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Your wandering mind is not a problem... · The Aligned Actor

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  SPEAKER_00: My mind tends to wander when I meditate and I bet yours does too.
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  And really that's not a problem because it's just part of your
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  present moment experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to my substack,
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  SPEAKER_00: my podcast,
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  SPEAKER_00: this YouTube video on my YouTube channel,
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  SPEAKER_00: if that's where you found it,
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  SPEAKER_00: wherever you have found this content offering,
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  SPEAKER_00: welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Amy Schlerb.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am a mindfulness and mindset coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, like I said, my mind likes to wander when I meditate.
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  Sometimes it goes off into the future and sometimes it goes
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  wandering and rummaging
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  SPEAKER_00: around in my past.
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  And sometimes it tries to offer solutions to problems I'm
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  currently facing in my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, a mind is going to do what a mind is going to do.
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  But the good news is that when I practice mindfulness
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  meditation,
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  I am not my wandering mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am the observer of my wandering mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like a parent watching a toddler on the playground.
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  So pretend for a minute that you're a parent and you're sitting
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  on the bench in a
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  shady area and you're watching your toddler on the playground
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  and they're wandering
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  over to the slide and then they wander over to the swings and
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  then they wander over
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  SPEAKER_00: to the sandbox.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you don't care where your toddler goes on the playground.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't judge their choice of activity.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just observe them, right?
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  And maybe occasionally you have to step in and redirect the
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  toddler for whatever reason.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know,
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  they've taken another kid's toy or they've left the playground
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  altogether to chase
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  after a ball or they wandered in front of the big kids on the
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  swings and they're
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  SPEAKER_00: about to get knocked over.
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  Like you have to redirect them because of safety concerns,
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  but you just redirect them gently.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's no big deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's the same with mindfulness meditation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I observe my mind contemplating what I want to make for dinner.
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  I observe my mind thinking about a personal problem that I'm
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  currently dealing with
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  SPEAKER_00: and offering solutions.
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  I observe my mind drawing a parallel between how my mind
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  wanders and how toddlers
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  SPEAKER_00: wander around on playgrounds and then starts to write this substack.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just observing my mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just watching my mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just letting my mind do what a mind is going to do.
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  And as long as I stay aware that I'm watching my mind and all
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  that it's doing in
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  SPEAKER_00: the present moment,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm practicing mindfulness.
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  So throughout,
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  I stay focused on my breath,
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  much like the parent stays present on the bench.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't wander away from the playground.
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  They're not like,
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  later,
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  kid,
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  I'm going to go to Starbucks and I'll be back.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, they stay present on the bench and they watch their child.
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  SPEAKER_00: And likewise, I stay present and I watch my mind.
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  And I'm ready to gently redirect my mind back to the experience
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  of my breath each
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  SPEAKER_00: time it wanders like completely away from the present moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I observe that I'm thinking about making spaghetti for dinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: And right now I'm going to gently return my focus to my breath.
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  Ah,
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  I'm thinking that I could call so-and-so to get help with that
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  problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: And right now, I'm going to gently return my focus to my breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh boy, I just had a great idea for a substack.
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  It's going to be about a parent and a playground and a
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  wandering toddler and all of
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  SPEAKER_00: this stuff and how that relates to meditating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wait, wait, wait.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right now, I'm going to gently return my focus to my breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because our wandering mind is not the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's part of the present moment.
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  And the best thing that you can do for yourself and your
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  mindfulness practice is to
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  SPEAKER_00: really lean into this idea of noticing and gently refocusing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So like a parent watching their kid on the playground.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gentle, gentle, gentle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be gentle with your mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: All the time, be gentle with your mind.
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  Be gentle with yourself while you're meditating,
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  while you're practicing meditation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's going to make your mindfulness practice so much more pleasant,
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  SPEAKER_00: so much more enjoyable.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then that gentleness,
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  that caretaking of your mind is going to start to ripple out
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  into how you caretake
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  SPEAKER_00: yourself
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  SPEAKER_00: in your larger life, in your life in general.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you want help with all this mindfulness stuff,
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  SPEAKER_00: if you're ready to transform your actor mindset,
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  SPEAKER_00: let's connect in a complimentary session.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now this is not a sales call.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't think that I could sell bread to a bread slicer.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not a salesy person at all.
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  My only intention with this complimentary session is that you
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  leave feeling deeply
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  SPEAKER_00: seen and heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: And beyond that,
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope that you leave feeling inspired,
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  SPEAKER_00: uplifted,
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  SPEAKER_00: and emboldened with some new insights,
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  some new ideas that you can consider and implement in your life
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  and your acting
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  SPEAKER_00: career immediately.
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  And after we've both had a chance to let the experience of that
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  session settle for
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  SPEAKER_00: us,
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe we continue coaching together in some kind of more formal coaching
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  SPEAKER_00: arrangement,
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  SPEAKER_00: or maybe our time together feels complete.
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  SPEAKER_00: And either way, it's a win-win.
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  SPEAKER_00: So go ahead and set up a free session today and we'll have some fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: The session might not be today today,
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  SPEAKER_00: but you know,
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  you get it set up and you will then we'll set it up together
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  and it'll all work out
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  SPEAKER_00: and be great.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are links all over the place for you to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a link in the Substack post.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a link in the video description on YouTube.
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  SPEAKER_00: There'll be a link in the show notes of the podcast episode.
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  and when in doubt there's a link on my website you can go to
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  thealignedactor.com
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  and there's a button there that you can click that says set up
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  a complimentary
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  session and you can go ahead and do that and then we'll have a
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  lot of fun together
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  and then we'll have a lot of fun together I trip over my words
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  sometimes it's okay
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  and in the meantime if you're super stressed and who isn't
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  these days I got you
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  SPEAKER_00: Accessing Calm is my ebook of super simple,
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  These are the tools that help me release tension from my body
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  SPEAKER_00: from spinning out of control with worry and frustration.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, big, huge global stuff, the news,
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  All that stuff that's going on that is,
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  you know,
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  just weighing on all of our hearts and minds.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then also the sort of small nitty gritty stuff,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: dealing with the morning rush,
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  getting the kids off to school right before I'm going to hit
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  record on a self tape
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  SPEAKER_00: for an audition and I need to calm my nervous system down.
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  SPEAKER_00: These are the tricks that I use for all of that stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they really help.
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  It's a little ebook with lots of video demonstrations of all of
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  the tools.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's even some bonus mindfulness meditations.
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  SPEAKER_00: $7, that's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a link there that says accessing Calm in the toolbar at the top.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's also a link in this Substack post.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's going to be a link in the show notes,
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  SPEAKER_00: of course,
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  SPEAKER_00: of the podcast and the link in the video description on YouTube.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wherever you have found this,
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  there is a link for you to go and find Accessing Calm and get
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  that for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for joining me today.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wish you all the best and I will see you next time.