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EP 35: Happy Halloweekend! · Useless Banter

0:01
SPEAKER_03: Welcome to useless mentor.
0:09
SPEAKER_03: Are you done to do it or no?
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SPEAKER_01: Let's get into the podcast.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
0:21
SPEAKER_01: Hi, my name is Hi, my name is Nicole.
0:27
SPEAKER_02: My name is Ferrence.
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SPEAKER_02: Welcome to Useless Panter.
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SPEAKER_02: A pod.
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SPEAKER_03: Oh podcast where two best friends won't shut the thug.
0:39
SPEAKER_02: Basically, a podcast where two hot besties are useless shit.
0:44
SPEAKER_02: That doesn't really matter, but it's highly entertaining.
0:46
SPEAKER_03: Heavy on the highly entertaining.
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SPEAKER_03: So uh raise your glass, lower your expectations.
0:51
SPEAKER_03: And let's get useless.
0:57
SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, you guys.
0:58
SPEAKER_00: Okay, special Halloween edition.
1:00
SPEAKER_00: Hello weekend.
1:02
SPEAKER_00: Hello weekend.
1:03
SPEAKER_03: You're looking spooky.
1:07
SPEAKER_00: Actually looking spooky.
1:08
SPEAKER_00: If you are not listening, I mean, no, bitch, you are not listening.
1:13
SPEAKER_01: Like if you are not watching, then um just to give you guys a little context.
1:21
SPEAKER_02: Paris and Nicole are on the pod today.
1:23
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, special guest.
1:24
SPEAKER_02: Special guest.
1:25
SPEAKER_02: Um, I am Nicole.
1:27
SPEAKER_02: And I'm Paris, and you could have guessed that.
1:29
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, we could have guessed that.
1:30
SPEAKER_02: And also we are in wigs, glasses, shirts that say that's hot, skirts, skirts, and then stockings with bows on them.
1:38
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah.
1:39
SPEAKER_03: So honestly.
1:40
SPEAKER_03: So this is a full bit.
1:41
SPEAKER_03: And honestly, if you're not listening, wait.
1:44
SPEAKER_03: No, babe.
1:45
SPEAKER_03: You're not listening.
1:47
SPEAKER_03: If you're not watching, you should be watching.
1:50
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
1:52
SPEAKER_03: This is the one to, yeah.
1:53
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah.
1:54
SPEAKER_03: Um, but yeah, so I will say, like, putting a wig on really changes the way that you um carry yourself.
2:03
SPEAKER_03: I just like I feel like a brand new bitch.
2:05
SPEAKER_02: I just like the mustache is really stunning me with this wig right now.
2:09
SPEAKER_03: I don't know what it is, but like you in a wig.
2:12
SPEAKER_03: It doesn't like it doesn't really make me feel that way if I'm being 100% honest.
2:15
SPEAKER_03: And I always look like Jesus Christ.
2:18
SPEAKER_02: I just always feel like a man in a wig.
2:20
SPEAKER_02: Like I always do.
2:21
SPEAKER_01: Like, I you're so butch, baby.
2:23
SPEAKER_02: I'm so butch.
2:26
SPEAKER_02: Wait, first of all, cheers.
2:27
SPEAKER_02: Oh my god, yes, cheers.
2:28
SPEAKER_02: Oh my god, yes, because we always forget.
2:30
SPEAKER_02: No, literally, apparali.
2:32
SPEAKER_02: Can I have apparol?
2:34
SPEAKER_02: A little extra apparolly.
2:35
SPEAKER_02: A little extra apparolly.
2:39
SPEAKER_02: Okay.
2:40
SPEAKER_02: My goodness.
2:41
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
2:41
SPEAKER_02: Um, okay, well, Halloween was this past weekend.
2:45
SPEAKER_02: Correct, correct.
2:46
SPEAKER_02: And how was your Halloween weekend, girl?
2:49
SPEAKER_03: Uh, honestly, it was kind of so interesting.
2:51
SPEAKER_03: Okay, well, first of all, let's just break the news to the podcast.
2:55
SPEAKER_02: Oh my god, yes.
2:57
SPEAKER_02: Okay, wait, yeah.
2:58
SPEAKER_02: This is like this is like a gag of a sentence.
3:02
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, like no one would have thought you would have guessed.
3:04
SPEAKER_03: And we've been manifesting, so honestly, period, to us, but we both have boyfriends.
3:09
SPEAKER_03: That is a gag if I've ever heard one.
3:12
SPEAKER_03: What the hell is happening?
3:13
SPEAKER_02: So, like, it's funny because literally how could you not like?
3:19
SPEAKER_02: But the funniest part is that like you left for like four or five months, then I got a boyfriend, and I literally sick.
3:25
SPEAKER_02: You were sick, sick about it.
3:27
SPEAKER_02: And then, like, literally, you get back, and then you get a boyfriend.
3:30
SPEAKER_03: And I get a boyfriend, and it's like, yeah, this is like, I don't know, it's like really, really crazy.
3:34
SPEAKER_03: It's someone that I've like known for a very, very long time.
3:37
SPEAKER_03: I think I actually spoke about him earlier on the podcast because he was coming, he came to spend a week with me.
3:42
SPEAKER_03: We've known each other since we were literally like 15 through cheerleading, whatever.
3:45
SPEAKER_03: He came to spend a week with me.
3:46
SPEAKER_03: Which is already crazy because you just hadn't really hung out.
3:48
SPEAKER_03: We hadn't spent that much time together prior to.
3:51
SPEAKER_03: He was so nonchalant, so like hardly texting me the whole thing that we were literally making jokes like, oh, this man's about to sleep on the couch.
3:57
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
3:58
SPEAKER_03: And yeah, I don't know.
3:59
SPEAKER_03: Like, it's just kind of like when you know, you know, kind of thing.
4:02
SPEAKER_03: We spent literally seven days together, and we're in oh my wig.
4:06
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, your laces, maybe tuck it in, girl.
4:08
SPEAKER_02: I was like, no, no, you can't you tuck it in or no?
4:11
SPEAKER_03: I don't know.
4:12
SPEAKER_02: Or just keep it, it's fine.
4:13
SPEAKER_02: There you go.
4:13
SPEAKER_02: Okay, there we go.
4:14
SPEAKER_02: There we go.
4:14
SPEAKER_03: There we go.
4:15
SPEAKER_03: Um, yeah, we spent seven days together, and it was like just it just fit.
4:19
SPEAKER_03: Like it just worked, and like typically I'm the one that's like so obsessed with someone and like like someone more, go fucking figure.
4:26
SPEAKER_03: Um, but he's like equally as obsessed with me.
4:29
SPEAKER_03: He like we like sobbed leaving each other, like it's a whole thing.
4:33
SPEAKER_03: So yeah, I'm just now I'm navigating this new reality.
4:37
SPEAKER_03: So like I was thinking about our Halloween this year, which like this year Luis did a boyfriend night on Friday, literally stayed in, which Louise staying in.
4:46
SPEAKER_03: What is happening?
4:47
SPEAKER_03: Um my gosh.
4:48
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, like I'm not gonna clock you too hard on that, but like it's fine, I get it.
4:52
SPEAKER_02: Oh, honestly though, I mean, T, truth be told, girl, you were gone and I was a saint.
4:56
SPEAKER_02: I was literally like, I was and you would call me like on a Saturday night and I'd be like, I'm literally just at home because I know because switch up.
5:04
SPEAKER_02: I know it's I mean, I will say, like, don't get me wrong, I still love to go out.
5:07
SPEAKER_02: But at the same time, I do feel like I'm just, you know, we've talked about this too.
