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240. Make Your Habits Louder than Your Goals · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to Your Enriched Self Podcast. I am your host, Mylene Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach. And what
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  Speaker 1: that means is I want you to become more of
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  Speaker 1: your enriched self. But I understand there are emotions. That
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  Speaker 1: you to focus on as you go into this new quarter.
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  Speaker 1: Where is your energy flowing? Right? What are you doing
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  Speaker 1: each and every day to become more of your enriched self?
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  Speaker 1: you for liking, sharing, listening and showing up for yourself. Now,
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  Speaker 1: if you know, you know, before I go into the
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  Speaker 1: weekly podcast, one of the things I do is I
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  Speaker 1: make a deposit into the bank of you, and I
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  Speaker 1: do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great
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  Speaker 1: way to start your day and to command your morning.
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  Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is I show up consistently, even
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  Speaker 1: in small ways. Show up consistently, even in small ways.
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  Speaker 1: I show up consistently, even in small ways. Now let's
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  Speaker 1: get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched
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  Speaker 1: Self Podcast. So I just want to continue the conversation
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  Speaker 1: last week when we talked about there are three quarters left,
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  Speaker 1: and it's a reminder that there is still time in
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  Speaker 1: the year. I know that many of us had goals
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  Speaker 1: and desires and you know, different things that we wanted
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  Speaker 1: to have accomplished in quarter one. And for some of us,
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  Speaker 1: I say us, because there are some things that I
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  Speaker 1: did accomplish in quarter one, but there were some other
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  Speaker 1: person no goals that have not yet been achieved. And
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  Speaker 1: I'm here to remind you that there is still time.
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  Speaker 1: What you must do now is move with intention and
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  Speaker 1: so that's what this episode is all about. It's really
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  Speaker 1: a check in episode. I like to do these episodes because,
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  Speaker 1: first of all, we are in a new month and
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  Speaker 1: we are in a new quarter, so this is the
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  Speaker 1: perfect time to reassess where you are, what you are doing,
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  Speaker 1: and where you need to be now. This episode is
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  Speaker 1: really intentional around the fact that your goals, yes, are important,
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  Speaker 1: but it's the habits. It's the daily habits that are
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  Speaker 1: going to be the measuring stick of how you accomplish
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  Speaker 1: those goals and when you reach those goals. Now, on
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  Speaker 1: this part, I talk a lot about consistency because it
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  Speaker 1: literally reframed my DNA of showing up and it became
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  Speaker 1: a vehicle to move me through all of the activities
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  Speaker 1: that I would need to do. But within that are
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  Speaker 1: these things called habits, these daily activities. So the first
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  Speaker 1: thing I want you to know is that, yes, your goals,
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  Speaker 1: we need to have them. Is important to strive to
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  Speaker 1: something because that's where you want to go. Your habits
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  Speaker 1: are going to be the measuring stick or how it's
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  Speaker 1: determined that you get there. And again I remind you,
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  Speaker 1: consistency is the vehicle that you're going to use to
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  Speaker 1: show up every day, daily habits to get there. So
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  Speaker 1: a lot of us, what we see in culture is
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  Speaker 1: that everybody is raising up the standards of their goals,
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  Speaker 1: but where they fail or fall is on the side
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  Speaker 1: of habits. So I don't want you to just have
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  Speaker 1: a goal. I want you to have a goal, but
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  Speaker 1: I don't want you to just have a goal and
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  Speaker 1: not have habits without or have a goal without habits,
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  Speaker 1: because it's really then just a nice wish, right like
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  Speaker 1: wishing on a star. So the real question is as
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  Speaker 1: you start to think about your goals are set in
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  Speaker 1: the direction and your habits will help to drive that progress.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to think about this today, right now,
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  Speaker 1: even if you have to pross this episode, to allow
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  Speaker 1: that thought to be planted in your mind and to
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  Speaker 1: start to ruminate on that thought. Is what are you
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  Speaker 1: doing today or what will you be doing daily to
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  Speaker 1: support what you say you want? Yes, what you say
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  Speaker 1: you want, because it is so dangerous to allow culture
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  Speaker 1: or people's opinions or social media trends to dictate what
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  Speaker 1: we want, or worst of all, not be able to
