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225. When persistence stays · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: One of the things I do before we kick off
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  Speaker 1: the podcast is I make a deposit into the bank
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  Speaker 1: of you, and I do that by way of affirmation.
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  Speaker 1: Affirmations are a great way to start your day and
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  Speaker 1: to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is my
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  Speaker 1: persistence outlast discomfort. My persistence outlasts discomfort. My persistence outlasts discomfort. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your
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  Speaker 1: Enriched Self Podcast. In twenty twenty four, I celebrated the
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  Speaker 1: one hundred and fiftieth episode of the Your Enriched Self Podcast,
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  Speaker 1: and in that episode, we talked about the power of persistence.
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  Speaker 1: I had a special guest on I did a lot
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  Speaker 1: of first in that season, and I did my first
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  Speaker 1: live podcast episode. I tell you, and I've said this
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  Speaker 1: before that this podcast journey has been truly a persistent effort.
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  Speaker 1: As we approach the end of twenty twenty five, I
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  Speaker 1: think it's important to use persistence as the few we
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  Speaker 1: need to move into the new year, move into the
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  Speaker 1: next week, the next day, the next month, because persistence
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  Speaker 1: is certainly going to be what is going to power
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  Speaker 1: and empower us to keep moving. Okay, movement matters, So
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  Speaker 1: I bring up this episode because I was recently going
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  Speaker 1: through some old notes and I had some of the
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  Speaker 1: discussion points that I wanted my guests to have in
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  Speaker 1: advance of the episode. I will say that the episode
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  Speaker 1: did not even touch too much on the notes. You
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  Speaker 1: know how it goes when you're doing something live, It
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  Speaker 1: just kind of flows, and I will say that episode
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  Speaker 1: flowed very well. Please check out the one hundred and
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  Speaker 1: fifty eth episode of the Your in Regtel podcast for
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  Speaker 1: the backstory of what this is all about. But I
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  Speaker 1: want to start this episode off by defining persistence, and
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  Speaker 1: persistence is a continuance in the course of action in
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  Speaker 1: spite of difficulty or opposition. I'm gonna say for the
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  Speaker 1: most part that opposition, difficulty, challenges, obstacles are going to
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  Speaker 1: be part of the journey. And I think oftentimes when
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  Speaker 1: we encounter those, when we think of our journey, we
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  Speaker 1: don't include those. We don't set ourselves up for knowing
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  Speaker 1: in advance that we will deal with these things. I
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  Speaker 1: think we get. I think you get the fact that
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  Speaker 1: life is going to life, but it's not until we're
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  Speaker 1: there that reality hits and we go, wow, here I am,
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  Speaker 1: and what I want you to do if you get
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  Speaker 1: nothing from this episode, which I know you're gonna get
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  Speaker 1: something from the episode, is to be in tensional about
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  Speaker 1: knowing in advance and almost planning for the difficulty and
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  Speaker 1: the opposition. I believe that is going to be a
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  Speaker 1: huge helper. It's not going to fix the problem or
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  Speaker 1: change the problem, but it's certainly going to shift your
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  Speaker 1: mindset around the problem. See a lot of times we're
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  Speaker 1: not able to move or we're immobilized simply because our
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  Speaker 1: minds haven't shifted yet. And the purpose of today's conversation
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  Speaker 1: is to get that mind shift to happen. Because the
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  Speaker 1: reality is, persistence is not flashy. You know a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people talk about motivation. It's not that it's not glamorous.
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  Speaker 1: Motivation tends to have that persistence. And this is something
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  Speaker 1: my guests talked about on that episode, is that it's steady.
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  Speaker 1: It's just a steadiness. And I think we glamorize persistent
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  Speaker 1: to be that every day I do the same thing
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  Speaker 1: and I grind through that same thing. And the reality
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  Speaker 1: is persistence is what will keep you showing up when
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  Speaker 1: all the excitement fades, when your outcome is very unclear,
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  Speaker 1: and persistence is going to occur when no one else
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  Speaker 1: is watching, when no one else is applauding your effort.
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  Speaker 1: It's often going to happen in silence, in quiet, into
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  Speaker 1: dark spaces. The analogy I remember on that episode that
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  Speaker 1: I use was a seed being planted. And when a
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  Speaker 1: seed is planted in the ground, there are some very
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  Speaker 1: very challenging steps that have to take place. There's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of discomfort that comes with that seed being planted
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  Speaker 1: under the ground. Most times people focus on you tend
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  Speaker 1: to focus on we tend to focus on the fruit
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  Speaker 1: of that tree. The important part is how did we
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  Speaker 1: get grounded? And let's take a step back. Did we
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  Speaker 1: plant that seed in a space where it can be nurtured?