5:11
SPEAKER_02: We're at a point where like I also want to be doing different things as well, you know.
5:15
SPEAKER_02: And I feel like honestly, when we go out so so much, it's fun, but also like I want to be going on hikes, I want to rollerblade, I want to like go to the beach, I wanna like, you know what I mean?
5:23
SPEAKER_02: And I feel like we don't do those things when we're like hung over and rotting all day.
5:27
SPEAKER_03: I know.
5:27
SPEAKER_03: And I feel like it's like when you're in a relationship, it's a really good opportunity to like explore new things with someone.
5:32
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
5:33
SPEAKER_03: Um, but yeah, so Louise stayed in Friday.
5:35
SPEAKER_03: I went out Friday, and like it was fine.
5:37
SPEAKER_03: It was fun, it was cool.
5:38
SPEAKER_03: Like, I also feel like I haven't been super like overly motivated to party.
5:43
SPEAKER_03: Um, but then Saturday, I I came over, we hung out, and I was just, you know, I was like the comparison of last year where we stayed out till 7 a.m.
5:51
SPEAKER_03: Oh yeah.
5:52
SPEAKER_03: At Dunkin' Donuts at like 8 a.m.
5:53
SPEAKER_03: in the morning.
5:54
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
5:54
SPEAKER_03: Like the party just did not stop.
5:56
SPEAKER_02: We're literally like we were literally walking the streets of Hollywood in half of our outfits, costumes.
6:03
SPEAKER_02: Just looking like complete sluts, if we're being honest.
6:05
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
6:06
SPEAKER_03: And um, yeah, just really, really doing our big one to this year was like so tamed.
6:11
SPEAKER_02: I think also I will say, like, in general, not just with us, but like in general, the vibe of Halloween seemed a lot more tame this year.
6:18
SPEAKER_02: One because I agree.
6:19
SPEAKER_02: One because I think the weather, like it was supposed to rain, and everybody was like, mm-hmm, do we go out?
6:23
SPEAKER_02: Do we not?
6:24
SPEAKER_02: Like, so many people I talked to, even like this week, everyone was like, Yeah, like honestly, we just ended up like chilling at some house or my place or whatever, because the weather did kind of like put a you know, change things up.
6:35
SPEAKER_02: But yeah, it is a crazy contrast from last year to be.
6:37
SPEAKER_03: It's a crazy contrast, and like I was I was going through it because we were out at a party and I was like literally being hit on intensely, like quite literally, there is a man on a speaker.
6:51
SPEAKER_02: With a with a sign, he was like one of those, he was his costume was like one of those preachers on the yeah, like one of those preachers on the street.
6:57
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, and the sign said resist temptation and with like a bunch of other things, and then he had like his microphone and he was literally like the devil like tempting me.
7:08
SPEAKER_03: Blah blah blah, what like all this stuff like talking about me?
7:10
SPEAKER_03: And I'm literally I'm literally like Luis, this is not real.
7:13
SPEAKER_03: And then like three other boys came over and they were like, Yes, like tried to kiss me.
7:17
SPEAKER_03: I'm like, Luis, literally helped me right now.
7:19
SPEAKER_03: Like, what is happening?
7:21
SPEAKER_03: Like now it's like my priorities are like different.
7:23
SPEAKER_03: Like, I you know, I'm trying to really be like intentional and yeah, yeah, just wow, what what a shift.
7:31
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's like I mean, I I totally get you know that shift, that mind shift.
7:36
SPEAKER_02: But at the same time, it's like funny because it's like at the same time, we didn't want to be doing that forever.
7:42
SPEAKER_02: You know what I mean?
7:43
SPEAKER_02: Like, I don't, I personally don't.
7:44
SPEAKER_02: Like, I'm like, I and it's been so long since I've even like been in that mindset because I've been single for so long.
7:50
SPEAKER_02: That honestly, for me, like getting into this relationship, I don't really have the urge to do that because I'm like, I'm good.
7:56
SPEAKER_02: Like, I've done it, I've been there.
7:58
SPEAKER_02: We've done well, we've done it.
7:59
SPEAKER_02: We've done it.
8:01
SPEAKER_02: Okay, girl, we've done it.
8:03
SPEAKER_02: So it just, it's I'm like, I'm I'm okay with it.
8:05
SPEAKER_03: There will be like another transition, you know.
8:07
SPEAKER_03: Like, I think about our friendship sometimes, and I'm like, you know, we're definitely like our friendship is in the midst of a transition, just like, you know, both of our dynamics are shifting personally and stuff, but like, you know, the love that we have for each other will always be the same.
8:19
SPEAKER_03: And I'm sure like a few years down the road, like hopefully we're still in these relationships and whatever.
8:24
SPEAKER_03: But like, you know, I'm sure we'll be more equipped to being like, okay, we need more bestie time.
8:29
SPEAKER_03: Like, let's go, let's go rage somewhere.
8:31
SPEAKER_03: Like, we need to have us time, like whatever.
8:32
SPEAKER_03: Oh, for sure.
8:33
SPEAKER_03: But it's just, you know, this is like the reality of friendship and the transitions of things that are.
8:38
SPEAKER_02: Oh, girl, I'm definitely gonna need bestie time.
8:40
SPEAKER_02: So, like, I know we're gonna have our nights to be us, you know what I mean.
8:44
SPEAKER_02: Um, and even like tomorrow, we literally were like, we just need to go like have dinner and like yeah, yeah, just the two of us.
8:49
SPEAKER_02: So, like for sure.
8:50
SPEAKER_02: I'm definitely not one, like, I don't want, you know, I don't want to go completely MIA.
8:55
SPEAKER_02: That's not, you know, right.
8:56
SPEAKER_02: But of course, yeah, there is gonna be a little uh change, you know.
9:00
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's like sad but exciting.
9:01
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, all the things.
9:03
SPEAKER_02: I'm excited for it.
9:04
SPEAKER_02: Like, I think it'll be really, really good.
9:05
SPEAKER_02: But yeah, gag that we both have boyfriends.
9:08
SPEAKER_02: I know.
9:09
SPEAKER_02: That is seriously so crazy.
9:10
SPEAKER_02: It's really insane.
9:11
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, it's really insane.
9:12
SPEAKER_03: Anyways, okay.
9:13
SPEAKER_03: Let's I have some questions.
9:14
SPEAKER_03: Let's get into it.
9:15
SPEAKER_03: I think the audience is curious.
9:17
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
9:17
SPEAKER_03: Like, who what what zodiac sign is the best fuck?
9:20
SPEAKER_02: I don't.
9:21
SPEAKER_02: That's you, you lead the way on that one.
9:23
SPEAKER_02: Because the girl, what?
9:24
SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
9:25
SPEAKER_02: I I what I know about zodiac signs, I know from you.
9:27
SPEAKER_02: So, like, honestly, it's not really giving a lot.
9:30
SPEAKER_03: I'm like, You have to have some sort of input.
9:33
SPEAKER_02: I don't know them that well.
9:35
SPEAKER_02: Like, I know that Scorpios are known to be very like spicy, right?
9:38
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, but like, are they is that a good or bad thing sexually?
9:41
SPEAKER_03: I don't know.
9:42
SPEAKER_03: Have you fucked a lot of Scorpios?
9:44
SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
9:45
SPEAKER_00: I'm not going around asking people their fucking birthdays off the bat.
9:48
SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm not like, what's your size?
9:50
SPEAKER_03: They're like, they're like ballsy if you're like, they're like, you're like, where were you born?
9:54
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, like what time were you born?
9:56
SPEAKER_03: 10 or 10 15 a.m.
9:58
SPEAKER_03: Like I need to know.
