to look at at things after I had babies, especially, and started my business, started making you know millions of dollars.
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  SPEAKER_00: I kind of lost myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kind of lost myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you know you're losing yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Couple things.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna start saying things like, um, well, it's this is just a season, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: My workouts are needed to be a little shorter.
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  SPEAKER_00: I missed a couple workouts that ended up bad sign, you're losing yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your workouts and your food should be the number one thing in sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those three things right there, baby.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the number one thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you've just had a little baby, I get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I've got two myself, lost one in between, I get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're losing, there's a way to train after you've had new babies.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I was on the cover of a magazine right after and I was and I was healthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there is a way to do it when you've got little ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, we support women in pregnancy, postpartum, and all that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But for the most part, if you're not, if your sleep, gym, or food starts to slip, that should be the number one red flag.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one red flag, you're losing yourself right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: That happened to me, and I didn't know this shit, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what's happening how I make money and how my work is so transformational is because I go through the shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm fully embodied and then and then I when I when I have it like okay, I fucking broke the cycle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's how I did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I teach you how.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I literally save you 10, 20, 30 years of anguish and suffering because I'm like, here we'll fucking do this.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I would have known this, this would have not happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm telling you right now, you're fucking welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why I'm paying mentors, it is only for smart people because it you're getting the cheat codes.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I had to look at myself 17 years in the game, and I looked at my body and I go, dude, I should be way better than what I am right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I got the photos, and sure enough, the progress was incredible.
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  SPEAKER_00: Progress was incredible, but I still felt like I should have been I should be further along.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I lost a few years.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't let people say, like, oh, you can get your years back, it's never too late.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's not too late, bitch, but you're losing years.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just gonna break it to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're losing years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every moment you wait, you're losing another year, and then you're gonna have to deal with a lot of grief later on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I I I'm gonna tell you the fucking truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not it's not pretty, but I'm gonna tell you the truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if I would have not lost myself, I can't tell you where I would be right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I would definitely I would be much more successful on paper.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would definitely have a way better body, and I look hot as shit right now, but I would have a way better body right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would have a way better body right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why am I saying this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I just A want you to know when you start to lose yourself what what those key indicators look like so you can catch yourself and get the fuck back on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it, you are you are so important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those three things are so fucking important, and it has everything to do with your mental health and everything to do with your traumas and your nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's why we handle that shit at the core.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I see these women who are master energy healers, high priestess, um, uh naturopaths, uh, functional medicine doctors, and shit like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the first thing they tell me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what I want to say to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't give a shit who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't give a shit if you are President Trump or Oprah.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't care.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you enter the fucking gym, the gym has doesn't give a shit who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't give a shit who you are, because you are nobody.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are nobody.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you understand that you are fucking nobody and nobody cares and that doesn't matter, it may hold up out there, but in the fucking gym and when you're eating food, nobody cares.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're all the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're all the fucking same.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you've been putting in the work and you think you know everything and you you should be further along, well, you should be further along.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let yourself feel that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let yourself feel the fucking the the something's up, but I'll tell you what, don't get too far down in that shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't get too far like caught in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's an easy fix, but you've got to be brave enough to to fucking um woman up and let somebody help you instead of acting like it because I get it, it's a perfect it's a it's a protection for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, if you know everything and nobody nobody can help you and you do it all yourself, like it's a protection thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's something deep within you, deep, deep within you that's protecting itself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Probably your inner child, probably some part of your inner child, but there's some part where you know there's a part of you that is protecting right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why, that's why people struggle to move forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why, like, I can tell you all day long, right now, hey, you know, hey, hey, Brie, hey, hey, California or whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, hey, right now you've got some trauma shit that's blocking you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's blocking your money, it's blocking love, it's blocking opportunity, and it's blocking your fat loss.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want, do you would you like to address it?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It won't be overwhelming.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's actually um it's actually gonna be pretty easy, and then it's gonna be a lot easier for you to reach your goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you do it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you do something if you got a 10x return?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you put in 10 and you got a hundred back.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what doing trauma work is like.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, but there's not a lot of people who want that level of change.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's not a lot of people who want that level of change.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta be really brave because you know what everybody wants to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm busy, I'm da-da-da.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's fucking trauma shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's literally a nervous system that's dysregulated.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, I get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've been a yoga master for 10 years, you've been an energy healer, and you've been in the gym for 15 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: I get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So why are you still overweight?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why is your waist still not small?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why, why do you why why is the body not looking like it's been in the gym for 15 years?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you got an excuse of somebody died, you've been through this, you're helping.
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  SPEAKER_00: Excuses, excuses, excuses, or you could just say, yeah, you know, I obviously there's something I have not addressed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm ready.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you've got to get the fuck out of the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got to put your paperwork out of the way, who you think you are, what you think you know, and you gotta surrender that shit fully.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then, your ego is running the show, and it's gonna keep you fucking snug.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna keep you looking at women online, wondering what they're doing different.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna keep you fucking running in circles.
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  SPEAKER_00: Dude, the devil is at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Dark energies, the fear, like it's keeping you busy, it's keeping you paying for programs that don't fucking work, and you're still going after fucking hormones and thinking that you know everything, and you're I know what to do, I just gotta do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Girl, that is that is negative energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Negative energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And all you gotta do is address your fucking trauma shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you gotta put your ego ass to the side.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ego is, well, I know what to do, I just need to do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I've been doing this for years, or I'm gonna ego.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bullshit.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is trauma as shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keeping used up.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's trauma, it's just trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get the fuck out of the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be brave.
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  SPEAKER_00: I promise you, the thing that's blocking most people is the part of them that's so afraid to feel shame and just something, some emotion that's too overwhelming.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's something old.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have a way that makes this very safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why it's a trauma-informed approach, is the only way.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna actually get money and keep it, and you're gonna actually uh get the body and keep it, you're gonna actually have the relationships and it actually deepen.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_00: If you're not addressing your business and your body and your relationship with a trauma-informed approach, you're gonna get a quick result and it's gonna ride, and then it's gonna fucking crash when you go through some shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can pay for it now or you can pay for it later.
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  SPEAKER_00: Either way, it's time.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you know what to do, click the link in the bio.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's get started.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's easier than you think.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just gotta fucking get started.
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  SPEAKER_00: No excuses.