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  Speaker 1: And so as you are on your journey, and as
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  Speaker 1: I mentioned, this episode is intended to be fuel for
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  Speaker 1: your next season. That next season can be later on tonight,
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  Speaker 1: it can be tomorrow morning, it can be in the
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  Speaker 1: next couple of minutes or hours. That's what this is
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  Speaker 1: all about. It is getting you prepared for the next
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  Speaker 1: season of your life, to stay committed in that next season,
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  Speaker 1: that next moment, even when it's hard. So what does
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  Speaker 1: that look like in real life? Again, persistence is not
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  Speaker 1: powered by motivation. What powers it is your decision. Your
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  Speaker 1: decision points. The thing is, you must be willing to
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  Speaker 1: persist when the results are slow, when when progress feels invisible,
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  Speaker 1: and when recognition is absent. And I'll give you an
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  Speaker 1: example of that. In twenty twenty four, I started an
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  Speaker 1: intentional fitness health journey. I wouldn't say weight loss, because
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  Speaker 1: what fueled me to start was not a weight goal.
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  Speaker 1: It was a health goal. I had gotten some results
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  Speaker 1: that I was not proud of, not necessarily proud of.
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted better. The results were okay, teetering on
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  Speaker 1: not so great, and I knew I could do better
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  Speaker 1: with some time, some attention, and some changes, quite honestly,
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  Speaker 1: And it all started with my mindset. Everything starts there first.
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  Speaker 1: The time is going to go by whether we do
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  Speaker 1: something or not, so I might as well do something now.
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  Speaker 1: The changes had to be made and the attention to
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  Speaker 1: the detail. And so I started a health and fitness
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  Speaker 1: journey in that year. And the first thing I told
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  Speaker 1: myself is to do this and commit to yourself for
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  Speaker 1: six weeks, and to be honest with you if you've
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  Speaker 1: never done something for yourself, because I know, if you're
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  Speaker 1: listening to this podcast, I know you have a heart
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  Speaker 1: to serve. And when you serve, you can go on
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  Speaker 1: and on. You can go days, weeks, months, years, showing up,
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  Speaker 1: not just showing up as a warm body, but showing
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  Speaker 1: up with pride and showing up with enthusiasm and true presence,
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  Speaker 1: like you're engaged and you're there for somebody else. You
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  Speaker 1: can do that, but when it comes to you, you
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  Speaker 1: lean back, you step back, you fade too black. That year,
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  Speaker 1: I told myself I was gonna lean in, go forward,
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  Speaker 1: and walk into my light, contrary to everything I've done
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  Speaker 1: before that, which was to lean back, fade into black,
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  Speaker 1: and oo all those other things that didn't serve me.
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  Speaker 1: It served someone else, and it served well, but it
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  Speaker 1: did not give me what I needed. And that began
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  Speaker 1: a journey for me of persistence because in that season,
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't in the first several weeks seeing the changes.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't seeing anything. I wasn't seeing any weight loss. Again,
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  Speaker 1: this was a health decision. This decision was fueled by
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  Speaker 1: my health results. So I wasn't jumping in to see
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  Speaker 1: physical changes. I wanted the internal changes to occur because
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  Speaker 1: time would go by anyway, so might as well use
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  Speaker 1: my time to do something about it, make the changes,
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  Speaker 1: and be intentional about the things that I eat and
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  Speaker 1: all of the things that I do. So that's how
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  Speaker 1: my journey began is first commit to myself to stay
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  Speaker 1: in this for six weeks. Whatever in this looks like.
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  Speaker 1: Whatever they asked me to do, I did. They asked
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  Speaker 1: me to show up, I showed up the time they
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  Speaker 1: asked me to be there. I was there every single time,
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  Speaker 1: so much so I achieved perfect attendance, not just the
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  Speaker 1: first six week boot camp, but multiple six week boot
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  Speaker 1: camps in that same year. Keep in mind this was
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  Speaker 1: an activity, not just a physical activity, but the fact
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  Speaker 1: of showing up was not something I had done consistently
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  Speaker 1: for myself over the course of time. And that's what
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  Speaker 1: persistent looked like in real life. It wasn't glamorous. I
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  Speaker 1: chose a five am boot camp. It was challenging, it
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  Speaker 1: was don right difficult at the beginning, and no two
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  Speaker 1: days looked alike. And I think Persistent often gets this
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  Speaker 1: picture in people's minds that everything is exactly a cookie
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  Speaker 1: cutter experience to the previous, like you can't have an
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  Speaker 1: off day and still do it, and you can't not
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  Speaker 1: want to do it but still do it. Yeah, that happens.