9:59
SPEAKER_03: You have like legs in there, you're like, oh, you're a water son.
10:01
SPEAKER_03: If I can tell.
10:03
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, oh, this is giving fire.
10:06
SPEAKER_03: Like the emotion of the ocean.
10:08
SPEAKER_02: I genuinely don't know.
10:08
SPEAKER_02: I don't like ask that off the bat, so I couldn't tell you.
10:11
SPEAKER_02: Um can't really.
10:12
SPEAKER_02: I from what I know, yeah.
10:13
SPEAKER_02: You you'll be asking all those questions.
10:15
SPEAKER_02: And like before you enter, yeah, literally, you're like, pull up your co-star.
10:19
SPEAKER_03: No, literally, like, let's see.
10:20
SPEAKER_03: I mean, like, okay, yeah, I don't know.
10:22
SPEAKER_03: It'll enlighten me a little bit.
10:24
SPEAKER_03: Um, okay.
10:25
SPEAKER_03: I think like fire signs are typically very like uh intense, passionate.
10:33
SPEAKER_03: So, like, if that's like your gig, I think like fire sign sex is always like heated, hot.
10:39
SPEAKER_03: Okay, wait, so fire signs, is Aries a fire sign?
10:42
SPEAKER_03: Aries is a fire sign.
10:43
SPEAKER_02: That's the boo.
10:44
SPEAKER_02: Oh, Aries is a big boo.
10:45
SPEAKER_02: Oh, that's the man.
10:46
SPEAKER_02: Oh, yeah.
10:47
SPEAKER_02: So Aries, what else is fire?
10:50
SPEAKER_02: Um Leo.
10:52
SPEAKER_02: Okay, Leo, that makes sense.
10:54
SPEAKER_03: Um Scorpio is water.
10:58
SPEAKER_02: Scorpio is water.
10:59
SPEAKER_02: Oh god, I think.
11:00
SPEAKER_02: Okay.
11:01
SPEAKER_03: Um is Taurus Earth?
11:04
SPEAKER_03: Taurus is earth.
11:05
SPEAKER_03: Okay.
11:06
SPEAKER_03: Um, yeah, like uh my boyfriend is an earth sign.
11:10
SPEAKER_03: So like I feel like uh Virgo.
11:12
SPEAKER_03: Virgo.
11:13
SPEAKER_03: So like Virgo, like I feel like like having sex with a Virgo is like they're they're so they pay attention to detail.
11:22
SPEAKER_03: I really like can't take it seriously.
11:25
SPEAKER_02: Um okay, sorry.
11:26
SPEAKER_02: So Virgo, what?
11:29
SPEAKER_03: Um Virgos like are so attentive, like so attentive to detail that like I feel like every like part of it is like um, I don't want to say calculated, but like accounted for.
11:43
SPEAKER_03: You know, like like the details, the mood, the lighting, the whatever.
11:47
SPEAKER_03: And so it's like a full production, which I can definitely appreciate.
11:52
SPEAKER_03: Um I think like water signs, like sex with water signs is more like emotional.
11:59
SPEAKER_02: Okay.
11:59
SPEAKER_03: It's more like, you know, like free-flowing, emotional, like um water signs.
12:06
SPEAKER_03: Pisces?
12:07
SPEAKER_02: No, yeah, Pisces.
12:09
SPEAKER_02: Cancer.
12:10
SPEAKER_02: Cancer.
12:11
SPEAKER_03: What's Sagittarius?
12:14
SPEAKER_03: Wait, wait, wait, maybe Scorpio is Earth.
12:17
SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna look up, I'm gonna look up.
12:18
SPEAKER_03: I should know this.
12:19
SPEAKER_03: This isn't saying that I don't know it.
12:20
SPEAKER_02: I know.
12:21
SPEAKER_02: Well, because I'm just like, you know, okay, let's see.
12:23
SPEAKER_02: And then, okay, so Earth signs, I mean Capricorns are Earth, right?
12:27
SPEAKER_02: Yes.
12:27
SPEAKER_02: Uh Virgos, right?
12:29
SPEAKER_02: Um is Sagittarius?
12:32
SPEAKER_02: I think Sagittarius might be fire.
12:35
SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna look up, okay.
12:36
SPEAKER_02: Wait, what zodiac signs are fire?
12:38
SPEAKER_02: Okay, Miss Chatty, let's see.
12:40
SPEAKER_02: The three fire signs, Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius.
12:43
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
12:44
SPEAKER_02: So those are fire.
12:45
SPEAKER_02: And then uh Earth is going to be Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn.
12:54
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
12:54
SPEAKER_03: Okay, so I knew Scorpio was water.
12:57
SPEAKER_02: Water.
12:57
SPEAKER_02: Okay, so that's gonna be Scorpio.
12:59
SPEAKER_02: What else is water?
13:00
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, Pisces and Cancer.
13:02
SPEAKER_03: Like, I will say this like, cancers are like, I feel like when you have sex with cancers, it's like you're being taken care of.
13:07
SPEAKER_03: I feel like with a Leo, like they're just trying to show their biggest performance.
13:11
SPEAKER_03: They're like, this is like about me.
13:13
SPEAKER_03: This is about my like I am impressing you with my performance right now.
13:17
SPEAKER_03: Um Libras are like, Libras are known to be very flirtatious, like being, so it's like I feel like sex with a Libra is like Libras are air signs, right?
13:25
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, like the aesthetic.
13:26
SPEAKER_03: It's like the they like Libras are very like lustful.
13:30
SPEAKER_03: Okay, and what about Aquarius?
13:32
SPEAKER_03: I think we're the wild card.
13:35
SPEAKER_03: That honestly checks out.
13:37
SPEAKER_02: That checks out so hard.
13:38
SPEAKER_03: Like, I literally, so many people have told me that Aquarius, like in general, is like the wild card sign.
13:43
SPEAKER_03: No, I know.
13:43
SPEAKER_03: And it's like, yeah, you really don't know what you're gonna get.
13:46
SPEAKER_03: Because it's like we like we dance the beat of our own drum, you know?
13:49
SPEAKER_03: So like we're gonna fuck how we think is best.
13:54
SPEAKER_02: Oh my god, girl.
13:56
SPEAKER_02: You're like, not at all in the wig.
14:00
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, there's like flex on it.
14:02
SPEAKER_01: You're like and I have and I will.
14:07
SPEAKER_03: We know, babe.
14:08
SPEAKER_03: We know we know it.
14:10
SPEAKER_02: Um, okay, also side note, like I feel like we say this every Halloween, but a skirt.
14:17
SPEAKER_02: Oh.
14:17
SPEAKER_02: Oh, came over.
14:18
SPEAKER_02: But you were getting raw dogs in a skirt.
14:20
SPEAKER_00: Okay, okay.
14:21
SPEAKER_00: We didn't have to say that.
14:26
SPEAKER_02: All I have to say is that I wasn't a skirt on Halloween, and the tension was hot.
14:31
SPEAKER_02: Hot and thin.
14:34
SPEAKER_02: And that that's hot.
14:35
SPEAKER_02: That's hot.
14:36
SPEAKER_02: Okay, okay.
14:37
SPEAKER_03: It was.
14:38
SPEAKER_03: Do you know what it is about a skirt?
14:40
SPEAKER_03: It's like easy access.
14:42
SPEAKER_02: You know, and there's something about it's also just like the novelty of it.
14:46
SPEAKER_02: Like it's not something that you're doing all the time.
14:48
SPEAKER_02: Right, right, right.
14:49
SPEAKER_03: You know, and like, you know, it's just, yeah, it's like you can really, really like buy into hey, your your feminine energy.
14:57
SPEAKER_03: No, it is really insane.