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  Speaker 1: define what it is that you do want. So make
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  Speaker 1: sure that what you're doing daily or these habits supports
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  Speaker 1: what you say you want. Right, And I say this
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  Speaker 1: a lot right. My second point here is a lot
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  Speaker 1: of times you see people and maybe you've done this,
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  Speaker 1: I know, maybe I've done on this for sure, is
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  Speaker 1: that we go out with this big noise about what
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  Speaker 1: we want to do. We do that often with how
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  Speaker 1: we want to move about the world. Really, what needs
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  Speaker 1: to have the loudest voice in this season of your
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  Speaker 1: life is are your habits. Your habits need to have volume. Right,
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  Speaker 1: It's going to be the consistency, like I said, which
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  Speaker 1: is the daily habits over the intensity Because a lot
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  Speaker 1: of times you go hard or you get into this
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  Speaker 1: space and you want to get really intense with what
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  Speaker 1: you're doing, but your habits need to be louder than
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  Speaker 1: your intentions. Right, So think about kind of the red
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  Speaker 1: flags of how how we think we need to show
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  Speaker 1: up or how we show up right. So the daily
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  Speaker 1: signal of your life needs to be you wave in
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  Speaker 1: a flag of things that you can do consistently and
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  Speaker 1: things you can do repeatably, not things you do perfectly right,
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  Speaker 1: not the things you do once a week, the daily
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  Speaker 1: flag of things that you do, the things you do
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  Speaker 1: would consistently, not perfection right, and the things that you
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  Speaker 1: do that are repeatable. And I bring this off so
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  Speaker 1: many times on this podcast. When I restarted or reframed
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  Speaker 1: my health journey, I started with five jumping jacks. And
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  Speaker 1: I know that sounds really silly, but it was repeatable.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't a big stretch goal to do five hundred
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  Speaker 1: jumping jacks for somebody who was sedimentary for weeks at
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  Speaker 1: a time in the COVID era. We know that era.
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  Speaker 1: I needed something that could repeat daily. I can repeat
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  Speaker 1: consistently so I can make my habits be louder than
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  Speaker 1: my intention You know, it's the Sunday night and you
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  Speaker 1: think about your week and you think about what you
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  Speaker 1: want to do next week, or maybe it's the Friday
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  Speaker 1: or it's the Saturday, and you have this intent that
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  Speaker 1: you want to start your week, you want to start saving,
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  Speaker 1: you want to start taking care of your financial house,
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is that you are intending to do. But
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  Speaker 1: then you show up in the week and you're not
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  Speaker 1: doing it. You show up in the week and it's
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  Speaker 1: not perfect. You show up in the week and you
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  Speaker 1: have zero because you went really really big, really really fast.
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  Speaker 1: And so that's what this is all about. It's all
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  Speaker 1: about pulling down those small habits that can be done consistently,
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  Speaker 1: and those small habits add up and become part of
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  Speaker 1: the big goal. Right it's on the horizon, adds up
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  Speaker 1: to that. And so essentially, while the world will then
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  Speaker 1: see the loud echo of your goals when it's accomplished,
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  Speaker 1: what they don't get to see is those habits living
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  Speaker 1: in the quiet space, you know, with your head's down
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  Speaker 1: and with your focus and not just your intention, but
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  Speaker 1: with your consistency. And the last point, as this is
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  Speaker 1: a check in, is this this day, this new season,
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  Speaker 1: this new quarter is not a reset. We're not resetting
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  Speaker 1: anything right. I feel like when we say reset, or
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  Speaker 1: when we go in with this mindset of reset, we
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  Speaker 1: think that we need to change something. What I want
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  Speaker 1: you to do is get aligned right. And alignment is
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  Speaker 1: an opportunity to look at the past history right and
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  Speaker 1: look at the distant goals or the goals that are
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  Speaker 1: at a distant and understand what I've been doing, is
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  Speaker 1: it congruent with what I see as my future state,
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  Speaker 1: where I want to be or where I would like
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  Speaker 1: to go. And so that's what this new month and
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  Speaker 1: new quarter is about. It's to realign, not to say, okay,
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  Speaker 1: we're starting from scratch. No, there are things you have done,
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  Speaker 1: there are things you are doing, but you got to
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  Speaker 1: realign it so it becomes part of the consistent nature.
