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- 0:02Speaker 1: Welcome to MMHC, your go-to mental health podcast.
- 0:06Speaker 2: I'm Eddie Carrillo, a licensed professional counselor.
- 0:08Speaker 1: And I'm Justin Romano, a board-certified child and adolescent psychiatrist.
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- 0:31Speaker 1: So thanks for tuning in. This is a show by
- 0:33Speaker 1: two millennials, but it is intended to be for everyone.
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- 0:42Speaker 1: of Spreaker from iHeartMedia. Welcome back to MMHC. Eddie, we
- 0:50Speaker 1: got a big anniversary this month. October is our month,
- 0:57Speaker 1: is our anniversary month. How long we've been doing this, man?
- 1:00Speaker 2: Seven years. What is that? Is that the paper anniversary?
- 1:03Speaker 2: Which one is the silver?
- 1:06Speaker 1: Paper is usually year one.
- 1:08Speaker 2: Let me see here. Oh, fuck.
- 1:11Speaker 1: Seven years is traditionally copper and wool.
- 1:14Speaker 2: Nice. Okay. There you go. Is year six the Porto
- 1:20Speaker 2: anniversary or was that just us?
- 1:23Speaker 1: That was just us.
- 1:24Speaker 2: Okay. That's good to know. That is crazy to think.
- 1:27Speaker 1: That that was a year ago. Wow, that we were
- 1:29Speaker 1: in Porto.
- 1:31Speaker 2: Crazy.
- 1:32Speaker 1: Cool.
- 1:32Speaker 2: Time flies when you're having fun. It does.
- 1:35Speaker 1: And that's one of the reasons why we continue to
- 1:37Speaker 1: do this because it's just fun. It's fun to hang
- 1:40Speaker 1: out with you. It's fun to learn. It's fun to
- 1:41Speaker 1: keep doing the show. And we're still just baffled that
- 1:45Speaker 1: we get thousands of downloads every month still. You guys
- 1:49Speaker 1: are still listening. And that's a cool thing. We do
- 1:53Speaker 1: this for you guys. We'd like to think that hey,
- 1:56Speaker 1: if one person is helped by our show, then all
- 1:59Speaker 1: seven years have been worth it.
- 2:01Speaker 2: How sick is that? We're in the 2,000 to 2,500
- 2:04Speaker 2: downloads a month range. People have just been listening and
- 2:07Speaker 2: continuing to listen, which is cool. And I actually think
- 2:10Speaker 2: it's actually slightly increased recently, like over the past few months.
- 2:14Speaker 2: So I think that is awesome. We appreciate you all. Again,
- 2:17Speaker 2: like Justin said, it's fun to hang out with each other,
- 2:20Speaker 2: but it's also the learning part. Before this, I think
- 2:23Speaker 2: the coolest part is every time before we start recording,
- 2:25Speaker 2: Like the first like 10 to 15 minutes is just
- 2:27Speaker 2: you and I catching up and then just talking, like
- 2:31Speaker 2: just learning. Like you're teaching me about antipsychotic medication before
- 2:34Speaker 2: we started this. That's not what the episode's about, but
- 2:37Speaker 2: it was just something that's, you know, a topic that
- 2:38Speaker 2: I'm doing in my intro to diagnosis class. You're teaching me,
- 2:41Speaker 2: helping me fill in the gaps of the stuff that
- 2:43Speaker 2: I don't know. So I think it's cool. It's been
- 2:45Speaker 2: awesome to just continue to learn with you and get
- 2:47Speaker 2: to do this on a very regular basis together.
- 2:50Speaker 1: For sure. And even just hanging out with you, learning
- 2:53Speaker 1: your style. I learned so much from you, too. It's
- 2:56Speaker 1: a nice back and forth. But if you're listening to
- 2:59Speaker 1: this and you've always thought like, hey, I kind of
- 3:01Speaker 1: want to reach out to these guys.
- 3:02Speaker 2: Do it.
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- 3:18Speaker 1: That's probably where we're most likely to respond to. But yeah, honestly,
- 3:23Speaker 1: we would love to hear from you because we think
- 3:24Speaker 1: it's so cool that so many people listen.
- 3:27Speaker 2: Yeah. What do we have today? I think this is
- 3:31Speaker 2: an episode for me to listen and learn, but what
- 3:34Speaker 2: are we teaching about?
- 3:37Speaker 1: Yes, I read a book. And this book was so
- 3:40Speaker 1: good and so impactful that I felt like it was
- 3:43Speaker 1: worth it to do a whole episode on especially because
- 3:46Speaker 1: it changed my perception of a whole diagnosis. So I
- 3:49Speaker 1: think we've done a little bit on this type of
- 3:52Speaker 1: thing in the past, but we figured it was time
- 3:54Speaker 1: to do it again. So the book that I read
- 3:57Speaker 1: was called Sociopath by Patrick Gagné, who is actually a
- 4:01Speaker 1: lady named Patrick. So I thought that was kind of cool.
- 4:04Speaker 1: So yeah, she has actually been diagnosed as a sociopath,
- 4:09Speaker 1: a card-carrying sociopath. And there will be spoilers, but I
- 4:13Speaker 1: would encourage you, if you're interested in psychology, if you're
- 4:16Speaker 1: interested in this topic, go check it out. It's a
- 4:19Speaker 1: great read. It's autobiographical. So she's talking about her life,
- 4:23Speaker 1: her experiences, all the things that she has been through.
- 4:26Speaker 1: And I very much enjoyed it, learned a ton, and
- 4:29Speaker 1: it shifted my perspective. So it checked a lot of
- 4:32Speaker 1: the boxes for things that I find really interesting. And
- 4:36Speaker 1: this book does not go the way you think it will.