14:58
SPEAKER_03: It's like and it's it's I think it's hot for both parties because I think it's hot on both ends.
15:04
SPEAKER_03: Like a guy in a skirt or me in a skirt, because it's like you can really buy into like a certain kind of fantasy.
15:09
SPEAKER_03: Right, right.
15:10
SPEAKER_03: And like just having an added extra layer with like nothing under it.
15:14
SPEAKER_03: Right.
15:15
SPEAKER_03: Like there's something just something.
15:17
SPEAKER_02: It was like insane.
15:19
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
15:20
SPEAKER_03: Okay.
15:21
SPEAKER_03: So you know, you know what's a pull out when things are.
15:22
SPEAKER_03: Oh my god, yeah.
15:23
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
15:24
SPEAKER_03: For sure, for sure.
15:25
SPEAKER_03: So, like, we know.
15:26
SPEAKER_03: So the Amazon order is gonna be skirt, skirt, skirt, skirt, skirt, skirt.
15:30
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, literally that.
15:33
SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna have to try it.
15:34
SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna see, yeah.
15:35
SPEAKER_03: I need to see what, let's see what my Virgo thinks about a skirt.
15:39
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, you should, honestly.
15:42
SPEAKER_02: He's gonna be like, I don't like that color.
15:46
SPEAKER_02: That would be savage, diabolical.
15:48
SPEAKER_03: I'm like, okay, can you pick it up?
15:50
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah.
15:50
SPEAKER_02: You're like, you think.
15:51
SPEAKER_02: Oh my god.
15:52
SPEAKER_02: Okay, so Aquarius is the wild card.
15:55
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
15:55
SPEAKER_03: I mean, maybe that's just uh maybe it's just me tooting our own horn, but I do really believe that.
16:00
SPEAKER_02: No, I feel like I've heard, I mean, that makes sense.
16:02
SPEAKER_02: I feel like I've heard that.
16:03
SPEAKER_02: Um, okay, but what about so that's for that's just for like hooking up.
16:07
SPEAKER_02: What about like dating?
16:08
SPEAKER_03: Oof, dating is tough.
16:10
SPEAKER_03: Um like I personally have had a horrible experience with Aries, but you are dating an Aries and he seems to be like incredible.
16:19
SPEAKER_02: He also has uh cancer and Libra.
16:21
SPEAKER_03: And that's the difference too, is like also it's about their full chart because he definitely is spicy.
16:26
SPEAKER_02: Like, I'm like, whoo! He has that fire.
16:30
SPEAKER_02: But um, but also he is an emotional little guy.
16:34
SPEAKER_02: He's very like, yeah, he's very sensitive in that way.
16:38
SPEAKER_03: Um yeah, like I think like men with cancer in their chart is always like a good thing because it's just like there's like a bit of like empathy and like um desire to care for someone and like whatever.
16:53
SPEAKER_03: So I think that that's always something that I like look for.
16:56
SPEAKER_03: Um or just like like a man that has some bit of water sign.
17:00
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, you know, because it's like I need to know that you have emotions.
17:03
SPEAKER_02: Have you and your boy talked about love languages?
17:05
SPEAKER_03: Yes, and what are your guys' love languages?
17:07
SPEAKER_03: So mine are my number one is words of affirmation and my number two is affection.
17:13
SPEAKER_03: Okay, like physical touch.
17:15
SPEAKER_03: Okay, and his number one is time quality time, and his number two is affection or qu is uh physical touch.
17:24
SPEAKER_03: Physical touch.
17:25
SPEAKER_03: So like um, and he's like told me he's like, I'm not like really a man of many words.
17:30
SPEAKER_03: Um and I'm like we we got that, babe.
17:34
SPEAKER_03: We got that, and I'm like, well, I need you to be.
17:37
SPEAKER_03: But honestly, he has like impressed me so much with just his like just the communication.
17:44
SPEAKER_03: Like, I feel like he's set the like God forbid this doesn't work out, which I'm like really like I don't have time for another heartbreak, so I'm I'm really gonna do my best to make this one work.
17:52
SPEAKER_03: But um, he's like really just impressed me, and it's uh the reciprocation of the energy.
17:59
SPEAKER_03: I haven't had it in so long, and I think back even to my other relationships, and like because we're long distance at first now, like we really have to put a lot of effort into communication, and I can get misconstrued and all the things, but like it's been so consistent, so steady, so like he just makes me feel comfortable, and he's like, you know me, I'm like such a lovey dovey kind of guy, and so I've always felt like I'm such a lovey dovey kind of bitch.
18:27
SPEAKER_03: I've always felt like I'm gonna have to like tone down my like affection and stuff because I'm like, I know it's a lot, but with him, I don't have to at all.
18:37
SPEAKER_03: He like loves it and he like reciprocates it right back.
18:40
SPEAKER_03: Like he's the one that's like sending me selfies all day and like thinking about you, missing you, like whatever.
18:45
SPEAKER_03: It's like constant, and like I don't get overwhelmed by that.
18:48
SPEAKER_03: Like I actually really, really appreciate it.
18:49
SPEAKER_03: So it's just been nice.
18:50
SPEAKER_03: So I'm like, I feel like the bar is set high, like God forbid something didn't work.
18:53
SPEAKER_03: And like I know now that it's possible, you know.
18:56
SPEAKER_02: Um I think it's good that like you guys at least have one in common because that will bring you together too.
19:01
SPEAKER_02: But also, I do think it's like if even like you know, even if you don't necessarily have the same love languages, I think when you really care about somebody, you just naturally want to like make them feel loved and appreciated.
19:14
SPEAKER_02: So, like, even just the effort, like let's say he wasn't a man of many words, but like it's the effort that you put into trying to be for that person, you know.
19:22
SPEAKER_02: Um, whether, you know, you might not always get it right, but I do think that the effort goes a long way.
19:27
SPEAKER_03: Right.
19:27
SPEAKER_03: So that's like a big big thing.
19:28
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, and it's just like knowing, yeah, knowing your partner's sign, and you're like, okay, like I I know now, like because we've communicated how I need to show up for you.
19:36
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, you know, and and vice versa.
19:38
SPEAKER_02: So I mean, I I feel that luckily, like two parts.
19:42
SPEAKER_02: One part, uh Omar and I do have the same love languages.
19:46
SPEAKER_02: Definitely we're both like physical touch and quality time people, which does work really well.
19:50
SPEAKER_02: But even then, you know, we're still getting to know each other.
19:53
SPEAKER_02: Like it's only been three months, and like I think the deeper we get into it, you know, the more it's easy to just like get lost in it at the beginning, and then you kind of learn each other's like um what routine and things like that, you know.
20:07
SPEAKER_02: So you do kind of like have that moment of like, oh gosh, okay, this is our routine.
20:12
SPEAKER_02: There are things that I, you know, still want to get out of my week and his week and whatever.
20:17
SPEAKER_02: So like I think no matter what is you are still like learning each other.
20:20
SPEAKER_02: So that's definitely like I feel like even though we have the same way of communicating like our affection towards each other, there's still things to figure out, you know?
20:28
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
20:28
SPEAKER_03: It's it's really interesting.
20:30
SPEAKER_03: I'm just like, you know, I've been in a reflective state just looking back on like my also me playing with this hair, I can't.
20:35
SPEAKER_03: I know.
20:36
SPEAKER_03: I've been in such a reflective state, like looking back on the ways that I was treated in the past.
20:40
SPEAKER_03: And like it's like like I feel like in order, sometimes you really have to be able to be seen and loved properly to be able to have empathy for the version of you that may have been like abused or neglected by the person that you gave your all to.