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  Speaker 1: Align it so you're not striving for perfection. You're progressing
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  Speaker 1: towards that future state. Right. For example, here are some
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  Speaker 1: great ways to realign yourself. Number one, what habits did
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  Speaker 1: you start and then down the road stop? So again
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  Speaker 1: goes back to your past history. There are things that
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  Speaker 1: you started to do. I want you to go back
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  Speaker 1: and grab those pull them into the now. I want
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  Speaker 1: you to have an understanding of what got you started,
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  Speaker 1: and also why did you start? Everybody always says you
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  Speaker 1: need to have your why, and it is true. You
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  Speaker 1: need to know the why, the why origin. I've talked
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  Speaker 1: about my fitness journey, getting a health diagnosis that I
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  Speaker 1: did not like. It wasn't terrible, but it didn't align
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  Speaker 1: with who I wanted to be, not today but the
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  Speaker 1: future me, five, ten, twenty years down the road if
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  Speaker 1: I don't start watching this now and getting in alignment right,
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  Speaker 1: because there are some things I was doing that was great,
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  Speaker 1: but I stopped doing those things, started doing them, stop
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  Speaker 1: doing it. So now I have a framework of Okay,
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  Speaker 1: this is not gonna work for what future me needs.
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  Speaker 1: So what's at a distance. If I don't start paying
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  Speaker 1: attention now, I'm going to see a different outcome from
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  Speaker 1: where the future lies for me. So that's the first
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  Speaker 1: great insightful question you can ask yourself. The other thing
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  Speaker 1: you can ask yourself is what habits are working right?
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  Speaker 1: There are some things that are already working right. There's
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  Speaker 1: this book called habit stacking, or there was this big
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  Speaker 1: rage around habit stacking maybe a couple of years ago,
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  Speaker 1: and it's using the habits you've built and now stacking
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  Speaker 1: new habits on top of it so that you can
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  Speaker 1: get to your desired outcome. Same thing here. There are
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  Speaker 1: some habits, there are some things that you've already incorporated
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  Speaker 1: into your daily and if you keep that and go
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  Speaker 1: add something to that, you can continue to build and grow.
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  Speaker 1: So that's another way to check in with yourself and
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  Speaker 1: get realigned. And then finally, simplification, keep it simple stupid,
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  Speaker 1: right kiss everybody, If you haven't heard of the acronym,
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  Speaker 1: keep it simple stupid. So this is the kiss question.