- 4:39Speaker 1: Hearing the title sociopath, you think it's probably going to
- 4:41Speaker 1: end up in tragedy and jail, but it really does not. Hey, Eddie,
- 4:47Speaker 1: when you hear sociopath, like what comes to mind? Who
- 4:50Speaker 1: comes to mind?
- 4:52Speaker 2: Yeah, who comes to mind? I think we'll talk about
- 4:54Speaker 2: it at the end, but I think one of them,
- 4:57Speaker 2: one of the main ones I'll think about is like
- 4:59Speaker 2: Ted Bundy, someone who people consider to be a sociopath.
- 5:01Speaker 2: I also think of the word and how much those
- 5:05Speaker 2: get thrown around all the time to really talk about
- 5:07Speaker 2: people who don't really follow traditional societal norms, who really
- 5:11Speaker 2: go against the grain in very extreme manners. I think
- 5:14Speaker 2: the other piece to it, obviously, because we are experts
- 5:17Speaker 2: in this, but just knowing that sociopath and psychopath are
- 5:20Speaker 2: not actually diagnoses. And I know we'll talk about it
- 5:22Speaker 2: here in a little bit, but those are probably the
- 5:24Speaker 2: main things that stick out, is these very, this is
- 5:27Speaker 2: not what I believe, but this is what I think
- 5:29Speaker 2: pop culture has really, like, exemplify it as people who
- 5:34Speaker 2: are considered to be sociopaths or psychopaths, maybe dangerous, manipulative,
- 5:39Speaker 2: persuasive in all the wrong ways, people that you don't
- 5:42Speaker 2: want to be around. And if I can actually probably
- 5:44Speaker 2: take it a step further, this is my own bias.
- 5:47Speaker 2: I hear the word sociopath or psychopath. I just think
- 5:49Speaker 2: of men. And so that's probably something to do with
- 5:52Speaker 2: the media and things that I've consumed over the years
- 5:54Speaker 2: in popular culture. But yeah, that's my ramble on it.
- 5:58Speaker 1: Well, that was excellent because you combined like the clinical
- 6:01Speaker 1: diagnosis with what society thinks. So that was exactly what
- 6:06Speaker 1: I was looking for.
- 6:06Speaker 2: We didn't even plan that one out.
- 6:08Speaker 1: So yeah, you're spot on. And Patrick Gagné, the author
- 6:14Speaker 1: of the book, she grew up and she was always
- 6:16Speaker 1: a little bit different. Even in the book, she talks
- 6:18Speaker 1: about how she had like this pet ferret that always
- 6:20Speaker 1: like followed her around. And her and this ferret were
- 6:23Speaker 1: always just getting into like mischief and like she'd love
- 6:25Speaker 1: this pet ferret. Her parents always kind of knew that
- 6:29Speaker 1: she was a little bit different, not quite like every
- 6:32Speaker 1: other kid. She really did not have any sort of
- 6:35Speaker 1: regard for the rules. She also did not really care
- 6:37Speaker 1: about social rules, not just like legal rules or parent rules,
- 6:41Speaker 1: just like social rules. So like she was at sleepover
- 6:45Speaker 1: or a get together with friends and she'd like found
- 6:48Speaker 1: these kids annoying. And so she locked him out of
- 6:50Speaker 1: the house in the middle of the night and just
- 6:52Speaker 1: like left. And then, and so like the kids were
- 6:55Speaker 1: like banging on the windows and doors and like, please
- 6:57Speaker 1: let us in. And the parents were like, what the
- 6:59Speaker 1: hell happened? And they're like, Patrick was just like, I
- 7:01Speaker 1: locked him out. They, they annoyed me. They pissed me off.
- 7:04Speaker 1: So like not following rules, doing things that she knew
- 7:09Speaker 1: were wrong, but didn't really care. She found it very
- 7:14Speaker 1: hard to make connections and make friends because she didn't
- 7:16Speaker 1: really care about the same thing that every other little
- 7:19Speaker 1: girl or little boy really cared about. She did not
- 7:22Speaker 1: really care about hurting other people. When she was young,
- 7:26Speaker 1: she did occasionally hurt other people and hurt people emotionally.
- 7:30Speaker 1: She kind of had her own rules for herself so
- 7:33Speaker 1: that she didn't hurt people when she got older. But
- 7:36Speaker 1: when she was younger, it kind of happened a little
- 7:37Speaker 1: bit more. She would also just straight up leave the
- 7:41Speaker 1: house in the middle of the night and just go roam.
- 7:43Speaker 1: Like her mom said like, hey, don't leave the house.
- 7:46Speaker 1: And she's like, I find this fun. And so she'd
- 7:48Speaker 1: like go into people's garages, go into people's yards. I mean,
- 7:51Speaker 1: as a young kid, like pre-pubertal, she'd just be out
- 7:54Speaker 1: there on the streets, just like checking stuff out in
- 7:57Speaker 1: the middle of the night. Yeah, she did have some
- 7:59Speaker 1: of her own morals and rules that she cared if
- 8:01Speaker 1: she broke. But society's rules, no care in the world.
- 8:06Speaker 1: She was also able to very much intellectually understand why
- 8:11Speaker 1: people follow rules and like why rules were there. She
- 8:14Speaker 1: just had no inherent drive to follow them herself. And
- 8:18Speaker 1: so I thought that was a really interesting point where
- 8:20Speaker 1: she just thought, you know, like I get why, but
- 8:23Speaker 1: it's just not for me. I just cannot force myself
- 8:25Speaker 1: to really care about this and care about the rules.
- 8:30Speaker 1: So another really interesting aspect of the book is that
- 8:33Speaker 1: she does end up falling in love when she's a
- 8:36Speaker 1: teenager with someone that loves her and cares about her
- 8:40Speaker 1: and in a lot of ways lets her be herself.