20:58
SPEAKER_03: You know, like I feel like I'm now in a space, and not to say that it's like, you know, we're like, oh my god, we've been dating for six months or whatever, but just like seeing how someone is just has the ability to treat me and see me and view me in a way that just makes me feel like valuable.
21:14
SPEAKER_03: And like I lacked this for four years of someone that like I literally gave my entire being to, and so it's like I feel like it's starting to like help just heal me in a little in a little a certain way.
21:26
SPEAKER_03: Um, because it's like like I am worthy of these things.
21:30
SPEAKER_03: So now I'm able to look back on the old version of myself and be like, I have empathy for that version for that version of me.
21:37
SPEAKER_03: Um, even though sometimes when I look back, I would be like embarrassed, like, how did I let someone treat me in those ways and stuff?
21:42
SPEAKER_03: But like it's like now I have empathy for that version and I'm able to like be more gentle with my past.
21:50
SPEAKER_02: So what are you with all that, what are you looking for to get out of this next relationship?
21:55
SPEAKER_03: I like what are things I already have been.
22:00
SPEAKER_03: You know, we've like been talking about it, and I have already been like, I, you know, in my last relationship, like I would say the person that I was dating was really, really an unhealed human.
22:12
SPEAKER_03: Um but I also did bad things as well.
22:17
SPEAKER_03: And so like I just am trying to be so incredibly careful with this because I feel like I'm like building a foundation and and I'm just trying to be so intentional in every part of it.
22:27
SPEAKER_03: So I keep being like, okay, like this is who I am.
22:30
SPEAKER_03: Like I don't want I feel like before my previous relationship, like I like shape shifted into whoever I needed to be.
22:37
SPEAKER_03: So like if I needed to be a doormat, I would be a doormat just so that I would have somebody love me.
22:42
SPEAKER_03: And it's like I refuse to do that.
22:43
SPEAKER_03: So I'm like laying it all out on the line.
22:46
SPEAKER_03: Like, this is what you're getting.
22:48
SPEAKER_03: This is me.
22:49
SPEAKER_03: I'm not going to shape shift.
22:50
SPEAKER_03: And like, if you're in it, then you have to accept all of this.
22:53
SPEAKER_03: And it's been great thus far.
22:55
SPEAKER_03: And like just being like, I want to be able to have like there was no communication in my past relationship.
23:01
SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, I want to be able to have even the most uncomfortable conversations.
23:04
SPEAKER_03: Like, that's such a token of love, is like being having really uncomfortable conversations that like maybe will hurt each other's feelings in the moment, but like it's because we have the same goal in the end.
23:14
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, you know, and like I didn't have that foundation before.
23:16
SPEAKER_03: So, like, my goal is just to be the most honest, like version of myself throughout the entire process of building with another person.
23:25
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
23:26
SPEAKER_03: Um, because like, you know, if they're really meant to be my person, like we're gonna be able to withstand this, you know.
23:31
SPEAKER_02: Of course.
23:31
SPEAKER_02: I think I agree with that.
23:32
SPEAKER_02: Like, you want someone who's well, I I mean, for me specifically, just you know, one thing that I've always I think respected and wanted out of a partner is just emotional maturity, you know.
23:42
SPEAKER_02: Granted, obviously, like I haven't always been the most emotionally mature, being younger and whatever.
23:48
SPEAKER_02: So, yeah, but I feel like um this time around, things that I really valued were just that maturity level to for somebody also for somebody like in that maturity, for someone who knows who they are and what they want out of life.
24:04
SPEAKER_02: Because in my last relationship, I do feel like my partner was a little lost in what he wanted.
24:10
SPEAKER_02: And then that kind of became a big issue in our relationship because I, you know, completely did a 180 on my career and started pursuing a dream.
24:20
SPEAKER_02: And I feel like that was kind of pinned against me in a way of being like, Oh, you're living out this dream.
24:25
SPEAKER_02: And I would be like, Well, what's your dream?
24:27
SPEAKER_02: And he was like, Well, I don't know.
24:28
SPEAKER_02: So I was like, I just don't want, I want somebody who has a better idea of what they want out of life.
24:33
SPEAKER_02: And granted, like that also comes with age and time because like I have figured that out and I'm still figuring that out, but like I feel like I have a better grasp on all of that now, you know, like what I want out of life.
24:42
SPEAKER_02: So somebody who has that maturity emotionally and just like is very like secure in themselves, but two communication, yeah, for sure.
24:50
SPEAKER_02: Because I know that in the past I also used to be very, very afraid to have though those hard conversations, and I just didn't want to deal with conflict.
24:59
SPEAKER_02: But truth is, you're never gonna get anywhere and things are just gonna snowball and you know the whole thing.
25:03
SPEAKER_02: So I feel like going into this relationship, I was like, the one thing I want to do is just be honest and communicate, which so far I feel like has been really good.
25:11
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I feel like you guys have been doing a really good job.
25:13
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, and we like talked about that, you know.
25:15
SPEAKER_02: We're like, yeah, we've I think we've done a really, really good job of being able to communicate effectively and and calmly and rationally with each other and like work through everything, you know?
25:25
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
25:25
SPEAKER_02: Um, which I think is a really healthy sign.
25:28
SPEAKER_02: So yeah, I think those are those are the two things that I that I really wanted to like.
25:32
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, I feel like, and obviously with everything that you've shared with me, I keep saying to you, I'm like, I feel like the biggest green flag about Omar is that like whatever you guys are going through, whatever, he's so willing to chat about it and talk about it and unpack it as many times as you guys need.
25:45
SPEAKER_03: And that's something that I've been talking about also with with Denzel.
25:48
SPEAKER_03: Is I'm like, I want to like, even if we talk about it once, like it might not be enough.
25:54
SPEAKER_03: No, no, like sometimes it isn't.
25:55
SPEAKER_03: You gotta sometimes you have to unpack, like sometimes you have to beat the fuck out of that horse, bitch.
25:59
SPEAKER_03: You know what I mean?
26:00
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, of course.
26:00
SPEAKER_03: Like no shade, but like some horses just like they gotta get like Yeah, and I think there's okay, all right.
26:07
SPEAKER_02: We don't not the animal violence we don't gotta be hurting all animals.
26:11
SPEAKER_02: Um, but I do agree.
26:12
SPEAKER_02: I mean, I think I think like that that just happened recently, you know.
26:17
SPEAKER_02: Like, I we had to have multiple conversations just because, you know, of course, sometimes you talk through things, but then you have lingering feelings or whatever, and then like little things come up in your head, and you're like, like, even for me, I was like, okay, I'm probably being silly, but like I just need one more conversation, you know?
26:31
SPEAKER_01: And um sorry the way you're like you're like this right now.
26:34
SPEAKER_03: You're like, no, I know I can't, I have not stopped playing with my hair the entire hour that we've had.
26:41
SPEAKER_01: No, literally, and honestly, I'm like, it's growing on me.
26:44
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, wow, should I grow my hair?
26:46
SPEAKER_01: Should we just do it?
26:48
SPEAKER_01: Should we just do it?
26:49
SPEAKER_01: Like, I'm loving this little weight that I got going on.
26:51
SPEAKER_02: Like, I don't like dainty.
26:53
SPEAKER_02: I'm like, I don't feel dainty, but um, I wish I did.
26:58
SPEAKER_02: Like, I just really don't think I'd be a cute drag queen.
27:01
SPEAKER_03: I would be so kind.
27:03
SPEAKER_02: I just like don't think I would be fish.
27:05
SPEAKER_03: I think I'd be like, I would be fish down.
27:07
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, you would.
27:08
SPEAKER_02: You really would.
27:09
SPEAKER_02: I just don't think that's meant for me.
