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10 Boring Signs You’re Healing A Sensitized Nervous System · Bye Bye Panic

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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're trying to heal your nervous system, there's not going to be a single moment where you think I've healed.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Healing is very subtle and it's quite boring.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's really easy to miss if you're expecting some sort of dramatic change.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So in this video, I want to share with you the 10 boring signs you're healing a sensitized nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A sensitized nervous system is simply when your nervous system is experienced
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When it hits that limit, it just becomes more sensitive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is where you start experiencing symptoms like panic attacks, heart palpitations, breathlessness, even when nothing is wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you want to know if your nervous system is sensitized, I have a free assessment in the description box below.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The first boring sign is that you'll notice you're becoming more irritable.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's actually a good thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll notice mundane things irritate you again.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you're in this fight or flight state, your nervous system is used to looking at everything as a threat.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So you tend to respond to things in fear.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But as your nervous system is desensitizing, you're not going to love these things right away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But you'll notice you don't really hate them either.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're just kind of annoyed by it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You get irritated more easily.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A great example was when I used to have panic attacks,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I used to hate driving because I was afraid I would have panic attacks in the car, but then, as I was getting better, it shifted from what if I have a panic attack in the car to, I'm stuck in traffic, this sucks.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even that subtle shift is massive when you're on this journey, and it's often the sign you're heading in the right direction.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, your bodily symptoms will begin to shift.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When your nervous system is de-sensitizing, your bodily sensations are going to change.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's even a phenomenon for this name.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's called somatic shifting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Soma just means body, which means you're experiencing bodily shifting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All this means is that as your nervous system is de-sensitizing, the symptom manifestation will change.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So when people are heading in the right direction, they notice that there's symptoms change.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And a lot of times this throws them off because they think, oh, okay, my symptoms have changed or a new symptom is showed up, maybe there's something wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But when we see this often in our program, we usually look at this as a good sign.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If we see that the behaviors are aligned towards healing, towards recovery and their symptoms are changing, that's often a good sign.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The symptom changing means that the nervous system is desensitizing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: See people think they only get better when the symptom is gone.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: but this is a gradual process.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system is going to be adjusting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system is dynamic, so it's going to be adjusting throughout the process.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it's going to overshoot, sometimes it'll undershoot, and the way the symptoms show up will also begin to shift.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now speaking of bodily sensations, one boring symptom is that you might get a cold.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I know it sounds really bizarre, but we've noticed that when people are de-sensitizing the nervous system, they're more likely to catch a cold.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And there's actually a really easy explanation for why this happens.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: See, when you're chronically stressed, your body is producing cortisol.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: cortisol is a stress hormone.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, what cortisol also does is that it suppresses your immune system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So, the system that fights infections and fights cold, it's suppressed whenever you're stressed.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so, as you're progressing on this journey, your body is finally going to have moments to recover.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not going to look at everything as a threat and so your nervous system gets a chance to catch up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is often the time where people get a cold.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever experienced going through a really stressful time in your life?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Forget this journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But you notice you got a cold after that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You didn't get it in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, that's because in the moment your immune system was compromised because you were stressed.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But as you began to recover the immune system got a chance to catch up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's when you experience the cold.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's a really bizarre thing, but it's often assigned a boring sign that you're heading in the right direction.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, one of the preface, sometimes people fall into the trap of using these things as a metric of getting better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is a general rule of thumb, and this is assuming that you are responding well to your symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're still panicking, if you're still fearing, if you're still avoiding,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is not an indicator that you're heading in the right direction, but what I have found through my own journey and seeing so many people heal is that when they have the basis covered, whenever they're heading in the right direction, they will notice these small things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And these are the things I'm looking for when I'm saying, okay, are they making progress?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number four, you don't fall for the stories.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll notice that when you're dealing with uncomfortable emotions, sensations, your mind starts to make stories around them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It starts to justify why you feel a certain way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And what tends to happen to us is that we fall for those tricks.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We fall for those stories and then we have an idea of why this is happening.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But as your nervous system is decent,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you're able to separate the story from the signal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This means you have a story and you have a sensation and you're able to separate it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're not falling for the story.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're able to just feel this sensation without attaching a story to it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you get better at that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You begin to notice in number.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number five, you bounce back quicker.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you will still have moments where you feel anxiety and panic, but you notice you don't spiral.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So something that you might experience that would take you days, weeks, months to bounce back from.