- 8:43Speaker 1: and doesn't judge her for being a sociopathic, at least
- 8:45Speaker 1: at first. But one of the main themes throughout the
- 8:49Speaker 1: book is that everyone in her life, from her parents
- 8:52Speaker 1: to her romantic partner, they all expect her to change.
- 8:56Speaker 1: And all expect her to like work on it and
- 8:58Speaker 1: no longer have a lot of those sociopathic tendencies. And
- 9:02Speaker 1: a lot of the book is her being able to
- 9:04Speaker 1: convey to her family and to her eventual husband that, hey,
- 9:09Speaker 1: this is kind of who I am. I am working
- 9:12Speaker 1: on it. It is going to get better, but there
- 9:14Speaker 1: are always going to be things that are different about me.
- 9:18Speaker 1: She actually spent some time working in the music industry
- 9:20Speaker 1: as kind of like a music executive, but ended up
- 9:23Speaker 1: getting her PhD in psychology and studying sociopaths and like,
- 9:29Speaker 1: and doing research on how anxiety impacts sociopaths. So I
- 9:35Speaker 1: love this book. I mean, this is like everything I
- 9:37Speaker 1: find interesting. I, It's okay.
- 9:42Speaker 2: I have thoughts. I like this.
- 9:43Speaker 1: Keep going.
- 9:45Speaker 2: Something to connect. Okay. So you're talking about how she
- 9:48Speaker 2: ended up getting her PhD and studying like sociopaths, right?
- 9:51Speaker 2: Or we'll define it here in a little bit. It's
- 9:54Speaker 2: like Marsha Lenahan, you know, like the queen of DBT
- 9:57Speaker 2: or dialectical behavior therapy. She, I believe, was diagnosed with
- 10:01Speaker 2: borderline personality disorder, at least had some of the characteristics.
- 10:04Speaker 2: She ends up essentially designing the treatment, the main treatment
- 10:08Speaker 2: that we have to this day for people with borderline
- 10:11Speaker 2: personality disorder. Another thing I'm thinking about, one of my
- 10:14Speaker 2: students yesterday, we're talking about bipolar disorder and schizophrenia spectrum disorders.
- 10:19Speaker 2: They shared a book that was written that I think
- 10:21Speaker 2: you may find interesting by an author, Esme Wang. It's
- 10:24Speaker 2: a collection, an essay collection called The Collected Schizophrenias. And
- 10:29Speaker 2: it's about, it's essentially her personal narrative about her journey
- 10:32Speaker 2: towards the diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder and experiences with psychosis.
- 10:36Speaker 2: So I don't know. It's just really like making me
- 10:38Speaker 2: think of like the best way to learn about some
- 10:41Speaker 2: of these things can potentially be from people who actually
- 10:44Speaker 2: are experiencing and like know firsthand some of these disorders.
- 10:48Speaker 2: What a, yeah. Anyway, I was like, as you're sharing,
- 10:51Speaker 2: I'm like, fuck, I got to find the names of
- 10:53Speaker 2: these books. I got to share this here in a
- 10:54Speaker 2: little bit. Great point.
- 10:57Speaker 1: Because there's so much taboo. There's so much stigma around
- 11:01Speaker 1: these diagnoses that even if people identify as sociopaths, most
- 11:05Speaker 1: of them will never tell you. Like most of them
- 11:07Speaker 1: will keep it to themselves so that they are not judged.
- 11:11Speaker 1: And that prevents people from coming forward, people from being studied,
- 11:14Speaker 1: people from understanding and getting that perspective and point of view.
- 11:17Speaker 1: So that's one of the things I loved about this
- 11:19Speaker 1: book is that she was not afraid to tell people.
- 11:22Speaker 1: It even goes through a period of her life that
- 11:24Speaker 1: she mentions in the book where she told a lot
- 11:26Speaker 1: of people, especially in the music business. She'd be like, well, like,
- 11:29Speaker 1: you know me, like I'm a straight up sociopath. And
- 11:32Speaker 1: then a lot of people in the music business would
- 11:34Speaker 1: be like, oh, me too. I'm a sociopath too. And
- 11:36Speaker 1: then she'd get to know him and be like, they're
- 11:38Speaker 1: not sociopaths.
- 11:39Speaker 2: No, I'm a sociopath.
- 11:41Speaker 1: Not even close.
- 11:42Speaker 2: Yeah. Man, we should do, we'll just put it out
- 11:45Speaker 2: there now. Let's get an episode on like schizophrenia spectrum
- 11:48Speaker 2: disorders too. Let's talk about that. Let's try and clear up.
- 11:50Speaker 2: Because part of my lecture last night was about like
- 11:53Speaker 2: what is some like preconceived notions that we have about
- 11:56Speaker 2: severe and persistent mental illness. And like what are some
- 11:58Speaker 2: things that like pop culture and media has essentially taught
- 12:01Speaker 2: us that is probably not true. Right. I know for
- 12:04Speaker 2: my students had a ton of examples, but yeah, I
- 12:06Speaker 2: like it. Let's do that. I've decided for us. Eventually
- 12:08Speaker 2: we'll do that. Yes. Perfect. Let me take over for
- 12:13Speaker 2: a little bit. I will talk about diagnoses and just
- 12:15Speaker 2: maybe having a little bit of a better definition because
- 12:18Speaker 2: I know you wrote it down in our notes. She
- 12:20Speaker 2: ends up discussing it in the book, but we do
- 12:22Speaker 2: need to clarify like sociopath, psychopath. What does it mean?
- 12:25Speaker 2: What are they getting at? Are they in the DSM-5
- 12:29Speaker 2: now text revised? The short answer is no, neither one
- 12:32Speaker 2: is in the DSM-5. Neither of them are a diagnosis.