27:10
SPEAKER_02: I feel like my face is too like square.
27:12
SPEAKER_03: Now that I'm getting more muscular, it does it's not hitting the same way.
27:15
SPEAKER_03: Like I remember I did drag when I was like like 18.
27:17
SPEAKER_03: Oh, and you were like and I was so twinky and so like yeah, but now I like have like muscle and like a lot of body hair.
27:25
SPEAKER_03: Like I don't I don't think that's a good one.
27:26
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, the body hair is also like certainly I don't think it would hit the same, unfortunately, in like tattoos and stuff.
27:32
SPEAKER_03: And you know, I know that there's you know, you can you can make it happen, but yeah.
27:36
SPEAKER_03: I don't know.
27:38
SPEAKER_03: I I do say that we one day have to do a drag performance.
27:41
SPEAKER_03: Like before we die, we we would eat it up.
27:44
SPEAKER_03: We would eat that shit up.
27:46
SPEAKER_03: The thing is, I would I would murder in the in the talent portion of the fine.
27:50
SPEAKER_03: Oh my god.
27:51
SPEAKER_03: Like I'm slamming my um clam on the floor.
27:54
SPEAKER_03: Clam or my pearl.
27:56
SPEAKER_03: What is it?
27:57
SPEAKER_00: No clam.
27:58
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm gonna clam.
28:00
SPEAKER_00: Like I'm just slamming my clam on the floor.
28:02
SPEAKER_01: You know the trick.
28:03
SPEAKER_00: The clam slam.
28:04
SPEAKER_01: I know the clam slam.
28:08
SPEAKER_01: Welcome to the clam slam.
28:10
SPEAKER_01: Welcome to the clam slam.
28:12
SPEAKER_01: Welcome to um my god.
28:18
SPEAKER_02: Um, well, I'm so obsessed.
28:22
SPEAKER_02: And um, wait, okay, so you're gonna go to Canada soon, aren't you?
28:25
SPEAKER_02: I am.
28:28
SPEAKER_02: Yes, my young.
28:30
SPEAKER_02: I'm going to see my meow.
28:31
SPEAKER_02: I'm going to see my meow.
28:32
SPEAKER_02: Um, okay, well, period.
28:34
SPEAKER_02: I love that for you so much.
28:35
SPEAKER_03: Oh my god, I'm yeah.
28:37
SPEAKER_03: What?
28:38
SPEAKER_03: What?
28:39
SPEAKER_03: What?
28:40
SPEAKER_03: No, like I just like am gonna get taken to pound town.
28:51
SPEAKER_01: One way tickets a poundtown, baby.
28:54
SPEAKER_01: And I don't want to come back.
28:56
SPEAKER_03: I don't want to motherfucking come back.
28:58
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
28:59
SPEAKER_03: Come back.
29:04
SPEAKER_03: No, like I'm when they literally put this wig back on and the skirt.
29:08
SPEAKER_01: No, you should honestly.
29:09
SPEAKER_03: I mean, that might up the antics.
29:11
SPEAKER_03: Like a skirt and a wig next time.
29:13
SPEAKER_03: Girl.
29:14
SPEAKER_02: You in the wig.
29:16
SPEAKER_02: I I don't think the way, I don't think I would be in the fantasy in a wig, honestly.
29:20
SPEAKER_02: But um the skirt moments, yeah, yeah.
29:23
SPEAKER_02: Okay, team.
29:24
SPEAKER_03: It was fun, it was fun.
29:25
SPEAKER_03: Um, I like get to Canada, I open my suitcase, it's nothing but skirts.
29:29
SPEAKER_03: No, like I wouldn't, I wouldn't put it past you, honestly.
29:33
SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna try something new.
29:34
SPEAKER_02: The way like everyone uh on my classes this week have been like, oh my god, like what'd you dress up as?
29:39
SPEAKER_02: What's your costume?
29:39
SPEAKER_02: Do you have pictures?
29:40
SPEAKER_02: And I'm like, I did show them.
29:42
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, just just so we're clear, as uh we dressed up as fuck Mary Kill.
29:47
SPEAKER_03: With Nathan.
29:48
SPEAKER_03: So with Nathan, our third.
29:49
SPEAKER_03: So Brett was fuck.
29:51
SPEAKER_03: I was fuck, go figure.
29:52
SPEAKER_03: I was Mary, yeah.
29:54
SPEAKER_03: Ugh.
29:54
SPEAKER_03: And then Nathan was killed.
29:55
SPEAKER_03: Was killed.
29:56
SPEAKER_03: So like I we were at this party and everyone's like just like thinking that I'm like, I everyone was like hitting on me, whatever, doing this whole thing.
30:03
SPEAKER_03: My ass cheeks were out, and I'm like, like, we're all everyone's like drunk, like what and I'm like trying to make sure everyone knows.
30:11
SPEAKER_03: I'm like, yeah, we're fucking Mary Kill.
30:13
SPEAKER_03: Cause I'm like, they just think that I'm like wearing a corset and a thong, like as if I'm just like, oh, are you just a slut?
30:18
SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, no, like there's a concept here.
30:21
SPEAKER_02: Also, I was just like in a veil and a corset and a skirt.
30:23
SPEAKER_02: So I'm like, what, you're just a bride?
30:25
SPEAKER_02: Like, like what like no?
30:27
SPEAKER_03: I was like literally trying to tell everybody, I'm like, no, there is some creative direction here.
30:31
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah, for sure.
30:32
SPEAKER_02: Like Nathan's is the only one that was better standalone.
30:34
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, because like he had like the weapons and stuff.
30:36
SPEAKER_02: It was like kill Bill Vice.
30:37
SPEAKER_02: Right, right.
30:37
SPEAKER_03: But I was like, I'm just a bride.
30:39
SPEAKER_03: Um have you ever been cheated on?
30:43
SPEAKER_03: No.
30:44
SPEAKER_03: Wait, oh really?
30:45
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, no, I was right.
30:46
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, have you?
30:47
SPEAKER_02: Yes.
30:48
SPEAKER_02: Oh, wait, your last relationship?
30:50
SPEAKER_03: Down, yeah.
30:50
SPEAKER_03: I was cheated on, like crazy cheated on.
30:53
SPEAKER_03: Like, this is let's just talk about this little story really fast.
30:56
SPEAKER_03: Okay.
30:57
SPEAKER_03: Um just to share.
30:59
SPEAKER_03: Uh-huh.
31:00
SPEAKER_03: You know, because I love it.
31:02
SPEAKER_03: I'm so sorry.
31:02
SPEAKER_02: Your past relationships have been insane.
31:06
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
31:06
SPEAKER_03: Like the first one was really great.
31:08
SPEAKER_03: Okay, okay.
31:08
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
31:08
SPEAKER_03: The first one was really, really great.
31:09
SPEAKER_03: There was just the last one.
31:11
SPEAKER_03: There was no cheating.
31:12
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
31:12
SPEAKER_03: The first one was really great, and whatever.
31:13
SPEAKER_03: It's just my last relationship, which is what I referenced the most.
31:16
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
31:16
SPEAKER_03: Um, okay, then yeah, but okay, so like just just for like for an example.
31:21
SPEAKER_03: So me and my my ex-boyfriend, uh, we went to the club together.
31:27
SPEAKER_03: We went out one night.
31:28
SPEAKER_03: We met this like couple that we became friends with.
31:30
SPEAKER_03: We're like chatting it up with them, like whatever.
31:33
SPEAKER_03: And we're hanging out, we're on the dance floor, whatever.
31:35
SPEAKER_03: And the two, like Joelle and the the other boyfriend, which I was like just trying like naive and trusting, we're like, Oh, we're gonna run to the bathroom really quick, whatever.