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're noticing it just takes a few moments.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might be thinking, oh, I shouldn't be feeling this at all.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But on the journey, you will feel it, but you'll notice that you bounce back really quickly.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is a good sign because your nervous system is learning that activation isn't permanent.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can feel this and this can pass.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when this happens, you're noticing you're getting very good at responding, especially when the anxiety or the symptoms peak.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number six, and this is super wild, you begin to daydream again.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you're nervous system to sensitize, you'll notice you're not really daydreaming.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You tend to be hyper fixated in how you feel.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You try to fix, you try to analyze.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Daydreaming doesn't require any of those things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Daydreaming requires you to feel safe.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But whenever you're sensitized, you'll notice you have this habit of fixing a fighting of analyzing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so moments like this, you'll notice you'll daydream more.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll almost be entertaining yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You won't be hyper fixated on how you're feeling.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This leads me to the seventh boring sign, which is you begin consciously responding to other things more.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you're dealing with symptoms, you're learning how to respond in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're choosing not to react.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So whenever you feel panic, you don't react in panic.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whenever you feel anxiety, you're not reacting and fear.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you are choosing to respond.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can feel this sensation without reacting to it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you'll notice that as you get good at that, you start responding to other things outside of that as well.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So you'll notice that if somebody says something that you don't like, you don't lash out at them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you have that pause, you have that break, you have that choice and how you respond because if you know how to respond to your symptoms, well, why can't you choose how you respond to everything?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So things that bugged you or things that you would say offhandedly, you have a moment, you have that pause, you ask yourself, okay, how am I choosing to respond here?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is probably one of the most powerful things that you can get on this journey and it's so boring and it seems so mundane and people think that this isn't a sign that you're making any progress But these are one of the most important signs that you're heading in the right direction.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number eight, and I know this is going to be really weird, which is you begin to put on weight.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, if you were like me, you might have lost a lot of weight on this journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, I have lost over 40 pounds when I went through this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not a big guy.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I felt like no matter what I couldn't put the weight on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And at that time, I didn't realize, but when you're in this fight or flight state, when your nervous system is sensitized, your body's working a little bit faster.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your body's burning through resources quicker.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So, as your nervous system gets to relax, as your nervous system decensitizes, you'll notice you're putting on weight naturally.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What's really fascinating about this is that you'll notice that when you have moments of setbacks, you'll notice the weight drops.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I remember I was measuring my weight and I would see little dips and I knew those dips were the exact moments that I was having setbacks and so weight comes back on its own as your nervous system is desensitizing and what's really ironic is that we often find when we're guiding people they're you know they've lost a lot of weight
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They put on the weight, but then they kind of go in the opposite end.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They actually put on a good amount of weight.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's actually a good problem to have because then as they're getting better, they can focus on weight management and all those things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But it's a really interesting phenomenon to see.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The ninth boring sign is that you just begin to trust the process more.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In the beginning, you might be seeking a lot of assurance in my heading in the right direction of my nut.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might be working with your coach, your therapist, whoever it is, and looking forward to the next meeting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, what about this?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What about that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But as you're getting better, you notice that you've just kind of trust the process more.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might not be fully convinced that this is the way out, but you're noticing that you are heading in the right direction.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll often notice the question isn't about in my heading in the right direction, the question might be, hey, am I hitting a glass ceiling?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is this as good as it gets?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Again, if you're thinking these things, this is often a good sign.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It just means keep going.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the tenth boring sign is that wins don't feel like wins so much anymore.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In the beginning, you might be struggling to do like simple things, like even small things, and those things felt like you were climbing Mount Everest.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They seem so intense.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They seem so heavy.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But as your nervous system is decent, it'sizing you're noticing that you can do those things more.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And what happens is that we tend to forget that those things used to be so difficult two months down the line, or three months ago.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what happens is that our brains are focused on the next thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's focusing on, hey, I know I can do this, but I'm still struggling with this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so this is often the sign that you're heading in the right direction, but it also means that you want to auto yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What are things that I can do now that I wasn't able to do one month ago, two months ago, three months ago?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This just puts things in perspective.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And these sounds so boring because we think there's some massive epiphany
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  [SPEAKER_00]: like a massive moment where everything just clicks.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it doesn't work that way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: These things are subtle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They are boring.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you're noticing these signs and you understand the principles of healing your nervous system, well then these signs are often a good indicator that you're heading in the right direction.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now these are subtle signs.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you want more brutal truths about healing your nervous system, make sure to check out this video right here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for watching.