- 12:35Speaker 2: The old words of sociopath and psychopath have never really
- 12:37Speaker 2: had an agreed upon definition. So essentially sociopath is the quote,
- 12:42Speaker 2: not as bad form and psychopath is the more severe form.
- 12:46Speaker 2: In the dictionary, the definition is a person who has
- 12:49Speaker 2: antisocial personality disorder, ASPD, meaning they show a long-term pattern
- 12:55Speaker 2: of disregarding social norms, violating the rights of others and
- 12:58Speaker 2: lacking empathy or remorse. I actually pulled up the lecture
- 13:01Speaker 2: that I'm going to be giving next week on antisocial
- 13:03Speaker 2: personality disorder, or actually all personality disorders, and I'm going
- 13:06Speaker 2: to read through kind of what it says in the DSM-5.
- 13:09Speaker 2: So bear with me. It has the main bullet point.
- 13:12Speaker 2: It's a pervasive pattern of disregard for and violation of
- 13:15Speaker 2: the rights of others, and then in parentheses, plus evidence
- 13:18Speaker 2: of conduct disorder, which I'll define here in a little bit,
- 13:21Speaker 2: with the onset being before age of 15 years, and
- 13:24Speaker 2: then they have to have three or more of the
- 13:26Speaker 2: following criteria. So the first one is failure to comply
- 13:30Speaker 2: form to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors indicated
- 13:34Speaker 2: by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest. Next
- 13:38Speaker 2: is deceitfulness indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or
- 13:42Speaker 2: conning others for personal profit or pleasure. Next up, impulsivity
- 13:46Speaker 2: or failure to plan ahead. Next, we have irritability and
- 13:49Speaker 2: aggressiveness indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults. After that,
- 13:53Speaker 2: we have reckless disregard for safety of self or others.
- 13:57Speaker 2: Next up is consistent irresponsibility indicated by repeated failure to
- 14:00Speaker 2: sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations. And the
- 14:04Speaker 2: last one is lack of remorse indicated by being indifferent
- 14:07Speaker 2: to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another person.
- 14:12Speaker 2: So that's, in a nutshell, the diagnostic criteria that we
- 14:15Speaker 2: have for antisocial personality disorder. For psychopath, in the dictionary,
- 14:20Speaker 2: the definition is a person with a personality disorder or
- 14:23Speaker 2: mental illness Marked by an absence of empathy, a lack
- 14:26Speaker 2: of guilt or remorse, extreme egocentricity, and a tendency to
- 14:30Speaker 2: engage in antisocial, manipulative, or violent behavior. Kind of pretty
- 14:34Speaker 2: much explaining antisocial personality disorder. Really, the two diagnoses that
- 14:38Speaker 2: we have to explain all of this are conduct disorder
- 14:42Speaker 2: and antisocial personality disorder. And conduct is for those who
- 14:46Speaker 2: are under 18. I will take another little bit of
- 14:48Speaker 2: time and I'll read you the diagnostic criteria for conduct disorder.
- 14:51Speaker 2: I pulled it up. I have it in my kind
- 14:53Speaker 2: of sketchy electronic version of the DSM-5-TR. So the criteria
- 14:57Speaker 2: for conduct disorder is a repetitive, and you'll probably notice
- 15:00Speaker 2: there's a lot of repeats across both, a repetitive and
- 15:03Speaker 2: persistent pattern of behavior in which the basic rights of
- 15:06Speaker 2: others or more age-appropriate societal norms or rules are violated.
- 15:10Speaker 2: As manifested by the presence of at least three of
- 15:12Speaker 2: the following 15 criteria in the past 12 months, from
- 15:15Speaker 2: any of the categories below with at least one criteria
- 15:18Speaker 2: being present in the past six months. I will just
- 15:21Speaker 2: give you kind of the subgroups of criteria. I don't
- 15:26Speaker 2: have to read all 15 to you. But one of
- 15:28Speaker 2: the subgroups is aggression to people and animals, things like bullying,
- 15:31Speaker 2: initiating fights, being physically cruel to animals. The next one
- 15:35Speaker 2: is destruction of property, setting fires, things like that, destroying property.
- 15:40Speaker 2: Deceitfulness or theft, breaking into people's houses or conning others.
- 15:44Speaker 2: And then serious violations of rules, often staying out despite
- 15:48Speaker 2: having parental prohibitions, kind of like Patrick, running away from home,
- 15:52Speaker 2: things like that. They have some other specifiers that we
- 15:55Speaker 2: don't need to get into, but as you can see,
- 15:57Speaker 2: there is a lot of crossover with conduct and antisocial
- 16:00Speaker 2: personality disorder. My question to you, Justin, I want to
- 16:03Speaker 2: hear your thoughts on it, because I think I have
- 16:05Speaker 2: an idea of it, but this is not super in
- 16:07Speaker 2: my wheelhouse. Does that then mean that conduct disorder is...
- 16:11Speaker 2: Potentially the precursor to antisocial personality disorder? Are they kind
- 16:15Speaker 2: of like one for one? What is our thoughts on that? Basically.
- 16:20Speaker 1: Essentially, conduct disorder, as soon as you turn 18, turns
- 16:23Speaker 1: into antisocial personality disorder.
- 16:25Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 16:26Speaker 1: They're basically the same diagnosis, just for different ages.
- 16:29Speaker 2: Yeah. That makes sense. There you go. You heard it
- 16:32Speaker 2: here first. Potentially.
- 16:42Speaker 1: The traditional thinking on sociopaths and psychopaths, and I remember
- 16:46Speaker 1: even learning this in medical school, is that they just
- 16:48Speaker 1: need to be behind bars because they're potentially dangerous and
- 16:52Speaker 1: they hurt other people. But I mean, this book really
- 16:55Speaker 1: did change my perspective quite a lot. There's an old
- 16:58Speaker 1: saying that says smart sociopaths become CEOs and dumb ones
- 17:03Speaker 1: or unintelligent ones end up in prison. And I think
- 17:07Speaker 1: that that does happen quite a lot in this world.