31:43
SPEAKER_03: We're like, okay, we'll be here, like, whatever, we're just having a good time.
31:47
SPEAKER_03: I literally go, or they're in the bathroom for hella long.
31:53
SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, and I'm like asking the guy I'm with.
31:56
SPEAKER_03: I'm like, is this normal?
31:58
SPEAKER_03: Like, whatever, like, and then I um I and literally like immediately, like, it was like a switch went off, and I was like, No, I ran to the bathroom.
32:07
SPEAKER_02: Oh god, okay.
32:08
SPEAKER_03: I was like, I knew, like, I knew in my heart of hearts.
32:11
SPEAKER_03: So I ran to the bathroom.
32:12
SPEAKER_03: I see both of their feet in the same stall.
32:15
SPEAKER_03: Oh, I lay down, but like I had no chill, like I at that point, you don't care.
32:21
SPEAKER_03: Like you lose all like while you're there, while I'm there is insane.
32:26
SPEAKER_03: Insane.
32:27
SPEAKER_02: I mean, it's insane either way, but while you're there, it's just like so whatever.
32:30
SPEAKER_03: So I literally am laid out flat on the bathroom floor, disgusting bathroom floor, it's like a gay club, mind you.
32:37
SPEAKER_03: And I see them, and my boyfriend was they were yeah, exchanging bodily in mouth.
32:48
SPEAKER_03: Eggplant and mouth is exactly what was happening.
32:50
SPEAKER_03: That's crazy.
32:51
SPEAKER_02: For me to see that.
32:52
SPEAKER_02: No, that is literally insane.
32:54
SPEAKER_02: Like you should never see that.
32:56
SPEAKER_02: No, no, that is crazy.
33:00
SPEAKER_03: I literally banged on the door, I started banging on the door.
33:04
SPEAKER_03: I'm crawling under the thing, I'm like yelling.
33:07
SPEAKER_03: Honestly, though, at that point, as you should.
33:09
SPEAKER_03: It's like you lose, you lose.
33:11
SPEAKER_02: But also, I don't even like I don't think that's crazy.
33:13
SPEAKER_03: You are literally like are you kidding me?
33:15
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, that's crazy.
33:16
SPEAKER_03: Like, whatever, and then and then denied it literally until years later.
33:21
SPEAKER_03: And I was literally like, I saw it.
33:23
SPEAKER_03: So what what is there?
33:24
SPEAKER_03: Denied it after you were literally there.
33:26
SPEAKER_03: That is crazy.
33:27
SPEAKER_03: Like, literally refused to talk about it like the whole nine.
33:30
SPEAKER_03: Like, I'm literally was like, what do you mean you're denying it?
33:33
SPEAKER_03: Like, you I saw it.
33:34
SPEAKER_03: I saw it.
33:35
SPEAKER_03: I literally saw it with my own eyes.
33:37
SPEAKER_03: That's crazy.
33:38
SPEAKER_03: So, yeah, cheating is uh definitely like one of the worst things to like ever exist.
33:44
SPEAKER_03: Like, it's like so hard.
33:45
SPEAKER_03: And it's like the sad part is that I cheated on him too.
33:49
SPEAKER_03: You know what I mean?
33:49
SPEAKER_03: Like, because I was cheated on so often, I like got to a point where I was like, I'm I'm cheating, like I'm cheating back, you know?
33:56
SPEAKER_03: Like it's like you don't you don't care anymore, you know, and then you're just stuck in this like thing, it's just it was just not good, and it made me act like not a great version of myself and like whatever, and that's why I just like you know, I had to move forward, but I don't know.
34:08
SPEAKER_03: So, anyways, like in regards to this new relationship, I've been like, you know, what what what do you consider cheating?
34:14
SPEAKER_03: Um like have you guys spoken about that?
34:17
SPEAKER_03: What are your thoughts?
34:18
SPEAKER_02: Like, I think cheating, I think you one, especially nowadays with like open relationships and whatever, I think cheating can look different to so many different people that I do think you need to talk about that, especially.
34:31
SPEAKER_02: I mean, in the straight world too, but I think just being in the gay world, especially in the gay world, because it is so common.
34:37
SPEAKER_02: So, like when Omar and I first started dating, like we did have that conversation, like, you know, monogamy open relationships, what we want, like we're you know, our intentions, like we had all that conversation.
34:49
SPEAKER_02: I think because it is so common in the gay community that I was like, I'm not about to get into this if we're not on the same page, you know?
34:57
SPEAKER_02: Um, because I have dated guys who right off the bat are like, I only do open relationships.
35:02
SPEAKER_02: Right.
35:02
SPEAKER_02: And I'm like, that's just not my gig, you know, like I don't want to do that.
35:06
SPEAKER_02: So for us, we both agreed like we want to focus on our person.
35:11
SPEAKER_02: We don't want to be hooking up with other people, we don't want to be dating other people, like that we want to be here, you know?
35:16
SPEAKER_02: So for me, cheating would be literally anything flirting with somebody else, having sex with somebody else or hooking up with somebody else, like any of that, you know.
35:24
SPEAKER_02: I think emotionally, emotionally or physically, because we had we have set those like parameters.
35:31
SPEAKER_02: I think, yeah, if you're emotionally or physically cheating on me, like or with somebody else, then I consider that cheating.
35:38
SPEAKER_03: Well, how do you think that you would react to cheating?
35:40
SPEAKER_03: Like, would it be immediately done?
35:42
SPEAKER_03: Would it be like conversations that you would have to unpack?
35:44
SPEAKER_03: Would it be like I personally think listen, I and I would never want that for you ever, obviously, but uh it's curious.
35:52
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I I just think trust is so hard to regain.
35:58
SPEAKER_03: Oh my god, yeah.
35:59
SPEAKER_02: So I feel like honestly, it would be really, really fucking hard for me to like build that trust back up because in the back of my head, I'm always gonna think, or I feel, that's at least how I feel.
36:10
SPEAKER_02: I would think.
36:10
SPEAKER_02: I would always think, I I would always think like, well, what if he wants something else?
36:15
SPEAKER_02: Like, what if he's doing this because he wants to stay in it?
36:18
SPEAKER_02: But what if his his cravings are also elsewhere?
36:21
SPEAKER_02: So I'd rather you for me, I'd rather you tell me, like, hey, I'm feeling this way.
36:26
SPEAKER_02: What do you think about an open relationship?
36:28
SPEAKER_02: Let's talk about it, let's see what what the root of it is and whatever.
36:31
SPEAKER_02: I'd rather have that conversation than you go behind my back and cheat on me.
36:35
SPEAKER_02: Cause at least if we're talking through it, we can see like, is it just that, you know, maybe we've been together for 20 years and we're gonna be.
36:41
SPEAKER_02: Things are getting boring.
36:42
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, we need a little spice, like whatever.
36:44
SPEAKER_03: Is this something that we could like tackle together?
36:46
SPEAKER_03: Is this something that you need to do on your own?
36:48
SPEAKER_03: Like, yeah, there's so many, but it's like people are so afraid to have those conversations.
36:53
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, but I and that's why I think you need to be with somebody who from the get-go communicates.
36:59
SPEAKER_02: Because, like, for us, like we again, I who knows what will happen in the future, but at the same time, what I really like about this situation is that right off the bat, we both were like, we want to like nip things in the butt if we can right off the bat.
37:11
SPEAKER_02: Like, we're not trying to sit around and hold on to anything.
37:14
SPEAKER_02: Cause I'm like, no, you shouldn't have to.
37:16
SPEAKER_02: You should feel safe with your person to have those conversations because also it might, it might and it will help, you know what I mean, in the long run, as opposed to bottling it up and then reacting.
