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173. Empower Your (Emotional) Space · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Your and Rettel Podcast. I am your host,
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  Speaker 1: Pile Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach,
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  Speaker 1: and my plan each and every week is to come
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  Speaker 1: every one of you and for how you have poured
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  Speaker 1: into the podcast. One of the things that I do
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  Speaker 1: is make a deposit into the bank of you, and
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  Speaker 1: I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a
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  Speaker 1: great way to start your day and to command your morning.
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  Speaker 1: And this this week's affirmation is I am proud of
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  Speaker 1: all of my accomplishments in this year. I am proud
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  Speaker 1: of all my accomplishments in this year. I am proud
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  Speaker 1: of all my accomplishments in this year. Now, let's get
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  Speaker 1: ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast.
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  Speaker 1: We're wrapping up the series on empowering your space, and
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  Speaker 1: in particular, this week, we're focusing on empowering your emotions,
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  Speaker 1: your emotional side. And because life brings us ebbs and flows,
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  Speaker 1: the highs, the lows that can be overwhelming, it can
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  Speaker 1: change and when those changes occur, our emotional changes occur
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  Speaker 1: as well. So managing our emotions are essential to allow
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  Speaker 1: us to navigate the waves of life, the ebbs and flows,
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  Speaker 1: and so this week I want to explore some of
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  Speaker 1: those ways to do that. Now I've been talking about
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  Speaker 1: this particular thing that you can do to help manage
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  Speaker 1: that and empower yourself, and it's all about deep breathing. Now,
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  Speaker 1: we've done this exercise here on this podcast, and I
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  Speaker 1: know a lot of us take for granted the breadths
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  Speaker 1: that we take, but when you take intentional breads, and
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  Speaker 1: I know I did this a couple podcasts back, it
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  Speaker 1: really helps you to relax and calm down. And when
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  Speaker 1: life is serving up what it will, you need to
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  Speaker 1: have a go to to be able to regulate yourself,
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  Speaker 1: and deep breathing will do that. Another quick thing you
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  Speaker 1: can do to help you get grounded with your emotions
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  Speaker 1: is to go for a quick walk. I've talked about
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  Speaker 1: walking so much. Walking is so underrated. Last year I
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  Speaker 1: made it a point to try a different park, exploring it,
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  Speaker 1: walking the park every Saturday during the summer of twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty three, and it was a fascinating journey for me.
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  Speaker 1: I felt so connected, so grounded, and it helped me
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  Speaker 1: regulate my emotions. I wasn't even trying to do that.
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  Speaker 1: I was more trying to get into a new space
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  Speaker 1: and learn more about the city that I live in.
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  Speaker 1: But I got so much more out of it. I
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  Speaker 1: cannot stress the value of And you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: walk in a park. You can take a walk in
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  Speaker 1: your neighborhood. You can do something that simple. It doesn't
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  Speaker 1: have to be for a long time. It can be
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  Speaker 1: a very simple activity. So don't underestimate the value of
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  Speaker 1: walking and take advantage of grounding techniques to help you
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  Speaker 1: get recentered. Another area of opportunity is to have a
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  Speaker 1: support system. And I said this last week when we
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  Speaker 1: talked about our mental space and how to empower that,
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  Speaker 1: and I talked about making sure you have a system
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  Speaker 1: before you have to go create one. In some cases,
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  Speaker 1: you do have to create a system, a support system
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  Speaker 1: if you don't have one. But having a support system
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  Speaker 1: is absolutely crucial because we all know that the people
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  Speaker 1: that you surround yourself with, whether you know it or not,
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  Speaker 1: have influence on you. They help to uplift you or not,
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  Speaker 1: and they help you to receive a different perspective or
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  Speaker 1: offer a different perspective that you may not share simply
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  Speaker 1: because you haven't had the experience, you haven't had the background,
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  Speaker 1: you don't wear the lens that that individual wears. And
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  Speaker 1: having unique people around you, not yes, people that agree
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  Speaker 1: with everything you say, but people who are able to
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  Speaker 1: check you or challenge you when necessary, and in this
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  Speaker 1: case help you to be uplifted in areas and spaces
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  Speaker 1: that you don't have the skills, the technique, or the
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  Speaker 1: experience to do that for yourself. So make sure your
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  Speaker 1: emotional space or the system that you created have people
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  Speaker 1: that are probably more regulated than you are, because some
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  Speaker 1: of us are highly emotional around certain things in our lives.