- 17:10Speaker 1: Like if you are out for yourself, if you are
- 17:13Speaker 1: not afraid to hurt other people, you can make it
- 17:15Speaker 1: quite a far way in a capitalist society. Yeah. But yeah,
- 17:20Speaker 1: especially if you're smart enough to cover your tracks. And
- 17:23Speaker 1: that's kind of the cool thing about the book and
- 17:25Speaker 1: Patrick Gagne is that she's very smart and she was
- 17:27Speaker 1: able to cover her tracks and able to fly under
- 17:29Speaker 1: the radar. And she did a lot of illegal things.
- 17:32Speaker 1: Like there was a whole part of the book where
- 17:34Speaker 1: she talks about when she was in college, she used
- 17:36Speaker 1: to find like drunk frat boys and, steal their keys
- 17:40Speaker 1: at parties and then just go for joy rides for
- 17:42Speaker 1: hours in California. Just like riding up and down the
- 17:46Speaker 1: coast all over the place.
- 17:47Speaker 2: Never got caught.
- 17:48Speaker 1: So like, like impulsive, dumb, but able to also keep
- 17:54Speaker 1: it in check and not get caught for a lot
- 17:55Speaker 1: of these things.
- 17:56Speaker 2: For a lot of people, they worry about like, how
- 17:59Speaker 2: does this happen? Like what causes these things? Conduct disorder
- 18:03Speaker 2: and antisocial personality disorder. Also, we didn't even talk about this.
- 18:07Speaker 2: A lot of people assume antisocial personality disorder means you
- 18:10Speaker 2: don't want to be around people. Yes. Very common misconception, right?
- 18:13Speaker 2: A lot of people will say like, oh, I'm very antisocial. No,
- 18:18Speaker 2: you're not saying what you think you're saying. Be very
- 18:21Speaker 2: careful with that. If someone told us they're very antisocial,
- 18:24Speaker 2: that means a very big different thing than like the
- 18:26Speaker 2: popular culture reference. Antisocial personality disorder is not that you
- 18:30Speaker 2: don't want to be around other people. It's everything that
- 18:32Speaker 2: we just listed. So sidebar, I'll come back. Anyway. So
- 18:36Speaker 2: what causes this? One more sidebar.
- 18:40Speaker 1: When was the last time you heard someone say this
- 18:42Speaker 1: is a pet peeve of theirs?
- 18:46Speaker 2: The word? Or like the phrase pet peeve? Yeah, the phrase.
- 18:51Speaker 2: Probably within the last couple weeks. Oh, okay. I haven't
- 18:54Speaker 2: heard in a while.
- 18:55Speaker 1: But that's actually one of my big pet peeves. When
- 18:57Speaker 1: people are like, oh, I'm so antisocial. And I'm like, oh,
- 19:00Speaker 1: you're out there hurting animals and breaking rules.
- 19:02Speaker 2: Exactly.
- 19:03Speaker 1: No you're asocial asocial means you don't want to be
- 19:06Speaker 1: around people antisocial means you want to hurt people well
- 19:10Speaker 1: a couple.
- 19:11Speaker 2: Weeks ago yes yeah huge difference a couple weeks ago
- 19:13Speaker 2: in my class the intro to diagnosis we covered ocd
- 19:16Speaker 2: and we talked about that that's actually probably where it
- 19:18Speaker 2: came up someone's saying their pet peeve was when people
- 19:20Speaker 2: say like oh i'm so ocd i really like to
- 19:22Speaker 2: organize my things like that's not even you have no
- 19:25Speaker 2: idea that's not even yeah but Not even close. OCD, right? Actually,
- 19:30Speaker 2: we're going to talk about OCD coming up soon, so
- 19:32Speaker 2: I won't even get into it. If you want to
- 19:33Speaker 2: hear it, look for a future episode, very near future episode.
- 19:37Speaker 2: But again, conduct disorder, personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, how
- 19:42Speaker 2: do we get here? Like everything we talk about, it
- 19:45Speaker 2: really depends. Tons of factors. With a lot of things
- 19:48Speaker 2: in mental health, it's usually a combination. of genetics, childhood trauma,
- 19:52Speaker 2: chaotic environment growing up. I think Dr. David Pewter, a
- 19:56Speaker 2: friend of the show, he's talked about a lot with
- 19:58Speaker 2: personality disorders of how there's a lot of, there's a
- 20:01Speaker 2: consensus growing. I think it's been growing for a long
- 20:03Speaker 2: time that the personality disorders are maybe better described as
- 20:07Speaker 2: responses to like childhood trauma. disorders. So a lot of
- 20:11Speaker 2: people feel that way. Will we ever get to the
- 20:13Speaker 2: point where like the DSM-6 changes the definitions? We don't know.
- 20:16Speaker 2: But just something to consider. It really is a combination
- 20:18Speaker 2: of all of the above. Brain imaging has shown that
- 20:21Speaker 2: this group of people tend to have a dulled fear response.
- 20:24Speaker 2: And that oftentimes kids with conduct disorder hurt animals out
- 20:27Speaker 2: of enjoyment or curiosity and feel no remorse for it.
- 20:30Speaker 2: So just some things that we see Again, it depends.
- 20:34Speaker 2: That's going to be the best answer. It depends because
- 20:36Speaker 2: we really don't have a full grasp on how someone
- 20:39Speaker 2: ends up that way. Because you can get people kind
- 20:41Speaker 2: of similar. One of my students yesterday was talking about
- 20:44Speaker 2: there's a documentary on HBO where there's a family of,
- 20:47Speaker 2: I think, like 12 children. They might be adults at
- 20:50Speaker 2: this point. But six of them grew up and have
- 20:53Speaker 2: been diagnosed with schizophrenia or some kind of other psychotic disorder.
