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Episode 621: When Is Your Ex Most Attracted To You? · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with Yard of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  This week I want to talk about when is your ex most attracted
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  to you? After a breakup.
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  Your ex started dating you because they were attracted to
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  you when they broke up with you, their attraction for you, their
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  interest in you, went below 50% on a scale of 1 to 100.
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  So it makes sense that in order to get them interested in you
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  again, their attraction for you has to go up above 50%.
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  So when are you most attractive to an ex?
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  Well, stay tuned and you'll find out.
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  Okay. So I have the three times that
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  you would be most attractive to your ex.
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  Number one, when they realize that you're not going to chase
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  them. People who've been dumped
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  before, they find my channel or a channel similar to mine, they
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  think that they need to keep apologizing and chasing the ex
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  and telling the ex that they want them back and they'll do
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  anything to have them back. And society views a dumb pee as
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  the victim since you didn't want the break up.
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  And even your ex thought that you would be doing everything to
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  get them back. And they could get you back at
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  any time if you change, if they change their mind.
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  So I want you to keep something in mind.
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  People respect what's unpredictable.
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  People respect what they can't control.
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  Here's a perfect example. Imagine that a tiger just walked
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  into your room. I think that you would have a
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  lot of respect for that tiger because it's unpredictable and
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  you know you can't control it. Someone's respect for you going
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  up is the beginning of their attraction for you going up.
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  Respect walks hand in hand with love and attraction.
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  So when you don't do what people do after a breakup, which is to
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  beg and chase, even if you never get your ex back, you will at
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  least have their respect. But as a side note, it's not
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  necessarily true that the dumb P will always want the dumper
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  back. I've had many success stories
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  here on the channel where someone heard from their ex and
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  they decided that you know what they actually did not want to
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  get back with them. So don't see yourself as a
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  victim or as being in the lesser position just because you were
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  dumped, or you had to dump someone because they cheated on
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  you or took you for granted. You can quickly change your
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  status by not chasing and by doing no contact.
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  And by the way, if you are finding this helpful, please be
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  sure to give the video a like in order to help the YouTube
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  algorithm to recommend it to more people so that they too can
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  get their ex back. Okay.
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  And the second time when your ex is likely to be attracted to you
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  is when you look like you're happy.
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  Like the breakup isn't affecting you negatively and you may even
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  be moving on. That's because their ego will be
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  hurt again. Even though they wanted to break
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  up, they still expected you to chase them.
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  Yeah, I know it's messed up. And when you don't, and actually
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  instead you look happy, like you're thriving and moving on,
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  they'll become curious as to who this new person is and curiosity
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  raises interest level. That question mark becomes a
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  hook. This is why you need to put on
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  an act on social media. Well, pretty much everyone puts
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  on an act on social media, so why not you?
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  So if you're not actually happy and you're not thriving, then
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  you have to make it seem like you are.
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  And if you happen to see them, if you run into them, do not try
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  to play the pity card thinking that that will bring them back.
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  That will only push them further away.
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  They didn't originally date you because they pitied you, so why
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  would they come back? Because they pity you.
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  They're not going to. So don't look sad or mad.
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  Look happy and thriving. Remember, when you are weak, you
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  must appear strong. When you are strong, you must
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  appear weak. So if right now you're weak,
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  you're not happy. You're not thriving.
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  You're not feeling great. Fake it until you make it.
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  And then finally, the third time that your ex will be attracted
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  to you is when you level up. Especially if you had let
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  yourself go during the relationship, as many people do.
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  Y'all get too comfortable. It's like, whatever, I'll just
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  eat anything. No, stop that.
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  It's like false advertising. They started dating one version
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  of you and then all of a sudden it's bait and switch.
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  So if you lose the weight you were trying to lose, start
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  getting into shape, you will naturally have more confidence
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  and you'll probably start to dress better, besides obviously
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  looking better or even something like getting your teeth fixed.
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  I was speaking to a cosmetic dentist once, and he said that
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  once he fixes people's teeth, they gain this new confidence
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  and they're like a different person.
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  So the old person is gone and your ex is wondering who is this
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  new person? Is there an A new attitude to go
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  with this new person? And this works especially well
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  if you're a female, since guys are more visually oriented than
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  women. So if you're a woman and you
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  level up your looks depending on the reason for the breakup, not
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  always your ex will be attracted to you.
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  They're going to wonder what caused you to level up.
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  They may even wonder if there's someone else and if they even
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  have a chance to get you back. Now, I'm not saying that if
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  you're a guy and you level up that you won't have a chance to
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  get your ex back. I'm saying this works better for
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  women who've been dumped, since men are visually oriented,
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  whereas women are more attracted by what a guy says rather than
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  what he looks like to a degree. And you'll have that natural
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  glow of being physically attractive.
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  You'll start to attract more attention for more people, and
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  you'll be so busy taking care of yourself that you won't have as
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  much time to obsess about your ex.
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  So it's a win. Win.
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  Okay. So the recap of when your ex is
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  most likely to be attracted to you after a breakup, when you
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  don't chase them, when you appear to be happy and thriving
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  and maybe even moving on, and when you level up.
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  And before I end, I want to read a short success story And she
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  says, at first I was so uncomfortable, but after some
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  time and understanding, no contact gave me so much strength
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  and discipline. I feel like I can apply this new
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  discipline to all areas of my life.
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  You can. That's the great thing about no
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  contact. It's just not about getting an X
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  back. You now have a discipline that
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  you can apply everywhere. And yes, it worked.
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  He came back, but I don't even want him anymore.
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  The time alone allowed me to see I want and deserve someone way
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  better. So as I was mentioning before,
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  sometimes people get an ex back and they decide, you know what,
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  I don't even want them and I consider that a win because now
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  you can move on to someone better.
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  So now I want to hear from you. For those of you that have heard
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  from your ex, even if it was bread crumbs, when did you hear
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  from them? Did you hear from them when you
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  did one or more of these three things that I just mentioned?
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  Or was it for another reason? Please comment below.
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