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  Speaker 1: It could be the place that we work, Maybe we
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  Speaker 1: have emotions because of a certain situation in the workplace,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe it's with your kids or with your significant other.
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  Speaker 1: It could be a trigger point for you in any
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  Speaker 1: of those areas or other areas that I didn't mention,
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  Speaker 1: But having people that have a unique perspective in those
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  Speaker 1: areas can be helpful to allow you to see things
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  Speaker 1: differently and to help you move your emotions a little
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  Speaker 1: bit differently, because if we keep carrying our emotions the
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  Speaker 1: same way, it's going to be hard to understand when
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  Speaker 1: it's time to put it down, lay it down, let
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  Speaker 1: it go, when you're doing what you are comforted and
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  Speaker 1: comfortable doing. So that's what having that emotional system or
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  Speaker 1: that support system will do for you. I think another
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  Speaker 1: important piece in this as we learn to regulate or
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  Speaker 1: manage to our space of emotions empowering the space is
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  Speaker 1: to practice awareness, and practicing awareness is recognizing where you
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  Speaker 1: are on your journey, where you are in a certain situation,
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  Speaker 1: and not bringing judgment to yourself, not implicating yourself because
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  Speaker 1: you didn't know something, or you weren't good at something,
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  Speaker 1: or whatever has you feeling connected to that emotion, and
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  Speaker 1: that emotion can be happiness, it can be sadness, it
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  Speaker 1: can be angry, it can be fear. Those are the
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  Speaker 1: typical emotions that we run into as life presents these
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  Speaker 1: ebbs and flows. So being able to acknowledge where you
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  Speaker 1: are in that moment, maybe it's a moment of overwhelm.
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  Speaker 1: Once you can acknowledge, Okay, I know I'm overwhelmed right now.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of times recognizing and labeling it and not
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  Speaker 1: feeling like, well, you know, being overwhelmed means that I'm
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  Speaker 1: out of control, or being overwhelm means I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what I'm doing. No, give yourself some grace. Do not
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  Speaker 1: give yourself or place judgment on yourself. Just recognize in
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  Speaker 1: that moment that you might be overwhelmed or you might
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  Speaker 1: be stressed, and allow that label to diffuse the intensity
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  Speaker 1: around that particular emotion. The one thing I will say
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  Speaker 1: around emotions, and I've talked about this before, is that
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  Speaker 1: your emotions are not facts because your emotions are essentially
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  Speaker 1: your feelings, how you feel about something, and the feelings
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  Speaker 1: aren't facts. So I want that to take space in
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  Speaker 1: your mind as we think about how we empower your
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  Speaker 1: emotional space, because keep in mind that facts aren't feelings.
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  Speaker 1: And so what we're saying is we recognize this feeling
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  Speaker 1: that we're having. We know it's not a fact about
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  Speaker 1: who we are, it's where we are in the moment,
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  Speaker 1: and we don't have to judge ourselves based on that feeling.
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  Speaker 1: You get it. So that's what I want you to understand.
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  Speaker 1: With that. The other thing that's important here is to
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  Speaker 1: develop emotional agility. And I think we all know that
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  Speaker 1: we've been in a position in our lives where we
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  Speaker 1: were emotionally insecure, or we were emotionally unprepared, or where
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  Speaker 1: we were emotionally immature. What life is going to do
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  Speaker 1: as you deal with these ebbs and flows, these waves
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  Speaker 1: that come through, and you have the opportunity to learn
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  Speaker 1: to pivot when these emotions come up, when they arise,
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  Speaker 1: and how you can do that, how you can get
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  Speaker 1: to the bottom of that very quickly is to ask
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  Speaker 1: yourself this question. It's a simple question, what's within my
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  Speaker 1: control right now? Are any of these things that are
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  Speaker 1: in a sense, as we talked about, overwhelming or difficult
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  Speaker 1: or challenging or making me feel like I am out
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  Speaker 1: of control? Let's examine that to understand what exactly in
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  Speaker 1: this situation is within your control. Because if there are
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  Speaker 1: things within your control, then spend time working on those things.