- 20:56Speaker 2: The other six have not. And they all grew up
- 20:58Speaker 2: in essentially the same environment. So it's like, how did that?
- 21:01Speaker 2: happen when they're all siblings growing up in the same
- 21:03Speaker 2: environment right you know it all depends okay i'll end
- 21:06Speaker 2: my ramble there you take.
- 21:08Speaker 1: Over well and i really wanted to bring up this
- 21:10Speaker 1: book because in the last three years working as an
- 21:14Speaker 1: attending psychiatrist working with a lot of kids and families
- 21:17Speaker 1: i have met a lot of kids with some like
- 21:19Speaker 1: sociopathic tendencies kids who are hurting animals kids who have
- 21:22Speaker 1: no regard for the rules kids with lots of trauma
- 21:24Speaker 1: typically too One thing I thought interesting about the book though,
- 21:27Speaker 1: is that she didn't really have a ton or much
- 21:29Speaker 1: childhood trauma at all, other than like a parental divorce
- 21:32Speaker 1: was kind of probably the biggest thing, but yeah, it
- 21:35Speaker 1: doesn't have to have trauma every time, but usually these cases,
- 21:38Speaker 1: or at least the more severe cases have some trauma
- 21:40Speaker 1: in there too. And most of the time in these
- 21:43Speaker 1: cases that I work with, parents are coming to me
- 21:45Speaker 1: because they're like, Hey, you're our last hope. Like we've
- 21:48Speaker 1: tried therapy, we've tried so many different things and nothing
- 21:51Speaker 1: really seems to be working for Parents are concerned, they're worried,
- 21:55Speaker 1: and they're trying to get their kids help from going
- 21:57Speaker 1: down the wrong path. And I see the concern and
- 22:00Speaker 1: the worry in their eyes because imagine you're a parent
- 22:04Speaker 1: and your child starts like hurting animals and not abiding
- 22:07Speaker 1: by the rules. And there's like just absolutely nothing working
- 22:10Speaker 1: and nothing's going well. Like I would be so scared
- 22:13Speaker 1: if that was happening to one of my kids too.
- 22:16Speaker 1: And you know, from a treatment standpoint, I learned in
- 22:19Speaker 1: residency that there is a type of therapy called multisystemic therapy.
- 22:23Speaker 1: That is like the one form of therapy that has
- 22:25Speaker 1: some good evidence to show that it's helpful in antisocial
- 22:29Speaker 1: and conduct disorder. Mostly conduct disorder because by the time
- 22:33Speaker 1: you hit antisocial personality disorder, it's almost a little bit
- 22:36Speaker 1: too late. But in the state of Wyoming, practicing cannot
- 22:41Speaker 1: find anyone that does multisystemic therapy, not in the whole state.
- 22:44Speaker 1: So that's like the one type of therapy that's out there.
- 22:47Speaker 1: I can't find anyone to do it.
- 22:49Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 22:50Speaker 1: Like, what the heck? Like, I can find people to
- 22:51Speaker 1: do almost everything, but I cannot find multisystemic therapy no
- 22:55Speaker 1: matter how hard we look.
- 22:57Speaker 2: I'm going to do a live search for the Portland
- 23:00Speaker 2: area and see what we got. Nice.
- 23:04Speaker 1: And, you know, multisystemic therapy is largely working on a
- 23:08Speaker 1: lot of behaviors and creating a set of rules across
- 23:11Speaker 1: multiple systems in your life, across school, across home, across
- 23:14Speaker 1: any other environment that you're on just to make sure
- 23:17Speaker 1: that There's really good consistency and there's really good structure
- 23:20Speaker 1: in your life to kind of keep you out of trouble.
- 23:23Speaker 1: Any luck with the Google search?
- 23:25Speaker 2: No. This is kind of rough. Yeah.
- 23:28Speaker 1: Really?
- 23:29Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm looking at... So there's a mstservices.com, like multi-systemic
- 23:37Speaker 2: services website to help you find licensed providers. But it's
- 23:42Speaker 2: like worldwide. So that maybe shows... Yep. And right here,
- 23:47Speaker 2: even if you do the filter by state, there's nothing
- 23:50Speaker 2: in Oregon. Whoa.
- 23:52Speaker 1: See, yeah, I went on there too.
- 23:54Speaker 2: Yeah. I have Washington. Let's see. That's Washington, D.C. Okay. Oh,
- 23:59Speaker 2: here we go. We had Seattle, Olympia, and that's it. Yeah.
- 24:03Speaker 1: It's just, there's not many people doing that. That honestly
- 24:07Speaker 1: kind of surprised me when I got out into the
- 24:08Speaker 1: real world and started working as a doctor. I was like, Oh,
- 24:11Speaker 1: I always learned, get into multisystemic. And I'm like, oh,
- 24:14Speaker 1: there's nobody.
- 24:15Speaker 2: That does this. There's nowhere to go.
- 24:16Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 24:17Speaker 2: Yeah. It's sad.
- 24:19Speaker 1: And, you know, I've personally seen lots of kids get
- 24:22Speaker 1: years of regular therapy and it not really helping at all.
- 24:26Speaker 1: Maybe a little, not much. And, you know, I was
- 24:29Speaker 1: doing research for this episode and I found a paper
- 24:32Speaker 1: from the NIMH that showed that treatment for the age
- 24:35Speaker 1: of 10 with multisystemic therapy can be moderately effective. Hey,
- 24:39Speaker 1: that's pretty good. for mental health treatment. But like after 10,
- 24:43Speaker 1: the rates of success really start going down. And 10's early.