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  Speaker 1: That's part of it, but sometimes it looked like it's
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  Speaker 1: not part of it. And that's where you must stay
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  Speaker 1: the course through the resistance, because I promise you, when
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  Speaker 1: I started this boot camp, it was in the early
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  Speaker 1: parts of winter or mid winter, when it's colder, it's darker,
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  Speaker 1: the pillows nice and warm. I would rather be in
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  Speaker 1: bed than get up listen. In those seasons that difficulty
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  Speaker 1: was not my stop sign. It was part of the process.
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  Speaker 1: I knew that in order to do and be and
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  Speaker 1: show up for me, I had to experience this discomfort,
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  Speaker 1: this resistance to the process. There's gonna be resistance in
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  Speaker 1: your process, and that's what I keep saying. Choose to
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  Speaker 1: accept the resistance. I know sometimes it's gonna be difficult.
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  Speaker 1: To embrace it. I'm not I'm careful with the word embrace,
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  Speaker 1: but choose to accept that it's there. Resistance is not
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  Speaker 1: your problem. Resistance is your opportunity. Resistance is there in
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  Speaker 1: your process to help you refine your focus. Yeah, it does.
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  Speaker 1: It sharpens your discipline and this is the best part
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  Speaker 1: of what resistance will do for you. It forces you
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  Speaker 1: to grow, and isn't that what this is all about.
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  Speaker 1: No one should be the same person that they were
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  Speaker 1: at the start of twenty twenty five. And yes, we
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  Speaker 1: can change our hair color and lose weight. I'm talking
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  Speaker 1: about the internal things. I'm talking about a new mindset
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  Speaker 1: that you put on, that you're wearing, that you're using,
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  Speaker 1: that you're applying to your life. That's what I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 1: That growth, That's what this is all about. It's all
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  Speaker 1: about coming out with that identity and persistence helps to
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  Speaker 1: build that identity before you see the results. Going back
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  Speaker 1: to my six weeks showing up for myself, not looking
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  Speaker 1: in the mirror and seeing the results that I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to see because I was doing all the things. I
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  Speaker 1: was showing up, I was working hard, I was you know,
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  Speaker 1: by you know, burning the calories, all the things, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, where are the results? But one day I realized,
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  Speaker 1: especially with the way my coach set up the boot
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  Speaker 1: camp program, we would do a start of camp assessment,
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  Speaker 1: so ground zero, day one, than a midpoint assessment which
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  Speaker 1: would be midpoint week three, and then a six week
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  Speaker 1: assessment which is the conclusion of camp. And what I
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  Speaker 1: saw were my results in that season. In those three
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  Speaker 1: different assessment periods, I saw my results change. So that
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  Speaker 1: was the tangible thing that I can show somebody and say,
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  Speaker 1: look look at what I'm doing. But the things that
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  Speaker 1: were the most significant were the intangibles. How much stronger
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  Speaker 1: I felt, I was able to do more, produce more
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  Speaker 1: pushupsduce more sit ups. And when I started and we
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  Speaker 1: weren't even being assessed on that, the assessment was looking
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  Speaker 1: at all of our numbers, a three hundred and sixty
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  Speaker 1: degree review of me. Another intangible was confidence. I walked different,
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  Speaker 1: I talked different, I showed up differently, and it made
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  Speaker 1: it easier for me to show up for myself the
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  Speaker 1: next camp and the next camp. So it became just
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  Speaker 1: part of the results of me building my identity, and
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  Speaker 1: then the result showed I reinforced a level of trust
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  Speaker 1: with me that I hadn't in the past, not for
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  Speaker 1: that period of time. You become a person who finishes,
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  Speaker 1: you become a person who stays. That's the identity part,
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  Speaker 1: and you become a person who follows through Listen. It
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  Speaker 1: is the best feeling to have that for yourself, and
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  Speaker 1: as you stay with that, you start to see the
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  Speaker 1: external wins again. I started seeing the external wins. I
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  Speaker 1: was able to move up in teams. We have teams
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  Speaker 1: within our six week boot camp challenge, but the internal
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  Speaker 1: transformation priceless. Couldn't put an assessment on that. Didn't know
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  Speaker 1: that I would get that out of the process. That's
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  Speaker 1: what persistence did for me, and that's what it will
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  Speaker 1: do for you. And this episode is not just for you.
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  Speaker 1: It's reminding me of the season I was in because
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  Speaker 1: if you did it before, you can do it again.
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  Speaker 1: But you have to remind yourself and give yourself circumstantial
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  Speaker 1: evidence of what's possible, of what happened, of what the
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  Speaker 1: future can be for you. I want you to think
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  Speaker 1: about that. I want you to own that. I want
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  Speaker 1: you to choose that that persistence. It's not loud, it's loyal.
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