37:27
SPEAKER_03: Um yeah, no, I feel the exact same.
37:30
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
37:31
SPEAKER_03: Um like what do you consider cheating?
37:34
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, I think like anything like it's like with like anything that will disrespect your partner or your relationship, I think is like considered cheating.
37:43
SPEAKER_03: So it's like whether it's like responding to a DM, like in a flirty way, or like not disclosing to people that you are in a relationship and allowing people to like flirt with you or like whatever, like I think that there's just like a lot of things.
38:00
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, I agree.
38:01
SPEAKER_03: You know, like it's like if you're really trying to be intentional about protecting your dynamic, then yeah, it's like anything can be cheating.
38:10
SPEAKER_03: Like, you know, obviously, like and I've said this before, but like I think that it's healthy that to receive attention, right?
38:16
SPEAKER_03: Like, I think that it's healthy that for you and your partner to receive attention.
38:19
SPEAKER_03: I think it's like a human natural thing for us to want to feel good, and it feels good when we're hit on it, it feels good when people notice us or notice how we look or like our bodies, like, or whatever.
38:28
SPEAKER_03: And like that's totally fine.
38:29
SPEAKER_03: And I think it's also fine to be kind and receive it and be like, oh my god, thank you.
38:34
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, whatever.
38:34
SPEAKER_03: But to be like to go further than that is like where it gets a little dicey, and then that's like when it's like, okay, do you feel like you're not receiving enough attention at home?
38:43
SPEAKER_03: Do you feel like whatever?
38:44
SPEAKER_03: And that's where like the deeper conversations I feel like come into play.
38:47
SPEAKER_03: Of course.
38:47
SPEAKER_03: Um but yeah, like, and I also feel like, you know, again, like we're gay men, so it's like, yeah, like conversations are gonna have to be had, especially as relationships continue to evolve, because you know, we just live in a world, like a gay world that's like temptation is everywhere.
39:03
SPEAKER_03: Like we've all grown up in this community together as very like sexually free and sexually like I don't know what the right word is, like prowess, like we're very like you know, um like the the community of gays and all of us have just grown up like having lots of meaningless sex and just like whatever.
39:22
SPEAKER_03: So obviously, like those cravings will always like be there in the back of our minds, like or whatever, and I think like you know, as we get older, blah blah blah, but it's like the community the communication is like has to be the at the forefront of anything.
39:34
SPEAKER_03: Like if you feel like you need anything, then we need to talk about it.
39:36
SPEAKER_03: Like the second that you go and do something behind my back is when it's like that's really hard to re-re to fix to men to build.
39:43
SPEAKER_03: And it's like once your relationship gets because I've been there and gets to a space of like rebuild, it feels impossible.
39:50
SPEAKER_03: It's hard, yeah.
39:51
SPEAKER_03: Like because like then the the resentment is so heavy.
39:56
SPEAKER_03: It is is so heavy, and then it's like you're not like you think so like it's not that you think less of your partner, but like there's always a piece of you that's like still a little mad or a little hurt, you know, where it's like I'd rather just like have that uncomfortable conversation and like you could just be like real as fuck with me about what the fuck you need, and let's like get into it, and then you know what I mean?
40:16
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, um but yeah, I like cannot take us serious in these things.
40:24
SPEAKER_02: I know.
40:25
SPEAKER_02: Um, yeah, girl.
40:26
SPEAKER_02: Well, okay, what do you think makes you more Paris than Nicole?
40:34
SPEAKER_03: Um what was the question?
40:40
SPEAKER_00: Are we like doing this or where where are you?
40:42
SPEAKER_01: What's good?
40:43
SPEAKER_01: Hey, that was the part of the bit.
40:44
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
40:46
SPEAKER_02: Um Walmart, like where they sell wall stuff.
40:49
SPEAKER_02: Um I said, what do you think?
40:53
SPEAKER_02: What do you think makes you more Paris than Nicole?
40:56
SPEAKER_03: Um I think like um I think I can be like a little more like outwardly ditzy.
41:07
SPEAKER_03: You don't say um like I think like I'm like the star.
41:14
SPEAKER_03: Oh my work.
41:17
SPEAKER_03: No, I'm kidding.
41:18
SPEAKER_03: Um yeah, I think like it just I don't I don't even know how to like explain it, but it just makes so much sense that I'm Paris and you're Nicole.
41:26
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, like I mean for one, like the height.
41:31
SPEAKER_03: Like yeah, you know what I mean?
41:34
SPEAKER_02: Like also the race.
41:43
SPEAKER_01: I'm just kidding.
41:48
SPEAKER_01: Um yeah, yeah, yeah.
41:49
SPEAKER_02: I think like Nicole is like a little bit maybe on the like quieter side or like in that sense of things.
41:57
SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
41:58
SPEAKER_02: Um, but still just yeah, silly, silly goober herself.
42:02
SPEAKER_02: So that's how I feel sometimes.
42:05
SPEAKER_03: No, we really are Paris and Nicole though.
42:07
SPEAKER_03: No, we really are.
42:08
SPEAKER_03: Like, like you're always gonna be my sidekick and just like but like I'm your sidekick too, you know, just in all aspects and avenues of life.
42:21
SPEAKER_03: And like we're always gonna be up to some crazy shenanigans together, you know.
42:25
SPEAKER_03: And like it kind of just like always feels like people work for us.
42:29
SPEAKER_01: That is insane.
42:30
SPEAKER_01: Oh my god.
42:31
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna be like uh what I don't even know what that means, but um like we're the main characters.
42:37
SPEAKER_02: Well, yeah, that part we are the main characters.
42:39
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I feel like we walk into a room and let's be real.
42:41
SPEAKER_03: It's like, you know what I'm saying?
42:42
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
42:44
SPEAKER_03: It's like no shade to the other people.
42:46
SPEAKER_03: No, no shade at all.
42:47
SPEAKER_03: But like it's just me and my bestie versus the girl.
42:50
SPEAKER_01: Right.
42:50
SPEAKER_02: And it and it always will be.
42:52
SPEAKER_02: And I know that's right.
42:53
SPEAKER_03: And I know that's fucking right.
42:54
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
42:55
SPEAKER_02: Um, okay.
42:56
SPEAKER_02: Well, this has been so literally so much fun.
42:58
SPEAKER_02: I like don't want to take this outfit off.
43:00
SPEAKER_02: I know.
43:00
SPEAKER_02: It's we should just go out to dinner like this.
43:02
SPEAKER_02: Oh my god, yeah, let's do it.
43:04
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
43:06
SPEAKER_02: Thank you guys so much for tuning in.
43:08
SPEAKER_02: Oh my god, last year we were in daddy cheer costumes, and this year we're Paris and a gold.
43:12
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
43:12
SPEAKER_02: So, like, what is next year?
43:14
SPEAKER_02: We'll see.
43:15
SPEAKER_03: Oh my god, it's like a skirt every year.
43:18
SPEAKER_02: Oh my god, we have to keep the tradition going.
43:19
SPEAKER_03: We have to keep the tradition going.
43:21
SPEAKER_03: Like, are we wearing skirts for like the bit or are we just horny?
43:27
SPEAKER_03: Win win.
43:27
SPEAKER_03: A little bit of this, a little bit of that.
43:29
SPEAKER_03: A little bit of this, a little bit of that.
43:30
SPEAKER_01: Oh my god.
43:31
SPEAKER_03: Well, it's Paris and Nicole signing out.
43:33
SPEAKER_03: Signing out.
43:34
SPEAKER_03: That's hot.
43:34
SPEAKER_01: That's hot.