- 24:46Speaker 1: I mean, that's got to be a parent that's on
- 24:48Speaker 1: top of it, noticing things and pushing for their child
- 24:51Speaker 1: to get help. But it's not easy to get the
- 24:55Speaker 1: therapy that young.
- 24:57Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, and you have to have the idea of
- 25:00Speaker 2: like what it could be like. So you have to
- 25:01Speaker 2: have a parent that's like at least semi-educated in potentially
- 25:04Speaker 2: what's going on and like how How much as a
- 25:06Speaker 2: parent is that what you're looking for in a nine
- 25:08Speaker 2: or 10 year old? Like potential conduct or antisocial, like
- 25:12Speaker 2: budding antisocial personality disorder. Like it's not really, I can't
- 25:15Speaker 2: imagine that's what a lot of parents are thinking about.
- 25:18Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. A lot of things have to come together
- 25:21Speaker 1: just right in order for the families to get the
- 25:23Speaker 1: right therapy at the right time for this. But this
- 25:27Speaker 1: book taught me that there's really not nearly enough research
- 25:30Speaker 1: into conduct disorder and antisocial personality disorder, sociopaths, all this stuff.
- 25:35Speaker 1: And it really seems like that traditional thinking on this,
- 25:38Speaker 1: that people need to be behind bars. I don't know.
- 25:41Speaker 1: I think we need to change this. I think we
- 25:42Speaker 1: need to look at that. I think we need to
- 25:44Speaker 1: start finding ways to help these people and turn that
- 25:47Speaker 1: trajectory around. Patrick Gagne really taught me that sociopaths can
- 25:51Speaker 1: live relatively normal lives if they have the right support
- 25:55Speaker 1: and are really passionate about growing and changing and understanding
- 25:59Speaker 1: themselves and understanding their brains. Another large aspect of the
- 26:04Speaker 1: book was her diving into how anxiety impacts the behavior
- 26:08Speaker 1: of sociopaths. And for her, she always felt this internal pressure,
- 26:13Speaker 1: this internal anxiety. And she felt like the only way
- 26:17Speaker 1: to really let out that pressure was to do something bad,
- 26:21Speaker 1: to break the rules. That's what helped her in the moment.
- 26:24Speaker 1: And so she studied that a lot. That's what worked
- 26:27Speaker 1: for her. And over time throughout her life, she found
- 26:30Speaker 1: more socially acceptable things to be able to scratch that
- 26:34Speaker 1: same itch, get that pressure out in a way that
- 26:36Speaker 1: wouldn't hurt other people, that wouldn't be socially unacceptable. And
- 26:40Speaker 1: that's how she learned to deal with it. But she learned.
- 26:43Speaker 1: That's the cool part. She figured herself out. She spent
- 26:47Speaker 1: years studying sociopaths and herself to fix it. And she did.
- 26:52Speaker 1: And it's not easy still. And she still has ups
- 26:54Speaker 1: and downs in her life. But man, I just thought
- 26:56Speaker 1: that was such a cool story and so inspiring.
- 26:59Speaker 2: You know, now that you mentioned that, and because OCD
- 27:02Speaker 2: has been in my brain recently from my lecture, the
- 27:06Speaker 2: way you're describing it of like her having like an
- 27:08Speaker 2: internal pressure or anxiety and feeling like the only way
- 27:11Speaker 2: she can relieve it is to do something bad. That's
- 27:14Speaker 2: very similar to people who have obsessions and compulsions, right? Yes.
- 27:18Speaker 2: People who are dealing with like these thoughts and anxieties
- 27:22Speaker 2: and struggling with that and then feeling like they need
- 27:24Speaker 2: to do some type of compulsion to get rid of
- 27:26Speaker 2: it and to like help keep it at bay interesting
- 27:29Speaker 2: very connection and.
- 27:30Speaker 1: I think I think she does mention that in the book.
- 27:33Speaker 1: She's like, I know this kind of sounds like OCD.
- 27:35Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 27:35Speaker 1: So she dives into that a little bit.
- 27:37Speaker 2: I know.
- 27:38Speaker 1: You're on top of it. Interesting. It's like you're a
- 27:40Speaker 1: trained professional or something.
- 27:42Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm going to give you a break. I'm going
- 27:46Speaker 2: to go through the famous sociopaths. Before I do, though,
- 27:49Speaker 2: are we going off of like these are people based
- 27:52Speaker 2: off of popular culture definition or just like our own
- 27:55Speaker 2: kind of research? Okay. Yeah. I think that's fair.
- 27:57Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 27:58Speaker 2: Because these are famous potential examples. And really, I think
- 28:02Speaker 2: it goes to show how much the media just really
- 28:05Speaker 2: trains us to like these are just bad people. Not
- 28:08Speaker 2: all sociopaths or psychopaths or people with antisocial personality disorder
- 28:12Speaker 2: are that way. These are just kind of the famous
- 28:14Speaker 2: ones really to tie it all together, maybe people you've
- 28:16Speaker 2: heard of. So the first one being Ted Bundy, the
- 28:19Speaker 2: serial killer, who today... was just found to be responsible
- 28:23Speaker 2: for another murder. I have it pulled up here from
- 28:26Speaker 2: AP News three hours ago. Serial killer Ted Bundy is
- 28:29Speaker 2: linked to another Utah teenager's 1974 killing through DNA testing.
- 28:35Speaker 2: Ted Bundy has been dead since 1989. So, wild. That
- 28:40Speaker 2: much later for that to pop up. We have John
- 28:42Speaker 2: Wayne Gacy. He's also a serial killer. Is he the
- 28:46Speaker 2: one that would dress up as a clown? We're making
- 28:47Speaker 2: that up. I don't know.
- 28:49Speaker 1: That's the John Wayne Gacy clown.
- 28:52Speaker 2: While you look that up, I'll say the next one.