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  Speaker 1: But if the things that are happening are out of
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  Speaker 1: your control, then those aren't things you can manage. One
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  Speaker 1: of those things that come to my mind is when
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  Speaker 1: you're in a conflict or a conflict situation with someone
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  Speaker 1: and you're frustrated at how that person played out in
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  Speaker 1: the situation. So your frustration and your emotional challenge in
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  Speaker 1: that moment is how that person is behaving or acting
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  Speaker 1: or responding. Here's the question, here's the answers to the question,
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  Speaker 1: is it within my control? The answer is no. You
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  Speaker 1: cannot control someone else in emotional state, but you can
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  Speaker 1: control your own in a moment like that, what you
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  Speaker 1: can control is your response to that individual or to
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  Speaker 1: that situation. You may not be able to change the weather,
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  Speaker 1: but you might have had plans to be outside and
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  Speaker 1: doing outside activities. So how do you respond when things
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  Speaker 1: aren't playing out or flowing in the way you want
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  Speaker 1: to in your life or in a situation, or at
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  Speaker 1: your job or in your household. You focus on what
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  Speaker 1: you can fix, and typically those things are things that
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  Speaker 1: are within your control. When you do things in that way,
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  Speaker 1: you're developing emotional agility, which is important to help you
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  Speaker 1: be able to pivot and adapt when those emotions arise.
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  Speaker 1: And the final thing I want to share on this
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  Speaker 1: topic is the importance of practicing self compact. I like
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  Speaker 1: to celebrate myself. I've talked about celebrating my season, my birthday,
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  Speaker 1: my wins, the small winds, the medium wins, the large
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  Speaker 1: wins everything. But there is a season of practicing self compassion.
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  Speaker 1: We talk about self care on this podcast, and this
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  Speaker 1: is an area of self care that is often overlooked.
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  Speaker 1: You will have low moments, and I'm sure you had
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  Speaker 1: low moments in this year, and I'm sure as we
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  Speaker 1: turn the page into a new year, you will have
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  Speaker 1: low moments again. The ebbs and flows. We talked about
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  Speaker 1: those moments. In those moments, it is so important that
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  Speaker 1: you treat yourself with kindness. Think about how you would
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  Speaker 1: talk to a friend, engage of friend, Remind a friend,
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  Speaker 1: to comfort them when they are in distress, when they
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  Speaker 1: are in their lowest moments. I've said this before, and
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  Speaker 1: I know you had before as well. We are our
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  Speaker 1: worst critic. We come at ourselves so hard. We don't
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  Speaker 1: know how to comfort ourself or self soothed, and we
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  Speaker 1: don't know how to manage ourselves in these low moments.
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  Speaker 1: So when you get to a moment like that, the
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  Speaker 1: first button I want you to press is a button
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  Speaker 1: of compassion, the button of kindness and patience. Think about
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  Speaker 1: it like this. Extend the same care to yourself that
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  Speaker 1: you would to a friend. If you would talk to
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  Speaker 1: engage with your friend that way, That's how you should
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  Speaker 1: engage with yourself. These are some practical ways to help
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  Speaker 1: you manage your emotions during the ebbs and flows of life.
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  Speaker 1: It's a natural rhythm, and oftentimes there are things that
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  Speaker 1: we simply cannot control. There are circumstances that are simply
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  Speaker 1: outside of our control. But if you are managing your emotions,
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  Speaker 1: if you are looking and practicing these things we talked
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  Speaker 1: about today, the emotional agility, having that support system, practicing
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  Speaker 1: your awareness, self compassion, and grounding. If you can do
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  Speaker 1: those things or add those things into your daily ebbs
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  Speaker 1: and flows of life, you're going to be able to
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  Speaker 1: navigate with the resilience and grace that you need to
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  Speaker 1: be come more of your enriched self. I hope you
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