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  Speaker 1: What needs to be simplified. If it's too difficult to understand,
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  Speaker 1: it will be too difficult to execute. If it's too
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  Speaker 1: difficult to explain or to process, it will be too
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  Speaker 1: difficult to execute. Here's another example of some things that
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  Speaker 1: I tweaked, and this is from a coach years ago
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  Speaker 1: when I started my run journey. And when you start
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  Speaker 1: something that's hard, running is actually hard. Okay. There's so
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  Speaker 1: many rules. As I'm kind of re engaging myself into
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  Speaker 1: following the rules and the process of running, there are
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  Speaker 1: so many things that you need to do. But it's
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  Speaker 1: really a tough journey, okay. And when you're starting something
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  Speaker 1: hard at the time, it was new for me. This
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  Speaker 1: was I don't know how many years ago now, maybe
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  Speaker 1: almost twenty years ago, when I started my running journey,
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  Speaker 1: intentionally started my running journey. My coach at the time, Monica,
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  Speaker 1: said to me, one of the things that I do
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  Speaker 1: to keep it very simple, because at the time, I
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  Speaker 1: was getting up early in the morning and I started
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  Speaker 1: running right I got up really early so I could
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  Speaker 1: meet my run group, and she said, put all of
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  Speaker 1: your run gear out the night before. She said, it's
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  Speaker 1: the best thing I did for myself. It simplifies my
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  Speaker 1: morning because when you get up in the morning as
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  Speaker 1: early as I was getting up, and I still get
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  Speaker 1: up at four every morning most mornings. Is your brain
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  Speaker 1: really anytime you get up, but you give your brain
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  Speaker 1: less to process. If I know that all I gotta
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  Speaker 1: do is grab these clothes, put them on, put on
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  Speaker 1: my shoes, and head out the door, I've simplified my
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  Speaker 1: operational operational system to be able to execute the get
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  Speaker 1: up and go. And to be honest with you, whether
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  Speaker 1: you are running or in fitness or whatever you're doing,
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  Speaker 1: you need to have a system that will help you
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  Speaker 1: stay engaged. You need to have a system that is repeatable,
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  Speaker 1: We talked about that already and eventually and ultimately it
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  Speaker 1: needs to be simple. So when you take out the
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  Speaker 1: complexities of turning on the light, looking in your drawer,
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  Speaker 1: trying to find the matching socks, trying to find the pants,
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  Speaker 1: checking the weather to see what type of gear you
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  Speaker 1: need to be wearing if you're outdoors, you start to
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  Speaker 1: bring complexity into something that is already challenging to want
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  Speaker 1: to do. Because what a lot of people don't understand
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  Speaker 1: is is not that I want to work out. It
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  Speaker 1: now has become a habit. I'm not getting up excited
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  Speaker 1: to do this. Some days I'm so tired. But I've
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  Speaker 1: committed myself to do something for me, not for anyone else,
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  Speaker 1: and this is how I execute the completion of that
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  Speaker 1: or the start of that. Right, they say that showing
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  Speaker 1: up is the first step, and sometimes for many people,
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  Speaker 1: for those of you who are challenged to show up
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  Speaker 1: for yourself, whether it's working out or whatever, that's the
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  Speaker 1: first step. And so if you can overcome the first
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  Speaker 1: step and you can be there, you might not want
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  Speaker 1: to be there, you might be tired, which is how
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  Speaker 1: I felt this morning. You might be you know whatever,
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  Speaker 1: But the fact that you got up and you showed up.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna do something. You're gonna put yourself to work, right,
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  Speaker 1: You're going to participate in your process. And so that's
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  Speaker 1: the point of simplification. So think about what you have
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  Speaker 1: been doing and start to uncover how you make what
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  Speaker 1: you're doing simple, How you simplify your operation of the
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  Speaker 1: whole situation that you're working towards. You don't need new goals.
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  Speaker 1: You don't need more goals. Well maybe you need new goals,
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  Speaker 1: but for some of you, you haven't accomplished the goals
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  Speaker 1: you set out to accomplish, So you don't need a
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  Speaker 1: new goal. You have a goal. You don't need to
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  Speaker 1: add to your goal because you still want to accomplish
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  Speaker 1: what you've already put out there. What you need is
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  Speaker 1: a stronger system. And that was the hack that coach
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  Speaker 1: Monica gave me right, the system of putting and prepping before,
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  Speaker 1: so I can make the morning of a lot simpler.
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  Speaker 1: So again I want to remind you not sure where
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  Speaker 1: you are on this journey of second quarter twenty twenty six,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm gonna let you know right here, right now,
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  Speaker 1: you still have time, but only if you choose to
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  Speaker 1: move with intention. Now, I hope you enjoyed this week's
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