- 28:54Speaker 2: Yosef Mangelli, who's a Nazi doctor who did cruel experiments
- 28:58Speaker 2: on humans. We also have Mr. Bernie Madoff. He's the
- 29:01Speaker 2: Ponzi scheme guy. I think I might be. I think
- 29:03Speaker 2: I understand it. Ponzi schemes was essentially you were selling
- 29:07Speaker 2: some type of like get rich quick scheme. And the
- 29:10Speaker 2: way you did it was you would sell it and
- 29:11Speaker 2: then the people would give you money and then you
- 29:13Speaker 2: would use that money. And then you'd get other people
- 29:15Speaker 2: to give you money. And then the money that the
- 29:17Speaker 2: other people gave you, you used to give to the
- 29:18Speaker 2: other people that you already got the money from. And
- 29:20Speaker 2: you're essentially like not really, you're just, you're not really
- 29:23Speaker 2: making money. You're just using other people's money to have
- 29:26Speaker 2: the illusion that you've made money. Does that sound right? Yeah,
- 29:30Speaker 2: pretty much. Yeah. Bam. And then Elizabeth Holmes just had
- 29:34Speaker 2: a documentary come out from her about her. What is it?
- 29:37Speaker 2: You Can See Everything. Yeah. Nick Felder. the A24 studio film.
- 29:43Speaker 2: Looks wild.
- 29:44Speaker 1: I want to see it so bad. Yeah.
- 29:47Speaker 2: You know what? You know what's wild? Besides all this,
- 29:50Speaker 2: but like this whole like Theranos, Elizabeth Holmes things. I
- 29:54Speaker 2: thought this happened in like the early 2000s. This is
- 29:56Speaker 2: like relatively recent. Like, 2015-ish, 2016, she got, like, in
- 30:02Speaker 2: trouble and got caught. And then because of, like, white-collar
- 30:06Speaker 2: crimes tend to take a long time to convict somebody
- 30:09Speaker 2: because they have to get a lot of, like, evidence
- 30:11Speaker 2: and money and, like, all that stuff and really track
- 30:13Speaker 2: everything down. And then COVID happened and then all the stuff. And, like,
- 30:16Speaker 2: she just went to prison, like, semi-recently. So, I don't know.
- 30:21Speaker 2: I thought this happened a long time ago, but it
- 30:23Speaker 2: did not. Relatively recent. Yeah.
- 30:26Speaker 1: I also watched that Amanda Seyfried show. Where she played
- 30:30Speaker 1: Elizabeth Holmes.
- 30:30Speaker 2: That was actually really fun. I heard it's really good.
- 30:32Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really good.
- 30:33Speaker 2: I heard she did a great job.
- 30:34Speaker 1: She does a good job.
- 30:35Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 30:36Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, she just defrauded people out of billions,
- 30:40Speaker 1: I think. Yeah, either hundreds of millions or billions.
- 30:43Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 30:43Speaker 1: So another, that's why I really want to see that
- 30:46Speaker 1: documentary because I want to see what she's like. Like,
- 30:50Speaker 1: I want to know. She just seems very charming and
- 30:54Speaker 1: sweet and manipulative. It's like that kind of is all
- 30:57Speaker 1: the things that sociopaths are.
- 31:00Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. Hey, but also Amanda Seyfried's range, right? As
- 31:06Speaker 2: like Elizabeth Holmes, right? And then also she was in
- 31:08Speaker 2: the movie The Housemaid. And she was in Mean Girls
- 31:11Speaker 2: as Karen Smith. What a range, right? Man. Have you
- 31:15Speaker 2: ever heard.
- 31:15Speaker 1: Her play a dulcimer?
- 31:17Speaker 2: What is that?
- 31:19Speaker 1: It's this old instrument that most people have never even
- 31:24Speaker 1: heard of, but she can play Joni Mitchell's California on
- 31:29Speaker 1: a dulcimer. Go check out. She played it on a
- 31:32Speaker 1: late night show.
- 31:33Speaker 2: It's really good.
- 31:34Speaker 1: She kind of sounds like Joni Mitchell, who's one of
- 31:37Speaker 1: my favorite artists ever. I really like Amanda Seyfried. I
- 31:41Speaker 1: think she's very talented.
- 31:43Speaker 2: Also, now that I've pulled up her bio, she's been
- 31:45Speaker 2: diagnosed with OCD. Oh, interesting. Yeah. And she's also trying
- 31:51Speaker 2: to manage generalized anxiety disorder. Hey. Look at that.
- 31:57Speaker 1: Well, we should probably just do a whole episode on
- 31:59Speaker 1: Amanda Seyfried.
- 32:01Speaker 2: Did you find out if John Wayne Gacy or whatever
- 32:04Speaker 2: his name is, was he the one that dressed as
- 32:06Speaker 2: clowns or am I making that up?
- 32:08Speaker 1: He became known as Killer Clown due to his public
- 32:11Speaker 1: performances as a clown prior to the discovery of his crimes.
- 32:16Speaker 1: So he was a party clown and on his free
- 32:18Speaker 1: time he was killing people.
- 32:21Speaker 2: Jeez. What a world we live in. I don't like that.
- 32:25Speaker 2: You know what?
- 32:27Speaker 1: Let's end it on that note. I like that.
- 32:29Speaker 2: I like that. Yeah. Jeez. Well, thanks for listening, everybody.
- 32:33Speaker 2: Hopefully you gained something from this discussion of sociopaths, psychopaths,
- 32:38Speaker 2: and conduct disorder and antisocial personality disorder. You know where
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- 32:53Speaker 2: couple weeks. Happy seven years, my friend. And yeah, remember,
- 32:56Speaker 2: take care of y'all mentals. Thank you. Thank you.
- 33:13Speaker 1: Thank you.
- 33:14Speaker 2: Thank you.